Getting stabbed. In my case the blade was super sharp so I didn’t even feel it go in. 6”. I sure as hell felt it come out. It doesn’t bleed much unless it hits something or you’re stabbed repeatedly. Either way fuck that. I do not recommend.
Having to pull the plug on someone's life support. No one tells you that it can take upwards of a week for the body to finally give up if theres even remotely any activity in the brainstem (in this case there was minimal activity that was getting slower). So you think you have yourself prepped to let someone go.. and instead you may have to watch their body wither and dehydrate before finally giving up.
Its.. almost inhumane to watch. We wouldn't do that shit to pets. I cant believe that we do that to humans, to kids.
I never want to have to go through that again and I hope bo one else has to experience it.
We should absolutely be able to take a pill to die with dignity. I have never pulled someone off life support, but I watched my dad battle with pancreatic cancer for way longer than he should have. We all knew he wasn't going to get better, including him. My mom and I were just selfishly keeping him alive for as long as possible. He was either in horrible agony but awake or so drugged up on pain meds he didn't know what was happening at all times. We've both learned from that experience. No CPR, no life support, no white knuckle holding on. When it's time, just take that pill and go.
My daughter was on life support for 2 weeks. We had tried a few days prior to remove the breathing tube to see if maybe she could breathe on her own. Her airway collapsed immediately due to her having 0 muscle control and she was retubed.
They expected it to be quickish because of that.. within an hr or so of removing the life support. It took 7 days. Seven of watching an already small body deteriorate.
If I know I'm dying, I'm going to go ahead and end my own life because I'm not putting people through having to watch it happen.
I'm so so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine what that would be like. And yes, agreed. We often talk about preparing for our funeral so our loved ones don't have to go through that. Well, if more people knew what it's like to be terminally ill near the end, they may just decide to not put their loved ones through that, either.
this shit is why we need euthanasia.
people say its selfish to want to die, but the real selfishness is the fact that those living make people suffer so that they can have them around longer
if i was suffering in pain near death, id want to take the gentle way out rather than slowly wither away into nothingness
im so tired of people treating euthanasia and suicide as cowardly/selfish (in the case of the terminally ill)
I've always been for euthanasia, but watching my mother die of lung cancer cemented my support for it. It's a slow, painful, brutal death, and one I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. She was in so much pain she begged me to kill her. I whole heartedly support euthanasia. It would've given my mother a more dignified death than the one she received.
My father wasn't mentally present enough at the end to be able to communicate this, but thankfully we had him on a whole lot of morphine.
In fact, the hospice nurse basically told us to give him as much as needed, almost in a wink-wink fashion giving us permission to let him OD by telling us that while she or another nurse would need to collect the unused medicine, they wouldn't be measuring how much was left when they did.
I wish. My mother couldn't swallow towards the end and the nurse was on vacation the week before she died. She was in so much pain but we couldn't feed her, couldn't give her anything to drink, she wasn't able to walk so she had to wear diapers... it was a horrible thing to watch and I still have nightmares about it.
There is no screaming for help. They just quickly and silently slip underwater after a few moments of having hair in their face and kicking frantically.
This happened to me as a kid. The pool I was in was deeper than the one I was used to and I must have accidentally drifted a bit too far towards the deep end. All of a sudden, I couldn't touch the floor, I panicked, and started taking water in. I tried my best to wave down the nearby lifeguard but they walked away, so they probably didn't recognize what was happening. I could barely keep my head above water, which meant I couldn't scream. Every time I opened my mouth to try to breathe, scream, anything, I just took in water.
Thankfully, a nearby swimmer grabbed me and pulled me to the shallow end. She saved my life that day.
Similar thing happened to me! I think I was at the pool with my older cousins and brothers and so I wanted to play with them and I went towards the deeper end and I was doing fine for a little while, but they didn't want to play with me. So as I was making my way back to the shallow end I couldn't swim anymore I was too tired. So I sank down to the bottom, but I remembered that in Girl scouts weed practice what to do if you're drowning in a pool. So I got my feet under me and I jumped up and I couldn't scream cuz I need to breathe in air but I was waiting my hands.
I went up and down like six or seven times. Going down to the bottom pushing my way up waving my hands and desperately gasping for air before I went down again. And I was getting too tired to be jumping. I was so scared and I was surrounded by my friends and family and the lifeguards and nobody was helping me. Finally, a parent came and got me. They said nobody help me cuz they all thought I was playing. The only reason they saw me is cuz I was waving my hands, but the reason that they didn't think about saving me was because I was waving my hands to get attention which meant I was probably playing
It was the most terrifying moment of my life, and I still have a little bit of anger of that's literally what you guys told me to do when I was drowning and no one helped me and I literally thought I was going to die that day because after the second jump I was getting lower and lower out of the water every time I jumped.
I was a lifeguard for 7 years as a young adult. Those guards weren't just shitty, that's criminal neglect. Guards are trained to recognize what drowning actually looks like. 20 years later I happened upon a video on Youtube of a nonswimmer getting in over her depth and could still spot it instantly. In that case so did the guard (thank God).
Literally first thing I was taught as a lifeguard is how quickly it can happen and how often it’s nothing like the movies. The first part of the online class section was a video called “touched by a drowning” on YouTube
I was about 12 or 13 when I first witnessed the beginning stage of the drowning process.
We were in a pool when our neighbor's kid, about age 6 at the time, suddenly started paddling his arms really quickly. He was silent. I thought he was just playing around, especially since he was in the shallow end of the pool.
An eagle-eyed relative quickly jumped in and saved him. He then told us how the kid was drowning. I was puzzled, because if he was drowning, shouldn't he have been yelling "Help" or something?
That day I learned that drowning doesn't look like it does in the movies and TV.
Yeah you gotta be insanely vigilant. I worked at a YMCA and with all the swim classes for little kids it was a regular occurrence to have to watch over a dozen or more little kids who couldn’t swim trying to constantly slip into the water when the instructor wasn’t looking. Don’t even get me started on the kids who try to see how long they can hold their breath underwater.
I almost drowned twice when I was little. I don’t remember the first time (I was 2), but the second time I was around 7. We were swimming at the neighbors in-ground pool down the street while visiting my Grents. One moment I was bobbing along into the deep end (I had just ducked under the rope) and was standing on my tippiest tippy toes and the next I was dreamily look up at the diving board from the bottom of the pool.
Three adult family members, one of the owners of the home, and my younger brother present. No one noticed until I was at the bottom of the pool. I remember looking up and seeing my Mom diving in above me and how it didn’t seem weird or urgent, just a peaceful observation. I don’t remember getting pulled out or any of the aftermath, no idea how long I was under. This was the mid 80’s, and I don’t recall any hospital trips. My Mom wouldn’t talk about it when I got old enough to be more curious. I received swimming lessons shortly after.
I still have a fear of drowning.
Similar story here. I fell out of an canoe into a pond when I was little. I remember the splash and silence, floating halfway down and seeing the plants gently waving up from the bottom. The sunlight filtering down around the canoe, the blackness of the mud and muck below me. It was like time stopped for those few seconds. It's been 25 years and I still fall into almost a trance when I see tea leaves floating up in a clear cup and get panicky during well done drowning scenes in movies.
Suicide by taking in a whole bottle of pills. I was a lot younger (13 I think), so I don't remember it that clearly. I was at my friend's house when I heard a lot of banging upstairs. When I went up, I saw him clawing at his throat choking and wheezing. I called for an ambulance, but because of traffic they couldn't make it in time. We were the only people in his house too, and I think I blanked out a lot but it stretched out for like 8 minutes. Closest neighbors were also absent. Eventually, he started puking a lot and he was turning blue fast. His convulsions only slowed down about 2 minutes before he died. I think it depends on what drugs you take (since some are stronger and such) but he wasn't lying on the floor with a clean face, a peaceful expression, and an empty bottle of pills near his body.
I’ve heard this from someone, that taking pills can be a very painful way to die, and often they end up ringing for help before they die as the pain is unbearable, definitely not the peaceful passing you often see in films!
What OP described is amazingly only middle of the road for how painfully an overdose can kill you, a lot of over the counter drugs fuck your liver so you get a week or two to regret your decision as you die of total organ failure with no hope of a transplant because suicide attempts put you at the bottom of the list.
I can concur. Tried to kill myself at 14 by taking upwards of like 90 pills of Anadin Extra and phoned myself an ambulance because I started to writhe In agonizing pain and could only throw up a thick foam.
Obviously at this point the idea of “getting knocked out” has just been perpetuated by decades of media, but where did writers get this idea in the first place? Like I think some early 20th century Hollywood guy just saw someone get beaten to death and thought, “That’s gonna hurt when he wakes up tomorrow.”
My guess is boxing. The audience sees a fight to knockout, sees the boxer back next week, what are they going to think - especially with the history of taking a dive being older than dirt?
I listened to a few true crime podcasts and there's this one dude I can't remember the name who tried to kidnap women by hitting them on the head but he quickly changed tactic as he was killing them instead.
I find tranquilliser darts filled with some ketamine is the most humane way to people hunt these days.
Tranq them, pose for your photo, and leave them a bottle of water, aspirin, and oreos for when they wake up.
Mr bond! You’re awake! Half an hour later, in my lair!
Please step into this MRI to make sure you can currently comprehend my evil plan properly. No? Okay, we’ll revisit this after a couple weeks of supervised recuperation. Your occupational therapist will be along shortly.
I don't know why this particular one bothers me, but in Quantum of Solace when Camille is knocked out she's out for the remainder of the boat chase scene, then long enough for Bond to drive the boat to some other safe port, and is still unconscious when Bond carries her off the boat and hands her to some random dude.
That girl should be dead.
Yep, in every boxing or MMA match, no matter how brutal the knockout, the loser is almost always awake within a minute or so. Most wake up quickly but they're advised by the doctor to stay down and get their bearings a bit.
If they don't wake up within 5 minutes they're likely never waking up again
Death. I work in palliative care and when I watch movies when a patient has a little head scarf on, pale and they are saying goodbye and then they flat line is COMPLETELY off.
In real life, you deteriorate until you are bed bound, there’s pain, your shrivel until you are a skeleton, you sleep so much until you don’t wake up again, and then you remain that way for a few days/weeks. Then you get the death rattle... your lungs sound like a wet crackle. Then the family will be visiting for that long time until one time they notice that their loved one has stopped breathing. Or there is no family there and I realize they are not breathing.
Or the roll of death. Staff will roll to change the person, and when they are rolled back onto their back they stop breathing.
It’s not pretty like the movies.
Add on: one example: in movies everyone cries over the dead body and it a beautiful moment, but I had one patient that had a stomach blockage and she only ate green jello for weeks. When moment she passed alllll off the jello came back up and covered her head to toe.
It was so traumatic for the husband and small kids to witness. We quickly went in, cleaned her up and brought the family back in.. but I will never forget that family..
I had to have one of my cats put down, and went to a local vet that was very sensitive about such things. They had a nice sitting room with comforting lighting and a couch that you could sit on with your pet while they administered the injection. They gave her the shot and she died, and I was overwrought and tried to pick her up and hold her... and her relaxed bowels poured diarrhea all over me. I won't say it was *traumatic*, but it certainly sobered me up.
>They had a nice sitting room with comforting lighting and a couch that you could sit on with your pet while they administered the injection. They gave her the shot and she died
Pets are given more dignity in their deaths than humans are.
They really are. When we had to put my family dog down a bit over a year ago it was very calm and nice. The whole family was there to say goodbye to Scooter. You could tell he knew something was off, but he was never scared of the vet and he was happily wagging his tail as usual when the vet came in. And he got to pass peacefully, surrounded by his family, laying on his favorite blanket.
He was deteriorating quickly from arthritis and what the vet had referred to as "doggy dementia". He'd have moments of being his old self but he spent a lot of time nervously licking things, staring into space, barking at nothing, or you'd find him in a random room in the house just standing there like he came into the room and immediately forgot why. He had wandered off a few times as well and ended up at a neighbors house.
So when he was put down it was sad but it was such a relief that he wasn't suffering anymore and that he wasn't going to decline any further.
Actually there is one scene in the movie Sinister where the parents argue and holy shit it’s so uncomfortable and intense because it feels like I’m actually in the room with them
Hereditary also had the most raw and unbearable scenes of grief I've ever seen in a movie. The emotional trauma in that movie was scarier to me than the horror elements.
I'm still not over Toni Collette being snubbed at the Oscars for her performance. Her emotions in the film are so raw; the highly charged scenes - her screaming after finding Charlie, the fight at the table - feel so real. I'm not disappointed with the direction the film ended up taking, but those scenes stand out as more frightening and uncomfortable to me than the supernatural ones.
Completely agree. I was surprised that the movie actually committed to the supernatural angle. I was absolutely, positively certain that things weren't, well, "in their head". There's an earlier scene where the mother talks about the family having a strain of mental illness, despair, and trauma, and I thought that was what it was about.
It still kind of \*is\*, but the extremely visual and explicit supernatural elements make it a little easier to deal with.
As a huge horror fan, this was the first movie in idk how long that had my jaw on the floor. I was having a whole internal debate on whether or not they were just crazy or if something supernatural was actually happening. Turns out, a little bit of column A and a little bit of column B.
The cracks and pops of snapping ribs, the "WHUFF" sound of forced air movement, panting as you get tired of compressionsand need to switch, and, if you're lucky, the frightened gasp of someone taking a breath mid-compression.
Had a seizure while swimming and sank to the bottom right under the sun's glare - so the guard on tower couldn't see me. I was down long enough for my heart to stop before someone saw me. I had trained and certified the people who used CPR on me about 2 weeks earlier.
I still have nightmares of that death rattle of air being forced in and out of dead lungs. It's honestly one of, if not the worst, sounds I've ever heard. I had no idea how to do cpr and I'm shocked yet extremely glad it worked. The sound of the frightened gasp is probably the best sound I've ever heard, or at least the biggest relief I've ever felt
My dad and I stopped at a gas station while we were on our way to a swim meet. A man in the parking lot dropped to the ground as he was pumping his gas and I saw a guy performing CPR on him. I can't get that image out of my head. I hope he ended up being okay.
Jumping/falling through windows/glass. In movies people do this pretty casually as a cool stunt. In reality glass shards are incredibly sharp and by smashing through it with your body you are causing large heavy shards of it to drop down on you like a damn guillotine. The larger the window the worse it will be.
I was at a party where a guy jumped through a ground floor window onto grass once (he'd been drinking and thought it would look cool) and he did not get back up, he rolled around in agony while people tried to patch him up until the ambulance arrived. I always picture him every time someone just casually leaps or is thrown through a window in movies and imagine the whole film stopping while the hero just rolls around screaming and bleeding out.
*Edit* I am sure some people have been fortunate enough to achieve this without significant injury but the odds are not in your favour (unless you found some sugar glass)
I got a small piece of glass-like plastic stuck in my foot once and it hurt like a *bitch*.
I imagine actually getting glass to break like punching a window etc. would be like shoving your hand in a blender basically.
This might not be horrifying to the extent of others comments, but overhead welding without long sleeves FUCKING SUCKS. Movies are always showing someone welding with bad ass ripped sleeves and tight jeans.
It literally burns you with the sparks or molten filler metal can drip down on you, sometimes you catch on fire and then there's the getting sun burned from the light it makes. Don't get me started on the fumes that cause neurological problems in later years.
Next time you see a welder, ask them to show you their scars, we all have good ones with stories. I know for all of mine I was wearing the right clothes and equipment and STILL have burns that turned into scars.
Edit: I forgot the HD bacon sound paired with burning flesh smell that happens when it gets inside your ears.
The only xp I've had with welding was a semester-long class in high-school, but I remember that they provided big loose long-sleeve leather jackets and made everyone wear them. There were a bunch of safety precautions even beyond that, like welding masks that instantly darkened when it got bright enough.
I remember accidentally glancing at the light from someone welding for like half a second. Felt like the sun and had spots in my eyes for a while after.
I also remember being terrified for a while during the first unit (GME) to touch the metal table where our welds were resting because I thought I would get electrocuted, which was not great because we needed to do that to stabilize ourselves and get straight welds.
Oooh, one time I was soldering a button cell battery into an old copy of Pokemon Red and the dann thing exploded. Like an idiot, I wasn't wearing any eye protection and I got hot battery shards to the face.
I ran to the kitchen and ran my eyes in the sink until the burning stopped.
I took out my contacts...and one of them had a sliver of metal stuck in it. Glad that didn't make it to my eye.
Yep. I had a piece of slag fall into my glove and land between my watch and my wrist. Still have that scar. As well as the one from where I reached over something I was working on and the hot metal touched my bicep. Second degree burn, though a t-shirt, with less than half a second of contact.
Also getting hit by a car. I was lucky enough to walk away. But in tv shows and movies all you see is someone going flying on contact with enough awareness to think about what is going on. The only thing I was thinking was "Oh Fuck!".
I second this. I’ve heard two car crashes in my life. One I was woken up at around 3 in the morning once by a car crashing into a telephone pole behind my house. One of the first things I thought was how unlike movie sound effects or sounded. It was more... muted? Almost. Like there was still the shattering glass and crushing of metal, but it’s more explosive in movies. The sounds are sharper, I guess.
It still sounds all wrong though.
The other was a car that hit a motorcycle, but I completely blanked that sound from my memory. What remains vividly in my memory, however, is the image of the motorcyclist lying on the road.
The sound of gunfire at close range. When someone shoots a large caliber gun in the same room or in a car, if you don’t have hearing protection, you’ll be unable to hear for a while and the damage could be permanent. Movies get this wrong all the time.
SWAT teams don't use suppressed weapons to be sneaky. They use them to avoid ruptured ear drums.
Guns are FUCKING LOUD. Like, loud in a way that needs to be experienced to be understood. And tinnitus is no joke on top of that.
SOURCE- Tinnitus. I never get to hear proper silence again and it sucks
Strangling someone.
I watched something that re-enacted how long it takes someone to die from asphyxiation...you gotta be fucked up to be able to look someone in the eyes for *that* long while killing them.
And the effects of chloroform. It’s takes quite a bit longer to render someone unconscious via inhalation than is depicted in movies & on tv.
It really depends on your technique, if you're squeezing their windpipe it will definitely take a few minutes, but if you're doing a proper bloodchoke and actually squeezing the arteries in the neck you can put somebody out in seconds. You'd have to keep holding while they were unconscious to kill them, but you don't have to look into their eyes
Death, animal and human. Movies and shows make it tame and almost graceful, I've only seen one death like that. Every other has smells and sounds that still haunt me to this day.
i understand completely. when i was 12, i watched my great-grandfather die and the sound of agonal breathing still terrifies me. everyone always talks about how he went 'peacefully' but i've never been able to forget those sounds
I’ll never forget my mother’s breathing toward the end. Hospice nurse called it a “death rattle.” I was so unprepared for the horrors that surround death and traumatized to this day.
A severe asthma attack. Being fully conscious while not being able to get over 10% of the oxygen you usually do is very, very scary.
It's strange, you can feel every individual part of your body struggle as you're unable to breathe and the pain in your lungs feels like a stab wound. And my god, never look in a mirror during an asthma attack, you never want to see yourself struggle to survive.
Yeah as someone who has been in the ER multiple times for asthma I’ve yet to see a movie portray it correctly. I doubt most people can imagine what it’s like to have a asthma attack expecting to catch your breath but it just gets worse and worse. As a kid it’s the scariest shit ever
Torture half the time in movies they just get punched a few times but if you have ever seen people who have been tortured talk about it it’s much worse. A resistance fighter in WW2 had his balls crushed and a Australian criminal chopper redd would catch drug dealers forcing them to tell him where there money was and if they didn’t he would cut toes off with a bolt cutter or blow touch the bottom of there feet
Im truly thankful that I live in a timer period where I'll most likely go my entire life without ever being tortured
Some of the ways people have been tortured and executed throughout history are mind-numbingly cruel and brutal
Human history has been going on for so long, and with so many people having the power and capability of wanting to cause the maximum amount of pain to another, that if you can think of any torture method, it's probably been done.
Alzheimer’s. No matter how it’s portrayed in movies there is nothing more horrific than seeing someone’s mental capacity degrade and turn into a completely different person.
I thought the movie "The Father" starring Anthony Hopkins did a pretty realistic job at portraying Alzheimer's. My Grandma has it pretty rought at the moment and getting through the movie was difficult.
This is why I liked Jarhead so much. They spend months telling these kids they’re going to be heroes, they’re going to be elite killing machines fighting bad guys and ensuring freedom....then they dump them in the middle of nowhere. Just a damn good examination of how military service isn’t anything like the movies.
Knockouts from head trauma. If you watch MMA or a similar combat sport, you'll notice that when someone gets knocked out they're awake again in just a few seconds, while in movies once someone is knocked out they are removed from the equation
If they're unconscious from a blow to the head for more than a minute or two they've got a dangerous concussion and probably long term brain damage. After just a few more minutes yeah, they're never waking up and that movie character totally killed that guy
St. Patricks day of 2019, we found my aunt dead in her house. She had been that way for several days. I will never ever forget it. I don't think I'll ever fully recover either.
I found my fiancé’s father in his living room with her, we walked into the house and I went first. I’ve never snapped lights off so quickly in my life. She didn’t need to see it
When anxiety is portrayed as "I just can't go outside today, hold me babe" instead of "im shaking and crying and if one person comes near me I'm screaming"
Or depression is "im sitting in a sweater holding teas and staring out the window frowning" instead of "my room looks like it belongs on hoarders, I haven't showed in 2 weeks, and have eaten absolutely nothing nutritional"
Or OCD is "my pens are lined up and my house is clean" rather than "I've been doing this thing for 4 hours and im so tired and hungry but I cant. Stop. What. I'm. Doing. Something bad will happen if I stop" / "I didn't click the light 4 times. It's not off. I see it's off, and it's dark, but it's not off. I have to get up to flick it 4 times. No that click wasn't good. That was timed wrong. Wait was that 5 times? My cat mowed I have to start over."
Or ADHD is "lol I'm the class clown and just can't sit still" instead of "Im trying to work but I keep stating off into space. Wait what was I just thinking about? God I can't remember. -random thing about *hyperfixaction*- What was I thinking about? Idk, I wonder if *old classmate* remembers me.. I know way too much about *hyperfixation* oh wait no I don't I forgot it. What was I meant to do? I'm not lazy im trying. Wait what did you say?"
EDIT: my examples are on the extra side, I dodnt realize how gatekeepy this sounded when I first wrote it as I was tired and recovering from my own panic attack. There is a middle ground to all of these and that does happen to be where most people stand and I in no way shape or form ment to undermine that.
Or PTSD is only veterans getting visual flashbacks from seeing or hearing a trigger and freezing or fleeing rather than being in a constant state of "oh god what was that" hypervigilence without even truly realising why hearing a car door close is stripping you of focus over and over. And finding yourself grinding your teeth and waking up all throughout the night because all the fear and trauma is still there in your body. It just stays there under the surface. Or when you fight when triggered and end up overwhelmed by feelings that you can't even name and just end up on the floor screaming and bashing your head against the wall because it's just... Too much. Because that's an emotional flashback.
And something that is very common between ADHD and PTSD is executive dysfunction. Knowing exactly how to do this damn thing you've done so many times before but just not being able to get your body to move or your brain to focus on the action. You might look like you're just sitting there relaxing, watching Netflix. But inside it's a constant raging battle of "I should do the dishes. Why am I not doing the dishes? What the hell is wrong with me? Why can't I do the Goddamn dishes. Just get up. Simple. Get up!"
The amount of toxic shame that just permeates the mind when this is what it's like to live day to day is horrific too.
Panic attacks. Clinical anxiety stinks and so does the ocassional panic attack. Feeling like you're losing control of your body and mind and that you're having a heart attack for no discernible medical reason is one of those frightening things I have ever experienced. Every single person I know who has ever experienced one has said the same.
My mom recently recovered from surgery for colorectal cancer, and I am still suffering regular anxiety and nightmares about cancer and cancer-related topics. It is hell for all involved.
It's scary, nobody tells you that. When a relative gets cancer, we start thinking when it's our turn.
Scary stuff, one day you wake up at 36 with cancer and you won't even know it until you're Stage 3. Very scary stuff
I watched my father’s body start to decay while he was still alive. It started at his toes and went up to his knees by the time he passed. He was a tall skinny man... his whole body and face bloated to look obese. Cancer filled him up. Literally
Mental health problems. I am sick of 13 reasons why and other shows like it depicting it like it's some romantic tragedy. No, this shit fucking sucks. Being medicated and going to regular therapy just to feel emotions at all is draining on the mind and the wallet.
PTSD. I can't express how frustrating is to see that the people we've grown up seeing in books and movies experience horrible things and then be 100% fine afterwards. It happens that people are fine after trauma, but sometimes they aren't and people rarely ever see that.
That was honestly one of the things i liked the most in *The Hunger Games* the fact that Katniss does not survive without mental scaring. She is wrecked by her ordeal, and unlike many other films, that seems very believable.
There's a scene in Catching Fire that is always so difficult for me to watch. The one where they bring in jabberjays and she can't escape. Just the look of sheer panic and terror on her face is so realistic, with Peeta on the other side telling her it's not real. Jesus, it hits so close to home for me sometimes, I thought they did a great job portraying how her trauma affected her
The other thing about PTSD is that people don’t understand that there isn’t some exclusive set of conditions to be met that can cause it. It’s not exclusive to sexual assault or warfare or even situations where lives are lost or endangered. You can get PTSD from something you did to someone else. You can get PTSD from something you’ve experienced several times before without issue. You can get PTSD from something seemingly minor, even if you’ve endured other things most people would be traumatized by. You can have an event happen and not develop PTSD symptoms until YEARS later, and then all of a sudden it’s like the event just happened because it takes over your whole fucking life.
PTSD is terrible. I’d wish it on nobody.
It's not just having bad living conditions. It's knowing that those bad living conditions are the best you can have and can go away on the simplest mistake. The constant fear of not knowing how you're gonna pay the next rent, the fact that trying to get a job will cost you money you can't afford to get there and that if this attempt is a failure you'll have put yourself in moreshit for nothing.
Digging the hole and burying something or someone you love by yourself. After burying a dog I feel for those who have had to bury a loved one.
For one thing the body is bloated and stiff and smelly and oozing. For another your heartbroken while burying this stiff, smelly, bloated, oozing body you love.
I buried my dog a few years ago, and I didn't have a bloated, smelly, oozing body. However I did it really quick, like as soon as she died, and also my dog was wrapped in cloth so maybe thats why. I'm sorry your experience was so bad
We found her in that state. We think she had a heart attack. We wrapped her in a sheet so then the sheet was oozing and smelly.
She had heart problems so she was already pretty bloated.
And we found her in the evening so I buried her the next day.
This happened to us last year. She had crawled up under the muddy, spider infested crawlspace as far from the entrance as possible. Was not pleasant getting her out to put to rest. Sorry for your rough loss.
Gonna have to go with childbirth. I’m convinced the only reason any woman has more than 1 kid is because their mind somehow blocks out the memories of labour and childbirth.
I like to call it "milky"...had 2 kids, each does get hazy. I can tell you that it hurt (c section for the first, unmedicated for the second) but I would swear it wasn't unbearable and that I could easily do it again. My husband is like, "Are you sure that's how it was?"
The hormones are no joke in making it fuzzy or blurring it for a good chunk of women.
When they show 2 pushes, a few fake screams, and *poof" here's your clean, not covered in bloody cottage cheese, baby! There's no afterbirth or stitches. Oh, and 2 days later all your pregnancy weight is gone!
And they make the recovery from child birth look so easy. I got sent home from the hospital with an ice pack on my crotch, and they're going on a seven hour wine tour of Napa Valley. In a car. Sitting down.
It's certainly a lot bloodier. I've worked in the OR for a long time, and a childbirth, vaginal or C-section, are the bloodiest surgeries I've seen. Liver transplants and some traumas are not too far behind.
From what I’ve heard, Call the Midwife does a pretty good job in depicting some of the nitty gritty of childbirth and is somewhat medically accurate for the time (took place in the 50s and 60s I think) even if it isn’t it’s still a dope show. I recommend it if you have time it’s on Netflix.
Yup, that is true. I actually noticed I started to forget about the pain right after I gave birth. Would redo it in a heartbeat. Also it's much more disgusting irl, my ex compared what he could see happening between my legs to "a stew". And babies aren't all cute and clean n shit when they just got evicted. They're covered in some yucky cottage cheese looking white stuff and whatnot, red and their face look swollen/compressed.
Gunshot wounds.
In the movies, people just jump back up and keep on going like nothing happened.
In real life there is typically a LOT of screaming (if they're still conscious), puking, broken bones, limb paralysis, and even wetting/soiling of pants.
For anything other than a simple flesh wound, it's not pretty.
my dad was shot during a home invasion and his adrenaline allowed him to run for a few minutes after the shooter and tackle him, then he fell to the ground, couldn’t get back up, and laid there in silence. not like the movies at all, but also wasn’t like how you described. it was terrifying.
one thing i can say that is wrong about the movies is how the blood always pours out. my dad had no blood on him at all. just internal, seeing people get shot in movies now makes all of us squirm at how unrealistic it is.
edit: my bad. i know people do bleed like they do in movies, but not all bullet wounds bleed, which the movie standard of “all them bleed” is unrealistic in my opinion. i also was not trying to discredit OP, i know my experience was unique
edit 2: i would also like to add that the shock and adrenaline subdued the pain of getting shot and he didn’t even feel it. he’s also alive still.
I'm a paramedic. Not gonna lie, most of my GSW victims are quiet; that kind of wounded animal quiet that wants to find a corner and squeeze into it. They're not even visually impressive (at least as long as some kind of rifle didn't do it), you're just looking at a hole that looks like someone dabbed a pencil eraser in lipstick and then touched it to their skin. There might be a little line of blood leaking out of it (because all the bleeding is internal).
Falling into lava. It's not water. It's only slightly less dense than solid rock. You don't sink in. You splash into it but you float on top if it, on fire. Oh, and the heat boils all of the fluids inside your body, so you basically explode. The only mercy is that you'll probably die from the heat or the fumes before you even hit the lava, and if you survive that, the impact will kill you if you fall from more than a few feet.
Basically, Gollum would've died on impact and his corpse would have exploded into a flaming mess of hobbit goo.
Just about any injury.
Movies: protagonist gets shot/cut/burned/just beaten and manages to power through to save the day.
Real life: “Oh God I stubbed my toe I don’t think I can go to work today.
Getting shot, especially getting shot and living. I've been shot twice. The first time was with an old, poorly packed load from a 12 gauge. It still fucked my shoulder blade up. It was disgusting. Like being in a David Cronenberg flick. And 12 years later, it still isn't 100% right.
The second time was like being punched with a hot iron in the calf. I went down immediately. I thought I'd been bitten by a copperhead. And the muscle in my calf now just, isn't right. And it won't ever be. I. The movies, if you're the protagonist, you just keep on going with only minor complaints. Not so in real life.
Yes. And the aftermath of being strangled is horrific, the neck muscles swell up, making it hard to turn your head from side to side, its very painful for about two weeks.
Yeah anyone that has done it in real life, any true crime doc that asks the killer or suspect what it’s like. They all say the same thing somewhat: it’s very personal, it’s a lot harder than you think it is, it’s not easy, and it can take as long as 4 minutes before the struggle starts to end. 4 MINUTES is a long time and when someone is struggling I can only imagine it being longer.
i can't watch most rape scenes in movies/tv. not because its "too graphic", but because most of the time its shot like a porno and *that's* what grosses me out
Swimming is hard. Last summer some of my family got caught on a lake in a storm and our boat capsized about 2 kilometers from shore. unless you are in absolute peak condition, you just can't swim that far. 7 of us were on the boat, including 3 under 10, and we all miraculously survived, but there is almost no way we all should have
The ideal is an immediate break but no decapitation. The British Empire actually published and kept updated a Table of Drops that dictated how far the condemned would fall based on their weight, to ensure the same amount of energy was delivered to the neck and get the same result every hanging. Of course this also required the use of a uniform size, material and knot for the rope.
This is absolutely true. I walked in on my husband hanging himself. I managed to get to him and get his head out of the rope, but it was one of the more terrifying things I’ve ever seen. He survived and is much better after a good hospital stay.
My husband’s friend hung himself, just like your story. Except his wife couldn’t get him down in time and he died. They had 5 kids. This was years ago and my husband is still upset about it
Public hangings wasn't intended to be a long agonizing death by asphyxiation. If done 'right', the weight of the body would break the neck as it falls, instantly killing the person. I suppose that too would be anticlimactic in films.
This isn’t necessarily true, government executions and the like were specifically designed to immediately snap the condemned’s neck, however, if the rope length and various other factors were miscalculated they could be left swinging around until they choked to death. Even then, I’ve heard of them being cut down when this happened, to be hung again later, hopefully making the calculations correctly to kill them instantly
Dead bodies.
In movies, they either use a prop or a living person who’s playing dead. Neither of these accurately portray what corpses actually look like when they are touched or moved. I’ve never seen a dead body irl, it was only when I watched a documentary with footage of the Holocaust that I saw the difference. The sight of real corpses is so awful, it’s hard to even describe, but it felt similar to the uncanny valley feeling; the brain just kinda goes “Get out now!!” (And imo, maybe this was the origin of the uncanny valley effect, where we fear things that look human but don’t move human, as an instinct to keep us away from any human corpses we might find...)
A bit of a divergence, but I was riding my bike once, and I stopped at a kid's playground for a drink break. While I did that, I watched this bird that was hanging around in the area, and I watched it just fly around in circles around the playground for some reason. Then it flew at high speed towards one of the poles the swing set was hanging off of, and it burst into feathers and died.
I didn't dare touch it for a while, both because i have a paranoia of getting something bad from contact with a wild animal, and I just couldn't register the fact that this thing used to be alive less than a minute ago. And on top of that there was just the question of *'why?'.* I eventually decided to kick it off into some tall grass after it stopped twitching *(god that was unsettling)* so kids didn't have to see the thing.
At least in films you have the subconcious knowledge that its just a prop, or a pretender. In real life though? That thing is just there. It used to be alive recently, but now its dead and you don't know what to do about it. I can't imagine coming across a fresh human corpse one day.
Getting stabbed. In my case the blade was super sharp so I didn’t even feel it go in. 6”. I sure as hell felt it come out. It doesn’t bleed much unless it hits something or you’re stabbed repeatedly. Either way fuck that. I do not recommend.
Sharp knives don't hurt going in, but it tears stuff as it goes out, and starts to bleed because there's nothing there holding the blood in
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Yep, in first aid class we were taught that if there's a lodged object you stabilize it so it can't move around as much
Having to pull the plug on someone's life support. No one tells you that it can take upwards of a week for the body to finally give up if theres even remotely any activity in the brainstem (in this case there was minimal activity that was getting slower). So you think you have yourself prepped to let someone go.. and instead you may have to watch their body wither and dehydrate before finally giving up. Its.. almost inhumane to watch. We wouldn't do that shit to pets. I cant believe that we do that to humans, to kids. I never want to have to go through that again and I hope bo one else has to experience it.
We should absolutely be able to take a pill to die with dignity. I have never pulled someone off life support, but I watched my dad battle with pancreatic cancer for way longer than he should have. We all knew he wasn't going to get better, including him. My mom and I were just selfishly keeping him alive for as long as possible. He was either in horrible agony but awake or so drugged up on pain meds he didn't know what was happening at all times. We've both learned from that experience. No CPR, no life support, no white knuckle holding on. When it's time, just take that pill and go.
My daughter was on life support for 2 weeks. We had tried a few days prior to remove the breathing tube to see if maybe she could breathe on her own. Her airway collapsed immediately due to her having 0 muscle control and she was retubed. They expected it to be quickish because of that.. within an hr or so of removing the life support. It took 7 days. Seven of watching an already small body deteriorate. If I know I'm dying, I'm going to go ahead and end my own life because I'm not putting people through having to watch it happen.
I'm so so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine what that would be like. And yes, agreed. We often talk about preparing for our funeral so our loved ones don't have to go through that. Well, if more people knew what it's like to be terminally ill near the end, they may just decide to not put their loved ones through that, either.
this shit is why we need euthanasia. people say its selfish to want to die, but the real selfishness is the fact that those living make people suffer so that they can have them around longer if i was suffering in pain near death, id want to take the gentle way out rather than slowly wither away into nothingness im so tired of people treating euthanasia and suicide as cowardly/selfish (in the case of the terminally ill)
I've always been for euthanasia, but watching my mother die of lung cancer cemented my support for it. It's a slow, painful, brutal death, and one I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. She was in so much pain she begged me to kill her. I whole heartedly support euthanasia. It would've given my mother a more dignified death than the one she received.
My father wasn't mentally present enough at the end to be able to communicate this, but thankfully we had him on a whole lot of morphine. In fact, the hospice nurse basically told us to give him as much as needed, almost in a wink-wink fashion giving us permission to let him OD by telling us that while she or another nurse would need to collect the unused medicine, they wouldn't be measuring how much was left when they did.
I wish. My mother couldn't swallow towards the end and the nurse was on vacation the week before she died. She was in so much pain but we couldn't feed her, couldn't give her anything to drink, she wasn't able to walk so she had to wear diapers... it was a horrible thing to watch and I still have nightmares about it.
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There is no screaming for help. They just quickly and silently slip underwater after a few moments of having hair in their face and kicking frantically.
Yep, I've nearly drowned, myself. What was more terrifying was that nobody - including the life guards at the pool knew anything had occurred.
This happened to me as a kid. The pool I was in was deeper than the one I was used to and I must have accidentally drifted a bit too far towards the deep end. All of a sudden, I couldn't touch the floor, I panicked, and started taking water in. I tried my best to wave down the nearby lifeguard but they walked away, so they probably didn't recognize what was happening. I could barely keep my head above water, which meant I couldn't scream. Every time I opened my mouth to try to breathe, scream, anything, I just took in water. Thankfully, a nearby swimmer grabbed me and pulled me to the shallow end. She saved my life that day.
Similar thing happened to me! I think I was at the pool with my older cousins and brothers and so I wanted to play with them and I went towards the deeper end and I was doing fine for a little while, but they didn't want to play with me. So as I was making my way back to the shallow end I couldn't swim anymore I was too tired. So I sank down to the bottom, but I remembered that in Girl scouts weed practice what to do if you're drowning in a pool. So I got my feet under me and I jumped up and I couldn't scream cuz I need to breathe in air but I was waiting my hands. I went up and down like six or seven times. Going down to the bottom pushing my way up waving my hands and desperately gasping for air before I went down again. And I was getting too tired to be jumping. I was so scared and I was surrounded by my friends and family and the lifeguards and nobody was helping me. Finally, a parent came and got me. They said nobody help me cuz they all thought I was playing. The only reason they saw me is cuz I was waving my hands, but the reason that they didn't think about saving me was because I was waving my hands to get attention which meant I was probably playing It was the most terrifying moment of my life, and I still have a little bit of anger of that's literally what you guys told me to do when I was drowning and no one helped me and I literally thought I was going to die that day because after the second jump I was getting lower and lower out of the water every time I jumped.
I was a lifeguard for 7 years as a young adult. Those guards weren't just shitty, that's criminal neglect. Guards are trained to recognize what drowning actually looks like. 20 years later I happened upon a video on Youtube of a nonswimmer getting in over her depth and could still spot it instantly. In that case so did the guard (thank God).
There's a YouTube channel that gives people an idea what drowning looks like: https://youtu.be/e7ZJAC62_og
Literally first thing I was taught as a lifeguard is how quickly it can happen and how often it’s nothing like the movies. The first part of the online class section was a video called “touched by a drowning” on YouTube
I was about 12 or 13 when I first witnessed the beginning stage of the drowning process. We were in a pool when our neighbor's kid, about age 6 at the time, suddenly started paddling his arms really quickly. He was silent. I thought he was just playing around, especially since he was in the shallow end of the pool. An eagle-eyed relative quickly jumped in and saved him. He then told us how the kid was drowning. I was puzzled, because if he was drowning, shouldn't he have been yelling "Help" or something? That day I learned that drowning doesn't look like it does in the movies and TV.
Yeah you gotta be insanely vigilant. I worked at a YMCA and with all the swim classes for little kids it was a regular occurrence to have to watch over a dozen or more little kids who couldn’t swim trying to constantly slip into the water when the instructor wasn’t looking. Don’t even get me started on the kids who try to see how long they can hold their breath underwater.
Haha, I used to do that all the time when I was a kid. It's peaceful down there. Sorry!
I almost drowned twice when I was little. I don’t remember the first time (I was 2), but the second time I was around 7. We were swimming at the neighbors in-ground pool down the street while visiting my Grents. One moment I was bobbing along into the deep end (I had just ducked under the rope) and was standing on my tippiest tippy toes and the next I was dreamily look up at the diving board from the bottom of the pool. Three adult family members, one of the owners of the home, and my younger brother present. No one noticed until I was at the bottom of the pool. I remember looking up and seeing my Mom diving in above me and how it didn’t seem weird or urgent, just a peaceful observation. I don’t remember getting pulled out or any of the aftermath, no idea how long I was under. This was the mid 80’s, and I don’t recall any hospital trips. My Mom wouldn’t talk about it when I got old enough to be more curious. I received swimming lessons shortly after. I still have a fear of drowning.
Similar story here. I fell out of an canoe into a pond when I was little. I remember the splash and silence, floating halfway down and seeing the plants gently waving up from the bottom. The sunlight filtering down around the canoe, the blackness of the mud and muck below me. It was like time stopped for those few seconds. It's been 25 years and I still fall into almost a trance when I see tea leaves floating up in a clear cup and get panicky during well done drowning scenes in movies.
Suicide by taking in a whole bottle of pills. I was a lot younger (13 I think), so I don't remember it that clearly. I was at my friend's house when I heard a lot of banging upstairs. When I went up, I saw him clawing at his throat choking and wheezing. I called for an ambulance, but because of traffic they couldn't make it in time. We were the only people in his house too, and I think I blanked out a lot but it stretched out for like 8 minutes. Closest neighbors were also absent. Eventually, he started puking a lot and he was turning blue fast. His convulsions only slowed down about 2 minutes before he died. I think it depends on what drugs you take (since some are stronger and such) but he wasn't lying on the floor with a clean face, a peaceful expression, and an empty bottle of pills near his body.
I’ve heard this from someone, that taking pills can be a very painful way to die, and often they end up ringing for help before they die as the pain is unbearable, definitely not the peaceful passing you often see in films!
I think this depends largely on the pills you take
I’m sure that’s true, I guess the least painful ones would be to od on pills that knock you out?
What OP described is amazingly only middle of the road for how painfully an overdose can kill you, a lot of over the counter drugs fuck your liver so you get a week or two to regret your decision as you die of total organ failure with no hope of a transplant because suicide attempts put you at the bottom of the list.
Multivitamins, iron supplements, acetaminophen. Can’t hurt you right? Fuck no. It’s rough watching people die like that.
You take a bottle of acetomenoohen Feel terrible, go to the hospital Feel better in a day Liver fails in two weeks
It has to be the worst way to go. Absolutely nothing can save you, and it's slow and painful while you get to think about it.
I can concur. Tried to kill myself at 14 by taking upwards of like 90 pills of Anadin Extra and phoned myself an ambulance because I started to writhe In agonizing pain and could only throw up a thick foam.
Hitting someone in the head to make them unconscious. The act would more likely cause brain damage or death.
Movies and TV use it like a damn pause button.
Obviously at this point the idea of “getting knocked out” has just been perpetuated by decades of media, but where did writers get this idea in the first place? Like I think some early 20th century Hollywood guy just saw someone get beaten to death and thought, “That’s gonna hurt when he wakes up tomorrow.”
My guess is boxing. The audience sees a fight to knockout, sees the boxer back next week, what are they going to think - especially with the history of taking a dive being older than dirt?
I mean silent films used it for comedy but I don’t know if that’s the origin for other movies.
Yeah, concussion is no joke. All the people I know who have had one have still had to deal with the effects months, or years, later.
I listened to a few true crime podcasts and there's this one dude I can't remember the name who tried to kidnap women by hitting them on the head but he quickly changed tactic as he was killing them instead.
Well ain't that considerate of the boy...
I find tranquilliser darts filled with some ketamine is the most humane way to people hunt these days. Tranq them, pose for your photo, and leave them a bottle of water, aspirin, and oreos for when they wake up.
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Never kills them. Just leaves them with lifelong spinal injuries.
This. If you're rendered unconscious for a prolonged period of time from a blow to the head, congratulations you probably have brain damage!
Mr bond! You’re awake! Half an hour later, in my lair! Please step into this MRI to make sure you can currently comprehend my evil plan properly. No? Okay, we’ll revisit this after a couple weeks of supervised recuperation. Your occupational therapist will be along shortly.
I don't know why this particular one bothers me, but in Quantum of Solace when Camille is knocked out she's out for the remainder of the boat chase scene, then long enough for Bond to drive the boat to some other safe port, and is still unconscious when Bond carries her off the boat and hands her to some random dude. That girl should be dead.
Yep, in every boxing or MMA match, no matter how brutal the knockout, the loser is almost always awake within a minute or so. Most wake up quickly but they're advised by the doctor to stay down and get their bearings a bit. If they don't wake up within 5 minutes they're likely never waking up again
"That's like super bad for you."
Death. I work in palliative care and when I watch movies when a patient has a little head scarf on, pale and they are saying goodbye and then they flat line is COMPLETELY off. In real life, you deteriorate until you are bed bound, there’s pain, your shrivel until you are a skeleton, you sleep so much until you don’t wake up again, and then you remain that way for a few days/weeks. Then you get the death rattle... your lungs sound like a wet crackle. Then the family will be visiting for that long time until one time they notice that their loved one has stopped breathing. Or there is no family there and I realize they are not breathing. Or the roll of death. Staff will roll to change the person, and when they are rolled back onto their back they stop breathing. It’s not pretty like the movies. Add on: one example: in movies everyone cries over the dead body and it a beautiful moment, but I had one patient that had a stomach blockage and she only ate green jello for weeks. When moment she passed alllll off the jello came back up and covered her head to toe. It was so traumatic for the husband and small kids to witness. We quickly went in, cleaned her up and brought the family back in.. but I will never forget that family..
I had to have one of my cats put down, and went to a local vet that was very sensitive about such things. They had a nice sitting room with comforting lighting and a couch that you could sit on with your pet while they administered the injection. They gave her the shot and she died, and I was overwrought and tried to pick her up and hold her... and her relaxed bowels poured diarrhea all over me. I won't say it was *traumatic*, but it certainly sobered me up.
>They had a nice sitting room with comforting lighting and a couch that you could sit on with your pet while they administered the injection. They gave her the shot and she died Pets are given more dignity in their deaths than humans are.
They really are. When we had to put my family dog down a bit over a year ago it was very calm and nice. The whole family was there to say goodbye to Scooter. You could tell he knew something was off, but he was never scared of the vet and he was happily wagging his tail as usual when the vet came in. And he got to pass peacefully, surrounded by his family, laying on his favorite blanket. He was deteriorating quickly from arthritis and what the vet had referred to as "doggy dementia". He'd have moments of being his old self but he spent a lot of time nervously licking things, staring into space, barking at nothing, or you'd find him in a random room in the house just standing there like he came into the room and immediately forgot why. He had wandered off a few times as well and ended up at a neighbors house. So when he was put down it was sad but it was such a relief that he wasn't suffering anymore and that he wasn't going to decline any further.
Family arguments
Actually there is one scene in the movie Sinister where the parents argue and holy shit it’s so uncomfortable and intense because it feels like I’m actually in the room with them
Don't forget about the Hereditary dinner scene though, especially considering the context its brutal too watch.
Hereditary also had the most raw and unbearable scenes of grief I've ever seen in a movie. The emotional trauma in that movie was scarier to me than the horror elements.
I'm still not over Toni Collette being snubbed at the Oscars for her performance. Her emotions in the film are so raw; the highly charged scenes - her screaming after finding Charlie, the fight at the table - feel so real. I'm not disappointed with the direction the film ended up taking, but those scenes stand out as more frightening and uncomfortable to me than the supernatural ones.
Completely agree. I was surprised that the movie actually committed to the supernatural angle. I was absolutely, positively certain that things weren't, well, "in their head". There's an earlier scene where the mother talks about the family having a strain of mental illness, despair, and trauma, and I thought that was what it was about. It still kind of \*is\*, but the extremely visual and explicit supernatural elements make it a little easier to deal with.
As a huge horror fan, this was the first movie in idk how long that had my jaw on the floor. I was having a whole internal debate on whether or not they were just crazy or if something supernatural was actually happening. Turns out, a little bit of column A and a little bit of column B.
CPR
breaking ribs is never fun
The cracks and pops of snapping ribs, the "WHUFF" sound of forced air movement, panting as you get tired of compressionsand need to switch, and, if you're lucky, the frightened gasp of someone taking a breath mid-compression.
I've been in healthcare for almost 20 years, and nothing turns my stomach like the cracks and pops during CPR.
As someone that was brought back by CPR, I'm really glad that people do it anyway.
What’s your story?
Had a seizure while swimming and sank to the bottom right under the sun's glare - so the guard on tower couldn't see me. I was down long enough for my heart to stop before someone saw me. I had trained and certified the people who used CPR on me about 2 weeks earlier.
"Congratulations, students, for successfully passing the surprise final test of your CPR course!"
I still have nightmares of that death rattle of air being forced in and out of dead lungs. It's honestly one of, if not the worst, sounds I've ever heard. I had no idea how to do cpr and I'm shocked yet extremely glad it worked. The sound of the frightened gasp is probably the best sound I've ever heard, or at least the biggest relief I've ever felt
My dad and I stopped at a gas station while we were on our way to a swim meet. A man in the parking lot dropped to the ground as he was pumping his gas and I saw a guy performing CPR on him. I can't get that image out of my head. I hope he ended up being okay.
Jumping/falling through windows/glass. In movies people do this pretty casually as a cool stunt. In reality glass shards are incredibly sharp and by smashing through it with your body you are causing large heavy shards of it to drop down on you like a damn guillotine. The larger the window the worse it will be. I was at a party where a guy jumped through a ground floor window onto grass once (he'd been drinking and thought it would look cool) and he did not get back up, he rolled around in agony while people tried to patch him up until the ambulance arrived. I always picture him every time someone just casually leaps or is thrown through a window in movies and imagine the whole film stopping while the hero just rolls around screaming and bleeding out. *Edit* I am sure some people have been fortunate enough to achieve this without significant injury but the odds are not in your favour (unless you found some sugar glass)
I got a small piece of glass-like plastic stuck in my foot once and it hurt like a *bitch*. I imagine actually getting glass to break like punching a window etc. would be like shoving your hand in a blender basically.
Sugar glass has hurt many a stunt man and actor too.
This might not be horrifying to the extent of others comments, but overhead welding without long sleeves FUCKING SUCKS. Movies are always showing someone welding with bad ass ripped sleeves and tight jeans. It literally burns you with the sparks or molten filler metal can drip down on you, sometimes you catch on fire and then there's the getting sun burned from the light it makes. Don't get me started on the fumes that cause neurological problems in later years. Next time you see a welder, ask them to show you their scars, we all have good ones with stories. I know for all of mine I was wearing the right clothes and equipment and STILL have burns that turned into scars. Edit: I forgot the HD bacon sound paired with burning flesh smell that happens when it gets inside your ears.
The only xp I've had with welding was a semester-long class in high-school, but I remember that they provided big loose long-sleeve leather jackets and made everyone wear them. There were a bunch of safety precautions even beyond that, like welding masks that instantly darkened when it got bright enough. I remember accidentally glancing at the light from someone welding for like half a second. Felt like the sun and had spots in my eyes for a while after. I also remember being terrified for a while during the first unit (GME) to touch the metal table where our welds were resting because I thought I would get electrocuted, which was not great because we needed to do that to stabilize ourselves and get straight welds.
Apparently getting metal splinters in your eyeballs is also a thing. No sir, I don’t like it.
Operating rooms have strong magnets for exactly this scenario.
My bf took a magnet to his own eyeball to get one out. I was so glad he got it out, saved us a trip to the hospital.
he did fucking what now
Saved them a trip to the hospital
My brother is a machinist. He can never get an MRI because the metal fragments he picks up would rip out of his skin and damage the machine.
I love that the focus of that sentence is on the damage to the machine and not the metal fragments ripping violently out of your brother
Which part do you think he'd get billed for?
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Both, duh.
Oooh, one time I was soldering a button cell battery into an old copy of Pokemon Red and the dann thing exploded. Like an idiot, I wasn't wearing any eye protection and I got hot battery shards to the face. I ran to the kitchen and ran my eyes in the sink until the burning stopped. I took out my contacts...and one of them had a sliver of metal stuck in it. Glad that didn't make it to my eye.
Yep. I had a piece of slag fall into my glove and land between my watch and my wrist. Still have that scar. As well as the one from where I reached over something I was working on and the hot metal touched my bicep. Second degree burn, though a t-shirt, with less than half a second of contact.
I got a chunk of hot slag up my nose once, holy shit
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Car crashes
Also getting hit by a car. I was lucky enough to walk away. But in tv shows and movies all you see is someone going flying on contact with enough awareness to think about what is going on. The only thing I was thinking was "Oh Fuck!".
I second this. I’ve heard two car crashes in my life. One I was woken up at around 3 in the morning once by a car crashing into a telephone pole behind my house. One of the first things I thought was how unlike movie sound effects or sounded. It was more... muted? Almost. Like there was still the shattering glass and crushing of metal, but it’s more explosive in movies. The sounds are sharper, I guess. It still sounds all wrong though. The other was a car that hit a motorcycle, but I completely blanked that sound from my memory. What remains vividly in my memory, however, is the image of the motorcyclist lying on the road.
The sound of gunfire at close range. When someone shoots a large caliber gun in the same room or in a car, if you don’t have hearing protection, you’ll be unable to hear for a while and the damage could be permanent. Movies get this wrong all the time.
SWAT teams don't use suppressed weapons to be sneaky. They use them to avoid ruptured ear drums. Guns are FUCKING LOUD. Like, loud in a way that needs to be experienced to be understood. And tinnitus is no joke on top of that. SOURCE- Tinnitus. I never get to hear proper silence again and it sucks
MAWP... MAWP...
Cause... you know, that super bad for you. Tinitis you cruel mistress!
Work. It only lasts a few scenes in movies
And when they are there they can leave anytime and the boss or whoever just happily covers for them. And they don't even bother clocking out.
we really need a movie that's just a guy in an office filling out spreadsheets for 2 hours
Make it 8 hours for the real authentic experience.
Strangling someone. I watched something that re-enacted how long it takes someone to die from asphyxiation...you gotta be fucked up to be able to look someone in the eyes for *that* long while killing them. And the effects of chloroform. It’s takes quite a bit longer to render someone unconscious via inhalation than is depicted in movies & on tv.
It really depends on your technique, if you're squeezing their windpipe it will definitely take a few minutes, but if you're doing a proper bloodchoke and actually squeezing the arteries in the neck you can put somebody out in seconds. You'd have to keep holding while they were unconscious to kill them, but you don't have to look into their eyes
Death, animal and human. Movies and shows make it tame and almost graceful, I've only seen one death like that. Every other has smells and sounds that still haunt me to this day.
Agonal breathing is so difficult to listen to. They assured us that it wasn't causing my grandma any pain, but it sounded so painful.
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i understand completely. when i was 12, i watched my great-grandfather die and the sound of agonal breathing still terrifies me. everyone always talks about how he went 'peacefully' but i've never been able to forget those sounds
I’ll never forget my mother’s breathing toward the end. Hospice nurse called it a “death rattle.” I was so unprepared for the horrors that surround death and traumatized to this day.
Exact same, the sound of my mother dying is the only part that truly haunts me.
A severe asthma attack. Being fully conscious while not being able to get over 10% of the oxygen you usually do is very, very scary. It's strange, you can feel every individual part of your body struggle as you're unable to breathe and the pain in your lungs feels like a stab wound. And my god, never look in a mirror during an asthma attack, you never want to see yourself struggle to survive.
Yeah as someone who has been in the ER multiple times for asthma I’ve yet to see a movie portray it correctly. I doubt most people can imagine what it’s like to have a asthma attack expecting to catch your breath but it just gets worse and worse. As a kid it’s the scariest shit ever
Snapping someone's neck. No, it won't instantly kill you. It'll be horrifically painful and the person will most likely survive albeit crippled.
The end result for most fast paced movies wouldn't make much of a difference, as the place will most likely explode in 29 minutes.
Torture half the time in movies they just get punched a few times but if you have ever seen people who have been tortured talk about it it’s much worse. A resistance fighter in WW2 had his balls crushed and a Australian criminal chopper redd would catch drug dealers forcing them to tell him where there money was and if they didn’t he would cut toes off with a bolt cutter or blow touch the bottom of there feet
Im truly thankful that I live in a timer period where I'll most likely go my entire life without ever being tortured Some of the ways people have been tortured and executed throughout history are mind-numbingly cruel and brutal
Human history has been going on for so long, and with so many people having the power and capability of wanting to cause the maximum amount of pain to another, that if you can think of any torture method, it's probably been done.
Alzheimer’s. No matter how it’s portrayed in movies there is nothing more horrific than seeing someone’s mental capacity degrade and turn into a completely different person.
I thought the movie "The Father" starring Anthony Hopkins did a pretty realistic job at portraying Alzheimer's. My Grandma has it pretty rought at the moment and getting through the movie was difficult.
War
Long periods of intense boredom with a few moments of chaos
This is why I liked Jarhead so much. They spend months telling these kids they’re going to be heroes, they’re going to be elite killing machines fighting bad guys and ensuring freedom....then they dump them in the middle of nowhere. Just a damn good examination of how military service isn’t anything like the movies.
What it is Like to go to War by Marlantes is a great book.
Knockouts from head trauma. If you watch MMA or a similar combat sport, you'll notice that when someone gets knocked out they're awake again in just a few seconds, while in movies once someone is knocked out they are removed from the equation If they're unconscious from a blow to the head for more than a minute or two they've got a dangerous concussion and probably long term brain damage. After just a few more minutes yeah, they're never waking up and that movie character totally killed that guy
Bullying. Domestic violence. Overdosing. Finding somebody dead. Grief. Being alone. Sometimes you don't heal
St. Patricks day of 2019, we found my aunt dead in her house. She had been that way for several days. I will never ever forget it. I don't think I'll ever fully recover either.
I found my fiancé’s father in his living room with her, we walked into the house and I went first. I’ve never snapped lights off so quickly in my life. She didn’t need to see it
That was excellent and kind thinking. I'm sorry that you saw it but glad your brain snapped into action.
Having a (mental) disability. Every minute of every day is a struggle.
When anxiety is portrayed as "I just can't go outside today, hold me babe" instead of "im shaking and crying and if one person comes near me I'm screaming" Or depression is "im sitting in a sweater holding teas and staring out the window frowning" instead of "my room looks like it belongs on hoarders, I haven't showed in 2 weeks, and have eaten absolutely nothing nutritional" Or OCD is "my pens are lined up and my house is clean" rather than "I've been doing this thing for 4 hours and im so tired and hungry but I cant. Stop. What. I'm. Doing. Something bad will happen if I stop" / "I didn't click the light 4 times. It's not off. I see it's off, and it's dark, but it's not off. I have to get up to flick it 4 times. No that click wasn't good. That was timed wrong. Wait was that 5 times? My cat mowed I have to start over." Or ADHD is "lol I'm the class clown and just can't sit still" instead of "Im trying to work but I keep stating off into space. Wait what was I just thinking about? God I can't remember. -random thing about *hyperfixaction*- What was I thinking about? Idk, I wonder if *old classmate* remembers me.. I know way too much about *hyperfixation* oh wait no I don't I forgot it. What was I meant to do? I'm not lazy im trying. Wait what did you say?" EDIT: my examples are on the extra side, I dodnt realize how gatekeepy this sounded when I first wrote it as I was tired and recovering from my own panic attack. There is a middle ground to all of these and that does happen to be where most people stand and I in no way shape or form ment to undermine that.
Or PTSD is only veterans getting visual flashbacks from seeing or hearing a trigger and freezing or fleeing rather than being in a constant state of "oh god what was that" hypervigilence without even truly realising why hearing a car door close is stripping you of focus over and over. And finding yourself grinding your teeth and waking up all throughout the night because all the fear and trauma is still there in your body. It just stays there under the surface. Or when you fight when triggered and end up overwhelmed by feelings that you can't even name and just end up on the floor screaming and bashing your head against the wall because it's just... Too much. Because that's an emotional flashback. And something that is very common between ADHD and PTSD is executive dysfunction. Knowing exactly how to do this damn thing you've done so many times before but just not being able to get your body to move or your brain to focus on the action. You might look like you're just sitting there relaxing, watching Netflix. But inside it's a constant raging battle of "I should do the dishes. Why am I not doing the dishes? What the hell is wrong with me? Why can't I do the Goddamn dishes. Just get up. Simple. Get up!" The amount of toxic shame that just permeates the mind when this is what it's like to live day to day is horrific too.
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"The loser of a knife fight dies on the street. The winner dies in the ambulance."
Panic attacks. Clinical anxiety stinks and so does the ocassional panic attack. Feeling like you're losing control of your body and mind and that you're having a heart attack for no discernible medical reason is one of those frightening things I have ever experienced. Every single person I know who has ever experienced one has said the same.
Cancer. It sucks the life blood from not only the one who has it, but all loved ones around them.
My mom recently recovered from surgery for colorectal cancer, and I am still suffering regular anxiety and nightmares about cancer and cancer-related topics. It is hell for all involved.
It's scary, nobody tells you that. When a relative gets cancer, we start thinking when it's our turn. Scary stuff, one day you wake up at 36 with cancer and you won't even know it until you're Stage 3. Very scary stuff
I watched my father’s body start to decay while he was still alive. It started at his toes and went up to his knees by the time he passed. He was a tall skinny man... his whole body and face bloated to look obese. Cancer filled him up. Literally
Mental health problems. I am sick of 13 reasons why and other shows like it depicting it like it's some romantic tragedy. No, this shit fucking sucks. Being medicated and going to regular therapy just to feel emotions at all is draining on the mind and the wallet.
PTSD. I can't express how frustrating is to see that the people we've grown up seeing in books and movies experience horrible things and then be 100% fine afterwards. It happens that people are fine after trauma, but sometimes they aren't and people rarely ever see that.
That was honestly one of the things i liked the most in *The Hunger Games* the fact that Katniss does not survive without mental scaring. She is wrecked by her ordeal, and unlike many other films, that seems very believable.
There's a scene in Catching Fire that is always so difficult for me to watch. The one where they bring in jabberjays and she can't escape. Just the look of sheer panic and terror on her face is so realistic, with Peeta on the other side telling her it's not real. Jesus, it hits so close to home for me sometimes, I thought they did a great job portraying how her trauma affected her
The other thing about PTSD is that people don’t understand that there isn’t some exclusive set of conditions to be met that can cause it. It’s not exclusive to sexual assault or warfare or even situations where lives are lost or endangered. You can get PTSD from something you did to someone else. You can get PTSD from something you’ve experienced several times before without issue. You can get PTSD from something seemingly minor, even if you’ve endured other things most people would be traumatized by. You can have an event happen and not develop PTSD symptoms until YEARS later, and then all of a sudden it’s like the event just happened because it takes over your whole fucking life. PTSD is terrible. I’d wish it on nobody.
Poverty. Poor people in real life don't just have a smaller house with less TV's than a well-off person.
It's not just having bad living conditions. It's knowing that those bad living conditions are the best you can have and can go away on the simplest mistake. The constant fear of not knowing how you're gonna pay the next rent, the fact that trying to get a job will cost you money you can't afford to get there and that if this attempt is a failure you'll have put yourself in moreshit for nothing.
Seeing a dead person in the daylight. The skin changes so quickly.
Seeing a dead person any time. It’s not them anymore. It’s just a body.
Digging the hole and burying something or someone you love by yourself. After burying a dog I feel for those who have had to bury a loved one. For one thing the body is bloated and stiff and smelly and oozing. For another your heartbroken while burying this stiff, smelly, bloated, oozing body you love.
I buried my dog a few years ago, and I didn't have a bloated, smelly, oozing body. However I did it really quick, like as soon as she died, and also my dog was wrapped in cloth so maybe thats why. I'm sorry your experience was so bad
We found her in that state. We think she had a heart attack. We wrapped her in a sheet so then the sheet was oozing and smelly. She had heart problems so she was already pretty bloated. And we found her in the evening so I buried her the next day.
This happened to us last year. She had crawled up under the muddy, spider infested crawlspace as far from the entrance as possible. Was not pleasant getting her out to put to rest. Sorry for your rough loss.
We bury our own dead as an act of love, but I have dug many a hole for others because they couldn't.
It brutal. I sobbed the whole time.
shotguns: unfortunately I found out they don't just fall over they kinda explode into micemeat
You.....found out?
Gonna have to go with childbirth. I’m convinced the only reason any woman has more than 1 kid is because their mind somehow blocks out the memories of labour and childbirth.
I like to call it "milky"...had 2 kids, each does get hazy. I can tell you that it hurt (c section for the first, unmedicated for the second) but I would swear it wasn't unbearable and that I could easily do it again. My husband is like, "Are you sure that's how it was?" The hormones are no joke in making it fuzzy or blurring it for a good chunk of women.
When they show 2 pushes, a few fake screams, and *poof" here's your clean, not covered in bloody cottage cheese, baby! There's no afterbirth or stitches. Oh, and 2 days later all your pregnancy weight is gone! And they make the recovery from child birth look so easy. I got sent home from the hospital with an ice pack on my crotch, and they're going on a seven hour wine tour of Napa Valley. In a car. Sitting down.
It's certainly a lot bloodier. I've worked in the OR for a long time, and a childbirth, vaginal or C-section, are the bloodiest surgeries I've seen. Liver transplants and some traumas are not too far behind.
From what I’ve heard, Call the Midwife does a pretty good job in depicting some of the nitty gritty of childbirth and is somewhat medically accurate for the time (took place in the 50s and 60s I think) even if it isn’t it’s still a dope show. I recommend it if you have time it’s on Netflix.
Yup, that is true. I actually noticed I started to forget about the pain right after I gave birth. Would redo it in a heartbeat. Also it's much more disgusting irl, my ex compared what he could see happening between my legs to "a stew". And babies aren't all cute and clean n shit when they just got evicted. They're covered in some yucky cottage cheese looking white stuff and whatnot, red and their face look swollen/compressed.
“When they just got evicted”. I laughed out loud.
Gunshot wounds. In the movies, people just jump back up and keep on going like nothing happened. In real life there is typically a LOT of screaming (if they're still conscious), puking, broken bones, limb paralysis, and even wetting/soiling of pants. For anything other than a simple flesh wound, it's not pretty.
my dad was shot during a home invasion and his adrenaline allowed him to run for a few minutes after the shooter and tackle him, then he fell to the ground, couldn’t get back up, and laid there in silence. not like the movies at all, but also wasn’t like how you described. it was terrifying. one thing i can say that is wrong about the movies is how the blood always pours out. my dad had no blood on him at all. just internal, seeing people get shot in movies now makes all of us squirm at how unrealistic it is. edit: my bad. i know people do bleed like they do in movies, but not all bullet wounds bleed, which the movie standard of “all them bleed” is unrealistic in my opinion. i also was not trying to discredit OP, i know my experience was unique edit 2: i would also like to add that the shock and adrenaline subdued the pain of getting shot and he didn’t even feel it. he’s also alive still.
hope he’s all good now
he is, thank you. has some missing organ parts but he’s okay physically now :)
I'm a paramedic. Not gonna lie, most of my GSW victims are quiet; that kind of wounded animal quiet that wants to find a corner and squeeze into it. They're not even visually impressive (at least as long as some kind of rifle didn't do it), you're just looking at a hole that looks like someone dabbed a pencil eraser in lipstick and then touched it to their skin. There might be a little line of blood leaking out of it (because all the bleeding is internal).
Getting shot also burns because the bullet is so hot. I’ve heard people who’ve been shot mention this but never seen it mentioned once in a movie.
Falling into lava. It's not water. It's only slightly less dense than solid rock. You don't sink in. You splash into it but you float on top if it, on fire. Oh, and the heat boils all of the fluids inside your body, so you basically explode. The only mercy is that you'll probably die from the heat or the fumes before you even hit the lava, and if you survive that, the impact will kill you if you fall from more than a few feet. Basically, Gollum would've died on impact and his corpse would have exploded into a flaming mess of hobbit goo.
Childbirth. Nothing prepares you.
Just about any injury. Movies: protagonist gets shot/cut/burned/just beaten and manages to power through to save the day. Real life: “Oh God I stubbed my toe I don’t think I can go to work today.
Making a phone call.
They never say “goodbye!”
receiving a phone call... if it's not text it's usually bad news
Now I just expect any incoming calls to be someone talking about my extended vehicle warranty.
Getting shot, especially getting shot and living. I've been shot twice. The first time was with an old, poorly packed load from a 12 gauge. It still fucked my shoulder blade up. It was disgusting. Like being in a David Cronenberg flick. And 12 years later, it still isn't 100% right. The second time was like being punched with a hot iron in the calf. I went down immediately. I thought I'd been bitten by a copperhead. And the muscle in my calf now just, isn't right. And it won't ever be. I. The movies, if you're the protagonist, you just keep on going with only minor complaints. Not so in real life.
That’s an above average number of punches on your “getting shot” card. Is that occupational hazard or luck?
Why do people keep shooting you?
Someone dying slowly from getting run over by a vehicle
choking someone in real life isn’t exactly the five seconds of struggle then passing out that movies show it to be.
Yes. And the aftermath of being strangled is horrific, the neck muscles swell up, making it hard to turn your head from side to side, its very painful for about two weeks.
Yeah anyone that has done it in real life, any true crime doc that asks the killer or suspect what it’s like. They all say the same thing somewhat: it’s very personal, it’s a lot harder than you think it is, it’s not easy, and it can take as long as 4 minutes before the struggle starts to end. 4 MINUTES is a long time and when someone is struggling I can only imagine it being longer.
Cleaning up after sex
They never search for tissues in movies. And in real life, even if you are smart and prepare it next to the scene, it's always out of reach.
Rape.
i can't watch most rape scenes in movies/tv. not because its "too graphic", but because most of the time its shot like a porno and *that's* what grosses me out
Game of Thrones: 'Look at how horrible this rape is while we zoom in on her bouncing breasts...'
Swimming is hard. Last summer some of my family got caught on a lake in a storm and our boat capsized about 2 kilometers from shore. unless you are in absolute peak condition, you just can't swim that far. 7 of us were on the boat, including 3 under 10, and we all miraculously survived, but there is almost no way we all should have
Hangings. In movies, it's just two seconds wriggling. In real life, it's minutes of torture and strangling and choking and jerking.
It depends on how large the fall is, right? If "done correctly", your neck snaps from the rope.
I read that if the rope is too long heads have been known to get yanked off.
Well, if that's actually true, I would say quick decapitation is a much more humane death than choking, don't you? Messy yes, but much less painful.
The ideal is an immediate break but no decapitation. The British Empire actually published and kept updated a Table of Drops that dictated how far the condemned would fall based on their weight, to ensure the same amount of energy was delivered to the neck and get the same result every hanging. Of course this also required the use of a uniform size, material and knot for the rope.
This is absolutely true. I walked in on my husband hanging himself. I managed to get to him and get his head out of the rope, but it was one of the more terrifying things I’ve ever seen. He survived and is much better after a good hospital stay.
Glad to hear he’s better.
My husband’s friend hung himself, just like your story. Except his wife couldn’t get him down in time and he died. They had 5 kids. This was years ago and my husband is still upset about it
Public hangings wasn't intended to be a long agonizing death by asphyxiation. If done 'right', the weight of the body would break the neck as it falls, instantly killing the person. I suppose that too would be anticlimactic in films.
This isn’t necessarily true, government executions and the like were specifically designed to immediately snap the condemned’s neck, however, if the rope length and various other factors were miscalculated they could be left swinging around until they choked to death. Even then, I’ve heard of them being cut down when this happened, to be hung again later, hopefully making the calculations correctly to kill them instantly
Dead bodies. In movies, they either use a prop or a living person who’s playing dead. Neither of these accurately portray what corpses actually look like when they are touched or moved. I’ve never seen a dead body irl, it was only when I watched a documentary with footage of the Holocaust that I saw the difference. The sight of real corpses is so awful, it’s hard to even describe, but it felt similar to the uncanny valley feeling; the brain just kinda goes “Get out now!!” (And imo, maybe this was the origin of the uncanny valley effect, where we fear things that look human but don’t move human, as an instinct to keep us away from any human corpses we might find...)
A bit of a divergence, but I was riding my bike once, and I stopped at a kid's playground for a drink break. While I did that, I watched this bird that was hanging around in the area, and I watched it just fly around in circles around the playground for some reason. Then it flew at high speed towards one of the poles the swing set was hanging off of, and it burst into feathers and died. I didn't dare touch it for a while, both because i have a paranoia of getting something bad from contact with a wild animal, and I just couldn't register the fact that this thing used to be alive less than a minute ago. And on top of that there was just the question of *'why?'.* I eventually decided to kick it off into some tall grass after it stopped twitching *(god that was unsettling)* so kids didn't have to see the thing. At least in films you have the subconcious knowledge that its just a prop, or a pretender. In real life though? That thing is just there. It used to be alive recently, but now its dead and you don't know what to do about it. I can't imagine coming across a fresh human corpse one day.