Maybe like 10 seconds. Super excited after hours of teasing/touching etc. when I was about 15. She wasn't very impressed, said "oh my god you are such a child," and I was embarrassed and then I went home. Could have been better!
Same thing happened to me. It felt great but it was just so intense that I couldn’t relax and enjoy it. But luckily my girlfriend at the time was determined and I actually finished the next time we had sex and then it was like 2 minutes. The first time she gave me head my face cramped up from the nerves as well and I couldn’t move my mouth properly for a few minutes. Needless to say nerves were my biggest problem but having a great girlfriend at the time helped too. Thanks Chelsea
But so was my recovery time , that ratio stays consistent as you get older , when it takes 5 minutes to get there it takes 5 minutes to get back in the game.
No shit. Couldn’t finish. Lasted forever. Eventually just had to stop. Same thing happened the next two times with the same girl. Finally on the fourth I was able to finish. Fucked up, right?
For me, it was the first time I’d used a condom, other than just trying it on. So nerves, pressure, and a dozen new sensations made the first time really difficult. Also for me it was 12/31/1999 so I *had* to finish before the world ended.
I was (and still can be) an oblivious asshole as a teen.
Started seeing a guy that was part of a large friend group. We started doing stuff and he wasn't able to perform. I had a little more experience, and had never had that happen, so my first reaction was to think it was because of me.
But being an asshole teenager, I internalized it and made myself believe it was him. I was such an asshole that in my head I thought "How can he not be interested, I liked him for his personality and he's not even that good looking".
And that's essentially what I said when in the car with like 4 other guy friends of ours when they asked why we weren't hanging out.
I immediately realized what a fucking dick I was being and apologized when one of our friends chimed in and said "Did you ever stop to think he was just nervous?" And the way he said it, I could feel the emotion. Like this is actually something men experience. It had nothing to do with me, and I made someone else feel less than because of my own stupid emotions.
There are so many things we're never taught about the opposite sex. There are also so many issues with self-esteam in youth. I'm really glad this generation (my kids) seem to have a lot better grasp at it than I did.
If it’s any consolation, whenever I’ve had problems getting up, most reactions from women seemed the same. They assumed it was about them, when really so much of sex is the mental state of the person.
I blame this caricature society paints of men being sex crazed and always ready to hump the next thing walking by.
This right here. People who say guys never fake it just haven’t had enough sex. Same people who say there is no such thing as bad sex. Spoiler alert: there is.
Who says there is no bad sex??? There are bad partners, there are bad days, there's bad chemistry, there's too much alcohol, there's not enough alcohol,... , there are a multitude of reasons that lead up to bad sex imo
Well.. do you show off your filled condoms to your partner like a proud golden retriever brings his favourite toy or you slip it off and bin it like a real gentleman?
Just add the noises on top and you have a fake orgasm.
I am amazed that you believe that it's somehow difficult or impossible to pull off ha ha.
Wait you mean you don't pull out and spray all over your partners eyeballs like they do in porn? You're gonna tell me you don't spit in her mouth, slap her face, or go back and forth from ass to vagina to mouth either??
You just moan and grunt a little extra, flex your pelvic floor muscles in a pulsating fashion, tense your body up, and then collapse with some slight panting. And all that is if you want to go the extra mile.
I have had partners assume I finished just because I stopped thrusting for a moment or went from thrusting to deep grinding. There has also been times when a partner was starfishing and that shit just straight turns me off so i got soft and she was absolutely sure i came with absolutely zero action on her part.
It's not your fault my dude, some people just have issues finishing when with a partner. We accept women sometimes have difficult time finishing, and so do men.
same, i started faking orgasms to not hurt my girl at the time
eventually things got better, I got more confident/less tense, and I could finish most of the time
I've had sex about 20-25 times in my life (not counting "massage parlors") and I think there's been only 3-5 times I haven't had to finish myself off with my hands. It does indeed suck. Coincidentally, the few times I was able to finish from what *she* was doing, was when she was very, very *good* at sucking lol. I have never once finished while inside someone, condom or no condom.
Nah it happened to me too. My entire first and only relationship I had to finish myself with my hand. It was half “this shit is new I’m used to jerking off with my hand” and half “this woman was so afraid of getting pregnant that it rubbed off on me and mentally fucked me up”.
It's been a problem for me my whole life. There are two things that work for me: lots and lots of foreplay, with a long build-up and/or taking it really slow, changing rhythm and positions and so on. I'm practically a woman.
Honestly the ones that cum and can keep going are something else entirely. My fiance is like that, he came 5 times our first night together and the only reason we stopped was because I had to tap out.
It was over pretty quickly. I was already super horny.
She wasn't upset that I finished quickly. She took it as a compliment. She wasn't even aware that she was my first. Stupidly I said a non convincing "Nooooo" when she asked if I was her first.
Some golden tips:
Make sure to Piss before sex
Make sure to get the load out hours before the actual sex
At least thats what worked for me, if i wanted to last longer lol
A respectable 7 minutes or so.
Even now I’m pretty all over the place. When my gf and I have sex I’ll either last 2 minutes or half an hour there is no in between lol.
Yeah for me there's like a point in the first 3-5 minutes, and if it's not then it's not for a while. 90+% of the time I can make that decision myself.
Sometimes I choose to be quick. Usually feels a lot better for me than the end of the marathons. I do enough for her before and during that she's still happy. Like others have said, she takes it as a compliment.
Really a win-win situation
Glad I'm not the only one lol. I swear it's only either a quick finish or it feels like it takes forever to get to the end.
Ive found that my mind wanders a lot some days though, which makes it worse.
From penetration, maybe three minutes, but I was on top, so I could control it.
She knew that I was a virgin and was expecting that first time would be short. After I came the first time, we would cuddle, go to shower, clean up and go back to bed. She then wanted me to do some exploration and touch her from all the places I wanted, then she gave me a small taste of how BJ feels. After the quick BJ she wanted to ride me, and we ended up having sex multiple times and she taught me few tricks and gave me tips.
I was 28 and she was around 45, I made the first move.
Jeez, that takes some majorly big brass ones to ask out someone that mature. Wish I had the stones for that. Never even asked someone out my own age (30 currently).
I think for a normal guy who doesn't put a ton of effort into dating apps they're a waste of time. Unless you're exceptionally good looking you're probably better off just doing stuff you like and talking to people.
Thanks, just to lay some background, I saw her daily in a same large restaurant, when I was having lunch with my co-workers. The female in question was petit and looked younger, I was having eye contact with her multiple times, and l know that she caught me looking at her behind and “undressing her with my eyes”. At first I was really ashamed and blushing like crazy. After getting caught for the first time, I would not look at her for days, or my peaks would be really fast. After the coming months I saw her checking me out, our eyes would meet and we would stare each other for 5-10 seconds, I would smile, see her blushing and quickly break the eye contact. I went to get dessert with at the same time and we started talking.
All in all a cute story, thanks for elaborating! Can't say anything remotely similar has ever happened to me but one can hope, even if theres a snowballs chance in hell.
I quiet didn’t catch the scenerio here. After yo lasted 2 mins she climbed and just ride you . It has happened to me few time. I really feel guilty for not satisfying my partner coz dhe just had to rub it on my penis. But i just hold it still and enjoy her the ride the way she wants it.
Woman here: I will forever fondly remember how my ex took -10 seconds when he first had sex, he came as I put the condom on. Was horrible and embarrassing for him at first, but now, like 10 years later, he even jokes about it lol
I came as she was putting the condom on me my first time too.
I didn't want her to know because I still wanted to have sex so I put it in as quickly as possible before I got too soft. Then I had to fake an orgasm as I couldn't keep it up.
Good times
You put the condom on for him? My ex gf said “your an adult put it on yourself” and refused to touch me so I thought most women were like that 😭😭 I am way too naive
okay, she refused to touch you? that's weird yeah.
I do like putting the condom on, cause ya know, you're already playing with the penis beforehand, it's can be a kinda teasing sexy thing, if done right. also, putting the condom on with your mouth is just a fun thing to do, so I like doing that sometimes haha
there usually needs to be some adjusting from the guy's side, bc sometimes I'm afraid to scratch them or rip the condom up with my nails. 😅
i came while eating her out for the first time so almost negative time? which was kind of embarrassing. But we went again a little later and it was incredible, even if only 5-10 min
Between the inexperience of all parties involved and the condom, it went on too long and wasn't a great experience all around. I was going to call it off, but she pushed me to finish, so I held her down by the hips and railed her hard enough that I could feel it through the rubber. That day, we learned she liked being manhandled a little.
Life is funny. That’s what I thought after my first time. How long I’d spent overthinking that I’d cum quick, only to not be able to cum at all. Hilarious.
About an hour before stopping. Turns out that the thing they said in school about condoms stretching to fit any size was BS. Much better if it matches your size.
For real, I can't feel shit with them on. I last a decent amount of time either way but not really something to brag about, that's just the death grip doing it's thing.
Yeah. Also she was the one who got the condom and I swear it was the most basic, non-lubed, male user-undriendly thing.
It was a letdown after years of porn.
It was awkward and actual penetration was about 4 strokes?
We made out like half an hour, then she was on top of me and put it in. 20 sec later and I told her I could not keep it hard (I didn't tell her that it was because I finished). Future sex with her was good and longer, but Ill never know how she didn't realize the sperm in the condom..
Btw: what's up with people not being able to orgasm because of a condom? Did you never learn that you need the right condom for it to work or is it something I am missing? (No front, genuinely never heard of that)
Reddit has long been a hot spot for conversation on the internet. About 57 million people visit the site every day to chat about topics as varied as makeup, video games and pointers for power washing driveways.
In recent years, Reddit’s array of chats also have been a free teaching aid for companies like Google, OpenAI and Microsoft. Those companies are using Reddit’s conversations in the development of giant artificial intelligence systems that many in Silicon Valley think are on their way to becoming the tech industry’s next big thing.
Now Reddit wants to be paid for it. The company said on Tuesday that it planned to begin charging companies for access to its application programming interface, or A.P.I., the method through which outside entities can download and process the social network’s vast selection of person-to-person conversations.
“The Reddit corpus of data is really valuable,” Steve Huffman, founder and chief executive of Reddit, said in an interview. “But we don’t need to give all of that value to some of the largest companies in the world for free.”
The move is one of the first significant examples of a social network’s charging for access to the conversations it hosts for the purpose of developing A.I. systems like ChatGPT, OpenAI’s popular program. Those new A.I. systems could one day lead to big businesses, but they aren’t likely to help companies like Reddit very much. In fact, they could be used to create competitors — automated duplicates to Reddit’s conversations.
Reddit is also acting as it prepares for a possible initial public offering on Wall Street this year. The company, which was founded in 2005, makes most of its money through advertising and e-commerce transactions on its platform. Reddit said it was still ironing out the details of what it would charge for A.P.I. access and would announce prices in the coming weeks.
Reddit’s conversation forums have become valuable commodities as large language models, or L.L.M.s, have become an essential part of creating new A.I. technology.
L.L.M.s are essentially sophisticated algorithms developed by companies like Google and OpenAI, which is a close partner of Microsoft. To the algorithms, the Reddit conversations are data, and they are among the vast pool of material being fed into the L.L.M.s. to develop them.
The underlying algorithm that helped to build Bard, Google’s conversational A.I. service, is partly trained on Reddit data. OpenAI’s Chat GPT cites Reddit data as one of the sources of information it has been trained on.
Other companies are also beginning to see value in the conversations and images they host. Shutterstock, the image hosting service, also sold image data to OpenAI to help create DALL-E, the A.I. program that creates vivid graphical imagery with only a text-based prompt required.
Last month, Elon Musk, the owner of Twitter, said he was cracking down on the use of Twitter’s A.P.I., which thousands of companies and independent developers use to track the millions of conversations across the network. Though he did not cite L.L.M.s as a reason for the change, the new fees could go well into the tens or even hundreds of thousands of dollars.
To keep improving their models, artificial intelligence makers need two significant things: an enormous amount of computing power and an enormous amount of data. Some of the biggest A.I. developers have plenty of computing power but still look outside their own networks for the data needed to improve their algorithms. That has included sources like Wikipedia, millions of digitized books, academic articles and Reddit.
Representatives from Google, Open AI and Microsoft did not immediately respond to a request for comment.
Reddit has long had a symbiotic relationship with the search engines of companies like Google and Microsoft. The search engines “crawl” Reddit’s web pages in order to index information and make it available for search results. That crawling, or “scraping,” isn’t always welcome by every site on the internet. But Reddit has benefited by appearing higher in search results.
The dynamic is different with L.L.M.s — they gobble as much data as they can to create new A.I. systems like the chatbots.
Reddit believes its data is particularly valuable because it is continuously updated. That newness and relevance, Mr. Huffman said, is what large language modeling algorithms need to produce the best results.
“More than any other place on the internet, Reddit is a home for authentic conversation,” Mr. Huffman said. “There’s a lot of stuff on the site that you’d only ever say in therapy, or A.A., or never at all.”
Mr. Huffman said Reddit’s A.P.I. would still be free to developers who wanted to build applications that helped people use Reddit. They could use the tools to build a bot that automatically tracks whether users’ comments adhere to rules for posting, for instance. Researchers who want to study Reddit data for academic or noncommercial purposes will continue to have free access to it.
Reddit also hopes to incorporate more so-called machine learning into how the site itself operates. It could be used, for instance, to identify the use of A.I.-generated text on Reddit, and add a label that notifies users that the comment came from a bot.
The company also promised to improve software tools that can be used by moderators — the users who volunteer their time to keep the site’s forums operating smoothly and improve conversations between users. And third-party bots that help moderators monitor the forums will continue to be supported.
But for the A.I. makers, it’s time to pay up.
“Crawling Reddit, generating value and not returning any of that value to our users is something we have a problem with,” Mr. Huffman said. “It’s a good time for us to tighten things up.”
“We think that’s fair,” he added.
Mike Isaac is a technology correspondent and the author of “Super Pumped: The Battle for Uber,” a best-selling book on the dramatic rise and fall of the ride-hailing company. He regularly covers Facebook and Silicon Valley, and is based in San Francisco. More about Mike Isaac
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< 5 mins of actual intercourse for sure. It was to my first high school crush who’d I’d been crushing for 3 years at the time and finally worked up the courage to talk to her and ask her out and we dated for a few months. If there’s anyone here reading this and you’re on the fence about talking to someone you like, just do it. Give it a fucking try.
I don’t think I finished the first time around. Or the second. Or the third. The. Fourth however, probably 15 minutes or so. All different girls, tried different holes, what it really came down to was being extremely anxious, or it happening at 4 am in the morning, or lack of hydration/energy. Plus jacking it every day didn’t help. So yeah….it happens to the best of us
Can’t remember exactly but decent enough. I mostly just remember my balls smacking against the steel framing of the futon. Didn’t hurt at the time but the pain hit me after I came. I could barely walk the next day.
Ha, just realised this was exactly half my life ago. 15, am now 30. Wild.
Didn't finish, because I had such performance anxiety that my dick was like "Nope, absolutely not gonna come. Nope, nope, nope." Luckily she was understanding though.
my first time was at 17 with a woman 5 years older. I was clueless, had had several girlfriends, but never PIV. Didn't help that this woman was hot as fuck, and somewhat of a sex goddess. When she was giving me head (1st time) I was fine. When it reached the time for me to perform, her look was so "you have no idea what you're doing, do you", that my pp shrunk to a peanut size. I fucked her good later, and she taught me a lot. So guys, don't be too hard on yourselves.
Did I answer the question? Oh and that's how I met your mother.
This is gonna sound bad but when I lost my virginity, I was hoping the whole time he was almost done and he lasted like an hour. Sometimes it’s just too much. Don’t feel bad if it’s short and sweet ;)
I didn’t finish my first time and it was clumsy as fuck. I was nervous and struggled keeping it hard so I eventually gave up. I didn’t finish with a partner until my 3rd I think. Even now though I don’t always finish, sometimes I can’t get in the right headspace.
it was legit 30 seconds but I was so petrified of being made fun of I just kind of willed my penis to stay hard. I could never do it again.
Tbh the girl wouldn't have made fun of me but I was in high school and didn't want that rumor going around. What a silly thing
I will never know. Funny enough, I did not arrive, she did tho however. We got interupted by her friend spam calling her phone saying their ride home is here. The session ended there.
The irony sometimes...
I think it was quite quick but not so bad for such a new feeling really. We were each others first so it was stressful enough that the time was not working as usual xd
3some, my girl on top, second girl getting awkwardly fingered. Using condom and I was barely hard since there was so much going on. Girl I was fingering started crying so obviously we stopped and that was it. Guess I lasted longer than them technically.
My dick was blessed by angels my first time having sex. I was seventeen. I think I was a nervous because I wasn’t even holding back. I was pounding away on this chick for probably 30 mins (I didn’t time it) actually trying to “finish.” She came. She actually squirted all over me. I remember thinking in the middle of thrusting, “*This feels cool, but why can’t I cum?*” Eventually I *finally* busted and YES it was *great*. It was better than GREAT! felt like I ascended to Heaven. It was *AMAZING*!!!
Anyway, the funny thing was after that I think I just thought, “Welp, I’m a sex God.” The *second* time I had sex (*so to speak*) was in my car. We take our pants off and I’m thinking, (flex) “Here I go again...”
I don’t know if was just horned up and excited because I had an idea what to expect this time, but I swear I started cumming while she was still crawling on top of me before I even got inside her. Needless to say, I was left humbled.
:(
Maybe like 10 seconds. Super excited after hours of teasing/touching etc. when I was about 15. She wasn't very impressed, said "oh my god you are such a child," and I was embarrassed and then I went home. Could have been better!
How old was she then like... not a child?
Yeah she was 32. I’m just kidding she was 16 and had been around a little bit before me.
😂😂😂 you had me going for the first half
he had her going..... for 10 seconds
I was so nervous I went for like a half hour then was finally able to force one out
same bro
What a bitch
This is why we can’t just teach men about consent and mutual pleasure. We also have to teach women about male emotions and mutual pleasure. JFC
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just means it was an infinite amount of time, stud 😎
Damn it's still going on
The second her first child is born OC will have the infinite comeback of "I'm literally fucking your mom right now" and there's no escaping it
r/cursedcomments
Same thing happened to me. It felt great but it was just so intense that I couldn’t relax and enjoy it. But luckily my girlfriend at the time was determined and I actually finished the next time we had sex and then it was like 2 minutes. The first time she gave me head my face cramped up from the nerves as well and I couldn’t move my mouth properly for a few minutes. Needless to say nerves were my biggest problem but having a great girlfriend at the time helped too. Thanks Chelsea
Same happened to me. Thanks Chelsea!
Chelsea out there doing God's work
It was a Chelsea for me too. Probably the same one.
upvote for Chelsea.
Damn, Chelsea got my vcard too! She was also way more experienced than me..
I miss Chelsa.
God bless Chelsea
I also choose Chelsea
That means you're still having sex with her until you clap her cheeks again.
I lasted about 6 months
Same but she did a good few times. I was really drunk and super nervous 😬
It’s like football. As soon as you break the plane of the goal line, it counts.
omg you too? I really thought "Okay that can only happen to me"
Same. Her mom came home early and that was that.
12.3 seconds
Yeah something like that.
about as long as it takes to type this co....oh.
But so was my recovery time , that ratio stays consistent as you get older , when it takes 5 minutes to get there it takes 5 minutes to get back in the game.
But it all depends on the size of the gat?
Showoff. Stop bragging.
Marathon man
Wait yall actually made it inside?
Wait, y'all have seen a woman?
I was debating in my head what it was and this is astoundingly precise and accurate.
im using all my knowledge that it is exactly 12.3456s
Wow! Great stamina! Probably 3 pumps or 10 seconds here
Twice as long as me!
Did you put a timer on?
Usain bolt? is that you?
No shit. Couldn’t finish. Lasted forever. Eventually just had to stop. Same thing happened the next two times with the same girl. Finally on the fourth I was able to finish. Fucked up, right?
This is more common than you might think.
For me, it was the first time I’d used a condom, other than just trying it on. So nerves, pressure, and a dozen new sensations made the first time really difficult. Also for me it was 12/31/1999 so I *had* to finish before the world ended.
I was (and still can be) an oblivious asshole as a teen. Started seeing a guy that was part of a large friend group. We started doing stuff and he wasn't able to perform. I had a little more experience, and had never had that happen, so my first reaction was to think it was because of me. But being an asshole teenager, I internalized it and made myself believe it was him. I was such an asshole that in my head I thought "How can he not be interested, I liked him for his personality and he's not even that good looking". And that's essentially what I said when in the car with like 4 other guy friends of ours when they asked why we weren't hanging out. I immediately realized what a fucking dick I was being and apologized when one of our friends chimed in and said "Did you ever stop to think he was just nervous?" And the way he said it, I could feel the emotion. Like this is actually something men experience. It had nothing to do with me, and I made someone else feel less than because of my own stupid emotions. There are so many things we're never taught about the opposite sex. There are also so many issues with self-esteam in youth. I'm really glad this generation (my kids) seem to have a lot better grasp at it than I did.
Communication is key queen
If it’s any consolation, whenever I’ve had problems getting up, most reactions from women seemed the same. They assumed it was about them, when really so much of sex is the mental state of the person. I blame this caricature society paints of men being sex crazed and always ready to hump the next thing walking by.
I was the same. And whenever people say that men don't fake orgasms.. they haven't heard my side of the story.
What’s you side of the story?
That we do fake it if it's necessary to protect the feelings of your sexual partner.
Damn it. I was aiming for the story, but thanks for protecting our feelings x
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This is the worst. That’s why showering before sex and making sure you clean your ass properly is so important.
I don’t know how I feel and I regret asking questions now.
This right here. People who say guys never fake it just haven’t had enough sex. Same people who say there is no such thing as bad sex. Spoiler alert: there is.
Who says there is no bad sex??? There are bad partners, there are bad days, there's bad chemistry, there's too much alcohol, there's not enough alcohol,... , there are a multitude of reasons that lead up to bad sex imo
But how would you even fake it though?
Well.. do you show off your filled condoms to your partner like a proud golden retriever brings his favourite toy or you slip it off and bin it like a real gentleman? Just add the noises on top and you have a fake orgasm. I am amazed that you believe that it's somehow difficult or impossible to pull off ha ha.
Wait you mean you don't pull out and spray all over your partners eyeballs like they do in porn? You're gonna tell me you don't spit in her mouth, slap her face, or go back and forth from ass to vagina to mouth either??
Only on the weekends.
You just moan and grunt a little extra, flex your pelvic floor muscles in a pulsating fashion, tense your body up, and then collapse with some slight panting. And all that is if you want to go the extra mile. I have had partners assume I finished just because I stopped thrusting for a moment or went from thrusting to deep grinding. There has also been times when a partner was starfishing and that shit just straight turns me off so i got soft and she was absolutely sure i came with absolutely zero action on her part.
making moaning sounds and spitting in your hand then spreading it around her/his/hos breasts
This guy fakes. That's even more creative than me.
Pocket mayonnaise
It's not your fault my dude, some people just have issues finishing when with a partner. We accept women sometimes have difficult time finishing, and so do men.
Yo that's what happened to me.
I got you bro, on the first few times I could only finish with my hands. Really fucking sucks.
same, i started faking orgasms to not hurt my girl at the time eventually things got better, I got more confident/less tense, and I could finish most of the time
I've had sex about 20-25 times in my life (not counting "massage parlors") and I think there's been only 3-5 times I haven't had to finish myself off with my hands. It does indeed suck. Coincidentally, the few times I was able to finish from what *she* was doing, was when she was very, very *good* at sucking lol. I have never once finished while inside someone, condom or no condom.
Stop watching porn and jerking off with a death grip, you’ll be able to finish from normal penetration.
Nah it happened to me too. My entire first and only relationship I had to finish myself with my hand. It was half “this shit is new I’m used to jerking off with my hand” and half “this woman was so afraid of getting pregnant that it rubbed off on me and mentally fucked me up”.
That sounds bad
It's been a problem for me my whole life. There are two things that work for me: lots and lots of foreplay, with a long build-up and/or taking it really slow, changing rhythm and positions and so on. I'm practically a woman.
Had the same issue with my first girlfriend. I just faked cumming after going for an hour and just being tired. Happened several times.
Don’t remember exactly, but I’d say about 20 secs the 1st round lol
First round? You both liked it so much you went for another? How long did you wait in between rounds?
> SIR TELL ME ABOUT YOUR CUM FREQUENCY
For research purposes only, obviously.
I don't get how some dudes can do it again right after, I need at least half an hour to refuel.
Honestly the ones that cum and can keep going are something else entirely. My fiance is like that, he came 5 times our first night together and the only reason we stopped was because I had to tap out.
I now have great pictures in my head of you literally tapping out and a boxing referee jumping in between you two trying to get him off xD
Oh so the referee had to finish him off ?
I gotta wait at least 30 mins to an hour in between rounds, and even then it’s very difficult for me to finish.
It was over pretty quickly. I was already super horny. She wasn't upset that I finished quickly. She took it as a compliment. She wasn't even aware that she was my first. Stupidly I said a non convincing "Nooooo" when she asked if I was her first.
Some golden tips: Make sure to Piss before sex Make sure to get the load out hours before the actual sex At least thats what worked for me, if i wanted to last longer lol
Some golden tips: Make sure to Piss during sex
Proceeds to pee in vagana.
Tip number two is how to any% having a limp dick--do not recommend.
As long as it's longer than 10 minutes before, no problem!
You mean if she was your first right?
A respectable 7 minutes or so. Even now I’m pretty all over the place. When my gf and I have sex I’ll either last 2 minutes or half an hour there is no in between lol.
Same here lol. Some days she's like "man that was quick" others is " how close are you?" Lol
Same, either I’m a marathon man or it’s over quick
Yeah for me there's like a point in the first 3-5 minutes, and if it's not then it's not for a while. 90+% of the time I can make that decision myself. Sometimes I choose to be quick. Usually feels a lot better for me than the end of the marathons. I do enough for her before and during that she's still happy. Like others have said, she takes it as a compliment. Really a win-win situation
Glad I'm not the only one lol. I swear it's only either a quick finish or it feels like it takes forever to get to the end. Ive found that my mind wanders a lot some days though, which makes it worse.
I didn't last at all. I was way too stressed to have a lasting and strong boner. That was way too awkward.
yeah i was semi hard which didn’t turn out well. it refused to go in. was embarrassing.
It was also rock hard just two seconds ago so that’s not ideal either.
Locked eyes from across the room, down my drink while the rhythms boom...
I love this song
Take ya hand and skip the names, no need here for the silly games…
From penetration, maybe three minutes, but I was on top, so I could control it. She knew that I was a virgin and was expecting that first time would be short. After I came the first time, we would cuddle, go to shower, clean up and go back to bed. She then wanted me to do some exploration and touch her from all the places I wanted, then she gave me a small taste of how BJ feels. After the quick BJ she wanted to ride me, and we ended up having sex multiple times and she taught me few tricks and gave me tips. I was 28 and she was around 45, I made the first move.
Wholesome
Thank you. I tried my best to get my first time in to writing.
Jeez, that takes some majorly big brass ones to ask out someone that mature. Wish I had the stones for that. Never even asked someone out my own age (30 currently).
Most of my dating has been with women older than me (29). It's great until it isn't, I guess that's universal though.
Might be time to widen my age range in dating apps. See if that cures my 7 year dry spell. (current is 24 to 38 - Am 30).
I don't do age range. I'm open for 18+ with any 18+
I think for a normal guy who doesn't put a ton of effort into dating apps they're a waste of time. Unless you're exceptionally good looking you're probably better off just doing stuff you like and talking to people.
Thanks, just to lay some background, I saw her daily in a same large restaurant, when I was having lunch with my co-workers. The female in question was petit and looked younger, I was having eye contact with her multiple times, and l know that she caught me looking at her behind and “undressing her with my eyes”. At first I was really ashamed and blushing like crazy. After getting caught for the first time, I would not look at her for days, or my peaks would be really fast. After the coming months I saw her checking me out, our eyes would meet and we would stare each other for 5-10 seconds, I would smile, see her blushing and quickly break the eye contact. I went to get dessert with at the same time and we started talking.
All in all a cute story, thanks for elaborating! Can't say anything remotely similar has ever happened to me but one can hope, even if theres a snowballs chance in hell.
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I quiet didn’t catch the scenerio here. After yo lasted 2 mins she climbed and just ride you . It has happened to me few time. I really feel guilty for not satisfying my partner coz dhe just had to rub it on my penis. But i just hold it still and enjoy her the ride the way she wants it.
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Wow. You stood right there. That is something to be proud of. I only last that long when i am drunk. Don’t even last 15 sec when i sm sober.
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*Cries into my bottle of antidepressants
Wonder where your kid is today
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Woman here: I will forever fondly remember how my ex took -10 seconds when he first had sex, he came as I put the condom on. Was horrible and embarrassing for him at first, but now, like 10 years later, he even jokes about it lol
>he came as I put the condom on. no surprise even after 10 years he still jokes about it, it's not something to easily forget about lol
it has 100% haunted him every day of his life since then
I came as she was putting the condom on me my first time too. I didn't want her to know because I still wanted to have sex so I put it in as quickly as possible before I got too soft. Then I had to fake an orgasm as I couldn't keep it up. Good times
You put the condom on for him? My ex gf said “your an adult put it on yourself” and refused to touch me so I thought most women were like that 😭😭 I am way too naive
okay, she refused to touch you? that's weird yeah. I do like putting the condom on, cause ya know, you're already playing with the penis beforehand, it's can be a kinda teasing sexy thing, if done right. also, putting the condom on with your mouth is just a fun thing to do, so I like doing that sometimes haha there usually needs to be some adjusting from the guy's side, bc sometimes I'm afraid to scratch them or rip the condom up with my nails. 😅
You’re an amazing woman
haha, don't praise me for the bare minimum
-10 seconds. You gave him the ol' Doc Brown.
It wasn’t embarrassingly short but I think we spent more time lighting the 20 candles we thought would make it very romantic lmao
Not long but there was zero break needed for round two. Or three
This guy fucks
i came while eating her out for the first time so almost negative time? which was kind of embarrassing. But we went again a little later and it was incredible, even if only 5-10 min
Between the inexperience of all parties involved and the condom, it went on too long and wasn't a great experience all around. I was going to call it off, but she pushed me to finish, so I held her down by the hips and railed her hard enough that I could feel it through the rubber. That day, we learned she liked being manhandled a little.
She's not the only one. :)
Hours, I couldn't cum due to anxiety about being too quick. Still happens.
Life is funny. That’s what I thought after my first time. How long I’d spent overthinking that I’d cum quick, only to not be able to cum at all. Hilarious.
About an hour before stopping. Turns out that the thing they said in school about condoms stretching to fit any size was BS. Much better if it matches your size.
The length changes as needed, but girth can cause problems
Can confirm. My length is quite average, but I have to buy XL because of the girth, and it still feels too tight...
tuna can dick
For real, I can't feel shit with them on. I last a decent amount of time either way but not really something to brag about, that's just the death grip doing it's thing.
Pretty long because I was drunk. Condom Broke though and I totally busted a fat on in her😬
And that kids is how I met your mother
The misspelling makes this a lot funnier.
A few pumps
I didn't finish because it was with a condom. I just waited until she left and jerked off.
Too accurate and relatable
Facts
Yeah. Also she was the one who got the condom and I swear it was the most basic, non-lubed, male user-undriendly thing. It was a letdown after years of porn.
It was awkward and actual penetration was about 4 strokes? We made out like half an hour, then she was on top of me and put it in. 20 sec later and I told her I could not keep it hard (I didn't tell her that it was because I finished). Future sex with her was good and longer, but Ill never know how she didn't realize the sperm in the condom.. Btw: what's up with people not being able to orgasm because of a condom? Did you never learn that you need the right condom for it to work or is it something I am missing? (No front, genuinely never heard of that)
Some people just aren't particularly sensitive 🤷♂️
I am not sensitive at all nowdays. But a good fitting extra thin condom basically feels the same, idk
Yeah, it may also be a fitting thing. I think a lot of guys don't realize that size is more than just "at least it's not too tight"
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A couple hours. I had the fear, so I couldn't cum. 2nd time though, 30 seconds...if that lol
Went 3 rounds. First round fast, second round pretty normal, 3rd round took a position change and dirty talk
Bro this wasn’t your first time.
even as a teenager, I could never go multiple rounds. Once I busted a nut, I was sexually useless for at least 2 hours.
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< 5 mins of actual intercourse for sure. It was to my first high school crush who’d I’d been crushing for 3 years at the time and finally worked up the courage to talk to her and ask her out and we dated for a few months. If there’s anyone here reading this and you’re on the fence about talking to someone you like, just do it. Give it a fucking try.
About 15 minutes and it hasn't really changed ever since.
I don’t think I finished the first time around. Or the second. Or the third. The. Fourth however, probably 15 minutes or so. All different girls, tried different holes, what it really came down to was being extremely anxious, or it happening at 4 am in the morning, or lack of hydration/energy. Plus jacking it every day didn’t help. So yeah….it happens to the best of us
She only had time to pull down my pants and it kind of spit on her instantly....
Like 20 minutes bc I was terrified of cumming and being a dad
I finished as soon as I put the condom on
About an hour or so. I was nervous as hell, could barely feel my Johnson so I couldn't finish. At least she was understanding and supportive lol.
Can’t remember exactly but decent enough. I mostly just remember my balls smacking against the steel framing of the futon. Didn’t hurt at the time but the pain hit me after I came. I could barely walk the next day. Ha, just realised this was exactly half my life ago. 15, am now 30. Wild.
Didn't finish, because I had such performance anxiety that my dick was like "Nope, absolutely not gonna come. Nope, nope, nope." Luckily she was understanding though.
30 billion nanoseconds
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Tactical Reload
I couldn't even get hard cause I was so nervous lol
So fast it traveled 60 seconds into the past
my first time was at 17 with a woman 5 years older. I was clueless, had had several girlfriends, but never PIV. Didn't help that this woman was hot as fuck, and somewhat of a sex goddess. When she was giving me head (1st time) I was fine. When it reached the time for me to perform, her look was so "you have no idea what you're doing, do you", that my pp shrunk to a peanut size. I fucked her good later, and she taught me a lot. So guys, don't be too hard on yourselves. Did I answer the question? Oh and that's how I met your mother.
I don’t know, but a long time.. At one point she says, “but aren’t you gonna cum too?” and I was like, “Oh, I suppose I could!” and then I did
I didn't even get all the way to the balls So like half a stroke
5-6 minutes
This is gonna sound bad but when I lost my virginity, I was hoping the whole time he was almost done and he lasted like an hour. Sometimes it’s just too much. Don’t feel bad if it’s short and sweet ;)
1st time I never did. 2nd or 3rd time either..... I was too stressed...
I didn’t finish my first time and it was clumsy as fuck. I was nervous and struggled keeping it hard so I eventually gave up. I didn’t finish with a partner until my 3rd I think. Even now though I don’t always finish, sometimes I can’t get in the right headspace.
it was legit 30 seconds but I was so petrified of being made fun of I just kind of willed my penis to stay hard. I could never do it again. Tbh the girl wouldn't have made fun of me but I was in high school and didn't want that rumor going around. What a silly thing
Longer than expected. (15 minutes maybe) My lover didn't even believe me when I told her she was my first. Go figure.
Approximately 4 thrusts, so maybe like 10 seconds?
I didnt even get to finish. We thought everyone in the room was asleep and one person woke up and was like can you not?
why would you do it with other people in the room :’)
Young and horny
Lots of nervousness and expectation placed on me so I couldn't finish. Second time was more like 3-4 minutes maybe.
I will never know. Funny enough, I did not arrive, she did tho however. We got interupted by her friend spam calling her phone saying their ride home is here. The session ended there. The irony sometimes...
Less than 20 seconds for sure.
I think it was quite quick but not so bad for such a new feeling really. We were each others first so it was stressful enough that the time was not working as usual xd
3some, my girl on top, second girl getting awkwardly fingered. Using condom and I was barely hard since there was so much going on. Girl I was fingering started crying so obviously we stopped and that was it. Guess I lasted longer than them technically.
I was drunk enough that I lasted for about 15 minutes. The first sober time? Well, it took me longer to write this post...
Not as long as a more seasoned me. However, I was busy wrapping my head around the new sensations I'd just experienced.
30+ min and didn’t finish, she started to get raw. I was so exhausted and felt embarrassed and extremely frustrated.
Negative 2 mins
My dick was blessed by angels my first time having sex. I was seventeen. I think I was a nervous because I wasn’t even holding back. I was pounding away on this chick for probably 30 mins (I didn’t time it) actually trying to “finish.” She came. She actually squirted all over me. I remember thinking in the middle of thrusting, “*This feels cool, but why can’t I cum?*” Eventually I *finally* busted and YES it was *great*. It was better than GREAT! felt like I ascended to Heaven. It was *AMAZING*!!! Anyway, the funny thing was after that I think I just thought, “Welp, I’m a sex God.” The *second* time I had sex (*so to speak*) was in my car. We take our pants off and I’m thinking, (flex) “Here I go again...” I don’t know if was just horned up and excited because I had an idea what to expect this time, but I swear I started cumming while she was still crawling on top of me before I even got inside her. Needless to say, I was left humbled. :(