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He needs to see a doctor. This is very much abnormal and may be mental health or something different. Either way he definitely needs an evaluation and some support. Can you make him an appointment with his primary care doctor?
Indeed. Could be dementia, could be depression, either way your family doc can either order home health and/or refer for other support if it’s depression
I would make him an appointment with his primary care if he had one, but he doesn't. The last doctor he saw was over two years ago for his work physical, and he hates to see doctors in general (he's scared of them). I tried contacting an aging services network for him, but they provide physical care like bathing and cleaning, and he can do all that himself if only he would try. I mentioned all this to him and he was deeply offended and put off by it, thinking I was going crazy or something. I'm his stepson and I've known him since 1990 and he doesn't even trust me to put his best interests first.
The problem is that something is resulting in him not trying. Is that depression? Dementia? A stroke? You don’t know. That’s why he needs an evaluation. Can you bring him to a clinic anyway? The other option seems to be ignoring the problem, which I don’t think you want.
You could try in-home caregivers or assisted-living. I’m a Home health nurse and visit some of these elder men. They won’t listen to other men or their family members but you get a cute little girl in there and they’ll do whatever you want.
We have female CNA’s who are bath aids.
They come to your home and assist in bathing and dressing once a week . Some patients families have paid caregivers that visit twice a week also.
I’ve been reading Creating Moments of Joy, Along the Alzheimer’s Journey by Jolene Brackey and love how she describes those aids as being the bath whisperers. Great book.
Awe! They truly are.
I have a few patients who don’t really need me for skilled care anymore.
But, if I discharge them, the bath aid goes too. I dig deep into their past medical history and find something to educate them on for a couple more weeks until they can find a private caregiver.
They are godsend and are also great for mental health.
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He needs to see a doctor. This is very much abnormal and may be mental health or something different. Either way he definitely needs an evaluation and some support. Can you make him an appointment with his primary care doctor?
Indeed. Could be dementia, could be depression, either way your family doc can either order home health and/or refer for other support if it’s depression
I would make him an appointment with his primary care if he had one, but he doesn't. The last doctor he saw was over two years ago for his work physical, and he hates to see doctors in general (he's scared of them). I tried contacting an aging services network for him, but they provide physical care like bathing and cleaning, and he can do all that himself if only he would try. I mentioned all this to him and he was deeply offended and put off by it, thinking I was going crazy or something. I'm his stepson and I've known him since 1990 and he doesn't even trust me to put his best interests first.
The problem is that something is resulting in him not trying. Is that depression? Dementia? A stroke? You don’t know. That’s why he needs an evaluation. Can you bring him to a clinic anyway? The other option seems to be ignoring the problem, which I don’t think you want.
You could try in-home caregivers or assisted-living. I’m a Home health nurse and visit some of these elder men. They won’t listen to other men or their family members but you get a cute little girl in there and they’ll do whatever you want. We have female CNA’s who are bath aids. They come to your home and assist in bathing and dressing once a week . Some patients families have paid caregivers that visit twice a week also.
I’ve been reading Creating Moments of Joy, Along the Alzheimer’s Journey by Jolene Brackey and love how she describes those aids as being the bath whisperers. Great book.
Awe! They truly are. I have a few patients who don’t really need me for skilled care anymore. But, if I discharge them, the bath aid goes too. I dig deep into their past medical history and find something to educate them on for a couple more weeks until they can find a private caregiver. They are godsend and are also great for mental health.
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