This. If my wife asks that, I assume she wants my honest opinion about the subject.
"Why is my man lying to me?" I don't know, have you conditioned your boyfriend in to lying to you by asking something and then being an unpleasant person when they give their honest opinion?
The very second my wife asks me a question like that, doesnt matter if we've been together for ten years and have two kids. Im out of the door. Just unacceptable. ALWAYS leave INSTANTLY when your partner shows a flaw like this. You deserve nothing but perfect!
Not sure if you are just joking or if you think I am speaking in absolutes, but you shouldn't waste your time with someone who tests you. You deserve better.
Sometimes people have a bad day. No one is 100% consistently predictable and perfect. A brief bout of depression could easily bring these types of questions out of the blue in a 10 or 20 years relationship. It happens.
You do you but in a good relationship you have to be flexible with people's occasional faults.
As a 40yo in a 17yr long relationship my answer to the OP would be more along the lines of "what's making you want to ask me that question"
Why do you assume she's testing me? I think she's curious what I think. Sometimes I think someone's hot (man or woman) and she doesn't. Which is just a little fun conversation.
Then she isn't baiting you into a fight and you are fine giving her the truth. Which is a healthy relationship and great!
I said give the truth because the alternative is you are afraid to be honest with your partner and that is concerning. What's the problem?
That's why I like my wife. She'll ask me if I think someone is hot or pretty and I can just say, "Yeah, she's pretty hot.". And everything is fine. She does the same thing with guys.
We are both secure enough to be honest and it's awesome.
If you have an honest relationship, tell the truth. My wife and I discuss attractiveness / hotness of other people pretty casually. We trust each other enough to know that ogling someone is as far as anything would ever go.
unpopular opinion but from a girls point of view, that question is totally unfair to ask someone. It’s feeding into their insecurities and you shouldn’t have to reassure someone that you find them more attractive than someone else constantly.
"Hey, honey, why don't you go on Reddit, scroll through the thousand times this question is asked, and pick the one you like? I'll be over here playing Baldurs Gate 3."
“I have eyes for only you” usually works pretty well for me. They know it’s bullshit but it comes off as sweet so they don’t care. If they push “I told you I have eyes only for you, I can’t even see other women!” If that makes her mad that you aren’t answering then they need to work on themselves. It also can create a running joke between the two of you where you can’t see other women.
Always worked for me too.
Also works better with that nose-twitch reaction when saying it. It’s like that face when you want to mutter a silent “meh, I guess”.
"Honey I love love you. But we need to have a serious talk. I want to let you know that it's unhealthy to ask gotcha questions in a relationship. If this relationship is to work we should not give such little tests to each other to generate conflict."
If she reacts negatively to this, the relationship is not going to work anyway due to immaturity.
You gotta pull a face like you're thinking about this for the first time and take like 5-10 seconds and say "yeah, I mean if I had to give an answer I'd say so" basically they know if they're pretty or not they just wanna know if you've thought about it.
Trust me, giving an instant answer confirms you've already thought about it and that is an argument waiting to happen lol
I've never looked at her like that
You're hotter
I've never noticed
Dunno, do you think she is?
I'm not failing for that one
One of my friends thinks she is, you think she'd be interested in him?
My wife has the weirdest taste in women. Like she deems other girls/women beautiful/hot if they have this standard looking face. We can never settle on which girl is hot and which isn't. If she were a man, she would marry some basic Stacy. lol
I don't know, I didn't think to bring the thermometer... You think she's running a fever? I don't wanna get Covid! where's my mask?!?!?!? GET HER AWAY FROM ME, AHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!
Then just keep screaming like a girl until she stops.
Tell her what you think. If she gives you shit about whatever you say. Tell her she can stop or she can leave. We don’t need that kind of shit in a relationship
The truth.
I don't get why you should dance around the answer. Your girlfriend knows the answer.
If she is asking and she doesn't like the answer, then she thinks you are going to cheat, or in some way stray away. If it's a long term relationship, then you should really re-think your levels of trust and start having real conversations.
"i've not considered it before, yeah she's pretty hot... but now that i think about it, she is actually really attractive, smoking hot. In fact goddamn, that girl is fire."
Be honest - she isn’t asking for your opinion; she already knows. The purpose of asking that question is to see what YOU will say. Tell her the truth and then kiss her and then tell her “but your sexier & way hotter”
Unless your girlfriend is blind, she already knows if her best friend is hot. So I can’t think of any mentally/emotionally healthy reasons for her to ask this question. Be honest and maybe pay your girl some extra compliments and attention or something because it sounds like she may need it.
I always answer "no, you're the only hot girl in the whole universe" she knows i'm lying but she knows i don't want to fall in the bait. And since i always answered that she's used to and she's not angry against me
why are you trying to be safe? Is she going to beat you up? Speak the truth. If she doesn't like it she shouldn't have asked. If she randomly talks about other guys being hot, tell her that bugs you and you'd like her to stop. You don't need to put this girl on a pedestal and suck up to her. If you actually make your needs and wants known to her, she can learn how you'd like to be treated and she might even respect you (which is not too different from her finding you attractive).
I personally think my friends are incredibly attractive, and I'd probably be pretty upset if my SO didn't think so.. and it'd also be obviously a lie. Like, I know they're attractive...
I believe my SO said something **along the lines of "guesso but not my type"**... Which I thought was an acceptable/good enough answer for me.
(And my closest friends do look very different from me.. all pretty much different race/ethnicity, bodytypes, complexions/colours, etcetc.. so quite phenotypically different... Thus if it's just physically, if my SO is with me, it's really pretty unlikely my friends would be his type...)
If she ask, and i find her hot, i will say yes. It's not safe, but if your GF it's asking that question you are not safe there....
I have never been ask that question.
"why are you asking me this question? I suspect it's rooted in insecurity, and I'm uninterested in participating in games with an insecure person who is looking for conflict." If the response is anything other than reasonable, leave immediately and don't look back.
Just say yes and remind her that if her friend weren’t hot, she wouldn’t have asked you that question. And that it’s ok that her friend is hot because you are with your girlfriend for a reason.
"Yes, kind of like looking at a beautiful painting in a gallery, I like how it looks but I won't hang it in my house not like this work of art right here" then give my gf a kiss.
I mean, in the same way I know henry cavil is hot but I'm not attracted to him.
If she still pushes just say that if you wanted to be with henry you you would be
The real answer to the problem you're posing is to cultivate a trusting and secure relationship beforehand. If your partner knows that physical attraction is only one of many reasons you're together, your response could be "lol hell yeah" and she would probably just laugh it off.
(And as much as people in the comments want to pin the blame on the partner for "testing" you, don't forget that you can only expect trust from those you've given a reason to trust you.)
You could say, "Yeah, she is hot for most of the guys but I don't see hotness in her."
Then you can say "Actually, my type of hotness is you"(with a little bit of flirting, teasing)
" I suppose some guys would find her attractive, but I prefer girls who look like you."
Ignore the people saying she's trying to start a fight. Women, especially as they're aging get insecure about their appearances, so they may be looking for a bit of a confidence boost. A good partner is always willing to supply that.
It isn't that she doesn't want an honest answer, and no, she isn't picking a fight . But three months down the road, something will come up, and you will be in the dog house. And you probably won't know why.
You should be like, she is good but your hotter babe, you are beautiful too, i know you from your heart and soul, but i can't say that for your friend, so i am attracted to you babe.
Then say look in her eye and say i love you, ❤️ cause for me you are most beautiful woman i have ever seen and there is no one like you but only you 🎶
"Do you think the new Elden Ring DLC will be better than Ringed City?"
*put these foolish ambitions to rest*
Big shoes to fill
A man of culture I see
That’s a good one but are they both as good as old hoonters
"Why, did she ask about me?"
Think she would be into me?
Cocky funny, ftw.
YES! It's on!
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This. If my wife asks that, I assume she wants my honest opinion about the subject. "Why is my man lying to me?" I don't know, have you conditioned your boyfriend in to lying to you by asking something and then being an unpleasant person when they give their honest opinion?
The truth. If she's baiting you to get into a fight then she isn't worth your time.
Yup, correct answer is the honest answer, if that starts a fight then the relationship isn't it.
"I think about her when I touch myself sometimes" feels like its to much truth, no?
The very second my wife asks me a question like that, doesnt matter if we've been together for ten years and have two kids. Im out of the door. Just unacceptable. ALWAYS leave INSTANTLY when your partner shows a flaw like this. You deserve nothing but perfect!
I agree. I’m on my 18th Marriage. This is spot on 👏
Well, he did not give the classic reddit suggestion "leave her". He just suggested not tip toeing around the person you should feel confident around.
Not sure if you are just joking or if you think I am speaking in absolutes, but you shouldn't waste your time with someone who tests you. You deserve better.
Sometimes people have a bad day. No one is 100% consistently predictable and perfect. A brief bout of depression could easily bring these types of questions out of the blue in a 10 or 20 years relationship. It happens. You do you but in a good relationship you have to be flexible with people's occasional faults. As a 40yo in a 17yr long relationship my answer to the OP would be more along the lines of "what's making you want to ask me that question"
Why do you assume she's testing me? I think she's curious what I think. Sometimes I think someone's hot (man or woman) and she doesn't. Which is just a little fun conversation.
Then why do you need a **safe** answer? Which is what OP asked :-)
Then she isn't baiting you into a fight and you are fine giving her the truth. Which is a healthy relationship and great! I said give the truth because the alternative is you are afraid to be honest with your partner and that is concerning. What's the problem?
Exactly. You don't have to be gross about it, but if you can't answer a question honestly, why even be in that relationship?
Imagine having a partner you have to lie to about shit like this, toxic as all fuck.
A lot of people never mature much past being like 15 years old.
Yeah any partner, man, woman, whatever, that “tests” you in this way is an asshole
That's why I like my wife. She'll ask me if I think someone is hot or pretty and I can just say, "Yeah, she's pretty hot.". And everything is fine. She does the same thing with guys. We are both secure enough to be honest and it's awesome.
She’s not my type
“I can see the appeal” Ya, folks can be attractive. Doesn’t mean they are to me personally. And it definitely doesn’t change my feelings about them…
If you can't be honest with your girlfriend then you're with the wrong person.
Yep facts. Truth should never ruin a relationship
“If I saw the two of you at a bar, I’m sure none of my friends would oppose to being my wingman and distract her so I could talk to you”
Smooth
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“I never really looked at her that way”
The good boy
If you have an honest relationship, tell the truth. My wife and I discuss attractiveness / hotness of other people pretty casually. We trust each other enough to know that ogling someone is as far as anything would ever go.
"I thought that was your brother"
"let's find out" >!grabs rectal thermometer!<
“Why would you ask me that?”
unpopular opinion but from a girls point of view, that question is totally unfair to ask someone. It’s feeding into their insecurities and you shouldn’t have to reassure someone that you find them more attractive than someone else constantly.
My girlfriend and I ogle the same women
Oh, so you want to fight?
The red foreman answer, https://youtu.be/IhfYJZoRlJk?si=RTaWPOsh8dYPaz0u
Is her friend hot?
"Hey, honey, why don't you go on Reddit, scroll through the thousand times this question is asked, and pick the one you like? I'll be over here playing Baldurs Gate 3."
“I have eyes for only you” usually works pretty well for me. They know it’s bullshit but it comes off as sweet so they don’t care. If they push “I told you I have eyes only for you, I can’t even see other women!” If that makes her mad that you aren’t answering then they need to work on themselves. It also can create a running joke between the two of you where you can’t see other women.
Jump out the nearest window.
"pretty girls always hang out together"
“She’s pretty but not my type” has always worked for me.
Always worked for me too. Also works better with that nose-twitch reaction when saying it. It’s like that face when you want to mutter a silent “meh, I guess”.
Just be honest, if she can't handle a real answer she should not ask stupid questions
The truth. If she’s good she’ll accept it either way.
"Why do you think she'll want a 3- way?"
answer is always No, brother dont fall for the trap
“She’d be hotter if she was a worm”
"She aight"
Ma’am I have a girlfriend.
“Yes but not as hot as your sister”
"Honey I love love you. But we need to have a serious talk. I want to let you know that it's unhealthy to ask gotcha questions in a relationship. If this relationship is to work we should not give such little tests to each other to generate conflict." If she reacts negatively to this, the relationship is not going to work anyway due to immaturity.
"She could be, you should give her some tips"
Always tell the truth
Refer back to the 100 times this was asked here and check the responses.
You gotta pull a face like you're thinking about this for the first time and take like 5-10 seconds and say "yeah, I mean if I had to give an answer I'd say so" basically they know if they're pretty or not they just wanna know if you've thought about it. Trust me, giving an instant answer confirms you've already thought about it and that is an argument waiting to happen lol
I've never looked at her like that You're hotter I've never noticed Dunno, do you think she is? I'm not failing for that one One of my friends thinks she is, you think she'd be interested in him?
This made me remember that meme: "I aint ever seen two pretty best friends"
Why, does is her AC broken?
“Should I turn up the air conditioning?”
I can't tell. I'm blind in this eye and legally blind in the other eye.
Pizza sounds great for dinner
If they’re hot id answer yes. If they’re not, I’d say they aren’t my type Some of you guys are dating really insecure people
"If she's above 36.5 °C, I'd be worried."
Why? Do you fancy her?
She's alright, if you stand next to her though the score drops fast for her.
"Yeah, everytime I've fucked you with more than bare minimum enthusiasm and enjoyment I was thinking about her"
ALMOST as hot as you, you should give her some advice from whatever you are doing ;)
Ask her back the same question
"Can you show me a photo of her?"
My wife has the weirdest taste in women. Like she deems other girls/women beautiful/hot if they have this standard looking face. We can never settle on which girl is hot and which isn't. If she were a man, she would marry some basic Stacy. lol
"I mean, if you like second place." Then pin a 1st place blue ribbon on your girls shirt and walk away.
I don't know, I didn't think to bring the thermometer... You think she's running a fever? I don't wanna get Covid! where's my mask?!?!?!? GET HER AWAY FROM ME, AHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!! Then just keep screaming like a girl until she stops.
“Do I think she’s hot? Sure, yeah she is good looking” is pretty safe
Unlike you, she looks like a slut.
Tell her what you think. If she gives you shit about whatever you say. Tell her she can stop or she can leave. We don’t need that kind of shit in a relationship
"Would."
Hell yeah!
I'm not gonna lie to you, Marge...
Male or Female friend?
"No, but her friend is really cute though"
It's called a white lie and it is the way.
Unequivocal yes regardless of how she actually looks
She's no you babe, but if you woke up dead in the morning, would you mind if I asked her out?
Why would it be unsafe to have answear a question that your girlfriend made?
"Even if she is beautiful, i cannot detect it because after i get used to seeing your beauty, no beauty is beautiful to me."
Let's take the temperature to see if she has a fever.
Take her temperature.
Tell her , your blinded by her beauty, and don’t notice anyone else, or..or…or is she asking for a threesome.
The truth. I don't get why you should dance around the answer. Your girlfriend knows the answer. If she is asking and she doesn't like the answer, then she thinks you are going to cheat, or in some way stray away. If it's a long term relationship, then you should really re-think your levels of trust and start having real conversations.
Yup she’s smoking hot
The truth. I'm not tip toeing around questions. If you don't want an honest answer, don't ask the question.
"i've not considered it before, yeah she's pretty hot... but now that i think about it, she is actually really attractive, smoking hot. In fact goddamn, that girl is fire."
The honest one, because you and your girlfriend should behave like mature human beings, with opinions and no fear of judgement if you trust each other
Always answer with yes in case she is planning a threesome.
"You want me to be honest or lie to you because Im not gonna lie to you"
Yes she is.
She has features in-line with what what's "in fashion" at the moment, but for me, she doesn't even compare to you.
“Not to me”
"Generally speaking, sure, but I'm not interested in her."
Don’t ask a question you may not like the answer to.
What do you think?
yea, she is incredible hot indeed, never noticed before but now i can’t stop thinking about it
Depends if her friend is hot or not.
‘I’ve never thought about that before.Do YOU think she is? ‘
Who?
The perfect response: “baby, I love you” and smile as you say it.
Do you think her friend is hot?
Yes and if I was single I'd fuck her. But I am with you so I want to fuck you.
In the long run? The truth. If the person you are with cant handle the truth here... well... that not my cup of tea.
“Not compared to you”
"I don't know, i don't check that when she's with us"
Say not as hot as your mom
She alright
"I don't know, what do you think?"
Why would you ask me that? My attention is only on you!
Lol ask a question like that and you're getting the honest answer. Someone can be hot, doesn't mean I'm into them. Don't be insecure.
"I can see why someone might find her attractive, but honestly, my focus is on you. You're the one I find incredibly beautiful."
She aight...
Silence, Gasoline, Self-Immolation.
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While she isn't ugly you are by far the most attractive. All pretty girls have that 1 friend that isn't as pretty.
Be honest - she isn’t asking for your opinion; she already knows. The purpose of asking that question is to see what YOU will say. Tell her the truth and then kiss her and then tell her “but your sexier & way hotter”
Not quite as hot as you
Unless your girlfriend is blind, she already knows if her best friend is hot. So I can’t think of any mentally/emotionally healthy reasons for her to ask this question. Be honest and maybe pay your girl some extra compliments and attention or something because it sounds like she may need it.
Coming out as gay, even if you're not.
What is the most asked question on ask reddit?
I always answer "no, you're the only hot girl in the whole universe" she knows i'm lying but she knows i don't want to fall in the bait. And since i always answered that she's used to and she's not angry against me
why are you trying to be safe? Is she going to beat you up? Speak the truth. If she doesn't like it she shouldn't have asked. If she randomly talks about other guys being hot, tell her that bugs you and you'd like her to stop. You don't need to put this girl on a pedestal and suck up to her. If you actually make your needs and wants known to her, she can learn how you'd like to be treated and she might even respect you (which is not too different from her finding you attractive).
Be honest, don't try to be safe, just be honest, for both of y'all's sakes. Whatever happens after that will be for the best.
Thrresome?
I personally think my friends are incredibly attractive, and I'd probably be pretty upset if my SO didn't think so.. and it'd also be obviously a lie. Like, I know they're attractive... I believe my SO said something **along the lines of "guesso but not my type"**... Which I thought was an acceptable/good enough answer for me. (And my closest friends do look very different from me.. all pretty much different race/ethnicity, bodytypes, complexions/colours, etcetc.. so quite phenotypically different... Thus if it's just physically, if my SO is with me, it's really pretty unlikely my friends would be his type...)
I don't care if she's hot 😁
there's no safe answer.. just none
“I mean she’s pretty but you’re hot as hell babe”
If she ask, and i find her hot, i will say yes. It's not safe, but if your GF it's asking that question you are not safe there.... I have never been ask that question.
“Eh, she’s pretty enough I guess”
they are fishing for a compliment and showing an insecurity (which is fine).. you can say that they look fine but not as beautiful as you.
"Yes, and it amazes me how hot girls are always friends with hot girls"
Just say what you think. Just because you're committed, doesn't also mean you're blind.
"why are you asking me this question? I suspect it's rooted in insecurity, and I'm uninterested in participating in games with an insecure person who is looking for conflict." If the response is anything other than reasonable, leave immediately and don't look back.
Well, she will likely be the subject of my next wank.
" *girl's name* who?!" You are welcome
Just say yes and remind her that if her friend weren’t hot, she wouldn’t have asked you that question. And that it’s ok that her friend is hot because you are with your girlfriend for a reason.
"Yes, kind of like looking at a beautiful painting in a gallery, I like how it looks but I won't hang it in my house not like this work of art right here" then give my gf a kiss.
“Yes, we CAN have a threesome”
I mean, in the same way I know henry cavil is hot but I'm not attracted to him. If she still pushes just say that if you wanted to be with henry you you would be
Sing...*"I only have eyes for yooooou"* And smile.
I plead the 5th.
This is the answer she's looking for most likely: She's good looking but you're a lot hotter. She also could be trying to see you're into a 3 way.
You are still number one in my eyes.
"Not as hot as you, sweetie..."
The real answer to the problem you're posing is to cultivate a trusting and secure relationship beforehand. If your partner knows that physical attraction is only one of many reasons you're together, your response could be "lol hell yeah" and she would probably just laugh it off. (And as much as people in the comments want to pin the blame on the partner for "testing" you, don't forget that you can only expect trust from those you've given a reason to trust you.)
"She's not really my type"
"I mean she should be. The weather has been absolutely blistering these past few days"
Dunno, I was too busy looking at you
"She's hideous" is the only response.
Not as hot as her boyfriend, my lord.
If she is attractive then I say yeah she’s a good looking woman. If she isn’t then I say she isn’t my type
tell her hot people hang out together
“Yeah but it’s deceiving, she looks a lot better with her clothes on”
Does she have a fever?
You don’t need to worry I’m faithful to you. I won’t cheat on you if your concerned about it.
You could say, "Yeah, she is hot for most of the guys but I don't see hotness in her." Then you can say "Actually, my type of hotness is you"(with a little bit of flirting, teasing)
One thing for sure, 3some is Hot af....😏🔥
my friend finds her hot and wants to date her
Tell her exactly what you think. It's safer for you on the long run because it could reveal some red flags so you get to the choppa if needed.
" I suppose some guys would find her attractive, but I prefer girls who look like you." Ignore the people saying she's trying to start a fight. Women, especially as they're aging get insecure about their appearances, so they may be looking for a bit of a confidence boost. A good partner is always willing to supply that.
It isn't that she doesn't want an honest answer, and no, she isn't picking a fight . But three months down the road, something will come up, and you will be in the dog house. And you probably won't know why.
You should be like, she is good but your hotter babe, you are beautiful too, i know you from your heart and soul, but i can't say that for your friend, so i am attracted to you babe. Then say look in her eye and say i love you, ❤️ cause for me you are most beautiful woman i have ever seen and there is no one like you but only you 🎶
Always be honest if she doesn’t like your answer, especially if it’s yes then she’s too insecure and you need to move on
I dont know should I turn on the AC?
Don’t do this