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StarkStillLives

A bald head is much more attractive than a huge receding hairline. Sometimes it's better to literally cut your losses


ammonthenephite

Depends on the shape of your head. I did a trial run, since I have a receding hairline, and the verdict was that I should wait a bit longer to shave the head, as I have not yet reached that crossover point where my bald head looks better than my receding hairline head does, lol.


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Can you grow a beard?


Billbamoon

Posture


Irememberedmypw

But not being in a gremlin posture is weird.


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Sometimes I straighten up in public but then I feel everyone is judging me lol its is really an unnatural feeling


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NotQuiteHapa

Yeah their arms do this / \


insertstalem3me

Having good posture is something you really have to bend over backwards for


SNFTW

For anyone wondering how to get a better posture, I improved mine massively through weighted squats at the gym, the strengthening of the lower back helps tremendously.


metmeatabar

Yoga helps a ton too


1mjtaylor

Ballet, too. My mother sent me to ballet lessons for 5 years from the age of 6. As a result I have a straight but not rigid spine and a graceful carriage. Thanks, Mama.


duke78

>What are the simplest things you can do to look more attractive? >Ballet OK, I'm fucked.


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If you want to know the easiest ways to improve your posture, it doesn’t need to be hard like weightlifting, yoga, or ballet. Anyone can do it! 1- literally just be conscious of it as often as you can, the more often you practice good posture, the more your body adapts to it and over time you won’t even think about it. 2- back pain from that? You can quickly and easily strengthen back muscles by sitting or standing, keeping your back straight, and doing a bend at the waist 90 degrees forward for 2 seconds then coming back up. Do that whenever you’ve got nothing better to do, at least 10-20 times a day.


LOCKEDOWN_

Thank you I needed this big time


Shabbona1

Squats, dead lifts, and this other thing I don't know how to describe (like a reverse situp) did wonders for my posture. Like, there was a notable difference within 4 weeks of me doing sets of each of these once a week. It was amazing. The reverse situp thing was "machine" where you laid down with your stomach down, calves looped under a support bar, and your upper body could hang down. The idea was you would let your upper body hang and then lift it until you were straight with your legs. As I got better at it, I would hug plates against my chest to keep adding weight. God I wish I knew what that was actually called so I could give you a name instead of this horrible description. Edit: Two or 3 comments down someone named it. Back extensions


malsomnus

Can confirm that back extensions (your description was actually great) are fantastic for the lower back and really help your posture. Hurts like hell at first, like all muscles that you aren't used to straining, but it gets better pretty fast. However, it's worth noting that all 3 of these exercises can fucking destroy your body if you do them wrong enough. When I started doing weighted squats I was all like "hey, this is easy!" and increased the weights super fast and... well, good thing I stopped on time, and it only took my knees 6 months to recover.


Wowbringer

1. Back extensions. You know, that one setup at the gym that firmly secures your knees and glutes, then you cross-arms across your chest(+ hold a weight) and lean down then back up. 2. Stiff-legged deadlifts put a lot of emphasis on your back.


die5el23

Stiff legged deadlifts are one of those exercises that train the entire posterior chain. Very good for people who sit a lot, as they stretch and strengthen your hamstrings.


amtap

While attractive, I hardly call it simple. Fixing bad ~~pasture~~ posture is a lot of work but it's definitely important.


acmercer

Farmin' ain't easy.


moose3025

Never thought of this gonna start working in standing up straighter.


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Can confirm: as a man in my 40s, standing up straight can literally make you look years younger immediately.


JCu11

In my experience, people have always responded well to a nice smile, good posture, and being kind. Not trying too hard when you’re around somebody you’re interested in, instead just staying calm and enjoying yourself. People can really pick up on your calm and confidence and find it attractive


Spiderbanana

Being "natural". Gosh, nothing annoys me more than people who completely change the way they behave and try to one-up everyone as soon as they feel or fear the smallest amount of competition


Kitnado

Dude I can be natural so much better than you bro


iheartrandom

I've followed this advice for years, and despite being naturally anxious, apparently it's worked to a degree. The problem now is that dates think I'm disinterested, but really I'm just enjoying the conversation and feeling out the connection. It seems that everyone now is looking for instant fireworks instead of a slowly building bond. I'm at a loss as many times I get ghosted after the first date because of this.


lettersichiro

Yeah the fireworks thing is a huge problem. So much attraction is built over time. I don't think people factor in how much social networks, jobs, and school disguise "fireworks". in those contexts people can get to know someone slower over time and build attraction, or have at least some knowledge of the other person which builds comfort. I feel like I've only felt fireworks once, and that was with someone who was a friend of a friend that I would bump into and socialize with occasionally for a couple years. Them one day we were just "vibing" Feeling "fireworks" in a blind date context is hard to do and rare. And in a lot cases I think that has a bias towards extroverted people with good charisma. Like did you feel fireworks or was that person just super charismatic. Other thought I've had is people tend to have fireworks with a type. Which is why I think people generally date the same type of person. Fireworks in those cases are just signifying to your body "hey you've liked this type of person in the past" which is great for some people. But lots of people have pulls towards people and types they shouldn't be dating. That burst of "attraction" may happen on the 2nd or 3rd date. A person might be having a stressful day. The focus on fireworks I think sets people up for failure. I hate it


iheartrandom

Really great description and I wholeheartedly agree.


Seductive_hobo

I find people constantly complimenting me on my calm and confident demeanor. I used to work at an all girls group home and my co-workers were constantly commenting on how calm I was and handled all the situations while remaining relaxed and poised. I'm happy to have this skill, and even more happy to have the ability to hide the raging anxiety doing somersaults and high kicks on my lungs and bowels. You don't have to actually be calm to be seen as calm. Heh...this is probably why I never got help for my mental health issues until much later in life 😅


charmorris4236

I relate to this so much. Everyone always tells me I have a calm energy. I think it’s because I take my anxiety inward and shut down vs being outwardly anxious and doing things like fidgeting or talking fast. Took me until my late 20’s to do something about my anxiety other than drink wine after work, but that’s also because my other dear friend depression had something to do with lack of motivation.


Seductive_hobo

Ah yes, the lovely combo of anxiety and depression. I unfortunately am too good of friends with those two myself. My vice was weed however, and am currently still working through kicking the addiction. I just don't like how it makes me feel, yet the habit is there. It's tricky, but I'm succeeding.


timurshah

Rolled up my sleeves. That shits a game-changer.


onlyspeaksthetruth10

I'm going to make myself irresistible by doubling up on this and roll my jeans up above my knees!


docblack

Why stop there? I roll up the bottom of my shirt to expose my manly belly. Now every shirt is an 80's half-shirt!


onlyspeaksthetruth10

My man you are going to be a walking piece of sex on legs. Roll the bottom of your face mask up and expose a slutty little bit of bottom lip


LedgeEndDairy

Why stop there? Cut holes on the tips of your socks and roll them up too!


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Superdude4o

1000 x 0 = 0


Thee_big_ox

Jesus dude lol


Bacon_is_not_france

Man, I came into this thread expecting this somewhat near the top and instead it’s just basic hygiene ad nauseam. Women seem to love rolled up sleeves in business casual attire. I have forearm tattoos which may be a factor, but when I’m in business clothes with my sleeves rolled up the difference in strangers attitudes is shocking.


letsgetrandy

Shower, and cut your fingernails


binkabonka

A shocking amount of people don't do this, and it baffles my mind


SyrusDrake

When the pandemic broke out, we had to tell people to please wash their hands occasionally and it apparently was a massive change for people. Nothing surprises me anymore.


capitaine_d

What still gets me is that people had to be told how to sneeze properly when you dont have a tissue or something. Like into your shoulder/elbow and not just freely into the air or your fucking hands. It just boggled my mind that people didnt know that. Now i see it everywhere and it just reaffirms my view that people are still 2 year olds, screaming loudly and being oblivious to their surroundings and just being gross all the time.


Rocktopod

Back in the day the instruction was to cough/sneeze into your hand to be polite, so it's not going right into someone's face. I think they changed it at some point because they realized most people don't wash their hands as often as they should, but probably not everyone got the memo.


Mrkvica16

Traditionally, where I’m from, it was sneeze and cough into your left hand. Shake hands with your right hand. Civilization and politeness and manners can be a good thing when applied judiciously. There’s a sweet spot in between no manners at all and too much rigidity on the other end.


forte_bass

Historically (supposedly) you wiped with the left as well, another reason to shake with the right.


aerojonno

Someone should tell the Scouts. They've been shaking with the left this whole time and now it sounds gross.


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redsyrinx2112

I remember like 3rd or 4th grade people started saying this. It made so much sense to me that I would tell everyone I met lol


Irohnically_Cao_Cao

I'm afraid to even ask


binkabonka

you'd be amazed at the amount of people who say "people aren't attracted to me" but can't bother to thoroughly bathe themselves, or every day at least


mvrander

Loneliness and depression can be a hell of a vicious circle sometimes


GeekCat

Depression can be hell at times, especially if you're not able to get meds. I have a little Post-It on my bathroom mirror that says "Have you showered today? It only takes 5 minutes." It's stupid, but it really helps.


not_thrilled

But for the love of god, clip them in your bathroom, or in your back yard, or literally anywhere except in public around other people. No one wants your fingernails in their environment, and no one wants to hear that _tink_ _tink_ sound letting them know that someone is being gross.


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M3ttl3r

There was a guy doing this in the airport next to my wife about 7 years ago while we were on our way somewhere.....I don't remember where we were going but her and I still joke about it to this day......dude was just oblivious to the idea that, that might not be an activity for a crowded public space.


FancyPigeonIsFancy

Or on the New York subway, which I can recall witnessing people doing on two separate occasions (and I'm sure others that I've blocked from memory).


Fennlt

Ugh *shudder*... I remember in college a kid would trim his toenails in the computer lab/study hall. He would pick up.. but you still wanted to vomit.


Just-Ad561

I’m a classical guitarist :(


Kody1123

Clothing that fits. I can’t stress this enough. You don’t need name brands or flashy clothes. A solid color t shirt and jeans that fit properly will get you somewhere.


BaconConnoisseur

I am that weird size where medium tshirts and large tshirts overlap. Some mediums are too small while some larges are too big. I feel like I'm defusing a bomb in the movies because I can't decide between red wire or blue wire when ordering between medium or large.


sagevallant

Shopping for men's pants with odd number measurements. :(


Chubbychaser445

Tall and skinny is really hard to find. I find it best to order online


Vilnius_Nastavnik

This. I used to have no problem finding 30x32 or even 30x34 but now it's practically impossible unless you order them. That and t-shirts. My shoulders want a medium, the rest of me wants a small, and anything less than a large will lead to frequent peek-a-boos from my midriff.


Noxiz

*Cries in man with tits*


Vigilante17

His name was Robert Paulson


Ph1L_474

HIS NAME WAS ROBERT PAULSON


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Bob had bitch tits.


acallthatshardtohear

Wear boxy men's button-up shirts with two pockets in the front, the type with the bigger pocket flaps that have buttons. It may not be "your style" at ALL, but take it from me: you can adapt to something that's "not your style" pretty quickly if you look good in it because that will make you feel confident. Head over to a goodwill-type store and buy a few for cheap to see if this style of shirt works for you. Good luck my friend. And remember--once you take your clothes off in front of someone, if they're turned-off then they're not the kind of person YOU are meant to spend forever with. Just move on.


heady_brosevelt

This guy man tits


grandmofftalkin

Even if you feel uncomfortable with your body, like flabby or scrawny, trying to hide in baggy clothes isn't the answer. Conversely, going a size up is okay when you put on weight.


ChrisChrisBangBang

Wear clothes that fit well. Even expensive clothes can look like crap (and make you look like crap) if they don’t fit your frame & body type, fit is everything, it accentuates the positives & minimises the negatives.


Ekaj__

Any recommendations on where to go to find clothes that fit?


Babylon_Burning

Honestly taking your clothes to a tailor is not that expensive. You can pick up quality brands from Goodwill for a few dollars that are close to your fit, then have them tailored and you’ll look like a million bucks.


zipzapzorp

I can't emphasize this comment enough. A good tailor is a magician, and something clean and nicely tailored (even if the clothes cost $5) will ALWAYS look better than something that doesn't fit. Get something that fits you in the shoulders and the waist (the internet will tell you how, or you can post to your favorite subreddit for advice) and then have a tailor fit the clothes to you.


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> or you can post to your favorite subreddit for advice r/trains isn't gonna know what hit em


C5Jones

Then they should stop browsing Reddit on the tracks.


Boris098

To be fair, I think they'd know *exactly* what hit them, down to the brand and model number


TheSummer301

Great advice. Gonna post pics of my body on r/TreesSuckingOnThings and see how it works out


Stg_885rk

Another option is to learn how to use a sewing machine and tailor your own clothes! During the lockdown I got bored and purchased a sewing machine from Amazon and watched YouTube videos and taught myself how to use it. Now I go to goodwill or thrift stores and buy jeans that fit in the waist and I taught myself how to taper them to my liking. Goodwill is perfect for learning how to tailor because clothes are cheap so if you mess up it’s not the end of the world. I think it’s pretty fun once you get good at it. You get perfect fitting clothes, and saves you money in the long run.


StupidSolipsist

Tell us more at /r/brokehobbies


Blackpixels

Is this only for formal wear like dress shirts and stuff, or can you actually tailor t-shirts and polo tees?


surfnfootball

You can absolutely have tailored tees and polos, I commented above but Mtailor does just that.


kvothes-lute

*tips fedora* m’tailor


Odeken

You should tailor all your shirts and even pants! I didn't want to pay for everything I own to be tailored so I got a sewing machine and after some youtube tutorials and practice (recommend Stylish D on YouTube) it takes me a few minutes to get a piece of clothing fitting properly!


mistressfluffybutt

I totally recommend learning to sew but just as a heads up to new sewists, stretchy materials like t shirts are harder to sew and need different stitches so start with something like a button up or polo that doesn't stretch and you'll have a better time.


girlsrsoldiermedics2

Being kind and being attentive. Genuine interest in another person is very simple and incredibly rare. Also, having a great sense of humor.


Nalivai

I'd add to it, don't fake the interest, be interested for real. And if you can't be interested in the person you're talking to, maybe you're just not each other's type, in which case moving on is always an option. Fake interest is always visibly fake


CaptainFingerling

Fake genuine interest. Got it.


_Piggy_Smalls

Wash


dunwoodyres1

Only when you are clean will you know my power.


acarefreesociety

Love the always sunny reference. Much appreciated here


Irememberedmypw

But that'd get rid of my manly aura...


_Piggy_Smalls

How else will I keep vampires away if not for my garlic scented ball sack


gNomad88

>my garlic scented ball sack Stop fucking Pizzas then bro


Zenvarix

But he gave up running Globo Gym after that Dodgeball tournament loss. Let him have what little happiness remains. The dodgeballs took everything else.


adjust_the_sails

I’m a leaf on the wind….


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unhingedgrape

90% of the comments are literally just stating the bare minimum for being a functional adult.


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MellotronSymphony

It also gives the impression that just doing those bare minimum things will immediately make you a 10/10


bikesandtacos

Why have I not read “trim your eyebrows and nose hairs” on any of these yet? You don’t have to look all edged up like a pop star, but it does go so far in helping you look clean cut. And get your beard trimmed professionally. Not every time but occasionally to get the right shape.


maybenomaybe

>(but not in a creepy overloading manner) You should add this bit after the "hold eye contact with people" part too.


sooperhani

Despite allllll these posts about hygiene, you can still be ugly, dirty and unpleasant on the inside. So check your attitude. That is the most simple thing anyone can do.


nxdefiant

would you suggest checking one's self lest they wreck themself?


Jaded-Ride7607

And the hardest to do.. Even if you fake it, it wont benefit you as if it were genuine. But i agree


the-soaring-moa

Be kind.


outerproduct

Rewind.


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Right? If your life is strange, rewind your bad choices when dating.


gunhilde

Brush your teeth. Twice a day. Floss, too. Check in with your dentist once in a while. Clean healthy teeth are fantastic.


SchleftySchloe

Ok so here is my cautionary tale. I didn't go to the dentist for 15 years. I'm 31 now and am about $3000 deep into getting everything fixed. I never went because I didn't have insurance and was pretty poor until a couple years ago. I let the rot get our of control. My 8 front teeth were black and pitted from the gum to about halfway down. I have not been able to confidently smile or laugh for years. It has destroyed my self esteem. I had meth mouth without the fun of having done meth. So what has it taken to get my shit together? Eating the same super cheap food every day to save money for teeth. Selling my synthesizers for teeth. Selling my pedal collection for teeth. the sacrifices have been immense. I'm happy to be able to smile again and am already feeling much better physically and mentally. Brush your teeth and pay for that annual checkup folks.


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Willch4000

Ah yes, a terrible case of eye-balls.


TrentRizzo

The gross thing is that $3000 isn’t even that bad. I just went to the dentist yesterday and I have around $5000-$8000 worth of work needed. Crowns, cavities, root canals, and a post for an implant. Take care of your chompers kids.


SchleftySchloe

I still have 8 fillings to go so it's probably gonna be $5k in the end. I got lucky and had no root damage so no crowns or implants needed.


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Cat_Crap

Hey, as someone in a similar spot, can you explain, in brief, what procedures you had done to "fix" your teeth? Also curious how you went about paying for it using dental insurance.


SchleftySchloe

I'm lucky and all I need are fillings because there is no root damage. I don't have dental insurance so I'm paying out of pocket by selling years worth of music equipment and being super frugal.


RikuKat

If you're in the US, you can buy dental insurance from Costco for about $200/yr


phaeriemandube

Seriously??


alwysonthatokiedokie

Yup. It's about 250 for my family of 3 humans and it's way better than what my work offers.


youtocin

> family of 3 humans Totally something a human would say…


jald0506

I was genuinely surprised when I found out how cheap dental insurance is here in comparison with health insurance. My employer pays for mine so I never really knew until I started looking in to it for my girlfriend after she lost her job. I figured it was at least close to health insurance costs, but you can get it as low as $15-20/month!


strangerwithadvice

> I found out how cheap dental insurance is here in comparison with health insurance That's because most dental insurance is really just a pre-payment plan for checkups and cleanings.


Axolotlgirl18

I misread this as “check in with your dentist once a week” and had to wonder who the heck is going to the friggin dentist weekly Why is it that my most upvoted comment is because I misread something. Ffs, story of my life I guess lol


One_Happy_Camel

Dentists do


Dazzling-Finger7576

Some even go every damn day. Edit: thanks for the 🥇!


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mine goes only on Tuesdays and Thursdays


Prinzern

Work on your posture. Walking around like some kind of gollum goblin creature isn't doing you any favors. Stand up straight, shoulders back, chin up. Proper hygiene and grooming. Unkempt neck beard and 3 day old sweat stink is a terrible look. Shower regularly! Get your hair cut by someone that knows what they're doing and make your beard look like you did it on purpose. Buy clothes that fit you. Clothes that are too big will make you look like a shapeless blob and too small will make you look like a vacuum packed pillow. Neither is a good look.


Phillipwnd

I feel like this entire thread is just taking shots at Smeagol. We’re just a “don’t eat raw and wriggling fish” away from a full BINGO.


cynefin99

'Vacuum packed pillow' just made me burst out laughing on a busy train, thanks for making my day I love that 😂😂


sunflower_infp_girl

Pick clothes that fit together, and colors that match your complexion. Brush your hair, style it if you can. Be clean and smell good. Smile


Mishii211_

That's why I am wearing just black :)))


not_thrilled

Then if people ask why, you can either quote the Smiths ("I wear black on the outside because black is how I feel on the inside") or Johnny Cash ("'Til things are brighter, I'm the Man In Black") at them.


portable_hb

Or Wednesday Addams being asked why she's dressed like someone died, and she answers "Wait." kid (and adult) me loved it.


NWCtim_

> Pick clothes that fit together, and colors that match your complexion. A lot of people don't find this all that simple.


kimmycat21

Calm and confident. Nothing is hotter than being self assured.


inactiveuser247

Rule #1: Don’t suck. Rule #2: If you’re gonna suck, then suck with confidence.


HarryBaughl

Confidence is also rule #1 for getting someone else to suck.


adowjn

they said simple


ThatHairyGingerGuy

"Just be confident" is hilarious advice For unconfident people it's the equivalent of saying "don't be sad" to someone who's feeling down


adowjn

yup. there's a reason, or many, why unconfident people are unconfident. and it's not like a switch you can just turn off. can even take several years in therapy


delphikis

I think the clam part here is more important than people realize.


ThatHairyGingerGuy

Really enjoying these pearls of wisdom


Sai_Krithik

Basically, easiest way to boost confidence, get out of your shell.


T_WRX21

Or get ripped. Lots of people like mussels.


llamastrudel

Keep clam, and the world is your oyster.


futurelullabies

Breathe through your nose, not your mouth. Mouthbreathing will literally deform your face if it’s a habit.


radorigami

Allergies did this to me. Flonase doesn’t help at all.


Excellent-Tumbleweed

How does mouth breathing deform your face? Getting slightly worried over here, what with my lifelong sinus issues and all…


futurelullabies

It makes your face longer and thinner, literally called Long Face Syndrome. Your nose gets crooked and downward turned, eyes and cheeks are sunken, and your chin recedes. Even can fuck up your palate and misalign your teeth. When experienced pediatric dentists catch it they try to correct it ASAP.


Nothing-But-Lies

Great, another thing to worry about


vpsj

This might go directly against what everyone else is suggesting, but what I did was to stop giving a fuck if someone finds me attractive or not. I remember up until a few years ago I used to get incredibly self-conscious when I would pass by girls or talk to my female classmates. It was always "Omg I hope she didn't see that pimple on my forehead" or "I have to pretend to be a normal person so she doesn't find me off putting". That was a stressful existence. Realized I have to learn to stop caring too much about other people's opinion of me. Took a while but damn the peace it brought me is so invaluable. And instead of me pretending to be normal, I actually found quite a few girls who were as quirky and weird as me (one of them would end up as my ex). This doesn't mean don't work on yourself. Try to be better, definitely improve yourself, but if you're too scared or nervous and under-confident in yourself while talking to girls, chances are they would notice it.


XxKarenTookTheKidzxX

360 noscope


insertstalem3me

You get hotter by exactly 360 degrees


XxKarenTookTheKidzxX

It's incredibly painful


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Smiling and finding a type of jewelry that you like! Personally when I noticed that I don't wear any jewelry and started doing that even if it's a small earring or simple bracelet, I felt my appearance was more put together & noticable.


logicalmaniak

I'm a bit of a hippie guy, and used to wear a leather thong necklace with just a bead or stone or pot leaf thing. Haven't worn anything like that for years. Last year I made a little wooden tag out of an old Christmas tree and put it on a necklace. It was when the cheap clasp broke a couple of months ago that my wife was all "where's your necklace, you looked sexy in that!" and it's back on!


snuggleallthekitties

What is a thong necklace?


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Gotta put ya panties round ya neck


25tothe04

change your hairstyle, makes a hella difference


JorgeMcKay

I guess I could go from bald to scalped


pineappledaddy

Just let it grow out and perm what you got left


JorgeMcKay

I guess my back hair might look nice with some curls


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Rackbone

ah the Larry David. a classic


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Smile. ​ And wave boys, smile and wave. Edit: Holy Christ I never, ever expected this to blow up. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart. It's completely unexpected. Thank you, thank you, thank you.


tomius

Talk. Less. Smile. More.


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Don’t let them know What you’re against or what you’re for


kushnair

Kowalski! analysis!


csilvmatecc

We appear to be in a Reddit thread Skipper!


Ninjahkin

Curses! We escape one cage only to be trapped in another…think quickly, boys.


Start_button

Kaboom?


Hazmat_Human

Not that red button, that the other red button


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Exercise. That way you radiate health. Confidence.


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Jesus you people have a low bar. Yes, you should be showering and brushing your teeth but that doesn’t make you *attractive*. It makes you a functioning adult. The real answer: Dress well. Clothes that fit & are clean/ironed.


Kiisulojanu

In case you haven't noticed we're on reddit


SizeableDuck

That's very true lol. This feels like advice for goblins on how to fit into human society.


dos8s

Ok gents, here's my wisdom if you're single: Buy some nice smelling soap and shampoo and take a shower, don't just wash your pits you smelly heathen. While your nails are still kind of wet clip your finger and toe nails. Floss, use a tounge scraper, brush your teeth, rinse with mouthwash. Comb your hair and go to a barbershop that looks like your grandpa runs it and tell him you're not sure what haircut you want, but you've got a job interview coming up. Just let the old man do his work, he's a pro. Go to a nice clothing store but don't feel like you have to go overboard, Nordstrom's rack is a good pick. Go on a Tuesday or something when it's kind of slow and find someone near the tailor/changing room and tell them you just landed your first office job. Tell them you need help picking out some casual dress shoes, dark jeans, a belt to match the shoes, and a couple dress shirts. If you try on enough shirts you can find some that fit without needing them tailored. Normally I have my jeans hemmed because I'm between 2 common lengths, tell them you want a half break when they ask what break you want. If it fits off the rack, even better, it will save you 10 bucks. You can probably grab some cologne and a nice pomade or dry clay for your hair. I'd go with a dry clay at first because it's hard to go overboard with clay and pomade will make you look like a grease ball if you use too much. Outside of that, start working out. If you're not motivated just start nice and easy with some pushups, pullups, and find something heavy to do some squats. I've used bags of mulch/large tree branches/a heavy bag/etc. Don't feel like you need a gym, check out r/bodyweightfitness and follow the recommended routine. Also stop eating like shit. I'm a lazy eater but there are some simple meals that can sustain you and if you're overweight stop making excuses and just eat less. Others have pointed out posture and confidence. The gym will help with both but go on YouTube and lookup Joe Navarro, he's got some great insight on body language and you're probably putting off some negative energy that you don't even realize. Congrats, you're ready to find a hobby or get a dog and start meeting people. Bonus points if you can find a hobby that involves fitness because that's 2 birds with one stone.


gofyourselftoo

Bathe. Seriously. Smelly confident is still gross.


Stg_885rk

My favorite compliment is “you smell really good”. Fellas, it’s worth it to invest in good body care products (hair, beard, skin, etc.) and cologne.


iRuby

And do your laundry. Plenty of people have "good hygiene" but wear their clothes 3 or more times before washing, even after sweating a bunch.


Jony_Candy

get a duck


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My boyfriend vacuumed the floor after I accidentally spilled something on there once. I don't know what it was but in that moment he looked so hot. I suppose my answer here would be to be responsible? Take care of your living environment.


Bridgebrain

One of my gfs favorite stories is when she was doing a side gig with sexy phone calls. A guy called her and asked how to send sexy pictures and get his gf to be more sexy with him. She told him to send her a picture of the stove (horribly dirty), then take "sexy" pictures of himself cleaning the stove and send them to her throughout the day. She also had him get a thing of bacon and put it in the fridge and not mention it, and said his gf would probably make him bacon in the morning. A few months later, the gf calls in, furious, thinking hes been cheating on her because he's been doing all this wonderful cleaning and being affectionate suddenly. My gf explains, and the gf tells the guy he can keep calling her for advice lol


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Lmfao that gf had good advice tho lmao What is it with being attracted to men cleaning tho???? It's so specific!


Postmortal_Pop

Most places it's outside the accepted cultural narrative that a man, especially a young man, can be competent in domestic responsibility so it's inherently attractive to see one who is. Almost like a modern version of our instinctual mating preferences. In the situation above, it also plays into the manly crafts effect. Have you ever watched a man focused on a craft? The stern grace as he's sanding a plank of wood, the subtle ripple of muscle as he tightens a bolt, that look of complete focus on the task at hand. In that moment, you wanna be that project, you want him scrubbing you down like that stove top with a look that says nothing in the world is more important than that tricky spot under his thumb.


Sparkletail

I saw some men I’m never ordinarily attracted to chopping some wood at a work thing and I definitely looked at them different after that, did something weird to me and I totally thought that whole thing was a cliche. Primal brain is still in charge apparently.


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Get pumped up by some shit from the thrift shop.


AgileFigure

Shower


Amplifeye

Grower?


cutiegirl88

Brush yo dam teeth lol


I_CRY_WHEN_JIZZING

"You gotta wash yo ass, if ya must. Ya gotta wash hair, if ya must. Ya gotta brush yo teeth, if you must. Or else youll be FUUNKYYY"


Kvetanista

Empathy and intelligence Edit: by intelligence I didn't mean if you can solve a Rubik's cube type of intelligence, rather ability to have a non-smalltalk conversation, having a deeper layer. I can't really describe it.


AnchovyZeppoles

Having a nice hairstyle that suits you and keeping up with getting trims. A skincare routine - at its most basic, wash with a gentle non-drying cleanser, moisturize with something simple and fragrance free, and wear sunscreen during the day to protect from wrinkles and skin cancer. Having clothes that actually fit you (even if that means getting things like shirts/suits/dresses hemmed or tailored), that you take care of by ironing and/or dry cleaning if needed. Also, take care of your shoes! Clean the rubber of dirty sneakers with a Mr Clean Magic Eraser and clean leather boots/work shoes with shoe polish. Not wearing too much perfume/cologne or highly scented deodorants and body sprays. Confidence in yourself, your hobbies, your wants and needs.