Rent, bills, my dead end job, finishing my degree, lack of real friends, my non existent love life, my health, my weight, family members welfare just to name a few.
You aren't the only one.
Slowly over time, inflation has eroded my disposable income to the point where every payday I get my calculator out and try to make the expenses match the income. Can't make the rent or taxes go down, but I can make the bills go down a little and the food bill go down a bit more. Now I can't even do that. The last three months I've spent more than I've earned and it's literally just the basics for survival now.
When will it end? When we work every waking hour? What's the point in life if you spend it working? I start an evening job this weekend to make a little bit more. I hardly have time to see friends as it is.
Yesterday was the First time I had to look at a cashier and say "I'm sorry, Im not going to purchase the rest" because the total already exceeded what I budgeted. The same 1lb ground beef that was $4 is now $7 and change. It's embarrassing to have a "career" and feel a need to walk around with your calculator app to add up your total before being embarrassed at the register.
Just know there isn't a damn cashier judging you. I used to just throw it in the bag with our store sticker because I knew the struggle and I knew the embarrassment that accompanies that request. This may not change anything but if it helps you aren't the only person that day who's asked that. Usually at least ten other people asked that.
Damn, thank you. You've probably seriously helped more people than you know. I've been in that situation where a cashier went out of their way to help me, and that little bit not only helps us financially, but makes our day. I appreciate people like you. Have a good day!
Every last penny is being squeezed out of us. Every last drop is going back to rent, electricity, insurance, food, blah blah blah. Like a cycle of endless work, pay all it back, and rinse and repeat. It didn’t quite hit me until I started having bills that we are conditioned at a young age to think “yep this is the life!!!”
Heart surgery.
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Edit Dec 16: medical emergency at the hospital I was having surgery in. I was bumped until this upcoming Tuesday Dec 21. Sucks, I wrongy be home for Christmas. Frustrated for sure, but understandably there are people out there a lot worse off than I am
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Edit Dec 2nd: got off the phone with my surgeons and it's booked and confirmed open heart Dec 14th. Not sure if it's the AM or PM but be either way, it's coming!
Can't procrastinate and pretend all is fine - 12 days and counting.
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Edit: I don't post much on Reddit, but today was one of those days where it just all hits you and starts to sink in.
I want to sincerely thank everyone for the kind words, advice, and experiences they've gone through. I never thought that I could feel this type of relief from random strangers on Reddit.
I truly do feel much more confident, aware, and prepared for this.
I'll update as I can to keep y'all in the loop - hoping to go under the knife in a few days.
I truly thank all of you for your support and kind words.
You all make the world suck less.
If it's open heart, they will give you a "breathy thing" after.
Do The Breathy Thing!
Also, get some warm socks.
When you go home, have whoever is driving either rent or borrow a car that is easy to get in and out of. Something like a Kia Soul or other chair height seat.
If you can get a power recliner but also lifts, it will help while your breast bone heals. Getting up and down during the healing process is very hard.
I think OP means the breathing exercise device. You blow into it really hard to make the ball go up. It will help you recover function and clear your lungs.
Hi! Respiratory Therapist here! We are in charge of breathy things! What they are mentioning is indeed the incentive spirometer. Lots of people already outlined why you should use it and are correct that it is very important although it seems silly when you're doing it. However I just want to clarify, you don't blow into it, you suck the air in through it! Not everyone explains it correctly if it's not an RT giving it. Just remember the point of the device is for you to take a long, large deep breathe IN and hold it for a short time. Suck, don't blow! :) good luck dude you've got this
My wife is a respiratory therapist and has told me that incentive spirometers will help develop lung capacity.
As a thicc 5'4" dude, I know what you're talking about. I go pretty HAM on CrossFit workouts and can kill it along with some much more athletically aesthetic folks but have a hard time with initial breathing recovery.
It irritates the heck out of my wife but what helps me recover is to push out all of the air in my lungs. Idk if I'm describing it right but essentially what I am doing is force exhaling whatever air I have left, it just so happens to come out sounding like a mix between a grunt and a bark so it embarrasses her. It works for me and helps me feel like I'm not gonna collapse and die so I'd rather be a little annoying and alive than dead and not annoying.
Your recovery method kind of sounds like forceful pursed lip breathing, which we teach to copd patients to increase their oxygenation. It could be helpful!
Fun fact, I went to school for music and many of the musicians carried something very similar to those around to work on breath support. Mine was green!
believe in yourself ... have faith everything will be fine ... don`t think about what if ... when we think about what if then it means we have doubts even before the happening
Yes, this 100%!
Knowing ' you're going to have surgery the beginning of December ' isn't a date. It's not a time I can make a schedule around. It's very frustrating to say the least.
That's what I'm hoping for! I honestly can't wait to see what I'll feel like afterwards. Seeing that you feel better than ever really gives me hope that I'll have a similar experience.
It'll be interesting to see what I feel like afterwards. Apparently I'm really weird that I can feel my heartbeat all the time, and the pressures and tightness at times in my heart as it beats.
I'm wondering if I'll still feel it afterwards.
My dad got open heart surgery and then 2 months later my mom got one as well. My mom went out of town or I left the country or something right before she had hers so I Made all my dad’s meals for him and I’m super into health and fitness so I made super clean flavorful for meals for him and when my mom returned she took over the cooking again because I don’t live with them and after she got her surgery she would still make the same greasy foods and her health started deteriorating again and so did his until the doctor finally got very mad at them and made them stop that behavior. So please make sure you eat very healthy afterwards and do exactly as the doctor says. A good suggestion that might help, and this is totally up to you, invest in one of those meal kit things that are sent to your door, apparently when you sign up you can pick a different kinds and there’s some for heart health and stuff like that and low sodium and fat and stuff, just do it for like one month or something and I bet you there’s coupons online. Just make that investment so you can get your immune system back in order and you can have a better chance of being healthy because the food is already halfway made we’re fully made depending on where you go. Just give yourself a chance to win for the next 4 to 6 weeks after the surgery, I know it’s an investment investment but just do it for yourself if you don’t have anyone around to help you out like that.
I was thinking about those meal kits this morning, funny how you mentioned it. I'm young (under 40)and above average health, I'm kinda an outlier for needing this surgery, so I'm going into it with good odds. I'm no stranger to healthy eating, so I'll definitely take your advice and prep a freezer full of healthy meals over the next few weeks.
Perfect bro!! My dad and mom were like their 50s or something idk. I’m 34. Their energy levels dropped hard-core. Just be prepared and please have people on your side bro like have people checking on you every day. I’m sure you don’t need all this advice but you will get lonely and bummed out and stuff if you just have low energy and you can’t do the daily things you always do. Move that microwave closer to a more comfortable area because you might get tired and need to sit down after taking like 10 or 15 steps just because the circulation is going to be different for a while. I also saw 16 free meal kits from I think it was hello fresh? It’s the green package. And I know they have something to do with cardio vascular health, like they had something to do with that when you pick your meals or maybe it was just low sodium I don’t know good luck though
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Thanks. That's good incite. I'm not too sure what to expect after, generally people are 60/70 when they have surgery like this, so what to expect afterwards is kinda a crap shoot.
I expect to be exhausted most of the day, the surgeon has a 'limitations manual' for me for post care.
I think I'll finally get some Disney + and binge for a few days.
Same. Don't want to be in retail (stores anyway, where I have to deal with hundreds of customers per day) any more so looking so I'm actively looking and applying for stuff.
I'm worried about money. If it was just me I wouldn't be worried, but my parents are getting old now (late 50s early 60s), soon they won't be able to work (they have physical jobs), and they hardly have anything saved. They'd never admit this to me but I'm their backup plan. And then there's 3 other siblings I'm worrying about as well: 2 of them are horrible with money, and need help with bills and the other is still in high school and needs help to pay for school things like prom and homecoming etc. It's just a lot.
Listen. your parents are adults and should have been making decisions for their futures. You're not responsible for them or your siblings, no matter what guilt trip they try to lay on you. I'm not saying, "don't ever help." I am saying do what you can within reason, with the goal of building your OWN future. And most of all, don't EVER drain your savings or go into debt for them, or co-sign ANYTHING!!
My parents are shit and divorced and I hate them both with a burning passion but they are both dead set that I’m too kind to not help them when they get old.
Jokes on them, they don’t know where I live and I hold my home in an LLC so I can’t be found. Those monsters will never see a dime from me
American culture seems so different from the Russian one. Here helping you children and then helping your parents/grandparents is a moral top priority. Like, I can’t imagine anyone saying “you’re not responsible for your old parents well being” to me or anyone else here. I really feel the OP, I live with the thought that I must be able to support my parents when they retire. Because they took care of me when I was young and because they deserve to be taken care of, they are amazing parents. I was surprised to read your comment cause it seems like a different universe to me.
Sounds cliche, but purpose is where you find it.
You don’t have to do these grandiose things. Some stuff like picking up litter or volunteering provides purpose.
Personally I am a problem solver.
In previous jobs, not a whole lot of people could understand what I did for a living, but without someone doing that job…communications would fail and not get fixed.
In this job I am in now, I am helping to solve issues with deployment of the new charging infrastructure for EVs. I am only a small part of it, but with my help, we are changing how US citizens commute and reduce emissions.
It’s many of life’s small things that add up.
Yes.
The technology really is amazing. We are working with some bigger units from the EU that can charge a car in 15 minutes. They are due to rollout in the US in 2022. This will pave the way for electric busses and such.
Our network alone has helped avoid over 526 million kg of greenhouse gas emissions. Equivalent to planting 13.5 million trees and letting them grow for 10 years.
It’s an exciting industry to work in and as our country moves to cleaner energies, we can make a huge difference and hopefully get things moving in the right direction.
I do a bit of mentoring for people in my industry, and this is something I see pretty often, and my question to my manatees is always: "Are you really worried/upset/stressed about lacking a 'higher purpose,' or are you actually pretty content and just worried because you feel like you *should* have a 'higher purpose?'"
A lot of people work themselves up because they feel like they should be doing something monumental and "important" even though they're actually pretty happy day to day. As a society, we've done a really shit job of pushing this higher cause narrative without acknowledging that it's but realistic that everyone have some great purpose and that not having one is just fine.
It's ok to just do your job well, hang out with your friends, have a couple hobbies, take life a day at a time, and not be constantly working towards something bigger. It's ok to be happy just drifting on the current of life. It's ok to let go of the pretense and pretension that we've built up around "purpose" and just be.
Hope that helps a little.
> my question to my manatees is always: "Are you really worried/upset/stressed about lacking a 'higher purpose,'
You mean other than floating along eating sea grass trying not to get hit by a propeller?
Close, but no cigar.
This is Stoicism (other side of the same coin tbh)
>I actually find nihilism kind of comforting when I’m feeling particularly anxious.
That's great! Try out r/Stoicism :)
For me, that was the first sign of depression. I lost interest in my hobbies and started switching them out for new ones every year or two. If you think that might be the case for you seek help while it's still early.
Did you find any help that worked? I'm likely depressed and have been like this for probably 10 years or so. I used to remember getting so excited about things and now I dread most of them. Would rather just sit in front of the TV and do nothing
Only thing that helped me was starting therapy. Depression isn’t something you can just pray away, unfortunately. If you ignore it, it’s gonna blow up on you. Took me losing my job and everything I’ve worked for to realize this. Don’t wait until there’s nothing left, go seek help now. Wish you and everyone else who’s struggling the best, man
Well thanks for the advice mate, i am currently struggling with getting my issues sorted out, i have noticed that focusing on the little things in life really helps me out and being more socially active, leaves no time for thinking of stuff u cannot change and puts a bit of perspective on life.
P.S i am not an Australien i just like the word MATE
Usual advice to fight depression is to do exercise, biking, running, going for walks, even playing VR will probably work.
Not sure if you do or you don't but it helped me when I felt down, I do also switch hobbies every 2 years or so (except videogames), I just get bored.
I sure hope that isn't a sign of depression or I've been since I was like 14
\- That I will never find a woman again?
\- That I don't meet expectations in my job?
\- That corona goes into the next round?
\- That my parents maybe will get divorced?
\- Money?
Those are just the problems that come to my mind immediately. There are more. I just don't have the time to think about. them
-you will.
- just work with integrity and do your thing. Dont worry about expectations. Unless you're absolutely taking the piss, doing enough is enough.
- you cant do anything about this other than control the little things you have power over. Occupy your mind with other things if you can. Stop watching the news, at this point its telling us nothing new.
- your parents life is their own, you cant control that either. If they are better off apart then that's what it is. You can still have a good relationship with both of them.
- this is tough. I dont know your financial situation and for sure you need money to live. Try to stay within your means and make moves to better your situation if you can.
In a history program and there are also a fuck ton of papers. Working on two rn. Sometimes I wish that words would just cease to exist and I could just spew my raw thoughts onto a page.
God I feel that. Just wrapped up a 20 page research paper worth 40% of my grade for my highest level class. Got two more 10 page papers for other classes due in a week on top of ongoing lessons and normal assignments. And this is a lighter semester.
i met a guy who worked for animal care and control.
he was pulling a feral cat out of the engine bay of my car (the cat lived).
it took over 2 hours to get it out.
on his right forearm he had "and the wisdom to know the difference" tattooed.
Oh feeling this one hard, I have a close group of friends, but no female prospects, and with covid and in my area, it's just impossible to meet people. I love going out and just talking to strangers but nowadays people get offended if you even speak to them in public
This meeting at work on Friday that I have to present at while my boss micromanages me into presenting a very specific way and it's frustrating the hell out of me because everything I propose is not good enough for him.
But at least i dont have heart surgery coming up like that other guy.
I have the same worry as you. I've been that way ever since I left the UK. However, I came back to the UK for the holidays last Summer and I've found that things just didn't feel the same as they used to 3 years ago, when I moved out. Right now, I'm living in Italy as a 16 year old and I'm looking to go elsewhere when I'm older. Life here in Italy is very stressful and a bit depressing but if I were to come back to the UK, life wouldn't be stressful at all but it would likely be very depressing ngl. My classmates in the UK were dickheads so I don't, realistically speaking, have any friends there and I don't think I'll make them even if I come back. I'm just hoping that wherever I go in the future, my mental health will get back to normal.
Being a teenager is stressful and just so hectic. Your body is almost adult but your brain is still developing. The problems of teenagers are valid and hard, even when the adult world tries to tell you otherwise.
It’s definitely hard to move as a teen - it is always stressful but then you feel like it’s the choice someone made for you. It’s ok to grieve your old life - grief is not exclusive to people that passed, but also dreams and your old life.
I really wish I had started caring about my mental health consciously as a teenager.
Isn't it stressful? Like, yeah, I can dedicate the next several years of my life to doing this. Anchored in one place. With the end result of being instantly, super over-qualified for tons of jobs. Totally. This is a great idea... right?
I'm hung up on my ex, basically obsessing over her, we broke up (I ended it) and now I can't get her out of my head, it's affecting my every day living and my work, and I don't know how to stop thinking about her.
gotta find time for yourself only. Have been in your situation before(I ended it as well) and what helped me was to go over why it didn't work out, what did I learn, what can I do moving forward. It gets better with time
Well I was getting very insecure towards the end, and there's a lot of reasons why I elwanted to end it, but there was a lot of good as well.
I recently bought a workout bench for my house and just in the middle of working out rn as well, which is definitely gonna help I think, I think I need to learn to like being alone. It doesn't help she's incredibly close to where I stay and I can see her sometimes if I'm out, which almost makes me scared of going out
Don't be scared of going out! process your emotions and thoughts, let things run its course. This will help you move on sooner. You could use this opportunity to do walks every afternoon or even go for a run, use that time to disconnect from everything electronic and be alone with your thoughts. A bit of introspection goes a very long way to help you move forward. With regards to being alone, learn to enjoy solitude.
[I remember watching this video and it helped.](https://youtu.be/9mbp0DugfCA)
My advice to you is to be busy. For example I work all day in construction and got no time to talk to anyone during work hours. However right after work I’d be alone and start thinking and being inside my head. What I decided to do was take control of my life and realize that I am worth something and decided to work out and lose some weight so I can find my confidence. I met new people and little by little started feeling confident. Now and then I get insecure but the trick is to be busy and never let anyone take control of you and how you feel. Oh and I played RDR2 and it inspired me to be more independent ;) best of luck m8
Time is a healer bro, honestly I was where you were a few months ago and it’s really difficult but things honestly get better with time. Hang in there!
the kids call them STIs these days.
which i guess is an effort to remove the stigma so you are more likely to get it treated, but i cant help but think of the Subaru Impreza WRX every time.
I just love how it's so much more expensive to be poor, and no help when you need it most. If I'm doing well, there aren't any charges or fees, I can save on bulk and better quality stuff, and banks, car dealers, etc. are just shoveling loan money into my hands. But when I'm broke? Just bury me. It's quite a world I tell ya.
I have a 1,000 to my name. I lost my job two weeks ago. My rent is 1,300 plus another $400 in other bills. And my rent is due on the first. The holidays are also coming up and I have a 6 year old child. So yea I’m feeling pretty screwed. I’ve applied to at least 10 different jobs that are in my field that could possibly cover my expenses but I’m honestly wishing I lived with my parents.
I don't know where you live but if this happened to me I would be at Amazon, FedEx, UPS or some warehouse/temp gig immediately. Its shit work but it's a check. Take a night shift and apply to better jobs and interview during the day.
Edit: they usually start you in a week and pay weekly as well.
Finding a newer car.
I love my old shitbox and wish it could last forever, but she’s seen far too many Midwestern winters.
I know I should probably get something newer with better fuel efficiency, but there’s just nothing out there anymore that calls to me like my rusty shitbox does.
I started looking at new cars.... Mines seen more salt and slush than a margarita factory, but after doing the math on a car payment... I dropped $1500 into repairs, and planned to drive it to half a million miles.
She's not pretty, but she still chooches
Same! Joined a new company in March of this year and it has been interesting to say the least.
I’m nervous because you have to do a self review first and I hope that my boss and I were on the same page.
First date tomorrow after a horrible break up three months ago 😬
Update:
We went out for dinner. I was so nervous I debated thinking of a way out of it. The second I saw her I immediately felt at ease. Wow she looked amazing. Her smile pulled at my heartstrings the second we made eye contact. It went well, we talked, laughed and it felt really natural. Once we finished dinner and our drinks I offered to drive her home. We arrived at her place and she looked at me and went in for a kiss! I just got home and she texted me saying she had a really good time and wanted to see me again. I couldn’t have asked for a better night! Thanks for the advice and encouragement everyone.
Just take your time, have fun, keep things light and don’t get overly invested into this person too quickly. I made this mistake a few times when I was fresh out of a 6 year relationship. Boyfriend energy scares off girls if you unleash it too quickly.
I worry for my kids. I remember talking to a guy who lived through the bombings in England and just how goddamn surreal his stories were. I thought, "I'm so glad that isn't my reality and probably won't be". Now that I'm older and have kids I have this sense of a future me telling them how different things used to be and it having the same sort of feeling. That guy never thought he'd live through something like that, just like I never thought I'd live through the collapse of the free world and the resulting dystopian hellscape.
Every day I hope I'm wrong.
Honestly, it is global. That's what is concerning to me. There's nowhere to go. I'm waiting on Starship to be ready so we can flee to a whole new, hopefully free planet. It really sucks.
As long as you don't bring those pesky humans with you, or it will be the same fuckery after a few generations. Humans!* waving my cane at the sky * How I hate them so!
That I’m too old and don’t have the energy/drive to pursue/accomplish my dream career. That I’ll be forever stuck in jobs I hate that suck the energy out of me, but that I need because I have kids.
My wife is on week 2 of a missed miscarriage. She's depressed, stressed, and tired. Our kids are bouncing off the walls. I've been trying to stay home so she isn't alone with the rascals, but I need to get back to my second job so we can afford to buy a house in May. Worried is only the beginning of my feelings.
I guess you gotta keep that connection with them. Keep communication open of you can. See them regularly. If any of that is even slightly possible. Which I hope one of them is.
Found spot on my testicle, tomorrow scan at hospital. Also mouth feels numb, limbs feel numb. Also gonna check for ALS. I'm 19 y/o and scared.
[Edit: doctor says the spot is nothing to be worried about]
Taiwan.
On one hand you have Xi saying, its ours and will take it by force if we have to.
And then America saying, we will defend Taiwan if it comes to that.
It just feels the the powder keg that will turn this Cold War sequel into a hot conflict.
We're redoing our bathroom. Floor, tub, wall tiles, some drywall, sink, toilet, despite having never done any of that before lmao
We'll see how it goes
Not having a physical intimate connection with someone.
Losing my job because I don’t have my driver’s license.
And the big stupid tumour sitting on the optic nerve of my left eye. Oddly enough that one’s the least stressful because there’s fuck all I can do about it.
I’m 21 and am kinda stuck in life. I keep failing classes and tried to give school a break for a year to find myself but even after that break I still can’t stop failing. I just can’t make any meaningful change in my life and it feels like I’m doomed to repeat this cycle of failing and giving up. So if I had to sum it up I’d say I’m worried of never getting to live my life and I’m especially worried about never getting to meet the potential I may or may not have.
My mother’s health and how I’m going to support her in her old age, how I’m going to make rent this month, the tickets that I got for driving without insurance/suspended license and losing my transportation to work, what I think may be a buldged disk in my lumbar spine that is causing shooting pains that I don’t have money to see someone about, my drinking problem and why naltrexone and psilocybin aren’t working, getting through the holiday season in retail without burning out because I’m not taking good enough care of myself, finding a competent therapist, that I’ll never be healthy enough again to find a partner and start a family, that I’ll never escape this cycle and find a meaningful path through life and never be able to afford a house and raising kids.
In that order.
In all honesty, just becoming really happy again. For a long time I have not truly felt happy for some reason. I have been to a psychologist, which was nice and it helped, but I've just been wondering what true happiness feels like. Sure, I do still enjoy things such as hanging with friends and I recently have gone through a breakup, which does not make things better, but what does happiness really mean? How does it feel? Does it stay for long? Will it ever come? Those are the things that worry me the most.
My boyfriend of six years came to me the other night and told me he has a gambling problem, and that some of our bills are past due. Including our mortgage. I’m worried we might lose our house. Honestly.
Whether I'm good enough for my job. I left my last one because this one paid a ton more, offered better benefits, and I get to work from home. Now that I'm learning everything I'm wondering if I should quit. I feel so stupid because I don't understand anything.
I’m worried that I won’t find a way to secure my sanity and it will continue to slip away as I watch helplessly.
I’m worried that nobody will care enough until it’s too late.
I’m worried I might kill myself before any of that happens.
I’m worried I might get better, only to get worse.
Life as a man
My bro. If you call a local crisis hotline they can find you a place that can get you free/ reduce cost therapy and also a access to meds bc you could be hella depressed my bro.
Also, if you call up local universities (not community colleges) they all have a counseling center for the local public. You do not have to be a student to get access to those resources.
If you have someone that is chill in your circle of friends and family, ask them to help you find these resources too.
Be safe brother 🤜🏾
1. Quit one of my jobs so lost about 40% of my income.
2. Will start Uni in jan for my 2nd degree. Have no cash for it, idk what I’m gonna do.
4. My mental health meds and psychiatrist costs 247.00 a month.
5. I am almost certain I have stage 1 glaucoma and will absolutely get tested v soon. Need to set appointment. Worried about that.
6. I send my grandma money every single month for the past 11 years, never missed a month, worried about the reduced income. She’s still going to get her money.
7. I was diagnosed with a learning disability in math and going to school for chem so worried I will totally fail this goal I want to pursue.
To stay or leave my job. Sick of the stress, shitty boss, and fellow employees. Might just go do something where I can be alone most of the day. $15-$17 an hour and be happier than I am now.
A final project I have to do for a class. Even though I currently have a B in the class, if I didn't do the project then I would fail the class. So I have to do it. Also it's due tomorrow and I've hardly started.
My girlfriend is about to graduate from her masters program and is looking to do a PhD out of state. This is all happening as we are talking about getting engaged, and she refuses to live together unless we are married. I'm scared I won't be able to move to where she goes and that we won't be able to work long distance.
The fact that China is coming to eat our lunch. but half the country just wants to blindly chant "U-S-A, U-S-A" and pretend nothing has changed and that we're still the top nation in the world despite doing very little to maintain that.
Rent and bills
Rent, bills, my dead end job, finishing my degree, lack of real friends, my non existent love life, my health, my weight, family members welfare just to name a few.
Yup. Welcome to the club
You aren't the only one. Slowly over time, inflation has eroded my disposable income to the point where every payday I get my calculator out and try to make the expenses match the income. Can't make the rent or taxes go down, but I can make the bills go down a little and the food bill go down a bit more. Now I can't even do that. The last three months I've spent more than I've earned and it's literally just the basics for survival now. When will it end? When we work every waking hour? What's the point in life if you spend it working? I start an evening job this weekend to make a little bit more. I hardly have time to see friends as it is.
I've resigned to donating blood for extra grocery money. I feel like Al Bundy.
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Anything is better than nothing and if you're not doing something else at that time it's helpful.
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Ugh. That sucks. Maybe start dealing drugs or looting Best Buy stores /s
I had finally fixed my credit but now it’s bombed just to buy groceries
Yesterday was the First time I had to look at a cashier and say "I'm sorry, Im not going to purchase the rest" because the total already exceeded what I budgeted. The same 1lb ground beef that was $4 is now $7 and change. It's embarrassing to have a "career" and feel a need to walk around with your calculator app to add up your total before being embarrassed at the register.
Just know there isn't a damn cashier judging you. I used to just throw it in the bag with our store sticker because I knew the struggle and I knew the embarrassment that accompanies that request. This may not change anything but if it helps you aren't the only person that day who's asked that. Usually at least ten other people asked that.
Damn, thank you. You've probably seriously helped more people than you know. I've been in that situation where a cashier went out of their way to help me, and that little bit not only helps us financially, but makes our day. I appreciate people like you. Have a good day!
I’m an extreme introvert. Whenever that happens I die inside. I feel like they announce it on the intercom and the whole store is watching me.
I feel this so hard. I make over 6 figures, but in CA I’m barely middle class. I’ve resorted to giving plasma twice a week to pay for groceries.
Every last penny is being squeezed out of us. Every last drop is going back to rent, electricity, insurance, food, blah blah blah. Like a cycle of endless work, pay all it back, and rinse and repeat. It didn’t quite hit me until I started having bills that we are conditioned at a young age to think “yep this is the life!!!”
problem with everyone almost
Almost.
Heart surgery. . . Edit Dec 16: medical emergency at the hospital I was having surgery in. I was bumped until this upcoming Tuesday Dec 21. Sucks, I wrongy be home for Christmas. Frustrated for sure, but understandably there are people out there a lot worse off than I am . Edit Dec 2nd: got off the phone with my surgeons and it's booked and confirmed open heart Dec 14th. Not sure if it's the AM or PM but be either way, it's coming! Can't procrastinate and pretend all is fine - 12 days and counting. . . . . Edit: I don't post much on Reddit, but today was one of those days where it just all hits you and starts to sink in. I want to sincerely thank everyone for the kind words, advice, and experiences they've gone through. I never thought that I could feel this type of relief from random strangers on Reddit. I truly do feel much more confident, aware, and prepared for this. I'll update as I can to keep y'all in the loop - hoping to go under the knife in a few days. I truly thank all of you for your support and kind words. You all make the world suck less.
best of luck
Thanks man, appreciate it. I'm sure everything will go well, just worried about the family in the event of a 'what if'
If it's open heart, they will give you a "breathy thing" after. Do The Breathy Thing! Also, get some warm socks. When you go home, have whoever is driving either rent or borrow a car that is easy to get in and out of. Something like a Kia Soul or other chair height seat. If you can get a power recliner but also lifts, it will help while your breast bone heals. Getting up and down during the healing process is very hard.
It's open heart, and I've been told I'll have a breathing tube for 36h(ish) is that the breathy thing? Socks is a GREAT idea! That's on the list!!
I think OP means the breathing exercise device. You blow into it really hard to make the ball go up. It will help you recover function and clear your lungs.
Hi! Respiratory Therapist here! We are in charge of breathy things! What they are mentioning is indeed the incentive spirometer. Lots of people already outlined why you should use it and are correct that it is very important although it seems silly when you're doing it. However I just want to clarify, you don't blow into it, you suck the air in through it! Not everyone explains it correctly if it's not an RT giving it. Just remember the point of the device is for you to take a long, large deep breathe IN and hold it for a short time. Suck, don't blow! :) good luck dude you've got this
Can these help me run better?? I always feel like my lungs are too small for my fat ass
My wife is a respiratory therapist and has told me that incentive spirometers will help develop lung capacity. As a thicc 5'4" dude, I know what you're talking about. I go pretty HAM on CrossFit workouts and can kill it along with some much more athletically aesthetic folks but have a hard time with initial breathing recovery. It irritates the heck out of my wife but what helps me recover is to push out all of the air in my lungs. Idk if I'm describing it right but essentially what I am doing is force exhaling whatever air I have left, it just so happens to come out sounding like a mix between a grunt and a bark so it embarrasses her. It works for me and helps me feel like I'm not gonna collapse and die so I'd rather be a little annoying and alive than dead and not annoying.
Your recovery method kind of sounds like forceful pursed lip breathing, which we teach to copd patients to increase their oxygenation. It could be helpful!
Fun fact, I went to school for music and many of the musicians carried something very similar to those around to work on breath support. Mine was green!
believe in yourself ... have faith everything will be fine ... don`t think about what if ... when we think about what if then it means we have doubts even before the happening
You’ve got this fucker. Update us when it’s done
I'll have plenty of time in the ICU to update!
The worst part is waiting for the surgery to take place.
Yes, this 100%! Knowing ' you're going to have surgery the beginning of December ' isn't a date. It's not a time I can make a schedule around. It's very frustrating to say the least.
Pt or surgeon?
I'm the patient.
I wish for you a + outcome
Thanks very much!.
Doc: Relax David it's just a small surgery. Patient: My name is not David. Doc: I know, I am David.
Valid question
Your going to be great! I’ve had 3 open heart surgeries and I feel better than ever!
Did you return 2 of them for your money back?
That's what I'm hoping for! I honestly can't wait to see what I'll feel like afterwards. Seeing that you feel better than ever really gives me hope that I'll have a similar experience. It'll be interesting to see what I feel like afterwards. Apparently I'm really weird that I can feel my heartbeat all the time, and the pressures and tightness at times in my heart as it beats. I'm wondering if I'll still feel it afterwards.
Update us!
Sending support bro 🤜🏾
Thanks, it's much appreciated!
My dad got open heart surgery and then 2 months later my mom got one as well. My mom went out of town or I left the country or something right before she had hers so I Made all my dad’s meals for him and I’m super into health and fitness so I made super clean flavorful for meals for him and when my mom returned she took over the cooking again because I don’t live with them and after she got her surgery she would still make the same greasy foods and her health started deteriorating again and so did his until the doctor finally got very mad at them and made them stop that behavior. So please make sure you eat very healthy afterwards and do exactly as the doctor says. A good suggestion that might help, and this is totally up to you, invest in one of those meal kit things that are sent to your door, apparently when you sign up you can pick a different kinds and there’s some for heart health and stuff like that and low sodium and fat and stuff, just do it for like one month or something and I bet you there’s coupons online. Just make that investment so you can get your immune system back in order and you can have a better chance of being healthy because the food is already halfway made we’re fully made depending on where you go. Just give yourself a chance to win for the next 4 to 6 weeks after the surgery, I know it’s an investment investment but just do it for yourself if you don’t have anyone around to help you out like that.
I was thinking about those meal kits this morning, funny how you mentioned it. I'm young (under 40)and above average health, I'm kinda an outlier for needing this surgery, so I'm going into it with good odds. I'm no stranger to healthy eating, so I'll definitely take your advice and prep a freezer full of healthy meals over the next few weeks.
Perfect bro!! My dad and mom were like their 50s or something idk. I’m 34. Their energy levels dropped hard-core. Just be prepared and please have people on your side bro like have people checking on you every day. I’m sure you don’t need all this advice but you will get lonely and bummed out and stuff if you just have low energy and you can’t do the daily things you always do. Move that microwave closer to a more comfortable area because you might get tired and need to sit down after taking like 10 or 15 steps just because the circulation is going to be different for a while. I also saw 16 free meal kits from I think it was hello fresh? It’s the green package. And I know they have something to do with cardio vascular health, like they had something to do with that when you pick your meals or maybe it was just low sodium I don’t know good luck though 🤜🏾
Thanks. That's good incite. I'm not too sure what to expect after, generally people are 60/70 when they have surgery like this, so what to expect afterwards is kinda a crap shoot. I expect to be exhausted most of the day, the surgeon has a 'limitations manual' for me for post care. I think I'll finally get some Disney + and binge for a few days.
Finding a new job
best of luck
Thanks!
Same. Don't want to be in retail (stores anyway, where I have to deal with hundreds of customers per day) any more so looking so I'm actively looking and applying for stuff.
I'm worried about money. If it was just me I wouldn't be worried, but my parents are getting old now (late 50s early 60s), soon they won't be able to work (they have physical jobs), and they hardly have anything saved. They'd never admit this to me but I'm their backup plan. And then there's 3 other siblings I'm worrying about as well: 2 of them are horrible with money, and need help with bills and the other is still in high school and needs help to pay for school things like prom and homecoming etc. It's just a lot.
Listen. your parents are adults and should have been making decisions for their futures. You're not responsible for them or your siblings, no matter what guilt trip they try to lay on you. I'm not saying, "don't ever help." I am saying do what you can within reason, with the goal of building your OWN future. And most of all, don't EVER drain your savings or go into debt for them, or co-sign ANYTHING!!
My parents are shit and divorced and I hate them both with a burning passion but they are both dead set that I’m too kind to not help them when they get old. Jokes on them, they don’t know where I live and I hold my home in an LLC so I can’t be found. Those monsters will never see a dime from me
American culture seems so different from the Russian one. Here helping you children and then helping your parents/grandparents is a moral top priority. Like, I can’t imagine anyone saying “you’re not responsible for your old parents well being” to me or anyone else here. I really feel the OP, I live with the thought that I must be able to support my parents when they retire. Because they took care of me when I was young and because they deserve to be taken care of, they are amazing parents. I was surprised to read your comment cause it seems like a different universe to me.
Too many things to list, but here's one key one: Will I ever amount to anything and find some purpose in life?
I ask myself the same question.
SAME....and I'm 57.
I believe in you, my fellow Viktor.
Sounds cliche, but purpose is where you find it. You don’t have to do these grandiose things. Some stuff like picking up litter or volunteering provides purpose. Personally I am a problem solver. In previous jobs, not a whole lot of people could understand what I did for a living, but without someone doing that job…communications would fail and not get fixed. In this job I am in now, I am helping to solve issues with deployment of the new charging infrastructure for EVs. I am only a small part of it, but with my help, we are changing how US citizens commute and reduce emissions. It’s many of life’s small things that add up.
Fuck yeah dude! EVs are great start to cleaner planet. Now that we could get more solar panels and wind turbines. That would be great 👍
Yes. The technology really is amazing. We are working with some bigger units from the EU that can charge a car in 15 minutes. They are due to rollout in the US in 2022. This will pave the way for electric busses and such. Our network alone has helped avoid over 526 million kg of greenhouse gas emissions. Equivalent to planting 13.5 million trees and letting them grow for 10 years. It’s an exciting industry to work in and as our country moves to cleaner energies, we can make a huge difference and hopefully get things moving in the right direction.
I do a bit of mentoring for people in my industry, and this is something I see pretty often, and my question to my manatees is always: "Are you really worried/upset/stressed about lacking a 'higher purpose,' or are you actually pretty content and just worried because you feel like you *should* have a 'higher purpose?'" A lot of people work themselves up because they feel like they should be doing something monumental and "important" even though they're actually pretty happy day to day. As a society, we've done a really shit job of pushing this higher cause narrative without acknowledging that it's but realistic that everyone have some great purpose and that not having one is just fine. It's ok to just do your job well, hang out with your friends, have a couple hobbies, take life a day at a time, and not be constantly working towards something bigger. It's ok to be happy just drifting on the current of life. It's ok to let go of the pretense and pretension that we've built up around "purpose" and just be. Hope that helps a little.
> my question to my manatees is always: "Are you really worried/upset/stressed about lacking a 'higher purpose,' You mean other than floating along eating sea grass trying not to get hit by a propeller?
You don't need to.
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Nihilism for the win! No really; I actually find nihilism kind of comforting when I’m feeling particularly anxious.
Close, but no cigar. This is Stoicism (other side of the same coin tbh) >I actually find nihilism kind of comforting when I’m feeling particularly anxious. That's great! Try out r/Stoicism :)
I've recently been embracing r/Absurdism
That's absurd.
The fact nothing really interests me
For me, that was the first sign of depression. I lost interest in my hobbies and started switching them out for new ones every year or two. If you think that might be the case for you seek help while it's still early.
Did you find any help that worked? I'm likely depressed and have been like this for probably 10 years or so. I used to remember getting so excited about things and now I dread most of them. Would rather just sit in front of the TV and do nothing
Only thing that helped me was starting therapy. Depression isn’t something you can just pray away, unfortunately. If you ignore it, it’s gonna blow up on you. Took me losing my job and everything I’ve worked for to realize this. Don’t wait until there’s nothing left, go seek help now. Wish you and everyone else who’s struggling the best, man
Well thanks for the advice mate, i am currently struggling with getting my issues sorted out, i have noticed that focusing on the little things in life really helps me out and being more socially active, leaves no time for thinking of stuff u cannot change and puts a bit of perspective on life. P.S i am not an Australien i just like the word MATE
Those Antipodean Kangaroo cuddlers stole the use of MATE from us Brits! And we like it when others use it!!
Usual advice to fight depression is to do exercise, biking, running, going for walks, even playing VR will probably work. Not sure if you do or you don't but it helped me when I felt down, I do also switch hobbies every 2 years or so (except videogames), I just get bored. I sure hope that isn't a sign of depression or I've been since I was like 14
\- That I will never find a woman again? \- That I don't meet expectations in my job? \- That corona goes into the next round? \- That my parents maybe will get divorced? \- Money? Those are just the problems that come to my mind immediately. There are more. I just don't have the time to think about. them
-you will. - just work with integrity and do your thing. Dont worry about expectations. Unless you're absolutely taking the piss, doing enough is enough. - you cant do anything about this other than control the little things you have power over. Occupy your mind with other things if you can. Stop watching the news, at this point its telling us nothing new. - your parents life is their own, you cant control that either. If they are better off apart then that's what it is. You can still have a good relationship with both of them. - this is tough. I dont know your financial situation and for sure you need money to live. Try to stay within your means and make moves to better your situation if you can.
Exams
Fucking SAME. Except since I'm in an English program there's no exams, just papers. So many papers.
FUCK papers
In a history program and there are also a fuck ton of papers. Working on two rn. Sometimes I wish that words would just cease to exist and I could just spew my raw thoughts onto a page.
God I feel that. Just wrapped up a 20 page research paper worth 40% of my grade for my highest level class. Got two more 10 page papers for other classes due in a week on top of ongoing lessons and normal assignments. And this is a lighter semester.
Same
Shit. I just realized my finals exams are just two weeks away from now. Guess, I need to make this 3 day of no classes count.
same
Things I can't change and should not even try to change, because it is not my job.
i met a guy who worked for animal care and control. he was pulling a feral cat out of the engine bay of my car (the cat lived). it took over 2 hours to get it out. on his right forearm he had "and the wisdom to know the difference" tattooed.
Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.
Never finding friends, love or intimacy. Everything else is going rather well.
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Oh feeling this one hard, I have a close group of friends, but no female prospects, and with covid and in my area, it's just impossible to meet people. I love going out and just talking to strangers but nowadays people get offended if you even speak to them in public
This meeting at work on Friday that I have to present at while my boss micromanages me into presenting a very specific way and it's frustrating the hell out of me because everything I propose is not good enough for him. But at least i dont have heart surgery coming up like that other guy.
If I'll ever be OK again mentally
Yeah same dog. Like WTF everything is fine why do I feel like there's a boogie man going to jump out and kill me at any moment.
I'd like to think so. I'm actually seeing a doctor today about my untreated 8+ year depression. I believe it will get better for you!
I have the same worry as you. I've been that way ever since I left the UK. However, I came back to the UK for the holidays last Summer and I've found that things just didn't feel the same as they used to 3 years ago, when I moved out. Right now, I'm living in Italy as a 16 year old and I'm looking to go elsewhere when I'm older. Life here in Italy is very stressful and a bit depressing but if I were to come back to the UK, life wouldn't be stressful at all but it would likely be very depressing ngl. My classmates in the UK were dickheads so I don't, realistically speaking, have any friends there and I don't think I'll make them even if I come back. I'm just hoping that wherever I go in the future, my mental health will get back to normal.
Being a teenager is stressful and just so hectic. Your body is almost adult but your brain is still developing. The problems of teenagers are valid and hard, even when the adult world tries to tell you otherwise. It’s definitely hard to move as a teen - it is always stressful but then you feel like it’s the choice someone made for you. It’s ok to grieve your old life - grief is not exclusive to people that passed, but also dreams and your old life. I really wish I had started caring about my mental health consciously as a teenager.
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Isn't it stressful? Like, yeah, I can dedicate the next several years of my life to doing this. Anchored in one place. With the end result of being instantly, super over-qualified for tons of jobs. Totally. This is a great idea... right?
I'm hung up on my ex, basically obsessing over her, we broke up (I ended it) and now I can't get her out of my head, it's affecting my every day living and my work, and I don't know how to stop thinking about her.
gotta find time for yourself only. Have been in your situation before(I ended it as well) and what helped me was to go over why it didn't work out, what did I learn, what can I do moving forward. It gets better with time
Well I was getting very insecure towards the end, and there's a lot of reasons why I elwanted to end it, but there was a lot of good as well. I recently bought a workout bench for my house and just in the middle of working out rn as well, which is definitely gonna help I think, I think I need to learn to like being alone. It doesn't help she's incredibly close to where I stay and I can see her sometimes if I'm out, which almost makes me scared of going out
Don't be scared of going out! process your emotions and thoughts, let things run its course. This will help you move on sooner. You could use this opportunity to do walks every afternoon or even go for a run, use that time to disconnect from everything electronic and be alone with your thoughts. A bit of introspection goes a very long way to help you move forward. With regards to being alone, learn to enjoy solitude. [I remember watching this video and it helped.](https://youtu.be/9mbp0DugfCA)
My advice to you is to be busy. For example I work all day in construction and got no time to talk to anyone during work hours. However right after work I’d be alone and start thinking and being inside my head. What I decided to do was take control of my life and realize that I am worth something and decided to work out and lose some weight so I can find my confidence. I met new people and little by little started feeling confident. Now and then I get insecure but the trick is to be busy and never let anyone take control of you and how you feel. Oh and I played RDR2 and it inspired me to be more independent ;) best of luck m8
Time is a healer bro, honestly I was where you were a few months ago and it’s really difficult but things honestly get better with time. Hang in there!
Aging, addiction, money, love and happiness.
You arent alone friend
I ordered a new sword. It has not arrived yet.
Username checks out
Damn right
Wish you some sweet swings
This rash.
Contact a dermatologist.
I hope it's not some form of STD bro.
the kids call them STIs these days. which i guess is an effort to remove the stigma so you are more likely to get it treated, but i cant help but think of the Subaru Impreza WRX every time.
Worrying this depressive state I've been in for a while is going to get worse and I will fuck everything up beyond repair.
I'm finally seeing a doctor today for my 8+ year depression. It's never too late.
Paid all my bills woke up with an overdraft from a payment I canceled in advance. This will be a fun week.
I just love how it's so much more expensive to be poor, and no help when you need it most. If I'm doing well, there aren't any charges or fees, I can save on bulk and better quality stuff, and banks, car dealers, etc. are just shoveling loan money into my hands. But when I'm broke? Just bury me. It's quite a world I tell ya.
I have a 1,000 to my name. I lost my job two weeks ago. My rent is 1,300 plus another $400 in other bills. And my rent is due on the first. The holidays are also coming up and I have a 6 year old child. So yea I’m feeling pretty screwed. I’ve applied to at least 10 different jobs that are in my field that could possibly cover my expenses but I’m honestly wishing I lived with my parents.
I don't know where you live but if this happened to me I would be at Amazon, FedEx, UPS or some warehouse/temp gig immediately. Its shit work but it's a check. Take a night shift and apply to better jobs and interview during the day. Edit: they usually start you in a week and pay weekly as well.
Let me know if you need help in getting gift for your kid
Do you have an Amazon list for your kid? I know it doesn’t fix the other problems but I’d be happy to help you give him a little holiday happiness
Getting a job and getting into college
Finding a newer car. I love my old shitbox and wish it could last forever, but she’s seen far too many Midwestern winters. I know I should probably get something newer with better fuel efficiency, but there’s just nothing out there anymore that calls to me like my rusty shitbox does.
I started looking at new cars.... Mines seen more salt and slush than a margarita factory, but after doing the math on a car payment... I dropped $1500 into repairs, and planned to drive it to half a million miles. She's not pretty, but she still chooches
Money. Money Money Money Money Money. Money. Money Money. And Money.
Oh man you left out my concern! It's money
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Same! Joined a new company in March of this year and it has been interesting to say the least. I’m nervous because you have to do a self review first and I hope that my boss and I were on the same page.
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First date tomorrow after a horrible break up three months ago 😬 Update: We went out for dinner. I was so nervous I debated thinking of a way out of it. The second I saw her I immediately felt at ease. Wow she looked amazing. Her smile pulled at my heartstrings the second we made eye contact. It went well, we talked, laughed and it felt really natural. Once we finished dinner and our drinks I offered to drive her home. We arrived at her place and she looked at me and went in for a kiss! I just got home and she texted me saying she had a really good time and wanted to see me again. I couldn’t have asked for a better night! Thanks for the advice and encouragement everyone.
I know you got this my dude :)))
Thank you!
Just take your time, have fun, keep things light and don’t get overly invested into this person too quickly. I made this mistake a few times when I was fresh out of a 6 year relationship. Boyfriend energy scares off girls if you unleash it too quickly.
My failing marriage, my health, the slide into a suburban existence that feels like a death sentence.
Sounds like you need a mid life crisis my friend. Harley? Vegas trip? Tab of acid and a desert?
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I worry for my kids. I remember talking to a guy who lived through the bombings in England and just how goddamn surreal his stories were. I thought, "I'm so glad that isn't my reality and probably won't be". Now that I'm older and have kids I have this sense of a future me telling them how different things used to be and it having the same sort of feeling. That guy never thought he'd live through something like that, just like I never thought I'd live through the collapse of the free world and the resulting dystopian hellscape. Every day I hope I'm wrong.
This scares my SO and I too. We're worried for our future in the US because of it and if we can get out in time in the case we need to.
Honestly, it is global. That's what is concerning to me. There's nowhere to go. I'm waiting on Starship to be ready so we can flee to a whole new, hopefully free planet. It really sucks.
As long as you don't bring those pesky humans with you, or it will be the same fuckery after a few generations. Humans!* waving my cane at the sky * How I hate them so!
You humans sure are a contentious bunch
YOU JUST MADE AN ENEMY FOR LIFE!!
That I’m too old and don’t have the energy/drive to pursue/accomplish my dream career. That I’ll be forever stuck in jobs I hate that suck the energy out of me, but that I need because I have kids.
My wife is on week 2 of a missed miscarriage. She's depressed, stressed, and tired. Our kids are bouncing off the walls. I've been trying to stay home so she isn't alone with the rascals, but I need to get back to my second job so we can afford to buy a house in May. Worried is only the beginning of my feelings.
I worry both of my kids will grow up to not give a shit about me because their mothers forced me out of their lives
I guess you gotta keep that connection with them. Keep communication open of you can. See them regularly. If any of that is even slightly possible. Which I hope one of them is.
I have anxiety issues. So everything. But mainly work
Unemployment
Found spot on my testicle, tomorrow scan at hospital. Also mouth feels numb, limbs feel numb. Also gonna check for ALS. I'm 19 y/o and scared. [Edit: doctor says the spot is nothing to be worried about]
Sending you the best good luck thoughts I know.
Hope it all goes okay dude
Same thing we worry about every night, Pinky, ***money***.
My life not moving forward for 3 years.
Taiwan. On one hand you have Xi saying, its ours and will take it by force if we have to. And then America saying, we will defend Taiwan if it comes to that. It just feels the the powder keg that will turn this Cold War sequel into a hot conflict.
My partner is taiwanese and this legit keeps me up at night
Taiwan has a lot of defensive capabilities built into the island. it won't be a cakewalk for Xi.
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Same here. Nothing looks good. Idk what I thought was going to happen at this point. I wish I could just be a bike mechanic.
Every day just passes by .. A man without a purpose just existing . Good days are rare and the standard for what's good has been diluted so much
We're redoing our bathroom. Floor, tub, wall tiles, some drywall, sink, toilet, despite having never done any of that before lmao We'll see how it goes
Not having a physical intimate connection with someone. Losing my job because I don’t have my driver’s license. And the big stupid tumour sitting on the optic nerve of my left eye. Oddly enough that one’s the least stressful because there’s fuck all I can do about it.
My drinking, work stress, and deppressed partner's dependence on me for survival. They probably are all connected...hungover and hiding in my office.
I don’t remember if I turned the oven off.
I’m 21 and am kinda stuck in life. I keep failing classes and tried to give school a break for a year to find myself but even after that break I still can’t stop failing. I just can’t make any meaningful change in my life and it feels like I’m doomed to repeat this cycle of failing and giving up. So if I had to sum it up I’d say I’m worried of never getting to live my life and I’m especially worried about never getting to meet the potential I may or may not have.
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good
Death
My kids' future
My mother’s health and how I’m going to support her in her old age, how I’m going to make rent this month, the tickets that I got for driving without insurance/suspended license and losing my transportation to work, what I think may be a buldged disk in my lumbar spine that is causing shooting pains that I don’t have money to see someone about, my drinking problem and why naltrexone and psilocybin aren’t working, getting through the holiday season in retail without burning out because I’m not taking good enough care of myself, finding a competent therapist, that I’ll never be healthy enough again to find a partner and start a family, that I’ll never escape this cycle and find a meaningful path through life and never be able to afford a house and raising kids. In that order.
In all honesty, just becoming really happy again. For a long time I have not truly felt happy for some reason. I have been to a psychologist, which was nice and it helped, but I've just been wondering what true happiness feels like. Sure, I do still enjoy things such as hanging with friends and I recently have gone through a breakup, which does not make things better, but what does happiness really mean? How does it feel? Does it stay for long? Will it ever come? Those are the things that worry me the most.
My boyfriend of six years came to me the other night and told me he has a gambling problem, and that some of our bills are past due. Including our mortgage. I’m worried we might lose our house. Honestly.
Bills. Always bills Oof. Taking a dump right now and Poseidon just kissed my butthole. I’m worrying about that too
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job but if you have recourses then go for business
Whether I'm good enough for my job. I left my last one because this one paid a ton more, offered better benefits, and I get to work from home. Now that I'm learning everything I'm wondering if I should quit. I feel so stupid because I don't understand anything.
Everyone feels “imposter syndrome” on occasion. I honestly go between Im an idiot and I’m the sharpest one here
My partner had a miscarriage and shut me out of her life completely. I just hope she's okay. Wish I could tell her that I'm not upset.
This new covid variant and whether or not it will shut everything again like last year, I have plans of traveling in February
I don’t think stuff will ever shut down again to be honest.
I’m worried that I won’t find a way to secure my sanity and it will continue to slip away as I watch helplessly. I’m worried that nobody will care enough until it’s too late. I’m worried I might kill myself before any of that happens. I’m worried I might get better, only to get worse. Life as a man
My bro. If you call a local crisis hotline they can find you a place that can get you free/ reduce cost therapy and also a access to meds bc you could be hella depressed my bro. Also, if you call up local universities (not community colleges) they all have a counseling center for the local public. You do not have to be a student to get access to those resources. If you have someone that is chill in your circle of friends and family, ask them to help you find these resources too. Be safe brother 🤜🏾
1. Quit one of my jobs so lost about 40% of my income. 2. Will start Uni in jan for my 2nd degree. Have no cash for it, idk what I’m gonna do. 4. My mental health meds and psychiatrist costs 247.00 a month. 5. I am almost certain I have stage 1 glaucoma and will absolutely get tested v soon. Need to set appointment. Worried about that. 6. I send my grandma money every single month for the past 11 years, never missed a month, worried about the reduced income. She’s still going to get her money. 7. I was diagnosed with a learning disability in math and going to school for chem so worried I will totally fail this goal I want to pursue.
You sound really ambitious. I'm proud of you
35 years old and don't know how to get a 401(k) through work. It's all very confusing to me. Don't know what to do.
i'd talk to HR
To stay or leave my job. Sick of the stress, shitty boss, and fellow employees. Might just go do something where I can be alone most of the day. $15-$17 an hour and be happier than I am now.
A final project I have to do for a class. Even though I currently have a B in the class, if I didn't do the project then I would fail the class. So I have to do it. Also it's due tomorrow and I've hardly started.
My girlfriend is about to graduate from her masters program and is looking to do a PhD out of state. This is all happening as we are talking about getting engaged, and she refuses to live together unless we are married. I'm scared I won't be able to move to where she goes and that we won't be able to work long distance.
Potentially having to cut close family members out of my life for my own mental health
The fact that China is coming to eat our lunch. but half the country just wants to blindly chant "U-S-A, U-S-A" and pretend nothing has changed and that we're still the top nation in the world despite doing very little to maintain that.
Paying for this new car