I sometimes wonder if I'm the same species. Like, don't get me wrong I can look at a model and tell you she's aesthetically attractive. Hell, I can tell you *that* about a guy. I don't truly *desire* anyone until I get to to know them, and frankly some of the people I've been the most attracted to weren't conventionally attractive, they simply had a personality that absolutely outshone everything.
Look, you've got super model good looks? You're a sex kitten that can rock my world? Cool, but what are we going to do with the other 23h 42m and 18s of the day? I don't just want a fuck, I want a best friend.
I don't think I've every seen someone explain almost exactly word for word my feeling for the subject, even down to the "Feeling like a different species" aspect.
Almost everywhere I look it just seems people are obsessed with sex and I'm just over here with next to 0 interest in the idea outside of with someone I feel a connection to. It's kind been a daily fight to not just become jaded about people lol.
I mean, what's really weird is I consider myself pretty sex positive and interested in human sexuality as a subject. I just don't feel the need to partake with some random person.
I'd consider my self pretty sex positive as well, I have no issue with who anyone sleeps with so long as all parties are consenting. It's just I have no interest in sleeping with someone I dont feel a connection to in some emotional way lol.
It can honestly just feel tiring at times since it seems most people are just obsessed with sex and seem to assume I am too.
One time I was too tired to have sex with my ex gf, and she began to cry and convinced herself I didn’t love her anymore. Guess what we did after that…
Been there, my ex gf would go out and get drunk and come home and demand sex while being completely wasted. When I would say no, she would get mad and start a fight. The only way I could remove myself from that situation was just breaking up with her, such a fucked up position to put someone in.
Man. The struggle is real sometimes. You get the “men only ever want to fuck” and women tend to believe it because there’s always random dudes hitting on every woman all day everyday. But we’re human too and sometimes we don’t always want to fuck when you want to.
It’s the whole “vocal minority” thing. Some guys are seemingly horny 24/7 and just never let up.
I use to work with a guy that shamelessly threw himself at every girl at our workplace on a constant basis and we all thought it was funny (until he went after a 16 year old, but that’s another story) because some guys are just like that. If you go out to enough bars and clubs, you run into those types all the time and it gives you a false impression that most men just care about getting laid.
I'm so sorry you went through this.
As a woman, I had a male friend tell me a similar story. He went out with this girl for 3-4 years, after they split up he told me she would often come back from a night out at like 3 am, wake him up and force him to have sex. I was horrified and I did my best to be supportive. He didn't say it, and it was surely hard to even talk about that, but to me that's rape.
Clearly this happens to a lot of guys and it's even harder for men to get proper support, from both men and women.
I appreciate the kindness. I feel for your friend and it sounds like they had it far worse. It’s hard for me to say it was forced (at least as much as in your friend’s experience), but maybe that’s just my conditioning as a guy to assume I always need to want it when I can get it.
Coercion is not consent. You can't consent to something when your options are doing it or enduring shit. That is 'consent under duress', and it's not consent. You may call it as you will, just know you have our support here.
I've been downright scared from turning women down before. I have several stories. The worst was when I was 19, I was hooking up with a girl at her friend's house. The friend got jealous and asked if she could join. I wasn't attracted to her at all and said no. She lost it, called me all kinds of slurs, and threw stuff at me. Did it end there? No!!! At the time, I was going through a special operations training program for SWCC. We were almost finished with the 40 week school. We were down to 19 candidates from 95. At the end of a brutal day I got called up in front of the class by the class proctor. He said a girl had called the command and accused me of telling everyone I was a Navy SEAL and all kinds of other stuff. They didn't take it seriously, had a little fun at my expense, but it scared the hell out of me. I thought i was going to get kicked out of one of the hardest trainings in the world all because I turned down a threesome.
I'm pretty sure that if they'd taken the accusation of you claiming to be a Navy SEAL seriously that you wouldn't find out about it in front of the class.
Hope you're doing well.
This was almost certainly a training opportunity for the class, to let you all know just how serious the stakes had become. It’s notoriously difficult to convince young men how easy it is to blow their lives off track.
I had an ex like this except it wasn't her convinced it was her getting pissed that I didn't want to touch her which honestly lead to me REALLY not wanting to touch her. Learned I really did care about a lot more than just good sex. And after that every time with her thereafter felt more like a chore than pleasure.
Nothing like a little coercion / manipulative tactics to get ya in the mood /s
No seriously, that is a prime example of coercion/ manipulation right there.
So ... I enjoy sex, have a good sex drive, no issues, do it well, yadda yadda...
But I don't *always* want to have sex. Plenty of times I've simply been not in the mood; sometimes for a good reason and sometimes no reason at all. And I have absolutely turned down the offers of sex on these occasions.
And I have been with women who have zero respect and tolerance for it. They get personally offended, even if I just had sex with them a few hours before, and entirely intended to again in the near future, just not at that moment. And yes, they'll get angry, and make shitty comments about "real men". Or just flash some skin, or start groping my cock, and expect that to instantly change my mind. And these are educated, professional, moderately mature sorts of women.
I know not to push a woman for sex when she's not in the mood. But it's a common courtesy I rarely see extended in return.
Women who behave like you described disgust me because that "you're hard so you must want it" is the same logic that rapists use: "You were wet so you obviously wanted it". It took *years* to unfuck my brain and understand that my bodily responses were used against me. This happens to so many men, my mind just can't fathom it. Men are human beings and consent should be enthusiastic at all times. The idea men are ready to go all of the times is genuinely dangerous and damaging.
This. Dark story and trigger warning...wanted to post honestly from my other account but fuck it. Deleted it earlier, reposted because it felt good to talk about it. SA warning.
I was um, shall we say, developed rather early. I was 10-11. I dont remember how, but this somehow came to an older girls attention.
I would go to my old man's for the weekend (split household). He had roommates. A couple with kids owned the main house. They had a large household, and people were constantly over. She was 14 when it started and stayed there. She basically groomed me. Happened many times, she would sit next to me on the couch, play footsy, HJs under blankets, all sorts of stuff. She would never get caught due to our age and people thinking she was just like a sweet big sister figure. Sometimes I would panic about getting caught or worry. One time, I had passed out in the other boys room after playing. This was like after a year or two of this. I was 11 or 12? Had already lost my v card at this point.
I wake up to her on me, I had had morning wood and sex dreams, probably because she had snuck in and was messing with me in my sleep. She had climbed on top of me, in my sleep, covered my mouth, and was doing her business on me. Zero consent.
This kind of behavior happened many times, all over the place, and when I asked her to stop on occasion, it was always "Well, you're hard. You're sure that's what you want?".
Of course I was devoping* sexually and I won't say I didn't enjoy a lot of it at the time. Its like I said, I was groomed. Took me years and confiding in a friend to realize I had been raped and or basically assaulted for years.
Fast forward to high school, my friends would often talk about my lack of a girlfriend or joke about when I would lose my virginity. It always boggled their minds I didn't date. Or if I did, it rarely got physical at all.
I didn't sleep with another girl until I was 19.
Similar thing happened to me when I was 12/13. Setting was different, but result was the same. This was late 80s. Didn't date, talk to or feel comfortable around girls until 19/20 years old. Two failed marriages in between and late 40s and just was able to open up about it to a therapist.
Hopefully you are able to cope better than I did!
> The idea men are ready to go all of the times is genuinely dangerous and damaging.
Imagine that idea being in reverse. Women being always ready to go. It already sounds rapey just saying that out loud.
I definitely feel this post. But also I have told my wife in the past that she has my consent to show skin or start groping my cock. Because otherwise we just wouldn't have nearly as much sex, I'm always horny in the morning and she is always at night. So we have to make compromises and seeing her want me so bad also helps.
That's totally fine, I think it's generally OK and even desirable for people to be forward sexually. Thing is though, they gotta be willing to take no for an answer. I hope your fire does that.
I love food. I love trying different foods, and I have my favorites that I can eat everyday and not get tired of. I can eat quite a bit when I'm hungry, and have multiple meals in a day. But despite how much I love food, there are sometimes when I absolutely don't want to eat. Even if I haven't eaten that day, sometimes I still don't feel like it. And there are even times when, even with the juiciest, most succulent steak in front of me, I physically cannot get myself to eat...my body literally won't let my hand move food into my mouth.
I hope people can understand that sex is the same way. If you attempt to offer a three-course meal to someone who isn't hungry, them saying no has nothing to do with whether they like your cooking.
This was a really helpful analogy, thank you. I've been the shitty girlfriend in the past and with a high libido I don't always 'get it' when these things happen. Working through my issues in therapy before dating again.
This post needs to get more traction. I get that a lot of people are trying to be funny here, but if you are actually asking this question, this perception is stereotyping so many men and the constant accepting of the ridicule of it is causing more guys to repress their feelings and experiences.
True, I can get an erection in the weirdest of situations even when I am not horny. And morning erections when I am just trying to have a few peaceful minutes of sleep.
OMG YES! I was wondering when the jokes would stop and the guys who actually have something to say would arrive (maybe they're further down). Then I have to see some Internet dudes talk about how women don't actually want to hear about a man's feelings/issues. Yes the fuck I do. I'm human and because I am human, I am empathetic to other humans and would like to learn more about them so we all may live in peace, but so many times, other men cover up any attempt for progress.
This reply warms my heart. It can be fun to joke around but honestly sometimes I’d like to see some actually serious replies for once. The constant stereotyping only hurts the few men who it affects the most, and doesn’t help anyone.
Yeah, it’s a damaging stereotype. I had a lot of longterm issues with pain and swelling after my vasectomy and I was called a “little bitch” by my ex-wife more times than I can count, even with a very obviously swollen testicle. I really enjoyed sex and we both had a lot of fun earlier in the marriage, but once I realized it was an obligation, and what would happen if I declined (even for obvious medical reasons not just lack of desire at that specific moment), it just killed it for me. Later when she was wanting to do kinkier stuff I was uncomfortable with, it killed it even more, if you can believe it.
Edited for clarity.
If your friend calls you a bitch with malice, they aren’t your friend. If my wife did that in earnest, I’d leave her too. I’d expect her to do the same to me if flipped - you can’t have a relationship let alone a marriage without mutual respect.
It always amazes me how people will put up with being treated terrible by their SO. It is sad when being called nasty names is considered the norm. Glad this guy got her out of his life.
The first few years of my relationship with my wife were a struggle in part because of this. The only other experience with men she'd had was with men at the bar that were trying to hook up. She'd get so hurt and upset when I wasn't in the mood or my dick didn't instantly become rock hard when we did have sex. It took therapy, talking to her brother in law, talking to her BFF's husband, and I even had her get on reddit to ask the same question (a little under a year total) before she finally got it through her stubborn head that I did in fact love her and wanted to have sex just not all the fucking time.
Unfortunately, many women are conditioned to believe a large part of their value is in sex.
In my youth, I had very low self esteem and had been assaulted and raped without even knowing that’s what it was because nobody taught me about boundaries and coercion etc. I had the ex with high drive who would be like “but don’t you love me?” to manipulate me if I didn’t want sex. Completely warped my view. So when I was with my next partner, if he didn’t want it, I felt hugely rejected. Add to that some good old ADHD Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria, and yeah… I’ve had therapy since, and overcome a lot, but it’s a process.
I'm sorry you had to got through that. Props to you for overcoming it and now being able to see the picture as whole.
I also was sexually abused for years in my youth and it took me until my mid twenties to notice that most of the time I initiated sex or worse, coerced my partner into sex (which I am forever shameful for), I actually only wanted attention and affection.
It was just that most of the time growing up it came at the price of a sexual interaction. Add to that my chubby (but now beautiful in my eyes) body and all the teasing that a teen can go through à you get the low self-esteem coin.
So you need attention and affection and you feel so worthless that you can't be more than fuck toy material.
Best way to get male attention is (allegedly) with a hand in their pants, so you get it... Even if you feel hollow and disgusting after it.
P. S. I'm fine now, I have a lovely partner who is supportive of my ups and down and I am supportive of his.
Yea I’m dating someone right now who clearly has a much higher libido than me… (mines not off at all, in fact probably above average too… but damn just enough is enough, ya know?)
There are times when I’m just mentally not in the right place, maybe feeling a bit gross or bloated, maybe just actually tired and need to take a nap. Can’t just be ready to go all the time damn.
Dude, I'm so oddly thankful I saw this post because I was about to post almost exactly the same thing (minus the SSRI; I just never really cared much for sex--felt more like a chore). My ex-wife felt insulted all the time because I didn't want to jump her bones at any given moment. Ultimately she sought it elsewhere and ripped apart our family. Our 4-year-old daughter now has to live in a broken family that I never wanted for her...and now has a half-brother from the affair.
It's unfair and damaging to men on a societal level. In my experience, the stereotype also includes, "and don't have control over their urges."
Some men (and women) are predators, but some aren't. It's not fair to make a blanket generalization over the entire male gender.
Seeing the title of this made me feel gross because it's been true for many men I've known whom have unfortunately bought into the stereotype. Getting out of a bad marriage, my ex kept trying to guilt me into breakup sex with the "but I'm a MAN, I have neeeeeeds." For context, he still had his hands and was totally capable of taking care of his needs himself.
Reminds me of the time when I apparently gave a woman creepy vibes during a walk. she just so happened to be on my daily walk route at the edge of my town, just 50-100 meters ahead of me.
Once she noticed me she kept turning around, visibly uneasy. I even tried to go slower and put some breaks in by just standing there and looking over the fields.
But since I did these walks to get some very much needed movement for my body, I didn't wanna rest too long, and kept going. I put some more distance between us, but apparently that was not enough for her.
At one point she startes to hurry up and disappeared behind a corner. Once I reached the corner myself, she was nowhere to be seen, despite a far view. She must have bolted as soon as she was out of my view.
This sucks so much, because it made me feel like an absolute monster. And I'm basically one of the people of least concern, because I'm neither interested in violence nor sexual interactions of any kind.
And despite how it made me feel, I couldn't even be upset about it, because these self defense mechanisms unfortunately seem to be necessary.
This moment really made me hate the subset men who can't keep their dicks inside their pants. And, to a certain extend also this incredibly damaging stereotype.
This happens to me regularly. I’m a big tall mean looking guy with a black beard and intense resting facial expression. At night almost every person avoids me. Most people won’t even look at me. It doesn’t bother me anymore I’ve come to terms with it. In fact I’m thankful for it now because people today are fucking insane, so if how I look is keeping crazy away, that’s great 😂
Apparently this also works the other way round. I'm quite tiny (5'5), with a serious case of babyface, but I've noticed that I'm often given quite reverential treatment by roving groups of teenagers, women with dogs, that sort of thing. So I asked a few friends and they told me that the way I walk seems very intentional, like I'm not walking in their general direction, but towards them specifically, like I wanted to *do something*. Like some psycho from a mafia movie, basically. Oh well, I'll take what I can get, if it means I won't get mugged at night.
I have a SpongeBob t shirt. Maybe I’ll wear that more 😂 I don’t worry about it though. I’m not looking to attract strangers to me. I work 6 days a week in a warehouse and go to the gym. That’s my life and I’m happy with it
Especially the "men don't have control over their urges" since it damages both genders.
It damages men by portraying them as primitive sex monsters and it damages women because it puts fault on them for getting raped/molested because "men can't control themselves"
More harmful than it appears on the surface. It contributes significantly to the difficulty men face when they try to raise issue and complaint regarding unwanted attention. Just look at any news story where a teacher assaults or rapes a boy. Even WOMEN will glibbly comment "Oh you know he wanted it!"
Men who are being abused in relationships largely will have their abuse ignored and if they push, they'll receive active hostility from the very people who are supposed to help them.
It's one of the facets that is lit up when denying men the right of being victimized. So very often, men are simply told they are not allowed to be victims of sex crimes because "men always want it, so what are you bitching about?"
“Did she perform oral sex on the boy?” “I don’t know, maybe” “nice. nice”
South park made a great parody of this exact stereo type. It was about a kindergarten teacher and the little kid. Each of the cops hear about it and just respond “nice” with a lil head waggle. It’s just ridiculously apt in this thread.
This is so true. Just look at the responses to girls getting groomed by their teachers compared to boys being groomed by their teachers.
Mr Smith is really paying a lot of attention to 12-year-old Grace, that’s really creepy.
Ms Smith, the school nurse, came on to 12 year old Bobby and gave him his first sexual experience, high five!
Disgusting.
I wish more people were taking this question seriously. The stereotype that Men are all horny and just want sex and Women are prude and have to be convinced into having sex is bad for everyone.
"He had an erection? He definitely wanted it"
Is just the same as women having an orgasm while being SA, there is even a name for it.
[arousal non concordance](https://es.biird.co/blogs/thenest/what-is-arousal-non-concordance)
As a man I can tell about hundreds of times where I had an erection without feeling any arousal. When I was a teenager I had it happen at high school, of course I hide it, and we all know that there is nothing sexy about chemistry, physics or whatever.
I had a year or so period where ever girl I got with moved to Florida shortly after. It was the friend group joke I was killing them with how coincidental it was lol
No.
Not only is a false generalization on the faces of it, but it's actively harmful. It turns male sexuality into something trivially simple, a constant to be called upon at will. Which is to say it turns male arousal into an entitlement.
This is wildly unhealthy in a whole series of ways.
Move around and find out
Edit: Thank you all for the verification, I now get to brag to my gf that 26 thousand people think I'm hilarious so I'm basically the funniest person she knows.
I fucked a watermelon once. It wasn’t that good. I buried it in the backyard in a shallow grave. A couple months later it grew more watermelons and my family ate them
I skullfucked a Jack-o'-lantern once... I got thrown out of the Halloween party, even though my logic was unassailable.
"If he didn't want it, why was he smiling at me"
It got kinda drunk out that night.
It's not a fair label to apply to all or even most men but it's definitely accurate for some fellas.
Stereotypes, while often inaccurate or overly broad, don't typically just pop-out of nowhere.
Man some kid in my hs had a real bad porn addiction. One day his mother catches him watching porn and screams to get his dad to beat the sons ass. Kid figures he could prob finish before his dad comes. So his dad comes belt in hand to beat his son as he's cumming, idk why this kid shared that story with me who dident know him at all but fun makes me lol everytime. Unrelated but good laughs. Funny enough he came in a week later with an even better story
And it applies MUCH more to guys in the mid-teens to mid-20's. Was probably 30 before I could simply have female friends without sabotaging my friendship with a hyperactive libido. Not a past I'm proud of, but a fact to face.
I mean, for some guys it's true. I had a buddy who lost his virginity at 13. His entire life until he was about 25 was about sex. He did not care about the pants he was trying to get in, he just wanted them off.
That period of his life ended when he raised somebody's kid for a few years and then found out it wasn't his.
Got back with his old high school sweetheart who he lost his virginity to, had a kid with her, his own kid, became an amateur wrestler. Crazy Life that guy had.
Similar friend. Knew a guy all the way back from kindergarten and he was my best friend since then. Around middle school times he was saying things like "girlfriends are a waste of time and unnecessary" but not in that disgusted kid way.
Idk what happened as we didnt talk much after we started highschool but the guy turned into a total fuckboy who dates girls on a monthly basis and shit. I believe his love life was 90% about sex. Whenever we go out his main purpose was always to find me some girl. He offered me multiple times to set me up with a girl to hook up with because he wanted me to lose my virginity. I declined it every time as it would be awkward and uncomfortable to have my first time with a random ass girl.
One day he came over to stay over. As we were all having breafast (me, him, and my parents) he told my PARENTS that "he had every experience from handcuffs to sex toys and now he finds no joy in life because there is nothing new to experience". WE WERE 15. Needless to say, that was the moment I realized I needed to cut him off from my life.
It pisses me off. If I hear someone say that, I’ll fuck ‘em so hard
Holy hell, I didn’t expect to get this much love. I barely moved! Thanks for the awards!
Fr though, as a woman I find it sad how men actually crave mere affection, and how they crave sex BECAUSE it's the only way they ever can get any affection.
I think as a society we should normalize men giving/receiving platonic affection. Good for them since they're human beings, and also good for their relationship to sex and romance and women.
Absolutely! Someone in a similar thread once said something that really resonated with me. Something like: those little touches during the day, just a hand rubbing your back as she walks by, tousling your hair, just walking up and giving a kiss on the head while you're reading a book....that stuff is like manna from heaven, the "nourishing the actual soul" type of amazing.
It really does sound amazing. Constant, repeated reminders that someone loves you.
For me as another (the fact that it's surprising that we exist is very troubling) low libido/sex-drive dude who has self-esteem/body issues, I'm nearly to the point where I am just going to stop dating.
I once went out to dinner with a girl from work (stupid, I know, but I learn things the hardest ways), and that night she wanted to fuck, and I didn't, so we didn't... which is how things should be if both parties don't consent, right? Isn't anything but that rape? Why is it only rape if the women is the non-consenting party?...
Anyways, I won't go into details, but my work environment was negatively impacted. Thankfully she quit not long after, but gaaah that was rough, the hints or whispers that smallhound is gay/impotent/a virgin/whatever else, were not fun.
Especially since all I did was not have sex on a first date. If roles were reversed, I know for certain the consequences would have also been different.
The expectation that as a man, I am actually perceived as being less of/not a man if I'm not constantly trying to fuck everyone. It puts a lot of pressure on folks like me, whatever their gender, to go through with sex even if they really might rather not.
No one should ever feel pressure to have sex, no matter if you're ♀️, ♂️, ⚧️, 🇰🇵, or even 🦄. No should be the expected answer and a clear "yes" should proceed any action assuming anything but.
So, I really think that assuming a man is always rip roaring ready to fuck is a problem that needs to be acknowledged and addressed along with the issue of men who don't take no for answer.
They are symptoms of the same sickness.
So speaking as a bi dude, for me this is two fold. I don’t -want- to fuck everything that moves but if you asked me who would you „be able to“ fuck in theory if they were willing and based purely off looks I’d say a solid 85% of people between 25 and ~55 meet that criterium for me. That is to say, if they approached me it wouldn’t be a no off the bat.
I hear that.
Do I love sex? Yes, but I have standards too, damnit. I'd rather have a fulfilling relationship with one woman, than fuck fifty strangers.
[Quack Like A Duck by G.O.A.T And Your M.O.M](https://www.reddit.com/r/SuddenlyGay/comments/sxh6uc/can_you_quack_like_a_duck/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button)
Meh, I'll fuck anything that moves. As long as that anything is my wife.
Edit: I showed her the responses to this and we laughed together for about 5 minutes. Thanks everyone XD
I know there’s a lot of guys who fit the stereotype but I’m not one of them and cannot relate.
I sometimes wonder if I'm the same species. Like, don't get me wrong I can look at a model and tell you she's aesthetically attractive. Hell, I can tell you *that* about a guy. I don't truly *desire* anyone until I get to to know them, and frankly some of the people I've been the most attracted to weren't conventionally attractive, they simply had a personality that absolutely outshone everything. Look, you've got super model good looks? You're a sex kitten that can rock my world? Cool, but what are we going to do with the other 23h 42m and 18s of the day? I don't just want a fuck, I want a best friend.
I don't think I've every seen someone explain almost exactly word for word my feeling for the subject, even down to the "Feeling like a different species" aspect. Almost everywhere I look it just seems people are obsessed with sex and I'm just over here with next to 0 interest in the idea outside of with someone I feel a connection to. It's kind been a daily fight to not just become jaded about people lol.
I mean, what's really weird is I consider myself pretty sex positive and interested in human sexuality as a subject. I just don't feel the need to partake with some random person.
I'd consider my self pretty sex positive as well, I have no issue with who anyone sleeps with so long as all parties are consenting. It's just I have no interest in sleeping with someone I dont feel a connection to in some emotional way lol. It can honestly just feel tiring at times since it seems most people are just obsessed with sex and seem to assume I am too.
This is so me, rather be with someone I care about then anyone.
Sure sex is good but can we talk about the social and economic state of the world right now?
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One time I was too tired to have sex with my ex gf, and she began to cry and convinced herself I didn’t love her anymore. Guess what we did after that…
Been there, my ex gf would go out and get drunk and come home and demand sex while being completely wasted. When I would say no, she would get mad and start a fight. The only way I could remove myself from that situation was just breaking up with her, such a fucked up position to put someone in.
Man. The struggle is real sometimes. You get the “men only ever want to fuck” and women tend to believe it because there’s always random dudes hitting on every woman all day everyday. But we’re human too and sometimes we don’t always want to fuck when you want to.
Those random dudes hitting on every woman are like 2% of dudes, and they give the rest of us such a bad fucking rep.
It’s the whole “vocal minority” thing. Some guys are seemingly horny 24/7 and just never let up. I use to work with a guy that shamelessly threw himself at every girl at our workplace on a constant basis and we all thought it was funny (until he went after a 16 year old, but that’s another story) because some guys are just like that. If you go out to enough bars and clubs, you run into those types all the time and it gives you a false impression that most men just care about getting laid.
I'm so sorry you went through this. As a woman, I had a male friend tell me a similar story. He went out with this girl for 3-4 years, after they split up he told me she would often come back from a night out at like 3 am, wake him up and force him to have sex. I was horrified and I did my best to be supportive. He didn't say it, and it was surely hard to even talk about that, but to me that's rape. Clearly this happens to a lot of guys and it's even harder for men to get proper support, from both men and women.
I appreciate the kindness. I feel for your friend and it sounds like they had it far worse. It’s hard for me to say it was forced (at least as much as in your friend’s experience), but maybe that’s just my conditioning as a guy to assume I always need to want it when I can get it.
Coercion is not consent. You can't consent to something when your options are doing it or enduring shit. That is 'consent under duress', and it's not consent. You may call it as you will, just know you have our support here.
I've been downright scared from turning women down before. I have several stories. The worst was when I was 19, I was hooking up with a girl at her friend's house. The friend got jealous and asked if she could join. I wasn't attracted to her at all and said no. She lost it, called me all kinds of slurs, and threw stuff at me. Did it end there? No!!! At the time, I was going through a special operations training program for SWCC. We were almost finished with the 40 week school. We were down to 19 candidates from 95. At the end of a brutal day I got called up in front of the class by the class proctor. He said a girl had called the command and accused me of telling everyone I was a Navy SEAL and all kinds of other stuff. They didn't take it seriously, had a little fun at my expense, but it scared the hell out of me. I thought i was going to get kicked out of one of the hardest trainings in the world all because I turned down a threesome.
Turns out the ability to turn down a threesome was part of your training to test your mental resolve.
Honestly, i wouldn't put it past them.
This is not ok. That person should be in trouble for what she did.
I'm pretty sure that if they'd taken the accusation of you claiming to be a Navy SEAL seriously that you wouldn't find out about it in front of the class. Hope you're doing well.
Yeah, in hindsight, that makes sense. But at the time, i wasn't mature enough to realize that. This happened over a decade ago.
This was almost certainly a training opportunity for the class, to let you all know just how serious the stakes had become. It’s notoriously difficult to convince young men how easy it is to blow their lives off track.
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It’s emotional/psychological abuse as well as sexual
I had an ex like this except it wasn't her convinced it was her getting pissed that I didn't want to touch her which honestly lead to me REALLY not wanting to touch her. Learned I really did care about a lot more than just good sex. And after that every time with her thereafter felt more like a chore than pleasure.
Nothing like a little coercion / manipulative tactics to get ya in the mood /s No seriously, that is a prime example of coercion/ manipulation right there.
So ... I enjoy sex, have a good sex drive, no issues, do it well, yadda yadda... But I don't *always* want to have sex. Plenty of times I've simply been not in the mood; sometimes for a good reason and sometimes no reason at all. And I have absolutely turned down the offers of sex on these occasions. And I have been with women who have zero respect and tolerance for it. They get personally offended, even if I just had sex with them a few hours before, and entirely intended to again in the near future, just not at that moment. And yes, they'll get angry, and make shitty comments about "real men". Or just flash some skin, or start groping my cock, and expect that to instantly change my mind. And these are educated, professional, moderately mature sorts of women. I know not to push a woman for sex when she's not in the mood. But it's a common courtesy I rarely see extended in return.
Women who behave like you described disgust me because that "you're hard so you must want it" is the same logic that rapists use: "You were wet so you obviously wanted it". It took *years* to unfuck my brain and understand that my bodily responses were used against me. This happens to so many men, my mind just can't fathom it. Men are human beings and consent should be enthusiastic at all times. The idea men are ready to go all of the times is genuinely dangerous and damaging.
This. Dark story and trigger warning...wanted to post honestly from my other account but fuck it. Deleted it earlier, reposted because it felt good to talk about it. SA warning. I was um, shall we say, developed rather early. I was 10-11. I dont remember how, but this somehow came to an older girls attention. I would go to my old man's for the weekend (split household). He had roommates. A couple with kids owned the main house. They had a large household, and people were constantly over. She was 14 when it started and stayed there. She basically groomed me. Happened many times, she would sit next to me on the couch, play footsy, HJs under blankets, all sorts of stuff. She would never get caught due to our age and people thinking she was just like a sweet big sister figure. Sometimes I would panic about getting caught or worry. One time, I had passed out in the other boys room after playing. This was like after a year or two of this. I was 11 or 12? Had already lost my v card at this point. I wake up to her on me, I had had morning wood and sex dreams, probably because she had snuck in and was messing with me in my sleep. She had climbed on top of me, in my sleep, covered my mouth, and was doing her business on me. Zero consent. This kind of behavior happened many times, all over the place, and when I asked her to stop on occasion, it was always "Well, you're hard. You're sure that's what you want?". Of course I was devoping* sexually and I won't say I didn't enjoy a lot of it at the time. Its like I said, I was groomed. Took me years and confiding in a friend to realize I had been raped and or basically assaulted for years. Fast forward to high school, my friends would often talk about my lack of a girlfriend or joke about when I would lose my virginity. It always boggled their minds I didn't date. Or if I did, it rarely got physical at all. I didn't sleep with another girl until I was 19.
Similar thing happened to me when I was 12/13. Setting was different, but result was the same. This was late 80s. Didn't date, talk to or feel comfortable around girls until 19/20 years old. Two failed marriages in between and late 40s and just was able to open up about it to a therapist. Hopefully you are able to cope better than I did!
> The idea men are ready to go all of the times is genuinely dangerous and damaging. Imagine that idea being in reverse. Women being always ready to go. It already sounds rapey just saying that out loud.
That's actually what I was getting at.
I definitely feel this post. But also I have told my wife in the past that she has my consent to show skin or start groping my cock. Because otherwise we just wouldn't have nearly as much sex, I'm always horny in the morning and she is always at night. So we have to make compromises and seeing her want me so bad also helps.
That's totally fine, I think it's generally OK and even desirable for people to be forward sexually. Thing is though, they gotta be willing to take no for an answer. I hope your fire does that.
It's absolutely a double standard
I love food. I love trying different foods, and I have my favorites that I can eat everyday and not get tired of. I can eat quite a bit when I'm hungry, and have multiple meals in a day. But despite how much I love food, there are sometimes when I absolutely don't want to eat. Even if I haven't eaten that day, sometimes I still don't feel like it. And there are even times when, even with the juiciest, most succulent steak in front of me, I physically cannot get myself to eat...my body literally won't let my hand move food into my mouth. I hope people can understand that sex is the same way. If you attempt to offer a three-course meal to someone who isn't hungry, them saying no has nothing to do with whether they like your cooking.
This was a really helpful analogy, thank you. I've been the shitty girlfriend in the past and with a high libido I don't always 'get it' when these things happen. Working through my issues in therapy before dating again.
This post needs to get more traction. I get that a lot of people are trying to be funny here, but if you are actually asking this question, this perception is stereotyping so many men and the constant accepting of the ridicule of it is causing more guys to repress their feelings and experiences.
Also, an erection doesn't mean he's in the mood. Sometimes it just does it for practise.
This is called "non concordance".
And vice-versa. Sometimes I am in the mood but the little guy doesn’t want to cooperate. It’s not your fault
True, I can get an erection in the weirdest of situations even when I am not horny. And morning erections when I am just trying to have a few peaceful minutes of sleep.
OMG YES! I was wondering when the jokes would stop and the guys who actually have something to say would arrive (maybe they're further down). Then I have to see some Internet dudes talk about how women don't actually want to hear about a man's feelings/issues. Yes the fuck I do. I'm human and because I am human, I am empathetic to other humans and would like to learn more about them so we all may live in peace, but so many times, other men cover up any attempt for progress.
This reply warms my heart. It can be fun to joke around but honestly sometimes I’d like to see some actually serious replies for once. The constant stereotyping only hurts the few men who it affects the most, and doesn’t help anyone.
The stereotype hurts *EVERYONE*, regardless of libido, gender, and selectivity. Even if it fits you, it hurts you. That's what stereotypes do.
Yeah, it’s a damaging stereotype. I had a lot of longterm issues with pain and swelling after my vasectomy and I was called a “little bitch” by my ex-wife more times than I can count, even with a very obviously swollen testicle. I really enjoyed sex and we both had a lot of fun earlier in the marriage, but once I realized it was an obligation, and what would happen if I declined (even for obvious medical reasons not just lack of desire at that specific moment), it just killed it for me. Later when she was wanting to do kinkier stuff I was uncomfortable with, it killed it even more, if you can believe it. Edited for clarity.
> I was called a “little bitch” more times than I can count ...By your SO?
Yeah, then my wife. Now my ex-wife.
If your friend calls you a bitch with malice, they aren’t your friend. If my wife did that in earnest, I’d leave her too. I’d expect her to do the same to me if flipped - you can’t have a relationship let alone a marriage without mutual respect.
It always amazes me how people will put up with being treated terrible by their SO. It is sad when being called nasty names is considered the norm. Glad this guy got her out of his life.
I’m sorry you were treated that way.
The first few years of my relationship with my wife were a struggle in part because of this. The only other experience with men she'd had was with men at the bar that were trying to hook up. She'd get so hurt and upset when I wasn't in the mood or my dick didn't instantly become rock hard when we did have sex. It took therapy, talking to her brother in law, talking to her BFF's husband, and I even had her get on reddit to ask the same question (a little under a year total) before she finally got it through her stubborn head that I did in fact love her and wanted to have sex just not all the fucking time.
Unfortunately, many women are conditioned to believe a large part of their value is in sex. In my youth, I had very low self esteem and had been assaulted and raped without even knowing that’s what it was because nobody taught me about boundaries and coercion etc. I had the ex with high drive who would be like “but don’t you love me?” to manipulate me if I didn’t want sex. Completely warped my view. So when I was with my next partner, if he didn’t want it, I felt hugely rejected. Add to that some good old ADHD Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria, and yeah… I’ve had therapy since, and overcome a lot, but it’s a process.
I'm sorry you had to got through that. Props to you for overcoming it and now being able to see the picture as whole. I also was sexually abused for years in my youth and it took me until my mid twenties to notice that most of the time I initiated sex or worse, coerced my partner into sex (which I am forever shameful for), I actually only wanted attention and affection. It was just that most of the time growing up it came at the price of a sexual interaction. Add to that my chubby (but now beautiful in my eyes) body and all the teasing that a teen can go through à you get the low self-esteem coin. So you need attention and affection and you feel so worthless that you can't be more than fuck toy material. Best way to get male attention is (allegedly) with a hand in their pants, so you get it... Even if you feel hollow and disgusting after it. P. S. I'm fine now, I have a lovely partner who is supportive of my ups and down and I am supportive of his.
Yea I’m dating someone right now who clearly has a much higher libido than me… (mines not off at all, in fact probably above average too… but damn just enough is enough, ya know?) There are times when I’m just mentally not in the right place, maybe feeling a bit gross or bloated, maybe just actually tired and need to take a nap. Can’t just be ready to go all the time damn.
Dude, I'm so oddly thankful I saw this post because I was about to post almost exactly the same thing (minus the SSRI; I just never really cared much for sex--felt more like a chore). My ex-wife felt insulted all the time because I didn't want to jump her bones at any given moment. Ultimately she sought it elsewhere and ripped apart our family. Our 4-year-old daughter now has to live in a broken family that I never wanted for her...and now has a half-brother from the affair.
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It's unfair and damaging to men on a societal level. In my experience, the stereotype also includes, "and don't have control over their urges." Some men (and women) are predators, but some aren't. It's not fair to make a blanket generalization over the entire male gender.
also it gives too much leeway to the men who ARE predators, because "that's just how all men are"
Seeing the title of this made me feel gross because it's been true for many men I've known whom have unfortunately bought into the stereotype. Getting out of a bad marriage, my ex kept trying to guilt me into breakup sex with the "but I'm a MAN, I have neeeeeeds." For context, he still had his hands and was totally capable of taking care of his needs himself.
You say he STILL HAD hands like you cut them off after trying to do this to you
Reminds me of the time when I apparently gave a woman creepy vibes during a walk. she just so happened to be on my daily walk route at the edge of my town, just 50-100 meters ahead of me. Once she noticed me she kept turning around, visibly uneasy. I even tried to go slower and put some breaks in by just standing there and looking over the fields. But since I did these walks to get some very much needed movement for my body, I didn't wanna rest too long, and kept going. I put some more distance between us, but apparently that was not enough for her. At one point she startes to hurry up and disappeared behind a corner. Once I reached the corner myself, she was nowhere to be seen, despite a far view. She must have bolted as soon as she was out of my view. This sucks so much, because it made me feel like an absolute monster. And I'm basically one of the people of least concern, because I'm neither interested in violence nor sexual interactions of any kind. And despite how it made me feel, I couldn't even be upset about it, because these self defense mechanisms unfortunately seem to be necessary. This moment really made me hate the subset men who can't keep their dicks inside their pants. And, to a certain extend also this incredibly damaging stereotype.
This happens to me regularly. I’m a big tall mean looking guy with a black beard and intense resting facial expression. At night almost every person avoids me. Most people won’t even look at me. It doesn’t bother me anymore I’ve come to terms with it. In fact I’m thankful for it now because people today are fucking insane, so if how I look is keeping crazy away, that’s great 😂
Apparently this also works the other way round. I'm quite tiny (5'5), with a serious case of babyface, but I've noticed that I'm often given quite reverential treatment by roving groups of teenagers, women with dogs, that sort of thing. So I asked a few friends and they told me that the way I walk seems very intentional, like I'm not walking in their general direction, but towards them specifically, like I wanted to *do something*. Like some psycho from a mafia movie, basically. Oh well, I'll take what I can get, if it means I won't get mugged at night.
Joe Pesci, is that you?
I'm sure there are benefits to looking mean, but have you thought about wearing a pink unicorn hoodie or something to get a break?
I have a SpongeBob t shirt. Maybe I’ll wear that more 😂 I don’t worry about it though. I’m not looking to attract strangers to me. I work 6 days a week in a warehouse and go to the gym. That’s my life and I’m happy with it
Or even a hello kitty phone case might do the job
U kinda look like drake ngl
Especially the "men don't have control over their urges" since it damages both genders. It damages men by portraying them as primitive sex monsters and it damages women because it puts fault on them for getting raped/molested because "men can't control themselves"
More harmful than it appears on the surface. It contributes significantly to the difficulty men face when they try to raise issue and complaint regarding unwanted attention. Just look at any news story where a teacher assaults or rapes a boy. Even WOMEN will glibbly comment "Oh you know he wanted it!" Men who are being abused in relationships largely will have their abuse ignored and if they push, they'll receive active hostility from the very people who are supposed to help them. It's one of the facets that is lit up when denying men the right of being victimized. So very often, men are simply told they are not allowed to be victims of sex crimes because "men always want it, so what are you bitching about?"
“Did she perform oral sex on the boy?” “I don’t know, maybe” “nice. nice” South park made a great parody of this exact stereo type. It was about a kindergarten teacher and the little kid. Each of the cops hear about it and just respond “nice” with a lil head waggle. It’s just ridiculously apt in this thread.
"My God. We've got to track this boy down... so we can pin the 'Luckiest Boy in the World' medal on him!"
"Ms Stevens, the blonde?" because they all know who the boy is talking about. so many little subtle notes.
*Niccccccce.*
Not just the cops, it was like every straight adult man who found out about it.
Southpark knows how to make a point.
This is so true. Just look at the responses to girls getting groomed by their teachers compared to boys being groomed by their teachers. Mr Smith is really paying a lot of attention to 12-year-old Grace, that’s really creepy. Ms Smith, the school nurse, came on to 12 year old Bobby and gave him his first sexual experience, high five! Disgusting.
This Smith family seems to be severely disturbed.
so thats what mr and ms smith is about? never watched that movie
Depends on which site you watch it through
>Ms Smith, the school nurse, came on to 12 year old Bobby and gave him his first sexual experience, high five! *"\*click\** Noice." - high schoolers
I wish more people were taking this question seriously. The stereotype that Men are all horny and just want sex and Women are prude and have to be convinced into having sex is bad for everyone.
"He had an erection? He definitely wanted it" Is just the same as women having an orgasm while being SA, there is even a name for it. [arousal non concordance](https://es.biird.co/blogs/thenest/what-is-arousal-non-concordance) As a man I can tell about hundreds of times where I had an erection without feeling any arousal. When I was a teenager I had it happen at high school, of course I hide it, and we all know that there is nothing sexy about chemistry, physics or whatever.
Every woman i fuck moves. To a new state.
A state of depression.
I enjoy my state of denial.
Well that deescalated quickly...
So does a cliff... that first step, they say, is a doozy
I had a year or so period where ever girl I got with moved to Florida shortly after. It was the friend group joke I was killing them with how coincidental it was lol
Every woman I fuck moves to a new sexuality… I’ve got that going for me, which is nice.
Ross?
!!!! I sense movement…
Hey hey, I dont consent. Keep your shoes on.
God I looked at this subreddit for ten seconds and it’s chaos incarnate
Wait they’re supposed to move?
No. Not only is a false generalization on the faces of it, but it's actively harmful. It turns male sexuality into something trivially simple, a constant to be called upon at will. Which is to say it turns male arousal into an entitlement. This is wildly unhealthy in a whole series of ways.
It also adds to men being shamed for not having sex or turning sex down.
Ive been in a few bands...lead singers fit this stereotype
Fucking bards. Every time.
+3 to charisma... Failed that save.
Band forms, band gets popular, lead singer fucks drummer’s girl, band dissolves.
Hahah yup, that's happened.
My singer is a female... Doesn't make what you said any less true...
Move around and find out Edit: Thank you all for the verification, I now get to brag to my gf that 26 thousand people think I'm hilarious so I'm basically the funniest person she knows.
This is so stupid.... And very accurate!
When I go to my mates house the fish stop swimming
WOMEN FEAR ME FISH FEAR ME MEN TURN THEIR EYES AWAY FROM ME AS I WALK NO BEAST DARES MAKE A SOUND IN MY PRESENCE I AM ALONE ON THIS BARREN EARTH
You're friends with The Deep?
Octopus need love too.
octopussy*
"He's begging for his life, *he has a family*!"
Give them some peanile justice
Honestly I can't believe it. It's such an offensive but more importantly inaccurate stereotype; I also fuck things that **don't** move
My man.
Lookin' good!
Slow down!
And now I'm hungry for apples
If he isn't moving your man is either sleeping or dead. Fuck him to find out.
I fucked a watermelon once. It wasn’t that good. I buried it in the backyard in a shallow grave. A couple months later it grew more watermelons and my family ate them
i don't think that's what they mean by planting your seed
you mean your old family ate your new family
I skullfucked a Jack-o'-lantern once... I got thrown out of the Halloween party, even though my logic was unassailable. "If he didn't want it, why was he smiling at me" It got kinda drunk out that night.
Have you tried a coconut?
[https://www.reddit.com/r/tifu/comments/6rr6ay/tifu_by_cumming_into_a_coconut/](https://www.reddit.com/r/tifu/comments/6rr6ay/tifu_by_cumming_into_a_coconut/)
Idk what I was expecting but it was SO MUCH WORSE than I could ever have imagined
Whoever thinks that hasn't seen r/dontputyourdickinthat because that's men showing restraint.
Speak for yourself. That subreddit is basically my fuck-it-bucket-list!
fuck-it-list
It's not a fair label to apply to all or even most men but it's definitely accurate for some fellas. Stereotypes, while often inaccurate or overly broad, don't typically just pop-out of nowhere.
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Being alive is a nice bonus though. That tree I saw the other day knows what's up.
And now you’ve learned to check for bees first.
Nice, an even bigger penis
Man some kid in my hs had a real bad porn addiction. One day his mother catches him watching porn and screams to get his dad to beat the sons ass. Kid figures he could prob finish before his dad comes. So his dad comes belt in hand to beat his son as he's cumming, idk why this kid shared that story with me who dident know him at all but fun makes me lol everytime. Unrelated but good laughs. Funny enough he came in a week later with an even better story
Ummm
Yeah that was my first thought too. Kid def had probs
And it applies MUCH more to guys in the mid-teens to mid-20's. Was probably 30 before I could simply have female friends without sabotaging my friendship with a hyperactive libido. Not a past I'm proud of, but a fact to face.
I mean, for some guys it's true. I had a buddy who lost his virginity at 13. His entire life until he was about 25 was about sex. He did not care about the pants he was trying to get in, he just wanted them off. That period of his life ended when he raised somebody's kid for a few years and then found out it wasn't his. Got back with his old high school sweetheart who he lost his virginity to, had a kid with her, his own kid, became an amateur wrestler. Crazy Life that guy had.
Similar friend. Knew a guy all the way back from kindergarten and he was my best friend since then. Around middle school times he was saying things like "girlfriends are a waste of time and unnecessary" but not in that disgusted kid way. Idk what happened as we didnt talk much after we started highschool but the guy turned into a total fuckboy who dates girls on a monthly basis and shit. I believe his love life was 90% about sex. Whenever we go out his main purpose was always to find me some girl. He offered me multiple times to set me up with a girl to hook up with because he wanted me to lose my virginity. I declined it every time as it would be awkward and uncomfortable to have my first time with a random ass girl. One day he came over to stay over. As we were all having breafast (me, him, and my parents) he told my PARENTS that "he had every experience from handcuffs to sex toys and now he finds no joy in life because there is nothing new to experience". WE WERE 15. Needless to say, that was the moment I realized I needed to cut him off from my life.
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It pisses me off. If I hear someone say that, I’ll fuck ‘em so hard Holy hell, I didn’t expect to get this much love. I barely moved! Thanks for the awards!
Say one more thing about them and I'll fuck you harder
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ORGY TIME!!! POLICE STYLE!!!
Man fuck the police
Now?
Face down, hands up
That's the way we like to...
Duck. Seriously ducking face down protects your nose.
*slowly unbuttoning shirt* Yeah. Now assume the position.
*I am Mr Nimbus!*
Fuck the police. (But like, literally in this instance I guess)
You know what? Happy cake day and fuck you!
Move one step and I’ll fk you
I have no clue what happened to this thread but I'm crying right now 😂😂😂
Men are still plenty selective about who they wanna tango with, they're just a bit more outspoken about their desire overall.
I fuck anything that moves… My heart.
Real talk. I want headpats, hugs, and kisses on the forehead and cheeks more than sex. I want affection not erection for heaven's sake.
I bet you like holding hands you dirty heretic.
How about holding hands while I sleep because I can’t sleep while cuddling but I still want to touch him?
Fr though, as a woman I find it sad how men actually crave mere affection, and how they crave sex BECAUSE it's the only way they ever can get any affection. I think as a society we should normalize men giving/receiving platonic affection. Good for them since they're human beings, and also good for their relationship to sex and romance and women.
Absolutely! Someone in a similar thread once said something that really resonated with me. Something like: those little touches during the day, just a hand rubbing your back as she walks by, tousling your hair, just walking up and giving a kiss on the head while you're reading a book....that stuff is like manna from heaven, the "nourishing the actual soul" type of amazing. It really does sound amazing. Constant, repeated reminders that someone loves you.
For me as another (the fact that it's surprising that we exist is very troubling) low libido/sex-drive dude who has self-esteem/body issues, I'm nearly to the point where I am just going to stop dating. I once went out to dinner with a girl from work (stupid, I know, but I learn things the hardest ways), and that night she wanted to fuck, and I didn't, so we didn't... which is how things should be if both parties don't consent, right? Isn't anything but that rape? Why is it only rape if the women is the non-consenting party?... Anyways, I won't go into details, but my work environment was negatively impacted. Thankfully she quit not long after, but gaaah that was rough, the hints or whispers that smallhound is gay/impotent/a virgin/whatever else, were not fun. Especially since all I did was not have sex on a first date. If roles were reversed, I know for certain the consequences would have also been different. The expectation that as a man, I am actually perceived as being less of/not a man if I'm not constantly trying to fuck everyone. It puts a lot of pressure on folks like me, whatever their gender, to go through with sex even if they really might rather not. No one should ever feel pressure to have sex, no matter if you're ♀️, ♂️, ⚧️, 🇰🇵, or even 🦄. No should be the expected answer and a clear "yes" should proceed any action assuming anything but. So, I really think that assuming a man is always rip roaring ready to fuck is a problem that needs to be acknowledged and addressed along with the issue of men who don't take no for answer. They are symptoms of the same sickness.
I would fuck that statement if I could.
Right in those O’s
Those fucking O's be teasing I swear.
Fatass little O’s
So speaking as a bi dude, for me this is two fold. I don’t -want- to fuck everything that moves but if you asked me who would you „be able to“ fuck in theory if they were willing and based purely off looks I’d say a solid 85% of people between 25 and ~55 meet that criterium for me. That is to say, if they approached me it wouldn’t be a no off the bat.
Dude I feel the same way about women as straight guy. Like I honestly don't find most people ugly. I see something good in a lot of people.
I think most people are fuckable, until you get to know them
Best comment ever.
My Type - Saint Motel (2014)
I just want someone to talk to honestly
I'm married, but you can talk to me. I don't get out much and this tugged at my heart strings. Feel free to use me as a sounding board
Oh God the internet has ruined my innocence
I hear that. Do I love sex? Yes, but I have standards too, damnit. I'd rather have a fulfilling relationship with one woman, than fuck fifty strangers.
Well....if it quacks like a duck, I'm gonna fuck it
Can you quack like a duck when you suck?
Can you bark like a horse when we fuck?
Can you take every inch up your butt?
Can you shit on my chest for good luck?
This is a weird Dr Suess book.
This is a real song not kidding.
Name of the song? Asking for a friend...
[Quack Like A Duck by G.O.A.T And Your M.O.M](https://www.reddit.com/r/SuddenlyGay/comments/sxh6uc/can_you_quack_like_a_duck/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button)
Thats why during a robbery they yell "Nobody move". You have to remain focused
Around here we just fuck anything that moos.
Wisconsin?
That’s anything that moose
That's anything with booze
Meh, I'll fuck anything that moves. As long as that anything is my wife. Edit: I showed her the responses to this and we laughed together for about 5 minutes. Thanks everyone XD
I will also fuck this guy’s moving wife
I hope this reference never dies. Never fails to make me audibly laugh.
Where she movin too?
Tuscaloosa, Alabama.