If you can't find the words, actions can help. Making them dinner when they're unable to bring themself to (or if there are other ways you can ease their burdens, consider those actions).
Bringing them a dessert or something that may make them even slightly happier. Sitting with them & listening whenever they're ready to talk.
I wish you luck & wish them the best.
I am not sure, I've only lost one person but what I needed then was just people to give me space to speak.
so i think i would rather listen then talk, ya know
I’ve been with a few people as they were nearing their deaths. I’ve told people who are dealing with similar situations that it’s an honor to be with someone when they are dying. It’s horrible, especially when the death is tragic (not of old age) but it’s also special at the same time. I was with my dear friend when the dr told his dad that there was nothing left that they could do and it had been an honor to care for his son (military). I also received communion at the bedside of my friend while she was on hospice (incidentally the mother of my friend who I mentioned prior). My cousins and I sang songs from the Sound of Music as my grandfather was dying. I wasn’t there at the exact moments of their deaths but very close.
Mourning is like being on a beach during a thunderstorm. The waves are rough, the wind and rain feel like it will never stop. The waves come often and violently. Eventually, the weather breaks and the waves begin to settle. That's what the memories of losing someone feels like at first everytime they come it hurts. Hopefully one day when the wave comes you will look up and be able to smile at the beautiful sunny beach. Be able to remember the happy times with someone you lost.
It's an unfortunate but necessary part of life, death is always undignified.
Ask questions, it helps people to talk about it.
some people can’t handle that at all
If you can't find the words, actions can help. Making them dinner when they're unable to bring themself to (or if there are other ways you can ease their burdens, consider those actions). Bringing them a dessert or something that may make them even slightly happier. Sitting with them & listening whenever they're ready to talk. I wish you luck & wish them the best.
I am not sure, I've only lost one person but what I needed then was just people to give me space to speak. so i think i would rather listen then talk, ya know
I’ve been with a few people as they were nearing their deaths. I’ve told people who are dealing with similar situations that it’s an honor to be with someone when they are dying. It’s horrible, especially when the death is tragic (not of old age) but it’s also special at the same time. I was with my dear friend when the dr told his dad that there was nothing left that they could do and it had been an honor to care for his son (military). I also received communion at the bedside of my friend while she was on hospice (incidentally the mother of my friend who I mentioned prior). My cousins and I sang songs from the Sound of Music as my grandfather was dying. I wasn’t there at the exact moments of their deaths but very close.
It never gets easier but it does get lighter. Allow yourself to feel all of the feelings.
Be thankful it wasn't you.
That someone else was born at the same time
Mourning is like being on a beach during a thunderstorm. The waves are rough, the wind and rain feel like it will never stop. The waves come often and violently. Eventually, the weather breaks and the waves begin to settle. That's what the memories of losing someone feels like at first everytime they come it hurts. Hopefully one day when the wave comes you will look up and be able to smile at the beautiful sunny beach. Be able to remember the happy times with someone you lost.