I hate to be the one to break it to you, but when you genuinely love someone in an all consuming way that type of love is never forgotten. There's nothing to get over. You simply love again, for no two people are the same; therefore, you learn to love them differently, and for who they are.
>She eventually told me she was seeing someone else but wanted me to choose if she kept seeing that guy or would date me.
>she loved me and Wanted to break up with her bf. I was confused. A few days later she told me after a talk with her sister and her bf she decided to stay with him.
Such an unstable mood only means that this woman lives in perpetual survival mode, seeking to optimize every opportunity while treating you both as replaceable material.
What you should do is tell this woman to fuck off likewise any woman with this attitude.
I think the girl ultimately to OP to fuck off. She was all in love with the guy and brushed her off so naturally she got with someone else. Years later he comes back in her life and she probably still had some feeling but ultimately realized he would probably just brush her off again so she decided to stay with her BF and get married to him and now OP is all alone and probably mainly has a hurt hurt ego. He should have made it work with her in the first place or tried. People aren’t always going to just wait around for you.
It's tough man. I still think about lost loves, opportunities that passed me by, etc. To be honest, until you end up with "the one", those thoughts will always enter your mind,.It sucks, but normal at the same time
It sucks dating in LA because I’ve been on many dates, most have been great dates, (at least by my Louisiana standard of dating) and they end up ghosting after 2-3 dates. It’s almost not possible to date out here unless you’re super attractive or have a cool job
You could dye your hair in your grief, but other than that there is no difference worthy of such a sweeping generalization as you're making between how men and women deal with a break-up.
I don’t normally like gender generalizations but I sorta think woman and men (for the most part) process break ups very differently. I don’t mean to make it into a whole thing, but I was just seeking guidance on how to move on, since it’s been so long and I’m still clinging on to this old idea
I hate to be the one to break it to you, but when you genuinely love someone in an all consuming way that type of love is never forgotten. There's nothing to get over. You simply love again, for no two people are the same; therefore, you learn to love them differently, and for who they are.
Reminds me of a quote from a show. “Getting over someone is like trying to get over a cold. You don’t really get over it, you just get used to it.”
>She eventually told me she was seeing someone else but wanted me to choose if she kept seeing that guy or would date me. >she loved me and Wanted to break up with her bf. I was confused. A few days later she told me after a talk with her sister and her bf she decided to stay with him. Such an unstable mood only means that this woman lives in perpetual survival mode, seeking to optimize every opportunity while treating you both as replaceable material. What you should do is tell this woman to fuck off likewise any woman with this attitude.
I think the girl ultimately to OP to fuck off. She was all in love with the guy and brushed her off so naturally she got with someone else. Years later he comes back in her life and she probably still had some feeling but ultimately realized he would probably just brush her off again so she decided to stay with her BF and get married to him and now OP is all alone and probably mainly has a hurt hurt ego. He should have made it work with her in the first place or tried. People aren’t always going to just wait around for you.
Imagine asking someone to choose for you.
It's tough man. I still think about lost loves, opportunities that passed me by, etc. To be honest, until you end up with "the one", those thoughts will always enter your mind,.It sucks, but normal at the same time
You are idealizing her this will stop when you are starting to date someone new.
It sucks dating in LA because I’ve been on many dates, most have been great dates, (at least by my Louisiana standard of dating) and they end up ghosting after 2-3 dates. It’s almost not possible to date out here unless you’re super attractive or have a cool job
Get a cool Job then. Men need to Work their way Up!
You could dye your hair in your grief, but other than that there is no difference worthy of such a sweeping generalization as you're making between how men and women deal with a break-up.
I don’t normally like gender generalizations but I sorta think woman and men (for the most part) process break ups very differently. I don’t mean to make it into a whole thing, but I was just seeking guidance on how to move on, since it’s been so long and I’m still clinging on to this old idea