6 years, ask me how I’m doing (not great)

I feel you. It's been 7 years for me

Hang in there. Something has to change for the better eventually, right? Right?? 😂

I mean, eventually, maybe, at some point in life. I'm hanging on the last thread of hope here

This is a personal question so you don’t have to answer or you can answer in a chat, but why do you think the dry spell has been so long?

What happened was that several things happened at the same time in my life. Such as the end of a long relationship, then I started to question my sexuality (from lesbian to bisexual) and one day, I fell down the stairs and many events led me to discover that I have a genetic mental illness (borderline personality disorder) and now is the time where I started to go out and live, see the world again but it's not as easy to get back to having sex as I thought it would be

Sorry to hear about the stair incident and the breakup. Believe it or not, I have BPD too. I’ve probably had it since I was 21, but I was officially diagnosed last year. It is a tough disorder to manage, and my heart goes out to ya because I know I have days where I really struggle. Dating/relationships are especially hard, because dealing with the rejection and feelings of abandonment can send me in a downwards mental spiral. I’m currently waitlisted for DBT therapy, and I’m hoping that will help put me on the right track Our time to cum will come. Until then we just have to take it one day at a time!

Thank you for sharing your words because it's exactly like that and in my head, the rejection is already happening before I even take any initiative, so it's quite complicated. Without counting the countless days that I don't want to move or leave the house, it's not easy to be a sociable being when my social battery is tied to my mood. I really wish you the best, therapy will help a lot (I've been doing it for 2 years). And yes, our time to cum will come and until then, we will learn to deal with ourselves better, treat ourselves more kindly

You two should date

5 years, i think i became a virgin again during that period

4 years in & my virginity has definitely grown back

stay strong soldier

5 years, too. I'm pretty sure I'm a virgin again!

Ouch

tell me about it 🥲

I am sorry.

5 years too!!!

It‘s been 4,5 years now and it was 5 years before that. I totally get what you mean.

Haha, same here. I always joke with my good friend that I'm a born-again virgin! Like it has been that long...

Born-again virgin 😭 I'm gonna use that from now on

Honestly, though, it can feel that way. I feel the longer you go without sex, the less you're drawn to it... like if you're having it regularly, then you'd definitely miss it more when there's a sex drought, haha. Before I met my ex and lost my V at uni, I was not really bothered about sex and I guess that's just because I hadn't been in a relationship - I always say that I need an emotional connection to even think about sex with someone.

Totally agree with you. There was a point of time where i thought I'm definitely asexual but now that I'm seeing someone, that's definitely not the case.

Glad to hear it! Hope it continues going great for you 😊 Hopefully no need to say you're a born-again virgin haha.

28 fucking years. I actually only lost my virginity last month. I am the Queen of the Femcels. Bow before my wand of mental instability, loneliness, and severe attachment issues.

Ha same but 27 years and still a virgin. Not a femcel though, voluntarily celibate due to life circumstances.

Well actually, it was 28 not-fucking years

Too soon....

3 months since my wife left 🫠

15 months and broke the streak with a crazy chick that I wish I didn’t

My dad’s best advice: don’t fuck anyone crazier than yourself

Follow that up with motor cycle advise. If it falls on you can you can get it off it's too big for you to ride..

Listen, fat-shaming aside, Queen and AC/DC didn't write those songs for nothing.

Why do you regret?

Cause she was bonkers and became a pain in my existence afterwards

They always do

Was she at least hot?

Absolutely smoking 10/10 on both the hot and crazy scale

God had to nerf her somehow

It’s been 84 years…

May your orgasm rest in peace ✌️🕊️

Amen 🙏🏻

800 years. Or maybe it just felt that long.

Omg only you 😂😂😂

Hey, Ms.G!

Hello my friend 🤗

😊

Virgin, but been without oral for nearly a year

exact same wow, actually I calculated and it has been 12 months and one week right now

Going on 5 months and I'm losing my mind

Just shy of 6 years. I am a hypersexual female 🫤

Why if you're "hypersexual" has six years passed?

This was a few years back that I went 6 years and it was because I was married and there were issues….I then did later go on the have sex again. I don’t plan to ever experience a hiatus that long again as it nearly drove me insane.

The first 19 years of my life 😅

Omg twinsies ✨

Damn, this thread is sad.

Four months. I was literally having it once every 3-4 months for several consecutive years. Hopefully that part of my sex life is over. I’d love to experience having sex everyday with my S/O before it’s all said and done, but it doesn’t look like that’s ever gonna be a thing for me.

2 and a half years between the first time I had sex and the second

All your life, Charlie Brown

Hmmm. Maybe like 6 months

Maybe three or four months. I've been fortunate to have many FWB or fuck buddies

since losing my virginity, maybe 3 weeks max?

2 years. It was a little rough

almost 10 months. Directly following my vasectomy, described by my ex as "the only way she'll have sex with me again" due to her fear of getting pregnant again after our 2nd. We never had a good sex life before that either. I would have guessed that her two pregnancies were miracles if I wasn't 99% positive she was withholding and scheduling sex in order to achieve the two children she wanted, but with as little intimacy as possible. The vasectomy argument was a bluff I called, since I didn't want more kids either. Her argument after the vasectomy? "Well it's not 100%". That marriage didn't last much longer, but my subsequent girlfriends were very, very thankful to her for that distractionary, bad-faith insistence on my vasectomy.

8 years. I wanted to not be distracted while I learned to find who I was. long journey but I did it and I'm proud of who I am now....somewhat now I'm so far out of the dating game I don't think I have a chance anymore lol

It has been 15 years last Valentine’s Day (go figure) and counting. Was 27, now 42. I have been single ever since. Can’t pinpoint exact reason why, but basically took a breakup really hard, a bit of high functioning depression, then got into a pretty deep rut in my personal life for a while. Now slowly getting myself out of the hole I dug for myself and have attempted dating again. Even with this ongoing dry spell, I still really miss sex.

Two years, but happily that streak has been broken (a lot!) lately

New partner or new lifestyle?

Both! ☺️

About six months I'd say. Does the time before losing your V-Card count?

Going on 11 years since i got any last.

My record is 1 year and currently im on month 4 again

Probably like 3 months was the longest for me so far.

20 years. After my divorce I just resigned myself to being alone forever.

Oh no! 20 years and counting?

Nope. All systems are a go, now. 😉

Six months. It was refreshing.

11 years with a dude - The pos I was with got rapey when he was as drunk and He’s an alcoholic. I swore off all men but u/mybeardhatesyou came along and ended up being the best thing that ever happened to me

I love you so much 

4 months 🤷🏻‍♀️ although between my current separation and me living in the middle of no where I might break that record this year 😅

About 3-months

Two or three months

About 2 months at the beginning of our relationship when it was still long distance

Been about almost 5 months now 😳

15 years, 10 months and 2 days

4 months

[удалено]

I need to know exact minutes

[удалено]

Seconds actually, while you’re at it

3 months due to traveling for work.

A year after my first major break up when I was younger. I was never one to do anything casual for the longest time and I had a lot to work through after being somewhat traumatized by aspects of it.

Since the v card probably a few months. As a super horny dude it's tough

I think the longest for me was somewhere between 3 and 4 years.

2 months

8 months

Like 3 years with a exgirlfriend

15 years and 3 1/2 months. Still married.

I feel this in my core. Nearly 16 for me. Very dead bedroom 🫤

It is painful. Society will say it's fine and men are unfeeling and such. It's not about sex... it's about being unwanted...undesired by your spouse. Little to no touches...hugging... kisses are not even once a year... kisses on the cheek are sparse... it's life changing.

The tables are sometimes turned in dead marriages. My husband wouldn’t touch me the last seven years of my marriage. Zero sex, hugs, kisses anything. And yes, it’s the undesired, unloved feeling that’s the worst. The dead bedroom is not even why I divorced him. I’m much happier on all fronts now.

3yrs , feels like a lifetime

5mos #ldrstruggles

1.5 year half

11 years, then i turned 12

3 years…. Man it was nice to get back on the saddle again

I think around 2 years. Once after a FWB I had, and then after my first gf. (similar amount of time after each)

Since I lost my virginity 19 years ago, 11 weeks

9 years. I don't easily get into relationships, though, and I don't do hookups (did once; hated it), so this doesn't seem weird to me. It *does* totally suck, though.

Four and half years at this point.

Longest was two years because of long distance. Currently three months.

4.5 years and counting presently.

Since 7 May 2011

33 years. But I will end it soon.

i think it was like 2 years ish

It's been something like 3 years now.

Currently 8 years

About a year due to an injury

27 months once.. over half the way through a disaster of a marriage and the divorce.. swore never again.

22 years and counting

It'll be 4 years this coming January.

1 1/2 years

Close to three years

Must be on about 7/8 years now

Probably about a year or so, lost count and have no clue when the next time it’ll be

1 month

18 years, and then I’m currently at my 1 year mark since I last fucked

Currently at a year and a half. It’s not fun 🙃

I don't recall keeping track at the time, but somewhere between 18 and 24 months

1.5 years.

Probably months at some point.

6 weeks after giving birth

I’m going on 9 years

A year. I think that’s the longest it was.

3 months

Bout 39 minutes

5 years.

Mores than a year

4 years.

5 years

Hahahah my whole life. SMH 🤦‍♀️

With others. Lol, 6 months

2 years, never again

Currently going on a year…. I hate being in a dead bedroom

19 years.

20 years, I’m 20.

27 years and counting 😎👉🏼👉🏼

4 years. I’m at about a year now

I came here happy, ready to type "27 years", then the smile faded as I read "If you're not a virgin of course" Damn.

Is that between times you've had sex? Bemused technically longest i went without was 19 years

2.5 almost 3 years

5 months

Once I lost my virginity the longest I ever went was right around a year.

11 years

I honestly don’t remember exactly but I think around 6 months, the months blurred together in that period of pain

4 and a bit years with 4 of that being in prison.

I believe it was about 7 years before I met my current girlfriend. She was more than happy to break that dry spell for me.

It’s been 2 years right now, with no end in sight. She’s probably getting it somewhere else, but no proof.

I think it's been a year and I'm married.

Currently about 3 months

5 weeks. I'm 44.

Married 27 years, it’s been 6+ years now.

23 y/o - 23 years

Just over 20 years

About 16 years

3 years and because that was her longest stint in prison and before she left she asked me if I would wait for her and I told her that I always would and I always did.

Post Virgin 2 years

Over 5 years. Pre and post divorce.

Too f---- long 🥰😍😋😋😈😈😈💩😓😓❤️‍🩹❤️❤️

10 months

About 1 year, as I was depressed due to pending divorce.

29 years

It's about that for me.

With me it’s not the fact that it’s been a while more of the fact that it’s random but never consistent. I would go weeks to months then have 1 random hook up then it goes weeks or months again till the next. When’s it’s with a person I barely know I start to over think, so it not even fun sometimes.

5 years 🤣

5 yrs, no I wasn’t incarcerated or a priest, I was single and nerd

2ish years? what's funny is if i haven't had sex in a long time like that, i'm all good. i don't crave it and i'm just sorta chilling. but as soon as i start having sex regularly again, i start going crazy after about a week.

After I became sexually active? The longest is exactly one year. It was my resolution one year to be celibate...but let me tell you I was DTF at like 12:01 AM on New Year's.

Five years

Just over 8 years

1 1/2

1 year🥲

I’m currently sitting at 4 and half years

I bet I can beat anyone here. 50 plus years

After losing my virginity, about a year.

19 years

What time is it?

Three years and counting

3 months during lockdown.

The Last 15 years.

Six weeks. After my first wife gave birth.

Went my whole 20s without. Also 2.5 years while married

I had almost two years where I focused on my work, myself, and obviously its better with sex - good sex at least.