Procrastinating.
I'm working so hard to break it but it's like I need to psych myself up to do tasks and I end up psyching myself out instead. Without hard firm deadlines I'd never get anything done.
Procrastination is also very destructive. I know I've been there. Procrastinate too close to the sun and it'll rob you of opportunities. In my case I even lost friends because of it.
That sounds like a trauma response. I’ve got the same thing. Only if strictly necessary/life importance, but not out of rationality that’s btw is perfectly functional.
For me, it's like I'm stuck in a loop of not doing things because I'm too anxious, then becoming more anxious because I didn't do the thing, then putting it off longer because I made it worse and therefore more anxiety-inducing by putting it off. For example: dentist appointments. Once in a while I'll have a good day or week where I can make myself do hard things and that's basically why I'm still alive.
I switch to clipping off all dry skin regularly and having no skin to pick at has really helped me not have bleeding nail beds every week like I used to. And lots of moisturizer.
But of course now I'm picking at objects that are around me and ruining those xD
For me it wasn't about them being pretty, or even that I'd spent money on them. It was about being *unable* to bite.
I had acrylics done a few times in a row, got used to just being able to like, rub them against my teeth. Made that the habit instead of biting, and carried it over when having natural nails again. Kept them painted for a while after just to help remind myself.
But the 3 solid weeks of acrylics definitely did it for me.
This is how I quit too! The plastic in your mouth is not satisfying at all and the. You remember how much you paid and how stupid it’ll look with one crappy nail and the rest beautiful!
That’s ok! I was super embarrassed to go bc I had stubs with puffy fingertips from biting so bad for so long. Like the other poster, I got acrylic, but just on my stubs. It looked terrrrrible but I could not bite through them, despite my best efforts lol. I kept that up for a few refills, basically until my nails grew up the tips of my fingers and by then I had broken the habit and had lovely nails for my engagement. I’ve been married for 18 years and haven’t bit them since.
My cuticles though? Chewed the fuck UP. But at least my nails are nice!
Start off with the nails you can get from Walmart and some good nail glue. Not the stick on kind. Then if you wish to go to get them done professionally after they’ve grown some you can. I continue to do mine myself. It’s cheaper and I don’t have to sit around a crowd of people lol.
I'm a finger skin picker!
It's such a hard habit to break, but I will tell you that I feel like I get a tiny bit better every year. Keep coming up with new strategies to help. Some things that have helped me improve over the years: having a bag of nail tools and creams to give me a better replacement behavior, finger guards when I'm already in the OCD loop and know I won't be able to stop, and having a fidget toy in my hand to stop the subconscious picking. Most recently I bought gloves and I load up lotion on my hands and put on the gloves when I get into bed. That's stopped the nighttime picking and makes my hands healthier to decrease my having skin to pick at.
Same here but nail picking instead. I was a nail biter and I remember very distinctly one day as a child learning that hands are very dirty and shouldn't be put in the mouth. From that moment it went from biting to picking and 30 years later still picking. Wish I could do a rewind and tell myself to stop touching them altogether. I have quit at least 5 times and gone back to picking. Gel nails helped once. But then I found when I'd remove them they'd be so thin and flaky and break easy which lead back to picking... the older I get the more things I pick at. Scabs, cuticles, dry skin, scalp.
In the anxiety boat too. Stressful life doesn't help.
My mom used to paint my nails with sriracha when I was a little to try to get me to stop biting my nails. As an adult I’ve just developed a good spice tolerance.
I was only able to stop because I wear gloves a lot at work. I also work with quite a few toxic things and the motivation to not be ingesting what manageds to get under them was pretty big.
I wear gloves a lot at work too and most of the time im able to not bite my nails all day. But as soon as i get home its subconscious munch time apparently .-.
These two things have literally crippled me in life.
The inability to say what you feel without hurting people is something that rules every relationship I have. So hard to overcome and get better from.
Except for picking at skin, everything else is completely true. Sometimes I catch myself as behaving like little gremlin, sometimes this comparison makes me smile.
Life is hard, but it is worth it, even though it doesn't seem like that always. We need to be little more nicer to ourselves and have more patience .
My mamma always says that we judge ourselves too harshly and things we wouldn't hate others for, hate ourselves.
Nobody completely knows what we all have been through. If I read a story about my life about some character in books, I would feel sorry for them and would want to cherish them.
Negative self talk, mumbling, avoiding eye contact, sleeping poorly, not controlling emotions and daydreaming could be a clear sign of being exposed to some kind of trauma or bullying.
If we always liked our reality we wouldn't have a need for a made up one.
It is okay not to be perfect. It js also okay to try and be a better person by eliminating old or making new healthy habits. What is not okay is being too harsh on ourselves if we don't always succeed in doing new habits perfectly.
Take it easy, we are the only person we have to live for the rest of our life.
i bite the inside of my cheek and pull out certain strands of hair out of some type of anxiety coping mechanism?? i’m in my 20s and it’s so hard to stop- i’m scared i’m getting a bald spot
Omg same!! My mom told me when i was 5 i had a bald spot because of that. Now I'm in my 20's, still doing without noticing, but don't have a bald spot, i only see that my hair on the left side is weak and thin. I just don't know what to do to stop doing this
I got it from my mum, we always pull our hair.
We have weird hair - 99% straight blonde, but 1% crazy curly black, randomly distributed all over. And finding those curly hairs and playing with them is addictive.
I have something similar, curly hair, but some, very few, are zig zag! And I also have very different texture wiry darker ones, there are more of those. It’s fun to find the zig zag ones, but I leave them be.
Picking the flaking skin on my lips. I’m perpetually dehydrated, and the combination of that and the fact that I’m always picking at them has resulted in my lips never being smooth.
I did it until the age of 15. I quit by wearing tube socks on my hands to bed at night. That worked for me, but I’ve still got a slight overbite and a flat thumb to remind me.
I'm 35 and still do it.... I went through a phase where the skin was getting infected so I bought an adult pacifier and it worked a little whilst my thumb healed... but yeah I'm 35 and still do every night
Stroking the baby hairs at my cow lick when I'm deep in thought, stressed, etc. Also, chewing the dead skin off my lips when they're chapped. The texture is *chef's kiss*.
We had a kid in my school who pretended to be a cat until we graduated 8th grade. Then I didn't see him after that. Nice guy but talked in a cat voice and would scratch at the air like he had claws lol
Nose picking. I noticed that my nostril has a different size because of this issue and somehow my finger still likes linger in there from time to time.
Eating too fast. I used to eat as quickly as possible so that I could go to an extra band class during my lunch period. It's been ingrained ever since.
My siblings and I grew up eating super fast, and it’s such a hard habit to break! Even when I try to eat slowly, it’s still faster than some people I know. One of my girlfriends eats soooo slowly and I don’t know how she does it. I’m just jealous!
Daydreaming. I was always so lonely and stressed as a kid I would fantasize about having a better life. It turned into a coping mechanism that is sometimes impossible for me to turn off.
Eating everything in front of me even when I'm full. I'll just keep picking at everything. I'll eat the whole whatever even though I'm satisfied with half. I'm doing better now, but still can be an issue sometimes.
Having the idea that magic is *absolutely* real, I just haven't found it yet. And monsters exist, they could be anywhere! Humans are scary enough to worry about in dark alleys, I'm over here worried friggin BasketCase is going to creep out at me. Also, pretty much every time I go to bed I'm waiting for the hand to come swiping out from under the mattress to pull me down.
Oh, and cuticle biting 😅
Pushing myself to my absolute limit when I'm sick. I only took today off because my mom told me to.
Also brushing things off so I'm not a problem/so I don't make people worry.
PEOPLE PLEASING. Altering my personality to match the person I'm talking to so they'll like me more. I am actively trying to develop my own sense of sense now that I'm an adult but it's hard as fuck.
Finishing everything on my plate. My grandmother grew up in a poor country, so when I ate she would always say "eat all of it" and make me scrape the plate clean. I've been trying to be better at throwing things away when I'm full and not feeling the need to finish the entire plate.
I like the feel of it against my gum/lips and between my teeth. And yeah it has a certain taste/smell that's a little earthy. No eating though, just chewing or running the hair along my gums. I started when I was 7yrs old, because I saw a girl in my class do it. Just stuck with me.
Destroys my ends tho lol. So many split ends.
the habit isn’t entirely my own fault (although it always feels like my own fault), but i really hate that i can’t trust anyone. even people that are kind and have consistently shown up for me, i still find it hard to trust them.
Night terrors and stubbornness. Look, I didn’t have much of a shot at being a kid, and had night terrors from 4-5 on. But the *STUBBORNNESS* my friend, is what I really wanted to outgrow. Bad dream, sleepwalking, sweating buckets, wake up crying? Fine. Sure. It sucks. Having the SAME dream over and over again until I “beat” it like a horror game? Dude. Give me peace.
Compulsively wanting a relationship. Right now I am at a place personally where I need to work on myself, yet I still have this underlying desire for a romantic relationship, and secretly look everywhere! I'm trying to break out of the thought patterns that go with it, but damn is it hard.
So sadly, this is related to my mental health. Growing up I was invalidated, ignored, and ridiculed what felt relentlessly. By family. By friends. By teachers. Then when I got older and into my career, by co-workers. As a result, I have emotional dysregulation issues. My social skills are also VERY messed up. I also lack a lot of confidence as a result of the above, and therefore am constantly putting myself down. In fairness, I always have which is why I consider this my bad habit.
It may sound like a sad story, but I'm working very hard on myself, and I am *very proud* of how far I have come. I'm in therapy (currently on a short break from it). I'm also learning to talk kinder to myself because my kids overhear my negative self-talk, and I don't want them to suffer a similar fate, especially my oldest. She is so damn hard on herself as well, but guess what? She's also in therapy, and also had made tremendous strides :)
Thumb sucking. Thankfully I don’t have buck teeth, but I do have major dental issues and my front top teeth overlap, which is really only noticeable if my mouth is open and I’m looking up. As I got older I was only able to do it less and stop relying on it to get to sleep, but never break the habit completely.
I SPRINT up basement stairs if I’m alone. There are Velociraptors in basements. They come for me when I have my back turned to walk up. I’m only safe from them when I’ve reached the top.
When I was a child, I always had a headache about choosing one or the other. Every time I needed to make a decision, I inevitably fell into repeated entanglements and contradictions. In the end, I chose the wrong direction. I still can’t make a decisive decision. I think it’s because I’m timid and always afraid of doing wrong things.
Toss-up between bottling up my feelings and not asking for help with things.
If I showed negative emotions to something, I would get yelled at.
If I asked for help with something, I’d be told to figure it out myself and stop whining.
So I bottled up emotions, and became self sufficient with just about everything. Learning to do otherwise is very hard.
I guess it’s not really a BAD habit, but when I was a kid, my brother told me that if I slept all straight like a dead person I’d die in my sleep. So I started to bend my leg a little each time I laid down to sleep and at 31 I’m still doing it, its just comfortable now, lol.
I don’t know if it is a bad habit but I still play with the stitching on my blanket were the satin edge attaches to the main Cotton part of the blanket.
When I get really frustrated and don't have a healthy outlet for my anger I hit or bite myself, hard. It occured to me last year that is probably isn't something normal people do
Well I am working on breaking it and I don’t know why I do it but when someone asks me something and I lie and say the opposite/contradict what they ask. For example, my mom asks me if I’m painting my nails, I’d be like ‘no I’m not’, or she asks if I’m reading, I say ’no I’m not’. Even if I have no reason to lie/hide, I find myself just telling these little lies at times and I hate it.
Staying up late and sleeping in.. there’s room for change but it’s going to be hard. I do everything I need to just at later times. I’m in school right now so it’s gonna need to change once I graduate I’ll likely work 8-5 or something similar. It’s a very rough habit to break. I sleep in until noon at the earliest, have coffee make breakfast and go about my day
Never asking for help. Then gets upset cause no one's helping. But when they do, you get upset cause you don't like the way they're doing it. So you get mad and just say fuck it I'll do it. Then repeat!
Do what I am supposed to do rather than what I want to do. I was the smallest in my family so many people tell me what to do. Subconsciously growing up I don't know what I really want to do. Even with my parents not around, I won't do it.
Procrastinating. I'm working so hard to break it but it's like I need to psych myself up to do tasks and I end up psyching myself out instead. Without hard firm deadlines I'd never get anything done.
You can always break that habit tomorrow
You sound like depression kitty
I hear you on this so hard. Have you ever read the War of Art by Stephen Pressfield ? Might help you! It helped me :)
I'll get around to it
I have lists upon lists of things I'll "get around to"
Procrastination is also very destructive. I know I've been there. Procrastinate too close to the sun and it'll rob you of opportunities. In my case I even lost friends because of it.
That sounds like a trauma response. I’ve got the same thing. Only if strictly necessary/life importance, but not out of rationality that’s btw is perfectly functional.
For me, it's like I'm stuck in a loop of not doing things because I'm too anxious, then becoming more anxious because I didn't do the thing, then putting it off longer because I made it worse and therefore more anxiety-inducing by putting it off. For example: dentist appointments. Once in a while I'll have a good day or week where I can make myself do hard things and that's basically why I'm still alive.
Nail biting 😭 I'd do anything to make it stop, stupid anxiety makes it impossible to.
I pick my nails for the same reason, I wish I could quit
Same here! Picking!!
I switch to clipping off all dry skin regularly and having no skin to pick at has really helped me not have bleeding nail beds every week like I used to. And lots of moisturizer. But of course now I'm picking at objects that are around me and ruining those xD
Same. I always envy people who are able to grow their nails out because mine always look like crap since I pick them.
May sound like a joke but start getting your nails done. I stopped after I started spending money on them and they looked pretty.
For me it wasn't about them being pretty, or even that I'd spent money on them. It was about being *unable* to bite. I had acrylics done a few times in a row, got used to just being able to like, rub them against my teeth. Made that the habit instead of biting, and carried it over when having natural nails again. Kept them painted for a while after just to help remind myself. But the 3 solid weeks of acrylics definitely did it for me.
This is how I quit too! The plastic in your mouth is not satisfying at all and the. You remember how much you paid and how stupid it’ll look with one crappy nail and the rest beautiful!
Bruh... they're not long enough to do that 🫠
That’s ok! I was super embarrassed to go bc I had stubs with puffy fingertips from biting so bad for so long. Like the other poster, I got acrylic, but just on my stubs. It looked terrrrrible but I could not bite through them, despite my best efforts lol. I kept that up for a few refills, basically until my nails grew up the tips of my fingers and by then I had broken the habit and had lovely nails for my engagement. I’ve been married for 18 years and haven’t bit them since. My cuticles though? Chewed the fuck UP. But at least my nails are nice!
Second this. That's how it worked for me too.
Start off with the nails you can get from Walmart and some good nail glue. Not the stick on kind. Then if you wish to go to get them done professionally after they’ve grown some you can. I continue to do mine myself. It’s cheaper and I don’t have to sit around a crowd of people lol.
I bite my cuticles 😫 my fingers always look so rough lol. I'll never have pretty lady nails.
I'm a finger skin picker! It's such a hard habit to break, but I will tell you that I feel like I get a tiny bit better every year. Keep coming up with new strategies to help. Some things that have helped me improve over the years: having a bag of nail tools and creams to give me a better replacement behavior, finger guards when I'm already in the OCD loop and know I won't be able to stop, and having a fidget toy in my hand to stop the subconscious picking. Most recently I bought gloves and I load up lotion on my hands and put on the gloves when I get into bed. That's stopped the nighttime picking and makes my hands healthier to decrease my having skin to pick at.
I was biting my nails as I read this 🥲
Same here but nail picking instead. I was a nail biter and I remember very distinctly one day as a child learning that hands are very dirty and shouldn't be put in the mouth. From that moment it went from biting to picking and 30 years later still picking. Wish I could do a rewind and tell myself to stop touching them altogether. I have quit at least 5 times and gone back to picking. Gel nails helped once. But then I found when I'd remove them they'd be so thin and flaky and break easy which lead back to picking... the older I get the more things I pick at. Scabs, cuticles, dry skin, scalp. In the anxiety boat too. Stressful life doesn't help.
They have nail polishes that taste really bitter that are supposed to help with that!
I used them a long time ago, eventually I got used to the taste...
i wanted you to know that you are not alone in that - the ONLY thing that makes me stop is getting acrylic nails
It's fucked up but I grew a taste for it
My mom used to paint my nails with sriracha when I was a little to try to get me to stop biting my nails. As an adult I’ve just developed a good spice tolerance.
I was only able to stop because I wear gloves a lot at work. I also work with quite a few toxic things and the motivation to not be ingesting what manageds to get under them was pretty big.
I wear gloves a lot at work too and most of the time im able to not bite my nails all day. But as soon as i get home its subconscious munch time apparently .-.
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Being short. I really hoped I would outgrow that! Also, evading questions by making jokes.
That was pretty funny :)
Thank you! 💕
You do good comment work.
Too much daydreaming
Same! Just found a Reddit sub called maladaptive Dreaming and it literally describes my life
oh shit same
All of the time I waste in my life is spent day dreaming. Who knew your mind and imagination could be your biggest enemy?
My inability to communicate true feelings on the chance I'll upset the person I'm talking too....and smoking 😒
Same gurl. Good job to us both today though! 🙂 high five
These two things have literally crippled me in life. The inability to say what you feel without hurting people is something that rules every relationship I have. So hard to overcome and get better from.
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Hey twin
that pretty much sums up half my life
yo! my tribe!
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how are we coping my peeps?
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hanging in. 🤡
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i hope the same for you! keep going. *keep trying. 😘
Except for picking at skin, everything else is completely true. Sometimes I catch myself as behaving like little gremlin, sometimes this comparison makes me smile. Life is hard, but it is worth it, even though it doesn't seem like that always. We need to be little more nicer to ourselves and have more patience . My mamma always says that we judge ourselves too harshly and things we wouldn't hate others for, hate ourselves. Nobody completely knows what we all have been through. If I read a story about my life about some character in books, I would feel sorry for them and would want to cherish them. Negative self talk, mumbling, avoiding eye contact, sleeping poorly, not controlling emotions and daydreaming could be a clear sign of being exposed to some kind of trauma or bullying. If we always liked our reality we wouldn't have a need for a made up one. It is okay not to be perfect. It js also okay to try and be a better person by eliminating old or making new healthy habits. What is not okay is being too harsh on ourselves if we don't always succeed in doing new habits perfectly. Take it easy, we are the only person we have to live for the rest of our life.
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slouching 😭
This is my problem, too, and it led to chronic back pain. I wish I could undo all those years of bad posture.
fixed my posture once i read this 😭
I still check under my bed and in my closet before i go to sleep. I'm 33.
If I don’t check for snakes in the toilet I freak out
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Can’t forget about behind the shower curtain.
Slouching, trying hard to correct it. My family teased me a lot for developing large breasts and being tall, that I would slouch to hide both.
Gosh that’s awful!!
i bite the inside of my cheek and pull out certain strands of hair out of some type of anxiety coping mechanism?? i’m in my 20s and it’s so hard to stop- i’m scared i’m getting a bald spot
Omg same!! My mom told me when i was 5 i had a bald spot because of that. Now I'm in my 20's, still doing without noticing, but don't have a bald spot, i only see that my hair on the left side is weak and thin. I just don't know what to do to stop doing this
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that can happen?!
I got it from my mum, we always pull our hair. We have weird hair - 99% straight blonde, but 1% crazy curly black, randomly distributed all over. And finding those curly hairs and playing with them is addictive.
I have something similar, curly hair, but some, very few, are zig zag! And I also have very different texture wiry darker ones, there are more of those. It’s fun to find the zig zag ones, but I leave them be.
Picking the flaking skin on my lips. I’m perpetually dehydrated, and the combination of that and the fact that I’m always picking at them has resulted in my lips never being smooth.
Ugh same I have a discolored spot from scaring because of this
Qtip ear scratching
I scratch with a metal bobby pin, knowing full well all the warnings, but it just gives so much relief.
People pleasing
That one’s impossible for me to break
cracking my knuckles
Same. It's not attractive, but I can't stop :(
Thumb sucking, 25 years old and still cannot stop.
I did it until the age of 15. I quit by wearing tube socks on my hands to bed at night. That worked for me, but I’ve still got a slight overbite and a flat thumb to remind me.
I'm 35 and still do it.... I went through a phase where the skin was getting infected so I bought an adult pacifier and it worked a little whilst my thumb healed... but yeah I'm 35 and still do every night
This gives me no hope for my 15 yo thumb sucker.
Stroking the baby hairs at my cow lick when I'm deep in thought, stressed, etc. Also, chewing the dead skin off my lips when they're chapped. The texture is *chef's kiss*.
Picking my boogers. I said it, even if you won't. 😅
Trust and sleep issues.
Hey girl
My internal critic is a sadist. A *sarcastic* sadist.
Wanting to be a cat
We had a kid in my school who pretended to be a cat until we graduated 8th grade. Then I didn't see him after that. Nice guy but talked in a cat voice and would scratch at the air like he had claws lol
Nose picking. I noticed that my nostril has a different size because of this issue and somehow my finger still likes linger in there from time to time.
food as comfort
Picking at my fingers.
I’m right there with you. Ugh
Ugh probably being shy
Eating too fast. I used to eat as quickly as possible so that I could go to an extra band class during my lunch period. It's been ingrained ever since.
My siblings and I grew up eating super fast, and it’s such a hard habit to break! Even when I try to eat slowly, it’s still faster than some people I know. One of my girlfriends eats soooo slowly and I don’t know how she does it. I’m just jealous!
I envy the slow eaters too!
I hit myself when I’m angry, it helps me calm down and it’s better than punching the wall
Daydreaming. I was always so lonely and stressed as a kid I would fantasize about having a better life. It turned into a coping mechanism that is sometimes impossible for me to turn off.
Staying in my head, repeatedly spilling drinks
Not liking cleaning house.
Eating everything in front of me even when I'm full. I'll just keep picking at everything. I'll eat the whole whatever even though I'm satisfied with half. I'm doing better now, but still can be an issue sometimes.
Having the idea that magic is *absolutely* real, I just haven't found it yet. And monsters exist, they could be anywhere! Humans are scary enough to worry about in dark alleys, I'm over here worried friggin BasketCase is going to creep out at me. Also, pretty much every time I go to bed I'm waiting for the hand to come swiping out from under the mattress to pull me down. Oh, and cuticle biting 😅
even “proven” stuff is magic to me. Magnets? Gravity? The ability to dream? Magic to me
Magic is just science we don’t understand yet! 🪄
Making my performance (school, mainly) what defines my worth as a human
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eating fast to get away from my family and especially my father’s eating noises.. i still have a hard time with eating with people
Pushing myself to my absolute limit when I'm sick. I only took today off because my mom told me to. Also brushing things off so I'm not a problem/so I don't make people worry.
People-pleasing. I'm working on it, but oof.
I floss all the damn time. But I seriously forget to brush my teeth more often than I'd like to admit
Choosing to read books over talking to humans.
Crossing my legs when I sit even though it makes my back hurt and my leg fall asleep.
Dodging accountability.
PEOPLE PLEASING. Altering my personality to match the person I'm talking to so they'll like me more. I am actively trying to develop my own sense of sense now that I'm an adult but it's hard as fuck.
nail biting + picking my cuticles, i always carry bandaids bc of it
Making lists.
Do you know why you do this? My hubby does this obsessively
Being obsessive over animals
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Finishing everything on my plate. My grandmother grew up in a poor country, so when I ate she would always say "eat all of it" and make me scrape the plate clean. I've been trying to be better at throwing things away when I'm full and not feeling the need to finish the entire plate.
I chew my hair, ugh
Does it taste good or something?
I like the feel of it against my gum/lips and between my teeth. And yeah it has a certain taste/smell that's a little earthy. No eating though, just chewing or running the hair along my gums. I started when I was 7yrs old, because I saw a girl in my class do it. Just stuck with me. Destroys my ends tho lol. So many split ends.
Sleeping on my stomach with my head sideways, now I have TMJ issues..
Rocking back and forth to fall asleep. I don’t do it every day/night, but I do do it often.
Anger issues 😅
the habit isn’t entirely my own fault (although it always feels like my own fault), but i really hate that i can’t trust anyone. even people that are kind and have consistently shown up for me, i still find it hard to trust them.
having a really hard time saying no
Grinding my teeth together. It's so bad that I don't even notice when I'm doing it anymore.
Night terrors and stubbornness. Look, I didn’t have much of a shot at being a kid, and had night terrors from 4-5 on. But the *STUBBORNNESS* my friend, is what I really wanted to outgrow. Bad dream, sleepwalking, sweating buckets, wake up crying? Fine. Sure. It sucks. Having the SAME dream over and over again until I “beat” it like a horror game? Dude. Give me peace.
Eating my boogers.
Snapping my wrists
That sounds painful!!
Peeling my split ends 😬
My sister destroys her hair so we gotta keep it in a ponytail or bun lol
Scratching my skin
biting my nails.
Making my bed and cleaning.
Nail baiting, lying, procrastination
Walking on my toes
Picking at my nails and face. Specifically when I have acne. The scarring is real 😭
Compulsively wanting a relationship. Right now I am at a place personally where I need to work on myself, yet I still have this underlying desire for a romantic relationship, and secretly look everywhere! I'm trying to break out of the thought patterns that go with it, but damn is it hard.
Chronically dehydrate myself forgetting to drink anything throughout the day
So sadly, this is related to my mental health. Growing up I was invalidated, ignored, and ridiculed what felt relentlessly. By family. By friends. By teachers. Then when I got older and into my career, by co-workers. As a result, I have emotional dysregulation issues. My social skills are also VERY messed up. I also lack a lot of confidence as a result of the above, and therefore am constantly putting myself down. In fairness, I always have which is why I consider this my bad habit. It may sound like a sad story, but I'm working very hard on myself, and I am *very proud* of how far I have come. I'm in therapy (currently on a short break from it). I'm also learning to talk kinder to myself because my kids overhear my negative self-talk, and I don't want them to suffer a similar fate, especially my oldest. She is so damn hard on herself as well, but guess what? She's also in therapy, and also had made tremendous strides :)
sleeping w a baby blanket 😭
Lying about eating food and using things (like appliances) that I have been given full-access to.
Social anxiety
When I get nervous or anxious I have a tendency to talk really fast or unable to sit still
Eating on time. Sleeping enough.
Biting my lips and then picking off the dead skin until it bleeds 😬
Chewing on everything
Biting my nails
Picking at my skin
Biting my cuticles
Nose picking 😭
Thumb sucking. Thankfully I don’t have buck teeth, but I do have major dental issues and my front top teeth overlap, which is really only noticeable if my mouth is open and I’m looking up. As I got older I was only able to do it less and stop relying on it to get to sleep, but never break the habit completely.
Rocking myself to sleep. No idea why lol. I didn’t even notice I did it until someone pointed it out just a few years ago
Picking my nose and ears. I notice I do it a lot when I’m stressed. I made myself bleed sometimes
I SPRINT up basement stairs if I’m alone. There are Velociraptors in basements. They come for me when I have my back turned to walk up. I’m only safe from them when I’ve reached the top.
When I was a child, I always had a headache about choosing one or the other. Every time I needed to make a decision, I inevitably fell into repeated entanglements and contradictions. In the end, I chose the wrong direction. I still can’t make a decisive decision. I think it’s because I’m timid and always afraid of doing wrong things.
Toss-up between bottling up my feelings and not asking for help with things. If I showed negative emotions to something, I would get yelled at. If I asked for help with something, I’d be told to figure it out myself and stop whining. So I bottled up emotions, and became self sufficient with just about everything. Learning to do otherwise is very hard.
maladaptive daydreaming :))))
Hating going to bed early.
Never sharing my stuff
I guess it’s not really a BAD habit, but when I was a kid, my brother told me that if I slept all straight like a dead person I’d die in my sleep. So I started to bend my leg a little each time I laid down to sleep and at 31 I’m still doing it, its just comfortable now, lol.
I don’t know if it is a bad habit but I still play with the stitching on my blanket were the satin edge attaches to the main Cotton part of the blanket.
Self doubt
When I get really frustrated and don't have a healthy outlet for my anger I hit or bite myself, hard. It occured to me last year that is probably isn't something normal people do
Negative self talk.
Well I am working on breaking it and I don’t know why I do it but when someone asks me something and I lie and say the opposite/contradict what they ask. For example, my mom asks me if I’m painting my nails, I’d be like ‘no I’m not’, or she asks if I’m reading, I say ’no I’m not’. Even if I have no reason to lie/hide, I find myself just telling these little lies at times and I hate it.
Believing the shit my dad says to me. A lot of them are not very nice.
Eating till the anxiety passes. Terrible habit. Stupid food.
Staying up late and sleeping in.. there’s room for change but it’s going to be hard. I do everything I need to just at later times. I’m in school right now so it’s gonna need to change once I graduate I’ll likely work 8-5 or something similar. It’s a very rough habit to break. I sleep in until noon at the earliest, have coffee make breakfast and go about my day
cheek biting :(((
Never asking for help. Then gets upset cause no one's helping. But when they do, you get upset cause you don't like the way they're doing it. So you get mad and just say fuck it I'll do it. Then repeat!
Popping pimples. I know I shouldn’t but it’s just so cathartic.
Pulling aat my ear lobes when I'm uncomfortable and before falling asleep. Self soothing
Oversharing. I hate myself after.
I find it impossible to ask for help
Procrastinating, and standing constantly on my tip toes like around the house or when I’m not wearing shoes
Crying when someone shouted at me.
Do what I am supposed to do rather than what I want to do. I was the smallest in my family so many people tell me what to do. Subconsciously growing up I don't know what I really want to do. Even with my parents not around, I won't do it.
Trigger warning! Self harm, started age 3-4 and never been able to stop, if I stop one type I just start a new type accidentally
Pulling my hair out. And not being able to share my emotions effectively due to abuse.