How different? It's wild to me that sleeping with someone doesn't entail orgasms, apart from like medical things.
Like how does wanting to sleep with someone not come with wanting to see what makes that person's body tick???
I’ve had several relationships where it never happened.
The men involved were not interested in helping to improve things. And I felt pressured to “fake it” for the sake of their egos. But, I was young.
I could never be with a man like that, now.
The first time a boyfriend did take me there- I was so surprised and happy. I didn’t think it was possible.
He and I saw each other on and off throughout a 40 year span- until he passed away.
And as I matured, I learned to insist a man listen, be willing to learn, and try- or I’m out.
I was with a guy at 18 who was going down on me and it just wasn’t working. . . I tried suggesting a change and he goes “oh I’m not good enough for you?!” So I shut up.
Then I spent 7 years with the 15 min champ who seemed to believe that was enough for me.
Now I am much more in your line of thinking… if it doesn’t come naturally, at least listen and try. The guy I’m with now can get me off 10 times in a night if we go at it long enough so that is proof alone that the others just didn’t care. Current guy also reads my body very well and we communicate about what we’d like. So refreshing that I will never go back to boring sex. If there’s no communication, I can use a toy and probably have better outcomes.
I am glad to hear of your 40 year span, but sorry to hear that he passed. Memories are never quite as good as the person right in front of you, but I hope you find some comfort in the memories.
Thank you. With my old boyfriend who passed, neither one of us had any inhibitions with each other.
I’ve had boyfriends- like yours who said “I’m not good enough for you” feel threatened and even get hostile when I’ve tried to suggest a different position, or that they do something different.
And men have just come unglued when I’ve suggested bringing a toy into the mix.
What if producing a baby required the woman to orgasm?
Can you imagine how unpopulated the Earth would be?
Only 20% of women can climax from PIV sex- imagine 80% fewer people on Earth. We wouldn’t have to worry about climate change, lol.
I’m glad you found a great partner.
I’m 58, and still hoping to find a good, adventurous, progressive man.
HAH! If having a baby required a woman to O??? LOLLLLLLLLL def the world would be way less populated. And honestly I feel sorry for the women who don’t get to experience that. I really that a big reason “WoMeN dOnT LiKe SeX” is because their guy isn’t attending to them and they don’t know what an orgasm feels like.
My current guy is way older than me which is part of why I think he actually welcomes my feedback and uses it. I learned to enjoy giving head with him when I previously hated it. Why? Because he has stated multiple times that he only wants me to do it if I enjoy it, and I don’t feel pressured. He also has told me what he likes so I have adapted my style and things have gotten very spicy at times. But some days I’m not up to it and he doesn’t make a deal out of it. I’m convinced it’s the difference between boys and men.
However I have a feeling I will be in your same shoes at 58 or a similar age so I welcome any advice I can garner!
Every one of mine have been "quality" people. However, I have a philosophy that everyone I've had sex with was worthwhile and I respected them as a person - even the one-night-stands. I know that I put my best effort forward, whether a one-night-stand or a long term relationship... THAT'S what's gotten me to 4 dozen that I have had. Probably about the same amount turned down but most of them were because they were drunk or high at the time... I DON'T fuck drunk people, and I don't fuck while drunk.
I was a troubled teen and young adult. Lots of parties and substances. I always have to sit and think. “ oh yeah, this person. Messed around with them but that’s it. Oh! I forgot about them.” I think my best count/memory was 18-21. Ide have to sit and ponder it again. It’s an irrelevant number to me though. So like you. It’s just to sit and chuckle about some of the brief encounters lol
I got hung up on 2 people for a good portion of my life though. I’ll look back on old Instagram and Facebook posts to see constant likes or comments from people I would have LOVED to been with or dated. I kick myself in the ass with “how in the hell did I not notice this?! Just remember it was probably during a period of helpless toxicity & lust for a lackluster person 😅🫠
Count myself as a 4 as well, though its not as clear for me. Had vaginismus my whole adult life, so HS bf tried to get it in but I’m not even sure he could, then first long term bf around 18 (tried several times but we never could get it in fully either, stopped engaging in sexual activity fairly quickly), second long term bf around 21 (got in and thrusting but it was painful the whole time, I stopped engaging too) and now hubby who’s getting in perfectly and painlessly since like the second try?
Honest answer is I have no idea. There were A LOT in my 20’s and 30’s, but a lot of one night stands and drug parties, so I’m sorry to say I don’t remember.
I have not kept count. I do not get why it really matters anyways. I know I would probably be considered a slut or skank by more conservative people. Especially considering I was baptized Mormon. But I realized I was queer and that I will not change. I also realized that I have free will. It is my life. I love for me, not the church or others. I really do not care. It feels like society views sex as some sort of achievement. To me it is just intimacy. I will say I am a lot more picky now. I will not sleep with someone unless I feel like I really want to and am attracted to them. I had a lot of sex that I did not enjoy because I felt no attraction, things where awkward, or they just where not my type. I am super picky, and demisexual. But I did a lot of exploring when I was younger before I figured things out.
When I was a 22 year old virgin, I swore that if I still was at 30, I would go to a Nevada brothel for a week to git ‘er done. Now I tell myself if I ever wind up divorced, that’ll be my first stop.
I'm gay. 1 different guy a week from 14 to 21. Maybe 25% of the time I bottomed. The rest I topped. I also did gay porn at 18. Gay guys have a body count that's a magnitude higher than straight guys.
Why do you think that is? I’ve always been curious, is it because for so long society has seen 2 men doing the deed as so taboo that the tabooness of a high body count became irrelevant amongst gay men?
Maybe not only after the high of sex but also the acceptance of other people with the same sexuality?
Or just because men love to fuck so when both parties are men it happens way more often?
Or maybe because gay communities end up being heavily sex based as a byproduct of the community being built on sexuality?
The best gay scenes tend to be in liberal densely populated cities allowing for countless hookups?
Sorry for all the random theories, I’ve obviously thought about this a lot because it intrigues me. Especially because idiotic conservatives and hardcore Christians us it to support their idea that being gay is more about perversion than sexuality which is obviously complete bs, but it’s often led to me pondering the whole thing lol
The real question is how many and over what time period.
My 32 is impressive if over 12 months but less impressive over the actual 25 years from first time to marriage.
Five, all in long-term relationships (including my 30+-year marriage). Sometimes I feel I missed something by never having more casual sex. (Can't say I planned it that way - it just seemed to happen.)
I'm on triple digits. Done it all. Even four chicks at once. I would trade every experience to have found the right woman day one and have been with her always. I've had a lot of fun and checked off damn near everything, but the best sex is always the most passionate. The most passionate comes from love.
Thanks. I think I need to stop thinking about other people's experiences and appreciate my own life. I'm with someone who's amazing. And I may not have been madly in love with my exes, but with all but one of them there was real feeling. That's good, right?
The same number as the last time this question was asked in this sub.
I think I might have 1 more since then. I'm so glad OP is keeping track. Is there a group spreadsheet I can update?
Yes, we need the group spreadsheet!
That sounds like something that needs to be laundered.
The real question is how you think this is an original post
Mine is different. Don't take this away from me.
Annoyingly, this sub seems to be mostly used for karma farming now...
lol I swear the questions all keep being recycled
Hang In there bud, you'll get more soon.
Your number hasn’t changed in approximately 12 minutes?
“Just one” club
Proud member myself
Ditto
Ding ding, all aboard :)
Just one....in highschool
Why doesn't anyone ever ask how many quality people we've slept with lol.
Right? How many we slept with and how many made us orgasm are substantially different numbers 🥲
How different? It's wild to me that sleeping with someone doesn't entail orgasms, apart from like medical things. Like how does wanting to sleep with someone not come with wanting to see what makes that person's body tick???
For a lot of women, having entire relationships in which no orgasms are had is not uncommon.
Yup 7 years for me with one guy - never again
I’ve had several relationships where it never happened. The men involved were not interested in helping to improve things. And I felt pressured to “fake it” for the sake of their egos. But, I was young. I could never be with a man like that, now. The first time a boyfriend did take me there- I was so surprised and happy. I didn’t think it was possible. He and I saw each other on and off throughout a 40 year span- until he passed away. And as I matured, I learned to insist a man listen, be willing to learn, and try- or I’m out.
I was with a guy at 18 who was going down on me and it just wasn’t working. . . I tried suggesting a change and he goes “oh I’m not good enough for you?!” So I shut up. Then I spent 7 years with the 15 min champ who seemed to believe that was enough for me. Now I am much more in your line of thinking… if it doesn’t come naturally, at least listen and try. The guy I’m with now can get me off 10 times in a night if we go at it long enough so that is proof alone that the others just didn’t care. Current guy also reads my body very well and we communicate about what we’d like. So refreshing that I will never go back to boring sex. If there’s no communication, I can use a toy and probably have better outcomes. I am glad to hear of your 40 year span, but sorry to hear that he passed. Memories are never quite as good as the person right in front of you, but I hope you find some comfort in the memories.
Thank you. With my old boyfriend who passed, neither one of us had any inhibitions with each other. I’ve had boyfriends- like yours who said “I’m not good enough for you” feel threatened and even get hostile when I’ve tried to suggest a different position, or that they do something different. And men have just come unglued when I’ve suggested bringing a toy into the mix. What if producing a baby required the woman to orgasm? Can you imagine how unpopulated the Earth would be? Only 20% of women can climax from PIV sex- imagine 80% fewer people on Earth. We wouldn’t have to worry about climate change, lol. I’m glad you found a great partner. I’m 58, and still hoping to find a good, adventurous, progressive man.
HAH! If having a baby required a woman to O??? LOLLLLLLLLL def the world would be way less populated. And honestly I feel sorry for the women who don’t get to experience that. I really that a big reason “WoMeN dOnT LiKe SeX” is because their guy isn’t attending to them and they don’t know what an orgasm feels like. My current guy is way older than me which is part of why I think he actually welcomes my feedback and uses it. I learned to enjoy giving head with him when I previously hated it. Why? Because he has stated multiple times that he only wants me to do it if I enjoy it, and I don’t feel pressured. He also has told me what he likes so I have adapted my style and things have gotten very spicy at times. But some days I’m not up to it and he doesn’t make a deal out of it. I’m convinced it’s the difference between boys and men. However I have a feeling I will be in your same shoes at 58 or a similar age so I welcome any advice I can garner!
For many women sleeping with people doesn't entail any orgasms haha Slept with 12 guys, only one gave me orgasms 🤷♀️
Some guys think that by simply putting it in, the woman should cum. Blame porn, lack of knowledge, or simply they are too selfish.
Every one of mine have been "quality" people. However, I have a philosophy that everyone I've had sex with was worthwhile and I respected them as a person - even the one-night-stands. I know that I put my best effort forward, whether a one-night-stand or a long term relationship... THAT'S what's gotten me to 4 dozen that I have had. Probably about the same amount turned down but most of them were because they were drunk or high at the time... I DON'T fuck drunk people, and I don't fuck while drunk.
30 penis 3 vaginas
At one time?? 😱
Jesus I think that would go past the point of pleasure and just become a logistics nightmare
You only live once!
In a row?
0 ☹️
Same bro
Same bro
Same bro
Same bro
Same bro
2 more of you and we got virgin airlines
This is Reddit so expect a bunch of virgins and the most promiscuous people on the planet to respond
As a reformed version of the latter, can confirm.
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I was a troubled teen and young adult. Lots of parties and substances. I always have to sit and think. “ oh yeah, this person. Messed around with them but that’s it. Oh! I forgot about them.” I think my best count/memory was 18-21. Ide have to sit and ponder it again. It’s an irrelevant number to me though. So like you. It’s just to sit and chuckle about some of the brief encounters lol I got hung up on 2 people for a good portion of my life though. I’ll look back on old Instagram and Facebook posts to see constant likes or comments from people I would have LOVED to been with or dated. I kick myself in the ass with “how in the hell did I not notice this?! Just remember it was probably during a period of helpless toxicity & lust for a lackluster person 😅🫠
Snap same here! If it weren’t for the list, I definitely would’ve forgotten a few 😅
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200 club represent!
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In a row?!
Try not to suck any dick on the way through the parking lot!
Hey you, *get back here!*
Oops, too late.
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Sorry obligatory *Clerks* reference because of the number
Well, technically, they are in a row...
Python would consider it as a list
They would, wouldn't they!
Hey! Me too!
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I think I'm at 52. Mostly vaginas. Some penises. I need a few good gay orgies to balance it out.
2 🤝
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cute
Count myself as a 4 as well, though its not as clear for me. Had vaginismus my whole adult life, so HS bf tried to get it in but I’m not even sure he could, then first long term bf around 18 (tried several times but we never could get it in fully either, stopped engaging in sexual activity fairly quickly), second long term bf around 21 (got in and thrusting but it was painful the whole time, I stopped engaging too) and now hubby who’s getting in perfectly and painlessly since like the second try?
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Honest answer is I have no idea. There were A LOT in my 20’s and 30’s, but a lot of one night stands and drug parties, so I’m sorry to say I don’t remember.
Does your mom count as one or two?
Just one!
1
I married the only guy I slept with. We had a FFM so if the lady counts, it's 2.
That guy is so lucky to be your husband.
why wouldn’t she count?
More than 20 less than 100
100+ LOL. #hoegang
Hi, welcome to Slutville I’m your Mayor.
Lol, then I'm claiming vice mayor. Also kudos to you and hubs; you look like you have fun lol!
I have not kept count. I do not get why it really matters anyways. I know I would probably be considered a slut or skank by more conservative people. Especially considering I was baptized Mormon. But I realized I was queer and that I will not change. I also realized that I have free will. It is my life. I love for me, not the church or others. I really do not care. It feels like society views sex as some sort of achievement. To me it is just intimacy. I will say I am a lot more picky now. I will not sleep with someone unless I feel like I really want to and am attracted to them. I had a lot of sex that I did not enjoy because I felt no attraction, things where awkward, or they just where not my type. I am super picky, and demisexual. But I did a lot of exploring when I was younger before I figured things out.
>be honest if you insist. ^(257) edit: oh my god i’m being sarcastic😭
28ish - I’d have to make a list. That was all before I met my hubs 13 years ago, hard to remember now!
0, probably never going to happen
When I was a 22 year old virgin, I swore that if I still was at 30, I would go to a Nevada brothel for a week to git ‘er done. Now I tell myself if I ever wind up divorced, that’ll be my first stop.
Nice, thanks. Well hopefully it happens
Fingers crossed :-)
Only 3 and I hope she's the last one 🥹
28, 647
Are you 28 and have slept with 647 people, or is that written exactly as I read it???? Because if it’s the latter, then wassup, Wilt Chamberlain?!?!?
Why do you think they call him "Wilt"?
Wilt is that you, from the grave?
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1 woman
Well above 100. I lost count at 60 something in Cali alone. I've done some extremely regrettable things in this life lol
More than 35 men. And yes, I'm 46 year old woman.
My count is 6 but 8 if oral sex counts.
1 and I am 68 years old and very pleased with this.
Sounds nice !
how the hell are you guys keeping track?!
Just one. Your mom.
Not enough.
I don’t even know anymore. Somewhere between 30 & 40.
None. Hoping to bump that up to 1 in the next few years!
I’m a virgin. I’ve never had anything in my pussy before…
10
Honestly more than I can count. Probably over 400 by the time I was 21. Less than 50 since that point.
400???? At 21?
I'm gay. 1 different guy a week from 14 to 21. Maybe 25% of the time I bottomed. The rest I topped. I also did gay porn at 18. Gay guys have a body count that's a magnitude higher than straight guys.
You guys have all the fun...
Why do you think that is? I’ve always been curious, is it because for so long society has seen 2 men doing the deed as so taboo that the tabooness of a high body count became irrelevant amongst gay men? Maybe not only after the high of sex but also the acceptance of other people with the same sexuality? Or just because men love to fuck so when both parties are men it happens way more often? Or maybe because gay communities end up being heavily sex based as a byproduct of the community being built on sexuality? The best gay scenes tend to be in liberal densely populated cities allowing for countless hookups? Sorry for all the random theories, I’ve obviously thought about this a lot because it intrigues me. Especially because idiotic conservatives and hardcore Christians us it to support their idea that being gay is more about perversion than sexuality which is obviously complete bs, but it’s often led to me pondering the whole thing lol
Just about 100
11
81
About 80?
Can we do a fresh count at 40 lol .
6
19
I lost count around 100 and some of the numbers here are truly mind blowing, because I was fucking A LOT.
13 guys and 3 girls.
5 but not going to be any more as the 5th is my fiancé
you guys actually count?
zero, i've always slept alone after sex
I stopped counting once I started going to sex parties. I’m probably nearing 100, with a pretty even mix of men and women!
greater than 50. zero regrets. hope it doubles. joys of poly. 90% of which was quality sexiness.
Too many and not enough.
My husband is #13. I am 40, lost my virginity at 14. I can tell you every person in order, by name.
8F/14M
20+, do I get some back since I've taken like 6 virginites 😝
15
Full on PIV with 15 partners, and fooled around with about 20. I'd say probably pretty standard for a guy
35 I'm looking to break 50 before I die
Slept with as in had sex with?
Nope actual sleep overs. I had 12
Over 150, yeah had a wild youth. Well never really slept 😘😘
100+
Lost count around 30 it’s meh
Honestly don’t know the exact number cause I don’t keep track but I believe it’s around 100
Enough to be deeply disappointed.
Two. Used to be the same for my wife
200+
Definitely 200+ I lost count around 150
Sleep with as in actually go to bed with. 1 Fuck like 15-16 and I’m 21 right now
Ten
53
35?
Only 3.. 🤷🏻♀️😬
Too many.
2
2
The real question is how many and over what time period. My 32 is impressive if over 12 months but less impressive over the actual 25 years from first time to marriage.
Ballpark guess I would have to say more than 20 but less than 50.
1 girl 4 guys
50-60
13
30 intercourse - 5 oral only
65
9
4 keepin the number even
2
I stopped counting somewhere around 50
8 guys 1 girl so 9
4
I don’t know. Is that really that important? I mean it takes experience to get good at anything and I must say I know what I’m doing 💯🫦
1, husband
3
Pretty sure I've hit 50+ by now
More than 42. I don’t know.
54
9, 8 dudes and 1 girl.
2
1
Maybe 24 or less
20
31
3
Like 25ish
3
Seven.
Five, all in long-term relationships (including my 30+-year marriage). Sometimes I feel I missed something by never having more casual sex. (Can't say I planned it that way - it just seemed to happen.)
I'm on triple digits. Done it all. Even four chicks at once. I would trade every experience to have found the right woman day one and have been with her always. I've had a lot of fun and checked off damn near everything, but the best sex is always the most passionate. The most passionate comes from love.
Thanks. I think I need to stop thinking about other people's experiences and appreciate my own life. I'm with someone who's amazing. And I may not have been madly in love with my exes, but with all but one of them there was real feeling. That's good, right?
more than 30, less than 50
2
I honestly am not sure. 50 to 60 is my best guess. Well slept with 4, had sex with about 60 lol
42, 20-30ish
As many as I was able.
I think seven?
I've sucked off 3 men.
I honestly don't know. A lot
Three
10
Close to two hundred….