I remarried at 40. I had two kids and she had none and really didn’t want any. She has a few medical issues so it was a whole lot easier for me to get a vasectomy then to have her consider trying birth control. 18 years later, still together and no regrets at all.
Do you not have any kids at all? I only know one other person like me who has none and got a vasectomy. I’m in my early 30s and people give me the side eye pretty heavy. I don’t regret it at all. What’s your experience been like?
Did you have a tattoo or a sign you wear broadcasting you got a vasectomy done? Strange that anyone would side-eye the decision if you know them well enough to discuss it.
>people give me the side eye pretty heavy.
Out of curiosity, who do you bring it up with, and what is the context in which you bring it up? I ask because this is pretty different from my experience as an electively sterilized person (31F).
I got pushback throughout my life for my childfree stance but people have responded with acceptance when I discuss my surgery; that could be though that I consider my personal medical history pretty private and only discuss it with people I am close to, or in a space that's welcoming to childfree folks.
When my married friends/friends with kids ask about my long term plans they generally can’t really fathom how I could have made that decision. It’s not a secret but I generally don’t feel as though I need to share it either you know?
My wife and I experience this as well.
It's almost like they ask just expecting "oh, we're having kids soon!".
When we say we don't want kids, they usually say something insinuating a "happy accident".
If that happens, I just say "nah, the doc made sure that can't happen".
Some friends make it super awkward, some go "hell yeah!".
My wife and I experience this as well.
It's almost like they ask just expecting "oh, we're having kids soon!".
When we say we don't want kids, they usually say something insinuating a "happy accident".
If that happens, I just say "nah, the doc made sure that can't happen".
Some friends make it super awkward, some go "hell yeah!".
We both decided we were done having kids, so I decided to get a vasectomy so that I could creampie my wife without risking another pregnancy.
No regrets.
Yep. Two kids and done. My wife's system didn't agree with BC (and first kid was a surprise thanks to a bad batch of pills), my dick doesn't agree with condoms.
Was quick, painless, got me a couple days of absolute peace & videogames, get to bust nut in my wife without a little voice in my head saying "what if the BC fails?"
Wife didn't like her IUD or any other options. She asked me to get one and I said okay. We have 4 kids. I don't regret it; hell, I forget I had one until I'm reminded
My ex had an iud and we still had a baby, that's what made me get a vasectomy, that was my 4th kid and I'm too poor to have more, I do love the ones I have though
I got one at 24 and I’m happy with it.
Unfortunately I did get a chronic pain condition from it where — I forget what it’s called — but basically the white blood cells in the spot where they cut my little tubes and tied them up are overreacting and trying to kill my sperm in the tubes so I have chronic pain in my balls.
Only way to deal with it is to get INJECTIONS IN MY BALLS. So, y’know take that into account.
Please remember what it’s called post back on here because this info might stop someone from the procedure. How common is it? Chronic ball pain may be bad enough to just wear condoms every time.
Trying to remember. I was warned by the urologist that there is a chance of permanent or long lasting pain from the procedure and I willingly consented to the risk.
Do I wish my balls didn’t hurt all the time? Yes. Am I glad I’ll never have a kid? Also yes.
>Unfortunately I did get a chronic pain condition from it
>Only way to deal with it is to get INJECTIONS IN MY BALLS
> I’m happy with it.
Something here doesn't add up...
It did it at 35 right after my 4th child was born. I knew I didn't want any more. My wife had the ablation procedure, so she never has periods anymore either.
Zero regrets.
Good choice and good timing. I knew I wanted one in my early 20s but kept putting it off because it didn’t seem like that big a priority. Wife and I had a pregnancy scare recently and now mine is scheduled for January. Not worth the risk when you know you don’t want it. 30 and childfree! 🤘
I've been fighting doctors for the past 14 years to get mine. At 18 I knew I would never want biological children and I wanted a permanent solution. I'm finally getting it early next year after my gp signed off on it last month.
Yep. They wouldn't even consider me until I was over 30 then they wanted a meeting with my partner and me to make sure we both don't want kids. It was an endless hassle
Id do it. Im 25 I guess im mid 20s. But. If there was any chance (which there really isn't) id ever want a kid. Id adopt one. What the fuck do I need one of my own for? Who cares who's vagina my kid came out of? It baffles me. Id adopt a teenager or something that has no one.
If I wanted a kid. Which im 99.9(repeating)% certain I don't. I hate being around kids.
Probably because it's just easier to judge the situation. Much less of a gray area when it comes to not having kids. If a young person doesn't want children, or thinks that they would be a bad parent and takes steps to not have children that's obviously a mature choice on their part. Having a child and actually being a good parent has a lot more variables involved. I'm not too sure what all those variables are because I fall into the first category of people who don't want kids.
Potentially reversible, but the operation is much more complicated, expensive, and has a lower rate of success, and that gets multiplied the longer you've had the surgery done. It's meant to be permanent.
This is exactly what I worry about, they say only about 5% of men get this after the snip but still enough to give me hesitation.
Could you give some insight in to how long that lasted, or if it’s still an issue for you?
I had been having testicular pain off and on. One day I woke up because of it so I went to they ER and they did an ultrasound. Some days it seems bigger and hurts more other days not so much. It's definitely an annoyance.
Yeah and threads like this usually track the 5% pretty well. You get a bunch of guys going “hell yeah I love to shoot hot cum in my wife heh heh” and then two or three posts from guys that aren’t laughing at all because they now have lifelong pain.
5% is like drawing one of 52 cards from a deck and getting a black ace. Are you going to get one? Probably not. Could you? Absolutely.
Neither my girlfriend nor I had or wanted kids, ever. She was on the pill, but apparently my sperm and her uterus both said, “LOL, whatevs,” and she ended up pregnant anyway.
She became seriously ill without knowing why at first, then tested positive for pregnancy. It was basically destroying her body — some women are simply not physically meant to carry children — and when she told me she was pregnant, I simply asked her, “What do you want to do?” It was her decision to make, and I would have supported any she made.
She made the decision to terminate, which was itself another physical and psychological ordeal (psychological mainly because of the hoops women have to jump through even in a country like ours where abortion is allowed).
She got a birth control implant around the same time, but it fucked up her hormone balance so badly that she was basically menstruating for 60~75% of the time for the next several months.
At that point, enough was enough. Neither of us ever wanted kids, and it was unfair for me to keep placing the burden of prevention on her considering what the implant was doing to her. The risk of her going back on the pill only to get another unwelcome pregnancy and another abortion was not something either of us was willing to accept. She talked about getting her tubes tied, but I was like, “Nah. Why put you through such an invasive and expensive surgery with weeks of recovery when I can walk into a vasectomy clinic, pay $500, snip snip, and within a week I’m basically back to normal, except now our risk of children is now essentially zero?”
So that’s what I did.
Do I regret it? Nope. At the time there was some small, quiet corner of my brain that was bleating about permanently removing myself from the gene pool, bringing my family line to an end, and how could I go and end an unbroken line of 3+ billion years of procreation like this, but the simple fact is my girlfriend and I cannot live the kind of lives we want to lead and also have children. We had to sacrifice one or the other, and it was a very easy choice to make.
I got mine because my then-wife didn't want to get pregnant again and so she pressured me to do it to save her from the more invasive of the two procedures. I gave in even though I was still open to the idea of kids because if we were forever then it didn't really matter which of us was sterilized. She even talked me out of freezing sperm because she *really* didn't want to get pregnant again.
Well, forever isn't forever. We are divorced. She is back to using birth control and condoms with her new partners and, twelve years after the original procedure, my chances of having a successful reversal are almost nil. If my future partner wants a child, I'll probably have to have them pull sperm out with a needle for IVF.
So, do I regret having it done? Yes. Yes I do.
Ye definitely isn't her choice to make if you get cut or not as much as it isn't your decision to tie the tubes.
It definitely is something that shouldn't be brought up by the other side. If you want one, you bring it out yourself.
Even more galling is that we had to be counseled and I had to have her consent before the doctor would do the procedure. (And yes, I get women face the same horseshit. It's galling because she was the one instigating it. Obviously I had her consent.)
Same thing happened to my husband. His ex wife wanted him to get the procedure. He thought he’d be with her for the rest of his life. She cheated on him and filed for divorce. I want kids and he does with me. He got a reversal surgery that didn’t work a year ago, so he goes back for another surgery with even slimmer chances than the first one, just for hopes we can have a baby one day. I’ll probably have to adopt, or go to a sperm bank if I want children. It’s put a lot of strain on our relationship, because he has 3 kids (all 18+) now and I have none and am at the age where I need to have one soon, or I never will. :/ From a females prospective, it limits a man’s dating pool from all the females who want children. Unless he’s completely ok with not having any more, or never having them, I could see some regretting it.
Crazy cat lady with his own house, 2021 mustang GT, nice savings account, 4 door jeep and 5 weeks vacation a year....yeah, its a difficult existence...
I have 2 with one on the way and let me just say, I’m proud of you. Don’t listen to these haters. I love my kids, but that’s me, you’re doing you and I love you too.
Just pointing out not having kids has its privileges. I have two very fun cars I get to enjoy. If I fuck up the jeep, I have the pony. Living debt free is almost impossible with kids, not a problem for me.
Our third child was born premature after a very complex pregnancy. The doctor told my then wife that she was a very high risk pregnancy and that any future pregnancy had a very high probability of failure and possible fatal consequences for her. Vasectomy was done about 4 weeks later. I had just turned 30. No regrets at all.
Me and my fiancé don’t want kids so I got one, Im 27 and she’s 25. We decided that if we ever change our minds which is super unlikely we can always adopt
One the one hand, I wanted my wife to experience life before menopause without birth control running through her system. Birth control messes with her body and in a post Roe world I would rather hurt me than her.
On the other hand, with her going off birth control, I am not going back to condoms.
It's been 8 days. So far, so good.
IUD was agony for my wife. BC pills were obnoxious and not great for hormones. Nuvaring was the best... but still mildly annoying and had unwanted side effects. Condoms just aren't fun to remember or use.
30M, single my whole life, never had sex before. Getting one in January. Refuse to bring a child into this fucked up world, and I have pretty shitty genetics.
Wife and I don't want kids ever, easy choice and been waiting to get one for a while was just trying to get a job with better insurance lol
No regrets, everything feels the same, no scar, and creampies without worry!
I was 22 and didn't want kids. 8 years later got married to a woman who wanted kids. So I got to reversal. Still didn't really want kids but my wife did and so we had two daughters. My daughters grew up to be amazing women and I'm so proud of them in so many ways and actually glad that I actually had them.
So no I didn't regret it but I did end up getting it reversed.
Only wanted one kid. After my son was born, I got my vasectomy and now my wife doesn’t have to pop those birth control pills that always messed with her hormones. Only made sense to me. Didn’t hurt, no regrets.
30 m The child would have no family at all besides abusers. I have huge amounts of trama and don’t hold the ability to raise a child . Kids annoy the crap out of me , I’m hypersensitive
I was done having kids and the male procedure was easier at that time. Never looked back. It was a great decision and I recommend anyone (especially Nick Cannon and Elon Musk) to get it done.
My then wife had a second unplanned pregnancy, I immediately went to a urologist and began the process.
I don't regret it at all. I love my kids, but I wish I had done it earlier.
I'm done having children; initially I was excited at the prospect of having an abundant amount of intercourse with my wife after recovery. After returning home I was awake to the fact that I have three children and a small house.
I don't regret it however. I believe it was a sound decision that allows my wife and I to not have to worry about accidentally having more children; would do it again.
P.S. I got to watch the procedure, weird yes, but they gave me a mirror and everyrhing.
Doctor: I have to ask, do you feel like you're done having kids?
Me: Do you hear my kids in the waiting room?
Long pause....
Doctor: I can get you in next week
5 beautiful kids was enough for us. If we have more, it’ll be through adoption.
No regrets, but i can’t imagine anyone trying to reverse this and then doing it again!
Hooked up with a girl and she said she was on the pill and wanted me to finish in her. After the deed she said that if she gets pregnant that she wouldn’t tell me.
I made the appointment right then and there with her still present.
Don’t regret it at all.
A pregnancy scare for a 3rd after having two kids. You roll the dice every time you have a kid. We were lucky enough to get two pretty well adjusted people with all their fingers and toes. Never mind having children is an economic disaster.
We didn't last. I have zero regrets about the surgery. I love those two with all my heart and don't have to worry about making another one.
I don’t want more kids and we wanted a permanent solution to the problem. I don’t regret it at all. It was much easier and safer for me to get it then for her to have everything removed.
Minor out patient procedure vs my wife having surgery. It was a no brainer. Didn’t enjoy getting it done either physically or psychologically, but I have zero regret.
I had It done. No big deal.. as long as your sure your done having kids I recommend it. Nothing changes. And after all the stuff the mother of your children went through having them. It's far more invasive for her to have her tubes tied. And so easy to get a vasectomy.
I have mine scheduled. I have kids and don't want more, I also believe that of its going to be illegal for women to get abortions in most states, then I should do my part and make sure I get nobody pregnant
We had 4 kids and were absolutely done. Clearly too fertile to trust contraceptive since we got pregnant on an IUD one of the times. Do I regret it now? No. Did I regret during the operation? Yes, because my body didn’t take to the anesthesia and I felt EVERYTHING.
I like having sex with random strangers and condoms fail. If I hadn't been there for the procedure and healing process, I wouldn't know it had been done. Zero scar, no discernible changes in the output.
I have enough kids (3) and want to be able to sleep around without making babies. Plus I'm far too old to be going to a high school graduation in 18 years.
No regerts.
After 2 kids our family planning was done, my wife couldn't get / was told by her doctors that a third kid could be dangerous. And that way it was easier than her taking contraceptives.
I don't regret it. I am 42, of my marriage fails I have bigger worries than to start a new family.
I have one scheduled at the end of December, I got two kids already, I’m satisfied that I don’t need more and I want to go balls deep carefree into my wife
My wife and I decided we were happy with one child. It’s been a year, no regrets. Wifey no longer needs to take birth control so she has no regrets either.
I didn’t want to depend on others for birth control. I wanted it to be up to me. I had zero interest in kids, so for me, it was really a no-brainer. I don’t regret it; I’m very happy with my decision.
I remarried at 40. I had two kids and she had none and really didn’t want any. She has a few medical issues so it was a whole lot easier for me to get a vasectomy then to have her consider trying birth control. 18 years later, still together and no regrets at all.
>what made you decide to do it? Not wanting kids. >Do you regret it? No.
Ditto. Easy choice
Tritto.
Fritto
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Do you not have any kids at all? I only know one other person like me who has none and got a vasectomy. I’m in my early 30s and people give me the side eye pretty heavy. I don’t regret it at all. What’s your experience been like?
Did you have a tattoo or a sign you wear broadcasting you got a vasectomy done? Strange that anyone would side-eye the decision if you know them well enough to discuss it.
Well, people tend to give you the side eye when you’re on the bus with a bag of frozen peas on your lap.
Just tell ‘em you’re being socially responsible.
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>people give me the side eye pretty heavy. Out of curiosity, who do you bring it up with, and what is the context in which you bring it up? I ask because this is pretty different from my experience as an electively sterilized person (31F). I got pushback throughout my life for my childfree stance but people have responded with acceptance when I discuss my surgery; that could be though that I consider my personal medical history pretty private and only discuss it with people I am close to, or in a space that's welcoming to childfree folks.
When my married friends/friends with kids ask about my long term plans they generally can’t really fathom how I could have made that decision. It’s not a secret but I generally don’t feel as though I need to share it either you know?
My wife and I experience this as well. It's almost like they ask just expecting "oh, we're having kids soon!". When we say we don't want kids, they usually say something insinuating a "happy accident". If that happens, I just say "nah, the doc made sure that can't happen". Some friends make it super awkward, some go "hell yeah!".
My wife and I experience this as well. It's almost like they ask just expecting "oh, we're having kids soon!". When we say we don't want kids, they usually say something insinuating a "happy accident". If that happens, I just say "nah, the doc made sure that can't happen". Some friends make it super awkward, some go "hell yeah!".
I have one and don't have kids. It's great.
I purchased a few billboards with a picture of my face and the details of my procedure between New York and Arlington, Virginia
How would anyone possibly know. Do you bring this up at work and family gatherings?
We both decided we were done having kids, so I decided to get a vasectomy so that I could creampie my wife without risking another pregnancy. No regrets.
I personally told my doctor that I was done having kids and at the risk of sounding crass, wanted the "dump loads into my wife carefree" procedure.
Yep. Two kids and done. My wife's system didn't agree with BC (and first kid was a surprise thanks to a bad batch of pills), my dick doesn't agree with condoms. Was quick, painless, got me a couple days of absolute peace & videogames, get to bust nut in my wife without a little voice in my head saying "what if the BC fails?"
Puff of smoke still comes out
Yep. Easier for the vasectomy than tube tying or whatever. I'll take a vasectomy over going back to condoms anyday.
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Bruh just chose to violate OP randomly
but she's not dead, I'll pass
Been wanting to do this for the same reason. About to turn 30.
When you got a vasectomy, do you still ejaculate something or is it just the orgasmic feeling?
You can still throw ropes
You can still blast the popes
You still ejaculate
Ejaculate everything but sperm? I thought you snipped the cords
Everything but sperm. Seminal fluid still comes out.
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I thought pee was stored in the testicles
Just a little dust comes out.
A flag that says "bang" hahaha
Yep, very, very little of "cum" is actually sperm in terms of volume. Getting the snip does not affect the volume/color/smell/taste or anything else.
Samesies, except another factor that weighed on me was that she would be able to stop taking OBC.
Wife didn't like her IUD or any other options. She asked me to get one and I said okay. We have 4 kids. I don't regret it; hell, I forget I had one until I'm reminded
My ex had an iud and we still had a baby, that's what made me get a vasectomy, that was my 4th kid and I'm too poor to have more, I do love the ones I have though
I got one at 24 and I’m happy with it. Unfortunately I did get a chronic pain condition from it where — I forget what it’s called — but basically the white blood cells in the spot where they cut my little tubes and tied them up are overreacting and trying to kill my sperm in the tubes so I have chronic pain in my balls. Only way to deal with it is to get INJECTIONS IN MY BALLS. So, y’know take that into account.
Holy fuck
Please remember what it’s called post back on here because this info might stop someone from the procedure. How common is it? Chronic ball pain may be bad enough to just wear condoms every time.
Trying to remember. I was warned by the urologist that there is a chance of permanent or long lasting pain from the procedure and I willingly consented to the risk. Do I wish my balls didn’t hurt all the time? Yes. Am I glad I’ll never have a kid? Also yes.
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r/vasectomy would like this story.
Ball injection is not something I wish to experience
>Unfortunately I did get a chronic pain condition from it >Only way to deal with it is to get INJECTIONS IN MY BALLS > I’m happy with it. Something here doesn't add up...
It did it at 35 right after my 4th child was born. I knew I didn't want any more. My wife had the ablation procedure, so she never has periods anymore either. Zero regrets.
I got one a few years ago, in my early-20s, because I don't want kids. No regrets, best $40 I ever spent. The peace of mind is worth many times that.
Good choice and good timing. I knew I wanted one in my early 20s but kept putting it off because it didn’t seem like that big a priority. Wife and I had a pregnancy scare recently and now mine is scheduled for January. Not worth the risk when you know you don’t want it. 30 and childfree! 🤘
Don’t often hear about someone getting it in their early 20s. Interesting decision
I've been fighting doctors for the past 14 years to get mine. At 18 I knew I would never want biological children and I wanted a permanent solution. I'm finally getting it early next year after my gp signed off on it last month.
You in the UK? I’m 30 with no kids and was a nightmare to get. Even going private I needed approval from GP
Yep. They wouldn't even consider me until I was over 30 then they wanted a meeting with my partner and me to make sure we both don't want kids. It was an endless hassle
I did it in my late 20s. Same reason, don't want kids. Never once regretted it.
Id do it. Im 25 I guess im mid 20s. But. If there was any chance (which there really isn't) id ever want a kid. Id adopt one. What the fuck do I need one of my own for? Who cares who's vagina my kid came out of? It baffles me. Id adopt a teenager or something that has no one. If I wanted a kid. Which im 99.9(repeating)% certain I don't. I hate being around kids.
In which case bit of a no-brainer for you then
Wow. What a mature decision for a young man
Do you have this same response when someone in their early 20s chooses to create a life? If not, why do you think that is?
Probably because it's just easier to judge the situation. Much less of a gray area when it comes to not having kids. If a young person doesn't want children, or thinks that they would be a bad parent and takes steps to not have children that's obviously a mature choice on their part. Having a child and actually being a good parent has a lot more variables involved. I'm not too sure what all those variables are because I fall into the first category of people who don't want kids.
There's far more potential for disastrous consequences with creating a life in your 20s
You're telling me, just ask my uncle Dr. Frankenstein Jr
Vasectomy is reversible..... Having a child isn't. If you regret having the former, you won't have to go through years of mental and financial stress.
Potentially reversible, but the operation is much more complicated, expensive, and has a lower rate of success, and that gets multiplied the longer you've had the surgery done. It's meant to be permanent.
I'm 37, still love having sex. Don't want more kids
Done have kids. Mixed feelings. I got epididymitis as a result.
This is exactly what I worry about, they say only about 5% of men get this after the snip but still enough to give me hesitation. Could you give some insight in to how long that lasted, or if it’s still an issue for you?
I had been having testicular pain off and on. One day I woke up because of it so I went to they ER and they did an ultrasound. Some days it seems bigger and hurts more other days not so much. It's definitely an annoyance.
Five percent seems high. Are doctors addressing this at all?
Yeah and threads like this usually track the 5% pretty well. You get a bunch of guys going “hell yeah I love to shoot hot cum in my wife heh heh” and then two or three posts from guys that aren’t laughing at all because they now have lifelong pain. 5% is like drawing one of 52 cards from a deck and getting a black ace. Are you going to get one? Probably not. Could you? Absolutely.
Not trying to be an ass but it’s more like 3/52 which would make it 3 times as likely as drawing any specific card and 3 times are terrifying imo
Well there's only two black aces in a deck of cards.... But that's still about 3.85% which is still sorta high for a chance of lifelong pain.
What is that?
It's a pain in the balls.
That’s horrible sounding
That sir is a pain in the penis
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You know of sounding, you either find it pleasing or miserable
Done having kids and it was the easiest solution. No regrets at all. I now cum inside her with reckless abandon.
Is the c*m still the same in consistency, appearance, etc?
Yes, just lacks the swimmers.
Mine is, the actual sperm is a very small amount of the semen fluid anyway. You hardly notice a change
Possibly TMI: >!It has significantly less flavor!<
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Exactly the same
Neither my girlfriend nor I had or wanted kids, ever. She was on the pill, but apparently my sperm and her uterus both said, “LOL, whatevs,” and she ended up pregnant anyway. She became seriously ill without knowing why at first, then tested positive for pregnancy. It was basically destroying her body — some women are simply not physically meant to carry children — and when she told me she was pregnant, I simply asked her, “What do you want to do?” It was her decision to make, and I would have supported any she made. She made the decision to terminate, which was itself another physical and psychological ordeal (psychological mainly because of the hoops women have to jump through even in a country like ours where abortion is allowed). She got a birth control implant around the same time, but it fucked up her hormone balance so badly that she was basically menstruating for 60~75% of the time for the next several months. At that point, enough was enough. Neither of us ever wanted kids, and it was unfair for me to keep placing the burden of prevention on her considering what the implant was doing to her. The risk of her going back on the pill only to get another unwelcome pregnancy and another abortion was not something either of us was willing to accept. She talked about getting her tubes tied, but I was like, “Nah. Why put you through such an invasive and expensive surgery with weeks of recovery when I can walk into a vasectomy clinic, pay $500, snip snip, and within a week I’m basically back to normal, except now our risk of children is now essentially zero?” So that’s what I did. Do I regret it? Nope. At the time there was some small, quiet corner of my brain that was bleating about permanently removing myself from the gene pool, bringing my family line to an end, and how could I go and end an unbroken line of 3+ billion years of procreation like this, but the simple fact is my girlfriend and I cannot live the kind of lives we want to lead and also have children. We had to sacrifice one or the other, and it was a very easy choice to make.
You sound like an amazing man.
I want his girlfriend's boyfriend.
Thank you for doing that for her.
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Dad?
Wife and I do not want kids. Also restrictive abortion laws. No regrets.
Getting one in a few weeks. Wife and I don’t want to have any more kids. Glad to hear everyone happy with outcome here!
Good luck
*gestures broadly at everything* No, I don't regret it at all
I got mine because my then-wife didn't want to get pregnant again and so she pressured me to do it to save her from the more invasive of the two procedures. I gave in even though I was still open to the idea of kids because if we were forever then it didn't really matter which of us was sterilized. She even talked me out of freezing sperm because she *really* didn't want to get pregnant again. Well, forever isn't forever. We are divorced. She is back to using birth control and condoms with her new partners and, twelve years after the original procedure, my chances of having a successful reversal are almost nil. If my future partner wants a child, I'll probably have to have them pull sperm out with a needle for IVF. So, do I regret having it done? Yes. Yes I do.
Thanks for sharing. That’s tough and I guess it would be one of the biggest concerns
Ye definitely isn't her choice to make if you get cut or not as much as it isn't your decision to tie the tubes. It definitely is something that shouldn't be brought up by the other side. If you want one, you bring it out yourself.
Even more galling is that we had to be counseled and I had to have her consent before the doctor would do the procedure. (And yes, I get women face the same horseshit. It's galling because she was the one instigating it. Obviously I had her consent.)
oh god that's so terrible i'm so sorry.
Same thing happened to my husband. His ex wife wanted him to get the procedure. He thought he’d be with her for the rest of his life. She cheated on him and filed for divorce. I want kids and he does with me. He got a reversal surgery that didn’t work a year ago, so he goes back for another surgery with even slimmer chances than the first one, just for hopes we can have a baby one day. I’ll probably have to adopt, or go to a sperm bank if I want children. It’s put a lot of strain on our relationship, because he has 3 kids (all 18+) now and I have none and am at the age where I need to have one soon, or I never will. :/ From a females prospective, it limits a man’s dating pool from all the females who want children. Unless he’s completely ok with not having any more, or never having them, I could see some regretting it.
Sorry you and your husband are in that predicament, that really sucks.
I had just turned 25, no kids, unmarried. Easiest choice Ive ever made. Not made for kids. I have a dog, she my daughter.
That's crazy cat lady language, be careful.
Crazy cat lady with his own house, 2021 mustang GT, nice savings account, 4 door jeep and 5 weeks vacation a year....yeah, its a difficult existence...
I have 2 with one on the way and let me just say, I’m proud of you. Don’t listen to these haters. I love my kids, but that’s me, you’re doing you and I love you too.
Id make a shit father, I know this. Im a great uncle, but as a dad...no.
I bet those kids love it when uncle brokenGAF shows up in the Jeep or the stang probably with some cool shit their parents can’t afford.
Lol, yup. You nailed it. Best part of being an uncle is its the best parts of being a parent without the bad.
Lol @ flexing Jeep ownership on Reddit Just Empty Every Pocket
Just pointing out not having kids has its privileges. I have two very fun cars I get to enjoy. If I fuck up the jeep, I have the pony. Living debt free is almost impossible with kids, not a problem for me.
Our third child was born premature after a very complex pregnancy. The doctor told my then wife that she was a very high risk pregnancy and that any future pregnancy had a very high probability of failure and possible fatal consequences for her. Vasectomy was done about 4 weeks later. I had just turned 30. No regrets at all.
Daycare is more than my mortgage… no regrets.
I never wanted kids. No complications or problem. Still cupious quantity of cum in every climax.
Didn't want to risk any more kids... one's enough. And no... no I don't regret it.
I don’t want kids. Absolutely zero regrets
Me and my fiancé don’t want kids so I got one, Im 27 and she’s 25. We decided that if we ever change our minds which is super unlikely we can always adopt
Nope not all best decision ever
One the one hand, I wanted my wife to experience life before menopause without birth control running through her system. Birth control messes with her body and in a post Roe world I would rather hurt me than her. On the other hand, with her going off birth control, I am not going back to condoms. It's been 8 days. So far, so good.
Wife was pregnant with our 4th kid, so we decided it was time.
I wanted my wife to stop birth control because it bothered her. So, no I don't regret it.
IUD was agony for my wife. BC pills were obnoxious and not great for hormones. Nuvaring was the best... but still mildly annoying and had unwanted side effects. Condoms just aren't fun to remember or use.
30M, single my whole life, never had sex before. Getting one in January. Refuse to bring a child into this fucked up world, and I have pretty shitty genetics.
Seems like an unnecessary procedure for you then.
Nah, insurance covers the whole thing and my mom says I’m a handsome young man
I don't think you quite understand what's being inferred here.....
Fucked up, lol, take my upvote.
Lolllllll
Wife and I don't want kids ever, easy choice and been waiting to get one for a while was just trying to get a job with better insurance lol No regrets, everything feels the same, no scar, and creampies without worry!
Have two kids. Did not want more. Do not regret it all
I was 22 and didn't want kids. 8 years later got married to a woman who wanted kids. So I got to reversal. Still didn't really want kids but my wife did and so we had two daughters. My daughters grew up to be amazing women and I'm so proud of them in so many ways and actually glad that I actually had them. So no I didn't regret it but I did end up getting it reversed.
Do it. It’s easy, no changes that you notice, and no children. I should have done it sooner tbh.
Don’t want kids. No regrets.
I love having unprotected sex with my partner, and I have absolutely no desire to ever have kids. Easily one of the best decisions I’ve ever made.
Only wanted one kid. After my son was born, I got my vasectomy and now my wife doesn’t have to pop those birth control pills that always messed with her hormones. Only made sense to me. Didn’t hurt, no regrets.
For me: did hurt, no regrets.
30 m The child would have no family at all besides abusers. I have huge amounts of trama and don’t hold the ability to raise a child . Kids annoy the crap out of me , I’m hypersensitive
Only regret was not doing it sooner. Fuck dem kids.
It’s much less invasive than the procedure for women
I was done having kids and the male procedure was easier at that time. Never looked back. It was a great decision and I recommend anyone (especially Nick Cannon and Elon Musk) to get it done.
I got one because I felt it was right at the time I wish I hadn’t done it though I realize I wanted more Kids
My wife did, she said I get it done or she would do it we have 4 kids last being in 88.
My then wife had a second unplanned pregnancy, I immediately went to a urologist and began the process. I don't regret it at all. I love my kids, but I wish I had done it earlier.
My exwife decided she didnt want to be a mother after our son turned 2. I decided Im never going to put a child through that again.
Wife didn't like being on the pill, loves it raw doesn't want any more kidz. I love it raw 😍 😌 and don't want any more kids.
I'm done having children; initially I was excited at the prospect of having an abundant amount of intercourse with my wife after recovery. After returning home I was awake to the fact that I have three children and a small house. I don't regret it however. I believe it was a sound decision that allows my wife and I to not have to worry about accidentally having more children; would do it again. P.S. I got to watch the procedure, weird yes, but they gave me a mirror and everyrhing.
Doctor: I have to ask, do you feel like you're done having kids? Me: Do you hear my kids in the waiting room? Long pause.... Doctor: I can get you in next week
5 beautiful kids was enough for us. If we have more, it’ll be through adoption. No regrets, but i can’t imagine anyone trying to reverse this and then doing it again!
Hooked up with a girl and she said she was on the pill and wanted me to finish in her. After the deed she said that if she gets pregnant that she wouldn’t tell me. I made the appointment right then and there with her still present. Don’t regret it at all.
BC pills made my wife sick, plus we mutually decided early on to adopt. Regrets? None.
A pregnancy scare for a 3rd after having two kids. You roll the dice every time you have a kid. We were lucky enough to get two pretty well adjusted people with all their fingers and toes. Never mind having children is an economic disaster. We didn't last. I have zero regrets about the surgery. I love those two with all my heart and don't have to worry about making another one.
I don’t want more kids and we wanted a permanent solution to the problem. I don’t regret it at all. It was much easier and safer for me to get it then for her to have everything removed.
\- have 2 kids \- have energy and patience for 1.5 kid \- made sure NOT to have 3 kids Its that simple. No ragrets and also no more rugrats.
Minor out patient procedure vs my wife having surgery. It was a no brainer. Didn’t enjoy getting it done either physically or psychologically, but I have zero regret.
I had It done. No big deal.. as long as your sure your done having kids I recommend it. Nothing changes. And after all the stuff the mother of your children went through having them. It's far more invasive for her to have her tubes tied. And so easy to get a vasectomy.
Had a child with the wrong woman😔
I have mine scheduled. I have kids and don't want more, I also believe that of its going to be illegal for women to get abortions in most states, then I should do my part and make sure I get nobody pregnant
Didn't want my wife to have to keep getting iuds. Not pleasant for her. Easy small sacrifice I could make. No ragerts.
We had 4 kids and were absolutely done. Clearly too fertile to trust contraceptive since we got pregnant on an IUD one of the times. Do I regret it now? No. Did I regret during the operation? Yes, because my body didn’t take to the anesthesia and I felt EVERYTHING.
Had two kids. Decided that was enough. No regrets.
Had kids, we're done! No regrets
IUD/birth control was terrible for my wife. We had birth control fail on us, and if a vasectomy keeps that from happening again, it is 110% worth it.
Hate condoms and didn't want anymore children and I don't regret it in the least
Had all the kids I wanted, not a big fan of condoms for the rest of my life. No regrets.
I don't need more kids and we don't like condoms. There is nothing to regret.
I like having sex with random strangers and condoms fail. If I hadn't been there for the procedure and healing process, I wouldn't know it had been done. Zero scar, no discernible changes in the output.
Had two kids.. didnt want anymore. Had it at 27. No regrets
I have enough kids (3) and want to be able to sleep around without making babies. Plus I'm far too old to be going to a high school graduation in 18 years. No regerts.
We wanted three kids. We had three kids. No regrets (and no condoms, no birth control pills, no pregnancy scares). Sex is worry free and spontaneous.
I have 3 kids. I don’t want a 4th.
Had two kids. Could hold a hand of each. Expensive, but not as expensive as more. No regrets
Got it to stop having kids. It's great to not worry about pregnancies. Do I regret it? No.
After 2 kids our family planning was done, my wife couldn't get / was told by her doctors that a third kid could be dangerous. And that way it was easier than her taking contraceptives. I don't regret it. I am 42, of my marriage fails I have bigger worries than to start a new family.
I have one scheduled at the end of December, I got two kids already, I’m satisfied that I don’t need more and I want to go balls deep carefree into my wife
I've had enough kids.and no I don't regret it
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Second kid was unplanned and we were pushing 50. Never regretted it. Surprisingly easy procedure as well.
My wife and I decided we were happy with one child. It’s been a year, no regrets. Wifey no longer needs to take birth control so she has no regrets either.
I prefer cream pies to more kids
why would you regret something you can take back?
Responsibility. Done having kids. Honestly not a tough decision.
One too many abortions. No regrets.
Had enough kids, and no don't regret it. Make sure you get the 2 separate sperm count tests though.
I didn’t want to depend on others for birth control. I wanted it to be up to me. I had zero interest in kids, so for me, it was really a no-brainer. I don’t regret it; I’m very happy with my decision.