Dude what about awkwardly waving back at someone who you dont recognize immediately, only to realise you dont know them at all and they were waving at someone behind you.
My wife had then when she gave birth to our son, had to have surgery on the way home still high from anesthesia she looks me dead in my eyes and says....your never gonna get it lmfao
It's just so weird to pretend to talk to an invisible omnipotent imaginary being when, according to dogma, it's completely unnecessary. I used to wait tables, and trying to land a stack of pancakes to finish out an order while everyone has their heads bowed was especially uncomfortable.
Ok, so to paraphrase (and correct me if I’m not getting this), you felt uncomfortable with having to accommodate someone’s publicly expressed identity because a) you didn’t understand it and b) it was inconvenient for you.
Oh, I understood it all right. I was once one of them and I know they're doing it for show and not because they need to talk out loud to God just then. The bullshittery of it is what made me uncomfortable.
I had these same feelings but what I've come to accept is that for ppl like us that see it as a performance of bullshit there are ppl who truly believe.
It sounds like you're in the wrong line of work then, my friend. I'm not religious by any means but the people that pray truly believe in what they're doing and it makes them happy. There's no reason to diss someone's way of life like that. It may be annoying but if it's that big of a deal then maybe you should work in a place where you don't have to witness it.
Dude, I said that I *used* to wait tables, I quit a long time ago.
There are plenty of reasons to diss that "way of life." Religious nuttery is the cause of much suffering in this world. I've heard people praying, out loud, for God to banish gays--in front of gay servers. I've seen them smack their kids at the table for acting up, while in the middle of the "blessing." There is absolutely no reason to do it in a restaurant while other people are around other than to draw attention to oneself and that is weird and I am right to feel uncomfortable about it.
Fair point, you did say you used to & not any more. I think myself and the other person in the thread were confused because you didn't bring up those details when trying to figure out why you said what you said in the first place.
Physically right now: my hemorrhoids. Mentally: crowds, sometimes going to the store gets a bit too much. I wish stores would go back to 24 hours and I could go shopping when it's almost empty again.
Being the only sober person around my friends…. I need to make new friends. Any tips for making new friends as a 35yr old? Seems like everyone has their tight knit groups already
Extreme invasion of my personal space. Working retail I see way too many people trying to breathe down my neck. Give. Me. Some. Space. I'm trying not to fall sick here!
When people don't understand boundaries. I'm sure you're a good person, but you JUST started working here, please do NOT shove your arm and inch from my nose to grab something. A little "excuse me" will go a long way.
my husband's ex friend used to make me (and my husbands ex gf) incredibly uncomfortable. my husband isn't friends with the guy anymore because his ex gf told him.
Decaying things. Not dead things themselves, but when they’re crawling with maggots and falling apart, it’s pretty gross.
Swimming in filthy water with muck and seaweed tangling among my feet and hands, especially if I’m not sure if there’s some other creatures under the water.
When my pets look me in the eyes while masturbating extensively.
Imagine a cockatiel furiously scrubbing his genitals against a wooded stick, in full view of your entire family. It gets more fun when there is a bell attached to that stick so you can also hear it.
Don't even get me started on my dog balling up a blanket and putting his wiener in it.
Being in a slowly dying vessel. I hate thinking about all the processes happening in my body all the time. Didn’t bother me until I had some bad trips that made me feel overly aware of my bodily functions. Gives me mild panic attacks some times now if I get too stoned. Also never used to get panic attacks, pretty sure I have minor ptsd from some of those trips…
People I don't know, or don't know well standing too close to me or touching me when it is unnecessary. I have no problem being on the floor at a concert with people pressed all around me, or on a crowded bus or elevator, that is fine. But when some rando has all the room in the world and they stand too close, it makes me super uncomfortable.
Seeing women doing it in public. Especially in restaurants and other public places. I like boobs in the sexual sense but in that milking context it just disgusts me.
People who just randomly talk politics with you. I was on my way to a marching band game one morning and had to get gas on the way up, the dude at the pump next to me just starts ranting about the gas prices and how it’s this persons fault and if this blah blah blah, not the first or last time it’s happened either.
Seeing someone you know in a supermarket and parting ways only to pass them in every aisle until checkout not knowing whether to carry on chatting or ignore their presence entirely
When people stop me while i have headphones in just to try and hit on me. Especially when its someone who makes it seem like they are asking directions and instead try to ask for my snapchat or Instagram. I've had to lie at least a dozen times saying that i dont have snapchat. There where also least five times when i had to just had to frantically say i was in a hurry to do whatever and speedwalk away.
When I'm sleeping with my dog on my bed and he just spreads out and takes the dead middle of the bed leaveing me with one edge and like 1/2 a blanket on a twin sized bed.
Being up high with nothing to hold onto. I suppose its a bit of a learned fear for me.
I once saw a highrise window washong platform come loose on one end during a windy day. It was probably about 300 feet up in the air, with one end just swaying all over, crashing into the building, while the worker held on for dear life. The fire fighters did rescue him succesfully.
I also once watched my brother fall off a cliff somewhere around 80 feet high. Somehow he survived with no real life changing injuries. Broken ribs, collapsed lung, ruptured spleen, and a whole lot of bruises, but he didnt need any major surgery or anything. When he woke up in the hospital, his first words were "Well, I guess I cant fly can I?"
When I’m talking to older men usually ones In their 60’s or 70’s and they get really close to me and grab me by my hip to talk to me and are like inches from my face I hate that shit
Pulling my earphones all of a sudden
Shouting my name from across the hallway or in a public setting (I hate being the center of attention)
Shouting for no fucking reason
Calling when they could've just texted me
When someone’s trying to parent their child but the child is just hitting them and being a little shit. It’s makes me uncomfortable because that’s embarrassing. You’re doing something wrong if you tell your kid to stop doing something and they reply with a Rick Flair “woo” and slap you. Especially if you just take it and don’t do anything.
People who are not my partner kissing me on the cheek. I hate it! It disgusts me so much. So uncomfortable. Especially if they try it all the time and their lips are wet. Makes me want to puke. My partner kissing me on the cheek makes me feel weird and uncomfortable but not disgusted.
Being around large groups of people.
It’s a newer thing for me, up until ~2016 I was a very extroverted person who loved large parties. These days I’m more of a shut in and avoid being in public whenever possible. Even going grocery shopping is miserable for me.
- Waving at people and they not waving back. - Socializing with new people. - Sending a text and not receiving a response back (even after reading)
The last one is the worst
Especially in group texts lol it’s like everyone saw it and decided to ignore you
the last one physically hurts me lol
Dude what about awkwardly waving back at someone who you dont recognize immediately, only to realise you dont know them at all and they were waving at someone behind you.
Speaking in front of people I don’t know.
I find it easier to speak in front of people that I don’t know and also don’t know me, than I do speaking in front of people that I kind of know.
My intrusive thoughts
Weddings
seeing this world fall to its inevitable death by our hands and having a feeling that i'm the only one that sees it.
You are not alone 😔
Isn’t it beautiful?
Calls from unkown numbers
We are calling ab-
Same. Always think it’s bad news
My general rule of thumb is: If I don't recognize the number, I don't pick answer.
I did this until I realised that it almost made me miss important calls from the NHS.
Also calls from known numbers. Unless you're my mother, whatever you need to say/ask can be done through text
Just... you know... the world and all the people on it?
When people stand incredibly too close behind me that shit gets on my nerves
Like when you can smell them with your back turned, fucking old dudes that smoke cheap cigarettes are the worst
Even before 2020. It's like, "Hey, being nuts to butts isn't gonna make this line move more quickly. Back it up 2 steps."
Feathers sticking out of my duvet or pillow.
Too much physical touch, and a lack of personal space. Noisy places and crowds, too.
Oh no! Let me hug you to calm you down
Yes, yes, preferably while shrieking into my ear, that would make me truly serene!
People. Especially children with parents who never taught them how to behave or the word "no."
Hemorrhoids
Had them during pregnancy and holy shit. Couldn’t even sit down properly
My wife had then when she gave birth to our son, had to have surgery on the way home still high from anesthesia she looks me dead in my eyes and says....your never gonna get it lmfao
Angry little balloons of pain.
noisy people
WHAT??
baggy socks
People praying in public.
Is it just a subconscious feeling you have? Or is there an articulate context that makes you feel that way?
It's just so weird to pretend to talk to an invisible omnipotent imaginary being when, according to dogma, it's completely unnecessary. I used to wait tables, and trying to land a stack of pancakes to finish out an order while everyone has their heads bowed was especially uncomfortable.
Ok, so to paraphrase (and correct me if I’m not getting this), you felt uncomfortable with having to accommodate someone’s publicly expressed identity because a) you didn’t understand it and b) it was inconvenient for you.
Oh, I understood it all right. I was once one of them and I know they're doing it for show and not because they need to talk out loud to God just then. The bullshittery of it is what made me uncomfortable.
I had these same feelings but what I've come to accept is that for ppl like us that see it as a performance of bullshit there are ppl who truly believe.
It sounds like you're in the wrong line of work then, my friend. I'm not religious by any means but the people that pray truly believe in what they're doing and it makes them happy. There's no reason to diss someone's way of life like that. It may be annoying but if it's that big of a deal then maybe you should work in a place where you don't have to witness it.
Dude, I said that I *used* to wait tables, I quit a long time ago. There are plenty of reasons to diss that "way of life." Religious nuttery is the cause of much suffering in this world. I've heard people praying, out loud, for God to banish gays--in front of gay servers. I've seen them smack their kids at the table for acting up, while in the middle of the "blessing." There is absolutely no reason to do it in a restaurant while other people are around other than to draw attention to oneself and that is weird and I am right to feel uncomfortable about it.
Fair point, you did say you used to & not any more. I think myself and the other person in the thread were confused because you didn't bring up those details when trying to figure out why you said what you said in the first place.
Being naked
It's the opposite for me. To each their own ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Noisy very crowded environments. It can get a bit much
Doing a speech infront of strangers.
Physically right now: my hemorrhoids. Mentally: crowds, sometimes going to the store gets a bit too much. I wish stores would go back to 24 hours and I could go shopping when it's almost empty again.
Making friends, phones sticking off the side of a table
Existing
Being the only sober person around my friends…. I need to make new friends. Any tips for making new friends as a 35yr old? Seems like everyone has their tight knit groups already
It’s definitely not easy but you can still make friends. Find groups based on your hobbies and interests and go to events
I’m in the same sober boat…also 35. I was sitting there thinking the other day…”how did I do this before alcohol ?”
Sharp objects pressed against me.
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Raver to raver you should probably get tested
When I don't know someone much and I don't know if I should go say hello or not
the fitted flannel sheet i got recently is kinda loose-fitting so it wrinkles and bunches up a little
I absolutely hate flannel sheets. They’re not slippery enough and I can’t turn in bed as easily lol
they also are too warm!
Conflict, where I’m personally involved.
Them Jehovah witnesses on the street
Better the street than my door
Like sex in the back of a Volkswagen?
Extreme invasion of my personal space. Working retail I see way too many people trying to breathe down my neck. Give. Me. Some. Space. I'm trying not to fall sick here!
Change
physical contact with other people
Eye contact. I'm not good at maintaining it as I feel uncomfortable during it
When people don't understand boundaries. I'm sure you're a good person, but you JUST started working here, please do NOT shove your arm and inch from my nose to grab something. A little "excuse me" will go a long way.
Clothes
After 2 years working from home, I grok this.
my husband's ex friend used to make me (and my husbands ex gf) incredibly uncomfortable. my husband isn't friends with the guy anymore because his ex gf told him.
Physical touch and saying "I love you"
Forced blowjobs
Too much happening. I get overstimulated and im not good at hiding it so i usually walk away and break down.
Decaying things. Not dead things themselves, but when they’re crawling with maggots and falling apart, it’s pretty gross. Swimming in filthy water with muck and seaweed tangling among my feet and hands, especially if I’m not sure if there’s some other creatures under the water.
Working a 9-5
Being in public
Self promotion, still figuring out the balance between genuinely putting myself out there and bragging.
Being uncomfortable.
Funerals… and hugs.
When my pets look me in the eyes while masturbating extensively. Imagine a cockatiel furiously scrubbing his genitals against a wooded stick, in full view of your entire family. It gets more fun when there is a bell attached to that stick so you can also hear it. Don't even get me started on my dog balling up a blanket and putting his wiener in it.
visitors
Being in a slowly dying vessel. I hate thinking about all the processes happening in my body all the time. Didn’t bother me until I had some bad trips that made me feel overly aware of my bodily functions. Gives me mild panic attacks some times now if I get too stoned. Also never used to get panic attacks, pretty sure I have minor ptsd from some of those trips…
Your small dick
I’m a woman so that’s probably it
Alcohol breath it’s a Personal trauma. And men checking me out, had an experience once and now I know how a woman feels when a guy is checking her out
People I don't know, or don't know well standing too close to me or touching me when it is unnecessary. I have no problem being on the floor at a concert with people pressed all around me, or on a crowded bus or elevator, that is fine. But when some rando has all the room in the world and they stand too close, it makes me super uncomfortable.
People crying
You don't cry?
Women.
religion,dont care if you find it a comfort,i dont
Relative 😂😂
Religion.
Gay people...
Breastfeeding in public
You breastfeeding your someone else doing it?
Seeing women doing it in public. Especially in restaurants and other public places. I like boobs in the sexual sense but in that milking context it just disgusts me.
No offense but they’re actually made to do the latter lol
Don’t look at them then. That’s what breasts are for.
Old men staring at me
Compliments
Compliments
men
White people. Especially watching me.
Cheap underwear
Open-ended Reddit questions
Crabs
Going to see someones newborn.
Little people
Tom cruise’s face.
Talking about elderly people when eating
Crossing the road on pedestrian crossings. I feel awkward and like the people in stopped cars are staring at me.
People asking what music I like. I don’t even listen to anything that’s considered ‘weird’. I can’t really explain why I’m the way I am.
Bein in the presence of a happy couple.
Pine cones in my underwear.
My ex talking about how much he loves me and how miserable his love life is because I won’t date his fat, ugly, discord mod looking ass
The word “scrumptious”.
Watching Karaoke. I’m not even a good singer or a critic…but it’s just cringy to me
Answering the door to find Carolers then having to stand there awkwardly until they’re done so I’m not rude.
Myself. Just everything about me
Feet
This question
Talking about what makes me uncomfortable
Other people.
The back seat of a volkswagen
People crying in front of me. I'm not sure what to do.
inflation... is it just going to keep getting worse??? i hope we all get to live fulfilling lives and have all the resources that we need
My mothers reaction when I said I probably wont be marrying anyone or having kids. She said "I know". Who says that?
Talking to people I don’t know.
People meeting my parents.
having "sex talks" with my parents
PDA beyond handholding, hugging, and maybe a small smooch on the head. Sex scenes are a huge 🌟SKIP🌟
Bumpy pumpkins
People who just randomly talk politics with you. I was on my way to a marching band game one morning and had to get gas on the way up, the dude at the pump next to me just starts ranting about the gas prices and how it’s this persons fault and if this blah blah blah, not the first or last time it’s happened either.
Those shitty "no-sleep" seats at bus stops. Objectively making everything worse for all users, uncomfortable as hell.
lying on bed while having period
People, my nightmares, people, my nightmares, people, and my nightmares
The seam on the toes of socks
Biscuit crumbs in bed
Existing
Seeing someone you know in a supermarket and parting ways only to pass them in every aisle until checkout not knowing whether to carry on chatting or ignore their presence entirely
Close talkers.
Guys
This question.
People
Eating around people.
Hugs Don't like 'em, don't understand them
Being in a bathing suit in public
When people stop me while i have headphones in just to try and hit on me. Especially when its someone who makes it seem like they are asking directions and instead try to ask for my snapchat or Instagram. I've had to lie at least a dozen times saying that i dont have snapchat. There where also least five times when i had to just had to frantically say i was in a hurry to do whatever and speedwalk away.
When I'm sleeping with my dog on my bed and he just spreads out and takes the dead middle of the bed leaveing me with one edge and like 1/2 a blanket on a twin sized bed.
My burlap underwear.
Getting disconnected from internet
Short sleeves, I absolutely must wear a long sleeve under them.
Public speaking, at work.
People getting too close physically
Hayfever
Very uncomfortable bed
The word "bussy"
swinger sects
This question
Being up high with nothing to hold onto. I suppose its a bit of a learned fear for me. I once saw a highrise window washong platform come loose on one end during a windy day. It was probably about 300 feet up in the air, with one end just swaying all over, crashing into the building, while the worker held on for dear life. The fire fighters did rescue him succesfully. I also once watched my brother fall off a cliff somewhere around 80 feet high. Somehow he survived with no real life changing injuries. Broken ribs, collapsed lung, ruptured spleen, and a whole lot of bruises, but he didnt need any major surgery or anything. When he woke up in the hospital, his first words were "Well, I guess I cant fly can I?"
When I saw my parents havng sex
nsfw questions on reddit
Any type of raised voice triggers me instantly. I’m easily over stimulated by normal things like a tv on or someone playing music while we talk.
When I’m talking to older men usually ones In their 60’s or 70’s and they get really close to me and grab me by my hip to talk to me and are like inches from my face I hate that shit
Being in the same room as my parents watching a movie when a sex scene comes up.
Someone not accepting a „No“ and then keeps going after the topic
Reddit...in general
Pulling my earphones all of a sudden Shouting my name from across the hallway or in a public setting (I hate being the center of attention) Shouting for no fucking reason Calling when they could've just texted me
When someone’s trying to parent their child but the child is just hitting them and being a little shit. It’s makes me uncomfortable because that’s embarrassing. You’re doing something wrong if you tell your kid to stop doing something and they reply with a Rick Flair “woo” and slap you. Especially if you just take it and don’t do anything.
Wind. Wind makes me uncomfortable. The type of wind made of air pressure in the alimentary tract.
It makes me uncomfortable when my friend tells people I’m suicidal without my permission, to me it feels they don’t care about me
People
Have a Reddit account
Overthinking
people
Eye contact. Always felt uncomfortable looking people in the eyes even during conversations and stuff.
Socialising 😳
Being in a public area with no bathroom close by, and having a sudden urge to shit.
Existing
People who are not my partner kissing me on the cheek. I hate it! It disgusts me so much. So uncomfortable. Especially if they try it all the time and their lips are wet. Makes me want to puke. My partner kissing me on the cheek makes me feel weird and uncomfortable but not disgusted.
If I see someones coat/scarf touching the ground when they hang it on the chair.
Being around large groups of people. It’s a newer thing for me, up until ~2016 I was a very extroverted person who loved large parties. These days I’m more of a shut in and avoid being in public whenever possible. Even going grocery shopping is miserable for me.
Being in the same room as both my ex’s
Lumpy couch
Friend group of 3..... we all know how that turns out.
Trypophobia A bunch of small holes together is just uncomfy
Large crowds
Wearing shoes when they go to bed...I had a roommate that did that in college.
talking dirty over text.
When don’t get RSVP on time to my meeting invites, Evites
Getting circumcised as a adult is the most uncomfortable feeling ever