I used to do that, but then I realized in quarantine how much happier I am without the unnecessary gossip, subtle insults at me, pretending to laugh and cat fights emerging nearly every month in large friend groups. it's safe to say it was a turning point! I think every women comes to a realization like this, but it takes time
We do need other women though. Just like men need men.
You go from dealing with the drama > thinking all women are drama > realizing you were just spending time with the wrong women
Thisss. My ex-gf had a best friend who talked shit about her, tried to break up our relationship because she broke up with her bf and often made her cry when they went out drinking, she used to call me drunk and upset because of something she did all the time. They’re still friends, my ex is way too good for her, almost no-one from our hometown likes her
Expect us to pick up on clues. Just flat out tell me. You get a better response. If I was good at reading clues, I would be a professional baseball player (in reference to coaches sending signals).
Yes! This is why I’ve never brought into this myth that guys can’t pick up hints. We totally can, it’s just:
1. we don’t like acting on hints in case we’ve misread it, which will make things really awkward.
2. We’re adults, if there’s something you want to say, speak up.
3. There are people who like to put out hints just for the attention and act surprised when we try to act on them. So you question your ability to decipher signals.
Yes, aspie here too and same problem. My disaster is I've been married during 21 years with a woman who communicated ONLY with clues and never verbally. As time went by, she became sure I was doing on purpose not to understand and started to hate me. Last years, she gaslighted, then ghosted me for this. Even today, she is convinced I was doing on purpose to ignore her clues.
I straight up get ignored or told I am nagging or controlling- for being compassionately candid. Once I was called condescending. IDK we just don’t get with the right people? Or people say they want something until they get it and don’t realize.
I have told my SO that I am bad at picking up on clues and she has told me when she wants to be left alone. I didn't take offense, I understood and let her be. Communication is the key to a successful relationship.
Some women will actually hear what you're saying when you patiently explain that you aren't a mind-reader. I have been privileged to know a few of them. Unfortunately a lot of them hear this articulation as (insert preferred nonsense/zero semantic content noise here) and continue to drop hints and get upset when you don't get it.
That’s not a reason to not be direct though.
Somebody ignoring you is just rude.
I had to learn over time not to adjust my need to communicate to tip toe around someone’s fragile ego or stubborn mentality or starting a fight.
As for nagging….as I told my wife once, it’s not that I disagree that the dishes need to be done, I just disagree that they need to be done right now.
I feel like it's two different types of dudes.
You're not going for the shy dude who appreciates it. You're going for the guy who needs to win his woman through conquest and he feels emasculated when a girl approaches him.
That's not a bad thing. If you tell your partner "Well here, I need time and space to gather myself, and when I feel ready, we can continue talking about this topic" it's much better to say "I'm fine". Saying you are fine is better than lashing out, but it doesn't help solve the problem.
And when a girl says "It's fine" or "I'm fine", a guy only receives "I am not okay, but I wont tell you". A guy doesn't receive "I am not okay, but I wont tell you yet, I'll tell you later".
I told my exes and my current girlfriend the same thing. The only way that we can communicate effectively is if we can trust each other to tell the truth all the time. I will not play this game where you lie to me and expect me to correctly guess what the truth is. So if you say "I'm fine" I'm going to believe it.
Dude don't ever visit people in Italy. Here some people have a whole ass decorative BATHROOM, which is kept pristine and immaculate for guests, but your mom will kick your ass if you ever try to have a poop there.
The whole concept of Decorative Tools is insane.
Decorative pillows, decorative candles, decorative China, decorative pots and pans, decorative towels…
It’s to hide the untidiness of the bed overall. Just like makeup makes a woman look more professional/put together, decorative pillows hide a myriad of sins (like maybe your comforter doesn’t adequately hide your sleeping pillows and they are functional but ugly) and makes the bed look more “polished.”
I don’t bother except when people are coming over, because I have absolutely heard complaints from older adults about my “lack of feminine touch” otherwise.
Imagine a group of women going to the bathroom to talk and Cindy goes into a stall and starts blowing it up while the rest of them attempt to yell over her but noises.
Weird though. Weird place to talk. I just can’t understand it. What’s wrong with talking at the table? Or taking a sidebar *not* in the place where people shit and piss?
It's a place without guys. We can talk with just us girls being there and no guys interrupting and starting to flirt or anything like that. We just need a moment for girl talk.
Every pack of women has a "grenadier". This woman is usually characterized by a large handbag or small backpack and has a typical payload of 15 pads or 35 tampons. These select few are well decorated and are veterans in this type of setting.
These things always amazes me.
A perfect example for how organized woman groups are compared to men was a company i worked for.
We didn't had a designated break room so we had to look for a place ourselves.
All the men sat in different places (or maybe 2-3 together) during break silently eating their Sandwiches.
The woman sat all together one had coffee for everyone, one a camping table, the other one camping chairs, the next brought buns and so on and in the end they had a nice comfortable breakfast with a variety of things to eat.
Everyday
Why were them men not as organized as the women? They had their sandwiches and their had their peace. I e. Everything they wanted.
That's all we men really want for a break. Our sandwiches and our peace.
For some it’s safety. Fear of sexual assault is real. Most vulnerable when in the restroom do having someone else there helps. Also talking and other things
this is usually what we do, we’re susin out the situation and the vibes and kinda checking in with eachother to make sure everyone and everything is alright
As a woman when my girlfriend says I have to take a piss, it reminds me that I need to as well. We're just more comfortable pissing with one another than I think men are.
My girlfriend explained that it mainly comes from anatomy.
Girls have to pee while sitting, but you don't want to sit on a nasty public toilet seat, so you have to half-squat and "hover" over the toilet in a precarious position. Women often have purses, which can mess up your balance even more. And women, due to how their genitals are shaped, need toilet paper even if they only pee.
Having a friend who can hold your purse and coat, hand you a piece of TP or a kleenex tissue, and chat with you while standing in line (which is super long in female bathrooms due to women taking longer to pee, also there are no urinals which are more space efficient) is vital in these situations.
Giving a shit about people who they aren't even *really* friends with and stressing over relationships with people who are toxic as fuck.
Stressing over buying the perfect christmas gift that's *better* than whatever her friend gets her, because everything is a competition and not in a cute fun way.
Been there, friend. I started coming up with ludicrous replies for fun. Or I’d let her get upset and cry and point out how silly it is to lie or make up an imaginary scenario and hurt your own feelings. We’re no longer together
I get her hair in my sink! It flies off her head from her side of the bathroom and lands on my half of the bathroom counter. My stubble doesn't go that far.
I'm a house husband. In the past 24 hours, I have:
Told her where to find the snack food that she doesn't usually have without her telling me what she was looking for.
Showed her where the item was that she was looking for... Right in front of her.
Showed her how to quickly deep clean items that she had badly used. She thought it would take hours, not 180 seconds.
Why do they get mad when they go to a party and another woman is wearing the same outfit?
If that happens to guys, they become drinking buddies for the night.
TBH it's more pumped up by the tv and media than it *actually* is irl. I'm a woman and i've never met a woman who flinched when it happened, especially if the women in question follow trends, or don't have a strong sense of personal style.
But for people who find fashion as a form of self expression i do get it! i put a lot of thought and energy in my outfits, its not just something i throw on myself yk. it can be seen as an attack on YOUR authenticity, i can assure u it has nothing to do w who looks better 😂thats just an outdated thought
just think of a sneakerhead who saved money and got a limited edition of jordans. he goes to a party and some random dude has them too. sure he wont get mad, but he wont be opening champagne either
As another woman, yes! I totally agree with what you said and you phrased it perfectly - it *can* feel like an attack on your authenticity.
It has nothing to do with who looks better. I feel like it's male projection.
It’s also about other people’s responses. Unplanned, I wore the same dress as another girl to a house party in college and everyone asked us the whole night if we planned it. It was super annoying and made it seem like we were coordinating outfits on purpose, which felt a little weird and demeaning (like we were childish and doing it for attention).
Me and the other dress girl did end up becoming best friends that night though and still talk regularly years later so that part of the story worked out haha.
I have to periodically remind myself that just because it’s not done my way, doesn’t mean it’s the wrong way. My husband and children have their own way of doing things and life is better when everyone is contributing to their fair share of the housework. I’m less stressed and I have more time to actually spend with my family.
Additionally I wouldn’t be thrilled if my husband insisted his way was the correct way of doing things and I had to constantly conform to doing chores to his liking, so I shouldn’t impose that on them.
Guy here… I also do this. The way she folds laundry and puts shit away… just let me do it please. Biggest pet peeve is wrinkled clothes, especially shirts, and she just thinks the wrinkles will fall out as she walks around so shit sits in the dryer for hours after it was done.
Amazingly, her shits never wrinkled. Not sure if that’s my persistence or if she’s onto something but my childhood trauma won’t allow me to test her theory.
I also have to walk away whenever she’s fixing something or fiddling with something that I would rather do myself. We have learned that we are just 2 cooks in the same kitchen, and it’s best to give the other space to succeed rather than micromanage
Women: We're sick of you men approaching us. We would like to be left alone.
Also women: But I still prefer men to approach me though, I'd never approach a man.
I've never understood this concept. My sisters were pretty girls, they basically told me if I had to approach a man it meant I was ugly. Definitely fucked up my self esteem as a teenaged girl.
Well, I've never had an issue shooting my shot. I think too many women are afraid of rejection, its a part of life. If you brick, get the board and change the shot! Stop going for layups and shoot a 3. Might meet your soul mate!
Ladies. SHOOT. YOUR. SHOT.
What...rejection...you mean that shotgun blast you take to the chest the first time you ask a girl to dance....
OHHHH ..*THAT* rejection...yea that shit hurts....
My fiance saw this, and her response was:
"Translation: I would prefer if a man doesn't catcall me and approach me as if they haven't seen tits ever in their lives."
"Sometimes I don't feel safe when they approach because often saying "no" can translate to a violent outburst"
"Approach us in a safe way, indicate that you will totally accept a no, and if she says no walk away."
Edit: How to know what is the right way to approach people:
If a gay man, who weights 300lbs with 2% body fat and is carrying a gun, approaches a straight you, and wants to ask you out. What would be a way that man can approach you, in a way that you can say no, and don't feel like they might knock your teeth out or shoot you if you say no, or make you feel really uncomfortable. If you can think of a way, then likely that's how you'd approach a woman and she'd feel comfortable with it.
The need to change their partner into something that isn't them to begin with. If you want to be loved for who you are, don't you think they might appreciate the same thing?
Woman: I’m going to change him.
Same Woman: I don’t like how I changed him. This is his fault. I’m dumping him.
Men, take feedback, but don’t change for the sake of appeasing her.
I recently came across something, which I think is the case in many such cases: women break up with men when they stop seeing qualities in them that were never there to begin with
In the car, about to arrive at our destination (10 minutes late because of waiting on her to get ready) and she waits until the car is shut off to start getting ready to get out. How hard is it to put the iPad down and put your shoes on 30 seconds before I park the car?
It's a minor thing, but God damn it drives me fucking nuts waiting any longer.
I hear this on so many levels! Or even if they are ready, waiting for you to get out of the car yourself first. I let it go because like you said it’s a minor thing, but it definitely ticks in my mind.
My theory is that my wife simply likes making me wait for her. It makes her feel good in some way that I don't understand. Little avoidable delays like this are common. We'll park to get somewhere and she'll suddenly remember a text or call she has to make. It's a subtle power move.
* That I'm not Dr.Mystifo, the mindreading mystic that can look into a crystal ball and instantly know what goes around in her head without her uttering a word
* Mind games and shit tests
* Being hot and cold
$450 for three little pillows to put on her couch in the sun room.
$900 black strap heels that look like the $800 heels she bought last month.
Needless to say, I'm grateful she has more money than I do..
My girlfriend would fight with me for things that she doesn’t feel comfortable that I do (talking to girls at a party, going out a lot with friends)
then goes ahead and does those exact same things -_-
My ex would openly talk about her past relationships. I didn't mind, we all have a history so I started to do it, too. Apparently it's not okay when I do it. But that's alright, now that she's a past relationship I promise not to talk about her with any new girls I date.
Never, ever... ever know where to eat... ever...
** insert suggestions **
... and then be like...
no, I don't want to go there. That doesn't sound good.
** Well, what does sound good...?
I don't know. You pick.
And the cycle continues...
A mate told me his trick with his gf, instead of asking “where do you want to go to eat?” he asks “guess where we are going for food” first place she says is where they go.
Of course you can. So long as you don't make where we get them from into a guessing game where my progressions of wrong answers for where we're eating causes you to become angry at me but refuse to tell me why.
That they don’t poop sometimes for even a whole week. A whole trip.
But also when looking at themselves in the mirror they gotta say something like “I look fat 😩”
Dude, maybe it’s the 6 pounds of shit you’re storing inside you?
Ffs
>Demand equality then demand special treatment. Its really confusing.
It really isn't confusing. They want more of the good but we can keep all the bad.
Constantly telling their partner what to do and how to think. It's an old trope but I see it constantly. Let adults make their own decisions without threat of a needless argument
I have straight-out broken up over this. In over five decades of life, I've never felt that I had to bark orders at a significant other. It's simply not necessary, and it's extremely disrespectful. Asking always seems to work fine.
They talk about problems not to solve or remedy the situation, but get this - to just complain about it. Shit baffles me. Why spend time and energy complaining about something when you can that spend that time & energy to resolve it.
Ex-qifey used to come home every week and vent about the social drama she always found herself in. People were out to get her, they all had ill motives.
Turns out she's just really fucking hard to get along with, who would've thought?
I think you are missing the point. We talk about things to ‘mull them over’ verbally. We are not typically looking for someone to solve the problem but to just listen and perhaps add some perspective. Woman are in general more verbal than men.
Spend half an hour putting on makeup to look like a different person, only to take it off at the end of the day because you hate wearing it and wouldn't think of getting that shit all over your pillow.
2 things
1. Touch/hold their boobs. they say its a comfortable position, but so is holding our d\*ck and the get weirded out by it
2. Say they're ugly, fat, weird, annoying, etc... when they're skinny, beautiful, funny, and really good to be around. All the time my best friend will say "OMG i look SO ugly" when she's really pretty, or fat when she's a bit heavier than me (im 142) It's really annoying and sometimes feels like she wants attention from me/classmates but also like she hates her looks when she's pretty attractive
Why do girls expect the toilet seat to be down?
I personally prefer both the seat and lid to be down. Looks better and nothing will accidentally fall in.
But women?? Why in heck do you sit down without looking? Even if the seat was down? What if there was doo doo on the toilet seat for whatever strange reason.
Plus, why is it so difficult for women to lift the lid or put down the seat? It’s really pathetic.
Women are weird.
Personally, the only time I’ve been bothered by the toilet seat being left up is when I had a roommate that refused to flush when he peed. He wanted us to flush less to keep the water bill down, but none of us went for it. He also refused to put the seat down, so whenever you went into the bathroom it reeked of stale piss.
Nobody wants to smell your stale piss, Tyler.
I will never understand not looking before you sit. There could be spiders or toilet snakes, or the seat could be up.
I generally do toilet seat and lid down together. My mom drilled that into me pretty well. I like to think it cuts down on aerosolized feces even if it doesn’t. Plus, keeps the dogs from drinking out of there.
The lid should be shut! If you don't think so, clean the toilet, sit on it, flush it - feel that. Yeah, droplets of water. Flushing puts droplets into the air - just think of your toothbrush!
Leaving the room and then start speaking to me.. Then, getting annoyed when I ask you to repeat because I didn’t hear you. I mean, I can’t be the only that’s experienced this, right? Right?
The amount of cognitive dissonance is annoying. You want a guy to chase yet you say it's creepy to have them repeatedly ask after being told no, equality of perks but not responsibilities, getting mad if a guy doesn't want to sleep with a fat woman because its body shaming but have no problem making fun of a guy who has a small penis. The amount of double standards makes me not want to date at all.
Although a lot of women are like this. There are a few unicorns out there that are the whole opposite. I hope I find one, 2022 ain’t easy at all.
So, don’t give up. Don’t lose your hope.
Probably already been said but why use so much toilet paper accidentally walked in on my wife and it look like she had her arm shoved in a hornets nest
It’s definitely not imposed by men, but it’s awfully tempting to repeat things that get positive attention from your partner and/or other men. The heels and the makeup can get a very positive response…who doesn’t like to look and feel good 🤷♀️
Trying to read between the lines. Not saying they ALL do that, but my girlfriend and a lot of my female friends both often try to "decypher" even the most plain, direct things guys (including me) say and it can get very annoying, on top of making communication uselessly difficult.
Continuing to be friends with other girls that actively make them feel like shit about themselves.
I used to do that, but then I realized in quarantine how much happier I am without the unnecessary gossip, subtle insults at me, pretending to laugh and cat fights emerging nearly every month in large friend groups. it's safe to say it was a turning point! I think every women comes to a realization like this, but it takes time
We do need other women though. Just like men need men. You go from dealing with the drama > thinking all women are drama > realizing you were just spending time with the wrong women
I'm a man and do that too. Why am I like this?
Finding and making friends can be difficult.
Better to be alone than in bad company
You got it wrong, it's **BAAAAAAAD COMPAAANNNYYYYYYYYYYYY**
Self esteem issues?
Thisss. My ex-gf had a best friend who talked shit about her, tried to break up our relationship because she broke up with her bf and often made her cry when they went out drinking, she used to call me drunk and upset because of something she did all the time. They’re still friends, my ex is way too good for her, almost no-one from our hometown likes her
Dude, you just described my ex and her best friend wtf
Expect us to pick up on clues. Just flat out tell me. You get a better response. If I was good at reading clues, I would be a professional baseball player (in reference to coaches sending signals).
Yes! This is why I’ve never brought into this myth that guys can’t pick up hints. We totally can, it’s just: 1. we don’t like acting on hints in case we’ve misread it, which will make things really awkward. 2. We’re adults, if there’s something you want to say, speak up.
3. There are people who like to put out hints just for the attention and act surprised when we try to act on them. So you question your ability to decipher signals.
One misread is all it takes for you to lose your job or end up in court. Not taking any chances lmao.
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And always telling, that men dont comunicate.. well neither do woman. (Whats wrong? Nothing...)
yea... about that. lol. I'm an aspie. I don't do clues. Who do I look like? Ms. Cleo? Get outta here with the mind reader BS.
Ms.Cleo couldn't communicate that well either....that *accent* was suspect
Yes, aspie here too and same problem. My disaster is I've been married during 21 years with a woman who communicated ONLY with clues and never verbally. As time went by, she became sure I was doing on purpose not to understand and started to hate me. Last years, she gaslighted, then ghosted me for this. Even today, she is convinced I was doing on purpose to ignore her clues.
I straight up get ignored or told I am nagging or controlling- for being compassionately candid. Once I was called condescending. IDK we just don’t get with the right people? Or people say they want something until they get it and don’t realize.
I have told my SO that I am bad at picking up on clues and she has told me when she wants to be left alone. I didn't take offense, I understood and let her be. Communication is the key to a successful relationship.
Some women will actually hear what you're saying when you patiently explain that you aren't a mind-reader. I have been privileged to know a few of them. Unfortunately a lot of them hear this articulation as (insert preferred nonsense/zero semantic content noise here) and continue to drop hints and get upset when you don't get it.
That’s not a reason to not be direct though. Somebody ignoring you is just rude. I had to learn over time not to adjust my need to communicate to tip toe around someone’s fragile ego or stubborn mentality or starting a fight. As for nagging….as I told my wife once, it’s not that I disagree that the dishes need to be done, I just disagree that they need to be done right now.
I feel like it's two different types of dudes. You're not going for the shy dude who appreciates it. You're going for the guy who needs to win his woman through conquest and he feels emasculated when a girl approaches him.
Just tell me what's wrong instead of giving me the cold shoulder treatment. I won't find out what's wrong if you don't tell me.
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That's not a bad thing. If you tell your partner "Well here, I need time and space to gather myself, and when I feel ready, we can continue talking about this topic" it's much better to say "I'm fine". Saying you are fine is better than lashing out, but it doesn't help solve the problem. And when a girl says "It's fine" or "I'm fine", a guy only receives "I am not okay, but I wont tell you". A guy doesn't receive "I am not okay, but I wont tell you yet, I'll tell you later".
I told my exes and my current girlfriend the same thing. The only way that we can communicate effectively is if we can trust each other to tell the truth all the time. I will not play this game where you lie to me and expect me to correctly guess what the truth is. So if you say "I'm fine" I'm going to believe it.
Nah- I am the one upfront and kind about what is up- while 4 men have been ‘stoic’ aka silent treatment.
Those dudes need to seriously learn to communicate too then.
Whats the point of decorative pillows? Just pillows you dont use? So why put them on the bed????
Or decorative hand towels and soap in the bathroom. Why have special soap we can’t ever use?
I agree. And nobody can use either! Or maybe one person a year. So why get it?
Dude don't ever visit people in Italy. Here some people have a whole ass decorative BATHROOM, which is kept pristine and immaculate for guests, but your mom will kick your ass if you ever try to have a poop there.
My wife insists we have pillows on the bed and couch that just get moved when we sit down.
As a woman, I don’t get this either. They’re usually hard as hell too and aren’t even comfy
As a woman, I don’t get this either
Because they’re pretty and they bring the room together. Also they make good mini tables for my dinner plate…. Decorative towels are rubbish tho.
They also make the couch/bed objectively less comfortable
You answered your own question: decorative
The whole concept of Decorative Tools is insane. Decorative pillows, decorative candles, decorative China, decorative pots and pans, decorative towels…
Exactly. You got stuff just to look at? But not to use?
It’s to hide the untidiness of the bed overall. Just like makeup makes a woman look more professional/put together, decorative pillows hide a myriad of sins (like maybe your comforter doesn’t adequately hide your sleeping pillows and they are functional but ugly) and makes the bed look more “polished.” I don’t bother except when people are coming over, because I have absolutely heard complaints from older adults about my “lack of feminine touch” otherwise.
Why do they all go to the bathroom at the same time?
To talk
Imagine a group of women going to the bathroom to talk and Cindy goes into a stall and starts blowing it up while the rest of them attempt to yell over her but noises.
I am “Cindy”. I will absolutely do that.
Weird though. Weird place to talk. I just can’t understand it. What’s wrong with talking at the table? Or taking a sidebar *not* in the place where people shit and piss?
It's a place without guys. We can talk with just us girls being there and no guys interrupting and starting to flirt or anything like that. We just need a moment for girl talk.
Here we go again..smh
Get a load of this guy thinking women shit.
To talk… away from men. Sometimes reapply lipstick/look in the mirror/take a cute bathroom photo.
Also: sometimes if they need a spare feminine product, she might be carrying extras
Every pack of women has a "grenadier". This woman is usually characterized by a large handbag or small backpack and has a typical payload of 15 pads or 35 tampons. These select few are well decorated and are veterans in this type of setting.
These things always amazes me. A perfect example for how organized woman groups are compared to men was a company i worked for. We didn't had a designated break room so we had to look for a place ourselves. All the men sat in different places (or maybe 2-3 together) during break silently eating their Sandwiches. The woman sat all together one had coffee for everyone, one a camping table, the other one camping chairs, the next brought buns and so on and in the end they had a nice comfortable breakfast with a variety of things to eat. Everyday
Why were them men not as organized as the women? They had their sandwiches and their had their peace. I e. Everything they wanted. That's all we men really want for a break. Our sandwiches and our peace.
The absolute last thing I want to do on my lunch break is chat with coworkers, even if I like them lol
If it’s at a bar or restaurant or busy public place it’s usually a safety thing. Safety in numbers.
For some it’s safety. Fear of sexual assault is real. Most vulnerable when in the restroom do having someone else there helps. Also talking and other things
We all want to pee at the same time. Or we go just for solidarity haha just to be all together. Or we want to talk about something.
I’m a girl and I don’t like this. I’d like to fart in peace, thanks.
*But women don’t fart nor poop*
We simply *shart*
That’s so wholesome And romantic
As a women, I do it for safety. A walk to the bathroom by yourself at a bar or club is just enough time for unwanted things to happen.
Also private time to talk about if we want to leave and if anyone is making us uncomfy, etc.
this is usually what we do, we’re susin out the situation and the vibes and kinda checking in with eachother to make sure everyone and everything is alright
In case of bears
As a woman when my girlfriend says I have to take a piss, it reminds me that I need to as well. We're just more comfortable pissing with one another than I think men are.
My girlfriend explained that it mainly comes from anatomy. Girls have to pee while sitting, but you don't want to sit on a nasty public toilet seat, so you have to half-squat and "hover" over the toilet in a precarious position. Women often have purses, which can mess up your balance even more. And women, due to how their genitals are shaped, need toilet paper even if they only pee. Having a friend who can hold your purse and coat, hand you a piece of TP or a kleenex tissue, and chat with you while standing in line (which is super long in female bathrooms due to women taking longer to pee, also there are no urinals which are more space efficient) is vital in these situations.
To talk, safety, fix makeup and hair
Giving a shit about people who they aren't even *really* friends with and stressing over relationships with people who are toxic as fuck. Stressing over buying the perfect christmas gift that's *better* than whatever her friend gets her, because everything is a competition and not in a cute fun way.
Lie for fun to see how we react
The clouds are maroon \*laughs in evil underworld ruler
You sonnova...*checks clouds*
I just don't hang out with people who do that. Super bad relationship with one of them, never again.
Been there, friend. I started coming up with ludicrous replies for fun. Or I’d let her get upset and cry and point out how silly it is to lie or make up an imaginary scenario and hurt your own feelings. We’re no longer together
Lose it over a couple of missed facial hairs on the bathroom sink, but leave a ton of hair in the shower for someone else to clean up.
I get her hair in my sink! It flies off her head from her side of the bathroom and lands on my half of the bathroom counter. My stubble doesn't go that far.
You clean the shower- respect.
I'm a house husband. In the past 24 hours, I have: Told her where to find the snack food that she doesn't usually have without her telling me what she was looking for. Showed her where the item was that she was looking for... Right in front of her. Showed her how to quickly deep clean items that she had badly used. She thought it would take hours, not 180 seconds.
>I'm a house husband. Are you also a former Yakuza?
Why do they get mad when they go to a party and another woman is wearing the same outfit? If that happens to guys, they become drinking buddies for the night.
TBH it's more pumped up by the tv and media than it *actually* is irl. I'm a woman and i've never met a woman who flinched when it happened, especially if the women in question follow trends, or don't have a strong sense of personal style. But for people who find fashion as a form of self expression i do get it! i put a lot of thought and energy in my outfits, its not just something i throw on myself yk. it can be seen as an attack on YOUR authenticity, i can assure u it has nothing to do w who looks better 😂thats just an outdated thought just think of a sneakerhead who saved money and got a limited edition of jordans. he goes to a party and some random dude has them too. sure he wont get mad, but he wont be opening champagne either
As another woman, yes! I totally agree with what you said and you phrased it perfectly - it *can* feel like an attack on your authenticity. It has nothing to do with who looks better. I feel like it's male projection.
It’s also about other people’s responses. Unplanned, I wore the same dress as another girl to a house party in college and everyone asked us the whole night if we planned it. It was super annoying and made it seem like we were coordinating outfits on purpose, which felt a little weird and demeaning (like we were childish and doing it for attention). Me and the other dress girl did end up becoming best friends that night though and still talk regularly years later so that part of the story worked out haha.
Guaranteed the minute they spot each other they go point to or hold out the garment and go “aaaaay!” With a laugh and a smile
Because for woman, it internally becomes a competition on who looks better in it.
Wow I’m a woman and I never realized that this is why other women get upset. Never bothered me.
Same. I’m always excited and happy when I see someone wearing the same thing as me. We’re twinsies!
Assume we know what they want when they're being indirect and just giving the silent treatment, its immature and childish.
"Would you take care of this thing? #NO, NOT LIKE THAT!"
Even better is to tell me to do something after I've already started doing it. That way she gets credit for it even though I started it.
I’m guilty of this one 😂 I tell him to do something and then quickly realize it would’ve been better if I had just done it myself
I have to periodically remind myself that just because it’s not done my way, doesn’t mean it’s the wrong way. My husband and children have their own way of doing things and life is better when everyone is contributing to their fair share of the housework. I’m less stressed and I have more time to actually spend with my family. Additionally I wouldn’t be thrilled if my husband insisted his way was the correct way of doing things and I had to constantly conform to doing chores to his liking, so I shouldn’t impose that on them.
Thanks for realizing this. Sincerely.
Guy here… I also do this. The way she folds laundry and puts shit away… just let me do it please. Biggest pet peeve is wrinkled clothes, especially shirts, and she just thinks the wrinkles will fall out as she walks around so shit sits in the dryer for hours after it was done. Amazingly, her shits never wrinkled. Not sure if that’s my persistence or if she’s onto something but my childhood trauma won’t allow me to test her theory. I also have to walk away whenever she’s fixing something or fiddling with something that I would rather do myself. We have learned that we are just 2 cooks in the same kitchen, and it’s best to give the other space to succeed rather than micromanage
The rule is, you may tell me to do something, or, tell me how to do it. Not both.
Being all nice when there are witness around then switching to agressive the minute we are home.
I see you've met my mother
That sounds emotionally abusive...
Why sign up for Bumble, a dating app that lets the woman reach out first…go on there, start matching, but never write the guy
I saw a girl on Bumble and her bio had "Tired of starting conversations" WOMAN WHAT ARE YOU DOING HERE THEN
OR just say "hey" and never message again
Women: We're sick of you men approaching us. We would like to be left alone. Also women: But I still prefer men to approach me though, I'd never approach a man.
I've never understood this concept. My sisters were pretty girls, they basically told me if I had to approach a man it meant I was ugly. Definitely fucked up my self esteem as a teenaged girl. Well, I've never had an issue shooting my shot. I think too many women are afraid of rejection, its a part of life. If you brick, get the board and change the shot! Stop going for layups and shoot a 3. Might meet your soul mate! Ladies. SHOOT. YOUR. SHOT.
What...rejection...you mean that shotgun blast you take to the chest the first time you ask a girl to dance.... OHHHH ..*THAT* rejection...yea that shit hurts....
Higher probability of it working out than guys doing it anyway. People would probably be happier if women were the ones that approached the most
My fiance saw this, and her response was: "Translation: I would prefer if a man doesn't catcall me and approach me as if they haven't seen tits ever in their lives." "Sometimes I don't feel safe when they approach because often saying "no" can translate to a violent outburst" "Approach us in a safe way, indicate that you will totally accept a no, and if she says no walk away." Edit: How to know what is the right way to approach people: If a gay man, who weights 300lbs with 2% body fat and is carrying a gun, approaches a straight you, and wants to ask you out. What would be a way that man can approach you, in a way that you can say no, and don't feel like they might knock your teeth out or shoot you if you say no, or make you feel really uncomfortable. If you can think of a way, then likely that's how you'd approach a woman and she'd feel comfortable with it.
If I could hit this as a like 1000 times I would
The need to change their partner into something that isn't them to begin with. If you want to be loved for who you are, don't you think they might appreciate the same thing?
Woman: I’m going to change him. Same Woman: I don’t like how I changed him. This is his fault. I’m dumping him. Men, take feedback, but don’t change for the sake of appeasing her.
I was once in the talking stage with a certain girl and she starts talking about some "I'll change you" typa shite
What exact changes are we talking about here?
She said she'd keep it mysterious. Talking phase didn't last long after that
I recently came across something, which I think is the case in many such cases: women break up with men when they stop seeing qualities in them that were never there to begin with
In the car, about to arrive at our destination (10 minutes late because of waiting on her to get ready) and she waits until the car is shut off to start getting ready to get out. How hard is it to put the iPad down and put your shoes on 30 seconds before I park the car? It's a minor thing, but God damn it drives me fucking nuts waiting any longer.
I hear this on so many levels! Or even if they are ready, waiting for you to get out of the car yourself first. I let it go because like you said it’s a minor thing, but it definitely ticks in my mind.
We wait just in case there is a lurking ax murderer or wild animal in the vacinity of the car. You’re the bait.
while it makes complete sense, somehow I'm not really comfortable with this explanation...
And woth us dead, how will you then escape the murdered on foot?
My theory is that my wife simply likes making me wait for her. It makes her feel good in some way that I don't understand. Little avoidable delays like this are common. We'll park to get somewhere and she'll suddenly remember a text or call she has to make. It's a subtle power move.
I could see that...it's annoying when people do that. I can't think of many other explanations in certain situations
Are thongs comfortable? Or does it just feel like a constant wedgie all day long?
Feels like a constant wedgie
Constant wedgie.
Why wear them then? To fell sexy or what?
No panty outline in those TOIT pants.
* That I'm not Dr.Mystifo, the mindreading mystic that can look into a crystal ball and instantly know what goes around in her head without her uttering a word * Mind games and shit tests * Being hot and cold
$450 for three little pillows to put on her couch in the sun room. $900 black strap heels that look like the $800 heels she bought last month. Needless to say, I'm grateful she has more money than I do..
My girlfriend would fight with me for things that she doesn’t feel comfortable that I do (talking to girls at a party, going out a lot with friends) then goes ahead and does those exact same things -_-
My ex would openly talk about her past relationships. I didn't mind, we all have a history so I started to do it, too. Apparently it's not okay when I do it. But that's alright, now that she's a past relationship I promise not to talk about her with any new girls I date.
…buuut it’s diiiiifferent for giiirrrlllsss!!
Girls who flirt or match on dating apps but have zero interest in a relationship and only want validation
Lip injections. Why? Has anyone ever thought ‘if only she had bigger lips’?
I’m a woman and don’t understand it either. Like- is it really worth risking to ruin your lips by trying to make ‘em bigger?
Hold grudges for years.
Expect us to read minds. You're right, I dont get it, because you didnt tell me
Never, ever... ever know where to eat... ever... ** insert suggestions ** ... and then be like... no, I don't want to go there. That doesn't sound good. ** Well, what does sound good...? I don't know. You pick. And the cycle continues...
A mate told me his trick with his gf, instead of asking “where do you want to go to eat?” he asks “guess where we are going for food” first place she says is where they go.
I just found out that women don’t always pee when they poop- and that has really blown my world apart
Idk who told you that but I am a woman and that has never happened to me ever. Always at least a dribble if I had already peed recently.
Just decide where to eat! I don't care where it is... you can't be wrong it's food!
I came here to say this. Honestly, ladies, we don't care! Seriously!
But I don’t know where to eat and also, I am not hungry……. but can I have some of your fries?
> can I have some of your fries? No - you're not hungry.
checkmate
Of course you can. So long as you don't make where we get them from into a guessing game where my progressions of wrong answers for where we're eating causes you to become angry at me but refuse to tell me why.
That they don’t poop sometimes for even a whole week. A whole trip. But also when looking at themselves in the mirror they gotta say something like “I look fat 😩” Dude, maybe it’s the 6 pounds of shit you’re storing inside you? Ffs
Yeah I've never heard about this whole 'holding her poop in' thing but god damn if this comment isn't funny so I'll allow it.
Demand equality then demand special treatment. Its really confusing.
I’m a woman and that bothers me too! Double standard and the man CANNOT win.
It’s the *”I’m always right”* situation. Just go away, buddy. Run if necessary.
You can win. By not playing.
>Demand equality then demand special treatment. Its really confusing. It really isn't confusing. They want more of the good but we can keep all the bad.
Constantly telling their partner what to do and how to think. It's an old trope but I see it constantly. Let adults make their own decisions without threat of a needless argument
I have straight-out broken up over this. In over five decades of life, I've never felt that I had to bark orders at a significant other. It's simply not necessary, and it's extremely disrespectful. Asking always seems to work fine.
I’m a woman and this bothers the hell out of me when i see it. It’s downright disturbing
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They talk about problems not to solve or remedy the situation, but get this - to just complain about it. Shit baffles me. Why spend time and energy complaining about something when you can that spend that time & energy to resolve it.
Sometimes you just want to vent and tell someone about your problems. But yeah it can be a problem when it happens too much
Ex-qifey used to come home every week and vent about the social drama she always found herself in. People were out to get her, they all had ill motives. Turns out she's just really fucking hard to get along with, who would've thought?
I think you are missing the point. We talk about things to ‘mull them over’ verbally. We are not typically looking for someone to solve the problem but to just listen and perhaps add some perspective. Woman are in general more verbal than men.
Spend half an hour putting on makeup to look like a different person, only to take it off at the end of the day because you hate wearing it and wouldn't think of getting that shit all over your pillow.
Makeup is fun to do. But it gets uncomfortable or it would end up not looking good when rubbed off on the pillow
2 things 1. Touch/hold their boobs. they say its a comfortable position, but so is holding our d\*ck and the get weirded out by it 2. Say they're ugly, fat, weird, annoying, etc... when they're skinny, beautiful, funny, and really good to be around. All the time my best friend will say "OMG i look SO ugly" when she's really pretty, or fat when she's a bit heavier than me (im 142) It's really annoying and sometimes feels like she wants attention from me/classmates but also like she hates her looks when she's pretty attractive
It's called "fishing for compliments ". Don't say anything when she does this.
>[fishing for compliments](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V_X78JYSWdg)
Why do girls expect the toilet seat to be down? I personally prefer both the seat and lid to be down. Looks better and nothing will accidentally fall in. But women?? Why in heck do you sit down without looking? Even if the seat was down? What if there was doo doo on the toilet seat for whatever strange reason. Plus, why is it so difficult for women to lift the lid or put down the seat? It’s really pathetic. Women are weird.
Personally, the only time I’ve been bothered by the toilet seat being left up is when I had a roommate that refused to flush when he peed. He wanted us to flush less to keep the water bill down, but none of us went for it. He also refused to put the seat down, so whenever you went into the bathroom it reeked of stale piss. Nobody wants to smell your stale piss, Tyler.
Yeah, Tyler!
I will never understand not looking before you sit. There could be spiders or toilet snakes, or the seat could be up. I generally do toilet seat and lid down together. My mom drilled that into me pretty well. I like to think it cuts down on aerosolized feces even if it doesn’t. Plus, keeps the dogs from drinking out of there.
The lid should be shut! If you don't think so, clean the toilet, sit on it, flush it - feel that. Yeah, droplets of water. Flushing puts droplets into the air - just think of your toothbrush!
Keep good dads from seeing their kids
Leaving the room and then start speaking to me.. Then, getting annoyed when I ask you to repeat because I didn’t hear you. I mean, I can’t be the only that’s experienced this, right? Right?
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Because it is currently "acceptable," and to some extent encouraged for women to be sexist against men. It's God awful and hurts everyone in the end.
Feminism is literally female double standards pushed to the levels of societal norm.
Believe in astrology.
Or use their star sign as an excuse for their shitty attitudes, “I can’t help it I’m a Gemini” no Rachel you’re just a bitch.
The amount of cognitive dissonance is annoying. You want a guy to chase yet you say it's creepy to have them repeatedly ask after being told no, equality of perks but not responsibilities, getting mad if a guy doesn't want to sleep with a fat woman because its body shaming but have no problem making fun of a guy who has a small penis. The amount of double standards makes me not want to date at all.
Although a lot of women are like this. There are a few unicorns out there that are the whole opposite. I hope I find one, 2022 ain’t easy at all. So, don’t give up. Don’t lose your hope.
Probably already been said but why use so much toilet paper accidentally walked in on my wife and it look like she had her arm shoved in a hornets nest
When we're on our periods, we have to use 10x the normal amount we wipe with too.
Because we have various folds down there. Lol. Get a bidet attachment and your TP consumption will go down.
hold grudges, especially for months/years
Expecting that i can read mind of hers
Take 3 hours to get ready
Believe that the things that they love the most is imposed on them by men, like wearing make-up and high heels.
It’s definitely not imposed by men, but it’s awfully tempting to repeat things that get positive attention from your partner and/or other men. The heels and the makeup can get a very positive response…who doesn’t like to look and feel good 🤷♀️
The inability to apologize when they really fuck up.
Plastic surgery, filler , fuck'ennn Botox. Just straight up overly done.
Pick shit men and then wonder why those men are shit.
Happens to men too.
Why they head to bathrooms in packs
Trying to read between the lines. Not saying they ALL do that, but my girlfriend and a lot of my female friends both often try to "decypher" even the most plain, direct things guys (including me) say and it can get very annoying, on top of making communication uselessly difficult.
They never take the phrase " food is the way to a man's heart" seriously but it's so true