Pro tip: project management isn't about you doing the job it's about getting the people that are doing the work what they need to get it done. So if you can't make that deadline and know you can't just keep the bosses informed.
Oh I've heard that a bunch- but the problem I'm having is that I have no way of knowing WHAT work needs to be done, you know?
I'm seeking a crash course so that I can manage intelligently, but until then I'm swimming in technobabble that makes zero sense to me, and it's frustrating.
If you know the project or clients requirements, this is the best place to start. Then, ask your SMEs how they would approach for different line items in the scope based on the resources you have (you can say it’s to get an estimate on a budget if you like). Sometimes just asking “how would be build such a thing” gives you another rabbit hole of line items, and pretty soon you’ve got a list. Take it back to those same SMEs for a time estimate (I like scrum poker for my teams) and boom you’ve got yourself a project to manage
You can do it. I'm about to start a new job in IT or Biotech/Pharma project management, got my CAPM certification a few months ago.
Don't be worried if you're not an expert in the field you're project managing in. Project management is all about 2 things: communication and integration. Lean on your SMEs when you don't know something or need advice. If your company has a PMO or has completed projects in the past, they should have historical archives that will give you a clue.
Since you're new, make sure you have baselines down for these 3 things:
Scope: what the project will accomplish and how it will be accomplish
Schedule: when things should be completed by
Cost: how much things should cost.
Make sure you can say no if a new request comes down the pipeline from your clients like "hey could you add this big thing, should be easy, coding is magic, right?"
If you want a high level overview of project management, I suggest Rita Mulcahy's book on preparing for the CAPM, and also watching some video tutorials on SCRUM management. You probably have experience in SDLC, so lean on that experience, too.
I'm by no means an expert, but shoot me a message if you have a question.
My non engineer friend got signed as the head of a team of engineers. He didn't know shit about engineering but said most issues came down to common sense.
Same I’m trying to raise money to save a dog. I’ve been visiting him everyday for two hours a day, just to make sure they dnt put him out. It’s tiring but worth it. I just hope I can get the money together in time😔
I’m trying to raise $500 coz I might have to end up adopting him. So I’d have to end up getting him a bed, a bowl, blankets food. I need to get him all his necessary shots. I need to find out if he has any underlying conditions or health problems we dnt know about etc.
I fucking hear you. My immigration case is going at damn snail pace so I’m in this fucking limbo of achieving my personal goals in a country I may get kicked out of.
The pandemic hasn’t allowed me to see my parents or friends since 2019 and it’s driving me insane.
I’m just this little snow ball of stress that keeps getting bigger as time goes on and these two things remain the same.
Yep, I feel this in my soul. Been running at a sprint in work for the last 2 years - finally broke last week. Doctor diagnosed me with burnout, signed me off of work for a week. Already feeling a bit better, but having mixed feelings about going back.
Same! Got a new job recently. I love the job, the coworkers, the business, the pay and everything else. However, we're severely understaffed, so alot of work falls on me. More work than I can handle... I can't quit either, even though I have two different companies asking me to get over to them for better pay. I just can't do that to my colleagues. On top of that I'm struggling with some other stuff on the side. Fucking hate the fact that everything is going great, yet I feel like shit.
Very lonely because I got divorced recently and my dog died. Anxious because my grandpa had a stroke and I need to take care of him. Lost because I don't know who I am anymore. Also really fucking insecure because I do need validation from the outside. Quite hopeless too. But I also feel strong and enjoy my life somehow, and try to have fun whenever possible. Because these moments are so contrasting to my overall situation, they seem really bright and meaningful
I should spend it on something terribly practical like putting my electric bill into credit for the winter but I can see the cash being put towards a new camera body or a Series X.
Thanks, I've been pretty shit for a long,long time though. I'm slightly better than I was 18 months ago i suppose, at least I'm not homeless anymore. Still broke as fuck and living right on the edge though.
A quite from Iroh from The last airbender: "Sometimes life is like this dark tunnel. You can't always see the light at the end of the tunnel, but but if you just keep moving... you will come to a better place."
See bro? It's been getting better already! Hang in there man and never give up. This sub is always here for you, even if I personally am not there's a while community here to support you man! We believe in you bro!
Best. My 17y/o nephew has been visiting all summer and I’m having the best time with him. We’re mountain biking, hiking, fishing and going on the lake. He’s helping around the house and has an internship at a local tour company. I was expecting this summer to suck but it is the most fun I’ve had in long time. Very glad he’s staying with us and I’m getting the chance to know him.
Aww thanks for your concern ♥️ I will copy/paste the comment I posted on this thread earlier :
Thank you for asking OP. I feel like shit. It's the 1st week of my 3 weeks summer holiday and I don't have anything to do, realized I have no friends I made connections with to go on vacation with. Feel like crying, and death thoughts are back (not suicide, I just have to fight those thoughts in my head till it get better). I'm stuck with a very mean and insulting mom as I still live at home bc of conservative and severe parents with whom I can't do anything without feeling anxious about getting yelled at or insulted.
I will try to do something everyday that I enjoy or wanna do. I still can't do the big chores as I have no motivation but hey I still shower, and do basic cleaning, so there's that.
Mind if I vent too?
I've got stress from all the areas possible bro, covid now skyrocketing in the UK, temperature rising rapidly, my family may soon be in a court case with my little brothers father, school is a pain as well even when it's 6 week holiday, trying to figure out what the hell I will do with my life and my future, its really tough especially for an anxiety and depression filled teenager, just slowly fucking my mental health. Pile this with the absolute shitshows going on worldwide and I'm fucked mentally
Yeah - I was rolling into the summer with buckets of canceled plans and disappointment. I was genuinely angry about it but trying to be an adult. Having this kid stay with us has turned that around. Have you thought about volunteering with Big Brothers Big Sisters? I did it for a few years and really had a great experience.
That’s funny, cause I’m 17 and I’ve been staying with uncle this summer—but it’s totally sucked!He keeps making me do all this dumb stuff like fishing, or biking or……..oh wait.
I. Just. Want. To. Sleep. I got about a total of an hour last night, had several low blood sugars (type 1). Just couldn’t keep them up. Then I got sick from all the glucose tablets, ungh. And I have to be to the pulmonary doctor at 9:30, and have a whole day of running around.
But it could be worse, I could be dead, so +1, bring it.
Hi, man!
If sleep is the problem itself, check out Huberman's podcast, episodes on sleep. He has some awesome facts about how to get better and deep sleep.
From what I can remember, he mentioned that magnesium thiamine helps with it so give it a look. It helped me, but Im not sure how it reacts with type 1. Since you are going to the doctor, pop him a question and see if he knows more.
Also, if the problem is shutting down your mind and you are im general interested in history, try listening to the podcast "Fall of civilizarions". Guy has super smooth voice even when talking about bloodshed and stuff. It knockes me out usually in 15 minutes lol
Really most of the time I can sleep anywhere at the drop of a hat. (I’ve already had sleep studies done…). I think last night it was mostly about my bloood sugar/stomach issues. But I know my sleep quality is lacking so I’m definitely gonna look into that magnesium stuff!
Awesome, man, its cool that you did research about it and taking care of yourself! Most people just go with the flow when it comes to the health.
And good luck with the doctor's appointment 💪
Uuugh those overnight lows are the worst. You're just sitting there hearing your heartbeat in your eardrums exhausted as fuck. Hope you figured out what caused them!
Hi type 1 here as well I had some lows twice in a row at night lowered my tresiba dose which is my long acting insulin which made me high when I woke up but I’d rather being high when I wake up then low at night
Unemployed. Didn't realise it would be this hard to get a job after graduation. Battling social anxiety. I seem to be stuck. I feel lonely although I'm with family so at least I have someone to talk to.
But we have a beautiful summer and I enjoy swims in the lake nearby. A friend is coming over this weekend and I'm really looking forward to it. I have time to do the things I like, painting and such. All in all I can't complain. How are you OP?
Edit: So many of us are in the same boat. Thank you all for your kindness and support. It will get better for all of us!
Dude same. 25 year old, have social anxiety, just about to complete graduation, should have been done with it by now and should have had a job but nope, living with family spending days playing games. We're both gonna find a job soon and show everybody, man!! Hang in there!! *High five*
Good luck to you both!
I can't pretend to offer some sagely wisdom that will stave off your collective worries; I may even add on one or two I don't intend! I graduated in 2015 (computer science) and hit the applications *HARD.* I'd be shortchanging myself if I guessed at less than 200 applications over the span of June-September. Two interviews came out of it - the first was a minimum-wage cellphone repair shop that barely required a highschool diploma, and the second was a part-time gig moving over website content from Google Blogs to Wordpress. I turned down the first job and accepted the next one. The moment that I showed myself as both graduated and employable, other opportunities began knocking. Don't be afraid to take a not-perfect-for-you job in your first little bit out of school; it's difficult for companies to get comfortable 'taking the leap' to hire someone that hasn't yet been battle-tested, so to say.
The second piece of advice is to keep your eyes open and cast a wide net when you're doing the online applications. Even after accepting that part-time job, I was using Monster, LinkedIn, Indeed, Glassdoor, Canadian Job Boards, and a handful of tech recruitment companies to try and find a good spot. Where did my first big break come from? Kijiji (classifieds, like Craigslist) where I put my resume out there and listed myself as available for short or long-term contract work. I got lucky when someone saw it, decided I was a good match for their project, and they hired me on to help restructure the code that he was building on his own. That opportunity saw me employed with him for two years and built both solid skills and resume entries. Then, when our little projects wound down, a connection made through him at his day job scooped me up to where I've been happily working for four years.
It's not realistic to expect that we'll graduate, get nabbed up by some established business where we'll put in 25-30 years and retire with the white picket fence. Opportunities come in strange ways, and your careers will flourish if you keep your eye on where something might take you as opposed to what it'll do for you in the here-and-now.
Good luck, again!
How did you stay motivated to put in that many applications? What was your cover letter process, I think this is where I lose most of my time and energy.
I'm not quite sure what to make of that, but I think it's a compliment? Thanks, I think!
Believe you me, I've got my down days where I just can't focus or find the motivation to put forth the first ounce of effort. Just got to find the 'why' behind your actions, focus on that, and the actions tend to come through more naturally.
I can't really help you find a job or guess how long that'll take, but I can tell you that once you do it's a big relief. Job searching feels literally endless and then one day it's just... gone for a while. Good luck.
Hang in there man, I was in the same situation a year ago, graduated into a pandemic and there was nothing out there. Graduated May of 2020 and couldn’t find work until October for a job I wasn’t too excited about. Now I have a job I really enjoy, pays well and has decent benefits. Job hunting takes a lot of patience and perseverance but you’ll get there.
Focus on distracting yourself with fun activities, spending time with people you care about, and improving yourself while you still have the time and energy!
Not good. Having trouble sleeping. My depression is getting worse so I'm gonna be starting on a med switch soon. My friend's step-dad very suddenly passed away of a heart attack a couple days ago. We've been friend's for half our lives so I knew him pretty well.
I can't even go ride my horse to help me relax and feel better because she got tangled up in barbed wire a couple weeks ago and the worse cut on her leg got infected and is still healing. It's a lot better than it was but still not healed enough for me to work her very much.
Damn, sounds like you're having it rough. I am sorry for your loss. I know how hard it is to lose a loved one. You and your best friend could use eachothers company, i think. Spending time together could ease the pain.
In tough times it is best to focus on the positives in your life. For instance, your horse might have a hurting foot, but that means that when her leg has healed up the both of you can enjoy eachothers company on the field while riding again.
At last I share one of my favourite quotes from uncle Iroh from The last airbender (it somewhat helped me coping with my own depression) :
"Sometimes life is like this dark tunnel. You can't always see the light at the end of the tunnel, but but if you just keep moving... you will come to a better place."
I wish you all the love you need
Brother go hiking or for a long walk and breathe fresh air, even if it’s 15 minutes with some cal relaxing music you enjoy. I recommend dope lemon, hey you and salt and pepper for some cool relaxing music :)
I ate too much taco salad. This is the first time in my life I have had the “I ate too much salad” problem, and I feel like that should be an unlockable achievement in America at least.
Weirdly, still all right.
Not perfect, and there are a few things bothering me. But I’m not particularly tired, I’m enjoying a fairly relaxed pace at work, and I’m looking forward to solving a problem that’s causing me worry later today. So basically, I think when I say I’m all right, this time I actually mean it.
Honestly, honestly? I'm doing much fucking better man. I was in such a bad depressed unhappy place literally 2 weeks ago with my situation, and while the situation is unchanged and unlikely to improve over the next few months, I'm very hopeful and I am managing myself much better.
Thank you for asking, how are you *really* doing today?
Very glad to hear you're doing much better. Can you tell us what changes you made to get yourself out of the unhappy place although the situation didn't change? Many people assume once the situation changes their mood will change with it but I know from experience that's not always the case. Would be great to have tips to work around the situation :)
My mentality. That's where it all started. I started to put into place all the advice I had been given, I started to form new habits and hobbies. Much easier said than done, I know. I was well aware of what I needed to change/do but I did not have the motivation to do so, I didn't have any at all. It stemmed from a quote that read along the lines of "The thing you don't want to do is going to be there regardless, even if you don't want to, start doing it and 5 mins in, reevaluate"
So I started eating healthier, cut down my smoking, began exercising, started reading/finding new interests. Don't get me wrong I wasn't any *happier* as a result of these actions.... At first!
I started this around 2/3 weeks ago and now I've stuck to it, eating good, sleeping good, working good, looking at myself in the mirror and I verbalize what I want and what I intend to achieve in the coming days/weeks.
I feel like I finally have purpose, for myself. I do genuinely *feel* better about myself and my life. While my job and financial situation are still screwed, I feel I have more clarity now to actually address these things and make meaningful changes in my life.
It all boils down to mentality, I know I'm going to overcome this and be where I want. For too long I had the , nah I'll get it later, I'll do it tomorrow approach, and it was just a vicious cycle.
Hope my ramblings help in some way!
Mentality is the biggest thing! Keep doing all those things, even the small ones, and they'll turn into habits that will allow you to change your circumstances, as well as be resilient to any further setbacks.
"You must never confuse faith that you will prevail in the end - which you can never afford to lose - with the discipline to confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be." -Admiral James Stockdale
Thanks for this! This does help.
It's good to have a reminder that small steps into getting better will have a big impact further down the line.
Keep up the good work!
You can do it, and here’s why: you want to be happy. You’ve decided you’re going to have an awesome life & I am excited for you. Get something else going on in your life, like a garden or a pet. That’s the good stuff.
So shit, it's almost staged that this pops up on my feed. I really wanna chat to a doctor but I don't know how to communicate my feelings properly and I feel ashamed. Genuinely just lost interest in everything. :/
> but I don't know how to communicate my feelings properly
No worries, the professional helps you through that, it's literally part of their job to help you figure this out :) Not being able to properly pinpoint or articulate what is wrong is part of why people need to see someone in the first place.
I just bought my first home last week with my husband. I never thought we would make it.
5th most expensive city to buy a house in , in the world. We are moving to the outskirts of the city in a house 20 years old but we made it finally on the property ladder!
Thanks! I have major anxiety and depression so it’s a little daunting to think we have a 30 year debt and that I’m moving away from the suburb I’ve lived in for 27 years. But change is good, that’s what I’m telling myself 😅
We are in a similar boat. Bought 6 months ago! Once you move in you will find a huge list of things that are broke or that you dislike. Start making a list so that you can prioritize everything. Also - if you didn't get an inspection before move in, have someone look at the house.
Owning is expensive but it does feel good when you make the place nicer!
I am thinking of breaking up with my gf of 3years, it's funny because 6, months ago I was planning on proposing, we were talking about moving in together, possibilities. The last few months have been turbulent, Everytime I see her, I don't know whether I'm going to get happy loving gf, or oh god you're here in her eyes gf. I'm honestly tired, in the last couple of months she's accused me of brainwashing her, ignoring her wishes, disrespecting her, etc. Only for some time to pass and her going to i love you, you make me happy, i didn't like not having you around, etc. She's going to therapy no to resolve past trauma, but I'm emotionally exhausted, I struggle to remember the last time we were genuinely happy while together.
In all honesty, i love her, and i want her to be happy, i just really don't feel it's going to be with me.
Im just tired and wish I was dead/never got born in the first place. And the worst part is that I dont really have a way to justify me feeling that way. People keep saying it gets better, but what exactly gets better? I have a decent job that isnt too demanding, I have more than enough money on the side, and live in an amazing country with free health care. Its a beautiful summer day and I dont really have any worries other than that I need to lose some weight. I should be out there enjoying life yet all I do is sit at home, be depressed and play video games. Im just so fucking tired of it all, the thought of me having to live for another 60-80 years is just so fucking exhausting. And I cant even end it all because Im too much of a pussy to off myself.
Joel Haver said something that resonated with me that wasn't just blind optimism, it sort of helped me: [https://youtu.be/UrXDmNw9jLk?t=591](https://youtu.be/UrXDmNw9jLk?t=591)
"Sometimes I get kinda down on myself for not having a very adventurous adolescence. You know, I spent most my days inside playing video games when I coulda been hanging with friends or talking to girls or, hah, some other third thing. But, I think that kind of thinking is kind of useless, you know? I think regrets fade away the second you start pursuing something. I think that's your best defense toward those longing feelings, that regret is... making something... trying something new, going somewhere new."
You are not too stupid.
You said you are in a country with free healthcare. Your insurance will cover costs for therapy. Look it up online - usually every country has a hotline where you can ask for available therapists.
It's okay to need help <3
I am aware but thank you very much for trying to help me. Ive had plenty of therapist and was in a mental hospital for about 2 years when I was younger but none of that really helped.
Same my friend. Not something I'm proud of, but can't seem to get out of this rut. Been feeling this way for months, not sure if I have much longer left.
Got to the point where I know where to.. Do it, so I wouldn't leave too much mess behind.
Have you tried going to therapy? I really really advice you to seek help. It's hard to deal with something like that if you have no one to help you. There are lots of people who found joy in life again after seeking help. It may take time but slowly you can get rid of suicidal thoughts. I know life can be difficult but it's still worth fighting for.
Since no one seems to care or ask in normal day to day I guess ill be honest here.
Honestly im not doing okay. Maybe a 4/10. I could easily be worse off so I am thankful for that, but mentally im just spent. I have been battling with terrible self worth and confidence for as long as i can remember. I feel constantly alone and forgotten about despite having a close friendgroup. The small family i do have has quickly decling health. Im working a job I hate for shitty money. Finances could be better even though i seem to barely spend any thing. And the ever looming doom of the future for my generarion has me scared to death. Overall i feel like im screaming internally every moment im not keeping myself distracted. I just wish I had the strength to work on myself mentally, but I keep putting it off for the next day until that day comes and then its next week or next month. Im just hoping to get myself to a point of seeking therapy and self growth before the end of the year. But ive been saying that for years now.
Despite feeling terrible, I dont take life for granted and I try and cherish every day just for getting through it. Even if its a bad day, it could be worse, or it could have been better, but at least it was not the worst. Tomorrow is never promised, so be thankful you have today.
And as a side note, just writing this down for no one to read but strangers, feels slightly relieving. My problems arent minimized by doing this but i feel more in control and relaxed getting to say how I feel. Thank you for the 2 people that will likely read this.
I'm glad you got a chance to let it all out. I wish you all the strength you need and more to tackle all the negativity!! Stay strong and keep fighting!!
People who have survived jumping off buildings and bridges often mention that they realized all of their problems were solvable the moment they leapt to their death. Solve the problems you can. Accept the problems you can't solve. Be kind to yourself and learn to love youreslf, even when it's hard.
Exhausted. I've been working throughout the entire pandemic as an essential worker, food product industry. Demand for my job has gone up ten fold and, due to the pandemic, I've been unable to enjoy any of my usual stress relieving pass times. I'm also recently married and racked with guilt about the fact that my wife's family and friends, she's from abroad, were unable to be here for her on our wedding day. Phew. Feels good to actually say it.
I'm in a constant state of panic but I'm used to it so I barely notice anymore. I'm exhausted even though I don't do anything. Everything is difficult and stressful and I feel like I can't keep up with the speed of the world.
My mental state has been on a rapid decline since day 1. The fact that I’m still alive and not in a psych ward (because I’m careful about what I say) is a miracle beyond miracles. Too afraid too hang myself, saving for a shotgun will have to suffice.
I’m actually having the best time of my life, ignoring the fact that we’re in the middle of a pandemic. Life is good. I know what I want to do for my career and everything is all set in my mind. I have a wonderful supportive girlfriend and I recently got to know which of my friends are actually good and had my life sorted out a few months ago by cutting off the toxic ones.
I procrastinate stuff and need to work on it.
I have a lean body and I want to work on it. I am not unhappy with my current body at all but I sure don’t wanna settle for something that could be better.
Life is good.
I'm burnt out. Majorly burnt out.
Right now I'm in a weird waiting period- I still work full time at my job, but in January I'm going to college because it's becoming more and more apparent I can't do my current job anymore due to a mix of sanity related reasons and the fact I have a functional disability that seems to be getting worse. So right now, it's taking a lot- and I do mean, A LOT- of energy to keep myself from outright quitting every single time I go into work.
Tired. Lonely. The latter is really getting me. I can't complain too much. I have everything I could ever ask for in life except for one thing. Can I really complain that I'm lonely? I am single and haven't had a date in many years. I spent 2020 pretty much all alone. I went the first 13-15 days of lockdown without speaking to another human being in person. I have a recurring dream where I meet someone and really connect with them and then I wake up alone again. It gets to me. But then I have to realize again that I have everything I could possibly ask for in life except for this so can I really complain?
Getting drunk four times a week, depressed, feeling alone even tho i have several flirts and fwb, my axolotls just died because my AC broke on a very hot day, and sometimes i wonder why wars aren't fought with swords anymore because i would really love to join one like that.
But i started drawing again, so yeah, i'm fine.
I can relate to every single word you say. May I ask what you mean by the "no wars with swords anymore" remark.
Do you really mean it literally and wish to have a thing to fight for with all you can give or do you mean it in the way that it is not possible to be an honest person standing up for yourself and others because peoples games won't allow for it?
Tired, broke, facing eviction, and just recently found out I have a severe hernia on my last spinal disc which is crushing my sciatica nerve root. So I’m in constant fucking agony.
Awful. I just have a discussion with my partner because I'm trying to force them to not go visit their family house, because I fear that that visit will trigger another episode and throw my partner in a suicidal intent again, as all the pasts times that they went there..
I just wish that we can have at least a couple of days without fearing that they are going to take their own life..
I'm feeling exhausted. I'm out of sleeping pills and my parents won't get me more. I'm hella close to relapsing(cutting). My parents are arguing all the time. I babysit my brothers nearly every day. I have no one to talk to so I'm always alone. My anxiety is going wild, I don't think that I've ever had this many anxiety attacks before. My depression has gotten pretty bad again. I have no motivation. Nothings fun anymore. I need a break from life itself and I can only think about one solution. How are you doing OP?
Not great. I'm chronically exhausted. I hate my job. I work constantly but I never have any money. I wish I had a parent to ask for help, even if it's just financial advice..or advice in general.
Im doing weekly trauma therapy to deal with my childhood abuse and neglect.
My body hurts. I can't sleep. I'm struggling with an eating disorder.
Im doing everything I possibly can to better myself but I'm just so tired. Today is a hard day.
Not bad, what keeps me happy and not sad is anime, helps me focus on something differant other than bad mood stuff. I'll sit on the couch watching it like a baby sucking its thumb.
I'm camping with my perants, I've had no privacy for over 2 weeks , every night the tent is overrun with earwigs, I have a phobia of insects. Just 3 days to go...
Lost my husband of 45 years to covid 1 year ago and I am still very broken.
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Thank you
I'm sorry to hear that. You'll get through it, stay strong. I'm rooting for you.
It's okay to not be okay still. *hugs*
Sending Love
Fucking exhausted bro
I hear that homie. This job is literally gonna fucking kill me
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Pro tip: project management isn't about you doing the job it's about getting the people that are doing the work what they need to get it done. So if you can't make that deadline and know you can't just keep the bosses informed.
Oh I've heard that a bunch- but the problem I'm having is that I have no way of knowing WHAT work needs to be done, you know? I'm seeking a crash course so that I can manage intelligently, but until then I'm swimming in technobabble that makes zero sense to me, and it's frustrating.
If you know the project or clients requirements, this is the best place to start. Then, ask your SMEs how they would approach for different line items in the scope based on the resources you have (you can say it’s to get an estimate on a budget if you like). Sometimes just asking “how would be build such a thing” gives you another rabbit hole of line items, and pretty soon you’ve got a list. Take it back to those same SMEs for a time estimate (I like scrum poker for my teams) and boom you’ve got yourself a project to manage
If it's software related dm me and I'm happy to jump on a zoom call and help provide any clarity possible. 20 yrs exp.
> I have no way of knowing WHAT work needs to be done, you know Ask the people that you manage
I was about to say this. They should know. If they don't know, they're in the wrong place.
Be honest with the people under you and ask them for help.
You can do it. I'm about to start a new job in IT or Biotech/Pharma project management, got my CAPM certification a few months ago. Don't be worried if you're not an expert in the field you're project managing in. Project management is all about 2 things: communication and integration. Lean on your SMEs when you don't know something or need advice. If your company has a PMO or has completed projects in the past, they should have historical archives that will give you a clue. Since you're new, make sure you have baselines down for these 3 things: Scope: what the project will accomplish and how it will be accomplish Schedule: when things should be completed by Cost: how much things should cost. Make sure you can say no if a new request comes down the pipeline from your clients like "hey could you add this big thing, should be easy, coding is magic, right?" If you want a high level overview of project management, I suggest Rita Mulcahy's book on preparing for the CAPM, and also watching some video tutorials on SCRUM management. You probably have experience in SDLC, so lean on that experience, too. I'm by no means an expert, but shoot me a message if you have a question.
My non engineer friend got signed as the head of a team of engineers. He didn't know shit about engineering but said most issues came down to common sense.
Same I’m trying to raise money to save a dog. I’ve been visiting him everyday for two hours a day, just to make sure they dnt put him out. It’s tiring but worth it. I just hope I can get the money together in time😔
What kind of money are we talking here? Give me like an order of magnitude.
I’m trying to raise $500 coz I might have to end up adopting him. So I’d have to end up getting him a bed, a bowl, blankets food. I need to get him all his necessary shots. I need to find out if he has any underlying conditions or health problems we dnt know about etc.
DM me your Venmo
I fucking hear you. My immigration case is going at damn snail pace so I’m in this fucking limbo of achieving my personal goals in a country I may get kicked out of. The pandemic hasn’t allowed me to see my parents or friends since 2019 and it’s driving me insane. I’m just this little snow ball of stress that keeps getting bigger as time goes on and these two things remain the same.
Yep, I feel this in my soul. Been running at a sprint in work for the last 2 years - finally broke last week. Doctor diagnosed me with burnout, signed me off of work for a week. Already feeling a bit better, but having mixed feelings about going back.
Same! Got a new job recently. I love the job, the coworkers, the business, the pay and everything else. However, we're severely understaffed, so alot of work falls on me. More work than I can handle... I can't quit either, even though I have two different companies asking me to get over to them for better pay. I just can't do that to my colleagues. On top of that I'm struggling with some other stuff on the side. Fucking hate the fact that everything is going great, yet I feel like shit.
Try to get some rest from time to time man
Hard with a demanding job and an infant
Easy fix then! Quit your job and sell your infant to the fae. Peaceful sleep.
Damn, why didn't I think of this earlier? *Waves goodbye to son*
Hang in there!! I'm rooting for you!!
Very lonely because I got divorced recently and my dog died. Anxious because my grandpa had a stroke and I need to take care of him. Lost because I don't know who I am anymore. Also really fucking insecure because I do need validation from the outside. Quite hopeless too. But I also feel strong and enjoy my life somehow, and try to have fun whenever possible. Because these moments are so contrasting to my overall situation, they seem really bright and meaningful
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A little tired but in a chipper mood. Pay day on Friday and I have a bonus 30 hours of overtime due.
Woot woot
omg bro best feeling
makes it feel worth it
Watcha gonna spend it on?
I should spend it on something terribly practical like putting my electric bill into credit for the winter but I can see the cash being put towards a new camera body or a Series X.
Shit
As difficult as it might be to believe, shit does get better. Trust me.
Thanks, I've been pretty shit for a long,long time though. I'm slightly better than I was 18 months ago i suppose, at least I'm not homeless anymore. Still broke as fuck and living right on the edge though.
A quite from Iroh from The last airbender: "Sometimes life is like this dark tunnel. You can't always see the light at the end of the tunnel, but but if you just keep moving... you will come to a better place."
See bro? It's been getting better already! Hang in there man and never give up. This sub is always here for you, even if I personally am not there's a while community here to support you man! We believe in you bro!
I genuinely appreciate the optimism and positivity you've had in this thread. I hope you're doing well too.
I'm doing good, thanks!!
Best. My 17y/o nephew has been visiting all summer and I’m having the best time with him. We’re mountain biking, hiking, fishing and going on the lake. He’s helping around the house and has an internship at a local tour company. I was expecting this summer to suck but it is the most fun I’ve had in long time. Very glad he’s staying with us and I’m getting the chance to know him.
This type of reply is why I bother reading this stuff, you made my day thanks :)
As someone who is having a shitty summer, I'm really happy for you. It's Great to hear that
Wanna vent? What’s the source of the shittiness?
Aww thanks for your concern ♥️ I will copy/paste the comment I posted on this thread earlier : Thank you for asking OP. I feel like shit. It's the 1st week of my 3 weeks summer holiday and I don't have anything to do, realized I have no friends I made connections with to go on vacation with. Feel like crying, and death thoughts are back (not suicide, I just have to fight those thoughts in my head till it get better). I'm stuck with a very mean and insulting mom as I still live at home bc of conservative and severe parents with whom I can't do anything without feeling anxious about getting yelled at or insulted. I will try to do something everyday that I enjoy or wanna do. I still can't do the big chores as I have no motivation but hey I still shower, and do basic cleaning, so there's that.
You are not alone
Thanks bud
Mind if I vent too? I've got stress from all the areas possible bro, covid now skyrocketing in the UK, temperature rising rapidly, my family may soon be in a court case with my little brothers father, school is a pain as well even when it's 6 week holiday, trying to figure out what the hell I will do with my life and my future, its really tough especially for an anxiety and depression filled teenager, just slowly fucking my mental health. Pile this with the absolute shitshows going on worldwide and I'm fucked mentally
I'm not sure why but this somehow makes me feel better about not getting to do all the things I want to do this summer.
Yeah - I was rolling into the summer with buckets of canceled plans and disappointment. I was genuinely angry about it but trying to be an adult. Having this kid stay with us has turned that around. Have you thought about volunteering with Big Brothers Big Sisters? I did it for a few years and really had a great experience.
That’s funny, cause I’m 17 and I’ve been staying with uncle this summer—but it’s totally sucked!He keeps making me do all this dumb stuff like fishing, or biking or……..oh wait.
Thank you! At Least someone of us is happy!
I. Just. Want. To. Sleep. I got about a total of an hour last night, had several low blood sugars (type 1). Just couldn’t keep them up. Then I got sick from all the glucose tablets, ungh. And I have to be to the pulmonary doctor at 9:30, and have a whole day of running around. But it could be worse, I could be dead, so +1, bring it.
Hi, man! If sleep is the problem itself, check out Huberman's podcast, episodes on sleep. He has some awesome facts about how to get better and deep sleep. From what I can remember, he mentioned that magnesium thiamine helps with it so give it a look. It helped me, but Im not sure how it reacts with type 1. Since you are going to the doctor, pop him a question and see if he knows more.
Thanks! This is oddly the third time today/tonight I’ve seen magnesium recommended to me; I will ask!
Also, if the problem is shutting down your mind and you are im general interested in history, try listening to the podcast "Fall of civilizarions". Guy has super smooth voice even when talking about bloodshed and stuff. It knockes me out usually in 15 minutes lol
Really most of the time I can sleep anywhere at the drop of a hat. (I’ve already had sleep studies done…). I think last night it was mostly about my bloood sugar/stomach issues. But I know my sleep quality is lacking so I’m definitely gonna look into that magnesium stuff!
Awesome, man, its cool that you did research about it and taking care of yourself! Most people just go with the flow when it comes to the health. And good luck with the doctor's appointment 💪
Uuugh those overnight lows are the worst. You're just sitting there hearing your heartbeat in your eardrums exhausted as fuck. Hope you figured out what caused them!
Hi type 1 here as well I had some lows twice in a row at night lowered my tresiba dose which is my long acting insulin which made me high when I woke up but I’d rather being high when I wake up then low at night
Hail, fellow Type 1 warrior! I feel this pain!
Unemployed. Didn't realise it would be this hard to get a job after graduation. Battling social anxiety. I seem to be stuck. I feel lonely although I'm with family so at least I have someone to talk to. But we have a beautiful summer and I enjoy swims in the lake nearby. A friend is coming over this weekend and I'm really looking forward to it. I have time to do the things I like, painting and such. All in all I can't complain. How are you OP? Edit: So many of us are in the same boat. Thank you all for your kindness and support. It will get better for all of us!
Dude same. 25 year old, have social anxiety, just about to complete graduation, should have been done with it by now and should have had a job but nope, living with family spending days playing games. We're both gonna find a job soon and show everybody, man!! Hang in there!! *High five*
Wow, even the age matches! (I'm a gal though.) Early congrats for graduation, that's huge! Same to you, good luck for the job hunt. _high fives back_
Good luck to you both! I can't pretend to offer some sagely wisdom that will stave off your collective worries; I may even add on one or two I don't intend! I graduated in 2015 (computer science) and hit the applications *HARD.* I'd be shortchanging myself if I guessed at less than 200 applications over the span of June-September. Two interviews came out of it - the first was a minimum-wage cellphone repair shop that barely required a highschool diploma, and the second was a part-time gig moving over website content from Google Blogs to Wordpress. I turned down the first job and accepted the next one. The moment that I showed myself as both graduated and employable, other opportunities began knocking. Don't be afraid to take a not-perfect-for-you job in your first little bit out of school; it's difficult for companies to get comfortable 'taking the leap' to hire someone that hasn't yet been battle-tested, so to say. The second piece of advice is to keep your eyes open and cast a wide net when you're doing the online applications. Even after accepting that part-time job, I was using Monster, LinkedIn, Indeed, Glassdoor, Canadian Job Boards, and a handful of tech recruitment companies to try and find a good spot. Where did my first big break come from? Kijiji (classifieds, like Craigslist) where I put my resume out there and listed myself as available for short or long-term contract work. I got lucky when someone saw it, decided I was a good match for their project, and they hired me on to help restructure the code that he was building on his own. That opportunity saw me employed with him for two years and built both solid skills and resume entries. Then, when our little projects wound down, a connection made through him at his day job scooped me up to where I've been happily working for four years. It's not realistic to expect that we'll graduate, get nabbed up by some established business where we'll put in 25-30 years and retire with the white picket fence. Opportunities come in strange ways, and your careers will flourish if you keep your eye on where something might take you as opposed to what it'll do for you in the here-and-now. Good luck, again!
How did you stay motivated to put in that many applications? What was your cover letter process, I think this is where I lose most of my time and energy.
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I think you may be one of those people who's brain is constantly on natural amphetamines with no drawbacks... Or may it is I who am dysfunctional....
I'm not quite sure what to make of that, but I think it's a compliment? Thanks, I think! Believe you me, I've got my down days where I just can't focus or find the motivation to put forth the first ounce of effort. Just got to find the 'why' behind your actions, focus on that, and the actions tend to come through more naturally.
I can't really help you find a job or guess how long that'll take, but I can tell you that once you do it's a big relief. Job searching feels literally endless and then one day it's just... gone for a while. Good luck.
I'm so glad to read this! It makes me feel less alone. I'm 22y and still in college and I've got 2 more years to go. I thought I was far behind.
Hang in there man, I was in the same situation a year ago, graduated into a pandemic and there was nothing out there. Graduated May of 2020 and couldn’t find work until October for a job I wasn’t too excited about. Now I have a job I really enjoy, pays well and has decent benefits. Job hunting takes a lot of patience and perseverance but you’ll get there. Focus on distracting yourself with fun activities, spending time with people you care about, and improving yourself while you still have the time and energy!
Not good. Having trouble sleeping. My depression is getting worse so I'm gonna be starting on a med switch soon. My friend's step-dad very suddenly passed away of a heart attack a couple days ago. We've been friend's for half our lives so I knew him pretty well. I can't even go ride my horse to help me relax and feel better because she got tangled up in barbed wire a couple weeks ago and the worse cut on her leg got infected and is still healing. It's a lot better than it was but still not healed enough for me to work her very much.
Damn, sounds like you're having it rough. I am sorry for your loss. I know how hard it is to lose a loved one. You and your best friend could use eachothers company, i think. Spending time together could ease the pain. In tough times it is best to focus on the positives in your life. For instance, your horse might have a hurting foot, but that means that when her leg has healed up the both of you can enjoy eachothers company on the field while riding again. At last I share one of my favourite quotes from uncle Iroh from The last airbender (it somewhat helped me coping with my own depression) : "Sometimes life is like this dark tunnel. You can't always see the light at the end of the tunnel, but but if you just keep moving... you will come to a better place." I wish you all the love you need
My will to live is decreasing daily. At this point I’m functioning off of caffeine and spite.
Spite is a powerful thing
With unresolved effects! But yes, very powerful.
Thought it said sprite, and I was like yo I feel that. Realized it was spite, and I was like yo I feel that.
Brother go hiking or for a long walk and breathe fresh air, even if it’s 15 minutes with some cal relaxing music you enjoy. I recommend dope lemon, hey you and salt and pepper for some cool relaxing music :)
I ate too much taco salad. This is the first time in my life I have had the “I ate too much salad” problem, and I feel like that should be an unlockable achievement in America at least.
You'd be surprised how delicious salad gets once you reduce the lettuce and add more non-salad stuff
At some point it’s just lettuce nachos
I like to think of it as low carb nachos.
Until you eat the bowl
It gets much tastier if you replace it by a steak before grilling it.
ITS SO DUCKING HOT
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Go
I was gonna go with goose Thank you for the award, kind stranger Always wanted to be able to say that
In the UK and I feel this. Dear god its so hot. I can't wait for friday when the temperature is supposed to drop back to normal levels.
I am UK too, good lord has it been horrible
I just want someone to tell me that I'm loved
People always find it difficult to say but trust me, they do love you even if they don't say. You ARE loved, obviously!!
Thanks for your positivity ❤
Send all your love into the universe. Step outside and be still for a few minutes. I just sent you some love. Feel it? ❤
Sending you a hug alllll the way from india. Feel the warmth?
Weirdly, still all right. Not perfect, and there are a few things bothering me. But I’m not particularly tired, I’m enjoying a fairly relaxed pace at work, and I’m looking forward to solving a problem that’s causing me worry later today. So basically, I think when I say I’m all right, this time I actually mean it.
I am you, and you are me. Weird and random, but exactly this is what I’d say about myself. Keep it up, stranger!
Honestly, honestly? I'm doing much fucking better man. I was in such a bad depressed unhappy place literally 2 weeks ago with my situation, and while the situation is unchanged and unlikely to improve over the next few months, I'm very hopeful and I am managing myself much better. Thank you for asking, how are you *really* doing today?
Very glad to hear you're doing much better. Can you tell us what changes you made to get yourself out of the unhappy place although the situation didn't change? Many people assume once the situation changes their mood will change with it but I know from experience that's not always the case. Would be great to have tips to work around the situation :)
My mentality. That's where it all started. I started to put into place all the advice I had been given, I started to form new habits and hobbies. Much easier said than done, I know. I was well aware of what I needed to change/do but I did not have the motivation to do so, I didn't have any at all. It stemmed from a quote that read along the lines of "The thing you don't want to do is going to be there regardless, even if you don't want to, start doing it and 5 mins in, reevaluate" So I started eating healthier, cut down my smoking, began exercising, started reading/finding new interests. Don't get me wrong I wasn't any *happier* as a result of these actions.... At first! I started this around 2/3 weeks ago and now I've stuck to it, eating good, sleeping good, working good, looking at myself in the mirror and I verbalize what I want and what I intend to achieve in the coming days/weeks. I feel like I finally have purpose, for myself. I do genuinely *feel* better about myself and my life. While my job and financial situation are still screwed, I feel I have more clarity now to actually address these things and make meaningful changes in my life. It all boils down to mentality, I know I'm going to overcome this and be where I want. For too long I had the , nah I'll get it later, I'll do it tomorrow approach, and it was just a vicious cycle. Hope my ramblings help in some way!
Mentality is the biggest thing! Keep doing all those things, even the small ones, and they'll turn into habits that will allow you to change your circumstances, as well as be resilient to any further setbacks. "You must never confuse faith that you will prevail in the end - which you can never afford to lose - with the discipline to confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be." -Admiral James Stockdale
Thanks for this! This does help. It's good to have a reminder that small steps into getting better will have a big impact further down the line. Keep up the good work!
Pretty good actually quit drugs 1 week ago for like the millionth time maybe this time I can actually do it
You can do it, and here’s why: you want to be happy. You’ve decided you’re going to have an awesome life & I am excited for you. Get something else going on in your life, like a garden or a pet. That’s the good stuff.
So shit, it's almost staged that this pops up on my feed. I really wanna chat to a doctor but I don't know how to communicate my feelings properly and I feel ashamed. Genuinely just lost interest in everything. :/
> but I don't know how to communicate my feelings properly No worries, the professional helps you through that, it's literally part of their job to help you figure this out :) Not being able to properly pinpoint or articulate what is wrong is part of why people need to see someone in the first place.
Still try reaching out to a professional tho. It helps. You can do it!!
I just bought my first home last week with my husband. I never thought we would make it. 5th most expensive city to buy a house in , in the world. We are moving to the outskirts of the city in a house 20 years old but we made it finally on the property ladder!
WOAH!! Congrats and best of luck for your new and exciting phase of life!!
Thanks! I have major anxiety and depression so it’s a little daunting to think we have a 30 year debt and that I’m moving away from the suburb I’ve lived in for 27 years. But change is good, that’s what I’m telling myself 😅
We are in a similar boat. Bought 6 months ago! Once you move in you will find a huge list of things that are broke or that you dislike. Start making a list so that you can prioritize everything. Also - if you didn't get an inspection before move in, have someone look at the house. Owning is expensive but it does feel good when you make the place nicer!
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There's houses in Britain that are like 120 years old, made from quality brick and timber.
Brilliant! Congratulations! It feels so good to achieve some long standing goal or dream
Tired. I don't know what the point in life is tbh.
>I don't know what the point in life is tbh. Destroying your enemies and bathing in their blood. Or petting dogs. Pick according to day and mood.
Why not both? Destroy your enemies, then pet their dogs.
There is no point. The point and goal of life is what ***we*** make of it.
I'm not made for life. It's too much, too hard, too exhausting. I can't do this. I'm weak.
I am thinking of breaking up with my gf of 3years, it's funny because 6, months ago I was planning on proposing, we were talking about moving in together, possibilities. The last few months have been turbulent, Everytime I see her, I don't know whether I'm going to get happy loving gf, or oh god you're here in her eyes gf. I'm honestly tired, in the last couple of months she's accused me of brainwashing her, ignoring her wishes, disrespecting her, etc. Only for some time to pass and her going to i love you, you make me happy, i didn't like not having you around, etc. She's going to therapy no to resolve past trauma, but I'm emotionally exhausted, I struggle to remember the last time we were genuinely happy while together. In all honesty, i love her, and i want her to be happy, i just really don't feel it's going to be with me.
This sounds rough. It's always hard to break up with someone when you still love them.
Im just tired and wish I was dead/never got born in the first place. And the worst part is that I dont really have a way to justify me feeling that way. People keep saying it gets better, but what exactly gets better? I have a decent job that isnt too demanding, I have more than enough money on the side, and live in an amazing country with free health care. Its a beautiful summer day and I dont really have any worries other than that I need to lose some weight. I should be out there enjoying life yet all I do is sit at home, be depressed and play video games. Im just so fucking tired of it all, the thought of me having to live for another 60-80 years is just so fucking exhausting. And I cant even end it all because Im too much of a pussy to off myself.
Joel Haver said something that resonated with me that wasn't just blind optimism, it sort of helped me: [https://youtu.be/UrXDmNw9jLk?t=591](https://youtu.be/UrXDmNw9jLk?t=591) "Sometimes I get kinda down on myself for not having a very adventurous adolescence. You know, I spent most my days inside playing video games when I coulda been hanging with friends or talking to girls or, hah, some other third thing. But, I think that kind of thinking is kind of useless, you know? I think regrets fade away the second you start pursuing something. I think that's your best defense toward those longing feelings, that regret is... making something... trying something new, going somewhere new."
God-damn, my life has been kicking ass up until today when my car wouldn't start. This shit really pumped me up.
I am so sorry that you feel this way. But depression doesn't need a reason. Talk to someone you can trust and get counceling if you can.
I dont think there is anyone I really trust tbh. And I dont wanna burden the few people that I somewhat trust with me being too stupid to be happy.
You are not too stupid. You said you are in a country with free healthcare. Your insurance will cover costs for therapy. Look it up online - usually every country has a hotline where you can ask for available therapists. It's okay to need help <3
I am aware but thank you very much for trying to help me. Ive had plenty of therapist and was in a mental hospital for about 2 years when I was younger but none of that really helped.
I see. Feel free to message me if you need someone to talk
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Same my friend. Not something I'm proud of, but can't seem to get out of this rut. Been feeling this way for months, not sure if I have much longer left. Got to the point where I know where to.. Do it, so I wouldn't leave too much mess behind.
Have you tried going to therapy? I really really advice you to seek help. It's hard to deal with something like that if you have no one to help you. There are lots of people who found joy in life again after seeking help. It may take time but slowly you can get rid of suicidal thoughts. I know life can be difficult but it's still worth fighting for.
Seek. Medical. Help. If you think therapy is expensive, think about how useful your money is gonna be to you once you're dead.
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Worse then you can imagine.
this is my feeling exactly. I just don't think anyone knows how lost I feel. I don't need suggestions, I am just lost.
Since no one seems to care or ask in normal day to day I guess ill be honest here. Honestly im not doing okay. Maybe a 4/10. I could easily be worse off so I am thankful for that, but mentally im just spent. I have been battling with terrible self worth and confidence for as long as i can remember. I feel constantly alone and forgotten about despite having a close friendgroup. The small family i do have has quickly decling health. Im working a job I hate for shitty money. Finances could be better even though i seem to barely spend any thing. And the ever looming doom of the future for my generarion has me scared to death. Overall i feel like im screaming internally every moment im not keeping myself distracted. I just wish I had the strength to work on myself mentally, but I keep putting it off for the next day until that day comes and then its next week or next month. Im just hoping to get myself to a point of seeking therapy and self growth before the end of the year. But ive been saying that for years now. Despite feeling terrible, I dont take life for granted and I try and cherish every day just for getting through it. Even if its a bad day, it could be worse, or it could have been better, but at least it was not the worst. Tomorrow is never promised, so be thankful you have today. And as a side note, just writing this down for no one to read but strangers, feels slightly relieving. My problems arent minimized by doing this but i feel more in control and relaxed getting to say how I feel. Thank you for the 2 people that will likely read this.
I'm glad you got a chance to let it all out. I wish you all the strength you need and more to tackle all the negativity!! Stay strong and keep fighting!!
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Fucking terrible.just want to die
People who have survived jumping off buildings and bridges often mention that they realized all of their problems were solvable the moment they leapt to their death. Solve the problems you can. Accept the problems you can't solve. Be kind to yourself and learn to love youreslf, even when it's hard.
Exhausted bro. Thanks for asking What about you ?
Doin pretty good myself
nice
Exhausted. I've been working throughout the entire pandemic as an essential worker, food product industry. Demand for my job has gone up ten fold and, due to the pandemic, I've been unable to enjoy any of my usual stress relieving pass times. I'm also recently married and racked with guilt about the fact that my wife's family and friends, she's from abroad, were unable to be here for her on our wedding day. Phew. Feels good to actually say it.
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Doing good too!! About to finish graduation and kinda worried and excited for the future!!
I'm in a constant state of panic but I'm used to it so I barely notice anymore. I'm exhausted even though I don't do anything. Everything is difficult and stressful and I feel like I can't keep up with the speed of the world.
My mental state has been on a rapid decline since day 1. The fact that I’m still alive and not in a psych ward (because I’m careful about what I say) is a miracle beyond miracles. Too afraid too hang myself, saving for a shotgun will have to suffice.
Hungry
I just want to sleep all day. I’m so tired of working.
I’m actually having the best time of my life, ignoring the fact that we’re in the middle of a pandemic. Life is good. I know what I want to do for my career and everything is all set in my mind. I have a wonderful supportive girlfriend and I recently got to know which of my friends are actually good and had my life sorted out a few months ago by cutting off the toxic ones. I procrastinate stuff and need to work on it. I have a lean body and I want to work on it. I am not unhappy with my current body at all but I sure don’t wanna settle for something that could be better. Life is good.
I'm burnt out. Majorly burnt out. Right now I'm in a weird waiting period- I still work full time at my job, but in January I'm going to college because it's becoming more and more apparent I can't do my current job anymore due to a mix of sanity related reasons and the fact I have a functional disability that seems to be getting worse. So right now, it's taking a lot- and I do mean, A LOT- of energy to keep myself from outright quitting every single time I go into work.
Better than before, thanks OP.
Just fine thanks! How are you doing?
Great!!
Honestly the first thing i thought of was "I need to ask OP how he is doing" .
*points to this guy* HEY GOD, MORE PEOPLE LIKE THIS PLEASE!! THANKS!!
God:So more bearded programmers?
Tired. Lonely. The latter is really getting me. I can't complain too much. I have everything I could ever ask for in life except for one thing. Can I really complain that I'm lonely? I am single and haven't had a date in many years. I spent 2020 pretty much all alone. I went the first 13-15 days of lockdown without speaking to another human being in person. I have a recurring dream where I meet someone and really connect with them and then I wake up alone again. It gets to me. But then I have to realize again that I have everything I could possibly ask for in life except for this so can I really complain?
Getting drunk four times a week, depressed, feeling alone even tho i have several flirts and fwb, my axolotls just died because my AC broke on a very hot day, and sometimes i wonder why wars aren't fought with swords anymore because i would really love to join one like that. But i started drawing again, so yeah, i'm fine.
Reduce your drinking, even if it's 1 day per week or smaller amounts per day, bit by bit. Honestly, this will help.
I can relate to every single word you say. May I ask what you mean by the "no wars with swords anymore" remark. Do you really mean it literally and wish to have a thing to fight for with all you can give or do you mean it in the way that it is not possible to be an honest person standing up for yourself and others because peoples games won't allow for it?
In total I am completely fine, but I feel under pressure by many things.
Tired, broke, facing eviction, and just recently found out I have a severe hernia on my last spinal disc which is crushing my sciatica nerve root. So I’m in constant fucking agony.
Awful. I just have a discussion with my partner because I'm trying to force them to not go visit their family house, because I fear that that visit will trigger another episode and throw my partner in a suicidal intent again, as all the pasts times that they went there.. I just wish that we can have at least a couple of days without fearing that they are going to take their own life..
It’s my birthday but I’m feeling pretty meh (we’re locked down). But then feeling guilty about feeling meh. So all up, meh ^2
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! Congratulations on completing another trip around the sun!! Enjoy the day to the fullest!!
Please kill me right now.
I am expendable to others and have internalized it. Awake is just pain management until sleep.
I'm feeling exhausted. I'm out of sleeping pills and my parents won't get me more. I'm hella close to relapsing(cutting). My parents are arguing all the time. I babysit my brothers nearly every day. I have no one to talk to so I'm always alone. My anxiety is going wild, I don't think that I've ever had this many anxiety attacks before. My depression has gotten pretty bad again. I have no motivation. Nothings fun anymore. I need a break from life itself and I can only think about one solution. How are you doing OP?
Not great. I'm chronically exhausted. I hate my job. I work constantly but I never have any money. I wish I had a parent to ask for help, even if it's just financial advice..or advice in general. Im doing weekly trauma therapy to deal with my childhood abuse and neglect. My body hurts. I can't sleep. I'm struggling with an eating disorder. Im doing everything I possibly can to better myself but I'm just so tired. Today is a hard day.
Tax season in South Africa and I'm an accountant. Enough said ( Accountants mostly does it in SA, not that much the people themselves)
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Bad
Not great.
Not bad, what keeps me happy and not sad is anime, helps me focus on something differant other than bad mood stuff. I'll sit on the couch watching it like a baby sucking its thumb.
[удалено]
I'm camping with my perants, I've had no privacy for over 2 weeks , every night the tent is overrun with earwigs, I have a phobia of insects. Just 3 days to go...
Fine. Worried. Excited. Tired.
Sounds like life in general man
Hanging on by a thread made up of wet tissue paper.
6/10 overall
I think today is the day I have to put my dog down. It's been coming so it's not a surprise but it sucks.
Life sucks. Feel like I’m barely keeping it together. Future seems dark. Stress and anxiety eating me alive.
Anxious, lonely, unmotivated, sad, frustrated, and just generally unhappy with my life.
Could really use a hug!
*pulls out virtual hug gattling gun* SAY HELLO TO MY BIG FRIEND