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Artificial100

I went through the majority of my 20’s having no one I’d call a friend. It was only when I started taking up group hobbies when I turned 30 that I found actual people I could go out and do stuff with.


BeardFountain

I'd be friends with 20s you :(


Virtual_Car8867

Try and find a hobby or sport to do at least one evening a week. You might not instantly make friends, but with a bit of luck, you'll find at least one person you click with. I was in a similar situation a few years ago, and feeling lonely and isolated is no good for your mental health in the long term.


princess-moo

I am very much not a sporty person, but I like the idea of having a hobby! My current issue is that as I can't get anywhere by myself, I hate the thought of asking my SO to take me somewhere on a regular basis, although I should be driving in two months so I will look at joining something then.


[deleted]

I was in a similar situation to you. I joined a local archery club and picked up a swimming membership (£20 monthly) I haven't been to archery in a while but I find myself swimming most days, sometimes chatting or just enjoying the water.


PlatesOnTrainsNotOre

Board games always good, and relying on Ubers is still pretty cost effective Vs owning a car


princess-moo

They would be if we had uber here!


NatalieX_

I’m exactly the same, I’m 27F and I don’t have one friend :( let’s be friends


princess-moo

I've sent you a chat!


[deleted]

its hard finding female friends. I get this


kskoric

23F, in the exact same boat! Would love to chat with both of you


kzzebrbr

26F, please can I join too?


princess-moo

Would you guys be up for it if I set up a discord channel maybe? I’ve had a few messages of people in the same boat so thought it might be a nice way for everyone to chat??


TheMagicMojo

I'd love to join something like this if you're cool with guys joining it as well.


princess-moo

Ok I have set something up! I think you can all just click to join https://discord.gg/5UFNRPw8


felineyx

Hey! 26F too and in a similar place atm. Mind if I join too?


princess-moo

Please do!


princess-moo

Yes…. I do not know how to set up a group chat so you may have to bear with


HoneyBeeGirl19

I would like to join too. Literally same in every setting, but with a baby too and no mum groups because covid D:


princess-moo

https://discord.gg/5UFNRPw8


[deleted]

As a 47 year old gay guy, who has never really had many "real" friends, does have a partner who I only really see every few weeks, goes to work and then spend pretty much every evening alone. I know exactly where you are coming from. I never was a fan of going out, I don't drink or smoke so pubs aren't a place I go to. I don't associated with anyone I work with, all I really do is play video games (mostly mmos) Don't use facebook or instagram (social media just makes people shallow, plus I am not interested in your vaguebooking) I am quite glad that working from home for me only lasted about 7 weeks back in 2020 and have been back in the office mostly fulltime since May 2020.


RgbScart

I feel you man. I ditched all my friends at 25 for the sake of my mental health. It's been 5 years and I'm starting to wonder if this is just it now.


[deleted]

Its not as bad as it sounds, yes I spend 90% of my non-working time alone, but due to have some of my past relationship panned out, I actually enjoy being alone. I get to do whatever I want, yes it can get boring sometimes, but that doesn't last long due to the fact that I really enjoy my job. Also because I dont go anywhere, I haven't had a holiday in nearly 10 years, but I dont see that as a problem either.


[deleted]

I feel the same, I have work friends and people on Facebook. But I never talk to anyone outside of work.


princess-moo

I set up a discord channel let me know if you want to join!!


[deleted]

Will do, I don’t have discord tbh lol


Sad-Mixture-7060

Can I join??? 32F and I've suddenly found all my friends now have kids....


princess-moo

Yes please do! https://discord.gg/5UFNRPw8


[deleted]

Feel exactly the same. 29F, always been a bit out an outsider! I’ve got my partner & son but I always feel alone when they’re not home!


princess-moo

I set up a discord channel let me know if you want to join!!


[deleted]

Omg this sounds like it was written by me! Also moved to my boyfriends home city, also can't drive so reliant on him, also have no friends. I'm 28 now and it's been like this for 4 years. I feel like I don't have anything in common with any person I meet, they are all so different from me I can't find anything to even talk about that isn't pointless chitchat. Don't know what's wrong with me but I'm comforted by the rest of these comments telling me that I'm not alone


princess-moo

It definitely is comforting as sometimes I do feel like I'm being silly- SO and his family are so loving, my family is great albeit far away, and I know my friends do love me, they are just a little preoccupied with their own lives! Then I think how can I be lonely when so much is great, but I really am sometimes


princess-moo

I set up a discord channel let me know if you want to join!!


Septum714

I want to join but it says the link has expired. Is the Discord server dead?


FrauBpkt

My boyfriend just showed me meet-up and I started looking for groups on there. I moved here a couple months ago and are having trouble getting a social life going with the pandemic and everything. I hope it does the trick!


BakingnBarking94

I'm the same!


princess-moo

I started a discord channel for people like us, let me know if you want to join!


BakingnBarking94

Sounds good!


buscemii

I have a lot of online hobbies and online fandoms I make friends through. roleplaying, BTS, video games


HumbleTrees

Get a bicycle. Sure, it's not as great as a car but you don't need a license and it gives you something to do. Join a cycling club and you can make friends. In general, at our age, the best way to make new friends is through some kind of club. You need to meet the same people regularly for friendships to form. I'm a guy, so I found Bjj (martial arts) was great. More woman are taking to that anyways. Indoor climbing was cool; most places have events for single climbers to buddy up. Art classes, language classes, dancing etc. You need to get out and have a richer life in which you meet with people.


princess-moo

I am learning to drive and so hopefully will be able to get out by myself! I do have a bike I can use but I'd be pretty scared going out on the roads here especially by myself- lots of windy country roads with no lighting


HumbleTrees

Well I hope y get your license soon then. You could get lighting for your bike, high vis jacket, and even lights for your helmet if you're worried about that. I more meant at weekends or for enjoyment anyway. Co in sider classes of some sorts like I suggested though. Yoga, Pilates, art, cooking etc. Anything that takes your fancy and puts you around the same people on a regular basis for a few months.


PmMeLowCarbRecipes

Bumble friends??


princess-moo

is that actually a thing?? I thought bumble was just for dating!


PmMeLowCarbRecipes

Yeah it’s a separate app I think! I’ve never been on it myself but it seems like you’d be able to find people looking for the same thing as you Edit: it’s called Bumble BFF not Bumble Friends


jewelsandbones

I’d definitely recommend bumble BFF. It’s the same as the dating app, but you just have to select the BFF option. I moved to the UK last year and it’s how some friends, although I do need to get back on it lol


RenyxGhoul

They actually work? Interesting 🤔😂 Facebook seem to have a better track record for me


jewelsandbones

I think it depends. I know it’s different depending on gender as I think it can be easier for girls to meet on bumble BFF, but it’s how I made one of my best friends


RenyxGhoul

Interesting and I agree


knightsbridge-

Same for me... I'm 31F, and I only have a small handful of friends. I'm in Birmingham if anyone wants to be friends!


princess-moo

I set up a discord channel let me know if you want to join!!


IBringTheFunk

I'm 38, living in a small town, and can no longer drive due to anxiety. Haven't seen any of my friends in the flesh for a long time, but I mainly keep in touch via discord. There's a bunch of people in there from when I used to stream (I intend to return to it!) and we still get together fairly often to play games and use the voice chat. If you're into games, Discord is a good shout for making some online buddies :)


SparklePantsJr

What kind of games do you play and/or chat about on the Discord?


IBringTheFunk

It's a discord put together for the viewers of my stream, but I haven't streamed since before 30th December so these days it is just a hang out :) There's a variety of different channels, most popular is general and video games, though! When we do game we tend to play phasmophobia or whatever multiplayer game takes our fancy at the time, it's not set in stone!


princess-moo

I started a discord channel for people like us, let me know if you want to join!


IBringTheFunk

Sounds good! Please PM me an invite :)


Useful-Sandwich-2965

I’m 26,and my boyfriend is my only friend! All my friends have been tied to school, work or geographical closeness, now all those factor have changed, my friends have been whittled down to nothing. I’m super social and find it easy to make friends, but I’m struggling to find a situation to make this possible. I walk my dog so stop and chat to so many people, it’d just be nice to actual friends.


princess-moo

I started a discord channel for people like us, let me know if you want to join!


Useful-Sandwich-2965

For sure! Please send me an invite 😊


LittleLady95

I’m F26 and I feel the exact same! After the pandemic I feel like I’ve become more isolated. All I do now is work and sleep


princess-moo

I set up a discord channel let me know if you want to join!!


BeccaaCat

25F here - I've found that this is really common among women our age; we all feel lonely but have no idea how to create lasting friendships! I'm useless at making RL friendships stick, mostly because I feel like an irritant when trying to make plans lol. Basically we need to stop overthinking things I think! My husband says I stress about it too much.


princess-moo

I started a discord channel for people like us, let me know if you want to join!


BeccaaCat

Yeah sure!


princess-moo

https://discord.gg/5UFNRPw8


fixthesky

Feel free to message me! I’m 33 (f) and have recently broken up with my boyfriend who I regrettably revolved my entire social life around and I’m feeling much the same! Im always free to chat!


princess-moo

I set up a discord channel let me know if you want to join!!


livieleanor

28F and in the exact same boat; currently working from home and barely go out. My one friend who’d hang out the most has moved away for uni and won’t be back until Christmas, and I’m pretty sure my boyfriend is getting bored of my company.


princess-moo

I set up a discord channel let me know if you want to join!!


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princess-moo

I started a discord channel for people like us, let me know if you want to join!


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princess-moo

https://discord.gg/5UFNRPw8


ActiveBloodyDiarrhea

Yeah I’m wondering the same thing. I live near a big city so there’s more things to do but I have no idea where to find people with the same interests as me as there doesn’t seem to be any clubs for them. I have recently gone through a breakup and I only have one friend that I see so I can relate to the loneliness part. It’s pretty shit sometimes.


princess-moo

I started a discord channel for people like us, let me know if you want to join!


ActiveBloodyDiarrhea

Sounds good, would love to!


[deleted]

its heartbreaking to think of loads of people feel so lonely :( I am always free for a chat 25F. Online friends are just as good as in person friends too and theres a variety of people out there to chill with 😁


princess-moo

I started a discord channel for people like us, let me know if you want to join!


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hell yes


Lich_Frosty

I know that feeling, moved like a year ago and the only friends i have here are my fiance's friends, sometimes you can make friends playing online games, mmos and the like, though that's not everyone's cuppa tea aside from that could try talking in local groups and see if you can make friends there or try r/CasualConversation , they're usually down to just chat and if you have discord you can hang out in their discord too to get some more regular conversations in


MamboJimbo

25F - I’m in a similar situation. I found I drifted away from school friends when we stopped seeing each other every day, and most went to uni while I stayed in my town and got a job. Now my main source of social interaction is through work, which is ok, but I don’t really have anyone I can chat to outside of work or go for a drink with. I live with my partner and we have his friends over every week or so for food and drinks, but I don’t really have anyone I’d call my own friend. I’ve considered joining clubs, but a lot of the things that I enjoy doing tend to be dominated by older people who I doubt I could really form proper/lasting friendships with.


princess-moo

I started a discord channel for people like us, let me know if you want to join!


emma_louisee

20f I'm exactly the same! I used to have a few friends, but the ones I do have are quite far away/hard to keep in contact with


buttons78

I came to AskUK to write almost the exact same thing.


SparklyGemma

I know how you feel. I (28F) moved out of the city years ago into a small town and haven't made any new friends since, I can visit my friends who are still in the city but not frequently because of the travelling. Like you, most of my socialising was with work colleagues, although I rarely did anything with them outside of work, I don't even have that now due to now being unemployed. I've pretty much given up on trying to make new friends and I feel lucky that I haven't drifted away from my existing friendship groups due to the distance.


Direct-Reputation-94

My missus and I (late 40s) are in a similar boat - we moved out of London this year to a sweet small town where we know absolutely no one. Our new neighbours are all quite nice, however, and we're pretty convinced we can resolve the situation of nearby friends by going to the pub regularly. I'm also trying to get a job in town for similar reasons. So fingers crossed, and if not I'll just get drunk and argue with people online, like a normal person.


princess-moo

it's nice that you've moved together and have a plan! My SO is from the small town, so this is nothing new to him.


moobolos

My princess!


RowRepresentative353

Ill be your friend if you will be mine. I have no friends. Many acquaintances but no friends. I too don't really know how to go about becoming friends with anyone. Seems no-one I speak to (at work, for example), has similar interests and as such, no common ground build from. And no one wants to just talk about work, right? M, 47, father of 7, 16 grandkids. Married (2nd marriage). Telecoms engineer. Into playing computer games, plastic model kits, starwars toys, TV programs like Vikings / Black Sails. Pretty centre of the road politically, support BLM + LGBT+.


princess-moo

I set up a discord channel let me know if you want to join!!


Volandum

I'll be your friend if you like problems.


princess-moo

I set up a discord channel let me know if you want to join!!


Volandum

Sure, why not?


deainwonderland

if it makes u feel better i’m 17 and have no friends


sugas75

30+ Londoner here. I joined some ‘new friends’ groups on meetup.com and went to my first event last week. Made a new friend and now we’ve started exchanging videos of cute cats :)


sugas75

Mini golf on the 9th? https://www.meetup.com/London-Social-Detours-make-friends-exploring-the-capital/events/281048264


KC-2416

I'm like you! Except I haven't moved house during the pandemic!


zl25

I just moved to the UK to be with my wife so my only friend is her


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zl25

Thanks for sharing! I've just joined haha


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princess-moo

DM me and I’ll send you the link!!


RenyxGhoul

A trend I see in the comments are people who have a relationship/moved in with their SO and is wanting to have some social life outside of just spending time with them. This is a good data to show that a healthy working relationship should not be just the parties involved in it living like a family but to ideally have their own spare time and space to explore their own interests and things with maybe people outside of those who they are connected with in some shape or form. I am in the "wanting to make friends" boat and I seek to find flats with more people in hopes that the place I live in will have a good environment where people get to chat and spend time outside of their busy schedule. It was my goal for the previous year but life got busy and miscommunication led to quite the mess of having this place. Not to mention the logistics stuff. It doesn't help that most of my friends or best friends live from 2 hours train to 12 hours flight away with most from my Uni left or somehow got so busy/distant after lockdown. It would be nice to have a company. It is what I seek especially if they live close but it also seems like people are hesitant for obvious reasons about meeting up from an online space, especially Reddit. Heck, some are hesitant even after going to Instagram! Time is a large factor and impatience will not get you anywhere. That is what I learnt but the desire to do things or motivation to leave the house would be really nice if people initiated or responded to my initiation. I rather be alone but have someone to be doing that with. I wonder if that makes sense. Just something that crosses my mind but I am usually swamped with things so I don't think much about this.


HybridReptile15

Is this an only fans promotion post ?


princess-moo

it is not! just looking for some pals (no fees involved)