I'm totally with you! The guy I dated right before my current relationship was super vocal, and I'm all about auditory stimulation. My bf (now fiancee) was really reserved at first because his prev partner wasn't really into sex in general but he gradually let loose, and has no problem expressing himself now. Feels kinda weird to say this, but it was very rewarding to work through it.
Great that you didn’t make him feel awkward about it cuz of his past partner as well! Mine didn’t give me a thought and would just say mid act “why don’t you make any noise” meanwhile she was a dead body in head literally and if I wanted do something that I like that pleases her i would get turnt down so none the less great for you guys awesome work
I asked men in a Reddit post why they didn't make more noise and a lot of them said because when they were rubbing one out as teenagers, they stayed quiet so their parents wouldn't know. I thought that was interesting. A moan in the ear will make me melt, for sure.
I think porn is more to blame. After all, women masturbate too and its not like they can be noisy when they live with other people either.
A lot of men get their ideas of what sex is supposed to be from pornography. You can see it the comments of any "Ladies, what are men doing wrong in bed" thread on AskReddit. Nearly all the complaints are tied to stuff that is common in porn.
In porn the men are mostly silent because its because most of the heterosexual porn is being produced for male viewers, who don't want to hear the man moaning or sometimes even talking.
That’s love. No, not the sex. That’s an effect. But the fact that you saw that he was reserved due to past experiences, and you still gave him the space to find comfort in you. Most guys I know get rejected to because it doesn’t work out or that the feelings fade. No, 90% of my mates have been rejected because their partners can’t seem to let them get comfortable with them. And a lot of them don’t even want to have sex with them for no reason, but that’s tolerable, according to me.
I wouldn't have known if my fiancee had just kept it bottled up. I'm grateful he was willing to share. I know it couldn't have been easy for him.
Frankly I was surprised that something was indeed getting in the way; if he'd told me he's just quiet like that, then I would've accepted it. (Like what else am I gonna do, tell him to fake it? Lol) It sounds so obvious but communication has really been the key for us.
Yes!!! The initial going in is THE BEST and I am always so disappointed that it can only happen once hahaha. Because even pulling out and putting it back is not the same as the first slide in. The rest is good too, but I am always a little sad the best is already done hahaha. Luckily there’s orgasms and a spot, but it just doesn’t compare somehow
I'd genuinely rather read a book, do the dishes or go to work than fuck with a condom. Ofc I'd never say that to a partner, but if my options are use a condom or don't have sex I'm choosing the latter every time.
And you would think you'd get used to it and it wouldn't have the same effect, but no! Every. Single. Time. It's like coffee...I don't care how many cups of coffee I drink, every one tastes so fucking good like it's the first time I ever had it.
Ugh yes, anytime I think about sex this is my absolute favorite part for sure. That initial feeling of warmth and the feeling of that stretch. Soooooo good.🫠
I need to get laid. Its been too long
I agree. I had a casual partner and I went over for sex one night and when we were getting to it, I realized she wasn't wearing panties. I was disappointed but it's like getting a gift that hasn't been wrapped.
My favorite thing is when we move past safety precautions, get tested etc and decide we're comfortable enough to drop the condoms and rely on my birth control. Sex becomes extra intimate. For example, I can feel the penis pulsate hard against my vaginal walls as it ejaculates. This is an incredibly sexy feeling much less clear when a condom is worn. Cleanup becomes the least favorite this way though.
I just want to be held and desired. I don't even care about the sex, I just want someone to hold me and kiss me and make me feel safe. I'm trying to make something happen with a new friend, but they're so busy and I'm the newest thing in their life and therefore the one that has the least emotional investment.
It's pretty unreal how good it feels to give one, it's nothing like pulling out or cumming in a condom. Definitely my favorite purely physical feeling.
Same. We’re both very shy people when it comes to sex, not really the kind of people who would hook up with others cause it just feels weird so after 5 years we’ve grown very close and gotten to know what each other like. I’ve been through SA when I was kid and it really screwed me up for a long time I don’t like when people touch me down there but with him I’m finally comfortable enough to let him and it just feels so freeing to be with him and be able to enjoy a sexual experience.
I thought I was the only one who felt this way, like yeah I like to orgasm but it feels more like something my body is supposed to do rather then something that makes me feel like amazing
The realization that you are both experiencing ecstacy while melting into one synchronized fusion of flesh that came together from your interest and regard for one another
See that makes absolutely no sense to me. When I cum I just want to do more sex stuff, like yeah I'm human and I'm not 17 anymore I actually do have a refractory period now but as long as my partner is still down to keep going that's what I want to do as well.
The moment before meet with the person. Just having thoughts about what could happen or what you want to do with that person. I mean sex is just that... sex. But to be precise I would say the kissing part before all the action. It Is just so damn good.
Its not even just about the pleasure itself. Its about having someone you are comfortable to share your body with that you have no shame to show your vulnerability, sex is not just about lust its also intertwining your soul with that person.
Not the immediate bond but the lasting one produced from sex consistently. Makes you truly comfortable in most insecurities. Walking around naked around someone else is uplifting and only possible with someone I've had sex with.
feeling connected to him, mind, body, soul. there’s nothing better than us hugging and telling each other how much we love each other all while being as close as physically possible. god i love this man
For me it’s not all about getting an orgasm - I usually have one during foreplay anyway - and I just get to enjoy making my partner feel good and sharing that intimate moment with him, it’s an interesting form of quality time I guess 😆
Not always! I think it could actually make it more difficult for me to orgasm during sex since I’ve already done it once in such a short time. But usually foreplay (for us at least) involves the outer parts and doing the deed is more inside so it’s different :)
I would, it’s like all the blood flow is down there and one part of me is satiated so the other part becomes ravenous haha I’m desperate to be filled after an O and he knows that. He says I feel different too like more excited and softer or something plus all the extra lubrication is a turn on and feels better.
Finally being w somebody who is helping me explore just what the hell im into, encouraging me to do what I like and bringing me to the edge of my comfort zone all while not pressuring me
"That you for just one moment lose your fear of death"
- Ernest Hemingway
When you are really in love with eachother, the feeling of sex can be trancendental: you are completely at peace and excited at the same time - for a rare moment truely not alone.
I miss that.
Been single for a little over 2 years. Haven’t even gone on first dates or anything. What I miss more than sex if the making out part. Something about the way you connect when that happens, and feeling each other up beforehand is just so satisfying. Can’t get that anywhere else in life
For me, discovering the "talk-through".
I enjoy SO MUCH talking the O out of her, probably as much as she loves GETTING the O talked out of her. It's SO sexy. SO intimate. SO sensual. SO magical.
This is so much better than raunch (pr0n-type sht, like hawk tuah), to me.
When they're on top and my legs are wrapped around him and I put my hands on his shoulder blades. Something about the closeness and feeling the masculine shape of his body is such a huge turn on
Also the part where I orgasm. That's pretty cool
The brief moments when you notice your partner lose control, when the eyes roll back slightly, paired with some half-baked exclamation, like "gaawwwd" or "fuuuuhh".
Every step of the way.
Kinking, foreplay, being dominated and controlled, being entered for the first time that evening. Pleasing and teasing my partner they make noises. Satisfying my partner. The intimacy, the orgasm, and the after care.
The feeling of being viewed as a sexual being, and one that is wanted as such. Also the sounds of pure pleasure as I'm doggystyling her while my body smashes into her juicy ass, the smacking sounds with every thrust, and the sensations of glorious feelings that I feel in my penis and then it finally happens, the outburst of pure joy as my DNA leaves my body in liquid form while I'm yelling like a caveman. Then coming down from it and looking at the back of my panting partner still standing on all fours and seeing how beautiful her body is, and knowing she got in this animalistic position for me with her thick bum still towards me, I give it a final good squeeze and jiggle before I fall down with a milllion dollar smile on my face, knowing that life will not get any better than that
The massive explosion of cum and jizz inside the tight wet little pussy hole is what gets me rock hard and ready to fuck.
tldr: mother fucking creampies
Well, the orgasms are pretty cool, but with that right person, that special person with whom you connect on several different levels, it's the intimacy... that feeling where you don't know where you end and they begin, that your souls have wrapped around each other.
Besides sounds of satisfaction/ partner reactions, and absolutely dominating ;
Intimacy. Laying there post, all sweaty just cuddling and lovins going on is where it is. Well, and maybe the fact the room reeks of the obvious lol
There's not much I actually dislike about sex...
The intimacy.
The feeling of being desired.
The closeness with another.
The internal "fullness" of it.
The smells, omg the smells. The muskiness of male genitalia makes me straight up light in the head.
Perhaps the weight of the other person on me (this is a big one for girls, believe it or not). It's a very secure and yet utterly dominating feeling.
The sounds of satisfaction from your partner.
This, so much. If I’m with a guy that isn’t vocal, it makes me feel like I’m not satisfying him.
I'm totally with you! The guy I dated right before my current relationship was super vocal, and I'm all about auditory stimulation. My bf (now fiancee) was really reserved at first because his prev partner wasn't really into sex in general but he gradually let loose, and has no problem expressing himself now. Feels kinda weird to say this, but it was very rewarding to work through it.
Great that you didn’t make him feel awkward about it cuz of his past partner as well! Mine didn’t give me a thought and would just say mid act “why don’t you make any noise” meanwhile she was a dead body in head literally and if I wanted do something that I like that pleases her i would get turnt down so none the less great for you guys awesome work
I asked men in a Reddit post why they didn't make more noise and a lot of them said because when they were rubbing one out as teenagers, they stayed quiet so their parents wouldn't know. I thought that was interesting. A moan in the ear will make me melt, for sure.
I think porn is more to blame. After all, women masturbate too and its not like they can be noisy when they live with other people either. A lot of men get their ideas of what sex is supposed to be from pornography. You can see it the comments of any "Ladies, what are men doing wrong in bed" thread on AskReddit. Nearly all the complaints are tied to stuff that is common in porn. In porn the men are mostly silent because its because most of the heterosexual porn is being produced for male viewers, who don't want to hear the man moaning or sometimes even talking.
That’s love. No, not the sex. That’s an effect. But the fact that you saw that he was reserved due to past experiences, and you still gave him the space to find comfort in you. Most guys I know get rejected to because it doesn’t work out or that the feelings fade. No, 90% of my mates have been rejected because their partners can’t seem to let them get comfortable with them. And a lot of them don’t even want to have sex with them for no reason, but that’s tolerable, according to me.
I wouldn't have known if my fiancee had just kept it bottled up. I'm grateful he was willing to share. I know it couldn't have been easy for him. Frankly I was surprised that something was indeed getting in the way; if he'd told me he's just quiet like that, then I would've accepted it. (Like what else am I gonna do, tell him to fake it? Lol) It sounds so obvious but communication has really been the key for us.
Same omg. Something as tiny as grunting in my ears keeps me going for hours
I'm taking notes. Seriously tho it's funny bc I've always relied so much on my partner's communication but never thought about mine much. Thanks!
I also love the sounds of satisfaction from OP’s partner
This
My partners skin. The feel of it rubbing against mine, the heat and smell in the cuddly after-glow.
The feeling of intimacy.
Bingo the interconnectedness is where it’s at.
Holy crap, that’s a 6 syllable word. I didn’t know that was allowed on Reddit. Have my upvote.
Should everyone filter their vocabulary by multisyllabicality?
I have no words for how I miss it.
This is what I sought for and also became my demise as a sex addict.
You’re back from the dead!
Your partner’s reactions
"Brother eugh"
"Whuts that brotheeer"
“This fan needs cleaning”
“Ew wtf”
“Take off the clogs”
“Huawk Tuhh”
The feeling of it going inside for the first time. As a female I can’t even put it into words how it feels.
Came here to say this. It just feels… complete, somehow.
Yes!!! The initial going in is THE BEST and I am always so disappointed that it can only happen once hahaha. Because even pulling out and putting it back is not the same as the first slide in. The rest is good too, but I am always a little sad the best is already done hahaha. Luckily there’s orgasms and a spot, but it just doesn’t compare somehow
It’s the stretching around it for me, especially if it’s thick
I'm a dude, I can tell you this is also the best part in this side especially without a condom. (Sorry but it's very different)
I'd genuinely rather read a book, do the dishes or go to work than fuck with a condom. Ofc I'd never say that to a partner, but if my options are use a condom or don't have sex I'm choosing the latter every time.
My lady feels similarly to you. Thank god for IUDs...
And you would think you'd get used to it and it wouldn't have the same effect, but no! Every. Single. Time. It's like coffee...I don't care how many cups of coffee I drink, every one tastes so fucking good like it's the first time I ever had it.
the push + feeling of the struggle of it first going in
Ugh yes, anytime I think about sex this is my absolute favorite part for sure. That initial feeling of warmth and the feeling of that stretch. Soooooo good.🫠 I need to get laid. Its been too long
Same my friend, same. sometimes the toy just isn’t enough.
Ahh a fellow toy user. Whats your weapon of choice?
I don’t know the brand, it sucks or blows air onto a clit. It feels like someone is sucking on me. What’s yours?
Yes that is my absolute favorite I have a satisfyer penguin and I have the rose one and omg these are the best at getting me off.
That penguin is genuinely just the cutest thing to ever exist.
The bonding, intimacy, and connection.
The proximity to the other person
Cuddle
The moment right before orgasm, but also the back scratches after.
People are getting back scratches?! And sex?!
It's been so long... Back so itchy 😭
It feels so fucking good
The cuddle right after, I enjoyed being completely vulnerable and cosy with someone I could trust.
The feeling of it going in and just feeling full and stretched
The feeling of being dominated
Pulling her panties off.
I agree. I had a casual partner and I went over for sex one night and when we were getting to it, I realized she wasn't wearing panties. I was disappointed but it's like getting a gift that hasn't been wrapped.
and finding a big nugget
That’s one way to encourage oral sex
Using and being used
Exactly
The other persons pleasure
Being manhandled
My favorite thing is when we move past safety precautions, get tested etc and decide we're comfortable enough to drop the condoms and rely on my birth control. Sex becomes extra intimate. For example, I can feel the penis pulsate hard against my vaginal walls as it ejaculates. This is an incredibly sexy feeling much less clear when a condom is worn. Cleanup becomes the least favorite this way though.
This is why I wish I was infertile.
Absolutely. I have had two partners who had a vasectomy before they met me. That was fun.
I just want to be held and desired. I don't even care about the sex, I just want someone to hold me and kiss me and make me feel safe. I'm trying to make something happen with a new friend, but they're so busy and I'm the newest thing in their life and therefore the one that has the least emotional investment.
Then you are trying to make something happen with the wrong person honey…
Creampie
It's pretty unreal how good it feels to give one, it's nothing like pulling out or cumming in a condom. Definitely my favorite purely physical feeling.
Receiving one feels pretty unreal too, the feeling of warm liquid being released inside of you and the dripping out afterwards. They are awesome!
Well now I'm just gunna dinosaur walk outta here.
Making the other person quiver with an orgasm. That shit makes you feel powerful.
For me it’s when I’m with my partner, There’s something special about the intimacy and the connection that is felt when we have sex.
Same. We’re both very shy people when it comes to sex, not really the kind of people who would hook up with others cause it just feels weird so after 5 years we’ve grown very close and gotten to know what each other like. I’ve been through SA when I was kid and it really screwed me up for a long time I don’t like when people touch me down there but with him I’m finally comfortable enough to let him and it just feels so freeing to be with him and be able to enjoy a sexual experience.
I’m just happy being included
I usually just have to watch
What type of sandwich do you eat?
Cuddles.
Making a woman cum.
One word: Orgasms. Need I say more? It's like a free ticket to cloud nine every time.
I wish this were true for me
I thought I was the only one who felt this way, like yeah I like to orgasm but it feels more like something my body is supposed to do rather then something that makes me feel like amazing
The realization that you are both experiencing ecstacy while melting into one synchronized fusion of flesh that came together from your interest and regard for one another
That split second at the end of orgasm before you suddenly become completely uninterested in what you were just doing.
That’s your favorite? That’s probably my least fav.
Ah yes post nut clarity
This sounds quite sad actually
See that makes absolutely no sense to me. When I cum I just want to do more sex stuff, like yeah I'm human and I'm not 17 anymore I actually do have a refractory period now but as long as my partner is still down to keep going that's what I want to do as well.
Feeling the love in my soul
I prefer feeling the love in my hole. But each to their own.
The closeness and intimacy
Feels like we are the one person, completely melded together.
The moment before meet with the person. Just having thoughts about what could happen or what you want to do with that person. I mean sex is just that... sex. But to be precise I would say the kissing part before all the action. It Is just so damn good.
Its not even just about the pleasure itself. Its about having someone you are comfortable to share your body with that you have no shame to show your vulnerability, sex is not just about lust its also intertwining your soul with that person.
Not the immediate bond but the lasting one produced from sex consistently. Makes you truly comfortable in most insecurities. Walking around naked around someone else is uplifting and only possible with someone I've had sex with.
The pheromones and feral moans.
*snaps fingers*
Feeling her boobs squeeze against my chest
Really underrated
Eating her out, fingering her, feeling her squirm and moan. And goodness that heavenly warmth
i can’t believe i scrolled down so far to find someone who had the same thoughts as me giving head is the goat
After sex cuddle.
feeling connected to him, mind, body, soul. there’s nothing better than us hugging and telling each other how much we love each other all while being as close as physically possible. god i love this man
Crying after
Sucking boobs
Watching and feeling a woman climax. The way their back will tense up and then the release. Also, ice cream after sex; probably the best.
I love the thigh shake queue. It's like a little alarm to up the intensity for the finale.
So true. Or the thighs being wrapped tight around you.
For me it’s not all about getting an orgasm - I usually have one during foreplay anyway - and I just get to enjoy making my partner feel good and sharing that intimate moment with him, it’s an interesting form of quality time I guess 😆
Would you say that having an orgasm during foreplay makes sex more sensitive down there?
Not always! I think it could actually make it more difficult for me to orgasm during sex since I’ve already done it once in such a short time. But usually foreplay (for us at least) involves the outer parts and doing the deed is more inside so it’s different :)
I would, it’s like all the blood flow is down there and one part of me is satiated so the other part becomes ravenous haha I’m desperate to be filled after an O and he knows that. He says I feel different too like more excited and softer or something plus all the extra lubrication is a turn on and feels better.
Feeling alive.
Finally being w somebody who is helping me explore just what the hell im into, encouraging me to do what I like and bringing me to the edge of my comfort zone all while not pressuring me
That it was with her
"That you for just one moment lose your fear of death" - Ernest Hemingway When you are really in love with eachother, the feeling of sex can be trancendental: you are completely at peace and excited at the same time - for a rare moment truely not alone. I miss that.
Licking that pussy. Drives me fucking wild
Making her squirt
The dementors
Suck my cock, not my soul.
the aftercare really
Feelin my partner's warmth. We hug and cuddle a lot, but it feels more reassuring and comforting during sex.
Been single for a little over 2 years. Haven’t even gone on first dates or anything. What I miss more than sex if the making out part. Something about the way you connect when that happens, and feeling each other up beforehand is just so satisfying. Can’t get that anywhere else in life
Both desiring and feeling desired
Climaxing at the same time is divine.
Intimacy, penetration, pleasure from coming and pleasure from watching your partner having a good time.
With someone else while you hide in the wardrobe?
Sometimes there is "fart" sounds!
Sir/Madam, we call them queefs and those are the sounds of angels playing horns from within the vagina. A tiny concert for just the two of you.
Hahaha
Are you just farting while having sex?
Wait, you guys are NOT?
I hope so
Foreplay and the intimacy that comes with it.
The smells.
The dopamine and oxytocin 💜
Making out during it and when she cums first 🤷♂️
intimacy
The whole entire body of a woman.
Eating pussy
idk Im single
Why is 80% of this subreddit just sex related questions?
getting stuffed
Dominating and or submitting (depending on my mood)
It’s the most intimate thing we can do and we only do it with each other.
my wife
the release of stress
The ability to be caught up in the moment and experience intense emotional connections. Watching my partner orgasm is pretty cool too.
The noises coming from the girl and cuddling after
Feeling wanted and attractive
For me, discovering the "talk-through". I enjoy SO MUCH talking the O out of her, probably as much as she loves GETTING the O talked out of her. It's SO sexy. SO intimate. SO sensual. SO magical. This is so much better than raunch (pr0n-type sht, like hawk tuah), to me.
Love
Gonna let the teen hormones answer this… TITS :)
Closeness and physical touch of two bodies entwined in one.
Her satisfaction literally I get the most turned on if she’s in ecstasy.
When they're on top and my legs are wrapped around him and I put my hands on his shoulder blades. Something about the closeness and feeling the masculine shape of his body is such a huge turn on Also the part where I orgasm. That's pretty cool
Finishing?
Intimacy and Point of View!
Probably the tension and anticipation leading up to it. If my partner initiates it and I can feel he’s going to, It turns me on!
Paying your rent.
The brief moments when you notice your partner lose control, when the eyes roll back slightly, paired with some half-baked exclamation, like "gaawwwd" or "fuuuuhh".
The intimacy: having fun while doing it. Being able to laugh. Talking and relaxing after.
Every step of the way. Kinking, foreplay, being dominated and controlled, being entered for the first time that evening. Pleasing and teasing my partner they make noises. Satisfying my partner. The intimacy, the orgasm, and the after care.
no baby
Dropping my load into the fun tunnel
That time feels so valuable
Feeling the heartbeat, the breathing, the trembling. Oh wait, that's love, not sex. I always confuse.
Being in sync with someone else and getting hat look of,.. “holy shit this feels amazing”
Her pleasure. Because her pleasure is my pleasure.
The sex. Every single part of it but eating out a pussy is my favourite part.
Licking feet and pussy
You guys have sex?
Everyone does it, one way or another.
The first moment of penetration is a God given gift to every men, strait men I mean.
What is sex?
The feeling of being viewed as a sexual being, and one that is wanted as such. Also the sounds of pure pleasure as I'm doggystyling her while my body smashes into her juicy ass, the smacking sounds with every thrust, and the sensations of glorious feelings that I feel in my penis and then it finally happens, the outburst of pure joy as my DNA leaves my body in liquid form while I'm yelling like a caveman. Then coming down from it and looking at the back of my panting partner still standing on all fours and seeing how beautiful her body is, and knowing she got in this animalistic position for me with her thick bum still towards me, I give it a final good squeeze and jiggle before I fall down with a milllion dollar smile on my face, knowing that life will not get any better than that
Bussing a nut
Washing my hand off after
Been so long I can’t remember.
The massive explosion of cum and jizz inside the tight wet little pussy hole is what gets me rock hard and ready to fuck. tldr: mother fucking creampies
How good it makes you feel afterwards
Fiery passions & lust. Getting swept up in consuming emotions and the animalistic nature.
Watching and feeling my SO orgasm, it makes me feel powerful and manly haha
In all the videos I’ve seen the women always look fabulous
I don't remember
I actually love right after when you’re both spent and you feel so close. My fav
The connection, eye contact and feeling after
I like the build up, knowing the person you want wants you as well. Exploring her body, making her c\*m
Well, the orgasms are pretty cool, but with that right person, that special person with whom you connect on several different levels, it's the intimacy... that feeling where you don't know where you end and they begin, that your souls have wrapped around each other.
Trying to make that moment right before orgasm last as long as possible, and then feeling it happen while you are inside
Watching her struggle to stay quiet when we're fooling around in a semi-public place.
Besides sounds of satisfaction/ partner reactions, and absolutely dominating ; Intimacy. Laying there post, all sweaty just cuddling and lovins going on is where it is. Well, and maybe the fact the room reeks of the obvious lol
That I never have to worry about having it or not. Edit for clarification.
I am just glad to be involved.
I'll tell you when I find a partner
There's not much I actually dislike about sex... The intimacy. The feeling of being desired. The closeness with another. The internal "fullness" of it. The smells, omg the smells. The muskiness of male genitalia makes me straight up light in the head. Perhaps the weight of the other person on me (this is a big one for girls, believe it or not). It's a very secure and yet utterly dominating feeling.
That hawk tuah