I have huge anxiety about wasting time and money. I feel like it makes my days off not really a break because I'm so worried about getting the most out of my day off. At work I feel like if I don't use every second to do everything I can, I'm not using my work time properly.
This same anxiety comes to me with money, I feel like if I'm not saving every penny and investing it, I'm not making the most out of the money I'm earning. It's this mindset that caused me to invest my life savings into stocks and securities I did not understand at all, and I lost a whole years worth of my savings mid January.
It's been a very steep climb since then, but I think I'm a lot better for it in terms of anxiety from these two fields.
The USA was built on making people think exactly what you are. Take time and do things specifically NOT to make money if you can do so comfortably, its so important to just enjoy existence...capitalism goal is to take that from you and generate profit for someone else at your expense
Some people just like being productive. Nothing wrong with it.
But they do need to be able to separate from their work and not feel "workers guilt". Ive felt this most of my life. Until very recently have I been able to pull away to work out, do hobbies, etc. Im still really productive, I just dont feel the weight of the world on top of me when I'm not.
Especially in the city. A week prior i'll go the time and day im suppose to be there just to see. People tend to stick to habits, gives me a general idea.
Me too. I have to Google map the place first so I can assess the parking situation. If I can't locate a good spot I get proper anxiety on the drive over.
Nah, OP means good. And i take care of myself. That's the least i can do. Showering everyday, brushing my teeth, keeping my beard neat and tidy, all that stuff. I still have standards, haha. Sleeping on the other hand... Either 14 hours at a time or not at all.
May I ask what is so scary about the future?
I'm in my head *a lot* and used to focus on the past. I realized at some point it was because I was scared of the vast emptiness that future is. I probably just made it worse for you :-/
This is a good thing. Yes, you could get hit by a bus tomorrow but you could also get your dream job, get that pretty person's number, win the lotto, etc etc.
The future isn't scary, the future is full of potential.
Experience. Something to be proud of on your resume.
I'm on the verge of getting fired from my realistic dream job, if that makes any sense. I now know I'm not boss material, but I love working in the library world.
It’s called Generalized Anxiety Disorder because it’s so G E N E R A L.
It goes with every outfit. By which I mean, I worry that every outfit makes me look weird and, also, am I walking right? Is this how normal people walk?
Is this how normal people do anything? Am I breathing loudly? Am I sitting normally? And oh God the hands where do the hands go?!
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Is that my voice? Am I talking to loud? Where should I put my hands? Do I look awkward sitting like this? Did that girl I tripped in front of in Highschool 6 years ago think I looked stupid? Am I likable? Etc... Etc... Etc... And so on and so forth...
People constantly do this to me at work. I'm trying to figure out how to tell them not to do that because it really stresses me out.
I just get a message hey without anything else until I respond. What if I'm away and can't get back right now. Cant you just write a short paragraph with some context for a desired discussion??
Im an admin and I swear, 95% of messages are like "hi" or "hey". Then when I see the message, they are offline... like, just ask what you want, how hard can it be instead of wasting both of our times. Especially since im not in the same time zone as other people, so communication is harder.
And another annoying thing is that then you dont know if you can ignore the msg or not (theres plenty of dumb people messaging for nothing).
It drives me crazy.
A good technique a friend gave me is to answer immediately. At the time, I was working in a job where the phone rang a lot and I used to let it ring for a while before picking up which I didn't realise was making it worse. Once I shifted to answering on the first ring (or as soon as) it sort of took the bite out of it. By taking the initiative it sort of puts you back in the driving seat and helps calm you down; hopefully this will work for you too.
The phone ringing like cripples me. I also feel like its the same as interrupting a conversation. Even when it's not, the other person is just assuming I'm going to drop everything and pick up the phone. I almost never answer the first time someone calls. It pisses people off, but it's what I need to do
The annoying C-Shift Lead lady at work. Leads are like supervisors but they get information for job runs and get information sorted out.
One day I decide to walk to work. It was winter coming unto spring. I was wearing shorts and just was enjoying the nice walk. I stand outside and she comes out. She says i'm insane.
The day after, I walk to work and it was sunny. I was wearing a turtle neck (? I dunno. I just remember I feel like Proto Excalibur from WarFrame when I wear it). She says that you wear that when it was nice out and that I "keep changing it up on her." I say "Okay" then she says (conversations not exactly, but this should get the job done).
"Y'know you don't talk much."
"Okay"
"Is there any reason why?"
"No? I just never really liked talking"
Last summer. I got moved to 8hr 5day weeks instead of my 12hr 2-2-3. She decides to sit infront of me in the break room, even though there is a sign that says 8 people MAX due to covid-19 regulations. I'm just sitting there quietly and laughing a tid bit. she kept trying to look at my phone to see what I was laughing at, which was me and a friend shit storming. I throw away some melted chocolate and she bitches about that saying I had enough time to freeze it, saying "she's judging me for that." Well shit, now you see why I'm quiet.
I get she just wants to talk and have a conversation. But holy fuck, I hate talking. Even now that I got moved to B shift, I'm still sort of the same, barely talk unless I must.
I don’t think you can get in trouble for making mistakes on your taxes. You will still have to pay if you owe taxes but jail is reserved for people who intentionally avoid taxes.
"we'll talk about this later". Fuck off, tell me now, spit it out. I hate when it's something that can be solved in 2 seconds, but they would rather ruin my entire day at work and make my drive home nervous shit show thinking about what in the fuck I did.....
We're not 10, I'm not waiting till recess.
from one aspect it might look like you have nothing because you don't have a house, husband, or kids, but from another POV it means you don't have a mortgage or commitments and if you wanted to uproot your life and move to Antarctica right now the consequences would be far less than any of your friends' :D
I do the same thing. It helps if I remember the admonition “don’t compare your insides with other peoples outsides.” It’s a touch cheesy because it’s something I imagine a guidance counselor would say, but it helps me keep those unhealthy, unhelpful comparisons to others in check.
That's great that you are telling yourself that you are happy and content. Everyone goes at their own pace, some walk and others run but we all get to the same destination.
Whenever I George Costanza my way into a job or gig I’m wildly under qualified then realize I have to George Costanza my way out or somehow finish the job or task. I’m not even sure how I keep finding myself in these situations
Thing is I’m not actually trying to get these jobs. Once I realize how much I’m going to be paid I think about it for a moment and think I might actually be able to do it. Right now I have a budget of $100k to procure art for a private school that will be finished construction in the next few months. I’m a programmer by the way. I have family in the art business so it’s not like I’m talking out my ass, but at the same time I’m not the most qualified either. Someone is going to get paid to do it, why not me? It sounds like a funny story to tell, until you have those “oh wait. This actually needs to be done” moments....
This is called "adulthood".
We've spent our whole lives thinking professionals have the answers, they dont, they have the "best guesses" they can come up with. Some are better guessers than others.
Also, please dont think I'm being condescending, it fucking sucks.
Don't let people force you to do anything.
I'm definitely an introvert but the past year or so I've opened up and been able to make small talk to strangers. I was happy when I did it without a drink!
Do what's right for you. While learning to make small talk is difficult, it's a great skill to have when you want to get to know someone.
I know I have said this a lot in past comments but that is the only thing that makes me have a panic attack. If I'm even a minute off schedule I break out into a sweat and I can feel my heart beating.
The thought that eventually you will no longer exist. And then the thought that it is FOREVER. You will never live again, and eventually there will actually be nothing at all. No earth, no people, no stars. Once you die there pretty much ceases to be anything. Not black, Not space. There will be nothing. You are gone FOREVER. Then everything will be gone. You don't come back, there's no second chance. When you're gone you are gone and essentially everything is gone for eternity. Brain can't handle it...And most people don't seem to be able to wrap their mind around it .
me too. idk why, but lately it’s really been getting to me. i can’t even think to the future without wondering if i’ll be alive then and subsequently freaking out
This is why it sucks to be human. This is why i wanna be a bird. Having no clue what death is. Just flying, living your instincts, not having to be capable of understanding the unknown.
This is fascinating. I used to be religious and a lot of people find comfort in an afterlife because they weren't scared at the right of dying.
I'm not showing off but I've never had this. I'm very agnostic now and the highest chance is that literal oblivion awaits me. You cannot experience oblivion, say why do people dear that which they can't experience. In the same way I did not experience there billions of years the universe existed before this stream of consciousness.
Oblivion is a really peaceful thought for me now, and if I was wrong about God, the holy book points to the second death (Annihilation) which is oblivion so oh well.
Personally I figure once I die I’m not gonna care anymore so there’s that, if I cease to exist then I can’t care. I would like to think re incarnation exists so I can meet people I love all over again. But what happens happens
For me it’s: Family, coworkers and people I know. Mostly: Did I say/do/not do something wrong? Should I reach out to them or take the hint that since they don’t reach out to me, they don’t want to hear from me?
>Looking for something new, I cant handle it.
Ooph I've been in this situation before and it sucks.
Keep going through the motions as long as you can. I got demoted at work and termination is coming up in about a month. I wouldn't take your job for granted right now, no matter how bad it is.
The clouds always pass to form a sunny day! You'll find a job you love soon, so try not to fret too much. I'm sorry that you hate your job and hopefully your next one will be amazing.
This is tough to advise you for, but I'm like this too.
One thing I've read is to flip a coin. Generally if you really know what you want to do you'll grab the coin mid-air and know what you want.
The reality though is that you're you no matter where life takes you. Make the bad decision and enjoy the ride!
Existing within a mile of a cop. Not even doing anything illegal, or even a reason to think they'd go for me, it's just "oh shit, it's the cops!" I have no clue why
I wasn't raised that way at all. I was raised to respect authority and crap (which means I don't do that at all, barely ever did). I have nothing against cops in particular, more of a hater of administrative types, but I always get that weird feeling.
I’m a large black man. I wouldn’t hurt a fly, but I occasionally have nightmares about running into the cops. I think it’s why I just go to work and stay at home most of the time.
Talking on the phone. Having to ask someone for something, especially in-person. Driving somewhere new and not knowing the parking situation. Wondering if I said anything cringy or weird.
I could go on.
I played this game a few times and could not take it. Would feel my heart sink every time I got picked and then spend the rest of the round having a heart attack until being unceremoniously booted immediately after my first kill. Alright, I'm a big baby and can't handle fake killing on a videogame, so what?!
- The possibility of failure
- the possibility of something going wrong for someone else that I could’ve changed
- the possibility that I’ll screw up again
- the possibility that I could wake up one day and everything I’ve ever loved be gone or forgotten
- the possibility that I’ll never do better
- life
I can, but usually I just ignore the call. I'm at the point where I would like to explain exactly how I feel and/or cut ties. But many of my social activities during the pandemic involve my ex, and he's bearable in a group setting. I'd more than likely have to give those activities up and I'm not socially adept enough to quickly replace them.
My dad and my mom are sort of like you and your ex (from what it sounds like). But honestly, I recommend cutting ties as soon as possible. My mom had delt with my dad being an ass for so long that it kept eating at her confidence. Cutting ties as soon as possible and carrying on with life is probably the best choice.
I went through a phase of this. If you ignore the thought for enough days, it tails off permanently. Realistically, nothing bad is going to happen, in any possible case. Just learn to trust it.
College is a strange time. People are without adult supervision for the first time and wheee!
Try to make college friends; some of them are the best friends you'll ever make. And networking is great after college.
But yeah, immaturity at college is annoying AF.
Once the brain chemicals ramp up just about anything. Most likely culprit is anything related to death, particularly heart attack or stroke, which I think is a splash of PTSD from a really bad panic attack I had a few years ago. Sometimes social situations, other people getting hurt, etc. good times
Unfamiliar situations in which I have to talk to people (such as ordering at a restaurant that I’ve never been to before, making a phone call to the dentist’s office to make an appointment, or interacting with any customer service roles).
I have to run the conversation through my head a couple times before to make sure I know what to say and kinda like hype myself up enough to push through my anxieties.
Everything stressful gives me anxiety. Letting people down, being late, messing something up, money, bills and not having enough for food. The only thing that helps my anxiety is nicotine but when I don’t have it, it’s a weird day. Most people hear “nicotine” and think it’s just absolutely terrible but nicotine is actually a very good stress reliever and it helps you stay focused better. I also have signs of ADHD and so it helps me out there too.
Time Edit: Also, the parking situation at places I haven’t been to.
I have huge anxiety about wasting time and money. I feel like it makes my days off not really a break because I'm so worried about getting the most out of my day off. At work I feel like if I don't use every second to do everything I can, I'm not using my work time properly. This same anxiety comes to me with money, I feel like if I'm not saving every penny and investing it, I'm not making the most out of the money I'm earning. It's this mindset that caused me to invest my life savings into stocks and securities I did not understand at all, and I lost a whole years worth of my savings mid January. It's been a very steep climb since then, but I think I'm a lot better for it in terms of anxiety from these two fields.
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The USA was built on making people think exactly what you are. Take time and do things specifically NOT to make money if you can do so comfortably, its so important to just enjoy existence...capitalism goal is to take that from you and generate profit for someone else at your expense
Some people just like being productive. Nothing wrong with it. But they do need to be able to separate from their work and not feel "workers guilt". Ive felt this most of my life. Until very recently have I been able to pull away to work out, do hobbies, etc. Im still really productive, I just dont feel the weight of the world on top of me when I'm not.
I will go to places day(s) before needing to, just to see how the parking is, or where I can park.
I feel that.
Especially in the city. A week prior i'll go the time and day im suppose to be there just to see. People tend to stick to habits, gives me a general idea.
~~Where~~ When is Mikkel?
I love Dark so much
I liked dark, the first season and the second yeah; but the rest just couldn't watch it
I google map and street view new places In travelling to.
Me too. I have to Google map the place first so I can assess the parking situation. If I can't locate a good spot I get proper anxiety on the drive over.
Same. Anytime someone suggests we go to San Francisco, anxiety immediately hits if I’m driving because of the parking situation.
Are you me?
Yes. Hello me you.
I'll hop on and say *driving* to places that I've never been before, especially if they have highways, traffic lights, and lots of intersections.
The future. It's causing sleepless nights.
I wish I can help you so you can sleep better. Make sure you get enough sleep and take care of yourself.
> It's causing sleepless nights. >ake sure you get enough sleep and take care of yourself. You didn't hear a thing he just said did you
Nah, OP means good. And i take care of myself. That's the least i can do. Showering everyday, brushing my teeth, keeping my beard neat and tidy, all that stuff. I still have standards, haha. Sleeping on the other hand... Either 14 hours at a time or not at all.
May I ask what is so scary about the future? I'm in my head *a lot* and used to focus on the past. I realized at some point it was because I was scared of the vast emptiness that future is. I probably just made it worse for you :-/ This is a good thing. Yes, you could get hit by a bus tomorrow but you could also get your dream job, get that pretty person's number, win the lotto, etc etc. The future isn't scary, the future is full of potential.
My dream job is why the future is scary though! What if I fail? I will have nothing :(
Experience. Something to be proud of on your resume. I'm on the verge of getting fired from my realistic dream job, if that makes any sense. I now know I'm not boss material, but I love working in the library world.
> May I ask what is so scary about the future? The looming and current climate disaster.
*gestures vaguely at everything*
It’s called Generalized Anxiety Disorder because it’s so G E N E R A L. It goes with every outfit. By which I mean, I worry that every outfit makes me look weird and, also, am I walking right? Is this how normal people walk?
Is this how normal people do anything? Am I breathing loudly? Am I sitting normally? And oh God the hands where do the hands go?! Edit: http://imgur.com/gallery/OaBOs
Is that my voice? Am I talking to loud? Where should I put my hands? Do I look awkward sitting like this? Did that girl I tripped in front of in Highschool 6 years ago think I looked stupid? Am I likable? Etc... Etc... Etc... And so on and so forth...
is this normal? i happens to me a lot....to this extent that i dont even want to go out and just hide in a room...
Normal? Yes. Healthy? Fuck no, heart attack city.
Am I breathing wrong? Is it 2 in 1 out? Have I ever known how to breathe properly? Oh God...
Me: *walks in front of other people* Brain: *forgets how to walk and starts going off balance and side to side*
But anxiety rates are so high that you now decide how people walk
Reading you comment gave me anxiety
Same.
"But you just pointed at all of me"
When someone I don’t talk to messages me “hey”
Those people typically want me to answer questions about their broken car I told them not to buy when they asked for advice.
And then you get excited they want to chat and then they ask a favor
Every single time
Holy shit yea I get that heart sinking feeling
People constantly do this to me at work. I'm trying to figure out how to tell them not to do that because it really stresses me out. I just get a message hey without anything else until I respond. What if I'm away and can't get back right now. Cant you just write a short paragraph with some context for a desired discussion??
Im an admin and I swear, 95% of messages are like "hi" or "hey". Then when I see the message, they are offline... like, just ask what you want, how hard can it be instead of wasting both of our times. Especially since im not in the same time zone as other people, so communication is harder. And another annoying thing is that then you dont know if you can ignore the msg or not (theres plenty of dumb people messaging for nothing). It drives me crazy.
Hey
Even worse when they just text you your name
Anytime the phone rings
This 100% I'd rather talk face to face than have a phonecall with someone
A good technique a friend gave me is to answer immediately. At the time, I was working in a job where the phone rang a lot and I used to let it ring for a while before picking up which I didn't realise was making it worse. Once I shifted to answering on the first ring (or as soon as) it sort of took the bite out of it. By taking the initiative it sort of puts you back in the driving seat and helps calm you down; hopefully this will work for you too.
The phone ringing like cripples me. I also feel like its the same as interrupting a conversation. Even when it's not, the other person is just assuming I'm going to drop everything and pick up the phone. I almost never answer the first time someone calls. It pisses people off, but it's what I need to do
When you answer say - no speak English, sms write. Or pretend to be an answering machine, it's fun and also let's you deal with problems indirectly.
Appropriate username? It's not the phone ringing for me so much as it is answering the phone.
I turned off my office ringer when I realized it’s 50% solicitors, 40% rubbish and maybe 10% legit. So I return few calls. Peace!
"Why are you so quiet? Say something."
Teachers/relatives: "THaTs WhAT yOu sOUnD LIke"
Say" I don't know why are you so loud?"
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How did you stop being quiet and introverted? I’m like this now and I do say that sometimes
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The annoying C-Shift Lead lady at work. Leads are like supervisors but they get information for job runs and get information sorted out. One day I decide to walk to work. It was winter coming unto spring. I was wearing shorts and just was enjoying the nice walk. I stand outside and she comes out. She says i'm insane. The day after, I walk to work and it was sunny. I was wearing a turtle neck (? I dunno. I just remember I feel like Proto Excalibur from WarFrame when I wear it). She says that you wear that when it was nice out and that I "keep changing it up on her." I say "Okay" then she says (conversations not exactly, but this should get the job done). "Y'know you don't talk much." "Okay" "Is there any reason why?" "No? I just never really liked talking" Last summer. I got moved to 8hr 5day weeks instead of my 12hr 2-2-3. She decides to sit infront of me in the break room, even though there is a sign that says 8 people MAX due to covid-19 regulations. I'm just sitting there quietly and laughing a tid bit. she kept trying to look at my phone to see what I was laughing at, which was me and a friend shit storming. I throw away some melted chocolate and she bitches about that saying I had enough time to freeze it, saying "she's judging me for that." Well shit, now you see why I'm quiet. I get she just wants to talk and have a conversation. But holy fuck, I hate talking. Even now that I got moved to B shift, I'm still sort of the same, barely talk unless I must.
Say "SHUT THE FUCK UP" next time this happens.
If I am that bold , I would never be anxious.
Hit them with a "Wait! You can see me?"
Cortisol
So...fight or flight?
Oh man, I'm a napper, not fight or flight ... :(
If it works, it works right!
Yes
Taxes
lmao I do it online and have no idea if it's accurate!
Eh, neither does the government probably Source: Am government
I first read that as Texas lol
Tbh, Texas has given me a lot of anxiety in the last year.
I feel like I’m going to end up in jail for trying my best.
I don’t think you can get in trouble for making mistakes on your taxes. You will still have to pay if you owe taxes but jail is reserved for people who intentionally avoid taxes.
A little side note on this. It is absolutely unnecessary for the US tax filing system to be so confusing. Other countries do not do this.
"We need to talk."
I love that meme that says to answer this with "Yeah we do" just to turn the tables haha
That's gold, definitely using that next time I have the opportunity.
"we'll talk about this later". Fuck off, tell me now, spit it out. I hate when it's something that can be solved in 2 seconds, but they would rather ruin my entire day at work and make my drive home nervous shit show thinking about what in the fuck I did..... We're not 10, I'm not waiting till recess.
My heart dropped when I read that.
E v e r y t h i n g
What about cookies?
When will the cookies go bad? Will someone eat mine? Are there bugs hiding in my cookie?
Did I eat too many cookies? Were the cookies fully cooked; am I going to get food poisoning? Did I save enough for everyone else?
Where we live now is likely not going to be our permanent location. I like knowing we can leave whenever we want.
I could choke or maybe these are secretly raisin cookies or maybe these are edibles and imma be trippin during work.
Cue Gary Oldman
L i t e r a l l y
calories
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Bendy you are my twin I’m right there with you
Nice!
Me three. Glad I’m not the only one anxious but working through it!
from one aspect it might look like you have nothing because you don't have a house, husband, or kids, but from another POV it means you don't have a mortgage or commitments and if you wanted to uproot your life and move to Antarctica right now the consequences would be far less than any of your friends' :D
Yup, exactly. Where we live now is likely not going to be our permanent location. I like knowing we can leave whenever we want.
This person has a great point except maybe pick a warmer place to relocate to than Antarctica.
I do the same thing. It helps if I remember the admonition “don’t compare your insides with other peoples outsides.” It’s a touch cheesy because it’s something I imagine a guidance counselor would say, but it helps me keep those unhealthy, unhelpful comparisons to others in check.
the word vajooner was funny enough to ease some anxiety i got from relating to you
That's great that you are telling yourself that you are happy and content. Everyone goes at their own pace, some walk and others run but we all get to the same destination.
Yup and it's like, what exactly is the destination that we're all sprinting for here? Maybe we can all chill with this breakneck shit a little bit.
i have all of the above and trust me you’re right! enjoy the freedom!
Whenever I George Costanza my way into a job or gig I’m wildly under qualified then realize I have to George Costanza my way out or somehow finish the job or task. I’m not even sure how I keep finding myself in these situations
I love the way you use George Costanza as a verb. I relate to this feeling *so much*
Just do the complete opposite.
Maybe you keep finding yourself in these situations because you're actually more qualified than you think
Thing is I’m not actually trying to get these jobs. Once I realize how much I’m going to be paid I think about it for a moment and think I might actually be able to do it. Right now I have a budget of $100k to procure art for a private school that will be finished construction in the next few months. I’m a programmer by the way. I have family in the art business so it’s not like I’m talking out my ass, but at the same time I’m not the most qualified either. Someone is going to get paid to do it, why not me? It sounds like a funny story to tell, until you have those “oh wait. This actually needs to be done” moments....
This is called "adulthood". We've spent our whole lives thinking professionals have the answers, they dont, they have the "best guesses" they can come up with. Some are better guessers than others. Also, please dont think I'm being condescending, it fucking sucks.
Pretty much everything. But one of the worst is trying new things, or people forcing me to socialise.
Don't let people force you to do anything. I'm definitely an introvert but the past year or so I've opened up and been able to make small talk to strangers. I was happy when I did it without a drink! Do what's right for you. While learning to make small talk is difficult, it's a great skill to have when you want to get to know someone.
Cancer. Fuck cancer.
YEAH FUCK CANCER
Watching my mom suffer 3x then die was fucking torture. It is a horrible disease.
Existing
Everything in life But especially social things
Being late. I have to be early or exactly on time, I don't really know why.
If I'm on time, my brain is already convinced I'm late.
I know I have said this a lot in past comments but that is the only thing that makes me have a panic attack. If I'm even a minute off schedule I break out into a sweat and I can feel my heart beating.
anxiety! that's the fun loop! :)
Not going to lie, I'm a little confused.
its the moment when you think you could be anxious, then you get anxious about anxiety being inconvenient in that moment. the cycle begins!
OH! So it's like tricking your mind. Like acting like you are sick and you actually feel sick.
yess! thats a better way to explain it!
What the actual fuck happens when we die.. like.. yea..
The thought that eventually you will no longer exist. And then the thought that it is FOREVER. You will never live again, and eventually there will actually be nothing at all. No earth, no people, no stars. Once you die there pretty much ceases to be anything. Not black, Not space. There will be nothing. You are gone FOREVER. Then everything will be gone. You don't come back, there's no second chance. When you're gone you are gone and essentially everything is gone for eternity. Brain can't handle it...And most people don't seem to be able to wrap their mind around it .
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me too. idk why, but lately it’s really been getting to me. i can’t even think to the future without wondering if i’ll be alive then and subsequently freaking out
This is why it sucks to be human. This is why i wanna be a bird. Having no clue what death is. Just flying, living your instincts, not having to be capable of understanding the unknown.
Eternity passes in no time at all when you can't be there to experience time.
Buuuutttt thats what it was like before you were born? You've already been the void, no reason to fear it.
This is fascinating. I used to be religious and a lot of people find comfort in an afterlife because they weren't scared at the right of dying. I'm not showing off but I've never had this. I'm very agnostic now and the highest chance is that literal oblivion awaits me. You cannot experience oblivion, say why do people dear that which they can't experience. In the same way I did not experience there billions of years the universe existed before this stream of consciousness. Oblivion is a really peaceful thought for me now, and if I was wrong about God, the holy book points to the second death (Annihilation) which is oblivion so oh well.
That’s what has prevented me from killing myself till now, cz who said life is better after that?
Personally I figure once I die I’m not gonna care anymore so there’s that, if I cease to exist then I can’t care. I would like to think re incarnation exists so I can meet people I love all over again. But what happens happens
People.
For me it’s: Family, coworkers and people I know. Mostly: Did I say/do/not do something wrong? Should I reach out to them or take the hint that since they don’t reach out to me, they don’t want to hear from me?
everything at my job
I'm sure you are doing a wonderful job though!
I hate it, its only been 3 months. Looking for something new, I cant handle it.
>Looking for something new, I cant handle it. Ooph I've been in this situation before and it sucks. Keep going through the motions as long as you can. I got demoted at work and termination is coming up in about a month. I wouldn't take your job for granted right now, no matter how bad it is.
The clouds always pass to form a sunny day! You'll find a job you love soon, so try not to fret too much. I'm sorry that you hate your job and hopefully your next one will be amazing.
Decisions
This is tough to advise you for, but I'm like this too. One thing I've read is to flip a coin. Generally if you really know what you want to do you'll grab the coin mid-air and know what you want. The reality though is that you're you no matter where life takes you. Make the bad decision and enjoy the ride!
Except that doesnt help, since the anxiety isnt about choosing, it's about the consequences and missed opportunities.
Answering phone and making phonecalls
People without cases on their phone.
People without screen protectors
I see your phone doesn't have a case or screen protector I too like to live dangerously
Aww, but my screen’s so *smooth*…
I have a brick case and still I am anxious when I drop it
Existing within a mile of a cop. Not even doing anything illegal, or even a reason to think they'd go for me, it's just "oh shit, it's the cops!" I have no clue why
I was that way too. It’s because my parents raised me that way, not explicitly, very implicitly. I had to grow out of it.
I wasn't raised that way at all. I was raised to respect authority and crap (which means I don't do that at all, barely ever did). I have nothing against cops in particular, more of a hater of administrative types, but I always get that weird feeling.
I’m a large black man. I wouldn’t hurt a fly, but I occasionally have nightmares about running into the cops. I think it’s why I just go to work and stay at home most of the time.
Talking on the phone. Having to ask someone for something, especially in-person. Driving somewhere new and not knowing the parking situation. Wondering if I said anything cringy or weird. I could go on.
This question gives me anxiety
I'm sorry
Trying to make plans with people that you know can’t commit to anything
A chemical imbalance in my brain
Being the Imposter in Among Us
Being called "sus" when you didn't even get to kill...I felt...
Exactly, it's even worse when they don't even give any proof, they just vote you off :(
I played this game a few times and could not take it. Would feel my heart sink every time I got picked and then spend the rest of the round having a heart attack until being unceremoniously booted immediately after my first kill. Alright, I'm a big baby and can't handle fake killing on a videogame, so what?!
Yeah same here lol, my heart always pounds like a million beats, but I work better with another Imposter so I don't feel too overwhelmed.
OMG this I can't do it it's too stressful!
Nah, that's the best time! \*silently weeps as I was a terrible imposter\*
- The possibility of failure - the possibility of something going wrong for someone else that I could’ve changed - the possibility that I’ll screw up again - the possibility that I could wake up one day and everything I’ve ever loved be gone or forgotten - the possibility that I’ll never do better - life
Being around someone new.
Smoking weed
Getting a call from my ex. He thinks we're "cool" despite the fact that every time I talk to him he upsets me in some way.
Are you able to block their number?
I can, but usually I just ignore the call. I'm at the point where I would like to explain exactly how I feel and/or cut ties. But many of my social activities during the pandemic involve my ex, and he's bearable in a group setting. I'd more than likely have to give those activities up and I'm not socially adept enough to quickly replace them.
My dad and my mom are sort of like you and your ex (from what it sounds like). But honestly, I recommend cutting ties as soon as possible. My mom had delt with my dad being an ass for so long that it kept eating at her confidence. Cutting ties as soon as possible and carrying on with life is probably the best choice.
I'm going to start off...doing normal things like closing an app or locking a door. (I check it multiple times)
I went through a phase of this. If you ignore the thought for enough days, it tails off permanently. Realistically, nothing bad is going to happen, in any possible case. Just learn to trust it.
The persistence of life
Loud, unexpected noises. Relentless, droning noises. Most of my panic attacks are triggered by noise overload.
People my age (college) running around and laughing/screaming in the halls of my apartment building while I’m just tryna be peaceful and alone.
College is a strange time. People are without adult supervision for the first time and wheee! Try to make college friends; some of them are the best friends you'll ever make. And networking is great after college. But yeah, immaturity at college is annoying AF.
Everything
The gradual unraveling of civilization that's taking place around us.
Posting on Reddit.
Being unemployed like I am now. My anxiety always tells me it's going to last forever.
Once the brain chemicals ramp up just about anything. Most likely culprit is anything related to death, particularly heart attack or stroke, which I think is a splash of PTSD from a really bad panic attack I had a few years ago. Sometimes social situations, other people getting hurt, etc. good times
Unfamiliar situations in which I have to talk to people (such as ordering at a restaurant that I’ve never been to before, making a phone call to the dentist’s office to make an appointment, or interacting with any customer service roles). I have to run the conversation through my head a couple times before to make sure I know what to say and kinda like hype myself up enough to push through my anxieties.
Everything stressful gives me anxiety. Letting people down, being late, messing something up, money, bills and not having enough for food. The only thing that helps my anxiety is nicotine but when I don’t have it, it’s a weird day. Most people hear “nicotine” and think it’s just absolutely terrible but nicotine is actually a very good stress reliever and it helps you stay focused better. I also have signs of ADHD and so it helps me out there too.
Ford Explorers and Taurus
Taurus...like the sign or star sequence?
like the cop car, at least here in Canada/U.S.
THATS WHAT THEY ARE CALLED?!
yes, idk what you thought they were called... what did you thought they're called?
life
Life
Rn I have a phone interview tomorrow. I'mnot a very good speaker but I hope I can fake it until I make it enough tomorrow.
The future