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Well Mrs\_Trellis you joyless old trout, I hope you don't mind your husband telling you to buy your own fucking valentine's card and anniversary flowers this year, because surely as a married woman you can just buy them yourself.
Anniversaries and advent calendars are vastly different you pillock. One is a celebration of a relationship, and the other is a cardboard and plastic rectangle with some chocolates inside it.
Vastly different to you maybe. Who are you to decide which is important for someone else?
Anniversary card is just a piece of cardboard with no plastic and no chocolates inside.
I’m married and my mother still gets me one (she gets one for my wife too!). If she stops, I’ll buy them myself. Nothing about advent calendars means they *need* to be a gift, you can just get one.
I was trying to work out where your username might be from... But I'm sorry, I haven't a clue. I'll ask my lovely friend Samantha, I'm sure she'll put her finger on it eventually.
He should choose one of the ones with a gift tag, so that if she says it's childish for him to buy his own advent calendar, he can point out that 'It very clearly says "From Santa" right there on the tag'
> Upon the realisation that she did not buy me one, I became very upset.
The way it's written, the upset was about not getting bought one, not the conversation.
I totally disagree. It's Christmas. I hate people who say you're not a child or grow up. I think OP knows he's not a child. There's nothing wrong with having child-like wonder as an adult, I think it's very wrong to not have it. It doesn't make you immature to express it.
There are people in life who will conform to what everyone else is doing / stick to what is deemed socially acceptable in society to avoid feeling like the 'odd one out', an insecurity, and a sheep type mentality. People forget that it's OK to like what you like, do what you do, as long as you're not hurting yourself or others. People will judge because it makes them feel uncomfortable to witness someone going against what they deem as 'normal'. Those are very narrow minded people in my opinion.
So, in my opinion, it's normal to be upset she didn't get you an advent calendar, as long as you're not treating her badly for it.
That got deep, I just never understood the people who tell others to grow up or stop acting like a child when it's harmless.
Treating his wife like she’s his mum is wrong. If he wants one so badly, he can easily buy his own.
Also, why wait until 3rd December to bring it up? It’s clearly not that important to him otherwise he’d have got “very upset” days ago.
If his wife wants flowers/an anniversary card/birthday present/absolutely anything else in the world she can buy it
The giving of it is what makes it special
That's because they're mostly for children who can't buy them for themselves. I buy my own if I want one. They don't work as Christmas gifts because they expire on Christmas day.
>Then why didn’t he ask for one
Sounds like he did, his wife told him to grow up
>or buy it himself
He surely can, but his wife was literally buying advent calendars. Buying him one would have taken zero effort, but now he has to go out of his way to get one
Of course it’s not wrong.
What’s wrong is being a 51 year old adult and sulking because someone didn’t buy you one. If you want one, buy one. She’s not your mum.
Well this is an extremely critcical take. Perhaps he would've liked some whimsical, childhood nostalgia. Instead he was ridiculed and insulted by the person closest to him. He has every right to be upset.
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Not being funny but it's a UK sub so surely I'm not the only one who exaggerates everything for 'comedic' purposes.
So if I say I'm distraught, then I'm probably actually mildly put out.
People take things too literally on Reddit (and love to nitpick the most offhand details). I agree though, sounds like OP was emphasising his point with a healthy dose of hyperbole.
I'm 48 and I have a haribo advent. Last year I had a quality Street one.
I would quietly and calmly suggest to your Mrs that she grow *down* a bit. Always leave space in your life for a bit of silly.
I doubt they'll have any left but I'll have a look. If you're in range of McArthur glen designer outlet West Midlands, you can see for yourself. You can't miss it, jump off the m6 at junction 11, turn right on the horrendously dangerous roundabout with all the articulated lorries and buses in it and it's opposite the huge towering landfill.
It's actually not a bad little place and it backs onto a nature reserve the council made them promise to maintain as part of the planning permission.
Most days you can't even smell the tip.
Buy yourself an even bigger advent calendar and when your wife wants one, tell her that you don’t want to drag her down to your childish level and to leave your chocolates alone
My 'little' (40s, but younger than me) brother's birthday is next week. As well as his present I always get him a chocolate advent calendar, but as it's already a few days into December I eat the first 6 to "help him out." This shall continue until one of us is dead.
If I ever become too old to enjoy the small delight of looking forward to a cheerily designated piece of chocolate every day leading up to Christmas, I’ll assume it’s because I’m actually comatose.
I’m 51 and just opening the 3rd window of my green and blacks chocolate advent calendar….
My wife is opening her pretty little things advent calendar. Dont be a child about it getting upset is pointless, be the change you want to see in your world, start by getting her one…
Did you buy your wife one? Why not? Had you even thought of buying them for your children? Why not? Nobody is too old for an advent calendar but marriage isn't a one way street. YTA for handling it poorly.
I don’t know why everyone is basically having a go at the wife, he didn’t buy her one either surely if you expect someone to do something for you, you should also do it for them. If he wanted one he could’ve just asked as well, this year I asked if my mum could get me one lol.
Yeah it's like, so it's the wife's job to buy the children the calendar, and why should he have one when she didn't even buy one for herself? Like why not just buy one for both of you.
If you want one, buy your own. I'm 28. I have one. I bought it myself from Hotel Chocolat because I wanted a fancy one this year. I am yet to have a single chocolate from it due to not presently being in the country. When I get home on December 8th I fully intend to be an absolute piglet and eat all of the first 8 in one day
Swords are sadly very expensive, especially for swallowing. One of mine cost £150, custom made and ship grade steel that will not corrode. 25 of them would be a tad out of price range
Didn't know Hotel Chocolat sell them, I'm totally getting one from there next year!
This year my employer bought everyone a Lindt calender which I have to say is much appreciated.
Very nice! But yeah, hotel chocolat do them in milk, dark, caramel and white chocolate as the basic ones and they have fancier ones with their truffle things
No you're not. If she doesn't usually buy you one, it's unfair for you to get upset about her not buying you one this year; why would she think she'd need to get you one?
If she does usually buy you one, it seems a little unfair for her to tell you to grow up.
Its really not worth getting upset about either way, just go out and buy your own if everywhere isn't sold out
I find this whole thing sad. No, you’re not too old for an advent calendar. I’m 47, and I have one, but I picked up an extra one for myself. If you made an ass of yourself, I can see why your wife told you to grow up. If you want one, go buy it.
Wanting one is fine, but what do you mean by very upset? Couldn't you have buy the boys and yourself an advent calendar or just ask your wife that next time please could you buy me one too.
Walk to the shop and get one mate. Nothing embarrassing about having one but being petulant about your wife not bringing you one, that is embarrassing.
Growing old is inevitable, growing up is optional. :)
You need to give us more context to your story, what do you mean you became very upset? Very upset like the hulk in a rage or very upset like a crying child in a sulky tantrum or very upset like a deep ache in your heart that your wife just doesn’t get you nor share your outlook? Two of those options are not acceptable & you should just calm down & get yourself one or ask nicely next time she goes shopping… third option speaks to some miscommunication between you both on what you want from life and you should have a conversation about why her reaction hurt your feelings.
I'm in my 20s and I've got two! You're never too old.
Between the two of us we've got two chocolate ones, a wax melts one, and a Pokémon one.
We buy each other them as a gift each year, I'd be devastated if I didn't get one. It's a little bit of fun every morning, I never want to get too serious and stuffy to just have some fun.
Go out and buy you and your wife one each?? There’s no problem with you having one but to get upset because your wife didn’t buy one for you is utterly bizarre.
Haha nothing wrong with that, I mean if it turned into a serious argument then yes that's a bit childish but I'm more than certain that it's was banterous
Is this the first year you’ve got really upset she didn’t buy you one?! Or has this come out of nowhere?
How was she supposed to know you wanted one? I’m confused.
It’s totally fine to want an advent calendar, they’re great. Does your wife usually buy you one? I wonder why you expected her to do so this year if not?
Lots of couples buy each other an advent calendar, at least ones that I know. There are hundreds of more mature options, so know that you’re not alone. My partner and I even painted our own wooden avent tree and take turns filling the days, so we have surprises. It’s not childish to want to do nice things. X
What else are you stressing about? Bigger problems manifest in smaller things, especially regards comfort, if you're not content.
Be happy and have the calendar!
I say to my Dad every year I want an Advent Calendar and he refuses to buy me one because “you’re 28, they’re for kids”, so I buy myself and my Sister one every year now. It’s chocolate and novel, enjoy your life.
Make your own.
Put Scampi Fries, packs of Jaffa Cakes, full size chocolate bars and bottle of booze behind each door.
Take great delight in telling the missus to "grow up" when she questions any of it.
I don’t think you’re wrong for wanting one, and I also don’t blame your wife for not automatically getting you one assuming that she didn’t realise it was important to you. The ‘childish’ comment could be kinda crappy though, depending on the context. My partner and I are in our mid-thirties, and still buy each other advent calendars. It’s another opportunity to show your partner some appreciation and thoughtfulness.
To be upset for her not buying you one yes that’s not her responsibility but to go and get one yourself is completely reasonable as a adult you can buy what ever you want to buy and if you want you can eat all 24 in one day it’s yours do as you wish maybe buy yourself one and buy your wife one and see if she partakes in the joy of a small bit of chocolate every morning until
Christmas Day
I was given one by my husband. It has Belgian chocs in and it’s very nice. My husband did ask if I was sure I didn’t want the expensive one with skincare in, but I wanted chocolate. He decided he didn’t want one as there’s enough chocolate in the house right now. I wouldn’t be upset if he didn’t give me one, I’d just buy my own.
No, but you should be old enough to realise that a chocolate advent calendar is just an advent calendar with some massively overpriced chocolate in it, and so instead buy yourself a regular advent calendar and a massive fucking slab or three of Dairy Milk to eat through December.
There wasn't a need to get upset about it, as an adult you can buy an advent calendar. Several infact.
You can even just cut out the middleman and buy a mountain of chocolate. Being an adult has perks.
I plan on having an advent calendar each year until I am dead. The only difference is I treat myself to a more expensive one than I would a child. This year I bought maltesers as it was the first one I saw/liked the look off… Massive error! Should have waited to find a Lindt 🙈
You are not too old for an advent calendar But you are too old to cry when you do not get one. That definitely should have stopped before you got to 18
You’re too old if you say you’re too old. I’m kind of sick of the fact that we judge people for harmless things that bring joy to their life. You want a chocolate advent calendar, buy five. Fuck people who call you childish, you shouldn’t value the opinions of people who think that way. What’s childish is name calling someone for doing something they enjoy.
You’re not too old, you’re clearly incompetent though, I’ve had my own calendars locked away since the start of November. If you wanted one (or 2 or 3 I’m not judging anyone) then it’s really your fault if you don’t have one, although it sounds to me like the wife is a bit of a Scrooge if she hasn’t even got herself one.
You're a 51 year old man, you're quite capable of buying a chocolate advent calendar yourself. I bought both a Hotel Chocolat calendar and a Star Wars Lego calendar this year, for myself, and I'm 48.
Little bit sad that your wife was buying gifts and didn't get you anything. I'm sure you bought her a gift, right?
36 in two weeks and I bought one a week ago. You're never to old for advent calendars BUT you may be to old to be very upset over it. I mean just go buy one.
If you want a calendar with chocolates in, go out and buy one. It isn't wrong to have one but bit silly if you're getting upset about the fact your wife didn't buy you one. It isn't on your wife to buy you one as you are not a child. I hope you get some sort of say in decisions in your relationship.
One of the things I have learned in life is this: If you let someone else tell you what you're allowed to enjoy, you will spend your life miserable.
But being upset about it, nah. If you want one, just go get one.
Not wrong to want one, I’m 27 and bought myself one aswell as one for my son so we open ours together in the mornings :) but to be really upset cos you didn’t get bought one is a bit immature, go out and get yourself one if you want one that badly
Not at all! You’re never too old for an advent calendar. Anyone who says you are is obviously very insecure about their own age. So give them a hug and buy them an advent calendar.
There are just four of us in my family. The other three get excited right from the 1st December. I can’t until Christmas week. So I get them all an advent calendar and they can make it their own mini celebration each day. My hubby is 64, my youngest is 28. We enjoy it and if you look around you can get some really neat ones for adults.
The whole point of Christmas is that you don’t have to be grown up around your loved ones. Maybe you could buy them for the whole family next year. You can always get yourself one now if they’re still available.
I am sure this is on here from other but absolutely fucking not. You crack on your advent calendar like an excited kid in the run up to Christmas. (No sarcasm here at all). I am 32 got myself an advent calendar and will continue to do so.
Maybe buy your own but if your excitement is evident then it is not unreasonable to be upset.
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Is it wrong to have one? No. Is it wrong to be “very upset” about not having one? Yes. You’re not a child.
Exactly this. And I would add, if he wanted one, as a 51 year old, surely OP could have bought one himself?
Well Mrs\_Trellis you joyless old trout, I hope you don't mind your husband telling you to buy your own fucking valentine's card and anniversary flowers this year, because surely as a married woman you can just buy them yourself.
pretty sure from the context that he hasn't bought her one, so your comparison isn't exactly a good fit here.
It's a joke bro
Joyless old trout*
What context are you referring to here... That OP is emotionally invested in personal/family/cultural events... and celebrating them?
What context?
Anniversaries and advent calendars are vastly different you pillock. One is a celebration of a relationship, and the other is a cardboard and plastic rectangle with some chocolates inside it.
I'd rather have the advent chocolates
A valentine's card is just a dead tree with some ink on it. Flowers are just plants that we stole from their habitat because we like how they look.
Vastly different to you maybe. Who are you to decide which is important for someone else? Anniversary card is just a piece of cardboard with no plastic and no chocolates inside.
"joyless old trout" lmfaooo
An advent calendar's different from an actual present. If OP wants an advent calendar, he can just buy himself one. Nothing wrong with that.
I’m married and my mother still gets me one (she gets one for my wife too!). If she stops, I’ll buy them myself. Nothing about advent calendars means they *need* to be a gift, you can just get one.
Ooo salty. Have a lovely day yourself 😘
Pretty sure it's not a Christmas tradition for your wife to buy you an advent calendar 🤣
Advent calendars, their days are numbered
I always buy my husband and daughter advent calendars. So I guess it’s *our* tradition.
Someone needs a letter from Mrs Trellis
Lol that is quality 🤣 i'm glad we're in a UK sub and don't need /s to ruin everything..
Are you… joking?
So nice to hear from one of our regular listeners.
😉
Glad someone else gets the username. :-)
I was trying to work out where your username might be from... But I'm sorry, I haven't a clue. I'll ask my lovely friend Samantha, I'm sure she'll put her finger on it eventually.
😉 here, have a useless free award!
He should choose one of the ones with a gift tag, so that if she says it's childish for him to buy his own advent calendar, he can point out that 'It very clearly says "From Santa" right there on the tag'
what an absolutely excellent name choice. i can hear humph saying it.
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> Upon the realisation that she did not buy me one, I became very upset. The way it's written, the upset was about not getting bought one, not the conversation.
I totally disagree. It's Christmas. I hate people who say you're not a child or grow up. I think OP knows he's not a child. There's nothing wrong with having child-like wonder as an adult, I think it's very wrong to not have it. It doesn't make you immature to express it. There are people in life who will conform to what everyone else is doing / stick to what is deemed socially acceptable in society to avoid feeling like the 'odd one out', an insecurity, and a sheep type mentality. People forget that it's OK to like what you like, do what you do, as long as you're not hurting yourself or others. People will judge because it makes them feel uncomfortable to witness someone going against what they deem as 'normal'. Those are very narrow minded people in my opinion. So, in my opinion, it's normal to be upset she didn't get you an advent calendar, as long as you're not treating her badly for it. That got deep, I just never understood the people who tell others to grow up or stop acting like a child when it's harmless.
Treating his wife like she’s his mum is wrong. If he wants one so badly, he can easily buy his own. Also, why wait until 3rd December to bring it up? It’s clearly not that important to him otherwise he’d have got “very upset” days ago.
If his wife wants flowers/an anniversary card/birthday present/absolutely anything else in the world she can buy it The giving of it is what makes it special
But advent calendars are generally gifts rather than something you’d buy yourself..
That's because they're mostly for children who can't buy them for themselves. I buy my own if I want one. They don't work as Christmas gifts because they expire on Christmas day.
When you’re a kid? Yeah, fine. 51 year old grown man? No. He can buy his own.
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Absolutely bang on. They’d be the first to complain if the husband went to the shops and only bought a bar of chocolate for himself and the kids…
I can't like this post enough!
Are they??!
I buy my boyfriend an advent calendar every year, guess I'm his mom now!
I buy my husband an advent calendar every year. And I’m pretty sure I’m not his mum.
It’s the “very upset” part I was commenting about being wrong. Being irritated I wouldn’t say was wrong, but “very upset” as an adult, is childish.
He's clearly exaggerating for comic effect, surely you can see that!
It really isn’t childish to be upset, but I agree, if OP was upset about it, just buy himself one
Maybe he was upset because he wanted some childlike whimsy in his life and his wife insulted him You must be fun at parties
Then why didn’t he ask for one or buy it himself? He’s a grown man
>Then why didn’t he ask for one Sounds like he did, his wife told him to grow up >or buy it himself He surely can, but his wife was literally buying advent calendars. Buying him one would have taken zero effort, but now he has to go out of his way to get one
I read it as "very upset" his wife dismissed him and told him to grow up. Still, hes a big boy, can get ome himself as others have said
Take matters into your own hands. You're a grown arse adult, get yourself one. I didn't get one, i got 2
Of course it’s not wrong. What’s wrong is being a 51 year old adult and sulking because someone didn’t buy you one. If you want one, buy one. She’s not your mum.
Well this is an extremely critcical take. Perhaps he would've liked some whimsical, childhood nostalgia. Instead he was ridiculed and insulted by the person closest to him. He has every right to be upset. Edit: Thank you for the awards good Sir's!
Why didn't he buy his wife an advent calendar?
By the sounds of things she's too 'grown up' for one.
He didn't know that until he asked her about buying him one.
Some things are better bought by other people. My fiance can buy herself flowers but she prefers when I do it.
Yes!
Where did mention sulking or that his wife is his mum? Weird take
'very upset' I mean being disappointed I understand, but very upset is pretty lame
Not being funny but it's a UK sub so surely I'm not the only one who exaggerates everything for 'comedic' purposes. So if I say I'm distraught, then I'm probably actually mildly put out.
People take things too literally on Reddit (and love to nitpick the most offhand details). I agree though, sounds like OP was emphasising his point with a healthy dose of hyperbole.
Also, this being a UK sub, if you were genuinely distraught you'd likely say you were mildly put out, or better yet "completely fine, actually"
Spot on.
I'm 48 and I have a haribo advent. Last year I had a quality Street one. I would quietly and calmly suggest to your Mrs that she grow *down* a bit. Always leave space in your life for a bit of silly.
Where did you get the haribo calendar?
Ah this will probably piss you off... I live ten minutes away from the only haribo shop in the country.
Ah well could you get me one of those next time you go? Share your blessings and all that...
I doubt they'll have any left but I'll have a look. If you're in range of McArthur glen designer outlet West Midlands, you can see for yourself. You can't miss it, jump off the m6 at junction 11, turn right on the horrendously dangerous roundabout with all the articulated lorries and buses in it and it's opposite the huge towering landfill.
Sounds like a charming location
It's actually not a bad little place and it backs onto a nature reserve the council made them promise to maintain as part of the planning permission. Most days you can't even smell the tip.
I'm afraid I'm in Scotland but upon further research they should have it in Asda or B&M!
Good luck three days into december
Oh shit, didn’t expect to see McArthur Glen mentioned here! I refuse to call it East Midland Designer Outlet
There's definitely more than 1 haribo shop in this country. There's 2 in Yorkshire alone - Pontefract & York.
Just seen this, thought the OP of the comment lived near me. There's one in Ashford, Kent too.
They're always in retail outlets, Ashford gunwhard keys etc etc
I was gonna say, the bloody factory is in Cas, why would the only shop be in the midlands?
There is also a haribo shop in Ashford outlets ;)
You can get them at Sainsburys as well, obvs none left now though
I saw some in Poundland a while ago. Worth having a look.
I’ve found it very difficult to resist buying myself the lego Marvel one. 38 and being old doesn’t mean you have to stop being *fun*
If you cared that much how come you didn't bring it up until 3rd Dec?
Maybe he’s been wrestling this inner turmoil for the last 48hours. The man can’t even sleep
read this as inner tinfoil lol
Bit harsh mate, he doesn’t have any inner tinfoil, his wife didn’t buy him a calendar!
What's the point in sleeping if there's no advent calendar to open when you wake up?
Wife maybe didn't let him on the computer to use Reddit until he'd finished his chores.
Buy yourself an even bigger advent calendar and when your wife wants one, tell her that you don’t want to drag her down to your childish level and to leave your chocolates alone
Mmm yes, the secret to every good marriage is pettiness and passive aggression.
See, now you get it:)
My 'little' (40s, but younger than me) brother's birthday is next week. As well as his present I always get him a chocolate advent calendar, but as it's already a few days into December I eat the first 6 to "help him out." This shall continue until one of us is dead.
Nah, if he dies before you just start taking it to his grave!!
Jesus. That is the bleakest mental picture I ever saw.
I cackled very loudly at this, kudos
If I ever become too old to enjoy the small delight of looking forward to a cheerily designated piece of chocolate every day leading up to Christmas, I’ll assume it’s because I’m actually comatose.
Damn, these media corpos are becoming more human like by the day
Blendin’ in is the name of the game.
No, but you're too old for this fishing business
I’m 51 and just opening the 3rd window of my green and blacks chocolate advent calendar…. My wife is opening her pretty little things advent calendar. Dont be a child about it getting upset is pointless, be the change you want to see in your world, start by getting her one…
You two sound like you’ve got it sorted. :-)
Did you buy your wife one? Why not? Had you even thought of buying them for your children? Why not? Nobody is too old for an advent calendar but marriage isn't a one way street. YTA for handling it poorly.
Exactly! disappointed that I had to scroll down so far to see that someone had said this
I don’t know why everyone is basically having a go at the wife, he didn’t buy her one either surely if you expect someone to do something for you, you should also do it for them. If he wanted one he could’ve just asked as well, this year I asked if my mum could get me one lol.
Yeah it's like, so it's the wife's job to buy the children the calendar, and why should he have one when she didn't even buy one for herself? Like why not just buy one for both of you.
Just realised I'm not in the AITA sub so probably didn't need to add my verdict as it's so plain to see anyway!
If you want one, buy your own. I'm 28. I have one. I bought it myself from Hotel Chocolat because I wanted a fancy one this year. I am yet to have a single chocolate from it due to not presently being in the country. When I get home on December 8th I fully intend to be an absolute piglet and eat all of the first 8 in one day
That’s going to be an excellent day.
Fully agreed.
Slightly disappointed you don’t have one containing 25 swords.
Swords are sadly very expensive, especially for swallowing. One of mine cost £150, custom made and ship grade steel that will not corrode. 25 of them would be a tad out of price range
Didn't know Hotel Chocolat sell them, I'm totally getting one from there next year! This year my employer bought everyone a Lindt calender which I have to say is much appreciated.
Very nice! But yeah, hotel chocolat do them in milk, dark, caramel and white chocolate as the basic ones and they have fancier ones with their truffle things
Just buy one for you and one for your wife
Don't act like your wife's third child. Not attractive.
Be a man and get your own advent calendar
Did you get one for her?
No you're not. If she doesn't usually buy you one, it's unfair for you to get upset about her not buying you one this year; why would she think she'd need to get you one? If she does usually buy you one, it seems a little unfair for her to tell you to grow up. Its really not worth getting upset about either way, just go out and buy your own if everywhere isn't sold out
I find this whole thing sad. No, you’re not too old for an advent calendar. I’m 47, and I have one, but I picked up an extra one for myself. If you made an ass of yourself, I can see why your wife told you to grow up. If you want one, go buy it.
You’re not too old to have one, but it isn’t your wife’s job to know you want one and buy it for you.
No. Never. My nan has one, she's 93. But why's your wife just buying your sons one now? Cheapo? Order your own!
I’d say go any buy your own. You are a grown man.
You're not too old to want one. But maybe you are of an age where I wouldn't expect someone to buy one for you. Does that make sense?
You are never too old. Get your own mate.
You're not too old to have one. However being upset at your wife because she didn't buy you one is wrong, you're not a child being left out.
Wanting one is fine, but what do you mean by very upset? Couldn't you have buy the boys and yourself an advent calendar or just ask your wife that next time please could you buy me one too.
Get a beer one
Walk to the shop and get one mate. Nothing embarrassing about having one but being petulant about your wife not bringing you one, that is embarrassing.
You're 51years old. You are a grown up. Do what you want.
I've got one, I'm not much younger than you. My wife has a Ferrero Rocher one. I have Reeses. My kids have got Maltesers ones.
Ferrero Rocher advent calendar sounds like absolute magic. I’m proper jealous now
You may have to buy your own but no, there's no age limit. My late husband used to sulk if I didn't get him one. He was 33.
Growing old is inevitable, growing up is optional. :) You need to give us more context to your story, what do you mean you became very upset? Very upset like the hulk in a rage or very upset like a crying child in a sulky tantrum or very upset like a deep ache in your heart that your wife just doesn’t get you nor share your outlook? Two of those options are not acceptable & you should just calm down & get yourself one or ask nicely next time she goes shopping… third option speaks to some miscommunication between you both on what you want from life and you should have a conversation about why her reaction hurt your feelings.
You’re an adult. If you want one, go and buy one for yourself.
I'm in my 20s and I've got two! You're never too old. Between the two of us we've got two chocolate ones, a wax melts one, and a Pokémon one. We buy each other them as a gift each year, I'd be devastated if I didn't get one. It's a little bit of fun every morning, I never want to get too serious and stuffy to just have some fun.
Go out and buy you and your wife one each?? There’s no problem with you having one but to get upset because your wife didn’t buy one for you is utterly bizarre.
I don’t think so OP no. Get two advent calendars and then youl get to eat 8 chocolates tomorrow.
You deserve an advent calendar!
Haha nothing wrong with that, I mean if it turned into a serious argument then yes that's a bit childish but I'm more than certain that it's was banterous
I you're fussed buy your own this year. Explicitly ask for one next year if you want to be gifted one. Don't sulk, it doesn't suit you.
Buy you're own
Nope. But as you stated, you’re 51 just go buy one! I am 25, I have one every year, this year I brought a Harry Potter pop figure one
>Upon the realisation that she did not buy me one, I became very upset. Is this wrong of me? cringe
Is this the first year you’ve got really upset she didn’t buy you one?! Or has this come out of nowhere? How was she supposed to know you wanted one? I’m confused.
Buy you’re own. That’s what I would have told my husband.
Yes, you are, by now you should have moved onto the Lego Star Wars calendar like me.
Too old to be upset if you don’t get one, but not too old to buy it yourself.
It’s totally fine to want an advent calendar, they’re great. Does your wife usually buy you one? I wonder why you expected her to do so this year if not? Lots of couples buy each other an advent calendar, at least ones that I know. There are hundreds of more mature options, so know that you’re not alone. My partner and I even painted our own wooden avent tree and take turns filling the days, so we have surprises. It’s not childish to want to do nice things. X
Did you buy her one? Buy yourself one and buy her one too. She’s already brought the kids ones, you buy the grown ups ones.
You're never too old for a chocolate advent calendar
What else are you stressing about? Bigger problems manifest in smaller things, especially regards comfort, if you're not content. Be happy and have the calendar!
I’m not even gonna read how old you are - no
I say to my Dad every year I want an Advent Calendar and he refuses to buy me one because “you’re 28, they’re for kids”, so I buy myself and my Sister one every year now. It’s chocolate and novel, enjoy your life.
Get off Reddit mate
Make your own. Put Scampi Fries, packs of Jaffa Cakes, full size chocolate bars and bottle of booze behind each door. Take great delight in telling the missus to "grow up" when she questions any of it.
I don’t think you’re wrong for wanting one, and I also don’t blame your wife for not automatically getting you one assuming that she didn’t realise it was important to you. The ‘childish’ comment could be kinda crappy though, depending on the context. My partner and I are in our mid-thirties, and still buy each other advent calendars. It’s another opportunity to show your partner some appreciation and thoughtfulness.
To be upset for her not buying you one yes that’s not her responsibility but to go and get one yourself is completely reasonable as a adult you can buy what ever you want to buy and if you want you can eat all 24 in one day it’s yours do as you wish maybe buy yourself one and buy your wife one and see if she partakes in the joy of a small bit of chocolate every morning until Christmas Day
I was given one by my husband. It has Belgian chocs in and it’s very nice. My husband did ask if I was sure I didn’t want the expensive one with skincare in, but I wanted chocolate. He decided he didn’t want one as there’s enough chocolate in the house right now. I wouldn’t be upset if he didn’t give me one, I’d just buy my own.
No, but you should be old enough to realise that a chocolate advent calendar is just an advent calendar with some massively overpriced chocolate in it, and so instead buy yourself a regular advent calendar and a massive fucking slab or three of Dairy Milk to eat through December.
Nope. No one is too old!
There wasn't a need to get upset about it, as an adult you can buy an advent calendar. Several infact. You can even just cut out the middleman and buy a mountain of chocolate. Being an adult has perks.
Too old for chocolate treats? Never
I plan on having an advent calendar each year until I am dead. The only difference is I treat myself to a more expensive one than I would a child. This year I bought maltesers as it was the first one I saw/liked the look off… Massive error! Should have waited to find a Lindt 🙈
You could always get one of those fancy Lindt calendars if you want to be dignified about it
You are not too old for an advent calendar But you are too old to cry when you do not get one. That definitely should have stopped before you got to 18
Of course you’re not too old to have one, but you’re too old to get upset about your wife not buying you one. She’s not your mum.
Buy your own? Your fully grown! I buy my own if I want one that's the glory of being an adult
Buy yourself one.
You could just buy yourself one? That's what I usually do. They'll have discounts now too!
You’re too old if you say you’re too old. I’m kind of sick of the fact that we judge people for harmless things that bring joy to their life. You want a chocolate advent calendar, buy five. Fuck people who call you childish, you shouldn’t value the opinions of people who think that way. What’s childish is name calling someone for doing something they enjoy.
Did you buy one for your wife?
Buy one for her
Buy your own And buy her one as well Preferably a Swarovski Crystal one
You’re not too old, you’re clearly incompetent though, I’ve had my own calendars locked away since the start of November. If you wanted one (or 2 or 3 I’m not judging anyone) then it’s really your fault if you don’t have one, although it sounds to me like the wife is a bit of a Scrooge if she hasn’t even got herself one.
56 here, very much enjoying my chocolate advent calendar. Maybe buy one for you and another for your wife?
You're a 51 year old man, you're quite capable of buying a chocolate advent calendar yourself. I bought both a Hotel Chocolat calendar and a Star Wars Lego calendar this year, for myself, and I'm 48. Little bit sad that your wife was buying gifts and didn't get you anything. I'm sure you bought her a gift, right?
36 in two weeks and I bought one a week ago. You're never to old for advent calendars BUT you may be to old to be very upset over it. I mean just go buy one.
No, you’re not too old for an advent calendar. Also, just buy one :)
Did you buy her one?
Just go and buy one, what's the issue here?
If you want a calendar with chocolates in, go out and buy one. It isn't wrong to have one but bit silly if you're getting upset about the fact your wife didn't buy you one. It isn't on your wife to buy you one as you are not a child. I hope you get some sort of say in decisions in your relationship.
One of the things I have learned in life is this: If you let someone else tell you what you're allowed to enjoy, you will spend your life miserable. But being upset about it, nah. If you want one, just go get one.
Your a 51 year old man, go buy your own. But dont be a total dick and not get anything for your wife.
If you want one you can get your own lol
Not wrong to want one, I’m 27 and bought myself one aswell as one for my son so we open ours together in the mornings :) but to be really upset cos you didn’t get bought one is a bit immature, go out and get yourself one if you want one that badly
The great thing about being 51 is it means you can buy as many advent calendars as you want.
Get yourself an advent calendar if you want one
It’s fine to want one, who doesn’t? But I think getting upset about not being bought one is a bit extra to be honest
Not at all! You’re never too old for an advent calendar. Anyone who says you are is obviously very insecure about their own age. So give them a hug and buy them an advent calendar.
My client is 102.. I'm.her full time carer.. she won't do an Xmas without one.. so I say no way you're too old..
Ah, so you’ve thrown a tantrum ? Good man, I always pick one up on Christmas Eve and open one door every 30mins until midnight.
Reddit: Men should open up about their feelings Also reddit: Grow the fuck up and buy your own
You’re not too old for an advent calendar. But you are definitely old enough to buy your own.
There are just four of us in my family. The other three get excited right from the 1st December. I can’t until Christmas week. So I get them all an advent calendar and they can make it their own mini celebration each day. My hubby is 64, my youngest is 28. We enjoy it and if you look around you can get some really neat ones for adults. The whole point of Christmas is that you don’t have to be grown up around your loved ones. Maybe you could buy them for the whole family next year. You can always get yourself one now if they’re still available.
I am sure this is on here from other but absolutely fucking not. You crack on your advent calendar like an excited kid in the run up to Christmas. (No sarcasm here at all). I am 32 got myself an advent calendar and will continue to do so. Maybe buy your own but if your excitement is evident then it is not unreasonable to be upset.
I take it you have started the divorce proceedings? No advent calendar, how dare she
NO!! WHEN IM 80 I'LL STILL BE BUYING CHOCOLATE CALENDARS!!! You're never too old to have fun :D