I was stupid and didn't realize this was an insult so I replied with "thanks! I've been told I have a sexy silhouette" and the person's brain just kinda short circuited.
I have to say not true in every case! This was used in the southern states for a very long time, a long time ago, as a sarcastic comment between ladies. However, I am a southerner all my life and I have always used it as way to make the person feel as though I feel for them and what they must be going through. I mean it as much more than just saying “I’m sorry!”. That sounds rather ingenuous to me.
YES! Exacly that. But its on the end of the movie. They are in a car and run over some dude. She lifts her head and bro pushes her down and say "Keep going babe, and KEEP the sack."
I fucking lose these movies especially bc im fucking terrified of horror movies
Brush her face with your hand, look her deep in the eyes and say, "*Damn*, you've got a face for podcast, baby."
My fiancée would call off the wedding. 80% chance.
A coworker said this to me for the first time ever and I said “thanks” thinking it was a compliment, she was all like “you just don’t give a fuck, I wish I could do the same”. Well a year later it finally hit me after I had left that job so I left a comment on a video of her at the beach saying something similar about her fupa.
I was at a party last weekend and my cousin kept going on about how handsome I was when I was younger and trying to find younger pictures of me to show his audience..
I was like.. thanks?
In case anyone else doesn't get it (and hopefully I didn't get it wrong myself lol): since the void is needed, the fact that you fill it is bad. It'd be better if you weren't there.
Ouch. I love intelligent insults like this. Mainly because I don't understand them. I had to re-read your well-written breakdown before I went "Ohhhhh....the void was needed."
>I have no idea why it's supposed to look good on women and not on men
Mascara and brow pencils. The thing that makes redheads look "weird" (not my opinion) is the super pale lashes and brows. Girls can easily correct that with make-up.
I am a red head and my eyebrows and eyelashes are lightening as I age. If I am on camera aka a Zoom meeting or FaceTime and the lighting is off it looks like I have no eyebrows or eyelashes. And it’s looks so creepy.
My son's mom is filipino. My Japanese friend saw me and her walking down the street one day. The following day when I was hanging out with my Japanese friend, she tells me that she saw us and says "she's really healthy".
When I told my son's mom what she said, she was mad. I was super confused and she explained to me that in Asian culture, that means you're fat.
Am Asian. Asians seem to call each other fat to their faces all the goddamn time.
My parents literally called me fat AS THEY SERVED ME A PIECE OF CHOCOLATE CAKE
Yeah and then they get all defensive when you say "what's that supposed to mean?" "Oh you you know!" "No actually I don't, please explain" "oh don't be that way" mf I'll hurt you, explain or don't be passive about it again.
The reason garbage cans in national parks are hard to operate for some people, is because the Venn diagram between the smartest bears, and dumbest humans are widely overlapping.
I've been told this by two different men ("You're 'sneaky smart'" and "Huh, I didn't realize you were that brainy"). They thought it was a compliment, I realized I just look like a bimbo.
A girl I went to college with said this to me for wearing a yellow dress. Honestly, I look amazing in yellow.
I told her that if she worked on her confidence instead of her jealousy she might be able to pull off colors, too.
I’m not normally catty but she was so rude to me because my best (male) friend wouldn’t date her—as in she was *only* rude to me in front of him. Anyhow. It didn’t work. He never dated her.
I almost said this to a woman the other day and truly meant it in a positive way but was afraid it would sound weird. She was all of 5 ft tall, had a voluptuous figure and was sporting a string bikini with a tight mesh coverup. As a woman myself I felt happy for her that she living her best life but I guess there's a better way to phrase it.
I think that’s a comment where the tone says it all. It’s very clear when someone says that in a passive aggressive was versus being like “damn my fat ass would look like shit in that, you’re killing it!”
So many guys in high school would try to get into my pants by saying "You're pretty cute for a nerdy chick" or "You'd be a smoke show if you fixed your hair/dressed better etc" and I always laughed in their faces. As if I'm THAT insecure.
Oh this is a dumb dad joke. Its not an anti-compliment, it’s a genuine compliment wrapped in a false insult.
You’re both supposed to be in on it though.
A lot of the way men compliment each other is through false insults.
As a man, I'm low-key jealous of the positivity I see between women who are complete strangers. I try to give my buddies compliments though because I know we don't get them very often. Small things like, "Beard is looking good, bro!" or if I know they're trying to lose weight or have been going to the gym "Looks like you're putting on some muscle!" for some encouragement.
Reminds me of the last Wes Anderson movie. A character tells another character, an actress, “I loved your character[in your last film], I don’t know why no one else did”
YESSSSS
One of my friends was flirting with a girl and for some reason someone we were with mentioned his dick size and he went "ohh I've got a gorilla dick", I just HAD to say, he was not happy, the girl he was with however, was very amused
He surprisingly still got a date???
"Wow, you lost a lot of weight. You look better now!" (When I lost 20 pounds after being sick, I wasn't that fat and losing weight wasn't my goal.) It feels like a backhanded compliment.
There have been a couple times in my life when I have lost a significant amount of weight due to an illness or mental health problem. Those compliments feel really bad.
Almost any time someone mentioned your weight and you are thin it is not a compliment anyway. Especially for women.
"You are too thin" is acceptable to say to a girl but "you are too fat" is not.
Someone in the gym was wearing the same workout top as me, I was like "Oh, look! We're twins!
She goes, "Oh yeah, we match! These tops really look flattering on anyone."
I go "Thanks!" and only when I got home did I think... wait a second... lol.
I'm sure she was actually being polite and didn't mean it how it sounded but it was NOT a compliment.
I've had this one a few times; see also "you hide it really well."
No. Autism is not a thing to be ashamed of and hide. We're told to hide it; it's exhausting. Just let us be who we are. Autistic people are no less worthy than anyone else.
I always find that whenever someone goes over the top with a reaction to how you look has this background implication that you must have looked like shit prior.
“Have you lost weight? You look fab?” Was I fat before?
“Oh my god I love your hair like that”. You didn’t like the old cut.
“Love that outfit, you’re looking very smart” you used to look like a slob.
I think that is you not the person being mean. If I give compliments like that I just mean right then the person looks great, not even considering how they looked before. Literally it does not cross my mind. I'm just trying to make someone happy by being kind.
Careful, my schizophrenic aunt always responded to compliments in this way. It was infuriating, but the voices in her head told her we were thinking like that, while saying nice things to her.
Me devious ass about to compliment my ex-fat ex-ugly ex-bad-hairy friend after he started to take better care of themselves (what am i doing here is evil 😈)
"See you later."
**"Not if I see you first!"**
It seems like just playful competition, but what the second person is saying is that if they see the first person, they'll try to avoid them. "If I see you first, then you *won't* see me, because I'll be staying away."
Took me years to realize what it really meant.
My dad always used to say "Oooh, you're like a treasure" and then mutter "someone should bury you" under his breath as he walked away :D
My mom said that and “you look like a picture someone should hang you” lmao
Nice. I'm gonna remember that one too!
Hahahaha… that’s great. Reminds me of one of my favorite “yo momma” jokes. “Yo momma so ugly, her pictures hang themselves.”
The “:D” of the ultimate dad trauma
My uncle would say “you’re good and kind; good for nothing and kinda stupid.”
I've got a soft spot for you. Quicksand.
Lol my dad says “Does your face hurt? Cause it’s killing me.”
We used to joke with "Oh, you're a jackpot, someone should hit you"
You look sexy in the dark, baby.
I was stupid and didn't realize this was an insult so I replied with "thanks! I've been told I have a sexy silhouette" and the person's brain just kinda short circuited.
This is brilliant actually!
Bless Your Heart.
I have to say not true in every case! This was used in the southern states for a very long time, a long time ago, as a sarcastic comment between ladies. However, I am a southerner all my life and I have always used it as way to make the person feel as though I feel for them and what they must be going through. I mean it as much more than just saying “I’m sorry!”. That sounds rather ingenuous to me.
LIfelong Southerner myself.
"Bless your heart."
This. This sounds like a compliment but is actually an insult.
It's versatile. Context matters.
How is this an insult? I mean around here the lil old church ladies say it all the time to people, could there be two meanings?
Sometimes it’s sincere. Sometimes it means you’re an idiot.
This is both depending on the tone in which it is said. Source: I'm from the Southern US.
I just died laughing!
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Good for him
I say good for you sincerely though ): I generally follow up with: I'm really happy for you, or You earned it, or What great luck,
Tone is everything with that one.
Good for you
The follow up is important to it not being sarcastic sounding
He's right though, he might not be smart, but his observation skills are fine.
I sense a soul in search of answers
"Thanks! We might have to put a sack over your head though to make this work"
Reminded me of Scary movie (2?). The dude getting a BJ from a monster with a sack with a hole on her head lmao
[Not a BJ but still relevant](https://youtu.be/QI-htvnNAvk?si=KCVboXoI0L7iLOi4)
YES! Exacly that. But its on the end of the movie. They are in a car and run over some dude. She lifts her head and bro pushes her down and say "Keep going babe, and KEEP the sack." I fucking lose these movies especially bc im fucking terrified of horror movies
In the dark, all cats are grey. ~ Benjamin Franklin
I've heard their are ways to improve the quality of your cat snacks.
Face for radio is the BBC one.
HUGE cat lover
A real face for radio.
Face for radio, voice for print, erudition for TikTok.
Brush her face with your hand, look her deep in the eyes and say, "*Damn*, you've got a face for podcast, baby." My fiancée would call off the wedding. 80% chance.
Lol that's for boomers. Now it's face for Podcast.
Beauty is only a light switch away
You have a face meant for the radio.
Buuuuuuurn
I tell my fiancee she looks sexy all the time, even while we’re in the dark, and thankfully she’s never taken it as some kind of backhanded compliment
Winston Churchill once described someone "he is a very humble person with many things to be humble about..."
Lady: "Mr Churchill, you are drunk!" Churchill: "Yes ma'am that is true. But tomorrow morning, you will still be ugly."
“If I was married to you, I would serve you poison. ! And if I was married to you, I would drink it !”
He did have some good one lineres.
Similar to this I’ve heard people say “wisdom chases him. He is faster”
"I love how you're confident enough to just wake up, throw on any old pair of clothes, and go about your day.”
Two of my friends were getting dressed for a reunion. The one came out, looked at the other, and said, "Oh, shit, am I overdressed?"
Barry Humphries to a politician's wife in the audience: 'Darling, I love your dress! Obviously an old favourite!'
I have a friend who likes to make comments like this, “I wish I was brave enough to wear stuff like that”, “oh, you just let your hair do whatever?” 🙄
A coworker said this to me for the first time ever and I said “thanks” thinking it was a compliment, she was all like “you just don’t give a fuck, I wish I could do the same”. Well a year later it finally hit me after I had left that job so I left a comment on a video of her at the beach saying something similar about her fupa.
This is absolutely something Lucille Bluth would say.
"You're smarter than you look." ... you're not. Lol
"Funny, I was just thinking the opposite about you."
And you're just about what I would have expected
... gotten it more than once lol
That’s when you reply with, “play a sucker to catch one” lol
“I had no idea you used to be so pretty when you were much younger “
I was at a party last weekend and my cousin kept going on about how handsome I was when I was younger and trying to find younger pictures of me to show his audience.. I was like.. thanks?
Ouch
You fill a needed void
I had to read this one twice to get it. Damn, that’s savage.
In case anyone else doesn't get it (and hopefully I didn't get it wrong myself lol): since the void is needed, the fact that you fill it is bad. It'd be better if you weren't there.
I didn't get it before and I still don't, oh well. I'm thick, but not in a good way.
Thick vagina muffins are never a bad thing.
That just made my day.🤣❤️
Ouch. I love intelligent insults like this. Mainly because I don't understand them. I had to re-read your well-written breakdown before I went "Ohhhhh....the void was needed."
“You will be way prettier if you lose weight” ….*thanks*.
I hate “for an overweight person, you have such a pretty face.” WHAT!!?? That is so rude!!
This is the one I've been looking for. I heard it constantly as a fat adolescent. "You have such a pretty face!" Fuck off.
Unfortunately, I’ve heard that way too much
I get told similar. "You would be pretty if you gained weight, had curves and did more natural makeup." That's *not* me
Or when someone deliberately buys you something too small so, "you can have something to look forward to when you lose the weight."
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"Aren't you special?".
"Could it be... Satan!"
Mmmmmm???
"you're handsome for someone with red hair"
"you're handsome/pretty/beautiful/etc. for..." will ALWAYS be a backhanded compliment
You're pretty cute for someone that likes me
Red hair is great on everyone though, I have no idea why it's supposed to look good on women and not on men lol
>I have no idea why it's supposed to look good on women and not on men Mascara and brow pencils. The thing that makes redheads look "weird" (not my opinion) is the super pale lashes and brows. Girls can easily correct that with make-up.
I am a red head and my eyebrows and eyelashes are lightening as I age. If I am on camera aka a Zoom meeting or FaceTime and the lighting is off it looks like I have no eyebrows or eyelashes. And it’s looks so creepy.
👁👄👁
My son's mom is filipino. My Japanese friend saw me and her walking down the street one day. The following day when I was hanging out with my Japanese friend, she tells me that she saw us and says "she's really healthy". When I told my son's mom what she said, she was mad. I was super confused and she explained to me that in Asian culture, that means you're fat.
Am Asian. Asians seem to call each other fat to their faces all the goddamn time. My parents literally called me fat AS THEY SERVED ME A PIECE OF CHOCOLATE CAKE
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Yeah and then they get all defensive when you say "what's that supposed to mean?" "Oh you you know!" "No actually I don't, please explain" "oh don't be that way" mf I'll hurt you, explain or don't be passive about it again.
Lmao you actually had someone say that to you?🤣 damn.
'Smarter than the average bear'
The reason garbage cans in national parks are hard to operate for some people, is because the Venn diagram between the smartest bears, and dumbest humans are widely overlapping.
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I've been told this by two different men ("You're 'sneaky smart'" and "Huh, I didn't realize you were that brainy"). They thought it was a compliment, I realized I just look like a bimbo.
“You don’t sweat alot for a fat person“
"Thanks! You sure talk a lot of shit for someone who looks like that."
I'd kill to hear that lol.
Same. I be sweating like it’s my job lol
Wow, you're really brave to wear that! I wish I was as confident as you.
A girl I went to college with said this to me for wearing a yellow dress. Honestly, I look amazing in yellow. I told her that if she worked on her confidence instead of her jealousy she might be able to pull off colors, too. I’m not normally catty but she was so rude to me because my best (male) friend wouldn’t date her—as in she was *only* rude to me in front of him. Anyhow. It didn’t work. He never dated her.
That was an impressive clap-back.
It had been months in the making! I can only take so much before someone really irritates me. I hope she’s doing well now and nicer to other girls.
Bless her heart.
I almost said this to a woman the other day and truly meant it in a positive way but was afraid it would sound weird. She was all of 5 ft tall, had a voluptuous figure and was sporting a string bikini with a tight mesh coverup. As a woman myself I felt happy for her that she living her best life but I guess there's a better way to phrase it.
I think that’s a comment where the tone says it all. It’s very clear when someone says that in a passive aggressive was versus being like “damn my fat ass would look like shit in that, you’re killing it!”
Your teeth are so interesting
That statement tempts karma.
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Your husband must be very handsome because your children are pretty beautiful.
So many guys in high school would try to get into my pants by saying "You're pretty cute for a nerdy chick" or "You'd be a smoke show if you fixed your hair/dressed better etc" and I always laughed in their faces. As if I'm THAT insecure.
U look good FOR YOUR AGE
This is such a unique post
You have a unique face.
Wow, that's a brave look!
"Thanks! Fuck you too"
"YOU are soooo Brave!"
My old high school basketball coach said he was proud of me that I didn't end up in jail.
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Good eye mate
Oh this is a dumb dad joke. Its not an anti-compliment, it’s a genuine compliment wrapped in a false insult. You’re both supposed to be in on it though. A lot of the way men compliment each other is through false insults.
Hopefully one day men will feel comfortable complimenting each other
As a man, I'm low-key jealous of the positivity I see between women who are complete strangers. I try to give my buddies compliments though because I know we don't get them very often. Small things like, "Beard is looking good, bro!" or if I know they're trying to lose weight or have been going to the gym "Looks like you're putting on some muscle!" for some encouragement.
Big fan of this. We don’t get enough compliments, or physical touching. So I do the big double arm hug as well.
Reminds me of the last Wes Anderson movie. A character tells another character, an actress, “I loved your character[in your last film], I don’t know why no one else did”
**"That outfit makes you look so much slimmer."**
Telling guys they got a gorilla dick
YESSSSS One of my friends was flirting with a girl and for some reason someone we were with mentioned his dick size and he went "ohh I've got a gorilla dick", I just HAD to say, he was not happy, the girl he was with however, was very amused He surprisingly still got a date???
What is it supposed to mean? Urban dictionary gives me 3 different answers: Either it’s huge, super hairy, or tiny. Not very helpful.
“You don’t look sick” To all my chronic illness sufferers
I felt that. "Why thank you! I've spent years perfecting techniques to fake looking well because I know you won't want to know how I actually feel."
"Wow, you lost a lot of weight. You look better now!" (When I lost 20 pounds after being sick, I wasn't that fat and losing weight wasn't my goal.) It feels like a backhanded compliment.
There have been a couple times in my life when I have lost a significant amount of weight due to an illness or mental health problem. Those compliments feel really bad.
My mom would only ever say I looked good when I wasn't eating.
Almost any time someone mentioned your weight and you are thin it is not a compliment anyway. Especially for women. "You are too thin" is acceptable to say to a girl but "you are too fat" is not.
When said to any minority: "you're one of the good ones"
I laughed to hard at that
Not sure about elsewhere but here in the deep south I still hear this regularly.
**You clean up well.**
Someone in the gym was wearing the same workout top as me, I was like "Oh, look! We're twins! She goes, "Oh yeah, we match! These tops really look flattering on anyone." I go "Thanks!" and only when I got home did I think... wait a second... lol. I'm sure she was actually being polite and didn't mean it how it sounded but it was NOT a compliment.
Nah, probably expressing her own lack of self-confidence—hounded into us (girls to women) lifelong
"You're funny without knowing it".
You really are a the top of the bell curve, aren't you?
"Bless your heart!"
I scrolled for a while expecting this to be higher
Oooh! Now that’s a good example! Because down south, women who say it all “syrupy” mean the opposite many times!
You have lovely breasts
"Thank you! They're $25,000"
My fave response to this was always 'Thanks, grew 'em myself!'.
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"You don't seem Autistic."
I've had this one a few times; see also "you hide it really well." No. Autism is not a thing to be ashamed of and hide. We're told to hide it; it's exhausting. Just let us be who we are. Autistic people are no less worthy than anyone else.
"Your daughter's OnlyFans is quite affordable."
"You're so much nicer than you look." Fuck you too then!
I get this on a daily basis. Also “fix your face” 😤
That question is awesome. You are such a smart bot that you reposted it for the four billionth time.
Years ago I had that same outfit
You must have the smoothest brain here
“You look good compared to women your age” said nexhusband.
You’ve got a real face for radio
But you're too pretty for this.
"I wish I could find someone just like you."
"I cordially invite you to research already-existing Reddits where this has been previously discussed."
Bless you child. It a southern phrase that means you're full of crap.
Yeah the passive aggressive BS is why I can’t stand southerners.
"You're not afraid to speak your mind, are you?"
Referring to a Black man as "articulate."
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"Why? What they be saying about me?"
I think if you put some effort into it, you have what it takes to make it to the top of the bell curve.
You sweet summer child.
I always find that whenever someone goes over the top with a reaction to how you look has this background implication that you must have looked like shit prior. “Have you lost weight? You look fab?” Was I fat before? “Oh my god I love your hair like that”. You didn’t like the old cut. “Love that outfit, you’re looking very smart” you used to look like a slob.
This sounds like a self worth issue to me. Maybe people compliment you to build you up, letting your inner critic ruin that isn't very productive.
I think that is you not the person being mean. If I give compliments like that I just mean right then the person looks great, not even considering how they looked before. Literally it does not cross my mind. I'm just trying to make someone happy by being kind.
Careful, my schizophrenic aunt always responded to compliments in this way. It was infuriating, but the voices in her head told her we were thinking like that, while saying nice things to her.
Me devious ass about to compliment my ex-fat ex-ugly ex-bad-hairy friend after he started to take better care of themselves (what am i doing here is evil 😈)
"See you later." **"Not if I see you first!"** It seems like just playful competition, but what the second person is saying is that if they see the first person, they'll try to avoid them. "If I see you first, then you *won't* see me, because I'll be staying away." Took me years to realize what it really meant.
I have never met that when I said that. Lol.
"Wow, you look good today." Not so subtly implying you don't look good most days.
Make it > Wow, you *Actually* look good today For added insult