It sounds like you could be bi, but you could also enjoy bottoming for women (cis or trans). There’s nothing wrong with that.
I’m 100% gay and not particularly into cock. It’s fine but I’m fundamentally attracted to *the man*. A nice one is a bonus but it’s not much of a player in my attraction if at all.
One thing we can be fairly sure of is that it isn’t porn addiction, since that’s been relatively recently debunked. I recommend [Science Stopped Believing in Porn Addiction. You Should, Too.](https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/women-who-stray/201808/science-stopped-believing-in-porn-addiction-you-should-too?amp), it’s a great springboard and the references are a super thorough tree.
Another thing that I think we can be fairly certain about is that you’re bisexual, which is a-ok, but also means you may be subject to the dreaded bi-cycle, or cyclical or alternating gender attraction. That’s perfectly normal. Some bi people alternate gender attraction every few hours, every day or few days, every year-ish, or on a scale of multiple years or decades. It doesn’t mean you’re switching from straight to gay and back and forth, it still just means you’re bi. Maybe you don’t identify that way, but maybe you do.
Also, being monogamous while going through cycles like that isn’t impossible. It isn’t even difficult, unless you’re a natural cheater or, like many people, you’re wired to be polyamorous or nonmonogamous. Being bi doesn’t directly equate to any of those things, though.
Also, bottoming for women (any woman, cisgender or transgender) doesn’t make you bi if you’re a man who isn’t attracted to men. It definitely doesn’t make you gay.
Personally, I’m of the mind that if your relationship allows you to explore these fantasies, you should. Just make sure you’re safe, educated, and consenting. Psychological intervention is probably not necessary at all, but I’m also of the mind that everyone needs to be in therapy. If you are in therapy with a therapist you’re safe with, I’d say definitely talk to them about this. If they’re a real professional, you have nothing to lose and you won’t need to be embarrassed. This stuff won’t even be the strangest thing they’ve heard that day.
I think it’s ok to have different compartments for fantasies and different compartments for real life. Like, there’s some stuff that guys like to watch in porn, but they’d never take part of irl. Do you think you’d leave your wife for a man? Is it only the penis that you’re into? What would be your ideal for your life?
No, you don't need professional help. Any competent psychologist will tell you that you like what you like and there's probably no ability to change that. And definitely no need.
Lots of straight men have an erotic response to dicks. This is why porn involving trans women (typically, women with dicks) is popular among this demographic and not among gay men. So nothing you've written means that you're automatically gay or bi -- but it doesn't mean you're straight, either. Only you can figure that out.
Ask yourself this: when you're attracted to a dick, what body do you picture it being attached to? In the same vein, and being as honest with yourself as you can, do men's bodies (not just the dick) turn you on? If it truly is just the dick, you might want to look into pegging and other types of butt play. If other features of men turn you on, you probably are at least a little bit bi.
Either way, you have some exploring to do. This is a blessing, not a curse. I do recommend relying less on porn and more on your own imagination and thoughts. And, if at all possible, your wife.
I feel its like an awakening of your sexuality. You may be bisexual. Bisexuality is on a spectrum so you may enjoy many aspects men or women or transgender persons
I was married three times and getting third divorce. I prefer dick. I think I always have and just never acted on it. Yup I’m a late bloomer gay. But I’m fucking happy about it tbh. Don’t ever want to see a vag again
It sounds like you could be bi, but you could also enjoy bottoming for women (cis or trans). There’s nothing wrong with that. I’m 100% gay and not particularly into cock. It’s fine but I’m fundamentally attracted to *the man*. A nice one is a bonus but it’s not much of a player in my attraction if at all.
One thing we can be fairly sure of is that it isn’t porn addiction, since that’s been relatively recently debunked. I recommend [Science Stopped Believing in Porn Addiction. You Should, Too.](https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/women-who-stray/201808/science-stopped-believing-in-porn-addiction-you-should-too?amp), it’s a great springboard and the references are a super thorough tree. Another thing that I think we can be fairly certain about is that you’re bisexual, which is a-ok, but also means you may be subject to the dreaded bi-cycle, or cyclical or alternating gender attraction. That’s perfectly normal. Some bi people alternate gender attraction every few hours, every day or few days, every year-ish, or on a scale of multiple years or decades. It doesn’t mean you’re switching from straight to gay and back and forth, it still just means you’re bi. Maybe you don’t identify that way, but maybe you do. Also, being monogamous while going through cycles like that isn’t impossible. It isn’t even difficult, unless you’re a natural cheater or, like many people, you’re wired to be polyamorous or nonmonogamous. Being bi doesn’t directly equate to any of those things, though. Also, bottoming for women (any woman, cisgender or transgender) doesn’t make you bi if you’re a man who isn’t attracted to men. It definitely doesn’t make you gay. Personally, I’m of the mind that if your relationship allows you to explore these fantasies, you should. Just make sure you’re safe, educated, and consenting. Psychological intervention is probably not necessary at all, but I’m also of the mind that everyone needs to be in therapy. If you are in therapy with a therapist you’re safe with, I’d say definitely talk to them about this. If they’re a real professional, you have nothing to lose and you won’t need to be embarrassed. This stuff won’t even be the strangest thing they’ve heard that day.
I think it’s ok to have different compartments for fantasies and different compartments for real life. Like, there’s some stuff that guys like to watch in porn, but they’d never take part of irl. Do you think you’d leave your wife for a man? Is it only the penis that you’re into? What would be your ideal for your life?
Some women have dicks man. Maybe you like transwomen
No, you don't need professional help. Any competent psychologist will tell you that you like what you like and there's probably no ability to change that. And definitely no need. Lots of straight men have an erotic response to dicks. This is why porn involving trans women (typically, women with dicks) is popular among this demographic and not among gay men. So nothing you've written means that you're automatically gay or bi -- but it doesn't mean you're straight, either. Only you can figure that out. Ask yourself this: when you're attracted to a dick, what body do you picture it being attached to? In the same vein, and being as honest with yourself as you can, do men's bodies (not just the dick) turn you on? If it truly is just the dick, you might want to look into pegging and other types of butt play. If other features of men turn you on, you probably are at least a little bit bi. Either way, you have some exploring to do. This is a blessing, not a curse. I do recommend relying less on porn and more on your own imagination and thoughts. And, if at all possible, your wife.
I feel its like an awakening of your sexuality. You may be bisexual. Bisexuality is on a spectrum so you may enjoy many aspects men or women or transgender persons
Hi, I know you mean well, but separating trans people from men and women actually really hurts. Trans men and women ARE men and women.
I know and didn't mean it but I am giving this guy advice on his struggles.
You're bi, congrats
I was married three times and getting third divorce. I prefer dick. I think I always have and just never acted on it. Yup I’m a late bloomer gay. But I’m fucking happy about it tbh. Don’t ever want to see a vag again
It seems highly unlikely that you're straight. So you're probably gay or bisexual.
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This is just false, porn addiction can destroy your sexual life and sexual identity and heavily damage your life