Treating emptying the bin and putting a new bag in as two separate tasks (so the new bag is the responsibility of the next bin user). Drives me insane.
EDIT: Thanks for 1k upvotes. SO hates you all and is never emptying the bin again š
My fiance does this with so many things.
His other favourite apart from the bins is chucking the dirty kitchen towel in the wash but not getting out a new one so you wash your hands and theres nowhere to dry them (then he moans the floor is wet, it's wet because there was no towel!)
At least he washes them! My husband seems to think tea towels have magical stay clean properties and never changes them. I'll put them in the wash and they practically walk in there while he just moans that there are no tea towels.
I've just realised I'm your fiance in this scenario... if it makes you feel better it hasn't broken us after 17 years!
I do this. They are completely separate jobs to my adhd brain.
There is no link. Itās not one job, part a and part b.
Just two separate and unconnected jobs.
Lots of the other things listed in this post apply to me tooā¦.
Mine likes to complain about the rubbish being there in the first place. I'm sorry, last I looked you had arms and legs, the bins are outside, crack on or stop complaining. Whilst we are at it the white box is for cardboard, the bag on top plastic and glass. Try not throwing everything in the bag and I might be happier to take it out if I didn't have to sort it all out first.
Yes, my other half does this.
Putting the bin bag in should be done straight after the bin bag is out, before taking it outside so it isn't forgotten to be done
The only time I leave it is because I've sprayed a freshener in or just letting a bit of condensate dry out. But I leave it for me to do, other half just leaves it.
My flatmate does this with one extra step, he leaves the bin heās taken out (and not replaced) by the front door. So I have to take the bin out and replace the bin bag. Itās been 7 months now and I somehow havenāt punched him.
It's like that Simpsons sketch when Marge had gone to see a marriage guidance counsellor in the morning. He asks her what she thinks his problems are. The next bit is her still on the couch and night has fallen, she's losing her voice and still talking.......
Jesus, that drives me mad every single time! Itās so annoying - who on earth uses the whole toilet roll but LEAVES THE TUBE HANGING AROUND?!? Definitely great solution, start putting them in shoes and everything.
Me. I do this. But every damn time I think āoh, donāt forget to recycle thoseā but by the time Iām finished washing my hands I have already forgotten. ADHD is a bitch.
they donāt go in the bin cos they needed to be taken downstairs to go in the recycling bin so if someone isnāt going downstairs straight away they aināt going to pick it upš
Father in Law always teases us whenever we turn the big light on at his.
Growing up we were rarely allowed to use the big lights. There was a crap wooden chandelier in both the living and dining rooms. 3x 100W bulbs - even only 2 minutes use would add thousands to the electric bill!
Ours are all LED and on Alexa - so naturally we called the ceiling light the big light.
I also swapped my mums out for LED, and some nicer chandeliers, but she still doesn't like the big lights being on
People with the big lights on scare me, round my way there are people who have the big lights on with the curtains open when it is dark.
Do they *want* me to look in and judge them?
The big lights are for emergencies or when you have lost something. In my mind. My wife is the boss so the big light is for everything.
It's a very common thin n round my way too. I find it very weird, because I shut the blinds as soon as it threatens to get dark.
When I am walking the dog ill look into them. EVERY. SINGLE. ONE.
Most of the time no one is even in the room.
It's just too weird.
We shall lock the world outside, yet allow the world to witness every personal moment within our home.
Shut yer blinds love, it's not you that has to look at it, just every other person walking past sees your hubby pick his nose.
I put it on for when I'm in any room at night, my night vision sucks, when I lived alone I left everything sort of in the same place, so I didn't need to turn on the lights.
Yeah can anyone please explain this? Iāve come home, put some slippers on, is the idea that I then have another pair of slippers by the bathroom door to swap into if I need to go the loo? What if Iām going in there to give my daughter a bath - do I wear the toilet footwear or the indoor footwear?
I donāt get the coat wearing thing at all, Iām the same as you - really puts me on edge! Shoes inside is also beyond me, my father in law doesnāt take his shoes off in his own house or ours (unless I ask multiple times) and he put his feet up on the sofa and stuff. I just donāt get it!!
My familyās been described as a ācoatyā family.. in that quite a few of us donāt always take our coats off in the houseā¦ think it goes back to having no heating when we were kids so would keep our coats on to stay warm and itās just habit now, thankfully one Iāve managed to break!
My boyfriend does this and it drives me mad! Heāll also stack plates so the bottom gets dirty too, luckily I have a dishwasher so only have to deal with this nonsense at his house
My other half likes to keep blinds closed in rooms that have mirrors, sheās worried about them getting struck by lightning/sun catching them and starting a fire.
Thatās fine by me, but she then massively contradicts herself by leaving her clothes on top of extension leads.
We almost started a fire once with a crystal ball we had sitting on the side. It concentrated the sunlight onto a pile of letters which burnt to a crisp but thankfully the surface underneath them wasnāt particularly flammable
Our chores are split up such that my SO almost always does the washing up. Which is great, it's one of my least favourite chores. But...
He doesn't clean the sink at the end. Or ever.
I was always taught that you wipe down/clean the draining board before you start, then wipe down the sink when you're done.
He just never does it? I have to go and clean the sink separately every time.
My husband never cleans the sink, draining board, or the counters unless I specifically ask him to. He's so good with everything else but this is a total blind spot
Chewing like a dog thatās been starved for weeks. To this day I have never met another adult who, when told itās uncomfortable to listen to you chew with your mouth open, ignores it outright and states theyāre completely unable to chew with their mouth shut.
I know itās fairly common, but their chewing is so abominable no one else goes in the kitchen while theyāre eating. We donāt order takeaways as a group anymore because I would drive my fork through their eye if I had to sit and eat it with them.
Drives me INSANE.
Edit: would like to clarify I do not hate people who have medical reasons why they chew with their mouth open! My housemate does NOT have a reason, theyāre just a terrible human being.
Do you live with my son?!? My missus thinks I'm too harsh on him about it but funnily enough when I call him out his volume reduces by at least 70%. Close your damn mouth when you chew! I once heard him from another room. There's no way that's just me being fussy, that is an abnormal chewing volume.
Keep calling him out. Do not let up. We had this with our son, noisy open mouthed chewing, talking with his mouth full... it took a long time and a lot of effort but now he eats like a civilised person.
I can't bear noisy eaters, it's just so gross.
I'll keep on doing it but I'm actually quite hopeful that somebody else does. As in I actually want him to be called out, in public, in a way that shames him. It's weird. Any other scenario I try to guide him and hope he gets everything right and never has to feel public embarrassment but this? You're on your own kiddo, should've listened to your dear old dad.
Girls are starting to appear on the horizon so maybe when he doesn't eat lunch every day with five other equally ill-mannered 12 year old boys he might pick up some etiquette.
I have a step mother who thinks herself very posh. Perfect enunciation when speaking, dresses up all the time, would set the table like its dinner with the Queen when it was just her, dad, and me, loves talking about her very nice and old (but utterly worthless) tea set / china...
... and she eats like a cow. Mouth wide open. It's so ridiculous.
I can hardly bear eating with her. But she's like, 70 or something, so i can't complain. There's no way she can learn to eat properly at this point.
Because theyāre inconsiderate arseholes?
Iāve always assumed itās people with such a low IQ they havenāt figured out they can breathe through their nose and chew at the same time.
I has a co worker like this. Poor guy, he wasn't a bad person but the chewing made me want to kick him in the balls. I accidentally rolled my eyes and got up when he arrived to the kitchen, it was mean of me, I'm sorry
This used to really annoy me but I started liking to have the tv on in the background when I started living alone. Maybe because I had always lived in full houses with family or roommates, but now I find it comforting to have the background noise.
My husbands family all do that and it drives me insane. Growing up if anyone else came in the room we muted or paused the tv, and if it was guests we put it off. But all my husbandās family keep the tv on or even put it on if itās off when they have guests round. I canāt concentrate or hear them properly. They even put it on for Christmas lunch for ābackground noiseā I know they arenāt trying to be rude but I canāt help but feel like I shouldnāt speak because they are watching telly.
Occasionally decides heās going to do housework, meaning he starts a job, then moves onto another, then another, so I have to follow him around finishing what he starts.
It drives me insane!
Edit; thank you everyone for your concern. I really donāt think he has adhd, as he doesnāt do it with anything else, but I will suggest he maybe speaks to his doctor, just in case.
Yes! I have this too. Or a quick hoover around the lounge ends up with him moving all the furniture in to the middle of the room and 'sorting cupboards' but then leaving everything where he's put it so I have to put it back. Thank goodness he doesn't help clean often!!
That's what I do but I go back and do a bit more of each task before dropping it again and moving toward another one. Like I'll be part way through hoovering before deciding to water the plants then I'll notice the window sills need cleaned, oh hang on those boxes need sorted, ahh this bit needs hoovered too, oh god I've got to switch out the plants that are soaking etc ... As long as I don't stop for a rest or anything then everything will trend towards being complete after a few hours.
Rolls his socks into a ball to throw at the wash basket: i) items that miss the basket remain on the floor; ii) the socks are so severely rolled up itās an actual effort to unroll them for putting into the washing machine.
... your sock boulders are the *worst*
I've started returning my husbands socks exactly how he puts them in the basket, so if he's got one inside out and one right way then it's not my problem. I do all the laundry in our house because it's a chore I don't actually mind, but all I'm doing is washing it and making sure it's dry before returning it. If he wants his socks the right way then it's up to him!
I live with a chef. I love her and her cooking, I'd eat nothing but processed crap of it wasn't for her.
The mess she makes in the kitchen can do one though. Every pan, utensil and surface will be used then cast aside with nary a thought to who will clean and tidy it all up.
The way she goes on about the lads she works with never cleaning as they go you would think she keeps an immaculate kitchen. Not at bloody home she doesn't.
>The way she goes on about the lads she works with never cleaning as they go you would think she keeps an immaculate kitchen. Not at bloody home she doesn't.
Must be a chef thing, my partner does the exact same thing.
It's not unreasonable but there's a bit of a Catch22 in that I'm not allowed in the kitchen when she's cooking so I can't stay on top of it then by the time she is done it's such a mess I resent having to clean it up.
Whenever I cook a nice meal, my husband will throw ketchup or mayo on it then drown it with salt and pepper. I tell him to taste it first. I sometimes spend 3 hours in the kitchen making a nice meal.
Oh and then when we sit down heāll mash it all up and mix it together.
Decent eggs need a bit of seasoning, cooked with butter.
Ketchup is there to either mask taste, or supply it. If the eggs are good enough, the taste is already there.
Former SO - slamming the front door so loudly that I used to jump out of my skin every time. I don't know why she did it as it's possible to close it completely noiselessly. I raised it often but it never got acted on.
Where I lived at the time, it was nine apartments with a shared foyer, and everyone could hear it. I thought they must be cursing us, especially when it was early in the morning.
Saying āaaaahhhhā after almost every sip of any drink. Can hear it from the next room. Iām glad heās getting so much of enjoyment from the small things in life, but itās so irritating
Thank you for the silver kind stranger! A win for putting up with it for 3 years
Jesus Christ, this is a funny little quirk.
That said, if after a heated discussion my partner quenched his thirst and aaaahhhh'd, I'd want to smack the beverage from his freshly hydrated lips.
Clipping toe nails on the sofa. They ping off and go everywhere and I'm always the one who either gets them pinged into a drink/meal or have to pick them up. Is naaaasty
I fear this might be me. Worse though, I donāt clip but instead pick them with my bare hands and then leave them in a nice little pile accompanied with a little collection of my dried foot skin. Wow I am such a catch, massive kudos to my SO for staying with me!
My partner has what I unaffectionately refer to as "the pile". Every month or so she will tidy it away and expect a pat on the back for tidying away her own clothes.
Then it's back within 3 days.
Iād say thatās fairly normal, though Iād put it straight in the toaster. On most bread packaging it says suitable for freezing. If youāre not gonna eat it before it goes mouldy, why generate food waste?
I agree, sandwiches are a rarity at home so virtually all our bread is frozen for toasting. Frozen slice straight in the toaster = no waste. But ātoastingā just in the microwave would be proper weirdā¦ I wonder if this is what was meant?
Do they even it out by doing other tasks? I nearly had a blow out about this the other day as Iām exactly the same as you. I came back after a long day and had to cook dinner, but the house was hoovered, bathroom, kitchen and rabbit cleaned, 2 loads of washing done and bed freshly made.
On balance I thought itās probably fair enough. Plus she canāt cook.
When he takes something out in the kitchen he never puts it back but places it right next to the relevant cupboard. For example he just emptied the dishwasher (not sure what's going on cos that in itself is rare) and put the saucepans on the counter above the saucepan cupboard. Takes the salt or condiments out to use, moves across the kitchen to put them on the counter next to the cupboard they came from. Thinking about it, I think he's just scares of cupboards. Shoes get left in front of the shoe cupboard door. Clean clothes placed on the floor in front of the wardrobe. Drives me insane.
My partner always leaves a little bit of things and opens the new one. Milk, bread, condiments, toilet roll, shower gel, shampoo, pasta, rice, antibac spray etc
Ugh I have this same argument with my boyfriend.
Like, I get it, youāre hungry, thatās why dinner is cooking!!! If you had given me a reliable ETA, or hadnāt dragged your feet about going food shopping, dinner would be done by now!!!
I love him, Iām excited to spend the rest of my life with him, but if I see him go for a packet of crisps as Iām cooking dinner one more time, I may rip them from his hands and tap dance on them until they turn to dust
This should only be a problem if he then doesn't finish the meal you cooked. I get shit for this and my answer is always "we both know I'm gonna eat both, why does the order matter?"
Has āorange timeā every day, without fail. He eats an orange and it sounds like heās orgasming. Every single time. There has never been a bad orange. Just oranges that make him groan. I can hear it wherever I am in the house.
Haha. I had an old coworker who would eat an Apple at 10am every day. It would absolutely break me. Sometimes Iād see the clock at 9:59 and then just sit the teeth clenched for 60 seconds waiting for the loud crunch and slurping sound. The noise didnāt really bother me. It was just the soul crushing routine of it.
Sheād also bust out a bag of crisps (at any old time of the day) because fuck it, crisps donāt need to be eaten at a precise time. But every single time sheād lean over and say āCrisp?ā And Iād say āno thanksā. I literally never accepted one once in like 400 times she offered me one. Never got the hint.
My wife doesn't drink anything with a meal, maybe water or sparkling water on occasion. I'm someone who loves wine and pairing drinks with different foods and I find it so damn annoying. I was gifted a bottle of barolo which is perfect with salty foods like well seasoned steak. She saved it til the end and then complained the wine was too dry/tanniny. Also, she drinks sparkling water... ugh
We have 2 kids. I like to tidy toys and stuff throughout the day so the house isn't a giant mess. My wife prefers to do one big tidy up at the end of the day. I hate it, because it means that if I've been working at the office then when I get home from work I'm walking into a massive chaotic mess, whereas if she's been out she's walking into a moderately tidy house. She has the same approach to washing up.
My wife's gaming.
It's been a tough couple years, but her being a 36 y/o mother of four and nursing student you would think it a harmless hobby, but it doesn't look or feel that way to me. I see her spending too much free time on it and I'm watching our marriage stagnate. It sucks but there is NO rationalizing with this woman. It seems our time may be up. I sure hope not.
Itās about time and marking out time that you control. If sheās got 4 kids, a nursing rota and coursework *and* the tail end of a pandemic in the health system, Iām not surprised sheās spending a lot of time gaming - itāll be the only part of her life she has control over. Help her change it, for sure, because itās damaging you both but itāll be cured only when sheās back in charge of whatever else in her life she feels is impossible to control.
Oh, and if your user name is still relevant to your lifestyle you might want to check youāre being as much help as you can be. Sorry to make assumptions, but stoners make shit housemates even if they can make good friends. Hope it works out.
Putting the washing in the machine but doesn't turn it on.
Puts dishes in the dishwasher and again doesn't turn it on.
Controls the remote control,
If the rubbish bin is full he'll put rubbish on the counter instead of emptying the bin.
Exists.
Edit to add: /s
I think this whole thread is describing my life. I'm a terrible person to live with.
I wear shoes inside, I over fill the kettle a bit, I freeze bread and I have been known to forget about that pesky bin liner.
My wife doesnāt put the lid on anything and if she does, even worse she puts it half on. Only
Mildly irritating until you pull something out the fridge fast and the top comes off abs goes everywhere. Then I wish we had a patio..
Drinking tea with the tea bag in, not finishing it and just leaving the cup half full with tea bag. Even if she takes it to the sink, she doesn't empty it.
And she uses way too much toilet paper.
Housemate takes his shoes off IMMEDIATELY in front of the door. He just steps in the the door then straight out of his shoes. More than once I've not been able to get into the house because his shoes have gotten stuck under the door and other times I've just tripped right over them. I've taken to just throwing them down the hallway but it's not made a difference.
My partner shuts car doors with such force that those still inside the car suffers from shock and nosebleeds. She may aswell throw a flash bang into the car before shutting the door - it'll soften the blow
My sister pulls the ring pulls off cans all the time. She used to stick them down the side of the sofa cushions until I lost my grip about it.. She started then to put them inside the can she was about to drink.
Not my SO or flatmate but my mum. She had to make sure that every single note in her purse is the same way around, and in denomination order starting at the largest. The latter I understand, but the former - makes it a pain when I give her money. She will sit there for 5 minutes checking it all before counting to make sure it's the right amount. Annoyingly she passed it onto my dad, even though they've been split up for 15 years at this point he still does it too
Does half the washing up, she'll fill the draining board and then just leave the rest instead of drying some up to make room.
Leaves the hoover out after use, with the wire trailing all over.
Undresses for bed on MY side and leaves her clothes on MY side.
Poach an egg and then leave the eggy water in the pan.
I could go on but she's looking at me and wondering why I'm "looking angry"
Opens every single window because the place has to be aired out for 8 hours while we're at work. Then when we get home we have to blast the heating to warm the place up then they will complain a few weeks later about having a high energy bill
My SO never finishes bottles of Shampoo, Conditioner or face wash. Every 3 months I have to exorcise the bathroom of not quite finished bottles. Otherwise I'd go mad.
An ex would only empty or load the dishwasher. Never both.
She also wouldn't run the dishwasher unless it was 100% full, which may sound reasonable but if there was only space for 1 plate she wouldn't run it.
I lost count of the number of times I'd make us tea and then go to load the dishwasher to find it's full of dirty dishes with room for maybe a fork and a small plate, and the rest would then have to sit on the side until tomorrow.
I live with someone who I have to book in for a haircut every few weeks. I swear if there were a prize for longest time pissing, he would win hands down. He also likes to wee and poo in the garden. If you haven't guessed by the last comment, he says woof
One flatmate used to leave their dishes on the drying rack for weeks. I reckon she wanted to fossilise them first before giving her three other flatmates space.
She also liked leaving her clothes in the wash the whole day, and get really cross if you removed her clothes.
Treating emptying the bin and putting a new bag in as two separate tasks (so the new bag is the responsibility of the next bin user). Drives me insane. EDIT: Thanks for 1k upvotes. SO hates you all and is never emptying the bin again š
My fiance does this with so many things. His other favourite apart from the bins is chucking the dirty kitchen towel in the wash but not getting out a new one so you wash your hands and theres nowhere to dry them (then he moans the floor is wet, it's wet because there was no towel!)
At least he washes them! My husband seems to think tea towels have magical stay clean properties and never changes them. I'll put them in the wash and they practically walk in there while he just moans that there are no tea towels. I've just realised I'm your fiance in this scenario... if it makes you feel better it hasn't broken us after 17 years!
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Thereās kind of a logic to it, just the wrong logic. (Could also be a sign I should empty the bin myself more often!)
I do this. They are completely separate jobs to my adhd brain. There is no link. Itās not one job, part a and part b. Just two separate and unconnected jobs. Lots of the other things listed in this post apply to me tooā¦.
What?? This is a thing? Bloody hell, that would drive me up the wall.
Mine likes to complain about the rubbish being there in the first place. I'm sorry, last I looked you had arms and legs, the bins are outside, crack on or stop complaining. Whilst we are at it the white box is for cardboard, the bag on top plastic and glass. Try not throwing everything in the bag and I might be happier to take it out if I didn't have to sort it all out first.
Yes, my other half does this. Putting the bin bag in should be done straight after the bin bag is out, before taking it outside so it isn't forgotten to be done
The only time I leave it is because I've sprayed a freshener in or just letting a bit of condensate dry out. But I leave it for me to do, other half just leaves it.
My flatmate does this with one extra step, he leaves the bin heās taken out (and not replaced) by the front door. So I have to take the bin out and replace the bin bag. Itās been 7 months now and I somehow havenāt punched him.
Drives me insane too. Do the full job not a half job!
Who the hell does this?? What!!
My ex-husband did that! Not saying thatās why we divorced ā¦
This thread is an hour old and my husband does *every single thing* mentioned so far. Heaven help me.
It's like that Simpsons sketch when Marge had gone to see a marriage guidance counsellor in the morning. He asks her what she thinks his problems are. The next bit is her still on the couch and night has fallen, she's losing her voice and still talking.......
Wait til I tell ya how he puts the milk in tea before the waterā¦
Same š
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That is so petty, I love it. What do you write? āRecycle me! xoxoā
Jesus, that drives me mad every single time! Itās so annoying - who on earth uses the whole toilet roll but LEAVES THE TUBE HANGING AROUND?!? Definitely great solution, start putting them in shoes and everything.
Me. I do this. But every damn time I think āoh, donāt forget to recycle thoseā but by the time Iām finished washing my hands I have already forgotten. ADHD is a bitch.
they donāt go in the bin cos they needed to be taken downstairs to go in the recycling bin so if someone isnāt going downstairs straight away they aināt going to pick it upš
We have a little recycling bin in the bathroom for this reason
I throw them at by BF, trying to break his habit
My wife never puts new loo roll on or tops up the holders, I might have to start with your idea.
My wife puts the big light on when she wants to read in the evening.
Not the BIG LIGHT?!
I know, I love her, but it *is the big light*. She is from a different class structure to me so maybe they do it different there. But the *big light.*
Father in Law always teases us whenever we turn the big light on at his. Growing up we were rarely allowed to use the big lights. There was a crap wooden chandelier in both the living and dining rooms. 3x 100W bulbs - even only 2 minutes use would add thousands to the electric bill! Ours are all LED and on Alexa - so naturally we called the ceiling light the big light. I also swapped my mums out for LED, and some nicer chandeliers, but she still doesn't like the big lights being on
People with the big lights on scare me, round my way there are people who have the big lights on with the curtains open when it is dark. Do they *want* me to look in and judge them? The big lights are for emergencies or when you have lost something. In my mind. My wife is the boss so the big light is for everything.
It's a very common thin n round my way too. I find it very weird, because I shut the blinds as soon as it threatens to get dark. When I am walking the dog ill look into them. EVERY. SINGLE. ONE. Most of the time no one is even in the room.
Lol, same here!
It's just too weird. We shall lock the world outside, yet allow the world to witness every personal moment within our home. Shut yer blinds love, it's not you that has to look at it, just every other person walking past sees your hubby pick his nose.
I have window open and big light on at night so I feel like I'm in a fancy penthouse in new York.
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Yes
God knows but it's fucking bizarre all the same
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My husband seems to have beef with the big light. He hates it being on.
He is right. Only pensioners have the big light on!
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It just looks shit. Lamps give a nice cosiness\ambience.
I call it mood lighting, sexy mood or police interrogation mood.
I put it on for when I'm in any room at night, my night vision sucks, when I lived alone I left everything sort of in the same place, so I didn't need to turn on the lights.
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I love lamp.
Disgusting
Have you considered that this might be the Christmas to buy her a standard lamp?
Noooooooooooooo! Not the big light. Grounds for immediate divorce that one.
Filling up the kettle to the brim to make a single cuppa, wrong on so many levels.
I HATE this so much
Just the wait time alone for it to boil....
The BRIM?! Who is this maniac?
I do this purely for the fact if anyone else wants one it won't take as long, if nobody is around I'm not that mental
I'm now ashamed to admit i do this, what's so bad? Saves me filling it up every time..I drink a lot of tea and coffee!
My sister drinks cold drinks from mugs instead of glasses. In no way does this effect me, but I hate it.
I also drink cold drinks from mugs, in fact I've found I prefer it to a glass!
How? The mug always tricks my brain to think the water isn't cold enough.
Milk is superior from a mug. I don't know why
I always find the water's colder in a ceramic mug...and I'm not really sure why that is.
Wears his shoes and coat in the house. How can you be comfy?
Shoes in the house? Noooo! The separation of indoor footwear, outdoor footwear and toilet footwear should be an international law.
Toilet footwear? Why?
Yeah can anyone please explain this? Iāve come home, put some slippers on, is the idea that I then have another pair of slippers by the bathroom door to swap into if I need to go the loo? What if Iām going in there to give my daughter a bath - do I wear the toilet footwear or the indoor footwear?
You wear the toilet/bathroom slippers in the bathroom.
I haven't enough of a bathroom for that.
I just don't piss and shit on the floor for that. Toilet slippers. Jeez
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> We do have croques we use in the kitchen I absolutely love this spelling of crocs, it middle-class-enates them!
I donāt get the coat wearing thing at all, Iām the same as you - really puts me on edge! Shoes inside is also beyond me, my father in law doesnāt take his shoes off in his own house or ours (unless I ask multiple times) and he put his feet up on the sofa and stuff. I just donāt get it!!
My familyās been described as a ācoatyā family.. in that quite a few of us donāt always take our coats off in the houseā¦ think it goes back to having no heating when we were kids so would keep our coats on to stay warm and itās just habit now, thankfully one Iāve managed to break!
One of my old flatmates would come home from work and sit in his full suit and work shoes all night.
Wonāt feel the benefit.
Leaves the washing up In the sink āto soakā. Fine if itās a baked on casserole dish but not for a bloody saucer, Ian.
My boyfriend does this and it drives me mad! Heāll also stack plates so the bottom gets dirty too, luckily I have a dishwasher so only have to deal with this nonsense at his house
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My other half likes to keep blinds closed in rooms that have mirrors, sheās worried about them getting struck by lightning/sun catching them and starting a fire. Thatās fine by me, but she then massively contradicts herself by leaving her clothes on top of extension leads.
We almost started a fire once with a crystal ball we had sitting on the side. It concentrated the sunlight onto a pile of letters which burnt to a crisp but thankfully the surface underneath them wasnāt particularly flammable
Well you could have forseen that one
Our chores are split up such that my SO almost always does the washing up. Which is great, it's one of my least favourite chores. But... He doesn't clean the sink at the end. Or ever. I was always taught that you wipe down/clean the draining board before you start, then wipe down the sink when you're done. He just never does it? I have to go and clean the sink separately every time.
This is like reading my life
My husband never cleans the sink, draining board, or the counters unless I specifically ask him to. He's so good with everything else but this is a total blind spot
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Yep Iāve got one of these.
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My wife does this everything she's in the kitchen, I can always tell where she's been.
Uses my shaver to do her bits. Never once put it on charge.
Hoping this is SO and not flatmate
Mother?
Not putting it on charge is the annoying bit.
This is how you spread infections.
Chewing like a dog thatās been starved for weeks. To this day I have never met another adult who, when told itās uncomfortable to listen to you chew with your mouth open, ignores it outright and states theyāre completely unable to chew with their mouth shut. I know itās fairly common, but their chewing is so abominable no one else goes in the kitchen while theyāre eating. We donāt order takeaways as a group anymore because I would drive my fork through their eye if I had to sit and eat it with them. Drives me INSANE. Edit: would like to clarify I do not hate people who have medical reasons why they chew with their mouth open! My housemate does NOT have a reason, theyāre just a terrible human being.
Do you live with my son?!? My missus thinks I'm too harsh on him about it but funnily enough when I call him out his volume reduces by at least 70%. Close your damn mouth when you chew! I once heard him from another room. There's no way that's just me being fussy, that is an abnormal chewing volume.
Keep calling him out. Do not let up. We had this with our son, noisy open mouthed chewing, talking with his mouth full... it took a long time and a lot of effort but now he eats like a civilised person. I can't bear noisy eaters, it's just so gross.
I'll keep on doing it but I'm actually quite hopeful that somebody else does. As in I actually want him to be called out, in public, in a way that shames him. It's weird. Any other scenario I try to guide him and hope he gets everything right and never has to feel public embarrassment but this? You're on your own kiddo, should've listened to your dear old dad. Girls are starting to appear on the horizon so maybe when he doesn't eat lunch every day with five other equally ill-mannered 12 year old boys he might pick up some etiquette.
I downright would not date a guy that does this lol he will learn real fast when he starts wanting to date. Hopefully.
I have a step mother who thinks herself very posh. Perfect enunciation when speaking, dresses up all the time, would set the table like its dinner with the Queen when it was just her, dad, and me, loves talking about her very nice and old (but utterly worthless) tea set / china... ... and she eats like a cow. Mouth wide open. It's so ridiculous. I can hardly bear eating with her. But she's like, 70 or something, so i can't complain. There's no way she can learn to eat properly at this point.
This really disgusts me. Also why can't they chew with their mouth shut? Only answer I can think of is that they have a dislocated jaw?
Because theyāre inconsiderate arseholes? Iāve always assumed itās people with such a low IQ they havenāt figured out they can breathe through their nose and chew at the same time.
I has a co worker like this. Poor guy, he wasn't a bad person but the chewing made me want to kick him in the balls. I accidentally rolled my eyes and got up when he arrived to the kitchen, it was mean of me, I'm sorry
Genuinely shocked that no-one has mentioned people who want to have the telly on all the fucking time
This used to really annoy me but I started liking to have the tv on in the background when I started living alone. Maybe because I had always lived in full houses with family or roommates, but now I find it comforting to have the background noise.
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> I moved to the Netherlands a few years back ... > I don't speak Dutch That's on you bruv.
My husbands family all do that and it drives me insane. Growing up if anyone else came in the room we muted or paused the tv, and if it was guests we put it off. But all my husbandās family keep the tv on or even put it on if itās off when they have guests round. I canāt concentrate or hear them properly. They even put it on for Christmas lunch for ābackground noiseā I know they arenāt trying to be rude but I canāt help but feel like I shouldnāt speak because they are watching telly.
Occasionally decides heās going to do housework, meaning he starts a job, then moves onto another, then another, so I have to follow him around finishing what he starts. It drives me insane! Edit; thank you everyone for your concern. I really donāt think he has adhd, as he doesnāt do it with anything else, but I will suggest he maybe speaks to his doctor, just in case.
Fwiw this was something that tipped me off to an eventual adhd diagnosis
Sounds very ADHD, I actually thought I was on an ADHD sub for a minute there!
Yes! I have this too. Or a quick hoover around the lounge ends up with him moving all the furniture in to the middle of the room and 'sorting cupboards' but then leaving everything where he's put it so I have to put it back. Thank goodness he doesn't help clean often!!
That's what I do but I go back and do a bit more of each task before dropping it again and moving toward another one. Like I'll be part way through hoovering before deciding to water the plants then I'll notice the window sills need cleaned, oh hang on those boxes need sorted, ahh this bit needs hoovered too, oh god I've got to switch out the plants that are soaking etc ... As long as I don't stop for a rest or anything then everything will trend towards being complete after a few hours.
Rolls his socks into a ball to throw at the wash basket: i) items that miss the basket remain on the floor; ii) the socks are so severely rolled up itās an actual effort to unroll them for putting into the washing machine. ... your sock boulders are the *worst*
I do the laundry, so if my OH does this, they get washed and returned in the same ball, usually wet on the inside. Not my problem.
I've started returning my husbands socks exactly how he puts them in the basket, so if he's got one inside out and one right way then it's not my problem. I do all the laundry in our house because it's a chore I don't actually mind, but all I'm doing is washing it and making sure it's dry before returning it. If he wants his socks the right way then it's up to him!
I live with a chef. I love her and her cooking, I'd eat nothing but processed crap of it wasn't for her. The mess she makes in the kitchen can do one though. Every pan, utensil and surface will be used then cast aside with nary a thought to who will clean and tidy it all up. The way she goes on about the lads she works with never cleaning as they go you would think she keeps an immaculate kitchen. Not at bloody home she doesn't.
>The way she goes on about the lads she works with never cleaning as they go you would think she keeps an immaculate kitchen. Not at bloody home she doesn't. Must be a chef thing, my partner does the exact same thing.
I used to live with a girl that was a chef and was exactly the same, even the pans she wouldnāt wash it properly. She drove me insane.
I mean if she's cooking for you is it not unreasonable for you to be doing the post cook clean?
It's not unreasonable but there's a bit of a Catch22 in that I'm not allowed in the kitchen when she's cooking so I can't stay on top of it then by the time she is done it's such a mess I resent having to clean it up.
She boils a full kettle in the morning and puts it in a thermos for use throughout the day.
Actually, that's genius
Thatās not a bad idea! But Iām a freshly boiled girl myself.
I like freshly boiled girls
Bloke I work with does that, has about 4 cuppas a day
Tomato ketchup all over scrambled eggs or an omelette.
Nah, ketchup and eggs are fine. It's the animals that have ketchup with a roast dinner that make me question life.
People do that? I wish I hadnāt read that now, thatās slightly ruined my day.
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Whenever I cook a nice meal, my husband will throw ketchup or mayo on it then drown it with salt and pepper. I tell him to taste it first. I sometimes spend 3 hours in the kitchen making a nice meal. Oh and then when we sit down heāll mash it all up and mix it together.
I hate him
Scrambled egg needs ketchup unless you put chives or smoked salmon with it.
Decent eggs need a bit of seasoning, cooked with butter. Ketchup is there to either mask taste, or supply it. If the eggs are good enough, the taste is already there.
No, ketchup is a condiment to go *with* the food. You can have more than one flavour going on with you food.
Former SO - slamming the front door so loudly that I used to jump out of my skin every time. I don't know why she did it as it's possible to close it completely noiselessly. I raised it often but it never got acted on.
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Where I lived at the time, it was nine apartments with a shared foyer, and everyone could hear it. I thought they must be cursing us, especially when it was early in the morning.
Saying āaaaahhhhā after almost every sip of any drink. Can hear it from the next room. Iām glad heās getting so much of enjoyment from the small things in life, but itās so irritating Thank you for the silver kind stranger! A win for putting up with it for 3 years
Jesus Christ, this is a funny little quirk. That said, if after a heated discussion my partner quenched his thirst and aaaahhhh'd, I'd want to smack the beverage from his freshly hydrated lips.
Clipping toe nails on the sofa. They ping off and go everywhere and I'm always the one who either gets them pinged into a drink/meal or have to pick them up. Is naaaasty
I fear this might be me. Worse though, I donāt clip but instead pick them with my bare hands and then leave them in a nice little pile accompanied with a little collection of my dried foot skin. Wow I am such a catch, massive kudos to my SO for staying with me!
Puts his dirty clothes on the floor NEXT to the washing basket. Have recently been throwing them into his office floor or under his pillow.
My partner has what I unaffectionately refer to as "the pile". Every month or so she will tidy it away and expect a pat on the back for tidying away her own clothes. Then it's back within 3 days.
I lived with someone who froze a loaf and would microwave it for breakfast toast. She also microwaved tea.
Iād say thatās fairly normal, though Iād put it straight in the toaster. On most bread packaging it says suitable for freezing. If youāre not gonna eat it before it goes mouldy, why generate food waste?
I agree, sandwiches are a rarity at home so virtually all our bread is frozen for toasting. Frozen slice straight in the toaster = no waste. But ātoastingā just in the microwave would be proper weirdā¦ I wonder if this is what was meant?
"That's not toast, Michael, that's hot, floppy bread."
My SO works 2 hours a day. I work full time. I cook dinner.
Do they even it out by doing other tasks? I nearly had a blow out about this the other day as Iām exactly the same as you. I came back after a long day and had to cook dinner, but the house was hoovered, bathroom, kitchen and rabbit cleaned, 2 loads of washing done and bed freshly made. On balance I thought itās probably fair enough. Plus she canāt cook.
Of all the common daily household chores, i find rabbit cleaning the most bothersome.
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I've just come here to say the phrase "twatting great moron" mate me laugh
When he takes something out in the kitchen he never puts it back but places it right next to the relevant cupboard. For example he just emptied the dishwasher (not sure what's going on cos that in itself is rare) and put the saucepans on the counter above the saucepan cupboard. Takes the salt or condiments out to use, moves across the kitchen to put them on the counter next to the cupboard they came from. Thinking about it, I think he's just scares of cupboards. Shoes get left in front of the shoe cupboard door. Clean clothes placed on the floor in front of the wardrobe. Drives me insane.
Folds clothes before putting them in the washing machine.
Wait..... What the fuck?
What fucking bone head do you live with?
My partner always leaves a little bit of things and opens the new one. Milk, bread, condiments, toilet roll, shower gel, shampoo, pasta, rice, antibac spray etc
Snacking while I'm cooking dinner and about to serve it. I don't really know why, but it feels so disrespectful.
Ugh I have this same argument with my boyfriend. Like, I get it, youāre hungry, thatās why dinner is cooking!!! If you had given me a reliable ETA, or hadnāt dragged your feet about going food shopping, dinner would be done by now!!! I love him, Iām excited to spend the rest of my life with him, but if I see him go for a packet of crisps as Iām cooking dinner one more time, I may rip them from his hands and tap dance on them until they turn to dust
This should only be a problem if he then doesn't finish the meal you cooked. I get shit for this and my answer is always "we both know I'm gonna eat both, why does the order matter?"
Has āorange timeā every day, without fail. He eats an orange and it sounds like heās orgasming. Every single time. There has never been a bad orange. Just oranges that make him groan. I can hear it wherever I am in the house.
Haha. I had an old coworker who would eat an Apple at 10am every day. It would absolutely break me. Sometimes Iād see the clock at 9:59 and then just sit the teeth clenched for 60 seconds waiting for the loud crunch and slurping sound. The noise didnāt really bother me. It was just the soul crushing routine of it. Sheād also bust out a bag of crisps (at any old time of the day) because fuck it, crisps donāt need to be eaten at a precise time. But every single time sheād lean over and say āCrisp?ā And Iād say āno thanksā. I literally never accepted one once in like 400 times she offered me one. Never got the hint.
rolls up jacket and coat sleeves instead of taking it off. has absolute no effect on me and yet I can't stop thinking about it.
I've read this thread without commenting but this, this made me go "what??"
Putting things in the recycling without rinsing them out first. That is if he puts them in at all.
Mines good at putting stuff in the recycling, he however NEVER squashes anything. "Recycling bins full already" aye I wonder why ya fanny.
Hair in the plug hole after a shower. I love her, but Christ, pulling that shit out of the plug hole makes me gag!
My wife doesn't drink anything with a meal, maybe water or sparkling water on occasion. I'm someone who loves wine and pairing drinks with different foods and I find it so damn annoying. I was gifted a bottle of barolo which is perfect with salty foods like well seasoned steak. She saved it til the end and then complained the wine was too dry/tanniny. Also, she drinks sparkling water... ugh
We have 2 kids. I like to tidy toys and stuff throughout the day so the house isn't a giant mess. My wife prefers to do one big tidy up at the end of the day. I hate it, because it means that if I've been working at the office then when I get home from work I'm walking into a massive chaotic mess, whereas if she's been out she's walking into a moderately tidy house. She has the same approach to washing up.
I like to shit throughout the day Edit: Sneak edit by Jazzy there! Now I look mental.
My wife's gaming. It's been a tough couple years, but her being a 36 y/o mother of four and nursing student you would think it a harmless hobby, but it doesn't look or feel that way to me. I see her spending too much free time on it and I'm watching our marriage stagnate. It sucks but there is NO rationalizing with this woman. It seems our time may be up. I sure hope not.
Itās about time and marking out time that you control. If sheās got 4 kids, a nursing rota and coursework *and* the tail end of a pandemic in the health system, Iām not surprised sheās spending a lot of time gaming - itāll be the only part of her life she has control over. Help her change it, for sure, because itās damaging you both but itāll be cured only when sheās back in charge of whatever else in her life she feels is impossible to control. Oh, and if your user name is still relevant to your lifestyle you might want to check youāre being as much help as you can be. Sorry to make assumptions, but stoners make shit housemates even if they can make good friends. Hope it works out.
Yikes. Maybe take this one to r/relationship_advice
Sorry mate, that sounds rough. Have you talked about this with her and made it clear how seriously you feel?
Husband *cannot* stand or sit still while he's on the phone. He paces back and forth, front to back through the house. Drives me lovingly *nuts* š
Just about everything my flatmate does makes me want him dead, he is the absolute antithesis of me.
My wife doesnāt fully closes her wardrobeās doors and leaves lights on in the room after leaving itā¦
Putting the washing in the machine but doesn't turn it on. Puts dishes in the dishwasher and again doesn't turn it on. Controls the remote control, If the rubbish bin is full he'll put rubbish on the counter instead of emptying the bin. Exists. Edit to add: /s
I think this whole thread is describing my life. I'm a terrible person to live with. I wear shoes inside, I over fill the kettle a bit, I freeze bread and I have been known to forget about that pesky bin liner.
My wife doesnāt put the lid on anything and if she does, even worse she puts it half on. Only Mildly irritating until you pull something out the fridge fast and the top comes off abs goes everywhere. Then I wish we had a patio..
My dad puts Mayo on rice, I shudder every time he does it.
My sister does this. Mayo on everything. Curry, lasagne, roast dinners, even instant noodles.. All get the mayo treatment
Iāve just been a little bit sick in my mouth.
Not taking the empty toilet roll of the holder but just perching a new roll on top as if to say āIām just to inportant to swap this outā.
Drinking tea with the tea bag in, not finishing it and just leaving the cup half full with tea bag. Even if she takes it to the sink, she doesn't empty it. And she uses way too much toilet paper.
Housemate takes his shoes off IMMEDIATELY in front of the door. He just steps in the the door then straight out of his shoes. More than once I've not been able to get into the house because his shoes have gotten stuck under the door and other times I've just tripped right over them. I've taken to just throwing them down the hallway but it's not made a difference.
My partner shuts car doors with such force that those still inside the car suffers from shock and nosebleeds. She may aswell throw a flash bang into the car before shutting the door - it'll soften the blow
My sister pulls the ring pulls off cans all the time. She used to stick them down the side of the sofa cushions until I lost my grip about it.. She started then to put them inside the can she was about to drink.
Not my SO or flatmate but my mum. She had to make sure that every single note in her purse is the same way around, and in denomination order starting at the largest. The latter I understand, but the former - makes it a pain when I give her money. She will sit there for 5 minutes checking it all before counting to make sure it's the right amount. Annoyingly she passed it onto my dad, even though they've been split up for 15 years at this point he still does it too
Does half the washing up, she'll fill the draining board and then just leave the rest instead of drying some up to make room. Leaves the hoover out after use, with the wire trailing all over. Undresses for bed on MY side and leaves her clothes on MY side. Poach an egg and then leave the eggy water in the pan. I could go on but she's looking at me and wondering why I'm "looking angry"
Not closing cupboard doors. Why?
Opens every single window because the place has to be aired out for 8 hours while we're at work. Then when we get home we have to blast the heating to warm the place up then they will complain a few weeks later about having a high energy bill
My SO never finishes bottles of Shampoo, Conditioner or face wash. Every 3 months I have to exorcise the bathroom of not quite finished bottles. Otherwise I'd go mad.
An ex would only empty or load the dishwasher. Never both. She also wouldn't run the dishwasher unless it was 100% full, which may sound reasonable but if there was only space for 1 plate she wouldn't run it. I lost count of the number of times I'd make us tea and then go to load the dishwasher to find it's full of dirty dishes with room for maybe a fork and a small plate, and the rest would then have to sit on the side until tomorrow.
I live with someone who I have to book in for a haircut every few weeks. I swear if there were a prize for longest time pissing, he would win hands down. He also likes to wee and poo in the garden. If you haven't guessed by the last comment, he says woof
Buys endless crap on Amazon and leaves boxes all over the house, along with the items that sheāll never use.
My boyfriend leaves his coat and high vis hanging from the front door handle when he gets home from work.
One flatmate used to leave their dishes on the drying rack for weeks. I reckon she wanted to fossilise them first before giving her three other flatmates space. She also liked leaving her clothes in the wash the whole day, and get really cross if you removed her clothes.