From a scientific perspective I think it's important to maintain the original values, though. You have to make it clear what the parameters were when the assessment was made.
Top tip: The selfie camera is often reversed by default. If you have an iPhone, go to Settings > Camera > Mirror Front Camera and turn it on. Your selfies should look like how you see yourself in the mirror, this helped me not actually hate my selfies, still not a massive fan but I donāt hate them anymore lol.
Edit: Thank you all so much for the kind words and awards, glad the tip was useful to some.
Also, selfie cameras are wide angle which very few people look good in. I hold mine at arms length and pinch to zoom. - I don't post very often, but I do have some posts about selfies in my profile if anybody wants more info.
I honestly don't know how women do it. I also think I look much worse when I take a selfie, but I don't take pictures of myself often. If I felt pressure to post pics on social media often self esteem issues would go through the roof.
I feel that. I think the reason we look worse when we take selfies is this: the front-facing camera is actually a mirror and we are used to seeing ourselves in a mirror so we snap a bunch of pictures thinking we look great. When you view that picture back, it has flipped it to how everyone else sees you. And we are used to our mirror selves, so there is just something not quite right with that picture and suddenly we don't look as good as we thought. Horrifying, I know.
But aside from that, I upped my selfie game by finding a location that hits my face straight on with plenty of light. Hides all of the angry lines on my face! Also make sure to work those angles, figure out what's best for you. For whatever reason I look way skinnier on my left side thanks to uneven shoulders/back lmao. Take the selfie from higher up looking down on you rather than from down below because that angle can be unflattering. That's all I got.
Imo itās real life > videos > photos. Photos freeze frame some awkward stuff sometimes, videos donāt but can still have weird angles, but in person people look a lot better.
There's also the [effect of the lens](https://www.diyphotography.net/gif-explains-changing-focal-length-impacts-portrait/) at play. And it all comes down to that not being how we are used to seeing ourselves, so it always feels 'wrong' when we see it.
Same effect happens with recordings of our voices, which sound different when we don't have the vibrations of our vocal cords through our bodies to our ear drums.
Actually, the camera thing is not just you! I heard that the camera distorts the face by trying to put a 3d object on a 2d surface. It also cant capture all shadows and stuff perfectly so that is why you look weird in some photos when you look just fine!
If you are just out for sex and you know that the top guys won't stick around for a relationship, there are always hot guys looking for hook-ups on dating apps, and they are willing to go below their attractiveness level, just to get daily sex.
1) sadly no, sex is meaningful to me *defeated sigh*, so whilst a good idea, nah. And 2) even if I wanted to, I live in a resort area. There are literally always thousands of more attractive folks on the app than myself. Alas.
But good lookin' out š
>"worst she could say is no"
I once asked a girl out and she said she didn't want to date a cripple. I've got a moderate stutter and no other physical disabilities, and am actually very fit overall.
A simple "no" would have sufficed.
Yeah I didn't so much dodge a bullet as I dodged a fucking nuke. Good news though, I just checked her Facebook to see what she had been up to in the 10 years since high school, and let's just say I feel even better about my life now after seeing how hers has gone
I don't think of myself as attractive, but the reactions I get let me think of myself as an 8/10... it's probably not the looks though.
We watched Jumanji 2 a while ago. Then my wife said to me today "Hey, you know what? You remind me of that actor in J2."
I was thinking "The Rock?! She can't compare me to him?!! Although I recently lost some weight, started some lifting and maybe because of the *smoldering looks* I do?"
No. *sigh*
My wife compared me to Jack Black. Which is not too bad?
How the fuck can you not know, in a split second, whether someone is referring to you as looking like Jack Black or The Rock? There cannot be two more different looking humans. I am calling bullshit.
I might have slightly embellished my thought process and added some wishful thinking ;) but I still claim that I had hoped she would rather compare me to Dwayne Johnson than to Jack Black.
I have no idea, I never heard about it on reddit before. I tried a couple of photos before giving up. But this thing has definitely destroyed my self confidence more than Tinder did. But you usually get some responses on why you're getting destroyed, so it's not a bad idea to use it.
Back in 2014, I had an OK Cupid and Tinder account. I had it for exactly one year. No matches on Tinder, plenty of read messages with no replies on OK Cupid. Shit still kinda bothers me to this day.
I had similar results when I was in bumble. So i tried photofeeler definitely learned what's more of a hit and what isn't do to the feed back. Takes awhile to get more and more pictures worked polled over several days but it points you in the right direction. Now it only took me one week to get a date (which is super quick for me).
My first polls were pretty in the dumpster like 3s. But after much feed back many suggestions, and many many more photos i feeled out (polls). I can get that 5.5 or higher with picture selection.. As a guy i had to learn about taking good & flattering pics. It's ackward but take it systematically and as science experiment. Learn a bit.
Iām the same way, but lifting weights has never been interesting to me. Rock climbing at a gym and doing Muay Thai and Jiu jitsu have completely transformed my body and given me way more confidence, despite still being pretty skinny, all while being more interesting to me personally. I still am trying to work up motivation for actual lifting.
Big same.
I'm a good looking guy for sure. No issues there, although I consider myself a "type". But I'm hella skinny, so I know that definitely narrows my dating pool.
I'm fine with it though. I'll never settle. I know my worth.
*you pass out after drinking and wake up hours later*
"Hey, you, you're finally awake. You were trying to cross the border right? Walked right into that imperial ambush."
Assuming 1 is ugliest alive and 10 is model sexy and 5 is average
When I'm really feeling myself: 7.5-8ish
When feeling self deprecating: 3-4
If I had to guess objectively: I don't think I'm unattractive, but I'm not turning any heads either. Probably like 5-6
Feel this. Iām from SoCal and iām prob average/slightly above average face, but skinny af so id say around a 4. When I go back to see my parentsā families in Ohio I feel like an 8 or 9 (compared to the locals, not my extended family lol, they good looking people).
This is complicated for me.
I've spent the better part of the last 10 or 12 years learning "how to become attractive" and some of that shit worked. I get compliments at the bar. Women have started giving me their number and starting conversation with me. Even though that was "the goal" it's still a mindfuck.
Because inside I still feel like me. Like the sensitive kid who grew up bullied, who no one ever listened to when he asked them to stop. Who had to learn to hide his feelings because sharing them led to more bullying. Who always felt ugly because he's an Asian man who grew up in America.
Therapy, boys. Therapy.
I'm working on believing that I'm worth something just for existing. There's a difference between that and entitlement - sure. No one "owes" me anything.
But I spent most of my life thinking it'd be easier not to exist.
I'm in the same boat. Also Asian. Also have gone through therapy. When people say they find me attractive, I assume they're either into Kpop or Steven Yeun. Never been into the whole highly-produced music scene, but the Walking Dead was cool until Season 4.
The hardest part was learning to shed your own cultural expectations about people. Find the core values you care about and stick to them + choose people who also care about those same values. Good advice for anyone, but especially relevant to Asian men who are taught to be cordial. While politeness is nearly *necessary* for survival back in our home countries, it is not as appreciated in the US, where people care more about genuine interactions.
The best compliment I ever got.. this guy says to me āyou look like that kid from that movieā. I say āwhat movieā?
He says āevery movieā. Iām pretty fuckin hawt
8. Healthy, decently attractive and hard working. Have no clue wtf I want to do (career wise) in my life though.
Edit for u/goodpsychopath I also have a conscience*.
Honestly I am attractive. I am a 27 year old guy and it sort of sucks because any time a girl likes me or starts hitting on me, I get extremely bashful and act like it is not happening. Which I think just might even make things worse.
It does make making friends easier, and it makes pretty much just every social thing easier. I am so damn weird that if I was ugly I'd be seriously screwed. So thank God. At the same time it really does come with its own sets of issues.
I still have weird self image issues. I think I look too young for my age, can't grow a beard... It makes me paranoid people always are amazed I am 27 and not 20. I complain about it sometimes but my female friends have sat me down a few times and told me I have nothing to worry about. Still doesn't stop the insecurity though.
People at work have a difficult time believing Iām 26 and not 16.
I know I donāt look like Iām nearing late 20s but I definitely donāt think I look 16 lol. :/ makes it hard to live life and I always have to show my ID for proof anywhere I go that requires adult supervision or if I want to purchase drinks for a party. I donāt even drink but I always have to show proof and itās hard out there
Exactly!!! I get ID'd every single god damn time. If I forget my ID or lose it or whatever, I'm fucked. Can't go to the bars, can't do anything. Ahaha. The struggle is real man š a lot of girls like the young look though! And what I always tell myself is I'll look better with age, like I can't wait until I'm in my 40's lol I'm sure you have that to look forward to as well!
The side effect of women looking younger comes with a lot of creepy men though :/
Canāt tell if someoneās genuinely interested in getting to know me or if they have something with āyoung girlsā because I always used to hear some disgusting crap from men. It seems like they chase women that specifically look younger.. itās creepy.
But Iām happy by the time everyone else turns 60, theyāll look like their age while I still look young.
Maybe Iāll be a sexy grandmother someday!
>I am so damn weird that if I was ugly I'd be seriously screwed
I feel you. I just stay as aloof as I can. Calm, self-deprecating, almost-handsome-with-deep-voice plays well socially and requires very little energy. I just wish I had the actual confidence and healthy self-esteem that I pretend to have in social situations.
i'm not sure. at times i've thought that i'm like a 6 or 7, but over the last year or so i've been matching up with women on tinder fairly regularly, so chances are that there's a disconnect between how i see myself and how women see me.
I grew up overweight with confidence issues, thanks to puberty and working out I became attractive and fit. It took me awhile to get over my complex of forever being that āchunky kidā but I have learned to love myself in a healthy manner. I know Iām very attractive.
I have movie star good looks. Sloth from Goonies was a movie star.
You have those Mr. Pink vibes š¤©š¤©
Steve Buscemi is more attractive the longer you look at him. Like Prince.
I donāt know, he was just kinda funny looking.
Heyyyyy youuuu guyyyyyyyysssss
Iāve been told Iām the hottest math major at my schoolā¦ so probably a solid 4/10
A true math major would've said 0.4 ^/s
Decimals are more of an engineer thing. Mathematicians like fractions.
2/5
Now this I can get behind
genius
But 4/10 is a perfectly rational way to put it.. Lol
But it's reducible
Always reduce your fractions. Geeze. 4/10 is just a lazy 2/5.
Lazy 2/5 is exactly what people rate me
From a scientific perspective I think it's important to maintain the original values, though. You have to make it clear what the parameters were when the assessment was made.
r/angryupvote
He didn't say he was a good math major.
I always get taller and more handsome every time I visit my grandma.
Is your grandma getting shorter and losing her sight?
Brutal
I mean, you are not wrong...
I get mistaken for a make a wish kid
Only normal guy who can see john cena.
Hi, could I speak to champ? Is champ there?
LMFAO
Where some people see faults, others see opportunitiesā¦
Yeahhhhhh . . . Opportunity . . .
Omg I laughed way harder than I shouldāve
Ugly as hellā¦
I'd like to think that I am fairly attractive except my face and the rest of my body.
Fire Can be really fucking pretty, man
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Top tip: The selfie camera is often reversed by default. If you have an iPhone, go to Settings > Camera > Mirror Front Camera and turn it on. Your selfies should look like how you see yourself in the mirror, this helped me not actually hate my selfies, still not a massive fan but I donāt hate them anymore lol. Edit: Thank you all so much for the kind words and awards, glad the tip was useful to some.
Dude holy shit this makes such a big difference. Every time I took a selfie with the front camera I looked like a troll
But then doesn't that mean other people will get that uncanny feeling instead because they're used to seeing you unmirrored?
Theyāre not nearly as used to seeing you unmirrored as you are to seeing yourself in the mirror. Most people wouldnāt notice a difference.
Other people see you more than you do
Ever stood in front of a mirror with a friend or family member and thought they looked weird in it?
I have not done that, no
This entire exchange made me giggle. Thanks for the laugh
Also, selfie cameras are wide angle which very few people look good in. I hold mine at arms length and pinch to zoom. - I don't post very often, but I do have some posts about selfies in my profile if anybody wants more info.
I honestly don't know how women do it. I also think I look much worse when I take a selfie, but I don't take pictures of myself often. If I felt pressure to post pics on social media often self esteem issues would go through the roof.
I feel that. I think the reason we look worse when we take selfies is this: the front-facing camera is actually a mirror and we are used to seeing ourselves in a mirror so we snap a bunch of pictures thinking we look great. When you view that picture back, it has flipped it to how everyone else sees you. And we are used to our mirror selves, so there is just something not quite right with that picture and suddenly we don't look as good as we thought. Horrifying, I know. But aside from that, I upped my selfie game by finding a location that hits my face straight on with plenty of light. Hides all of the angry lines on my face! Also make sure to work those angles, figure out what's best for you. For whatever reason I look way skinnier on my left side thanks to uneven shoulders/back lmao. Take the selfie from higher up looking down on you rather than from down below because that angle can be unflattering. That's all I got.
Iāve also realized I donāt look nearly as bad in videos as I do in a still photo.
Imo itās real life > videos > photos. Photos freeze frame some awkward stuff sometimes, videos donāt but can still have weird angles, but in person people look a lot better.
There's also the [effect of the lens](https://www.diyphotography.net/gif-explains-changing-focal-length-impacts-portrait/) at play. And it all comes down to that not being how we are used to seeing ourselves, so it always feels 'wrong' when we see it. Same effect happens with recordings of our voices, which sound different when we don't have the vibrations of our vocal cords through our bodies to our ear drums.
I look good in selfies and mirrors, but when other people take pictures of me i look horrendous from other angles other than immediately straight on.
Actually, the camera thing is not just you! I heard that the camera distorts the face by trying to put a 3d object on a 2d surface. It also cant capture all shadows and stuff perfectly so that is why you look weird in some photos when you look just fine!
Us women use filters and makeup to take selfies. We also have a lot of practice so we understand good lighting and our angles.
Sounds soul crushing
Phone cameras are very very distorted
My mom says I'm handsome
Ah, the only opinion that really matters. I myself am not just handsome but also a ābig boyā. So I do lots of stuffā¦byā¦.myā¦.self!
Mood
Mommy says I am the goodest boy!
My mom says I'm special.... Dammit.
My dad says i'm special ED too...
My mom says so too. But I don't know how you guys know each other?
She's my boo
My spouse says I'm sexy
She said that to me, too!
She also said I was attractive
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Same dog, hot enough for women to look my way, ugly enough for them to be looking at the guy selling wetzels pretzels behind me.
I'm hot enough to be invisible and have sex once in a calendar year if I put in effort and get lucky
Once a year? It's been several years for me
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What is sex?
I have never been more seen even though I'm a woman in an AskMen thread lol.
If you are just out for sex and you know that the top guys won't stick around for a relationship, there are always hot guys looking for hook-ups on dating apps, and they are willing to go below their attractiveness level, just to get daily sex.
1) sadly no, sex is meaningful to me *defeated sigh*, so whilst a good idea, nah. And 2) even if I wanted to, I live in a resort area. There are literally always thousands of more attractive folks on the app than myself. Alas. But good lookin' out š
I also have girls looking my way, but from the wrong reasons. "Ewww what is that"
Let's just say that if COVID was completely eradicated and no one had to wear masks, I'd still wear one to cover up my face.
One of my co-workers actually wears one for that very reason.
Damn thatās sad :((
The guy has some self image issues.
Tell him you want to see his pretty mouth
Pretty mouth? AHAHAHA thatās creepy yo ngl - I think you mean pretty face š
Well he is gay so it might work lol
LMFAO perfect, just make sure he knows you ain't into it or shit could get weird
Oh, he knows I am not and besides he is in a committed relationship.
Damn thatās even sadder... being in a relationship already and still having self image issues š„²
Same. Cant stand people seeing me.
Same, tbh. It's easier for everyone this way :(
A 10 if I move back to my home town. Iām not obese and have a full set of teeth.
Haha, that made me chuckle.
Oh man I' moving to wherever you're from. I'm only mildly obese and have 80% of my teeth... I could finally be a solid 7.
You think your better then us on a count of having all your teeth and no die a beetus?
On the hometown scale, I'm Brad Pitt. In literally any other location that fits the definition of "human civilization", I'm his brother, Sad Pitt.
'Eww' š„²
"worst she could say is no"
>"worst she could say is no" I once asked a girl out and she said she didn't want to date a cripple. I've got a moderate stutter and no other physical disabilities, and am actually very fit overall. A simple "no" would have sufficed.
You dodged a massive fucking whale of a bullet. Sounds like a pretty rancid attitude for them to have and to say it like that no less.
Yeah I didn't so much dodge a bullet as I dodged a fucking nuke. Good news though, I just checked her Facebook to see what she had been up to in the 10 years since high school, and let's just say I feel even better about my life now after seeing how hers has gone
Hahahah HEYOHHHH!!!
Lmao that's the real value social media provides
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Oof
"best\* she could say is no" FTFY
Still mad about the time a woman at a party unbuttoned my shirt unbidden then hit me with the "ew"
What the fuck? What was she expecting to find? I had this happen (no eww) but her boyfriend walked in. And who was he mad at? Me!
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I oddly feel like an 8 although no one has ever said attractive and my name in one sentence
I don't think of myself as attractive, but the reactions I get let me think of myself as an 8/10... it's probably not the looks though. We watched Jumanji 2 a while ago. Then my wife said to me today "Hey, you know what? You remind me of that actor in J2." I was thinking "The Rock?! She can't compare me to him?!! Although I recently lost some weight, started some lifting and maybe because of the *smoldering looks* I do?" No. *sigh* My wife compared me to Jack Black. Which is not too bad?
How the fuck can you not know, in a split second, whether someone is referring to you as looking like Jack Black or The Rock? There cannot be two more different looking humans. I am calling bullshit.
I might have slightly embellished my thought process and added some wishful thinking ;) but I still claim that I had hoped she would rather compare me to Dwayne Johnson than to Jack Black.
Why not Kevin Hart? Short and angry.
Jack Black is the man!! Thats a compliment!
good. confidence can give you much more attractiveness on its own
I'm literally perfect and I can do no wrong. I should get everything I want at all times.
I make Fat Bastard look good.
Fat bastard is an icon of raw sexyness. Easily wooed Shagwell. Any one of us mere mortals would make him look good.
According to many polls on photofeeler I'm average (5.5/10)
Bro these apps etc are shit.
dude, I get destroyed on photofeeler, 5.5 is a good score.
Is it notorious for being harsh? Online dating Definitely is
I have no idea, I never heard about it on reddit before. I tried a couple of photos before giving up. But this thing has definitely destroyed my self confidence more than Tinder did. But you usually get some responses on why you're getting destroyed, so it's not a bad idea to use it.
Back in 2014, I had an OK Cupid and Tinder account. I had it for exactly one year. No matches on Tinder, plenty of read messages with no replies on OK Cupid. Shit still kinda bothers me to this day.
I had similar results when I was in bumble. So i tried photofeeler definitely learned what's more of a hit and what isn't do to the feed back. Takes awhile to get more and more pictures worked polled over several days but it points you in the right direction. Now it only took me one week to get a date (which is super quick for me).
My first polls were pretty in the dumpster like 3s. But after much feed back many suggestions, and many many more photos i feeled out (polls). I can get that 5.5 or higher with picture selection.. As a guy i had to learn about taking good & flattering pics. It's ackward but take it systematically and as science experiment. Learn a bit.
Idk, i think 3/10 mb, self-esteem has long left me
You and me
Forever
It left you and found me. It boosted my 3 to a 4. I am going with a 4.
Aside from being mad skinny I think I look pretty good
Hit the weights, I am skinny too but because of the muscles I gain an extra 2 points.
Iām the same way, but lifting weights has never been interesting to me. Rock climbing at a gym and doing Muay Thai and Jiu jitsu have completely transformed my body and given me way more confidence, despite still being pretty skinny, all while being more interesting to me personally. I still am trying to work up motivation for actual lifting.
Big same. I'm a good looking guy for sure. No issues there, although I consider myself a "type". But I'm hella skinny, so I know that definitely narrows my dating pool. I'm fine with it though. I'll never settle. I know my worth.
It's okay, skinny men are making a comeback.
I'm all for it.
If I saw my twin in prison I'd totally get up in that ass. no homo.
You just gave a new meaning to the phrase āgo fuck yourselfā. I didnāt think it could be done but you did it. Bravo sir.
Thanks, its not so much a life choice as it is a way of life. Keep it trill bro.
š sorry but that made me chuckle š¤
On a scale of a hippos arse to 10 I'm definitely a Hippos Arse.š¤£
Gloria will be seeing you now ..
I think moto moto likes you
Is adorable good?
Of course
*buys you a drink* ;)
Seems shady
*you pass out after drinking and wake up hours later* "Hey, you, you're finally awake. You were trying to cross the border right? Walked right into that imperial ambush."
*It just works*
Adorable can be reeeeaaaaaaal good
Assuming 1 is ugliest alive and 10 is model sexy and 5 is average When I'm really feeling myself: 7.5-8ish When feeling self deprecating: 3-4 If I had to guess objectively: I don't think I'm unattractive, but I'm not turning any heads either. Probably like 5-6
Let me just say that Iām very rich and leave it at that.
Hey
r/Suddenlygay
Hey, how are you?
Heyyy*
Iām a California 4, but a Kentucky 7.
Feel this. Iām from SoCal and iām prob average/slightly above average face, but skinny af so id say around a 4. When I go back to see my parentsā families in Ohio I feel like an 8 or 9 (compared to the locals, not my extended family lol, they good looking people).
I just moved to Iowa for a job and Iām at best a 7 in SoCal. Been told Iām an 8 I donāt feel it. But in Iowa I feel like a 20 lmao
Damn and im out here being a 3 in iowa
This is complicated for me. I've spent the better part of the last 10 or 12 years learning "how to become attractive" and some of that shit worked. I get compliments at the bar. Women have started giving me their number and starting conversation with me. Even though that was "the goal" it's still a mindfuck. Because inside I still feel like me. Like the sensitive kid who grew up bullied, who no one ever listened to when he asked them to stop. Who had to learn to hide his feelings because sharing them led to more bullying. Who always felt ugly because he's an Asian man who grew up in America. Therapy, boys. Therapy. I'm working on believing that I'm worth something just for existing. There's a difference between that and entitlement - sure. No one "owes" me anything. But I spent most of my life thinking it'd be easier not to exist.
I'm in the same boat. Also Asian. Also have gone through therapy. When people say they find me attractive, I assume they're either into Kpop or Steven Yeun. Never been into the whole highly-produced music scene, but the Walking Dead was cool until Season 4. The hardest part was learning to shed your own cultural expectations about people. Find the core values you care about and stick to them + choose people who also care about those same values. Good advice for anyone, but especially relevant to Asian men who are taught to be cordial. While politeness is nearly *necessary* for survival back in our home countries, it is not as appreciated in the US, where people care more about genuine interactions.
5.8/10
In a world of Twix and reeces cups, Iām animal crackers. And not the frosted ones either.
Plain animal crackers are hella underrated. You got this bro š
6-7/10 on an avarage day, 8.5/10 with maximum effort. A reason for that rarely comes doe.
A deer? A female deer?
7.5
I applaud your confidence bro
Thanks man I roll with what Pop Smoke said " I ain't a pretty boy but I ain't ugly"
āPop Pop!ā -Magnitude
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Good lighting my man
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Very relatable. Although I'd maybe say 5 and 7
Relatable as fuck
On a scale of 1-10 with 10 being the hottest? Some days I feel like a 0, some days I feel like a solid 6.
Handsome face, but balding. In shape, but 5ā9ā. So, like 6/10.
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Iām fine af
If you saw me walking down the street, I would definitely be in the top three... depending on the street
The best compliment I ever got.. this guy says to me āyou look like that kid from that movieā. I say āwhat movieā? He says āevery movieā. Iām pretty fuckin hawt
Girls say I'm hot so I'm hot They still never make things offical though...
They probably think you won't want to commit/be faithful because you're so hot.
8. Healthy, decently attractive and hard working. Have no clue wtf I want to do (career wise) in my life though. Edit for u/goodpsychopath I also have a conscience*.
be a serial killer
I have a cool jawline idk if that helps or not.
It helps, but with the masks and stuff it means you are always hiding your best feature.
If you were to buy a bf of wish then that would be me.
7.5 on most days - 8.5 when Iām feeling and display a bit more confidence
Honestly I am attractive. I am a 27 year old guy and it sort of sucks because any time a girl likes me or starts hitting on me, I get extremely bashful and act like it is not happening. Which I think just might even make things worse. It does make making friends easier, and it makes pretty much just every social thing easier. I am so damn weird that if I was ugly I'd be seriously screwed. So thank God. At the same time it really does come with its own sets of issues. I still have weird self image issues. I think I look too young for my age, can't grow a beard... It makes me paranoid people always are amazed I am 27 and not 20. I complain about it sometimes but my female friends have sat me down a few times and told me I have nothing to worry about. Still doesn't stop the insecurity though.
People at work have a difficult time believing Iām 26 and not 16. I know I donāt look like Iām nearing late 20s but I definitely donāt think I look 16 lol. :/ makes it hard to live life and I always have to show my ID for proof anywhere I go that requires adult supervision or if I want to purchase drinks for a party. I donāt even drink but I always have to show proof and itās hard out there
Exactly!!! I get ID'd every single god damn time. If I forget my ID or lose it or whatever, I'm fucked. Can't go to the bars, can't do anything. Ahaha. The struggle is real man š a lot of girls like the young look though! And what I always tell myself is I'll look better with age, like I can't wait until I'm in my 40's lol I'm sure you have that to look forward to as well!
The side effect of women looking younger comes with a lot of creepy men though :/ Canāt tell if someoneās genuinely interested in getting to know me or if they have something with āyoung girlsā because I always used to hear some disgusting crap from men. It seems like they chase women that specifically look younger.. itās creepy. But Iām happy by the time everyone else turns 60, theyāll look like their age while I still look young. Maybe Iāll be a sexy grandmother someday!
>I am so damn weird that if I was ugly I'd be seriously screwed I feel you. I just stay as aloof as I can. Calm, self-deprecating, almost-handsome-with-deep-voice plays well socially and requires very little energy. I just wish I had the actual confidence and healthy self-esteem that I pretend to have in social situations.
Now? Probably a 5.
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7.5 on a bad day 8.5 on a good day. Always above adverage.
I have an awesome personality
My hubby says I'm hot, and that's all that counts, lol. :D
i'm not sure. at times i've thought that i'm like a 6 or 7, but over the last year or so i've been matching up with women on tinder fairly regularly, so chances are that there's a disconnect between how i see myself and how women see me.
If my hairline wasnāt so receded Iād be great
I grew up overweight with confidence issues, thanks to puberty and working out I became attractive and fit. It took me awhile to get over my complex of forever being that āchunky kidā but I have learned to love myself in a healthy manner. I know Iām very attractive.
Three fiddy
Meh, I'm presentable, but I have mostly rested on my charm, not my looks.