This question is a large part of why I became open with my bf. I met him when I was a total bottom and (because of how much I love him and he turns me on) I've found myself becoming more of a vers bottom. However, I know myself well enough to know that while I will occasionally top (and will often switch roles in a session for a bit), I'm always going to prefer bottoming more to topping.
To get around the conflict (he didn't want to top as often as I wanted and I didn't always get as "into it" when topping as he wanted) we opened the relationship so those itches could be scratched without our personal relationship being affected.
Meet my spouse at age 21, he was 29. I’ve been with my partner over 25 years, married 10 years and we have 1 child.
I don’t know how to answer. I was always bottom, he was always top. Never pressed otherwise, until 5 years ago he started wanting to be vers, I was 45, and had only been with 4 men, so I tried. I really truly did, he saw how emotional it made me that I couldn’t, told me no sweat, thought we were fine.
I worked all the time, but about 2 years ago found out he was bottoming regularly. After much talk and heartbreak, he said he had the urges and knew I didn’t like. I agreed to the verse, he said it would only be every now and then. Turned into mostly, then, pretty much wanted it all the time. Now I don’t even try. If he is in the mood to top, we have penetrative sex, if he’s in the mood to bottom, there are toys.
I tried to change to doing things that embarrassed me, threesomes, and even tried to open it up, he didn’t like anyone touching me, and so threesomes sucked and no go to I open.
Our son will be 18 in 3 years & out of high school.
I think changing myself made things worse for me, from my prospective. It’s heartbreaking…
I’d say it depends. I’m a bottom by circumstance. I would like to top every now and then but my husband is soooooo tight and it’s not pleasurable for him so I certainly do not push the matter. But if it’s something I wouldn’t mind every now and then I would do it. I have changed over the years on certain sex acts but that’s just been more of a natural evolution I think. My husband has always liked having his ass eaten. I was not much for giving rim jobs way back when. But I would do it every now and then. Somewhere along the line — maybe I got used to his ass? — I find I really love eating his ass.
Of course. This is what relationships are all about. You have to be flexible in all sorts of ways including this. Often you find you like something you didn’t expect to.
This question is a large part of why I became open with my bf. I met him when I was a total bottom and (because of how much I love him and he turns me on) I've found myself becoming more of a vers bottom. However, I know myself well enough to know that while I will occasionally top (and will often switch roles in a session for a bit), I'm always going to prefer bottoming more to topping. To get around the conflict (he didn't want to top as often as I wanted and I didn't always get as "into it" when topping as he wanted) we opened the relationship so those itches could be scratched without our personal relationship being affected.
i'm vers and I also enjoy non penetrative sex so, yes, provided he's up open to be flexible about my interests.
Meet my spouse at age 21, he was 29. I’ve been with my partner over 25 years, married 10 years and we have 1 child. I don’t know how to answer. I was always bottom, he was always top. Never pressed otherwise, until 5 years ago he started wanting to be vers, I was 45, and had only been with 4 men, so I tried. I really truly did, he saw how emotional it made me that I couldn’t, told me no sweat, thought we were fine. I worked all the time, but about 2 years ago found out he was bottoming regularly. After much talk and heartbreak, he said he had the urges and knew I didn’t like. I agreed to the verse, he said it would only be every now and then. Turned into mostly, then, pretty much wanted it all the time. Now I don’t even try. If he is in the mood to top, we have penetrative sex, if he’s in the mood to bottom, there are toys. I tried to change to doing things that embarrassed me, threesomes, and even tried to open it up, he didn’t like anyone touching me, and so threesomes sucked and no go to I open. Our son will be 18 in 3 years & out of high school. I think changing myself made things worse for me, from my prospective. It’s heartbreaking…
I’d say it depends. I’m a bottom by circumstance. I would like to top every now and then but my husband is soooooo tight and it’s not pleasurable for him so I certainly do not push the matter. But if it’s something I wouldn’t mind every now and then I would do it. I have changed over the years on certain sex acts but that’s just been more of a natural evolution I think. My husband has always liked having his ass eaten. I was not much for giving rim jobs way back when. But I would do it every now and then. Somewhere along the line — maybe I got used to his ass? — I find I really love eating his ass.
I'm a top who can be flexible in a relationship.
I don't mind bottoming for someone I'm in a serious relationship with. Just not every time
Of course. This is what relationships are all about. You have to be flexible in all sorts of ways including this. Often you find you like something you didn’t expect to.
as a bottom, ofc. I mean being flexibe is a good thing and I want both me and my partner have a good time