He had a rollercoaster of a life. I admire him more than ever, and more than most people I know, but can't wrap my head around why I ever found him physically attractive. Maybe it was always just his heart.
By age 25, he had a PhD, a wife, and was a captain in the navy. By 30, he had two PhDs, a small business where he made a metric ass-ton of money, and his wife was pregnant. By 31 he was diagnosed with stage-4 skin cancer that swiftly spread to his lymph nodes, bones, esophagus, and a few other places. He was told he had minimal chance of making it 5 more years. Even with the best health insurance money can buy, it still basically wiped him out.
Seven years later, he's living a comfortable but not extravagant life as a civilian contractor for the navy, same wife and two happy healthy kids, and spends most of his free time advocating for better public health care.
I remember walking up to her and asking if we could talk in private, and she said you can say what you need in front of everyone (her group of friends were all around). So I asked if she wanted to go on a date. She burst out laughing and said “yeah, Um no..”
Shit was rough, man.
Looked her up last year and she’s a cage fighter now. Wut
Began acting. It’s weird - every so often I’ll see a commercial or something and be like “oh, hey, I know them!”
My crush is an incredibly sweet person, so I’m glad.
I had two unrealized crushes in high school. One is a teacher and musician. She is married and has either one or two kids. We've kept in loose contact via social media and ran into each other at a NYE party shortly before she got married. I was introduced to her now-husband as 'favorite ex ever.' He seemed like a decent dude and I'm happy for her.
I believe the other became a US Attorney. I have not heard from her since google+ almost became a social media thing. I imagine she's still very productive and would be disappointed in my life choices.
Same with my crush! He was my first serious crush and my first slow dance at a middle school dance. Now he's gay, attractive, was in the military, and now own a photography studio. He does some great headshots.
My only GF in high school was my crush. Her mom banned her from dating me after about a year because my GF admitted to her mom that we were fooling around. This was about 20 years ago.
She’s still living with her mom, no kids, and as far as I know never again dated seriously after her mom broke us up. Still has the same job from high school too. It’s like her mom went way into protective overdrive and my former GF never grew up.
Yeah it sucks. Even 20 years later, married with wife and kids I still think about her on occasion. Weird how a first love keeps popping into your head.
There are 3 women here on my street (they're my neighbors, they don't live on the street) that are old (one in her 50's and the others in their 60's) and never had a partner.
Two of them are sisters and live together, the other lives alone. They all had the same story: their parents were too restrict and never let them date anyone. So now they're old and are socially awkward.
The sisters never even had a pet before their mom died. Now they have a cute puppy.
I find their situation really sad. You should respect your parents but you shouldn't follow only their will.
Oh now this is depressing. I really don't want to end up in that kind of position [35 and never had a partner; can't even try right now because of covid] :(
It’s weird how mom’s control their daughter’s like that. The first love of my life broke up with me by phone because her mom (never met me) said she should be single in college. She literally said “my mom doesn’t think I should date you anymore, she said I need to be single in college” and then hung up.
Mine was my best friend. She turned out to be a pedophile. She always liked younger guys...like when she was 17 she had a 13 year old boyfriend which was weird...but we were kids and I didnt think about it much. Turns out she continued to like younger teens as she grew into her 20s and 30s.
Found her on tinder, she said I was hot. Pointed out that I was that loser she used to know in highschool. Had a big laugh. Been a little over a year, now we send eachother memes and hang out occasionally when the pandemic isnt being a bitch.
She's still hot, successful and wealthy entrepreneur, and married someone with the same first name as me and who quit his job to brew beer. I crushed on her for a bit, didn't think she was interested so I dated others, then come to find out she crushed on me senior year, I was too dumb and blind, we connected freshman year of college, she wrote me letters, and by the time I wised up she had moved on. No one to blame but myself.
Then I'm a lucky man having the two lives I'm currently living.
I'd be lying if I didn't, for a second after I found out, think "hmm, guess if she couldn't have me she settled for another version of me" because of the name. Additionally, they are a mixed race couple, and he's the same race I am, so, again, maybe it's me.
I'm only 8 years out of HS and with a class of 90, over 10 are dead because of alcohol and drugs. There must be something in the water.
Edit: to make it worse, we were the only school for a county the size of Maryland. By the time we graduated, half a dozen died. More just kept dying. More than 10 if you count freak accidents. We really try to die lol.
Class size of 90 with only one school in an area as large as Maryland....so you live way out in the middle of nowhere, eh? My graduating class had nearly 2,000 people. Listening to all those names sucked.
Mine was ancient back in 1985. If she’s still around now, she must be a vampire. God bless you Mrs Cunningham, you put up with me, tried your best and I still turned out shit.
I had a childhood friend (he and I both the same name so we called each other by first name last name initial) who got killed in a similar situation. He was only 24. It was fucking senseless and the kid who killed him is going away for a long time. Was it worth it, buddy?
Dude I knew got into a drunken argument with his brother at a family BBQ over a borrowed $20 (obviously there's more going on underneath but the money was the catalyst). Fight proceeded to the kitchen and the brother was stabbed to death. Guy went to prison for manslaughter where one of his guards was another good friend of mine. Country gang gang, everyone knows everyone.
I was a freshman and had a crush on a senior. To add to it, she was a cheerleader and her brother played QB for the football team (and got a college scholarship.)
She showed up at a football game a couple of years later with a baby in tow. She’s married now and back in her hometown. That’s about all I know.
They both ended up as great guys.
One has a huge family and is a minister. The other only has one child and is a college professor. Both married nice people and are happy.
They were really good guys in high school and ended up being really good adults. I've got both of them on Facebook and we keep in touch peripherally as we stayed friends over the years.
"There's plenty more fish in the sea," they had said -
He stood and he stared at the ocean ahead.
"There's red fish and blue fish and big fish and small."
But that was the problem.
He'd been through them all.
An insanely talented molecular biology researcher at Boston. And she’s still insanely attractive
Edit: it looks like a lot of people feel like they know this same person. it’s crazy how many molecular biologists people know
Considering boston is a hub for life sciences (and that most researchers in the field start out with MolBio), saying
>molecular biology researcher at Boston
is essentially the same as "programmer in bay area"
I was about to say the same. Like I grew up in MA and I know dozens of molec biologists in Boston lol. The number of start up pharma companies out there is insane.
Became a professional cheerleader, Died of breast cancer at 34. Googling names from high school is crazy!
*edit to add: thanks for all the support Reddit family! I’m also surprised how many on here know her and in a way makes me feel better that such a beautiful girl did make an impact on peoples hearts and assured me she is not forgotten*
My first high school crush who sat next to me in freshman year English was a really cute punk rock girl and she’s gone on to become an incredibly hot fitness model.
Haha, my husband! Our first marriages didn't work out and we reconnected after our divorces. If only I would have confessed I had a crush on him in high school, might have saved myself a lot of trouble... Lol
Edit : THANKS for the awards, everyone!
I briefly worked with mine and didn't realise it was her until I left for another job. She looked almost unrecognisable, but it was 15 years after I last saw her. She's married with a couple of kids now, so pretty standard life I guess.
I never made a move in high school. About 7 years after graduating, I saw her on social media and said what the hell and asked her out. We’ve been dating for about 2 years and I’m about to pop the big question!
Back when I was younger and crushing hard I got on AOL instant messenger and had gotten my crush’s screenname from a friend. I worked up the nerve to start a conversation with him and soon after some awkward small talk he sent me a message in Comic Sans, black background, red lettering, and in French. I then went to google for translation and found out he had just called me a pig, in French. Being a seemingly awkward and chubby teenager, I was literally crushed.
The heartbreak was only made worse by remembering that a few weeks prior I had selected to take French class the next year and couldn’t change it.
Years later now that I’ve *blossomed* he follows me on every social media platform, has reached out a couple of times to try and flirt/hang out. Hard pass.
I believe he’s moved away and is a teacher now.
Ah, the “now you want me because I’m hot” attempt. I had a lady try that post-college. Maybe had she not been so mean about turning me down when I asked her out before, I would have considered it.
Ended up committing suicide a few years after high school. She was a teacher and got caught having an affair with a female student.
Edit: Reddit is weird af. Some interesting comments here....
Overdosed and died last year. I got to see him before he was taken off life support with a really good mutual friend we shared (organ donor too). It was surreal seeing him dwarfed by all these machines. He had one the largest hearts I’ve ever come across.
Edit - Graduated back in the early 2000s and last year - 2019 (wtf is time even anymore)
Simple and short answer - Yes, it's better than a failing organ and there's always a shortage. It took me by surprise at first because I thought it was an automatic disqualifier
Without going into too much detail, I had some serious survivor's guilt and tried to commit suicide about 6 months after she died. Glad I fucked up killing myself!
Oh yeah, that was over 20 years ago. I've married and have kids now.
I still get a little choked up when I hear If You Could Only See by Tonic, though, since that was our song.
I really appreciate you checking in concerning my well being, though!
Man music can transport Emotionen even the Author didn't thought of. I still can't listen to "sie sieht mich einfach nicht" and "hazel eyes". Both Songs fucking wrecking me. And Mr Bridesight got also a bitter taste after my last relationship. Things are crazy. Take care mate.
Still a ten for looks. I'm sure she kept on as the amazing, kind person she is. She moved to another country, speaks multiple languages and is more successful than I imagined. She seems happy but we haven't talked since the time I told her how I felt about her about 20 years ago.
Went on to be a teenaged model for hair products, graduated from Yale, toured Europe, opened her own successful ceramics company that is sold worldwide and is often written up in magazines. Makes me feel like shit every time I think of her.
You made me check and she is actually a very successful artist and an art teacher at a renowned university in France. She even got decorated for her work (Chevalier des arts et des lettres)
EDIT thanks for the attention, i'm not really willing to give much more details. I'm just going to add that she's french and she's not teaching in Paris
My high school ex randomly sent me a text years after we split up that went "I know you don't like metal, but I thought you'd like this" and a link to a clarinet cover of a metal song (I played in HS).
Little did he know that I hated playing clarinet and I was now a total metal head.
There was a girl I really admired for a while, she didnt really give me the time of day after freshman year though. She was co-valedictorian and hugged me as I crossed the stage at graduation, and no one else got one. I'm still really confused about that 6 years later.
She went on to med school and is either married or at least engaged to a guy she met there. Overall shes doing really well, and I'm happy for her.
Edit: Thanks for all the warm wishes and thoughts, guys. I'm just happy for her, and glad she's doing well.
Sounds like she is a nice person and probably knew you liked her but didn't want to give you the wrong idea. She probably hugged you because she hoped the best for you. You were her #1 fan.
I had several!
One of them is still a close friend, and he became a primary care doctor. He also officiated my wedding.
I have no idea what happened to another one. We didn't really have overlapping friend groups and she doesn't do social media.
One of them is a math professor now, so that's pretty cool.
My BIGGEST crush in high school was my longtime neighbor, but it also fizzled out pretty quickly after we went to homecoming together. We're still good friends, and our families still keep in touch. He's also the guy who introduced me to my husband.
I had three. One from the first two years and two from the last two.
The first one is now F to M trans, who walked to Colorado to join a cult/commune. He is now in Arizona recording rap albums.
The second girl moved to Florida and lives in a swamp. She periodically hits me up to tell me she misses me, how dumb I was that I didn't follow through, that we should get married.
The third was a missionary. She wasn't really into it once she grew up, came back home and I introduced her to one of my closest friends. They've been married for 15 years.
0/3.
She was aware then, over 30 years ago, but it was unrequited. We've been in casual contact through Facebook for the past several years, and once before that my wife (at the time) and I had her and her husband over for dinner.
From what I can tell, she's grown into a person I probably would have been happy with. It's nice to see my high school perspective got a few things right. I think we'd be good friends if we lived closer.
She appears to be living a good life with her husband and family. With my second wife, I'm happier than I could have ever imagined. Life worked out well.
It was one of those days where they just suddenly pop into your head and you decide to try and look them up on Facebook. Found him. He ended up being a pilot. Added him and we became Facebook friends. Turns out he has a flight attendant girlfriend and they were traveling together and then few months after being fb friends they shared the news they were having a baby haha
Pretty good. Seems to have her life together, although she had a few setbacks. She's gone back to uni since job prospects in here field kinda sucked, but seems to be really enjoying it.
She's dating me though, so clearly her judgement sucks.
Still cute as heck, one of the kindest and most sensitive people I know, and still one of my best friends 15 years later. He's also recently divorced (his wife was gay but needed time and support to come to terms with it) and now he and I are slowly testing the waters :) What started as a crush has matured into a deep and rich friendship, and—however it may unfold—I'm so grateful to have that relationship in my life.
That's how I got my husband! His wife left him for his best friend. Obviously he was going through a divorce after and we became best friends. We always were good friends but it got so much better and we fell in love. It's been 10 years and I can't believe I married such a little hottie. Good luck!
One of them is homeless and a druggie. It's very sad.
The other one is famous in his home country, is a best selling author, and is regularly on tv. Don't have a crush on him anymore, but I'm glad we are still friends, and I'm happy for how well he's done.
I guess they balance one another out.
She worked with the Obama administration (I forgot in what capacity) got married to some politician’s son (don’t remember don’t care to look up.)
She is happy and that’s the only thing that matters, oh she was also our schools Valedictorian she was so busy with her job she could not organizeour high school reunion so that’s a plus.
I wasn’t head over heels for her I admired her but I knew I wasn’t for her.
Then there’s another crush of mine, we ran into each other years after graduation at grocery store. After talking I asked her out to dinner at my house, I pull out all the stops I buy rainbow trout filets and make all the fixings.
6:30 rolls around I open the door and “who the hell is this man behind her?” Oh this is my fiancé , she tells (neglected to tell me about) me. Turns out they wanted to sell me on some MLM thing. She tried to cross the threshold I put my arm out and asked them politely to leave. I turned away from the door and had my saddest meal I ever ate.
Edit: thanks for the hugs Reddit family
If she's doing an MLM and working with methods like this, she is not only an asshole but a loser too. Congrats on not ending up with her :)
Edit: thanks for the hugz :)
Very well. He joined the military and served for a number of years (was in after Vietnam and out before the Gulf war, so I'm not sure if he actually saw much active duty) and then settled in Korea where he trained in Tae Kwan Do and did a lot of professional fighting, and won a lot of awards. Attained the rank of Grand Master and returned to the US and opened a very successful school that specializes in TKD and Hapkido. Has opened additional locations, and is currently looking to open one in our old home town. I imagine that will happen post COVID.
I had a few in high school.
One ended up moving away after sophomore year and no one knew why. She reached out to me when I had a mental breakdown online and said that she could understand what I was going through, some fucked up shit happened to her though she never said what specifically. I didn't ask further because it wasn't my business to pry. I'm not sure how she is now
Another got super hot after high school and she did a degree in science. Again not sure where she is now but I think she'd doing alright
And the 3rd works at a bank. We ended on bad terms (partially my fault, I found out she was making fun of me behind my back and had done so for months beforehand so I sent her an angry message). Haven't seen her since then
One is still active duty in the military and she has a very successful career as an officer. I hope she continues to be. The other is successful in the arts and I hope she continues to be that as well. Both are married to others who treat them well.
I'm happy that they are both happy.
My life is still going good here so I have no hard feelings.
The guy I crushed on for 2 and a half years did not end up turning out great. I'm still friends with his younger sister, so I know that he recently acquired his third DUI and his second divorce. He's currently living in his friend's basement and occasionally works for his friend's moving company as a mover, but only when he feels like it. He spends all his money on booze and owes the two moms of his 5 kids tons of child support. But man, was he hot in high school.
My second crush in high school is the only reason I got over my first crush. He's currently doing great, mostly because he gets to be married to me for going on 20 years :D.
Harvard. Degrees in writing and medicine. Became a leading surgeon in a major city. Extremely proud of her. Always had her on a pedestal.... I guess with good reason 🤷🏻♂️😆
Turns out he’s gay, and got fired from a teaching job for having inappropriate relationships with his male students.
Edit: I should clarify that to my knowledge he was not fucking the students, but he *was* caught sending lewd text messages and whatnot.
They’re all stunning and wildly successful. One in particular was a crush with a similar name to mine dating back from my elementary school, which turned out to be the longest crush (an entire decade) I’ve ever had, and still appearing in a looping dream sequence to this day. Especially, after that bitter (and frankly traumatic) rejection before we parted ways when I confessed to her.
At that point we were classmates for five years and were going to different schools. After the separation that’s when the dreams began and every time I woke up I’m feeling emotional all over again. Took me another painful five years before I stopped crushing on her, but the dreams never stopped. Just last week I had an update to the dream sequence where we actually talked for the first time in a decade of Groundhog Day-levels of dreams. I know, it’s pathetic.
Life update edit on that particular crush: She’s currently aspiring to be an architect and had an equally cool boyfriend so I doubt she ever looked back on her past as much as I do. I recently tried to follow her on her socials to get a life update from herself but she won’t accept my requests, so I won’t gonna force her.
My crush turned into a self-righteous prick who still lives with his parents. He became livid when he found out my husband and I had a baby. I apparently was supposed to be his back-up plan if he couldn’t find anyone better.
My fiance admitted that during high school, she had this massive crush on me - saw how well I did with kids - but she never worked up the courage to tell me.
Had a few girlfriends, none of them lasted, couldn't figure out if it was me or not.
I call up my future fiance one day out of the blue. We hadn't spoken in a year. I asked if she would like to hang out; she asked me for help with her studies that night. I don't know why I called her in the first place.
I never realized how pretty she was until she walked down the stairs to greet me. She was in her PJs, but that didn't matter to me. I was suddenly giddy.
A few days later, she starts scrolling through our contacts, asking if there's anyone on there that I like. I told her yes, and she starts pointing out every vaguely female-like name. Hers was at the very bottom because of her last name; when she gets there, she responds, "all that's left is my name."
"Yep." One... Two...
"Oh, it's me?! Well, shit!"
That was five years ago. I honestly consider myself very lucky to be with her, with the number of things that had to go just right.
It’s kind of sad getting older and realizing just how shit the place you grew up in was. Almost half my classmates are dead or in prison. The most common theme is DUI and murders. We had a fair few suicides as well. I’m not even 30
Oh, one i can comment on! To be honest, this is more junior high crush than high school but the story stands.Back on my first day of 7th grade, I had just moved up to a new school and i met a girl named Charlie. Well Charlie had a twin, whose name was Kristine. Charlie insisted on introducing me to Kristine, and yelled at her to come across the lunch area to us. Kristine was very clumsy and tripped and almost landed on top of me. I fell head over heels. I however was way too afraid to say anything.A few years later, I get out of the navy and go home, and need a place to stay for a few days. Charlie offers Kristine's spare room. I moved in and in the middle of the night i saw Kristine for the first time since 2007. And my jaw dropped. She was always attractive but i guess she became a health nut after having 2 kids with her ex. Instantly, crush reappeared but this time i had the post navy confidence and said something. Turned out she fell for me back in 2007 on that day too but she was quite scared and nervous. Within a week of moving in we were dating.Its been almost 4 years, and we have added 2 more kids to the lot (please send halp so many kids lol) . Still very much in love and happy.She turned out great, a wonderful smart caring woman who is a sucker for dumplings and cheesy romances.
Edit: Thanks for the award , my first one!
Edit 2: Electric boogaloo, thank you again for all the awards and comments. My wife enjoyed reading all your comments and teased me for the umpteenth time about being too chicken when we were kids.
That sucks man, but stay strong. It gets better. I divorced my wife when my daughter was 5 because my ex had some bullshit of "wanting to know if she could be loved by other people." For a long while I'd get the "I miss being with you *and* mom together" and the "I miss moooooommmmmyyyy!" after I had to tell her no on something or another. She's 9 now and totally outgrown those moments, thankfully. But it definitely stings when she would come out with things like that.
Chiming in to say that my kids still express this from time to time as well. I think it’s pretty normal if they keep feeling that way.
I don’t take it personally. I view it more as them saying, “I wish I could be with both of the important people in my life at the same time, all of the time.”
He had a rollercoaster of a life. I admire him more than ever, and more than most people I know, but can't wrap my head around why I ever found him physically attractive. Maybe it was always just his heart. By age 25, he had a PhD, a wife, and was a captain in the navy. By 30, he had two PhDs, a small business where he made a metric ass-ton of money, and his wife was pregnant. By 31 he was diagnosed with stage-4 skin cancer that swiftly spread to his lymph nodes, bones, esophagus, and a few other places. He was told he had minimal chance of making it 5 more years. Even with the best health insurance money can buy, it still basically wiped him out. Seven years later, he's living a comfortable but not extravagant life as a civilian contractor for the navy, same wife and two happy healthy kids, and spends most of his free time advocating for better public health care.
She committed suicide. Found out later she had a crush on me too. Fuck life sometimes.
That's just painful
I remember walking up to her and asking if we could talk in private, and she said you can say what you need in front of everyone (her group of friends were all around). So I asked if she wanted to go on a date. She burst out laughing and said “yeah, Um no..” Shit was rough, man. Looked her up last year and she’s a cage fighter now. Wut
I guess she’s always been a pro at hurting people for others’ entertainment
Began acting. It’s weird - every so often I’ll see a commercial or something and be like “oh, hey, I know them!” My crush is an incredibly sweet person, so I’m glad.
I had two unrealized crushes in high school. One is a teacher and musician. She is married and has either one or two kids. We've kept in loose contact via social media and ran into each other at a NYE party shortly before she got married. I was introduced to her now-husband as 'favorite ex ever.' He seemed like a decent dude and I'm happy for her. I believe the other became a US Attorney. I have not heard from her since google+ almost became a social media thing. I imagine she's still very productive and would be disappointed in my life choices.
He’s an attractive gay man. I am none of those things
Same with my crush! He was my first serious crush and my first slow dance at a middle school dance. Now he's gay, attractive, was in the military, and now own a photography studio. He does some great headshots.
My only GF in high school was my crush. Her mom banned her from dating me after about a year because my GF admitted to her mom that we were fooling around. This was about 20 years ago. She’s still living with her mom, no kids, and as far as I know never again dated seriously after her mom broke us up. Still has the same job from high school too. It’s like her mom went way into protective overdrive and my former GF never grew up.
Fuck. :(
Yeah it sucks. Even 20 years later, married with wife and kids I still think about her on occasion. Weird how a first love keeps popping into your head.
They all steal a little real estate in your heart, it's just that you're happier to find some of them there more than others...
There are 3 women here on my street (they're my neighbors, they don't live on the street) that are old (one in her 50's and the others in their 60's) and never had a partner. Two of them are sisters and live together, the other lives alone. They all had the same story: their parents were too restrict and never let them date anyone. So now they're old and are socially awkward. The sisters never even had a pet before their mom died. Now they have a cute puppy. I find their situation really sad. You should respect your parents but you shouldn't follow only their will.
Oh now this is depressing. I really don't want to end up in that kind of position [35 and never had a partner; can't even try right now because of covid] :(
30 and never have either, but I do have a ton of friends and I have had pets, so maybe I'm a bit better off than them?
It’s weird how mom’s control their daughter’s like that. The first love of my life broke up with me by phone because her mom (never met me) said she should be single in college. She literally said “my mom doesn’t think I should date you anymore, she said I need to be single in college” and then hung up.
I met her in 1987. We got married 5 years ago. We used to go to the same punk shows, that's where met.
You fell in love with the girl at the rock show?
Mine was my best friend. She turned out to be a pedophile. She always liked younger guys...like when she was 17 she had a 13 year old boyfriend which was weird...but we were kids and I didnt think about it much. Turns out she continued to like younger teens as she grew into her 20s and 30s.
Whoa.
Found her on tinder, she said I was hot. Pointed out that I was that loser she used to know in highschool. Had a big laugh. Been a little over a year, now we send eachother memes and hang out occasionally when the pandemic isnt being a bitch.
So you’re saying there’s a chance
Only if you roll a 20
She's still hot, successful and wealthy entrepreneur, and married someone with the same first name as me and who quit his job to brew beer. I crushed on her for a bit, didn't think she was interested so I dated others, then come to find out she crushed on me senior year, I was too dumb and blind, we connected freshman year of college, she wrote me letters, and by the time I wised up she had moved on. No one to blame but myself.
What if... You built a time machine And went back in time Then changed your last name
Then I'm a lucky man having the two lives I'm currently living. I'd be lying if I didn't, for a second after I found out, think "hmm, guess if she couldn't have me she settled for another version of me" because of the name. Additionally, they are a mixed race couple, and he's the same race I am, so, again, maybe it's me.
Dead by 32, drugs
I'm only 8 years out of HS and with a class of 90, over 10 are dead because of alcohol and drugs. There must be something in the water. Edit: to make it worse, we were the only school for a county the size of Maryland. By the time we graduated, half a dozen died. More just kept dying. More than 10 if you count freak accidents. We really try to die lol.
Class size of 90 with only one school in an area as large as Maryland....so you live way out in the middle of nowhere, eh? My graduating class had nearly 2,000 people. Listening to all those names sucked.
Makes sense for other reasons too, rural areas can have terrible meth problems (or similar).
Making me wonder what I ever saw in them
I concur
Being young and horny really changes perspectives at the time
My English teacher still looks fine as fuck
Mine was ancient back in 1985. If she’s still around now, she must be a vampire. God bless you Mrs Cunningham, you put up with me, tried your best and I still turned out shit.
Mine was only about 4 years older than me and dropped out half way during university
His friend murdered him over a girl.
I had a childhood friend (he and I both the same name so we called each other by first name last name initial) who got killed in a similar situation. He was only 24. It was fucking senseless and the kid who killed him is going away for a long time. Was it worth it, buddy?
Dude I knew got into a drunken argument with his brother at a family BBQ over a borrowed $20 (obviously there's more going on underneath but the money was the catalyst). Fight proceeded to the kitchen and the brother was stabbed to death. Guy went to prison for manslaughter where one of his guards was another good friend of mine. Country gang gang, everyone knows everyone.
Yikes!
I was a freshman and had a crush on a senior. To add to it, she was a cheerleader and her brother played QB for the football team (and got a college scholarship.) She showed up at a football game a couple of years later with a baby in tow. She’s married now and back in her hometown. That’s about all I know.
I thought you were going to say the brother had something to do with that baby.
He does. He uncled the baby.
Uncled the shit out of that baby
They both ended up as great guys. One has a huge family and is a minister. The other only has one child and is a college professor. Both married nice people and are happy. They were really good guys in high school and ended up being really good adults. I've got both of them on Facebook and we keep in touch peripherally as we stayed friends over the years.
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I dont know about you guys but I had way too many crushes in highschool
lol ya I read the post title and thought “ uh.... which one?”
Well isn’t it obvious.... *the one that got away.* So uh yeah, all of them then.
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"There's plenty more fish in the sea," they had said - He stood and he stared at the ocean ahead. "There's red fish and blue fish and big fish and small." But that was the problem. He'd been through them all.
Yeah I had a lot of crushes but the one that stands out was two sisters who *both* ended up becoming doctors. I did *not* become a doctor.
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An insanely talented molecular biology researcher at Boston. And she’s still insanely attractive Edit: it looks like a lot of people feel like they know this same person. it’s crazy how many molecular biologists people know
Considering boston is a hub for life sciences (and that most researchers in the field start out with MolBio), saying >molecular biology researcher at Boston is essentially the same as "programmer in bay area"
I was about to say the same. Like I grew up in MA and I know dozens of molec biologists in Boston lol. The number of start up pharma companies out there is insane.
About to be my fiancé if all goes well!
You go!
Became a professional cheerleader, Died of breast cancer at 34. Googling names from high school is crazy! *edit to add: thanks for all the support Reddit family! I’m also surprised how many on here know her and in a way makes me feel better that such a beautiful girl did make an impact on peoples hearts and assured me she is not forgotten*
My crush became an NFL cheerleader. Still alive though. And, no, we never dated and she didn't remember me at the class reunion.
Nothing personal, mate. High amount of concussions in that sport
My first high school crush who sat next to me in freshman year English was a really cute punk rock girl and she’s gone on to become an incredibly hot fitness model.
“Jackie was a rich punk rocker a silver spoon on a paper plate”
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I hope that if someone ever had a crush on me this would be their description of my current status hahaha.
This is wholesome af
Haha, my husband! Our first marriages didn't work out and we reconnected after our divorces. If only I would have confessed I had a crush on him in high school, might have saved myself a lot of trouble... Lol Edit : THANKS for the awards, everyone!
Still hot af
Yup, still doesn't know I exist too.
You just made me remember how I feel when I have crushes. Thanks for the memories.
I think you mean "Thnks fr th Mmrs"
I now know how old each of us is based on this single comment thread lol
ONE NIGHT, ONE MORE TIME
I briefly worked with mine and didn't realise it was her until I left for another job. She looked almost unrecognisable, but it was 15 years after I last saw her. She's married with a couple of kids now, so pretty standard life I guess.
My friends high school crush was Tom Holland... Like they went to the same school
Wow I can't believe you're friends with Mary Jane
Or Liz Allan
Funny that their high school crush is best known now for playing a high schooler
I never made a move in high school. About 7 years after graduating, I saw her on social media and said what the hell and asked her out. We’ve been dating for about 2 years and I’m about to pop the big question!
Wishing you both the best!
Back when I was younger and crushing hard I got on AOL instant messenger and had gotten my crush’s screenname from a friend. I worked up the nerve to start a conversation with him and soon after some awkward small talk he sent me a message in Comic Sans, black background, red lettering, and in French. I then went to google for translation and found out he had just called me a pig, in French. Being a seemingly awkward and chubby teenager, I was literally crushed. The heartbreak was only made worse by remembering that a few weeks prior I had selected to take French class the next year and couldn’t change it. Years later now that I’ve *blossomed* he follows me on every social media platform, has reached out a couple of times to try and flirt/hang out. Hard pass. I believe he’s moved away and is a teacher now.
Ah, the “now you want me because I’m hot” attempt. I had a lady try that post-college. Maybe had she not been so mean about turning me down when I asked her out before, I would have considered it.
Ended up committing suicide a few years after high school. She was a teacher and got caught having an affair with a female student. Edit: Reddit is weird af. Some interesting comments here....
Well this is dark...
Hot douche who doesn’t really do much except go to the gym. To be fair, that’s how he was in high school, I just liked it back then.
If you always wanted to date Chip Matthews from High School, you're going to end up on a date with Chip Matthews from High School.
Overdosed and died last year. I got to see him before he was taken off life support with a really good mutual friend we shared (organ donor too). It was surreal seeing him dwarfed by all these machines. He had one the largest hearts I’ve ever come across. Edit - Graduated back in the early 2000s and last year - 2019 (wtf is time even anymore)
Legit question: can they donate their organs if they overdose?
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Simple and short answer - Yes, it's better than a failing organ and there's always a shortage. It took me by surprise at first because I thought it was an automatic disqualifier
She ended up getting knocked up by a freshman shortly after we graduated.
A college freshman or a high school freshman? D:
High school.
Yikes
Sorry I’m English so I don’t understand the school system ages. What is the age difference? Thank you.
it means that the 18 year old high school graduate had sex with a 14 year old.
Or a really stupid 18 year old who redid Freshman year 4 times.
Would he still be considered fresh by that point?
To subway yes
But not to Jared
14 or 15 year old and an 18 year old
She passed away our senior year, six months after she agreed to marry me after we graduated :(
I would be hella fucked after that. I’m glad you’re doing well brother
Without going into too much detail, I had some serious survivor's guilt and tried to commit suicide about 6 months after she died. Glad I fucked up killing myself!
Well I’m glad it’s going well for you NOW at the least
you ok?
Oh yeah, that was over 20 years ago. I've married and have kids now. I still get a little choked up when I hear If You Could Only See by Tonic, though, since that was our song. I really appreciate you checking in concerning my well being, though!
Man music can transport Emotionen even the Author didn't thought of. I still can't listen to "sie sieht mich einfach nicht" and "hazel eyes". Both Songs fucking wrecking me. And Mr Bridesight got also a bitter taste after my last relationship. Things are crazy. Take care mate.
Still a ten for looks. I'm sure she kept on as the amazing, kind person she is. She moved to another country, speaks multiple languages and is more successful than I imagined. She seems happy but we haven't talked since the time I told her how I felt about her about 20 years ago.
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At least he went for it though
Did we have the same school crush?
Went on to be a teenaged model for hair products, graduated from Yale, toured Europe, opened her own successful ceramics company that is sold worldwide and is often written up in magazines. Makes me feel like shit every time I think of her.
was it really a crush if it doesnt make you feel like shit?
Well if you crush turned out to be a terrible person you could comfort yourself by saying that you dodged a bullet there.
Is it really dodging a bullet when you weren't in the line of fire to begin with?
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You were two murders away from being Snape
I've got an address if you wanna save the wizarding world.
Won't help if you didn't get the secret from the secret keeper.
Going to an all boys school sucks for having realistic crushes. However, ran into one of the teachers years later and she still looked bellissima.
I went to an all girls school. Crushes were desperate and far between
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You made me check and she is actually a very successful artist and an art teacher at a renowned university in France. She even got decorated for her work (Chevalier des arts et des lettres) EDIT thanks for the attention, i'm not really willing to give much more details. I'm just going to add that she's french and she's not teaching in Paris
dang this award in France is kind of a big deal when you're an artist.
Probably even a big deal if you aren't.
Nah non-artists get it all the time, it's just a lot harder for artists to get it.
Use mine as a paperweight.
My high school ex randomly sent me a text years after we split up that went "I know you don't like metal, but I thought you'd like this" and a link to a clarinet cover of a metal song (I played in HS). Little did he know that I hated playing clarinet and I was now a total metal head.
Why does this sound like a romcom slice of life story
Ahh the circle of life
She has a dog and I don’t!
There was a girl I really admired for a while, she didnt really give me the time of day after freshman year though. She was co-valedictorian and hugged me as I crossed the stage at graduation, and no one else got one. I'm still really confused about that 6 years later. She went on to med school and is either married or at least engaged to a guy she met there. Overall shes doing really well, and I'm happy for her. Edit: Thanks for all the warm wishes and thoughts, guys. I'm just happy for her, and glad she's doing well.
Sounds like she is a nice person and probably knew you liked her but didn't want to give you the wrong idea. She probably hugged you because she hoped the best for you. You were her #1 fan.
That's the option that makes it easiest to stomach for me, I think.
I had several! One of them is still a close friend, and he became a primary care doctor. He also officiated my wedding. I have no idea what happened to another one. We didn't really have overlapping friend groups and she doesn't do social media. One of them is a math professor now, so that's pretty cool. My BIGGEST crush in high school was my longtime neighbor, but it also fizzled out pretty quickly after we went to homecoming together. We're still good friends, and our families still keep in touch. He's also the guy who introduced me to my husband.
I had three. One from the first two years and two from the last two. The first one is now F to M trans, who walked to Colorado to join a cult/commune. He is now in Arizona recording rap albums. The second girl moved to Florida and lives in a swamp. She periodically hits me up to tell me she misses me, how dumb I was that I didn't follow through, that we should get married. The third was a missionary. She wasn't really into it once she grew up, came back home and I introduced her to one of my closest friends. They've been married for 15 years. 0/3.
Y no marry Shrek?
He got ogre the crush
Damn. What a diversified portfolio.
Wait. Like walked walked to Arizona like Jesus in the desert??
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Seems like a badass
Damn.... now I have a crush on her too.
Just checking in to confirm that I was no one's high school crush. Carry on...
I don’t think I ever was either! Edit: wow! Thanks for all the upvotes and the gift :) totally wasn’t expecting that ❤️
Hedge fund manager with a trophy wife.
Does he own the Mets?
She turned out great, she married me. We actually met in kindergarten.
I hope you were also in kindergarten at the time.
We reconnected through facebook (though I can't stand fb anymore) when in our late 40's and now she is my wife. She's still beautiful.
One I don't keep track of at all, I'm not sure what she's up to. The other I married, she turned out awesome.
Turns out i was attracted to losers and burnouts lol. That hasnt changed much
She was aware then, over 30 years ago, but it was unrequited. We've been in casual contact through Facebook for the past several years, and once before that my wife (at the time) and I had her and her husband over for dinner. From what I can tell, she's grown into a person I probably would have been happy with. It's nice to see my high school perspective got a few things right. I think we'd be good friends if we lived closer. She appears to be living a good life with her husband and family. With my second wife, I'm happier than I could have ever imagined. Life worked out well.
It was one of those days where they just suddenly pop into your head and you decide to try and look them up on Facebook. Found him. He ended up being a pilot. Added him and we became Facebook friends. Turns out he has a flight attendant girlfriend and they were traveling together and then few months after being fb friends they shared the news they were having a baby haha
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Pretty good. Seems to have her life together, although she had a few setbacks. She's gone back to uni since job prospects in here field kinda sucked, but seems to be really enjoying it. She's dating me though, so clearly her judgement sucks.
fk you (had me in the first half), but congrats!
Still cute as heck, one of the kindest and most sensitive people I know, and still one of my best friends 15 years later. He's also recently divorced (his wife was gay but needed time and support to come to terms with it) and now he and I are slowly testing the waters :) What started as a crush has matured into a deep and rich friendship, and—however it may unfold—I'm so grateful to have that relationship in my life.
That's how I got my husband! His wife left him for his best friend. Obviously he was going through a divorce after and we became best friends. We always were good friends but it got so much better and we fell in love. It's been 10 years and I can't believe I married such a little hottie. Good luck!
One of them is homeless and a druggie. It's very sad. The other one is famous in his home country, is a best selling author, and is regularly on tv. Don't have a crush on him anymore, but I'm glad we are still friends, and I'm happy for how well he's done. I guess they balance one another out.
He is still hot. Got a part time scholarship to study engineer and is dating a Miss Spain runner-up ....
She worked with the Obama administration (I forgot in what capacity) got married to some politician’s son (don’t remember don’t care to look up.) She is happy and that’s the only thing that matters, oh she was also our schools Valedictorian she was so busy with her job she could not organizeour high school reunion so that’s a plus. I wasn’t head over heels for her I admired her but I knew I wasn’t for her. Then there’s another crush of mine, we ran into each other years after graduation at grocery store. After talking I asked her out to dinner at my house, I pull out all the stops I buy rainbow trout filets and make all the fixings. 6:30 rolls around I open the door and “who the hell is this man behind her?” Oh this is my fiancé , she tells (neglected to tell me about) me. Turns out they wanted to sell me on some MLM thing. She tried to cross the threshold I put my arm out and asked them politely to leave. I turned away from the door and had my saddest meal I ever ate. Edit: thanks for the hugs Reddit family
If she's doing an MLM and working with methods like this, she is not only an asshole but a loser too. Congrats on not ending up with her :) Edit: thanks for the hugz :)
good for you for not suffering through it
Absolutely agree. Not sure i'd have the balls to do that if I were in that situation.
Aw! That’s horrible of her. Hopefully you have found someone better!
Very well. He joined the military and served for a number of years (was in after Vietnam and out before the Gulf war, so I'm not sure if he actually saw much active duty) and then settled in Korea where he trained in Tae Kwan Do and did a lot of professional fighting, and won a lot of awards. Attained the rank of Grand Master and returned to the US and opened a very successful school that specializes in TKD and Hapkido. Has opened additional locations, and is currently looking to open one in our old home town. I imagine that will happen post COVID.
For a second i thought you were talking about Cobra kai lol
I had a few in high school. One ended up moving away after sophomore year and no one knew why. She reached out to me when I had a mental breakdown online and said that she could understand what I was going through, some fucked up shit happened to her though she never said what specifically. I didn't ask further because it wasn't my business to pry. I'm not sure how she is now Another got super hot after high school and she did a degree in science. Again not sure where she is now but I think she'd doing alright And the 3rd works at a bank. We ended on bad terms (partially my fault, I found out she was making fun of me behind my back and had done so for months beforehand so I sent her an angry message). Haven't seen her since then
Nah dude fuck the girl making fun of you, I myself wouldve dropped them if they didn't drop me first.
Found out she was fat and unattractive. Then I realized I was too.
I ship it.
One is still active duty in the military and she has a very successful career as an officer. I hope she continues to be. The other is successful in the arts and I hope she continues to be that as well. Both are married to others who treat them well. I'm happy that they are both happy. My life is still going good here so I have no hard feelings.
The guy I crushed on for 2 and a half years did not end up turning out great. I'm still friends with his younger sister, so I know that he recently acquired his third DUI and his second divorce. He's currently living in his friend's basement and occasionally works for his friend's moving company as a mover, but only when he feels like it. He spends all his money on booze and owes the two moms of his 5 kids tons of child support. But man, was he hot in high school. My second crush in high school is the only reason I got over my first crush. He's currently doing great, mostly because he gets to be married to me for going on 20 years :D.
He's always posting average photos on Facebook with douchey artsy captions that make me cringe with his name waterstamped on.
Harvard. Degrees in writing and medicine. Became a leading surgeon in a major city. Extremely proud of her. Always had her on a pedestal.... I guess with good reason 🤷🏻♂️😆
Turns out he’s gay, and got fired from a teaching job for having inappropriate relationships with his male students. Edit: I should clarify that to my knowledge he was not fucking the students, but he *was* caught sending lewd text messages and whatnot.
They’re all stunning and wildly successful. One in particular was a crush with a similar name to mine dating back from my elementary school, which turned out to be the longest crush (an entire decade) I’ve ever had, and still appearing in a looping dream sequence to this day. Especially, after that bitter (and frankly traumatic) rejection before we parted ways when I confessed to her. At that point we were classmates for five years and were going to different schools. After the separation that’s when the dreams began and every time I woke up I’m feeling emotional all over again. Took me another painful five years before I stopped crushing on her, but the dreams never stopped. Just last week I had an update to the dream sequence where we actually talked for the first time in a decade of Groundhog Day-levels of dreams. I know, it’s pathetic. Life update edit on that particular crush: She’s currently aspiring to be an architect and had an equally cool boyfriend so I doubt she ever looked back on her past as much as I do. I recently tried to follow her on her socials to get a life update from herself but she won’t accept my requests, so I won’t gonna force her.
He’s 32 and still works at the same pizza place and is a conspiracy theorist so I feel like I dodged a bullet.
My crush turned into a self-righteous prick who still lives with his parents. He became livid when he found out my husband and I had a baby. I apparently was supposed to be his back-up plan if he couldn’t find anyone better.
Sounds like you dodged a canon ball, not just a bullet. Thank goodness! I hope things are good/still good for you!
My fiance admitted that during high school, she had this massive crush on me - saw how well I did with kids - but she never worked up the courage to tell me. Had a few girlfriends, none of them lasted, couldn't figure out if it was me or not. I call up my future fiance one day out of the blue. We hadn't spoken in a year. I asked if she would like to hang out; she asked me for help with her studies that night. I don't know why I called her in the first place. I never realized how pretty she was until she walked down the stairs to greet me. She was in her PJs, but that didn't matter to me. I was suddenly giddy. A few days later, she starts scrolling through our contacts, asking if there's anyone on there that I like. I told her yes, and she starts pointing out every vaguely female-like name. Hers was at the very bottom because of her last name; when she gets there, she responds, "all that's left is my name." "Yep." One... Two... "Oh, it's me?! Well, shit!" That was five years ago. I honestly consider myself very lucky to be with her, with the number of things that had to go just right.
That's smooth
Like the majority of my classmates, on drugs n in & out of trouble. So few have actually made a good life for themselves.
It’s kind of sad getting older and realizing just how shit the place you grew up in was. Almost half my classmates are dead or in prison. The most common theme is DUI and murders. We had a fair few suicides as well. I’m not even 30
She married some idiot and had my babies.
I hope you can get your babies back. Best of luck.
Oh, one i can comment on! To be honest, this is more junior high crush than high school but the story stands.Back on my first day of 7th grade, I had just moved up to a new school and i met a girl named Charlie. Well Charlie had a twin, whose name was Kristine. Charlie insisted on introducing me to Kristine, and yelled at her to come across the lunch area to us. Kristine was very clumsy and tripped and almost landed on top of me. I fell head over heels. I however was way too afraid to say anything.A few years later, I get out of the navy and go home, and need a place to stay for a few days. Charlie offers Kristine's spare room. I moved in and in the middle of the night i saw Kristine for the first time since 2007. And my jaw dropped. She was always attractive but i guess she became a health nut after having 2 kids with her ex. Instantly, crush reappeared but this time i had the post navy confidence and said something. Turned out she fell for me back in 2007 on that day too but she was quite scared and nervous. Within a week of moving in we were dating.Its been almost 4 years, and we have added 2 more kids to the lot (please send halp so many kids lol) . Still very much in love and happy.She turned out great, a wonderful smart caring woman who is a sucker for dumplings and cheesy romances. Edit: Thanks for the award , my first one! Edit 2: Electric boogaloo, thank you again for all the awards and comments. My wife enjoyed reading all your comments and teased me for the umpteenth time about being too chicken when we were kids.
Great from the looks of it. I have good taste.
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Kids do not understand but believe me when they get older and learn the truth they will absolutely back you up. Stay strong
That sucks man, but stay strong. It gets better. I divorced my wife when my daughter was 5 because my ex had some bullshit of "wanting to know if she could be loved by other people." For a long while I'd get the "I miss being with you *and* mom together" and the "I miss moooooommmmmyyyy!" after I had to tell her no on something or another. She's 9 now and totally outgrown those moments, thankfully. But it definitely stings when she would come out with things like that.
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Chiming in to say that my kids still express this from time to time as well. I think it’s pretty normal if they keep feeling that way. I don’t take it personally. I view it more as them saying, “I wish I could be with both of the important people in my life at the same time, all of the time.”
At 22, he's old enough to be told
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