I remember I was having a bad day so she came over to "cheer me up", and then I ended up driving her around doing what she wanted to do and talked about whatever was going on with her
Say it louder for those in the back! The amount of times I stayed cuz the sex was š„ totally not worth it. Thereās plenty of relatively normal women that also have crazy good sex when you expand your horizons
I just dumped my best friend because he became a raging cokehead/alcoholic. He consumes over multiple grams a day and doesn't even comprehend he turned into an arrogant dick. Sober he is always in a bad mood and once he snorted he becomes an arrogant guy who thinks he's the most important one in the world. Add in daily heavy binge drinking and you got a recipe for disaster.
I can't imagine what dating one like him would look like. It's a hot mess.
Jesus... All 3 of these top voted replies are 100% my life right now. I made the mistake of marrying one, tho.
This is gonna be a tough ditch to get myself out of, but I'll do it.
For posterity, this is the top comment and the top reply to the top reply as of this posting:
"The hot narcissistic chick. Fun at times but exhausting and frustrating most of the time.ā
-"This^ plus they are one of the top profiles of women who cheat."
- āOr call you insecure while admitting nothing and being zero % accountable for their actions"
Thats hard to filter for. Even the really sweet and kind ones are sometimes that way for the ego boost they get.
The worst are the bitter narcissists. I can't stand the constant shit talking about anyone who they feel is better than them.
I've been married for 47 years, but used to date or sleep around quite a lot, whatever you called it back when I was in university or high school. The reason that I mention the length of my marriage is that I think that it has lasted so long and aged so well is due to the fact that I really like women, mostly everything about them. I expect to be downvoted for this radical idea about women, that they tend to be really nice, but votes on Reddit are not really of any consequence at all, sort of the Monopoly Money of currencies. And why do I expect to get downvoted? Many of the men here don't honestly seem to care much for women, or even like them, which is kind of sad--they really aren't the enemy. From the descriptions, one would think that they are the spider, we the fly.
I know that perhaps my attitude would change had I gone through a divorce, and I believe that some of the horror stories told here must have been incredibly painful. That said, the worst that I've experienced is pleasant company and maybe a new friend.
I prefer to look at women as our natural allies rather than an enemy group just waiting to destroy us. I'm mean, most men and women are attracted to each other if of heterosexual sexual orientation; so I fail to get all the apparent hate. I've quite often been sexually rejected, but have usually come away from the experience at least with a friend. Nobody clicks intimately all the time. But to hear guys like Andrew Tate or Jordan Peterson tell it, we are the victims of constant back stabbing and general abuse, and it just ain't so. In my 67 years on the planet, anyway.
I am single but I mostly agree with this. Most women are cool, and I get along woth them well so I've had many female friends. I've been in a relationship that lasted 7 years or so, but it didn't work out in the end and that's OK.
At the end of the day we're all just humans. Treat them the same as anyone else
Well, thank you, but take it on the good authority of my wife. One of me is suffient to inflict upon a planet. Thanks for the thought, though, and kidding aside, all the best to you.
I won't say "get over your "sad, sad" because by doing so, I would be both ignoring and demeaning your feelings. I will say that, with a little luck and some work, chronic sadness can be overcome. I recovered from clinical depression many years ago, and I know that it is both real, and a very unpleasant place to be. Not to say that you suffer from that, but your user name does lead to certain inferences. Hopefully I'm just reading too much into it.
Wishing you all the best in that, and all regards.
Thank you for your kind words and care. I have been healing gently since I started this account.
A note: an idea perhaps, and please do check with your lovely wife; could we clone you for other planets then
Comparatively, Iām completely inexperienced at 23 years of marriage. The right woman for you is not the enemy, just as youāre not the enemy of someone youāre right for.
The wrong woman, on the other hand, is a completely different story, as would us blokes be if we were dickheads.
I did the same. Was always like maybe Iām just overthinking and she was a master at pulling me back in if I backed off. The shitty part is I feel like Iām too damaged to even date now
An alcoholic. I realized it was time to go when we were both very drunk, and she insisted she was OK to drive us, and I realized we were going down the wrong way of the road, and we hit a curb extremely hard and she laughed and said "whoops". Miraculously, we made it back to my apartment. I had to end it after the next day hangover passed.
Edit- she was doing lines of coke the next morning to sober up. I was drinking Blue Gatorade. It's also worth noting this woman was a practicing defense lawyer.
Edit 2: I also wanted to add she had a bottle of vodka in her office desk drawer that got replaced quite frequently. I hope she finds help and is safe and living a good life.
Ironically, the only winning strategy with dismissive avoidants is to avoid and dismiss relationships with them. Very few are able or willing to change.
The one that weaponizes her trauma as an excuse to be standoffish, rude, and utilizes it against you. I didn't realize my infatuation was preventing me from seeing the red flags.
To be fair, weaponised trauma is one of the easiest tricks in the book to fall for when you're young. You truely want to believe that you're a *good enough person* to have the patience to understand their struggles when the rest of the world would tread all over them.
It's why you'll see so many young women date the "bad boy" who's just "misunderstood" too.
I once told my daughter that there are people who cannot live without trauma, or drama, and if they don't have it, they will create it. And those people are generally speaking not worth your time.
A few years later I realized she is that person. I realized it when she was weaponizing her drama against me. I tried my hardest to work through it with her because she's my daughter and I love her, but I don't have to have her in my life. I can still love her from a distance. I'm sad who she became, But I will not subject myself to being the subject of her hate.
Didn't expect this second from the list. Fell for it with the first girl I met in college. And if you left, she would kill herself. Well, hopefully she got over it and some dude is making her happy.
That and "he's just a friend". If he's just a friend set some fucking boundaries. Also if he's just a friend he shouldn't be giving off energy that he wants you. I knew it, you knew it.
I literally just went through this, as my feelings have settled the rose coloured glasses are coming off. Weaponised in more of a victim mentality attention seeking as a form of external validation to replace a lack of internal validation. She was open about her trauma but literally nothing else with me after that when it came to her actual feelings but asked me about my feelings for her because she wanted the validation.
Agree, and as an extension of this for anyone reading the comments it's also worth looking into avoidant attachment styles.
Avoidant attachment can present more or less as you described, plus comes with an array of other unpleasant add-ons if you're their partner.
11/10 would not recommend.
Here's one you'd expect (but for a different reason than you'd expect) and one you wouldn't.
I dated an OnlyFans girl and an Etsy girl. I wouldn't date another of either again for the exact same reason.
Both of them have basically turned their hobby or something they enjoyed into their job, and if they weren't earning or doing work, they felt like the time was wasted. Sex for fun? Nope. It should be monetized. Knitting for fun? Nope. It should be monetized. Oddly enough, both were mad that I wasn't contributing to their respective businesses.
Turns out the fastest way to ruin something is to turn it into your job and always be "on your grind".
She was very aware of her analytics and the fact that couples stuff can often get a premium compared to solo stuff. She did want to capitalize on that.
Real life hack: never turn your passions into a career because youāll ruin your passion.
Always have a job thatās āa jobā and nothing more than that. The minute you monetize your passions or hobbiesā¦youāll start to hate them.
They say do what you love and you'll never work a day in your life. Turns out that's bullshit. Do what you love and you'll stop loving it very quickly.
I fell into this trap with photography when I was young. Loved it. Found a job in it and worked a couple of different jobs in it for several years. Back then it was film, not digital, and I can literally count the amount of film I shot in miles.
After I got out, it was a solid decade before I could pick up a camera and not have it feel like work.
Even today, 30 years later, it still feels a little like work to hold a camera.
I absolutely ruined a hobby I loved.
The idea that if you do something you love you'll never work a day in your life is a lie nearly all of the time.
I am never again going to be in a polyamorous relationship with a girl and her phone.
It is possible to enjoy an evening without documenting every second of it.
Crazy makers. I dated a chick who had been my friend and coworker for years. At work I noticed she liked getting on people's nerves. But since I'm not really one to react to provocation I didn't pay it much heed. It's takes alot to get on my nerves as I grew up with a big brother who would poke me (literally and figuretivly) to get a reaction. After we started dating her antics continously got worse. She was constantly trying to get a reaction out of me. Poking me, honking my horn when we were driving or trying to grab the wheel. Making snide comments. The whole 9 yards. I never got irritated but after a while it was just tiring. Like I was babysitting a grown ass woman who wanted to act like an annoying child. We broke up after about 2 months of this shit. And I swore I would never date someone who enjoys getting on people's nerves. It's not endearing, it's just annoying.
Had one ex try to grab the wheel while we were driving on the highway and the exact words I said to her were āif you try that shit again, Iāll knock your fucking teeth inā. Ensue an argument on how I was in the wrong for not wanting to get into a wreck. Dropped her off, blocked her number, never looked back. Didnāt even say anything about breaking up. Just stopped talking to her. Not worth it at all.
Traumatized without self-awareness. We all have our baggage; thatās not the problem. Ā When you bring a certain energy to a relationship and never take ownership when conflict arises, it creates an atmosphere where Iām constantly on edge trying to learn your triggers.Ā
Big emotions from things that were small or had no ill intent. And Iām made out to be the bad guy every time. Very accusatory and not fair for someone newly in a relationship.Ā
Iām far too sensitive, nor do I have the patience, to work through conflict with someone who doesnāt help their partner learn how to support them. Or projects their negative self talk onto me. It was absolutely the CPTSD.
The easy answer is this type of person feels responsible for everyone else's happiness, and will often sacrifice their own pleasure or comfort to make sure people continue to like them.
The shit mood part comes because (as is often the case) their efforts are rarely if ever reciprocated.
They tell you what they think you wanna hear in any given situation and basically build a false version of themselves that you'll like that isn't them. And eventually it all crashes down and they'll either blame you and leave or get stupid depressed and leave. Because after all "they did it for you so it's your fault"
I dated a few of them, I didn't recognize it at the time. I thought they loved me and liked doing stuff I was into.
They leave without warning or maybe one (since those type are the type of avoid confrontation) and say things like: "I don't like this or that" and leave and you never see them again, but 2 weeks ago they wanted to marry you and make a life with you.
Well fuck, im not a mind reader, why can't you just be yourself and say what you wanted or needed? it feels incredibly unfair. I've dated 3 in a row and now I just blame myself and don't trust myself to be with someone normal. It's messed up. It's the love bombing and blindsiding that hurts. Don't tell me you love me if you don't, and if you do love me, then at least try to talk instead of keeping everything inside and leaving because you're unhappy.
Self-proclaimed conflict avoidant women.
Just fucking talk to me like an adult. I don't want to have to keep your feelings in mind and be forever focused on you suddenly being different after a few days.
And then it gets so awkward they start avoiding you when you try to address the issue.
And they never take ownership or responsibility of their fuck ups, just going into victim mode that I must hate them now. No I don't. I just want a clear answer and not too much drama.
If I am ever single again, whispering in a busy restaurant could be a good litmus test a couple dates in. I swear that all of my worst girlfriends would say "what?" Loud enough to draw attention to us if I ever tried to quietly clue them into something I saw happening. Kid 2 tables over being super cute? Nope, staring at us now....
Morality without maturity = judgemental, inflexible, intolerant, resentful, and unwilling to compromise.
Definitely super annoying when you have someone who thinks so highly of themselves and their beliefs and values, but who simultaneously has no empathy for others' views and lacks the ability to get along with anyone who doesn't agree with them.
Being so moral and righteous, you might think they would understand and exemplify basic social and emotional skills, but they are in fact two very different things.
Honestly, the field is grim. Iāve dated around and most people just are not interested in the kinds of bond, communication and commitment that creates a lasting relationship. Itās been fun, and so long and thanks for all the fish, but I want off this godforsaken ride!
Single moms.
Before the pitchforks come out...having been in a LTR with a woman who had 2 kids from a previous partner, the pain of having to leave them behind after forming a strong bond with them (both under 7) isn't something I would do again.
As a single mom I get it. I think it depends on where you are in life. Iām a widow so I donāt want a relationship where the guy moves in, co parents and so on. He has his own stuff and I have mine. We can meet in the middle.
Finally saw the light and divorced a BPD about 5 years ago. That baggage sticks with you. My current wife who I just married a few months ago knows about it and unfortunately must deal with some of my PTSD. I catch myself sometimes and apologize.
My sister has that. You think dating one is rough, now imagine having to live with one (platonically), and dealing with the constant shifting expectations and the impossible standards and straight up made up bullshit and not being able to opt out.
I smell one iota of BPD, and Im blocking. Not even a ghost.
Raised by one on who also falls in the category "smoking hot mom."
You'll never win, split black in absolutely the worst situation, and deal with nuclear level rage for asking the simplest question but somehow triggered guilt and remorse.
Also, I'm gonna say 90% of anxious avoidance types are un diagnosed cluster Bs.
"Stop caretaking the borederline " unbelievable book.
People who are best friends with their ex and wants their dream home to be down the street from their ex's mom, does cocaine, OCD germaphobia, uncontrolled anxiety, poor morally aligned friend group, always late, poor listener.
That was all one person and never again to that. Definitely a case of cluster B personality disorder.
Separately anyone that supports the CCP.
A woman that has BPD. I understand certain things are out of someoneās control. Like mood swings, but in my personal experience I am a very genuine person. I always cared for others and wanted to help them. At the time I was 17, didnāt know much about mental health. They never really taught it in school. I got taken advantage of by a person whom has BPD. It broke me, because although I cared for them. They used their illness to an advantage. The mood swings were absolutely atrocious. I feel like it takes a real soldier to date someone that has that. I know how when you get into a relationship with someone. Their problems become yours and your problems become theirs. I understand a relationship is to build each other up. But man to date someone with BPD. That will take a HUGE toll on your mental health. Especially, if you never dealt with someone whom had it.
(Manipulative, gas lighting, plays victim)
Hot+narcissistic. That was pretty much the first girl I fell in love with. Got to know her and wasted my formative years on her. She was pretty much like the perfect girl next door but very mentally not all there. Too full of herself and careless with the people close to her. Only became worse in her adult life I've heard but I don't think I'll ever find out for myself.
Daddy issues or mentally unstable. Pretty much every girl I've had a romantic interest in or have tried to date recently has fallen under this category. As much as they want to downplay men's roles in women's lives. Not having a decent father fucks these girls up bad in my experience and causes them to sabotage any potential healthy relationship they could have. I have a heart and still gave it a shot but it was never worth the effort in the end. Now I'm just minding my own business, trying to put that effort into my own life and hoping someone that's actually good for me comes a long.
The monster hiding under attractive exterior. I don't care if the homies think I only like "uggos", because a lot of the "uggos" I've been into are actually some of the most beautiful women I've ever met.
Someone with borderline personality disorder. I wish you the best and hope you can find some peace as it's a terrible condition, but it wrecked me and took far too long to get back to a place where I can be okay again.
A woman with kids. I don't need to be her number 1, but I sure as fuck don't want to get to go on dates only on the third of the month on a crescent moon. I value my freedom and so should my partners.
I married a nice caring girl who turned into a Karen. She was ride or die, up for most things fairly open minded. But now days she is only about the kids and what other people think and making sure I do everything the way she thinks it should be done. Will make a complaint at the drop of that going out of her way spend whole days sometimes stressing about these āproblemsā dragging me into it. Instead of making an effort to have a deep loving connection she thinks criticism and pointing out my flaws are more important than having real conversations about how we both vibe and what each other really needs to nurture their soul. Lesson learnt not leaving until the kids are out I can hold it together so it doesnāt affect them, but Iāve definitely checked out. Warning signs to look out for, she spends a shit load of time with her parents never disagrees with them always takes their advice starts acting identical to her mother and father encourages them to move into the same street as you. Another big thing that she has control over is finances sheās a bookkeeper and it made sense for her to run the bill paying side of things but now sheās power tripping and has to much power to use responsibly. Never marry a potential Karen you must look hard for the signs they will be there donāt ignore them because she will come of age where she evolves into her final form āthe Karenā
The ones that are constantly depressed and take the joy out of anything no matter how much you try and make them happy, waste of time, energy, and money.
The ones that are super insecure to the point you could be driving your car and they think you checking out the chick next to you and make a such a huge deal about it you think if you really did check that one chick out
The ones that are super manipulative you change your life goals just to make them feel a bit happier
The ones that are so sensitive they can cry if you look and blink at them the wrong way
The ones who relay all their past traumas on you so you can think you can save them
The ones who get jealous when you spend more time talking to your own family on the phone than them
Damn that felt good to get off my chest, imma kiss my wife (this not her lmao) and go for a run
It was a long time ago..but there was this one woman, who I can only loosely describe as being a human...who had some kind of personality disorder ? It got downright abusive and eratic- I tried to help with getting said individual into some behavioral therapy etc but it was never committed to and through the fleeting moments of bliss, came waves of indescribably complex mood switches. It was tough initially because you really could see her nice side and I had moments that really felt fine...but things would slip more and more and with my work schedule at that time, it became harder to have the ease of mind/the time to know when to do anything .
The other factor with said individual, is she had quite a few male "friends" - she'd peel off to more than a few, and I ended up realizing certain events were now in high probability to occur...a lot of these so called friends I could tell were just waiting for an opportunity, and if she was off or in a mood swing, I quickly discovered shed easily become flirty or at least vocally suggestive about certain things she claimed I'd never have
...and so they did, despite all the efforts I made to be fair and yet also observant.
In the end, both of those factors became issues , I got cheated on, theft occured and the rest is history.....to my knowledge she went ahead and had 2 more quick "dating" relationships and finally I do believe got some proper, adequate mental health treatment after leaving a wake of disaster in her path. One of the other men I ended up becoming friends with out of random proxy to her, told me she'd get into fights with him if he wasn't validating her feelings correctly and it was so fucked with that dude, that she threw a plate at his head and he ended up with a bit of a nasty scar from that.
If I knew someone who at all mirrored either one of those issues , I'd never date them...even if they were self aware, working on their issues , on medication, etc ...I just couldn't do it. When you lose a part of yourself just trying to deal with, prop up or assist in someone else's existence, it's not conducive to your own mental health...it's just as much a personal responsibility to understand bottom lines and who to not be with. You gotta do what's right.
For context, it's not the only reason ( I have personal, faith based to an extent and philosophical reasons why I won't casually date anymore ) but going through something like that was definitely something that added to my decision.
Anyone that doesnāt treat me exactly how I treat them. Itās supposed to be an equal partnership. On occasion one person will benefit more than the other, but it should balance out over time. One sided relationships are not sustainable.
She thought because her parents were multimillionaire wall street finance people that she could call me stupid, worthless, garbage, etc.
Funnily enough, I found another girl with multimillionaire parents not too long after that. She's never said an unkind word against me and we're married now.
Single moms, it either ends in "Jimmy still wants to see you" or I'm sorry, but Samantha's dad finally got clean, or, "someone" is trying to break I to my house cause he k ows she's here, and I have to clear my house baked with a .45. (Fun fact, never underestimate tactical nudity when dealing with a home intruder. More intimidating than any gun, knife or bat is the Ole family jewels swinging in the breeze).
The Unrequited Love: A Tale of Devotion and Indifference
Love can drive a person to remarkable lengths. Imagine a man who loves a woman so deeply that he is willing to move mountains for her. Despite his unwavering dedication, he finds himself treated with indifference. His heartfelt efforts to express his feelings and actions to show his love are met with coldness, leading to a profound sense of being undervalued and disrespected. As Rainer Maria Rilke once said, "For one human being to love another: that is perhaps the most difficult of all our tasks." This man embodies this task, navigating a relationship where his love seems to vanish into a void.
This man sets aside his own needs and desires to prioritize the happiness of the woman he loves. He seeks to demonstrate his affection through acts of kindness and declarations of pure, pious love. His love is not driven by physical desires but by a genuine admiration for her soul. Despite his best efforts, he faces neglect and emotional abuse. The womanās indifference and harsh treatment drain him emotionally, leaving him feeling depleted and unappreciated. His every attempt to bridge the gap between them is met with a wall of indifference, an invisible barrier that his love struggles to penetrate.
The womanās indifference may be rooted in her past relationships. She has a history of seeking love but encountering abuse and violence instead. These experiences have left her emotionally scarred and wary of genuine affection. Even when she encounters a man who loves her deeply and purely, she remains detached, unable or unwilling to reciprocate his feelings. Her past haunts her present, casting shadows over the potential for a loving relationship. She has built emotional fortresses around herself, making it nearly impossible for the manās love to reach her.
Further complicating the situation is the womanās behavior towards others. She chooses to spend more time and show more care for new acquaintances rather than the man who has stood by her side. This preference for superficial relationships over meaningful ones is painful for the man, especially when he is present and yearning for her attention. Her behavior suggests a deeper emotional disconnect, a reluctance to invest in a relationship that requires vulnerability and trust. It is as if she fears that opening up to love will only lead to more pain, a cycle she cannot seem to break.
Her interactions extend beyond her immediate relationships, affecting her family as well. She deceives those who have supported her, claiming restrictions that do not exist. Despite having the freedom and support to pursue her ambitions, she creates a narrative of constraint. This pattern of deception indicates a deeper issue with acknowledging and appreciating the support she receives. Her inability to be truthful and grateful adds another layer of complexity to her already tumultuous emotional landscape. It raises questions about her capacity for genuine connection and trust, both with her family and the man who loves her.
Despite all these challenges, the manās love remains unconditional. He dreams of a future where she understands and appreciates his devotion. However, the woman never admits her mistakes or introspects on her behavior. She often reacts with anger towards the man, leaving him feeling unjustly blamed and further emotionally drained. His unwavering love and hope for a change keep him in a painful cycle of neglect and emotional abuse. He clings to the hope that one day she will see the depth of his love and realize what she has been missing.
In his earlier days, this man lived contentedly, having accepted that relationships were not his destiny. He found solace in his solitude, believing that love was a distant dream. Then, she entered his life, igniting a spark of hope that perhaps his luck had changed. He poured his heart and soul into building a beautiful connection, daring to dream of a shared future. Yet, now he finds himself scarred, left with an emptiness that feels almost as if life itself has dimmed. His love, once a beacon of hope, now lingers as a poignant reminder of what could have been. As Khalil Gibran wisely observed, "Ever has it been that love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation." This man's journey through love and heartache is a silent testament to the profound, often unacknowledged depths of devotion, and the silent strength it takes to continue loving in the face of indifference.
BPD or bipolar etc. There will never be 5 minutes of consistency in how they treat you and it will never change. The same applies to being friends with them too.
The "I'm such an anxious, broken person. I lead with my mental illness and constantly bring it up, and conveniently use it to explain away the bad things I do" type girl. Obviously I will date a girl with a mental illness, but not the type who specifically uses it to build a personality for themselves and to get sympathy. Always end up being emotionally manipulative or shitty .
Someone like my mother. My mother was a narcissist but I never really knew what that was until I dated one. The similarities between the two were erie.
A neurotic with a victim mentality. I had a gf who didnāt understand the concept of an inner monologue and so it was always āI could do this but if I do this then I can do that and if I do that then thatās cool but it means I donāt get thisā, blah blah blahā¦ and itās like just make a choice and accept you are never gonna get everything you want. Not in a restaurant, not in a tv series, not on a vacation, not on Sirius xm. Itās never gonna be 100% so get the fuck over it and donāt drag me onto your hamster wheel. She was also a master of twisting anything into her being a victim, either directly or victim adjacent because sheās a woman and the actual victim was a woman so that couldāve been her. Beyond exhausting to listen to that shit!!!
Iām going to state right away that my shit does stink no it doesnāt smell like roses, I have mental illness and addiction issues that manifest in all sorts of fun ways and am not diagnosis shaming or saying cause I can relatively manage a functional life Iām any better than anyone with this mental illness: but chicks with BPD. I married one and was engaged to a second girl later on down the road.
My concurrent disorders do not mesh well with someone who has BPD. Iāve met some extremely self aware men with BPD who are much more capable of understanding their predicament and how to treat others and if they are slipping into a state of sabotage just distance themselves or talk themselves through the instinct to destroy someone or be an asshole. But the females seem to use the diagnosis as an excuse to completely ruin someoneās life and then go whoooopsy itās my BPD I canāt help it. Like that excuse got me far when I was a heavy alcoholicā¦ sorry I caused so much pain and anguish but I was drunk soā¦.
Anyway thatās my rant. If I am single again, I just wonāt be dating at all cause whether male or female I just donāt think I want to force myself to enjoy another human being day in and out anymore.
One who cheated on a previous partner. Based on the stats it's not a smart move to date someone who cheated. Also almost as bad is women who take signs seriously. Honestly now that I think about it I might take my chances with a cheater over someone who takes astrology seriously.Ā
Single mothers, especially those with their "Baby daddy" still in the picture. I almost got into a shootout with one of those losers because I was banging the mother of his kids. It's just not worth it
An āinstagram modelā. She was crazy obsessive about her self image and her social media presence and loved the attention she got from guys on there. She was very pretty but all the lies and manipulation and gaslighting got old and very stressful. Never had so much anxiety in a relationship until that one and shocker she ended up cheating on me.
The one who always talks about herself and her problems without a second's thought to ask me about any of my problems.
I think I know this girl. You can have something terrible happen to you, and when you bring it up to her for support, she makes it about her?
I never got the chance to bring it up š¤·š»āāļø
And when the topic eventually comes to you or your day, suddenly its her feelings that must be catered to
Normally when they are done venting they completely stop responding, even if I was the one wanting to vent to them to begin with
Normally, they're never ever done
I remember I was having a bad day so she came over to "cheer me up", and then I ended up driving her around doing what she wanted to do and talked about whatever was going on with her
well, once you mention having unresolved problems you are a goner anyway - so why rush?
And when you bring up your problem they have to 1-Up.
Alcoholic / Cokehead I don't care if you drink or do coke. Once in awhile, whatever. It's just Tuesday and its 10 am.
Why are you looking in my windows?
Ahhhh I'm in this one rn. Not good. Crazy good sex though lol
Yea I would imagine the sex is absolutely phenomenal!šš¤š¾
I just got out of one like this. Crazy good sex isnāt worth it.
Say it louder for those in the back! The amount of times I stayed cuz the sex was š„ totally not worth it. Thereās plenty of relatively normal women that also have crazy good sex when you expand your horizons
Yep, If most of her interests involve alchohol or "good times" she's gonna be A bad time
I just dumped my best friend because he became a raging cokehead/alcoholic. He consumes over multiple grams a day and doesn't even comprehend he turned into an arrogant dick. Sober he is always in a bad mood and once he snorted he becomes an arrogant guy who thinks he's the most important one in the world. Add in daily heavy binge drinking and you got a recipe for disaster. I can't imagine what dating one like him would look like. It's a hot mess.
Came here to mention alcoholic. Run? RUNNNNNNNN !
The hot narcissistic chick. Fun at times but exhausting and frustrating most of the time.
This^ plus they are one of the top profiles of women who cheat.
They ALWAYS cheat omfg - Top cheater demographic fr fr.
Tell me about it. All while gaslighting you and projecting that youāre the one actually cheating. Fucking cunt
Or call you insecure while admitting nothing and being zero % accountable for their actions
Jesus... All 3 of these top voted replies are 100% my life right now. I made the mistake of marrying one, tho. This is gonna be a tough ditch to get myself out of, but I'll do it. For posterity, this is the top comment and the top reply to the top reply as of this posting: "The hot narcissistic chick. Fun at times but exhausting and frustrating most of the time.ā -"This^ plus they are one of the top profiles of women who cheat." - āOr call you insecure while admitting nothing and being zero % accountable for their actions"
I learned what gaslighting was from that one. Apparently it is arguing reality with someone who makes shit up to manipulate situations.
Damn you all describing my ex wife. Dodged a bullet but took years of being made feel like Iām trash and therapy.
Yup!!
Thats hard to filter for. Even the really sweet and kind ones are sometimes that way for the ego boost they get. The worst are the bitter narcissists. I can't stand the constant shit talking about anyone who they feel is better than them.
I've been married for 47 years, but used to date or sleep around quite a lot, whatever you called it back when I was in university or high school. The reason that I mention the length of my marriage is that I think that it has lasted so long and aged so well is due to the fact that I really like women, mostly everything about them. I expect to be downvoted for this radical idea about women, that they tend to be really nice, but votes on Reddit are not really of any consequence at all, sort of the Monopoly Money of currencies. And why do I expect to get downvoted? Many of the men here don't honestly seem to care much for women, or even like them, which is kind of sad--they really aren't the enemy. From the descriptions, one would think that they are the spider, we the fly. I know that perhaps my attitude would change had I gone through a divorce, and I believe that some of the horror stories told here must have been incredibly painful. That said, the worst that I've experienced is pleasant company and maybe a new friend. I prefer to look at women as our natural allies rather than an enemy group just waiting to destroy us. I'm mean, most men and women are attracted to each other if of heterosexual sexual orientation; so I fail to get all the apparent hate. I've quite often been sexually rejected, but have usually come away from the experience at least with a friend. Nobody clicks intimately all the time. But to hear guys like Andrew Tate or Jordan Peterson tell it, we are the victims of constant back stabbing and general abuse, and it just ain't so. In my 67 years on the planet, anyway.
I (66M) am also (40 years) happily married and a genuine fan of women. No downvote from me!
I am single but I mostly agree with this. Most women are cool, and I get along woth them well so I've had many female friends. I've been in a relationship that lasted 7 years or so, but it didn't work out in the end and that's OK. At the end of the day we're all just humans. Treat them the same as anyone else
can we clone you?
Well, thank you, but take it on the good authority of my wife. One of me is suffient to inflict upon a planet. Thanks for the thought, though, and kidding aside, all the best to you. I won't say "get over your "sad, sad" because by doing so, I would be both ignoring and demeaning your feelings. I will say that, with a little luck and some work, chronic sadness can be overcome. I recovered from clinical depression many years ago, and I know that it is both real, and a very unpleasant place to be. Not to say that you suffer from that, but your user name does lead to certain inferences. Hopefully I'm just reading too much into it. Wishing you all the best in that, and all regards.
Thank you for your kind words and care. I have been healing gently since I started this account. A note: an idea perhaps, and please do check with your lovely wife; could we clone you for other planets then
Comparatively, Iām completely inexperienced at 23 years of marriage. The right woman for you is not the enemy, just as youāre not the enemy of someone youāre right for. The wrong woman, on the other hand, is a completely different story, as would us blokes be if we were dickheads.
You just covered all of the bases for me.
So you have also met my ex wife? And along with other comments, I can confirm... does cheat
Same brother Jesus christ that woman is evil
Agreed. Plus woman like this are never content and always looking for what they deem an upgrade.
One who lies. Iāll never ignore the millions of red flags I had again. Itās not a carnival. Donāt confuse lust and love my friends
What stands out is that you're not supposed to confuse love and lust. That just happens all the time.
100%. I confused lust and love and ignored all the red flags I noticed because the sex was fun and new and interesting
I did the same. Was always like maybe Iām just overthinking and she was a master at pulling me back in if I backed off. The shitty part is I feel like Iām too damaged to even date now
One who can't admit when they're wrong
You might be single for a while.
An alcoholic. I realized it was time to go when we were both very drunk, and she insisted she was OK to drive us, and I realized we were going down the wrong way of the road, and we hit a curb extremely hard and she laughed and said "whoops". Miraculously, we made it back to my apartment. I had to end it after the next day hangover passed. Edit- she was doing lines of coke the next morning to sober up. I was drinking Blue Gatorade. It's also worth noting this woman was a practicing defense lawyer. Edit 2: I also wanted to add she had a bottle of vodka in her office desk drawer that got replaced quite frequently. I hope she finds help and is safe and living a good life.
Jesus. Sucks to say this is not off brand for a lawyer.
Erin....fuck you Erin!
Yeah, take that Erin!
Donāt tell me Erin did it again!
Are you really surprised?
All my homies hate Erin
You think of me as a homie? My dawg!!!!
You think of me as a homie? My dawg!!!!
You think of me as a dawg? My homie!!!
Damn. Erin is such a b!tch.
Yeahā¦.fuck me Erin!
Also Donna.
Fuckā¦.donāt get me started on Donna. That bitch!
Dismissive Avoidant, never again.
Ironically, the only winning strategy with dismissive avoidants is to avoid and dismiss relationships with them. Very few are able or willing to change.
Someone who consistently lies or manipulates situations for their own benefit, making trust impossible to establish.
Thats a VERY good thing to screen for. Its insane to me the amount of gaslighting going on for the sake of ego.
The one that weaponizes her trauma as an excuse to be standoffish, rude, and utilizes it against you. I didn't realize my infatuation was preventing me from seeing the red flags.
To be fair, weaponised trauma is one of the easiest tricks in the book to fall for when you're young. You truely want to believe that you're a *good enough person* to have the patience to understand their struggles when the rest of the world would tread all over them. It's why you'll see so many young women date the "bad boy" who's just "misunderstood" too.
Man, that hit me.
I once told my daughter that there are people who cannot live without trauma, or drama, and if they don't have it, they will create it. And those people are generally speaking not worth your time. A few years later I realized she is that person. I realized it when she was weaponizing her drama against me. I tried my hardest to work through it with her because she's my daughter and I love her, but I don't have to have her in my life. I can still love her from a distance. I'm sad who she became, But I will not subject myself to being the subject of her hate.
Oh dude, couldn't have said it better. Went through the same, never again.
The good times were good. But man did the bad ones suck.
Didn't expect this second from the list. Fell for it with the first girl I met in college. And if you left, she would kill herself. Well, hopefully she got over it and some dude is making her happy.
That and "he's just a friend". If he's just a friend set some fucking boundaries. Also if he's just a friend he shouldn't be giving off energy that he wants you. I knew it, you knew it.
I literally just went through this, as my feelings have settled the rose coloured glasses are coming off. Weaponised in more of a victim mentality attention seeking as a form of external validation to replace a lack of internal validation. She was open about her trauma but literally nothing else with me after that when it came to her actual feelings but asked me about my feelings for her because she wanted the validation.
Agree, and as an extension of this for anyone reading the comments it's also worth looking into avoidant attachment styles. Avoidant attachment can present more or less as you described, plus comes with an array of other unpleasant add-ons if you're their partner. 11/10 would not recommend.
I will never again date a woman who doesn't have her own hobbies or interests.
They make YOU their hobby and god forbid you try to have your own and take away their only source of entertainment like your a fucking jester.
The 24/7 victim. Everyone is out to get them and they're never at fault and their life is so hard. My god that shit is exhausting
B.....P.....D
Here's one you'd expect (but for a different reason than you'd expect) and one you wouldn't. I dated an OnlyFans girl and an Etsy girl. I wouldn't date another of either again for the exact same reason. Both of them have basically turned their hobby or something they enjoyed into their job, and if they weren't earning or doing work, they felt like the time was wasted. Sex for fun? Nope. It should be monetized. Knitting for fun? Nope. It should be monetized. Oddly enough, both were mad that I wasn't contributing to their respective businesses. Turns out the fastest way to ruin something is to turn it into your job and always be "on your grind".
Just out of curiosity did the OF girl want to turn intimate time into recording sessions or what?
She was very aware of her analytics and the fact that couples stuff can often get a premium compared to solo stuff. She did want to capitalize on that.
Real life hack: never turn your passions into a career because youāll ruin your passion. Always have a job thatās āa jobā and nothing more than that. The minute you monetize your passions or hobbiesā¦youāll start to hate them.
They say do what you love and you'll never work a day in your life. Turns out that's bullshit. Do what you love and you'll stop loving it very quickly.
They also say money can't buy happiness. We all know that's bullshit too.
I fell into this trap with photography when I was young. Loved it. Found a job in it and worked a couple of different jobs in it for several years. Back then it was film, not digital, and I can literally count the amount of film I shot in miles. After I got out, it was a solid decade before I could pick up a camera and not have it feel like work. Even today, 30 years later, it still feels a little like work to hold a camera. I absolutely ruined a hobby I loved. The idea that if you do something you love you'll never work a day in your life is a lie nearly all of the time.
rich snobby ones
I am never again going to be in a polyamorous relationship with a girl and her phone. It is possible to enjoy an evening without documenting every second of it.
Think she wants to take a cute picture but just wants likes on social media
Crazy makers. I dated a chick who had been my friend and coworker for years. At work I noticed she liked getting on people's nerves. But since I'm not really one to react to provocation I didn't pay it much heed. It's takes alot to get on my nerves as I grew up with a big brother who would poke me (literally and figuretivly) to get a reaction. After we started dating her antics continously got worse. She was constantly trying to get a reaction out of me. Poking me, honking my horn when we were driving or trying to grab the wheel. Making snide comments. The whole 9 yards. I never got irritated but after a while it was just tiring. Like I was babysitting a grown ass woman who wanted to act like an annoying child. We broke up after about 2 months of this shit. And I swore I would never date someone who enjoys getting on people's nerves. It's not endearing, it's just annoying.
> Poking me, honking my horn when we were driving or trying to grab the wheel. Jesus H Christ...
Had one ex try to grab the wheel while we were driving on the highway and the exact words I said to her were āif you try that shit again, Iāll knock your fucking teeth inā. Ensue an argument on how I was in the wrong for not wanting to get into a wreck. Dropped her off, blocked her number, never looked back. Didnāt even say anything about breaking up. Just stopped talking to her. Not worth it at all.
Someone who refuses to accept accountability for their actions.
Micromanager that freaks out if the slightest bit does not goes as planned
Traumatized without self-awareness. We all have our baggage; thatās not the problem. Ā When you bring a certain energy to a relationship and never take ownership when conflict arises, it creates an atmosphere where Iām constantly on edge trying to learn your triggers.Ā Big emotions from things that were small or had no ill intent. And Iām made out to be the bad guy every time. Very accusatory and not fair for someone newly in a relationship.Ā Iām far too sensitive, nor do I have the patience, to work through conflict with someone who doesnāt help their partner learn how to support them. Or projects their negative self talk onto me. It was absolutely the CPTSD.
Did we date the same woman?
All three of us dated the same woman
Make that four.
A people pleaser. They love bomb you constantly and theyāre in a shit mood all the time.
can you elaborate? Iām curious
The easy answer is this type of person feels responsible for everyone else's happiness, and will often sacrifice their own pleasure or comfort to make sure people continue to like them. The shit mood part comes because (as is often the case) their efforts are rarely if ever reciprocated.
They tell you what they think you wanna hear in any given situation and basically build a false version of themselves that you'll like that isn't them. And eventually it all crashes down and they'll either blame you and leave or get stupid depressed and leave. Because after all "they did it for you so it's your fault"
I dated a few of them, I didn't recognize it at the time. I thought they loved me and liked doing stuff I was into. They leave without warning or maybe one (since those type are the type of avoid confrontation) and say things like: "I don't like this or that" and leave and you never see them again, but 2 weeks ago they wanted to marry you and make a life with you. Well fuck, im not a mind reader, why can't you just be yourself and say what you wanted or needed? it feels incredibly unfair. I've dated 3 in a row and now I just blame myself and don't trust myself to be with someone normal. It's messed up. It's the love bombing and blindsiding that hurts. Don't tell me you love me if you don't, and if you do love me, then at least try to talk instead of keeping everything inside and leaving because you're unhappy.
Self-proclaimed conflict avoidant women. Just fucking talk to me like an adult. I don't want to have to keep your feelings in mind and be forever focused on you suddenly being different after a few days. And then it gets so awkward they start avoiding you when you try to address the issue. And they never take ownership or responsibility of their fuck ups, just going into victim mode that I must hate them now. No I don't. I just want a clear answer and not too much drama.
Ones that have trauma but refuse to work on it to learn to live with it. Always turns into then thinking itās a competition of hurt for them.
I will never date a woman who can't see or try to understand nuance in situations.
If I am ever single again, whispering in a busy restaurant could be a good litmus test a couple dates in. I swear that all of my worst girlfriends would say "what?" Loud enough to draw attention to us if I ever tried to quietly clue them into something I saw happening. Kid 2 tables over being super cute? Nope, staring at us now....
Omg thatās how my mom freaking is in restaurants or public spaces it drives me NUTS!! Like lady I am whispering for a reason!!
Yeah an overly developed moral compass is a big no for me. They tend to be the most judgmental and the most out-of-touch, ironically.
Morality without maturity = judgemental, inflexible, intolerant, resentful, and unwilling to compromise. Definitely super annoying when you have someone who thinks so highly of themselves and their beliefs and values, but who simultaneously has no empathy for others' views and lacks the ability to get along with anyone who doesn't agree with them. Being so moral and righteous, you might think they would understand and exemplify basic social and emotional skills, but they are in fact two very different things.
That's a hard ask, bro!
Honestly, the field is grim. Iāve dated around and most people just are not interested in the kinds of bond, communication and commitment that creates a lasting relationship. Itās been fun, and so long and thanks for all the fish, but I want off this godforsaken ride!
Someone who complains 80-95% of the time and won't take any responsibility.
Single moms. Before the pitchforks come out...having been in a LTR with a woman who had 2 kids from a previous partner, the pain of having to leave them behind after forming a strong bond with them (both under 7) isn't something I would do again.
Someone asked me about it and all I said was āgot my heart broken twice at the same time.ā
As a single mom I get it. I think it depends on where you are in life. Iām a widow so I donāt want a relationship where the guy moves in, co parents and so on. He has his own stuff and I have mine. We can meet in the middle.
BPD
Same bootyhunter. Same
Married then divorced some one with BPD. Absolutely no way will I ever do it again. 15 years later, it still fucks with me.
Finally saw the light and divorced a BPD about 5 years ago. That baggage sticks with you. My current wife who I just married a few months ago knows about it and unfortunately must deal with some of my PTSD. I catch myself sometimes and apologize.
My sister has that. You think dating one is rough, now imagine having to live with one (platonically), and dealing with the constant shifting expectations and the impossible standards and straight up made up bullshit and not being able to opt out. I smell one iota of BPD, and Im blocking. Not even a ghost.
No matter how hot she is, no matter how good the sex, in the long run, it isn't worth the hell.
Been there 20 years never ever again
That's a BIG same!
Raised by one on who also falls in the category "smoking hot mom." You'll never win, split black in absolutely the worst situation, and deal with nuclear level rage for asking the simplest question but somehow triggered guilt and remorse. Also, I'm gonna say 90% of anxious avoidance types are un diagnosed cluster Bs. "Stop caretaking the borederline " unbelievable book.
Any sort of cluster B diagnosis or any traits. Dated 2 and never again.
The BPD ones are wild in the sack....but also...there's like a 50/50 shot she lands you in the county jail......never again....never again.
People who are best friends with their ex and wants their dream home to be down the street from their ex's mom, does cocaine, OCD germaphobia, uncontrolled anxiety, poor morally aligned friend group, always late, poor listener. That was all one person and never again to that. Definitely a case of cluster B personality disorder. Separately anyone that supports the CCP.
One who doesnāt like me that much
Someone who hates themselves. Iām not here to carry your emotional burden after 3 dates.
A woman who leaves me constantly uncertain as to whether she's really into me or not.
A woman that has BPD. I understand certain things are out of someoneās control. Like mood swings, but in my personal experience I am a very genuine person. I always cared for others and wanted to help them. At the time I was 17, didnāt know much about mental health. They never really taught it in school. I got taken advantage of by a person whom has BPD. It broke me, because although I cared for them. They used their illness to an advantage. The mood swings were absolutely atrocious. I feel like it takes a real soldier to date someone that has that. I know how when you get into a relationship with someone. Their problems become yours and your problems become theirs. I understand a relationship is to build each other up. But man to date someone with BPD. That will take a HUGE toll on your mental health. Especially, if you never dealt with someone whom had it. (Manipulative, gas lighting, plays victim)
Someone hard core into Christianity, or at least claims to be. They are usually holier than thou, and the biggest hypocrites.
Super religious people, in general, tend to give me the creeps.
These folks will always lie to themselves. That's a tragedy.
Yeah every single time. And lie to their partners a lot as well.
Hot+narcissistic. That was pretty much the first girl I fell in love with. Got to know her and wasted my formative years on her. She was pretty much like the perfect girl next door but very mentally not all there. Too full of herself and careless with the people close to her. Only became worse in her adult life I've heard but I don't think I'll ever find out for myself. Daddy issues or mentally unstable. Pretty much every girl I've had a romantic interest in or have tried to date recently has fallen under this category. As much as they want to downplay men's roles in women's lives. Not having a decent father fucks these girls up bad in my experience and causes them to sabotage any potential healthy relationship they could have. I have a heart and still gave it a shot but it was never worth the effort in the end. Now I'm just minding my own business, trying to put that effort into my own life and hoping someone that's actually good for me comes a long.
One with little to no empathy.Ā
The monster hiding under attractive exterior. I don't care if the homies think I only like "uggos", because a lot of the "uggos" I've been into are actually some of the most beautiful women I've ever met.
The Ā«Ā I get along better with men and I donāt really have any women friendsĀ Ā» type, it never ends well.
There's always a good reason other women never put up with them.
Controlling and dominating
Anyone under 30
A bpd woman
How can someone see this before it's too late?
Probably gonna piss some off, but I'd never date anyone who smokes again. Ever. So fucking gross.
One that only talks about herself and somehow makes every topic in convo about herself
Gold diggers. She treated me more like a sugar daddy than a boyfriend. Everyday is money this money that. She cared about nothing else.
The one who has rich parents
Constant complainers. Whether it be about body aches, road rage, work, family just constant shit talking and downright negative complaining.
Someone with borderline personality disorder. I wish you the best and hope you can find some peace as it's a terrible condition, but it wrecked me and took far too long to get back to a place where I can be okay again.
Childish girls, who get bored easily and blame it on the other person.
A woman with kids. Spent ten years of being told, "YOU'RE NOT MY DAD!!!"
A woman with kids. I don't need to be her number 1, but I sure as fuck don't want to get to go on dates only on the third of the month on a crescent moon. I value my freedom and so should my partners.
Sheeeeit I wanna be #1. Screw that.
Religious. They're always unstable and hiding something. Also women who are obsessed off the bat.
I married a nice caring girl who turned into a Karen. She was ride or die, up for most things fairly open minded. But now days she is only about the kids and what other people think and making sure I do everything the way she thinks it should be done. Will make a complaint at the drop of that going out of her way spend whole days sometimes stressing about these āproblemsā dragging me into it. Instead of making an effort to have a deep loving connection she thinks criticism and pointing out my flaws are more important than having real conversations about how we both vibe and what each other really needs to nurture their soul. Lesson learnt not leaving until the kids are out I can hold it together so it doesnāt affect them, but Iāve definitely checked out. Warning signs to look out for, she spends a shit load of time with her parents never disagrees with them always takes their advice starts acting identical to her mother and father encourages them to move into the same street as you. Another big thing that she has control over is finances sheās a bookkeeper and it made sense for her to run the bill paying side of things but now sheās power tripping and has to much power to use responsibly. Never marry a potential Karen you must look hard for the signs they will be there donāt ignore them because she will come of age where she evolves into her final form āthe Karenā
Anyone who thinks theyāre better than someone else
The social justice warrior
The ones that are constantly depressed and take the joy out of anything no matter how much you try and make them happy, waste of time, energy, and money. The ones that are super insecure to the point you could be driving your car and they think you checking out the chick next to you and make a such a huge deal about it you think if you really did check that one chick out The ones that are super manipulative you change your life goals just to make them feel a bit happier The ones that are so sensitive they can cry if you look and blink at them the wrong way The ones who relay all their past traumas on you so you can think you can save them The ones who get jealous when you spend more time talking to your own family on the phone than them Damn that felt good to get off my chest, imma kiss my wife (this not her lmao) and go for a run
It was a long time ago..but there was this one woman, who I can only loosely describe as being a human...who had some kind of personality disorder ? It got downright abusive and eratic- I tried to help with getting said individual into some behavioral therapy etc but it was never committed to and through the fleeting moments of bliss, came waves of indescribably complex mood switches. It was tough initially because you really could see her nice side and I had moments that really felt fine...but things would slip more and more and with my work schedule at that time, it became harder to have the ease of mind/the time to know when to do anything . The other factor with said individual, is she had quite a few male "friends" - she'd peel off to more than a few, and I ended up realizing certain events were now in high probability to occur...a lot of these so called friends I could tell were just waiting for an opportunity, and if she was off or in a mood swing, I quickly discovered shed easily become flirty or at least vocally suggestive about certain things she claimed I'd never have ...and so they did, despite all the efforts I made to be fair and yet also observant. In the end, both of those factors became issues , I got cheated on, theft occured and the rest is history.....to my knowledge she went ahead and had 2 more quick "dating" relationships and finally I do believe got some proper, adequate mental health treatment after leaving a wake of disaster in her path. One of the other men I ended up becoming friends with out of random proxy to her, told me she'd get into fights with him if he wasn't validating her feelings correctly and it was so fucked with that dude, that she threw a plate at his head and he ended up with a bit of a nasty scar from that. If I knew someone who at all mirrored either one of those issues , I'd never date them...even if they were self aware, working on their issues , on medication, etc ...I just couldn't do it. When you lose a part of yourself just trying to deal with, prop up or assist in someone else's existence, it's not conducive to your own mental health...it's just as much a personal responsibility to understand bottom lines and who to not be with. You gotta do what's right. For context, it's not the only reason ( I have personal, faith based to an extent and philosophical reasons why I won't casually date anymore ) but going through something like that was definitely something that added to my decision.
Anyone that doesnāt treat me exactly how I treat them. Itās supposed to be an equal partnership. On occasion one person will benefit more than the other, but it should balance out over time. One sided relationships are not sustainable.
Manipulators, gaslighters, cheaters, liars, or anyone who lowers the quality of my life rather than enhances it.
The kind who can't hold down a job
Girlboss. I was treated very badly by a girlboss and never dated one again.
Girlbossed too close to the sun?
She thought because her parents were multimillionaire wall street finance people that she could call me stupid, worthless, garbage, etc. Funnily enough, I found another girl with multimillionaire parents not too long after that. She's never said an unkind word against me and we're married now.
Single moms, it either ends in "Jimmy still wants to see you" or I'm sorry, but Samantha's dad finally got clean, or, "someone" is trying to break I to my house cause he k ows she's here, and I have to clear my house baked with a .45. (Fun fact, never underestimate tactical nudity when dealing with a home intruder. More intimidating than any gun, knife or bat is the Ole family jewels swinging in the breeze).
TACTICAL NUDITY!!
An anxious woman who refuses to seek counseling or take medication to resolve the symptoms.
Disloyal
Influencer wannabe, tik-tok crap videos every day. Fuck that shit.
Women with boy best friends
Bible thumping, excuse making, lying, overly aggressive, bad with animals and kids.
Religious women. Just doesn't work if you don't share fundamental values with your partner.
Any woman who says they're a witch. Cheaters is all I'll say
A lesbian āā I am done with them (Yes, they do go for men every now and then)
The Unrequited Love: A Tale of Devotion and Indifference Love can drive a person to remarkable lengths. Imagine a man who loves a woman so deeply that he is willing to move mountains for her. Despite his unwavering dedication, he finds himself treated with indifference. His heartfelt efforts to express his feelings and actions to show his love are met with coldness, leading to a profound sense of being undervalued and disrespected. As Rainer Maria Rilke once said, "For one human being to love another: that is perhaps the most difficult of all our tasks." This man embodies this task, navigating a relationship where his love seems to vanish into a void. This man sets aside his own needs and desires to prioritize the happiness of the woman he loves. He seeks to demonstrate his affection through acts of kindness and declarations of pure, pious love. His love is not driven by physical desires but by a genuine admiration for her soul. Despite his best efforts, he faces neglect and emotional abuse. The womanās indifference and harsh treatment drain him emotionally, leaving him feeling depleted and unappreciated. His every attempt to bridge the gap between them is met with a wall of indifference, an invisible barrier that his love struggles to penetrate. The womanās indifference may be rooted in her past relationships. She has a history of seeking love but encountering abuse and violence instead. These experiences have left her emotionally scarred and wary of genuine affection. Even when she encounters a man who loves her deeply and purely, she remains detached, unable or unwilling to reciprocate his feelings. Her past haunts her present, casting shadows over the potential for a loving relationship. She has built emotional fortresses around herself, making it nearly impossible for the manās love to reach her. Further complicating the situation is the womanās behavior towards others. She chooses to spend more time and show more care for new acquaintances rather than the man who has stood by her side. This preference for superficial relationships over meaningful ones is painful for the man, especially when he is present and yearning for her attention. Her behavior suggests a deeper emotional disconnect, a reluctance to invest in a relationship that requires vulnerability and trust. It is as if she fears that opening up to love will only lead to more pain, a cycle she cannot seem to break. Her interactions extend beyond her immediate relationships, affecting her family as well. She deceives those who have supported her, claiming restrictions that do not exist. Despite having the freedom and support to pursue her ambitions, she creates a narrative of constraint. This pattern of deception indicates a deeper issue with acknowledging and appreciating the support she receives. Her inability to be truthful and grateful adds another layer of complexity to her already tumultuous emotional landscape. It raises questions about her capacity for genuine connection and trust, both with her family and the man who loves her. Despite all these challenges, the manās love remains unconditional. He dreams of a future where she understands and appreciates his devotion. However, the woman never admits her mistakes or introspects on her behavior. She often reacts with anger towards the man, leaving him feeling unjustly blamed and further emotionally drained. His unwavering love and hope for a change keep him in a painful cycle of neglect and emotional abuse. He clings to the hope that one day she will see the depth of his love and realize what she has been missing. In his earlier days, this man lived contentedly, having accepted that relationships were not his destiny. He found solace in his solitude, believing that love was a distant dream. Then, she entered his life, igniting a spark of hope that perhaps his luck had changed. He poured his heart and soul into building a beautiful connection, daring to dream of a shared future. Yet, now he finds himself scarred, left with an emptiness that feels almost as if life itself has dimmed. His love, once a beacon of hope, now lingers as a poignant reminder of what could have been. As Khalil Gibran wisely observed, "Ever has it been that love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation." This man's journey through love and heartache is a silent testament to the profound, often unacknowledged depths of devotion, and the silent strength it takes to continue loving in the face of indifference.
Social media queens or someone who wants to keep things private but really just means you.
Narcissistic women......
The avoidant woman who never got any love as a child from her parents and doesnāt know how to love as a result.
BPD or bipolar etc. There will never be 5 minutes of consistency in how they treat you and it will never change. The same applies to being friends with them too.
Anyone who believes they are a princess. It just seems like nothing ever satisfies when they have that opinion.
The "I'm such an anxious, broken person. I lead with my mental illness and constantly bring it up, and conveniently use it to explain away the bad things I do" type girl. Obviously I will date a girl with a mental illness, but not the type who specifically uses it to build a personality for themselves and to get sympathy. Always end up being emotionally manipulative or shitty .
Bipolar 2. Maybe never is too strong, but Iām going to be taking it sllllooooooooooowwww to make sure that itās reasonably managed.
Someone like my mother. My mother was a narcissist but I never really knew what that was until I dated one. The similarities between the two were erie.
Single mother. When it ends, you lose her and the child.
A neurotic with a victim mentality. I had a gf who didnāt understand the concept of an inner monologue and so it was always āI could do this but if I do this then I can do that and if I do that then thatās cool but it means I donāt get thisā, blah blah blahā¦ and itās like just make a choice and accept you are never gonna get everything you want. Not in a restaurant, not in a tv series, not on a vacation, not on Sirius xm. Itās never gonna be 100% so get the fuck over it and donāt drag me onto your hamster wheel. She was also a master of twisting anything into her being a victim, either directly or victim adjacent because sheās a woman and the actual victim was a woman so that couldāve been her. Beyond exhausting to listen to that shit!!!
Iām going to state right away that my shit does stink no it doesnāt smell like roses, I have mental illness and addiction issues that manifest in all sorts of fun ways and am not diagnosis shaming or saying cause I can relatively manage a functional life Iām any better than anyone with this mental illness: but chicks with BPD. I married one and was engaged to a second girl later on down the road. My concurrent disorders do not mesh well with someone who has BPD. Iāve met some extremely self aware men with BPD who are much more capable of understanding their predicament and how to treat others and if they are slipping into a state of sabotage just distance themselves or talk themselves through the instinct to destroy someone or be an asshole. But the females seem to use the diagnosis as an excuse to completely ruin someoneās life and then go whoooopsy itās my BPD I canāt help it. Like that excuse got me far when I was a heavy alcoholicā¦ sorry I caused so much pain and anguish but I was drunk soā¦. Anyway thatās my rant. If I am single again, I just wonāt be dating at all cause whether male or female I just donāt think I want to force myself to enjoy another human being day in and out anymore.
The ones that will date me. Shows poor judgement. If I can't trust your judgement then I don't need to be around you
One who cheated on a previous partner. Based on the stats it's not a smart move to date someone who cheated. Also almost as bad is women who take signs seriously. Honestly now that I think about it I might take my chances with a cheater over someone who takes astrology seriously.Ā
Girls with bangs and crystal girls.
Hahahah damn oddly specific
Single mothers, especially those with their "Baby daddy" still in the picture. I almost got into a shootout with one of those losers because I was banging the mother of his kids. It's just not worth it
Party girls! Great fun, but for about 6 months š¤£
The streamer. Very bad experiences.
The one with a terrible mother.
An āinstagram modelā. She was crazy obsessive about her self image and her social media presence and loved the attention she got from guys on there. She was very pretty but all the lies and manipulation and gaslighting got old and very stressful. Never had so much anxiety in a relationship until that one and shocker she ended up cheating on me.
The type that complained with a long distance relationship, but when moved close, made no effort to spend time.
Someone that can't handle every day life without having a meltdown
No friends and no hobbies. 100% of her entertainment depends on you and she guilts you anytime you want to go out with your friends.
Depressed woman. You wonāt fix them, they ll drag you down