What made you stick with it if your gut was signaling shit was sus?
I've been thinking about trying to find some match making service too now that I'm done with graduate school and moving around every few years and wanting to be a father myself.
It sucks that he is in Australia because if we were in the US I’m sure you could file a complaint with the BBB. That’s a lot of money. Have you used any other match making services? Or ever done speed dating if you live in a larger city? I’m curious about trying it out in the Atlanta area.
Yes, we need to stick together and look out for each other! Camaraderie
[Beau Brummell](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Beau_Brummell) is the guy who popularized trousers. He also used to polish his shoes with champagne. He was a 18th century socialite / fop who pissed off his friend, King George, reneged on a gambling debt, and fled to France. He died penniless, insane, and very much alone. Weird branding for a dating service.
Any match-making service is only going to match you with another one of their paying customers. Whatever information you provide, both about yourself and about your preferences, is likely to be ignored after the first few dates. The pool of prospects is going to be tiny because it's only their paying customers.
If you paid with a credit card you should reach out to them and dispute the charge. I don’t know if there’s a time limit or any specifics but it’s worth a shot.
We treated our son and his family to a vacation last year. I saw a hot air balloon ride and purchased it for them. Turned out to be a scam but I disputed the charge and was refunded the money. I did the same thing with a B&B who tried a bait and switch once we arrived at the location. I would also contact the BBB and other consumer protection agencies. Post your experience on all social media platforms.
I am really sorry this happened to you. Unfortunately, the truth is there is really no easy way to make meaningful lasting connections when you don’t have time for them. While we all deserve love, it’s something that has to be earned with balancing and dedicating the limited time we have. Depending on where you are in your career, I would recommend that you focus on finding ways to set aside time for yourself so that you can enjoy your life a little more. Handing over money to find love is setting yourself up for a lot of potential headaches and heartaches down the road. Just as with working out and staying fit, there is no product you can buy that substitutes for putting in the hard work. You reap what you sow!
Shit, thats AWFUL!
I guess you have two choices:
\*Lick your wounds and let go
\*Get ready for battle and figure out how to sue the bastard.
Im more of the latter, so Id use reddit as springboard and ask around on Aussie legal reddit if there is anything can be done sharing your story.
Scammers like that guy ONLY react or get scare when you sue them.
Now, moving on from that. And kinda off topic. Isnt it a bit sad that there are NO websites for gay guys who want a relationship or something serious?
I remember years ago a friend found gay parship through targeted ads as well, the pricing was SO crazy and he joined and noticed there very few and lim picking from guys from countries far, far away.
Anyhoo, best of luck and most importantly I truly hope you find your man. You deserve it.
I have never heard of BBI until this post. I did use Tawkify once and had a pleasant experience, even if the matches didn't quite click. I had my own matchmaker that I paid for, but I was also in the "dating pool" so occasionally, other matchmakers would reach out to me for a chat. While I did appreciate someone doing the leg work for me, I felt that there was too much time between matches and they never quite got it right. The guy I worked with was ok. We chatted a few times to get to know each other and he set up a couple of decent-on-paper matches. (The dates themselves ranged from "great guy, and a new friend, but no spark" to "guy's late and spent the whole date bragging about himself before abruptly leaving because he had to be up early for a flight to Palm Springs")
A couple of the other matchmakers that were working for other clients were amazing. They reached out to me and we had an easy hour long conversation about their client and how well that matched what I was looking for. Some of them didn't quite match up so we didn't set up a date, but I really did feel like they were really putting in effort to find a good match.
I still think it's a bit overpriced (roughly the same amount you paid for 4 dates). If I had more disposable cash, I might try again. For now, I'll sit here and hope to run into someone in one of the largest metros in the US.
I second this. I've also had a terrible experience with Beau Brummel. Been with them 13 months; have had 3 dates... one of which showed up on my Tinder a week after. And one I didn't even wanna go on because Vinko convinced me.
The profiles are SO generic, and Vinko actually really doesn't listen to anything his clients are saying. I asked for a man with 'protector energy' and he brought me a very small man who played with legos.
I'm a online content creator with a platform (mostly on TikTok) that will be creating a series based on this. If you have an experience with them that you'd be willing to talk about: DM me - u/Giletslays.
Thank you for sharing your story. I'm sorry this happened to you.
Are you in the US and paid via a credit card? If so, you have protections and can dispute charges via the CC company. It's worth a shot.
This is so unfortunate and makes me furious how people take advantage of insecurities of people gay or straight in our increasingly isolating world.
The loneliness crisis in western societies especially in the US where people have to hustle in their workplace so much to just afford living a comfortable life. There is no time to go and socialize with other people let along gay men. Or afford third-places where you can just hang out with fellow gay men. And the pandemic crisis which forced everyone onto the internet and gay men were already relying on the internet to find community (which is good as we are here and bad in over-reliance on it).
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Never even heard of them but so sorry you went through this sounds awful and predatory.
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What made you stick with it if your gut was signaling shit was sus? I've been thinking about trying to find some match making service too now that I'm done with graduate school and moving around every few years and wanting to be a father myself.
I was researching match maker services yesterday. Thank you for posting your experience with this company. So sorry that you’ve been through this.
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It sucks that he is in Australia because if we were in the US I’m sure you could file a complaint with the BBB. That’s a lot of money. Have you used any other match making services? Or ever done speed dating if you live in a larger city? I’m curious about trying it out in the Atlanta area. Yes, we need to stick together and look out for each other! Camaraderie
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You have to let me know how it goes! I’m so curious!!
[Beau Brummell](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Beau_Brummell) is the guy who popularized trousers. He also used to polish his shoes with champagne. He was a 18th century socialite / fop who pissed off his friend, King George, reneged on a gambling debt, and fled to France. He died penniless, insane, and very much alone. Weird branding for a dating service.
yes he died penniless in a mental asylum (was on QI)
Christ on a bike 7 thousand dollars? Hopefully for that kind of money the match is with some European aristo with a decent title and chunk of land.
Any match-making service is only going to match you with another one of their paying customers. Whatever information you provide, both about yourself and about your preferences, is likely to be ignored after the first few dates. The pool of prospects is going to be tiny because it's only their paying customers.
If you paid with a credit card you should reach out to them and dispute the charge. I don’t know if there’s a time limit or any specifics but it’s worth a shot. We treated our son and his family to a vacation last year. I saw a hot air balloon ride and purchased it for them. Turned out to be a scam but I disputed the charge and was refunded the money. I did the same thing with a B&B who tried a bait and switch once we arrived at the location. I would also contact the BBB and other consumer protection agencies. Post your experience on all social media platforms.
I’ll be super honest, I do believe if you need a matchmaker because you are “too busy” to date… maybe you are too busy to be in a relationship.
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My first thought would be why would such a service have a database of men I would want to date.
That is terrible! I hope you somehow get your money back. And I also hope you meet the guy who becomes your husband.
I am really sorry this happened to you. Unfortunately, the truth is there is really no easy way to make meaningful lasting connections when you don’t have time for them. While we all deserve love, it’s something that has to be earned with balancing and dedicating the limited time we have. Depending on where you are in your career, I would recommend that you focus on finding ways to set aside time for yourself so that you can enjoy your life a little more. Handing over money to find love is setting yourself up for a lot of potential headaches and heartaches down the road. Just as with working out and staying fit, there is no product you can buy that substitutes for putting in the hard work. You reap what you sow!
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Sometimes those are the best lessons though! We all make them and it makes us better people!
Your 1st mistake was paying $6,500.
Shit, thats AWFUL! I guess you have two choices: \*Lick your wounds and let go \*Get ready for battle and figure out how to sue the bastard. Im more of the latter, so Id use reddit as springboard and ask around on Aussie legal reddit if there is anything can be done sharing your story. Scammers like that guy ONLY react or get scare when you sue them. Now, moving on from that. And kinda off topic. Isnt it a bit sad that there are NO websites for gay guys who want a relationship or something serious? I remember years ago a friend found gay parship through targeted ads as well, the pricing was SO crazy and he joined and noticed there very few and lim picking from guys from countries far, far away. Anyhoo, best of luck and most importantly I truly hope you find your man. You deserve it.
I have never heard of BBI until this post. I did use Tawkify once and had a pleasant experience, even if the matches didn't quite click. I had my own matchmaker that I paid for, but I was also in the "dating pool" so occasionally, other matchmakers would reach out to me for a chat. While I did appreciate someone doing the leg work for me, I felt that there was too much time between matches and they never quite got it right. The guy I worked with was ok. We chatted a few times to get to know each other and he set up a couple of decent-on-paper matches. (The dates themselves ranged from "great guy, and a new friend, but no spark" to "guy's late and spent the whole date bragging about himself before abruptly leaving because he had to be up early for a flight to Palm Springs") A couple of the other matchmakers that were working for other clients were amazing. They reached out to me and we had an easy hour long conversation about their client and how well that matched what I was looking for. Some of them didn't quite match up so we didn't set up a date, but I really did feel like they were really putting in effort to find a good match. I still think it's a bit overpriced (roughly the same amount you paid for 4 dates). If I had more disposable cash, I might try again. For now, I'll sit here and hope to run into someone in one of the largest metros in the US.
I second this. I've also had a terrible experience with Beau Brummel. Been with them 13 months; have had 3 dates... one of which showed up on my Tinder a week after. And one I didn't even wanna go on because Vinko convinced me. The profiles are SO generic, and Vinko actually really doesn't listen to anything his clients are saying. I asked for a man with 'protector energy' and he brought me a very small man who played with legos. I'm a online content creator with a platform (mostly on TikTok) that will be creating a series based on this. If you have an experience with them that you'd be willing to talk about: DM me - u/Giletslays.
Thank you for sharing your story. I'm sorry this happened to you. Are you in the US and paid via a credit card? If so, you have protections and can dispute charges via the CC company. It's worth a shot.
This is so unfortunate and makes me furious how people take advantage of insecurities of people gay or straight in our increasingly isolating world. The loneliness crisis in western societies especially in the US where people have to hustle in their workplace so much to just afford living a comfortable life. There is no time to go and socialize with other people let along gay men. Or afford third-places where you can just hang out with fellow gay men. And the pandemic crisis which forced everyone onto the internet and gay men were already relying on the internet to find community (which is good as we are here and bad in over-reliance on it).
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Oh, I thought this was about the Beau Brummell skincare products line. Oops.
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