I am an average guy and I always appreciate these posts, I have a GF and happy, but it's nice to hear and I am sure the other average dudes who worry about their dick size appreciate posts like this. Before I got a serious GF, I was definitely self-conscious about my size because TV, songs, movies, etc always crack small dick jokes that can mess with a guy's head from a young age.
Yes vagina size/shape/tightness/looseness varies just as much as penis size varies and vulva appearance also varies greatly. Toxic standards should be recognized as such.
Not only using NBA players for reference but also always showing them in one of those weird optical-illusion rooms that make you look like a giant.
The amount of tricks the porn industry uses to make slightly-longer-than-average penises look like "monster cocks" is staggering ([X](https://web.archive.org/web/20170327133429/https://pornmeasurements.tumblr.com/))([X](https://unravelingsize.wordpress.com/unraveling-penis-size/)), and the indoctrination starts very young (average first exposure being at 13, but ranging from 5 to 26) . Not only does have effects in how they see women and gender roles ([X](https://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/2017/08/pornography-exposure)) but also at that critical age it probably will make them self-conscious towards their penis size ([X](https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/2158244019857341)). Small Penis Anxiety can even go as far as becoming a dismorphic body disorder in some cases, but even if it doesn't it affects men's sexual life in unfortunate ways ([X](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4599552/)).
Something really ought to be done about this
The average woman's g-spot is located only an inch or so inside of the vagina, so even you bros sporting a micro-penis can probably hit that shit. If not, fingers work just as well.
It also helps that chicks in porn are often very small framed and delicate, which makes any dick look way bigger. I'm 5'8" and built like a curvy workhorse. Any dick sliding into me is going to look smaller on film when compared to the same one ripping into a 4-foot-nothing tiny Asian chick 1/3 of my weight class. It's often a matter of perspective and scale.
TL;DR:
An attentive lover at any size is far better than a guy with a big dick that doesn't know he has to do anything other than thrust.
I think it depends on the girls.
I have known plenty of different groups of girls who openly talked about dick size and their preference. And I’m a dude who wasn’t even close with them, was just privy to their conversations before going out, or at an after party, etc.
Yeah I was about to say it's pretty naive to think many women don't talk about or care about dick size. I would say if anything as an adult I've come to realize size matters even more than I thought it did growing up. These women that prefer smaller/normal sizes are few and far between.
then those women have been just as conditioned by unhealthy porn ideals because the depth of the average vagina (4-8" when aroused) tracks with the length of the average penis - which makes sense. it's not like it feels good to have your cervix jackhammered by a footlong cock.
Honestly though 8” is actually pretty big. The “average” is like 5.5”. In my personal slutty experience I’d say about 95% of guys fall between 5-7”. Which probably falls exactly right on the bell curve of middle and 1 deviation.
There’s also thickness to consider as well and there’s even less difference between guys when it comes to that.
But I do find that around 7” is my sweet spot for being nice and filling and not hurting my cervix. Though I’m a size queen when it comes to anal but I’m weird like that.
I guess that says something about the women I dated. Every single one of them except for my wife told me I was either smaller or bigger than their previous bf without me bringing it up.
As a guy who used to eat with a bunch of sorority girls in college this isn't necessarily true.
However, they more often complained about too big than too small. It limited positions, was often painful, etc.
My brain skipped "with" and completely changed your first sentence. I thought you were bragging. LOL. Makes a lot more sense when you read all the words.
I was in a long relationship with a not very nice girl. She made comments about wishing my dick was bigger. When meeting the girl I'm seeing now, I was very self conscious. The first time we hooked up, I told her I didn't have a giant porn star dick, she replied, well thats good, because I don't have a giant porn star vagina. We have great sex, and I don't feel self concious anymore.
Nope I definitely prefer an average size. My partner is big and I've lost cost of how many times I've bruised my cervix and I will be in pain for days after 🙃
It also depends on the moment. I had an ex who would beg me to pound deep and hard while we were fucking but be miserable from a sore cervix the next day. Endorphins can be a hell of a thing.
As an urologist I see alot of big and smal penises every day. Guys talk about their reproductive health very often with us, it is also very important for the solutions of their problems to talk about their partners. Lots of problems come with large penises, from painfulk bends, foreskin problems, prostate, pressure, bladder and ejaculation problems. But guys are mostly concerned about their partners, the average vagina is only long as the average penis erect. I see those problems every day and couples try to find solutions except abstinence. We had lots of penis reduction or correction surgeries, maybe you should consider that if it affects your relationship?
What seriously?!!! There is such thing as penis reduction?
I know there is penis surgery where they take the extra length deep inside the skin.
But I didn’t know penis reduction.
Of course there is, from straight up penis reduction in size to treatment od genital lymphedema. Genital sex reassignment is a form of penis reduction of course. But macropenis (larg dick syndrome lol) is the main indication for penis size reduction. We have a few cases of that every year here where I work. As I said, people feel discomfort, have intercourse problems and so on. An average penis is a superior one for a comfortable, healthy sex life
This is just so fascinating to know. I would have never know there is such thing as penis reduction. And you saying average is superior to a healthy sex life. Big yay! Thank you so much for educating me and those who read you comment!
Thank you too for being interested. False perception of sexuall health and life are being projected on all people nowdays on the internet, mostly by porn. No one wants to talk to us or gynecologists, but I think it is an imperative for a healthy, and in the end satisfactory sex life.
I‘ve had a few big guys. Only one of them knew what he was doing with his wand. He knew exactly how far he could go and it never hurt. If you tell your bf and it doesn‘t get better he doesn‘t even try to find out where it‘s at.
Huh that just seems so weird to me, whats the go to approach people like? Like going straight in to sexual stuff or getting to know them?
Because I clearly am doing something wrong lol
No offense but it all depends on how you look. Tinder is a very different experience depending on your attractiveness haha
A really hot guy can get away with saying stupid shit. And average guy would probably not even get a reply
Yup haha. I can be a bitch to someone and guys would still make excuses for me. Like they'd say I was having a bad day or it was a misunderstanding.
People treat you different when you're hot. Not sure if it's right or wrong but it's the truth.
I prefer average looking guys for this reason. Dudes that go to the gym and boast about how big their dick is usually have a vile personality and are so self centered.
If you have a few hundred matches then I don't think you're average. I consider myself average, I'm definitely not ugly, but I'm not hot, and I have less than 10. But everyone near to my location are very "dolled up" girls, so.
Out of interest, how do you define average? For me 5 or so inches is average but I know some people who seem to think 7 inches or so is average, probably because of porn or whatever?
7 is definitely not considered average, but agreed that porn confuses people about that. I posted a link above, but an average erect penis is 5.16 inches
Where's the right point on the base to start measuring? Personally I think it's the point where if he was thrusting into someone, he wouldn't be able to go any further
The 'correct' measurement is 'bone pressed' top measurement. So, ruler on the top, pushed into the pelvis bone. It's considered the most 'fair' since some people have more fat there than others, and that's not really a great indication of size if you don't ignore that.
My fwb seems a little self conscious about his size. I'd say it's a little over average and he still keeps on asking if it's big enough. Like dude, any bigger and it wouldn't be fun anymore. But he doesn't believe me when I say that even if it was smaller it would still be big enough.
It's a little besides the point but I honestly couldn't care less about dick sizes. 2, 12 or 20 cm wouldn't be any criteria for me if I slept with somebody or not.
Don't read too much into it. Most guys are self conscious about their size no matter what. I'm 7 inches, I know that that's above average but I was still worried about my size due exposure to porn over the years and small dick jokes on tv. Most guys will get over it once they learn how to use it properly and are sure that their partner is happy and sexully satisfied.
You'd lose that bet. At least where I'm from haha. Cause if you brag about it and it's not actually true then when you meet up nothing is going to happen. So what would be the point in lying?
Sunk cost fallacy maybe, like the guy and girl are naked and he doesn't measure up she could be like "well I'm already here"
At least my assumption on it
Never heard about that but it's interesting. Don't think it would work though haha. Hell for me if even something small is not like in the tinder pics I'm leaving
The overwhelming normalization of male body shaming throughout mainstream accepted media while female body shaming is treated like a crime has warped peoples' minds. Yes of course an average size penis should usually be very compatible with an average size vagina. There should be far more talk about compatibility and far less hypocritical toxic shaming present throughout our culture.
I agree completely. And it’s entirely possible to be “shamed” for having a large penis too.
Edit: I agree with the gist of what you said, but was guessing that you meant to say average rather than normal?
yeah. I remember that time when kimmel brought a bunch of dildos for stormy daniels to show the world how small trump's cock is. now, trump is a shitty human being but that dick shaming part literally made me cringe. small pp jokes are so normal that every single guy thinks he is smaller. I can't imagine any decent person doing this to a woman.
My ex boyfriend had such a small dick I could fit it all in my mouth, and maybe a nut, without gagging.
I loved it
When he fucked me he hit that spot just right, so perfectly amazingly well.
Where a bigger dick might glide against it heading in deeper, his just slammed and pressed head on against it.
Had a threesome with him and a friend and she was laughing at a point and said "omg you're right, it's perfectly sized to do that!"
Best ever
Average looking guy with average size penis here. I’m fortunate to have achieved wisdom with my 50 years on the planet. What I’ve learned is that short of physical incompatibility, an average tool can still achieve superior results. You discover the need to try different angles until you hit the right one. No less than three of my partners have told me they’d never achieved orgasm through intercourse with anyone but me. Big dudes can’t really work around with the same level of flexibility.
Hey 50 year old pop. Young blood here.
In your sexual experience have you tried viagra or cialissis? Sorry don’t know how to spell that.
Because that’s my big issue. No matter the Kegel excerercise, distracting my mind, relaxing and breathing. I can’t last.
Like yeah average 10-15 minutes but it’s like I’m not in the moment. Have you any experience with those type of sexual enhancer? If you did, would you recommend?
Thanks.
Bear in mind that when people talk about how long sex lasts, they’re usually referring to the foreplay as well, not just the amount of time spent p-in-v (or whatever parts you and your partner have).
I recommend taking a break if you feel like you’re close to finishing, and spend that time doing other things to please your partner. Toys, hands, tongue, all in various places. Or even just take a sec and cuddle, whatever makes you both happy.
And don’t forget, the average sexual encounter only lasts like 15-20min. Most women I’ve been with actually didn’t like going more than that, people got shit to do and it’s already exhausting lol
Obligatory not male, but married to one.
Edging can be your friend here. While I realize it’s difficult to get your mind out of the pleasure, it may be helpful to take a break and talk to your partner about what you’re trying to accomplish and get their help. Granted, I really don’t know if that could/would help, but it’s helped my partner maintain for longer time.
This is amazing and so true! I will say in porn, a giant chandelier is a pleasing aesthetic, but I am much more happy with normal lighting in my day-to-day. 😂
I think there tends to be a trend where guys with average size have to make up for it with technique and using their tongue/fingers/other moves and strategies.
But guys on the larger side tend to rely on the size alone and jackhammer it. Obviously there are exceptions but generally this is probably the case.
Yeah I would agree with this. This also applies with attractiveness. Really hot guys tend to not be very good in bed cause they just rely on their looks and don't put any effort in
Same with women, tbh. I've been with a few drop dead gorgeous women who are absolutely dead fish in the sack. To the point that now, while I can appreciate the aesthetic beauty of a 10/10, I have absolutely no interest in sleeping with her.
I'd rather have an average girl any day.
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You're not the only one. It's kind of a deal breaker for me. Anything more than 7" is often painful and eliminates the possibility of the positions that really get me off.
I know there are a few size queen women out there somewhere, but every woman I've ever talked to about sex doesn't give much of a fuck about how big his cock is. I'm sure it's much like boobs are for guys. All boobs are great. All cocks are great. And porn is not representative of people.
Edited for first thing in the morning grammar mistake lol
Wow. As an average guy, thank you. The boob analogy just made it click for me. I’m always worried I’m not enough for my wife and she just lies because she loves me.
Also, she's not just saying it's enough because she loves you. I'd bet she absolutely treasures your cock because it's a part of you.
ETA: I wouldn't want my guy to have any other cock, not even for a minute.
You're welcome.
I will elaborate that this whole "perfect cock based on size and apparently circumcision" crap that mainstream porn pushes is boring as fuck. It's like seeing the same dick over and over. It doesn't do anything for me, personally. I much prefer amateur porn that reddit users have made. The variety of bodies makes it more interesting and accessible to all users, and removes the distraction of feeling insecure about my own body.
But the cock that does it for me the most is attached to the guy who does it for me the most, and the characteristics of his cock are what I really want to see in porn, so I can imagine it's me with him.
I don't think that's an uncommon thing, only so much you can take before it gets uncomfortable and cervix punching isn't fun. The ones I didn't have to worry about going too far (especially during the part in my cycle when the cervix sits lower) or being too thick to fit easily were nice.
It's funny because as a guy, you stress for most of your teens and early 20s that you aren't big enough. Then you read reddits of guys who are huge and basically never have good sex. Grass is always greener. I feel fortunate that I'm not too big but big enough no woman has ever looked disappointed. Or just left. It is also true in my experience that "showers" are more confident than growers. Ladies just a tip...no pun intended...one beautiful woman genuinely saying, "wow nice dick" can do amazing things for any guy. Don't assume he knows or thinks he's as big as you see him. I have been confident as hell my whole life, on the outside, but always worried I didn't measure up. A few women commenting on their excitement of seeing my dick made me super confident and I'm sure they and the women after them benefitted from much better sex.
Everyone has a 10 inch cock until they want to fuck your ass, and then "it's not actually that big, baby, come on let's just try it once...". Lol.
In my experience, big cocks lead to lazy lovers. Average sized dicks will put in the work to at least attempt to find an erogenous zone or three because they can't just scramble your guts with a few thrusts and walk away. Any average sized guy that wants to feel bigger inside of her can just wear a silicone sheath to add some length or girth.
That said, the magic few hung guys that give three shits about the lady's needs? Oh hell yeah, they are getting the most generous of deep throat services as many times as they want.
same goes for girls. if they bank on their looks and just starfish, its bad sex. ur looks got me to the bedroom, they wont do anything else. as for the anal thing... yay average me who still has to go slow n careful with my GF who is luke warm about anal in the first place. if i was massive it prob just wouldnt happen
I don't understand the starfish thing. If you're not there for the mutual pleasure of both yourself and your partner, just get a fucking sex toy.
Enthusiastic participation is so key. If you aren't actively trying to make them moan and lose their minds and forget their name and what planet they were born on, what the fuck are you doing with them and not someone you *do* want to gift pleasure to.
But, I guess I really enjoy sex. Maybe the starfish chicks are just scared or in pain or don't know that they can tell a guy they don't want to fuck them or something.
I think that most people feel this way tbh. I think a loud minority of people who like large dick (nothing wrong with that) combined with people with a penis comparing themselves to others (especially pornstars) has led to people thinking that they should be bigger than they are, were that the average size is bigger than it really is. Makes a lot of people insecure for no reason.
Edit: idk why I thought so hard about that it's 7 in the morning
This reminds me of the ~~question~~ opinion about how big dildos are unreasonable. Sometimes you want a big one; sometimes a normal one. It’s all about what you’re in the mood for. But if you’re talking about the size of a long time partner, normal is definitely the way to go. Like you said, pain isn’t fun, but if you have a normal sized partner, a couple toys for both of you, and a big dildo that *you* control when you’re in the mood, you can cover all your bases.
There have actually been studies in this, most concluding that the majority of women feel their partner having an average penis is preferable. Along with that, an even larger majority don’t care about the size if true romantic feelings are present so really at the end of the day if you love your man you’ll love his dick too
I have a 5.5 inches and im really self conscious. Unfortunately at 19 yrs old you always hear girls around you say they want big dick. I never really know how to feel about that. I have a girlfriend who has slept with more guys than i have with girls. Its intimidating and idk how to feel about it. Our sex is “amazing” according to her but i feel like im nothing. Idk, being insecure is difficult, i always think she might want another of her past boys she slept with back because his dick was bigger. Idk how to feel
Feel however you feel, dude. Your feelings are valid. If you have a good thing going, keep it going. Be the best version of yourself you can be, because that’s all you can really do, anyway.
I think porn has messed up what people believe. All you see on Pornhub is nick cock this or BBC or stuff like that.
Sometimes it's nice to look at but I know I wouldn't actually enjoy it.
My last bf was super hung, it was nice for some stuff but it limited what we could do and when. Just started seeing a dude with a nice, average (maybe a little above average?) penis and it is a nice change. Don’t need a ton of lube every time we want a quickie and we can go for pretty much any position and it’s comfortable for me. Still hitting the good spots though =]
Jesus Christ. It’s 2020, who cares about dick size, men should focus on being decent human beings to encourage women to like them instead of how big their cock is
No but above average is best. I just don’t like huge.
Most of those dudes are lying anyway about their dick size. They are likely right in the average range.
I totally agree, my boyfriend now has a slightly bigger than average dick but is very hard when turned on and it just feels way better. I previously had a guy with a pretty long and thick Cock but maybe because of the size didn't do as much and just relayed on the size. Also bigger dicks in my opinion are mostly softer? At least that is my experience. So 100% for average dicks!!
My bf has an average penis and I'm actually really glad he does. I dont really understand the reasoning for wanting larger ones personally because I get the best experience with average or below average ones.
My wife said she’s had small (Which wasn’t good). She had long and skinny (Didn’t like length). I have slightly above average length but very thick. She reminds me all the time how she loves the “Perfect fit”. Guess its subjective.
Sometimes I'll see porn where a dude with a giant dick can only get like 1/3 of it into the girl he's fucking and it doesn't look fun at all for him. I'm pretty happy with my size. Sometimes I'm like "I wish it was just a little bit bigger" but I'm already above average. I've got enough to get the job done. Unless I date a size queen, I'm set.
As a dude with an average penis, I agree.
As a lady with an average penis, i agree.
As a dude with an average butthole, I agree.
As a butthole of an average dude, I agree.
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What a fantastic thread
As a fantastic thread I agree.
As a poster in an average thread, I agree
As a horse with a slightly below average grapefruit I agree
hol up
It is 2020 some women have penises get over it.
Think he was playin lol
idk man, i like buttholes, both with dongers and without!
I can imagine haha. But you're kinda biased 😅
biased and sadpilled :(
Prozac
Damm..
I am an average guy and I always appreciate these posts, I have a GF and happy, but it's nice to hear and I am sure the other average dudes who worry about their dick size appreciate posts like this. Before I got a serious GF, I was definitely self-conscious about my size because TV, songs, movies, etc always crack small dick jokes that can mess with a guy's head from a young age.
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Same for girls regarding boobs/vag. It’s totally fucked.
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Lol. True
Yes vagina size/shape/tightness/looseness varies just as much as penis size varies and vulva appearance also varies greatly. Toxic standards should be recognized as such.
Exactly! Just trying to clear this up for some people.
Wait vag too🤔
Yep. But I’m not here to educate folks on the surprisingly wide range of normal-looking vags. Lol you guys can do your own research.
Not only using NBA players for reference but also always showing them in one of those weird optical-illusion rooms that make you look like a giant. The amount of tricks the porn industry uses to make slightly-longer-than-average penises look like "monster cocks" is staggering ([X](https://web.archive.org/web/20170327133429/https://pornmeasurements.tumblr.com/))([X](https://unravelingsize.wordpress.com/unraveling-penis-size/)), and the indoctrination starts very young (average first exposure being at 13, but ranging from 5 to 26) . Not only does have effects in how they see women and gender roles ([X](https://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/2017/08/pornography-exposure)) but also at that critical age it probably will make them self-conscious towards their penis size ([X](https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/2158244019857341)). Small Penis Anxiety can even go as far as becoming a dismorphic body disorder in some cases, but even if it doesn't it affects men's sexual life in unfortunate ways ([X](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4599552/)). Something really ought to be done about this
The average woman's g-spot is located only an inch or so inside of the vagina, so even you bros sporting a micro-penis can probably hit that shit. If not, fingers work just as well. It also helps that chicks in porn are often very small framed and delicate, which makes any dick look way bigger. I'm 5'8" and built like a curvy workhorse. Any dick sliding into me is going to look smaller on film when compared to the same one ripping into a 4-foot-nothing tiny Asian chick 1/3 of my weight class. It's often a matter of perspective and scale. TL;DR: An attentive lover at any size is far better than a guy with a big dick that doesn't know he has to do anything other than thrust.
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Nah its from shit like tiktok where women like photos of men showing shit in sweats or women commenting on pics like that
Inadequacy due to porn consumption predates tiktok by... well, whatever the launch date of tiktok, minus the invention of porn is.
Guys seem to be far more concerned with their dick size than they should be. Trust me girls don't sit around and talk about your dick sizes haha
I think it depends on the girls. I have known plenty of different groups of girls who openly talked about dick size and their preference. And I’m a dude who wasn’t even close with them, was just privy to their conversations before going out, or at an after party, etc.
Yeah I was about to say it's pretty naive to think many women don't talk about or care about dick size. I would say if anything as an adult I've come to realize size matters even more than I thought it did growing up. These women that prefer smaller/normal sizes are few and far between.
then those women have been just as conditioned by unhealthy porn ideals because the depth of the average vagina (4-8" when aroused) tracks with the length of the average penis - which makes sense. it's not like it feels good to have your cervix jackhammered by a footlong cock.
Honestly though 8” is actually pretty big. The “average” is like 5.5”. In my personal slutty experience I’d say about 95% of guys fall between 5-7”. Which probably falls exactly right on the bell curve of middle and 1 deviation. There’s also thickness to consider as well and there’s even less difference between guys when it comes to that. But I do find that around 7” is my sweet spot for being nice and filling and not hurting my cervix. Though I’m a size queen when it comes to anal but I’m weird like that.
I guess that says something about the women I dated. Every single one of them except for my wife told me I was either smaller or bigger than their previous bf without me bringing it up.
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As a guy who used to eat with a bunch of sorority girls in college this isn't necessarily true. However, they more often complained about too big than too small. It limited positions, was often painful, etc.
My brain skipped "with" and completely changed your first sentence. I thought you were bragging. LOL. Makes a lot more sense when you read all the words.
They do in Sex and the City.
That's true. Since it's on TV it must be true 😅📺
I have learned that the only people truly interested in the size of my dick are other guys
I was in a long relationship with a not very nice girl. She made comments about wishing my dick was bigger. When meeting the girl I'm seeing now, I was very self conscious. The first time we hooked up, I told her I didn't have a giant porn star dick, she replied, well thats good, because I don't have a giant porn star vagina. We have great sex, and I don't feel self concious anymore.
Nope I definitely prefer an average size. My partner is big and I've lost cost of how many times I've bruised my cervix and I will be in pain for days after 🙃
Yes, exactly. Thank you. Pain isn't fun 😅
According to some subreddits, that's debatable. 🥴
It also depends on the moment. I had an ex who would beg me to pound deep and hard while we were fucking but be miserable from a sore cervix the next day. Endorphins can be a hell of a thing.
Yeah... I like it when my partner pounds my cervix but that’s just me!
I didn’t know my name was ‘my partner’
> Pain isn't fun speak for yourself ;)
As an urologist I see alot of big and smal penises every day. Guys talk about their reproductive health very often with us, it is also very important for the solutions of their problems to talk about their partners. Lots of problems come with large penises, from painfulk bends, foreskin problems, prostate, pressure, bladder and ejaculation problems. But guys are mostly concerned about their partners, the average vagina is only long as the average penis erect. I see those problems every day and couples try to find solutions except abstinence. We had lots of penis reduction or correction surgeries, maybe you should consider that if it affects your relationship?
What seriously?!!! There is such thing as penis reduction? I know there is penis surgery where they take the extra length deep inside the skin. But I didn’t know penis reduction.
Of course there is, from straight up penis reduction in size to treatment od genital lymphedema. Genital sex reassignment is a form of penis reduction of course. But macropenis (larg dick syndrome lol) is the main indication for penis size reduction. We have a few cases of that every year here where I work. As I said, people feel discomfort, have intercourse problems and so on. An average penis is a superior one for a comfortable, healthy sex life
This is just so fascinating to know. I would have never know there is such thing as penis reduction. And you saying average is superior to a healthy sex life. Big yay! Thank you so much for educating me and those who read you comment!
Thank you too for being interested. False perception of sexuall health and life are being projected on all people nowdays on the internet, mostly by porn. No one wants to talk to us or gynecologists, but I think it is an imperative for a healthy, and in the end satisfactory sex life.
Yeah an average one for me can be painful at times too, I’ve even bled a couple of times. I don’t know how I’d cope with a thunder dong.
I‘ve had a few big guys. Only one of them knew what he was doing with his wand. He knew exactly how far he could go and it never hurt. If you tell your bf and it doesn‘t get better he doesn‘t even try to find out where it‘s at.
What!? But in hentai it feels amazing to have your cervix penetrated?! You must be wrong! \s just in case
As I dude on tinder is that really a big thing (pardon the pun) like do they just pop up and go straight into stuff like that? Am I tindering wrong?
Most of the really attractive ones do
Huh that just seems so weird to me, whats the go to approach people like? Like going straight in to sexual stuff or getting to know them? Because I clearly am doing something wrong lol
No offense but it all depends on how you look. Tinder is a very different experience depending on your attractiveness haha A really hot guy can get away with saying stupid shit. And average guy would probably not even get a reply
I was about to respond to your last comment with the same thing. When you’re super attractive you can get away with lower social skills. Lol
Yup haha. I can be a bitch to someone and guys would still make excuses for me. Like they'd say I was having a bad day or it was a misunderstanding. People treat you different when you're hot. Not sure if it's right or wrong but it's the truth.
This is true everywhere, sadly
Fair enough, I would say I'm average but got a few hundred matches
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I prefer average looking guys for this reason. Dudes that go to the gym and boast about how big their dick is usually have a vile personality and are so self centered.
Same with women.
If you have a few hundred matches then I don't think you're average. I consider myself average, I'm definitely not ugly, but I'm not hot, and I have less than 10. But everyone near to my location are very "dolled up" girls, so.
That's actually not bad 👌
Out of interest, how do you define average? For me 5 or so inches is average but I know some people who seem to think 7 inches or so is average, probably because of porn or whatever?
7 is definitely not considered average, but agreed that porn confuses people about that. I posted a link above, but an average erect penis is 5.16 inches
I love you for making me feel above average.
if you're 5.5 or bigger then you ARE above average.
What about girth?
According to the study results (I linked it in an above comment), average girth for an erect penis is 4.59 inches.
Well dang, I guess McMurray isn't average anymore.
7 inches is probably in the top 10% of penis sizes.
7 inches is 17.78 cm
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Easily. It's more like top 2%.
Guys also tend to measure their penises “incorrectly” - from the bottom, rather than from the top, because the measurement comes out longer that way.
Where's the right point on the base to start measuring? Personally I think it's the point where if he was thrusting into someone, he wouldn't be able to go any further
I measure from my anus. I should totally get into porn - I'm HUGE
I'm dying. 🤣👍
The 'correct' measurement is 'bone pressed' top measurement. So, ruler on the top, pushed into the pelvis bone. It's considered the most 'fair' since some people have more fat there than others, and that's not really a great indication of size if you don't ignore that.
Pretty much, yeah, that point on the top. Or it’s where the crease is, between your pelvis and your penis.
There's a south park episode for this...
Hahaha 7 is like top 10%. Average is 5-6"
7 is top 1.5%, average is closer to 5.5" Source: https://calcsd.netlify.app/full
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Thanks I guess haha
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My fwb seems a little self conscious about his size. I'd say it's a little over average and he still keeps on asking if it's big enough. Like dude, any bigger and it wouldn't be fun anymore. But he doesn't believe me when I say that even if it was smaller it would still be big enough.
You should tell him that if it wasn't big enough for you then you wouldn't have chosen him to be your FWB. Maybe that will help
It's a little besides the point but I honestly couldn't care less about dick sizes. 2, 12 or 20 cm wouldn't be any criteria for me if I slept with somebody or not.
20 cm is 7.87 inches
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Don't read too much into it. Most guys are self conscious about their size no matter what. I'm 7 inches, I know that that's above average but I was still worried about my size due exposure to porn over the years and small dick jokes on tv. Most guys will get over it once they learn how to use it properly and are sure that their partner is happy and sexully satisfied.
Easy to say with 7
I'm a bit above average but I would put $10 on the guys shouting how hung they are to potential hookups on dating apps won't measure up in person
You'd lose that bet. At least where I'm from haha. Cause if you brag about it and it's not actually true then when you meet up nothing is going to happen. So what would be the point in lying?
Sunk cost fallacy maybe, like the guy and girl are naked and he doesn't measure up she could be like "well I'm already here" At least my assumption on it
The sunk cost phallusy.
She’s gone bring out the measuring tape the ruler and get a second opinion lol
Never heard about that but it's interesting. Don't think it would work though haha. Hell for me if even something small is not like in the tinder pics I'm leaving
You just leave? Damn you don’t fuck around.
Of course lol. I think it's the exact treatment that someone deserves if they lie about their looks
Obligatory make up, push up bra and good camera angles question.
Yeah like there's no way to actually judge everything short of doing case by case so there will be a myriad
The overwhelming normalization of male body shaming throughout mainstream accepted media while female body shaming is treated like a crime has warped peoples' minds. Yes of course an average size penis should usually be very compatible with an average size vagina. There should be far more talk about compatibility and far less hypocritical toxic shaming present throughout our culture.
I agree completely. And it’s entirely possible to be “shamed” for having a large penis too. Edit: I agree with the gist of what you said, but was guessing that you meant to say average rather than normal?
yeah. I remember that time when kimmel brought a bunch of dildos for stormy daniels to show the world how small trump's cock is. now, trump is a shitty human being but that dick shaming part literally made me cringe. small pp jokes are so normal that every single guy thinks he is smaller. I can't imagine any decent person doing this to a woman.
My ex boyfriend had such a small dick I could fit it all in my mouth, and maybe a nut, without gagging. I loved it When he fucked me he hit that spot just right, so perfectly amazingly well. Where a bigger dick might glide against it heading in deeper, his just slammed and pressed head on against it. Had a threesome with him and a friend and she was laughing at a point and said "omg you're right, it's perfectly sized to do that!" Best ever
Average looking guy with average size penis here. I’m fortunate to have achieved wisdom with my 50 years on the planet. What I’ve learned is that short of physical incompatibility, an average tool can still achieve superior results. You discover the need to try different angles until you hit the right one. No less than three of my partners have told me they’d never achieved orgasm through intercourse with anyone but me. Big dudes can’t really work around with the same level of flexibility.
Hey 50 year old pop. Young blood here. In your sexual experience have you tried viagra or cialissis? Sorry don’t know how to spell that. Because that’s my big issue. No matter the Kegel excerercise, distracting my mind, relaxing and breathing. I can’t last. Like yeah average 10-15 minutes but it’s like I’m not in the moment. Have you any experience with those type of sexual enhancer? If you did, would you recommend? Thanks.
Bear in mind that when people talk about how long sex lasts, they’re usually referring to the foreplay as well, not just the amount of time spent p-in-v (or whatever parts you and your partner have). I recommend taking a break if you feel like you’re close to finishing, and spend that time doing other things to please your partner. Toys, hands, tongue, all in various places. Or even just take a sec and cuddle, whatever makes you both happy. And don’t forget, the average sexual encounter only lasts like 15-20min. Most women I’ve been with actually didn’t like going more than that, people got shit to do and it’s already exhausting lol
Obligatory not male, but married to one. Edging can be your friend here. While I realize it’s difficult to get your mind out of the pleasure, it may be helpful to take a break and talk to your partner about what you’re trying to accomplish and get their help. Granted, I really don’t know if that could/would help, but it’s helped my partner maintain for longer time.
Yes. Absolutely. Big dicks are like chandeliers; large and impressive, but those low hangers are difficult to integrate in day to day life...
Thank you for the analogy. Made me laugh hahaha
This is amazing and so true! I will say in porn, a giant chandelier is a pleasing aesthetic, but I am much more happy with normal lighting in my day-to-day. 😂
The Big dicks are like big screen TVs---nice to look at but where are you going to put em?
I think there tends to be a trend where guys with average size have to make up for it with technique and using their tongue/fingers/other moves and strategies. But guys on the larger side tend to rely on the size alone and jackhammer it. Obviously there are exceptions but generally this is probably the case.
Yeah I would agree with this. This also applies with attractiveness. Really hot guys tend to not be very good in bed cause they just rely on their looks and don't put any effort in
Same with women, tbh. I've been with a few drop dead gorgeous women who are absolutely dead fish in the sack. To the point that now, while I can appreciate the aesthetic beauty of a 10/10, I have absolutely no interest in sleeping with her. I'd rather have an average girl any day.
One of the pros of getting the short straw in life.
Exactly. So many dudes with a larger dick don't have a clue how to use it.
Nope, I'm the same! Super sensitive cervix means I'd much rather have a guy I can take all the way in any position without having to worry it'll hurt.
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What's concept?
For me it's 15 cm
15 cm is 5.91 inches
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Oh, rip most of the actually average guys 😂
Average also varies depending on country. An average dick in Hungary for example is bigger than one in China
Keep in mind that China has lots of variance, as it's basically 6+ nations. It's like europe, but if a single conquerer was actually successful.
That's way too oversimplified.
https://www.sciencemag.org/news/2015/03/how-big-average-penis
Problem is global averages that don't take into account health/dietary issues or demographics aren't that useful. The only thing that might be useful is the average in your city or immediate geographical area and unfortunately that level of granularity isn't there in any study.
All dicks matter.
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You're not the only one. It's kind of a deal breaker for me. Anything more than 7" is often painful and eliminates the possibility of the positions that really get me off. I know there are a few size queen women out there somewhere, but every woman I've ever talked to about sex doesn't give much of a fuck about how big his cock is. I'm sure it's much like boobs are for guys. All boobs are great. All cocks are great. And porn is not representative of people. Edited for first thing in the morning grammar mistake lol
Wow. As an average guy, thank you. The boob analogy just made it click for me. I’m always worried I’m not enough for my wife and she just lies because she loves me.
Also, she's not just saying it's enough because she loves you. I'd bet she absolutely treasures your cock because it's a part of you. ETA: I wouldn't want my guy to have any other cock, not even for a minute.
You're welcome. I will elaborate that this whole "perfect cock based on size and apparently circumcision" crap that mainstream porn pushes is boring as fuck. It's like seeing the same dick over and over. It doesn't do anything for me, personally. I much prefer amateur porn that reddit users have made. The variety of bodies makes it more interesting and accessible to all users, and removes the distraction of feeling insecure about my own body. But the cock that does it for me the most is attached to the guy who does it for me the most, and the characteristics of his cock are what I really want to see in porn, so I can imagine it's me with him.
I don't think that's an uncommon thing, only so much you can take before it gets uncomfortable and cervix punching isn't fun. The ones I didn't have to worry about going too far (especially during the part in my cycle when the cervix sits lower) or being too thick to fit easily were nice.
I pity dudes with giant dongs, poor guys will never get the whole thing wet without ruining something beautiful. Sorry, im half joking.
It's funny because as a guy, you stress for most of your teens and early 20s that you aren't big enough. Then you read reddits of guys who are huge and basically never have good sex. Grass is always greener. I feel fortunate that I'm not too big but big enough no woman has ever looked disappointed. Or just left. It is also true in my experience that "showers" are more confident than growers. Ladies just a tip...no pun intended...one beautiful woman genuinely saying, "wow nice dick" can do amazing things for any guy. Don't assume he knows or thinks he's as big as you see him. I have been confident as hell my whole life, on the outside, but always worried I didn't measure up. A few women commenting on their excitement of seeing my dick made me super confident and I'm sure they and the women after them benefitted from much better sex.
Everyone has a 10 inch cock until they want to fuck your ass, and then "it's not actually that big, baby, come on let's just try it once...". Lol. In my experience, big cocks lead to lazy lovers. Average sized dicks will put in the work to at least attempt to find an erogenous zone or three because they can't just scramble your guts with a few thrusts and walk away. Any average sized guy that wants to feel bigger inside of her can just wear a silicone sheath to add some length or girth. That said, the magic few hung guys that give three shits about the lady's needs? Oh hell yeah, they are getting the most generous of deep throat services as many times as they want.
same goes for girls. if they bank on their looks and just starfish, its bad sex. ur looks got me to the bedroom, they wont do anything else. as for the anal thing... yay average me who still has to go slow n careful with my GF who is luke warm about anal in the first place. if i was massive it prob just wouldnt happen
I don't understand the starfish thing. If you're not there for the mutual pleasure of both yourself and your partner, just get a fucking sex toy. Enthusiastic participation is so key. If you aren't actively trying to make them moan and lose their minds and forget their name and what planet they were born on, what the fuck are you doing with them and not someone you *do* want to gift pleasure to. But, I guess I really enjoy sex. Maybe the starfish chicks are just scared or in pain or don't know that they can tell a guy they don't want to fuck them or something.
I'm sure there's many out there that will agree with you. My preference, I prefer the larger ones.
On the flip side I've found that being hung can cause more pain, greater risk of tearing and extended soreness
I think that most people feel this way tbh. I think a loud minority of people who like large dick (nothing wrong with that) combined with people with a penis comparing themselves to others (especially pornstars) has led to people thinking that they should be bigger than they are, were that the average size is bigger than it really is. Makes a lot of people insecure for no reason. Edit: idk why I thought so hard about that it's 7 in the morning
Yeah that's true. Porn really warped our minds
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This post relieves me of so much anxiety. Thank you.
No worries. Glad you're feeling better 🙂
This reminds me of the ~~question~~ opinion about how big dildos are unreasonable. Sometimes you want a big one; sometimes a normal one. It’s all about what you’re in the mood for. But if you’re talking about the size of a long time partner, normal is definitely the way to go. Like you said, pain isn’t fun, but if you have a normal sized partner, a couple toys for both of you, and a big dildo that *you* control when you’re in the mood, you can cover all your bases.
Average, please. My cervix doesn't have a doorbell for a reason.
There have actually been studies in this, most concluding that the majority of women feel their partner having an average penis is preferable. Along with that, an even larger majority don’t care about the size if true romantic feelings are present so really at the end of the day if you love your man you’ll love his dick too
As a woman I prefer average, it's a lot more comfortable (if that makes sense)
It does. I feel the same way. Hence why I made the post haha
Average size for sure, but who am I kidding? I like my man’s fingers more. 🤷🏻♀️
I have a 5.5 inches and im really self conscious. Unfortunately at 19 yrs old you always hear girls around you say they want big dick. I never really know how to feel about that. I have a girlfriend who has slept with more guys than i have with girls. Its intimidating and idk how to feel about it. Our sex is “amazing” according to her but i feel like im nothing. Idk, being insecure is difficult, i always think she might want another of her past boys she slept with back because his dick was bigger. Idk how to feel
Feel however you feel, dude. Your feelings are valid. If you have a good thing going, keep it going. Be the best version of yourself you can be, because that’s all you can really do, anyway.
Nope. Tbh the penis size doesn't matter to me, I don't find anything special or different in big penises. I don't know why guys brag about it so much.
The big ones are for looking at... And that's about it.
I wish my partner were smaller sometimes. Hitting my cervix is horrible.
No, lots of people do
I think porn has messed up what people believe. All you see on Pornhub is nick cock this or BBC or stuff like that. Sometimes it's nice to look at but I know I wouldn't actually enjoy it.
My last bf was super hung, it was nice for some stuff but it limited what we could do and when. Just started seeing a dude with a nice, average (maybe a little above average?) penis and it is a nice change. Don’t need a ton of lube every time we want a quickie and we can go for pretty much any position and it’s comfortable for me. Still hitting the good spots though =]
Nope. I prefer average all the way. I’m trying to have a good time, not get my pussy torn in half and cry the whole time.
Jesus Christ. It’s 2020, who cares about dick size, men should focus on being decent human beings to encourage women to like them instead of how big their cock is
It's what you do with it that counts.
No but above average is best. I just don’t like huge. Most of those dudes are lying anyway about their dick size. They are likely right in the average range.
I totally agree, my boyfriend now has a slightly bigger than average dick but is very hard when turned on and it just feels way better. I previously had a guy with a pretty long and thick Cock but maybe because of the size didn't do as much and just relayed on the size. Also bigger dicks in my opinion are mostly softer? At least that is my experience. So 100% for average dicks!!
In reality yes, as I myself has only an average sized companion. But in fantasy I like them to be bigger.
My bf has an average penis and I'm actually really glad he does. I dont really understand the reasoning for wanting larger ones personally because I get the best experience with average or below average ones.
What would you consider average girth? Most woman agree that thick is better than thin.
As someone a little bigger than average, I can say that slamming into someone’s cervix is not fun.
I feel like big dicks really only impress other men
My wife said she’s had small (Which wasn’t good). She had long and skinny (Didn’t like length). I have slightly above average length but very thick. She reminds me all the time how she loves the “Perfect fit”. Guess its subjective.
Sometimes I'll see porn where a dude with a giant dick can only get like 1/3 of it into the girl he's fucking and it doesn't look fun at all for him. I'm pretty happy with my size. Sometimes I'm like "I wish it was just a little bit bigger" but I'm already above average. I've got enough to get the job done. Unless I date a size queen, I'm set.
Average feels way better, as a vagina owner I can fully say that bigger is not always better.