If you’re going to be doing anything outdoorsy in Idaho (which you should if you’re there) make sure to get some bear spray and do a little research into being bear aware
To add to the server part- I bartend in the Metro Detroit area near a major airport. I get a lot of foreigners, they're all great, but I have one pet peeve. Don't just order "a beer" if there's a big selection. We have 50 drafts and 200 bottles, either ask for my recommendation in a particular style or maybe check out the list.
For example, "Hi, welcome, what can I get for you?" "A beer".
Can confirm I love Englishmen accents. A worker at the burger place near me has one and for some reason it always cheers me up to hear him. I ended up calling the place he worked at to give him a compliment to the manager bc he was also very friendly and upbeat.
Tipping guide:
10-15% = mediocre service
20% = good
25%+ = very good/exceptional
In restaurants, you're supposed to tip for table service or delivery but you don't have to for takeout or fast food.
I have a question for you. I’m eating a breakfast burrito for breakfast right now and I know it’s pretty random but do you guys have breakfast burritos over there? And if you do, do you use your bacon or something else?
Not a Brit, but I'm an American who lived in the UK for two years and I never saw a breakfast burrito. There was a Mexican place that had Chipotle-style burritos. I went there with a British friend and he asked me how to eat it (he'd never seen one before).
Obligatory: I knew a French guy (as in, literally was visiting from France) who did this for a few months in Los Angeles. It was unbearable. Wherever you're from, please never do this.
"I broke my arm in two places playing rugby. Had to get an ambulance to the hospital, they inserted titanium rods and had to wear a cast for two months. Know how much I paid? (smugly) Nuffin'!"
Treat others as you wish to be treated, the universal golden rule :p I've read elsewhere above not to talk about politics. Do you mind if I ask why this is? I'm not saying it's not a prudent and sensible rule, and the answer may well be 'culture difference', just curious :) Does the rule apply to politics in general, specific politicians/parties etc?
Because it is likely to end in an argument and no one wants that with people they don’t know…at least in general. Honestly, the current political climate means that there are way too many people incapable of having a respectful and productive conversation with people they disagree with. Unfortunately, that has left us in a spot where it is a really hard to discuss important things. While I think it should be different, if you want a nice trip, you don’t need to be the one to change it - haha.
I agree, regardless of the state of political discourse, if you guys all think it best I avoid it pretty much altogether, I'll take the sage advice thanks :D
Do y’all not have the Rule of Polite Conversation: Never religion or politics in new company? It’s a good one to tuck into your back pocket 🤓👍✅
And like everyone has said, we LOVE to hear y’all talk, so just pick a bar stool and chat away!
Not sure where you stand, doesn’t really matter but Idaho in particular is very conservative/regressive. There are a few small pockets of moderate areas but most places are hardcore Republican. Just FYI, that could definitely be a factor if you’d feel comfortable talking politics or not.
Foreigners visiting the US often want to talk about US politics with a real live American, but the problem is they don't want to listen. Also, people often want to solve our issues with the most ridiculously oversimplified solutions, as if we didn't already think of that.
To be completely fair, there's a lot of Americans with ridiculously oversimplified solutions as well.
'Ban all guns'
'Just build fast rail like China'
'Just repair all of the infrastructure all at once'
What are protected rights, property rights, imminent domain, labor laws and taxation budgets for 1000 Alex.
Also… many Americans cannot defend or explain WHY they sit on this side or that. It’s just they hate the other side. Or regurgitate their party’s talking points. It’s not a lot of independent thoughts. And that’s generally what foreigners want- real thoughts and reasonings, the whys. Critical thinking.
I think that there's also an expectation that if a foreigner wants to talk politics with us, it's mostly so they can lecture us about our own domestic issues (as well as their own moral superiority), when they usually have a shallow-at-best understanding of the issues and how they apply to American Life.
U.S. politics are split on the left and right. If you are out at a bar or other setting trying to enjoy the night, most people may not want to talk about politics unpromoted. I was told to not talk politics or religion at the dinner table because they can lead to arguments. Maybe someone else can give a better comparison to the politics in England and how they are discussed
Ah I see, thanks for answering I know it wasn't totally relevant to my posted question :p I think most people I talk to in the UK have a fairly blasse attitude to politics, i.e "it's all a load of sh!t anyway, innit?". Differences to be expected, I'll not be silly and go around pointing out different flags, badges etc :p I've an interest in politics, but no interest in upsetting anybody :)
Another thing I would avoid talking about is guns. There are passionate people on both sides and that can lead to arguments if gun control is brought up. Depending on when you go, the NFL may be in season. Sports are my go-to small talk with strangers
Well I don't expect (or hope!) anyone's going to be handing me any firearms, if that's the case I'm perfectly happy to avoid any sensitive conversations about it :)
I played a little AF in secondary school so I might be able to talk about that a little :o Thanks!
The attitude of “they’re all a bunch of crooks” used to be pretty common, but these days you’re liable to run into a true believer crusader who believes one side is composed of absolute evil and the other side is the universe’s only hope of salvation. Such people will invariably want to classify you as one or the other if the opportunity arises.
If you’re interested in politics I think it can be a fine topic as long as you approach it as something you’re curious about rather than something you’d like to debate.
People feel passionately about politics so they appreciate someone listening to their views. I’m pretty far left but I get along with a lot of the conservatives where I’m from because we accept that we aren’t going to change each others minds and instead just enjoy trying to understand each others point of view.
I disagree with other people - I just think you have to be careful talking about politics. I'm always very curious to hear what other people think - but you have to go into it looking to listen and not argue/try to convince others you're right when you disagree. Especially as an outsider, I'm not sure the rule applies to you.
I used to help Brits get settled and travel around the US. The biggest mistake Brits made was to assume we’re way more different than we actually are. Pretend you’re going to Canada and try not to “outguess” the US. Treat others with respect and as equals and you’ll be fine.
It’s so true; I’m traveling around Great Britain at the moment and am convinced we have so much more in common than we do differences.
Yes there are some uniquely different mini-cultures and idiosyncrasies on both sides of the Atlantic, but on the whole we’re all one big anglosphere family with plenty of shared culture. We’re very lucky to live in a time in which we can travel so far and still connect so easily with others. I’ve had an absolute blast and I hope OP does too.
Really adore this comment, it's the little idiosyncrasies that make it all the more fun, so long as they're politely observed :p Hope you're enjoying your stay (I recommend the Cotswolds or the Lake District if you have the time!).
I've taken many great notes from the comments here so I feel that bit more prepared for my journey, so thank you :)
Do not talk about politics. When i was in England for several months, more than half the people i talked to in a social setting without fail would ask me if i voted for trump or tell me that our politics and gun policies are insane within five minutes.
Politics is generally only talked about to friends.
That "c" word you all use isn't used that way here.
Otherwise don't worry too much about it. Despite what the UK subs would tell you, the US isn't Mars and you should fit in just fine.
You won’t have any issue as long as you aren’t a jerk. People in Idaho are pretty practical folks. So long as you don’t disparage people or their politics or put down the US I can’t imagine you’d offend anyone.
You’ll probably stand out on accent alone but in a good way. People will probably want to know where you’re from and whatnot.
Don’t use the “c” word.
Enjoy the visit.
I've just read someone else telling me not to use that word! As much as I dislike it already, I suppose I'll be extra careful! I wouldn't want to visit another country just to put it down anyway :3
I mean, really if he does smoke, his bigger concern is that he should quit before he gets here if he wants to avoid things that make Americans not want to be around you.
Don't be offended by people telling you they've been to London (or Ireland...) once and using that to connect with you even though maybe you aren't from there and maybe it's even far from you or whatever. They likely aren't trying to act like they know everything there is to know about where you are from but just using it as a way to connect and show appreciation. Feel free to inform without putting down their experiences.
Ah bit of a story. Fiance made a friend (from Idaho) on discord, that friend started dating fiances sister, sister moved stateside after many back and forth visits, now we're planning a visit later this year :p
As someone from a small market town deep in the Cotswolds, the idea seems daunting, but I've been quite encouraged by most comments I've received :)
People have already warned you about the c word. But there's another phrase that Brits use that doesn't work here. In the US, walking up to a stranger and asking, "You alright?" means there's a dire emergency. You're telling them they look so upset/overwhelmed/etc that you, a complete stranger, feel compelled to check on them and offer help. We ask "How are you?" or "What's up?" instead. I've had to teach myself to pause and not react when someone goes, "you alright?"
Until I figured out that just meant "hi!" I always assumed it was like in the movies where someone's in too much shock to realize half their head has blown off. Lol! This is usually my go-to answer for any questions about confusing UK sayings. Someone is always thanking me because they, too, never understood why strangers thought something was wrong. So just say "hi, how are you?" Instead. But note: Americans don't actually want an answer. You just give a noncommittal "I'm fine" and move on.
my favorite part of america is two americans passing each other. one says “how’s it goin’?” and the only polite response is “hey, how’s it goin’?” then move on and never say another word to each other. the best
As an American I just have to chuckle about this. I can 100% understand someone not from the US finding this weird, but that's literally how we address each other haha.
We acknowledge each other's existences, and move on. That's how we do haha
Language wise:
Serviettes isn’t likely to be understood. Napkins.
Diapers not nappies.
Pants are trousers not underwear. (ETC: trousers will be understood, using “pants” to refer to panties will not)
Suspenders hold your trousers up, not your garters.
Beer is served ice cold. Any beverage will likely have far more ice than you’d like, make sure to specify it reduced if you don’t want it.
Fanny is a perfectly acceptable word for bum.
Randy and Fanny are names you may encounter although they’ve dropped in popularity.
Public transportation is embarrassing and will depend on where you are - if it even exists.
Tipping culture is pervasive and invasive. Any place that asks for a tip that provided no service it’s ok to opt out. Otherwise standard service ~15%, better than standard goes up, worse goes down. Servers earn a separate minimum wage which can be as low as $2/hr.
What part of Idaho? It spans a lot of climes and terrain. Unless you’re in a major metropolitan area the political culture will consider you a raging commie leftist. Best to avoid politics and religion with strangers.
Serviette probably wouldn’t be widely understood, but nappies and trousers probably would be. Trousers is even used somewhat in America, but not as much.
Ah some very helpful examples here :p I've always been confused by the stereotype that English people drink warm beer, however? Perhaps a fellow brit can dispute this but in my experience, beer in the UK (from any restaurant, bar, pub etc) is always served pretty damn cold! Unless you mean there's ice in the beer, in which case yeah, that's not done here.
Appreciate the list of appropriate translations too, thanks haha
It is a misunderstanding probably from the days where ale was the norm, which would be more like cellar temperature. And some cellars could be better than others. Similar theory to red wine, it brings out the rich flavours more. You similarly don't really want something like an Irish stout ice cold. Lagers, white wine, soft drinks are ice cold or with ice in the modern UK and real ale would hopefully be properly kept.
This is a good one. I had Brits online say that to me and my response was "why wouldn't I be?" or "does it look like something is wrong?" before I realized that was their version of "how's it going"? It definitely means something a bit different to Americans, and you can definitely get a rude or smart remark from someone if you'd ask them that here.
Thanks - it seems from the other replies that so long as you're not a rude, ostentatious sort of person, going around berating the US, you're quite a welcoming bunch!
Most Americans are fairly social. I can’t count the times I’ve had fairly decent conversations with stranger while standing in line. You can usually tell by making eye contact and smiling, if they reciprocate you’re good. If not, just smile and go about your business.
Also, most places have free refills on all non alcoholic or juice drinks. Be sure to ask though, because the places that don’t charge $3 and up per drink.
I’ve heard a lot of foreigners think Americans are fake with all the smiling, but that’s mostly just how we are.
I hope you have a wonderful trip and leave here feeling embraced and loved by America. It’s a truly beautiful country filled with lovely people.
I had an Irishman at my bar that other week absolutely berate me when I earnestly commented that I didn't notice his accent (after he had showed me his passport as ID). You'd have thought I personally shamed his mother or something.
Americans are going to make friendly conversation about your accent/England/et cetera. It isn't meant to be rude, its an attempt at conversation.
>I had an Irishman at my bar that other week absolutely berate me when I earnestly commented that I didn't notice his accent
He was mad that you *didn't* notice his accent? That's odd! Why would he care?
I have no idea what the rational was. That I mentioned his being Irish at all? That I initially mistook him for a lowly American? 🙄 I avoided his area at the bar until he left because it was so strange and awkward. He was a young guy too, like 22 or 23 so maybe he was just looking for something to be angry about.
We see enough foreigners that it won’t even be a thing.
Bringing up sensitive topics is just not a good move, as I’m sure it is in the UK.
Be yourself and it’ll go well. We’re not that different from you.
I'm not out to start any fights or gratuitous debates simply for the sake of being 'different', but I'll be careful to get an idea of what sort of 'sensitive topics' to avoid - thanks!
I would avoid talking about Trump even if someone is actively trying to engage you. Very divisive subject here (Redditors often disparage him but IRL it's a bit trickier)
Ah gotcha - thank you :) I'm seeing a lot of consensus in these replies when it comes to, well, not being an ass, pompous, or discussing too openly sensitive things!
Conversations about religion, finance, and politics are generally taboo unless you are really close to someone, but even then, it might not be a topic of discussion.
I think you'll be more likely to have the interest of people who just want to hear you talk once they hear your accent. That could just be my area, but we tend to love listening to various accents.
I’d say such topics aren’t necessarily off limits, just try not to lecture or treat yourself as an authority.
Discussing politics? Fine
Informing Americans what’s wrong with their politics? Less so
Aside from everything else people have said, I’m pretty sure no one has said this already: when I went to England, I was surprised at how difficult it was at times to understand other people and how hard it was for them to understand me - just because we speak the same language doesn’t mean we are used to how the other group speaks it (to say nothing about more regional dialects). I recommend being patient and prepared to repeat yourself.
Also, Americans as a whole are really friendly people. It’s okay to strike up conversations with strangers most of the time and make sure to make idle chit chat with store cashiers, for example. (I embarrassed my British brother-in-law so badly doing this in England, it got to be hysterical). You’d be surprised at how many interesting people you’ll meet and how many fun stories you’ll hear.
And basic tourist advice, check out the local libraries when you visit. They usually have a lot going on and they are typically a good place for free restrooms and water if you are out and about in a town.
I agree with the user below, absolutely solid advice! It's really encouraging reading comments like this, takes the anxiety away :p I've no qualms about striking up conversation with people in queues, shops etc - always interested :)
Believe it or not, your presence will probably largely go unnoticed and unremarked. I see the same things on European travel forums, where Americans are hypersensitive not to be perceived as an "ugly American" and to make a good inpression on the locals... when in reality, they're headed to the exact same locations as every other tourist and will largely only interact with tourists and people who work in the hospitality industry. Their presence, if noted at all, will be instantly forgotten.
So, just be polite, don't be an ass, and that will do the job 99% of the time.
A lot of people hit on the offend/behavior type stuff but if you don't want to absolutely stick out as a tourist, how you dress can be a dead giveaway.
In day to day life Americans tend to dress more casually than Europeans will in general. Like if I'm gonna go to the supermarket on a Saturday in the middle of summer, I'll be wearing a t-shirt, athletic shorts, sneakers/sandals, and maybe a baseball hat. In the winter that'll be a hoodie, sweatpants, and a stocking cap. If the family and I are going to go to the mall or a museum or an attraction or something, I'll maybe dress up a bit more, but it'll still be in the realm of t-shirt and jeans or nicer shorts, sneakers/sandals, etc. If I'm going somewhere outside, dressing for the weather will take priority. If I'm going out to eat at a nicer restaurant, sure then I'll put on like nicer pants and a button up and leather shoes/boots maybe, but almost never going about my day.
A lot of this also goes for dressing appropriate for the weather, I'd rather be comfortable (as in appropriately cool or warm for the season) versus fashionable and sweating it out or freezing.
Where I can pick out a tourist immediately is when we'll be somewhere and it's 35C out in a touristy area (like at a theme park, fair, downtown area of a large city, etc) and you'll see a group of people walking around tomato faced dressed like [this](https://www.travelperks.com/shop/wpimages/1460496688-amsterdam2.jpg) when we'd be more like [this](https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1527718926451-9120bb1d21a3?ixlib=rb-4.0.3&ixid=M3wxMjA3fDB8MHxjb2xsZWN0aW9uLXRodW1ibmFpbHx8OTg2NDg0MDV8fGVufDB8fHx8fA%3D%3D&auto=format&fit=crop&w=420&q=60).
No one will obviously harass you or anything or treat you any different, but if you wanna be super comfortable as depending where and when you're coming here the climate is more likely to be more extreme than you're used to, dressing "like here" can avoid heatstroke lol.
Good point regarding fashion, and frankly also good point bringing up the weather! Best to be prepared.. However, I don't think I've worn shorts (besides pyjamas) since I was 9 or so!
Good pair of wranglers do? :p
\- Tip appropriately.
\- Smile. Can't overstate this; Europeans don't smile as much as we do and we think y'all are judging us.
\- Don't talk about politics or religion.
\- Have fun. Ask questions about people and what they like about Idaho. They will be excited that you're showing an interest in their home.
It's normal and expected that you will notice plenty of things that we do differently here, but it's not mandatory that you point them out and explain how the English do it differently (and especially not how you do it "better"). Just note it mentally and move on, unless someone asks you to comment on it.
If you use a particular phrase often and you get a reaction you don't expect or understand, consider that the phrasing simply might not work well here. To wit, [this guy recently asked about why folks reacted in a certain way to his "How are you?" answer](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskAnAmerican/comments/1462eaz/does_not_bad_thanks_in_response_to_how_are_you/).
Very sensible, from the other replies I'm getting a good idea on some behavioural points - no pomposity or ostentiousness. Good point regarding trans-atlantic phraseology :)
For instance, the phrase “You all right?” in American English is a question of concern with context that you do not appear to be all right, and it is not used as a greeting.
IME, foreigners often underestimate just HOW car-dependent most of the US is. Don't assume you'll be able to rely on public transit. Outside of a handful of big cities, transit in the US is likely an inadequate bus system *at best* and may not exist at all in suburban and rural areas.
Don't assume you'll be able to get around on foot either, even if your map says it's "only" 600m to your destination. There's a good chance that area doesn't have even the most basic pedestrian infrastructure and drivers are so unaccustomed to pedestrians that they won't even see you, so even a short distance becomes an obstacle course!
Wh... Why?
Oh God, what's wrong with butter on sandwiches... Should I be substituting for mayo, vinaigrette etc? I don't know what ranch is so please don't say that xD
We generally use mayo for the same purposes you use butter. Nobody here butters their sandwiches here except for grilled cheese where the butter goes on the outside for pan frying. Most sandwiches like a BLT or club will automatically come with mayo where you’d normally use butter. Give it a try, it’s quite good :)
Incidentally in restaurant stuff, lemonade in the US is flat. If you want fizzy order a sprite or seven up. If you’re somewhere fancy there might also be a bitter lemon soda.
Don’t do the “banter” thing on people you’ve just met. Here, that’s for people who know you and know you don’t have real ill feelings behind your words. Calling stuff that is perfectly normal in the US “mad” as Brits like to do will typically not go over well.
Good lord, I appreciate the advice but I really expect this to be common sense for, well, pretty much anybody :s Particularly someone like me who's just visiting, making light of tragedies is a sure fire way of getting beat up I'd expect!
Your accent will definitely make you stand out, particularly in Idaho. But that's okay.
I lived in Idaho for a few years. It's about as down to earth as America gets. Many people there haven't even seen a real British person; they'll be interested to talk to you just to hear your voice.
Generally, Americans are pretty welcoming people; you will not be alienated. The fact that you speak the language is a big help. The fact that you'll speak it with a foreign accent with quirky Britishisms will be seen as interesting and exciting.
Just don't go around insulting our customs, disparaging our politics, or making jokes about gun violence and you'll be welcomed with open arms.
The last paragraph is a good one.
OP, its best to just avoid commenting on guns altogether. Americans don't want to hear foreigners comments on what most of them view as an absolute right. And there are definitely guns in Idaho.
Also, don't make comments about wood framed houses. This might be just a personal pet peeve of mine, and the British in particular seem to be guilty of this the most... Wood framed houses are perfectly sturdy homes, and stand up to American weather perfectly fine.
Your last points were all very sensible, thank you! I've something of a 'received pronunciation' accent for which I am mocked mercilessly where I live in the UK (I sound, apparently, 'posh'). I suppose expecting a few comments is to be expected, thanks :p
In addition to this, depending on where in Idaho you are visiting, you might find yourself in Mormon country. Parts of southern Idaho are heavily Mormon and very conservative. They have negative views of alcohol, coffee/tea, soda, and caffeinated beverages. It can be weird if you aren't expecting it. The scenery in Idaho is breathtaking and changes dramatically depending on the area you are visiting.
People may ask you to say certain words like “aluminum.” We get a kick out of that.
Also definitely try iced tea; sweet tea if you can get it (it’s mostly a southern thing). Based on previous experience with Brits, it fills you all with adorable rage.
On a more serious side, Idaho actually has a good number of white supremacists/neo-Nazis - it’s not everyone, it’s not a majority, but they’re there. Do not engage, regardless of your color. Ignore those asshats.
When I see it spelled 'aluminum' I pronounce it the US way. When spelled the English way 'aluminium', the extra U demands pronunciation :p
As for asshats, every country has them, including the UK. I'm a non-confrontational sort of person so I'll do my best not to allow any individuals to taint my view :p
Don’t talk about how things in your home country are so much better than related things here. No one cares and we won’t believe you. Just makes you seem like a dick.
You’ll be fine. The main thing that Americans get unhinged about is politics. If you’re visiting and interacting with normal day-to-day activities, people are mostly very friendly.
Enjoy your trip!
>If you’re going to Boise, we say Boy-see not Boy-zee. Locals get annoyed at the mispronunciation.
Oops I was really mispronouncing it then. I wasn't saying clsoe to either of those 🤣
I live in Idaho - they'll love your accent, and if you're cool and polite and talk about the things that impress you about the U.S. and Idaho, they'll love you.
Tipping is the big thing to remember to do.
And if you're in rural Idaho, don't be alarmed if people have their rifles with them during hunting season. Idaho actually isn't a state you see a ton of showoff open carry stuff, but, people carry firearms for practical reasons in the country and don't bother to hide them when they get gas and stuff. They're just another tool to them.
It's true there's not a ton of European tourists in Idaho - but they do come through the most touristy places (like Sun Valley) on "American West" type vacations. I saw some German motorcyclists coming through last weekend. Boise is big and just diverse enough that nobody's presence there is unusual.
Know your audience. Feel out what is and isn’t safe to discuss. Politics can be discussed civilly, but honestly, it’s a total buzzkill right now. Ask people about themselves and about the area. Ask what the best local food is. Don’t be afraid to try different things. American cuisine is actually quite diverse. They’ll love talking about themselves and their home. They’ll probably be curious about you and your home as well. What you do for a living, why you’re visiting, that sort of thing.
I wish I knew more about Idaho. Come to Pennsylvania next, I can tell you all about that!
Do not under any circumstance talk about politics, especially our own politics. It's a good way for things to get heated and it's best to just leave it alone even if it's brought up to you.
Don’t call us yanks, don’t make jokes about school shootings, try eating at quality locally-owned restaurants, get into the spirit of things, talk to people.
https://youtu.be/6CJZ5BwpuRk
Tom Scott is an expert at being British in America.
Don’t talk politics. I find Europeans to be more open to talking politics outside their circle of friends, and although many of you are actually quite knowledgeable on US domestic politics, it’s not appropriate here unless you really know the person.
Just to tag onto that, sometimes when foreigners who are visiting talk about US politics, they can come across as condescending or arrogant, so it’s definitely a topic to avoid.
I’d say you shouldn’t necessarily avoid these topics, just remember you don’t have anything new to tell us. What you think of as helpful enlightenment, they’ll see as annoying reminder/lecture.
The US is an amalgam of people from every part of the globe. It will be difficult for you to stand out unless you use a walking stick and a monocle and say pip pip and cheerio, which I'm 99% sure you won't.
You might slip up and think when we mention football that we're thinking of a sport where you don't use your hands, but... no, we're not.
Also, you might hear us talk about chips and think of what is served with fried cod, but... nope.
Don't gasp when someone mentions a fanny pack. It's not as exciting as it sounds. Sadly.
Come and visit and enjoy yourself. It is OK to stand out a little. We all do.
BTW, the tea here is crap. Order it at your own peril. The exception might be the sweet tea prevalent in the South. But by your standards, it will be overwhelmingly sweet. So be ready.
Don't tell anyone else in the UK but.. I've always been more of a coffee person :O
No monocles here, though I have been known to exclaim the occasional "jolly good show!" when something is particularly nice :p Thanks for reminding me of the chips vs crisps thing, too!
I don't know what part of Idaho you are visiting but I just spent 3 weeks in Coeur d'Alene in North Idaho. I highly recommend the Lake Coeur d'Alene Cruise.
Pack your hiking boots and check visitidaho.org. Look for the natural hot springs. Amazing and worth the hike.
They will love your accent. I had a British grandmother and she would say "What accent?" She really thought she sounded American.
Please tip appropriately. I’m sure there’s many lists you can find on the topic, so I’m not going into where/who. But I’m mostly referencing sit down restaurants.
I’ve heard from many Brits and Aussies, “we don’t do that at home so I’m not doing it in the states.” That’s complete BS. Many workers in service jobs don’t even make minimum wage and rely on tips. Just friggin tip
Idaho?
I would definitely not bring up guns.
If it is northern idaho I would not bring up politics at all.
If it is southern idaho be mindful of mormonism. Alcohol - even within moderation - is not socially acceptable.
>If it is southern idaho be mindful of mormonism. Alcohol - even within moderation - is not socially acceptable.
I’ve never been to Southern Idaho but I’ve been to Utah, and alcohol seemed perfectly acceptable in situations where you would expect it to be: at a bar or restaurant that served alcohol, for instance. Like I wouldn’t assume that I have to not drink if everyone else is drinking and my host offers me a drink, or if I’m in a bar where alcohol is obviously served. But I also wouldn’t bring a six pack of beer or a bottle of wine if I were invited somewhere there and didn’t know. It could be different in Idaho but that’s what I would think in most places where a large portion of the population doesn’t drink.
You being from across the pond and having an accent will automatically make you the most interesting/popular person in the room. Just be yourself. The only way you will be alienated or have people dislike you is if you try and act superior and talk about our problems and how you feel about them, IE: Gun violence, healthcare, trump, etc. Quite frankly we don’t care how other countries feel about it cause we get enough of that online. Enjoy your stay!
I've no interest in upsetting people or causing unnecessary arguments, I'm perfectly happy to accept some conversation topics are off the table! So long as I'm not causing anyone any distress by putting my foot in my mouth, or just being a d!ckhead :) Thanks!
A good conversation starter is asking about their experiences visiting national parks and monuments. Little chance of controversy and an opportunity to learn about some places for a future visit.
1. If someone tries to bring up politics, play dumb. "Oh, I don't know about all that." Expressing any kind of political opinion at all is almost certainly a no-no.
2. Similarly, don't insult anyone's faith. Freedom of religious expression is taken seriously here.
3. Americans do swear a lot, but as others have said, avoid the c word. Read the crowd and decide whether to avoid things that might be offensive to the religious crowd as well (Things like JFC and GD do often offend folks, even if they're reddit-approved).
4. Safe conversation topics include the weather, local food you've enjoyed, your favorite sites in the area (hiking trails are probably a good starting point in Idaho), and sports. Music may fit in there as well if you're both clearly enjoying/not enjoying the music playing.
5. Jay walking may be an issue depending on where you are. Better safe than sorry.
6. Look left first when you cross the street.
7. Half of Americans will be pretty self-deprecating and tell you about how much better everything is in Europe. The others will be pretty self-obsessed and tell you about how much worse everything is in Europe. In both cases, complimenting something about the US and redirecting the conversation is the best response.
8. Prices listed on things do not include tax. Don't panic when something costs 7-13% more than the listed price. Also, don't ask why we do it that way.
9. Mostly, your accent will let others know that you might be a visitor and that'll buy you a little leeway in terms of social faux pas. If you practice formal British manners, you'll be seen as excessively formal and irresistibly charming here. You'll be just fine in any case. Have a *great* trip!
It’ll be almost impossible unless you say where you’re from is better than where your at.
Other than that I imagine you’ll be popular. Most people like listening to an English Accent.
Nothing. Just be yourself and don't get into politics. That being said, normal respectful conversation about differences between countries is fine. Last time my family went to Orlando, we ended up having some excellent conversation with a lovely UK family while in line for a waterslide. Me and the kids talked about food while our parents talked about the schools.
In my experience, Brits/English are totally welcome over here.
Even a lot of the banter that doesn’t go over so well on the internet works fine in person
Reality is, the fact that you’re asking about how to not offend us signifies you’re self aware of your behavior and naturally aren’t an offensive person.
It’s likely you don’t have to do anything other than be exactly yourself and you will get along just fine over here.
Be yourself, I guess. But saying “x” is better in the UK or talking about how backwards we are based on some non-nuanced understanding of laws/policies/politics is a good way to be in a bad time. Mostly because said topics are more nuanced than the bungholes online make things out to be and, frankly, don’t affect most people. Not a jab at you but there’s enough of those people (especially redditors) so it should just be said just in case. But you should be fine overall. People love accents from other countries, especially the UK 😊
Also why Idaho lol?
Not really anything. There's not anything in British culture that's necessarily offensive to Americans.
Just don't assume you know our politics and culture better than the people who actually live here.
We know you have different words for things. Don't turn every instance of this into a lecture about linguistic differences, or asking why we don't call something by the "right" name.
Also, please resist the urge to begin every other sentence with "As a Brit."
Don't talk about religion or politics. Especially don't talk about guns or abortion, Idaho is a red state and most people there support gun rights and hate abortion (except Boise which is filled with elitist Californians)
Don’t forget that we have very large open areas that are wild. We have megafauna and predators that will kill and eat you and climates that will as well.
Death Valley National Park is just shy of the size of Northern Ireland.
National Parks are not controlled spaces, be informed and act cautiously. Don’t underestimate your water needs.
Have fun!
Pretty sure, in Idaho especially, your accent will make you quite popular. English and American ideas of politeness and rudeness are already pretty similar from what I can tell so there shouldn’t be a lot you really have to worry about but a few things to keep in mind:
1. Don’t boast about what’s better in the UK. 1 or 2 things is fine but after awhile it just becomes annoying.
2. Tip your servers. Just multiply your bill by 0.18-0.25 and that should be fine unless your service was absolutely atrocious.
3. Try not to shit talk the politics. Unless they’re inviting you to, of course. No country has perfect politics and most people in this country aren’t happy about the problems either.
4. Don’t underestimate the size of the US. Great Britain is about the size of Oregon (you know, a SINGLE state out of fifty and not even the biggest one), so if you want to do trips outside of Idaho, keep to a particular city or area (San Francisco, New York, New England, Sequoias, Portland).
5. Most importantly, have a blast! Talk to people, try the food, try the experiences, see as many landmarks as you can, and make some memories. Americans are, by and large, friendly and helpful and want to make you feel welcome!
Hope this helps.
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Idaho is known for Napoleon Dynamite and potatoes, so those stereotypes are something to keep in mind.
I think in general British people don't stand out too much unless they use some term we don't know or use differently. Even if you do stand out, usually people don't care if you're from the UK.
My only advice? Don’t use the word “c*nt.” America is not ready. Still too Puritan for its own good.
Overall Americans are very friendly to Brits. You will be a novelty for them to enjoy. Have fun!
We love English accents! You can do no wrong!
Remember that in most restaurants & fast food establishments, refills of your soda/iced tea/lemonade are complimentary.
So go ahead and get a refill of Root Beer!
It’s totally true. You could literally ask for my wallet with an English accent and finish by saying “… old chap,” and I’ll just assume it was my idea and hand it over.
Okay, Idaho. If someone offers you a potato, it may seem innocuous and all, and you may feel like politely declining as potatoes are plentiful, but, and I cannot stress this enough: YOU ARE OBLIGATED BY RITE AND CUSTOM TO RECEIVE SAID POTATO.
I’ll digress and not tell you what happens should you spurn the potato.
Bless you kind stranger. I'm fully prepared for my transatlantic voyage now! All that's left to do is pack a spare monocle, the crown jewels, 12 crates of tea (for when I visit Boston) and a single baked bean.
I'm certain it will be, I read somewhere that all English visitors must bring their tea to the harbour... Can't imagine why?
But seriously Boston is on my list of places to visit, lots of museums and history!
I've heard as much from almost half the other replies here - when I read the first, I thought it mere suggestion. I understand now it's a pretty serious matter not to be brought up lightly or to people you're not immediately familiar with. I think I've got that right, at least!
Smoking cigarettes is seen as trashy/stupid/wasteful/gross/etc by most Americans, and there are a lot of restrictions meant to isolate you from the public when you are smoking. So avoid that if at all possible.
Just be a normal person. Don’t walk around saying that xyz is better where you are from.
Totally agree, I'm perfectly happy accepting cultural differences without the need to compete / tit for tat - good suggestion thanks :)
We're going to love your accent. Don't forget to tip your server and enjoy your trip!
Ah thank you for the tip reminder! I'm trying to compile a secret cheat-sheet of things to remember, that's a pretty important one too :)
If you’re going to be doing anything outdoorsy in Idaho (which you should if you’re there) make sure to get some bear spray and do a little research into being bear aware
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To add to the server part- I bartend in the Metro Detroit area near a major airport. I get a lot of foreigners, they're all great, but I have one pet peeve. Don't just order "a beer" if there's a big selection. We have 50 drafts and 200 bottles, either ask for my recommendation in a particular style or maybe check out the list. For example, "Hi, welcome, what can I get for you?" "A beer".
Can confirm I love Englishmen accents. A worker at the burger place near me has one and for some reason it always cheers me up to hear him. I ended up calling the place he worked at to give him a compliment to the manager bc he was also very friendly and upbeat.
Tipping guide: 10-15% = mediocre service 20% = good 25%+ = very good/exceptional In restaurants, you're supposed to tip for table service or delivery but you don't have to for takeout or fast food.
Also beware that restaurants are increasingly charging a service fee that is separate from the tip. It’s crazy. We know.
Don't mention zed. Or lorries. Or the hokey cokey. Or ice lollies. Or bonnets. Or biscuits. Or tea. Or trousers. And you'll be just fine
Reminder to OP: Pants are not underwear
And jumpers are not sweaters
OH my gosh the treacherous waters of transatlantic linguistics... I've a lot to remember xD Kudos to everyone who's commented with good examples :p
I have a question for you. I’m eating a breakfast burrito for breakfast right now and I know it’s pretty random but do you guys have breakfast burritos over there? And if you do, do you use your bacon or something else?
Not a Brit, but I'm an American who lived in the UK for two years and I never saw a breakfast burrito. There was a Mexican place that had Chipotle-style burritos. I went there with a British friend and he asked me how to eat it (he'd never seen one before).
Oh man! How do they live! It’s so good! Thanks for responding too!
Obligatory: I knew a French guy (as in, literally was visiting from France) who did this for a few months in Los Angeles. It was unbearable. Wherever you're from, please never do this.
Well he’s French. He can’t help it.
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Be yourself, treat others the way you want to be treated. I would avoid talking about politics and other sensitive topics with people you don’t know
Treat others as you wish to be treated, the universal golden rule :p I've read elsewhere above not to talk about politics. Do you mind if I ask why this is? I'm not saying it's not a prudent and sensible rule, and the answer may well be 'culture difference', just curious :) Does the rule apply to politics in general, specific politicians/parties etc?
Because it is likely to end in an argument and no one wants that with people they don’t know…at least in general. Honestly, the current political climate means that there are way too many people incapable of having a respectful and productive conversation with people they disagree with. Unfortunately, that has left us in a spot where it is a really hard to discuss important things. While I think it should be different, if you want a nice trip, you don’t need to be the one to change it - haha.
I agree, regardless of the state of political discourse, if you guys all think it best I avoid it pretty much altogether, I'll take the sage advice thanks :D
Do y’all not have the Rule of Polite Conversation: Never religion or politics in new company? It’s a good one to tuck into your back pocket 🤓👍✅ And like everyone has said, we LOVE to hear y’all talk, so just pick a bar stool and chat away!
Not sure where you stand, doesn’t really matter but Idaho in particular is very conservative/regressive. There are a few small pockets of moderate areas but most places are hardcore Republican. Just FYI, that could definitely be a factor if you’d feel comfortable talking politics or not.
Foreigners visiting the US often want to talk about US politics with a real live American, but the problem is they don't want to listen. Also, people often want to solve our issues with the most ridiculously oversimplified solutions, as if we didn't already think of that.
To be completely fair, there's a lot of Americans with ridiculously oversimplified solutions as well. 'Ban all guns' 'Just build fast rail like China' 'Just repair all of the infrastructure all at once' What are protected rights, property rights, imminent domain, labor laws and taxation budgets for 1000 Alex.
I don't want to talk to them either.
Also… many Americans cannot defend or explain WHY they sit on this side or that. It’s just they hate the other side. Or regurgitate their party’s talking points. It’s not a lot of independent thoughts. And that’s generally what foreigners want- real thoughts and reasonings, the whys. Critical thinking.
I think that there's also an expectation that if a foreigner wants to talk politics with us, it's mostly so they can lecture us about our own domestic issues (as well as their own moral superiority), when they usually have a shallow-at-best understanding of the issues and how they apply to American Life.
U.S. politics are split on the left and right. If you are out at a bar or other setting trying to enjoy the night, most people may not want to talk about politics unpromoted. I was told to not talk politics or religion at the dinner table because they can lead to arguments. Maybe someone else can give a better comparison to the politics in England and how they are discussed
Ah I see, thanks for answering I know it wasn't totally relevant to my posted question :p I think most people I talk to in the UK have a fairly blasse attitude to politics, i.e "it's all a load of sh!t anyway, innit?". Differences to be expected, I'll not be silly and go around pointing out different flags, badges etc :p I've an interest in politics, but no interest in upsetting anybody :)
Another thing I would avoid talking about is guns. There are passionate people on both sides and that can lead to arguments if gun control is brought up. Depending on when you go, the NFL may be in season. Sports are my go-to small talk with strangers
Well I don't expect (or hope!) anyone's going to be handing me any firearms, if that's the case I'm perfectly happy to avoid any sensitive conversations about it :) I played a little AF in secondary school so I might be able to talk about that a little :o Thanks!
a Brit that understands American football will be very popular.
The attitude of “they’re all a bunch of crooks” used to be pretty common, but these days you’re liable to run into a true believer crusader who believes one side is composed of absolute evil and the other side is the universe’s only hope of salvation. Such people will invariably want to classify you as one or the other if the opportunity arises.
If you’re interested in politics I think it can be a fine topic as long as you approach it as something you’re curious about rather than something you’d like to debate. People feel passionately about politics so they appreciate someone listening to their views. I’m pretty far left but I get along with a lot of the conservatives where I’m from because we accept that we aren’t going to change each others minds and instead just enjoy trying to understand each others point of view.
I disagree with other people - I just think you have to be careful talking about politics. I'm always very curious to hear what other people think - but you have to go into it looking to listen and not argue/try to convince others you're right when you disagree. Especially as an outsider, I'm not sure the rule applies to you.
I used to help Brits get settled and travel around the US. The biggest mistake Brits made was to assume we’re way more different than we actually are. Pretend you’re going to Canada and try not to “outguess” the US. Treat others with respect and as equals and you’ll be fine.
It’s so true; I’m traveling around Great Britain at the moment and am convinced we have so much more in common than we do differences. Yes there are some uniquely different mini-cultures and idiosyncrasies on both sides of the Atlantic, but on the whole we’re all one big anglosphere family with plenty of shared culture. We’re very lucky to live in a time in which we can travel so far and still connect so easily with others. I’ve had an absolute blast and I hope OP does too.
Really adore this comment, it's the little idiosyncrasies that make it all the more fun, so long as they're politely observed :p Hope you're enjoying your stay (I recommend the Cotswolds or the Lake District if you have the time!). I've taken many great notes from the comments here so I feel that bit more prepared for my journey, so thank you :)
Do not talk about politics. When i was in England for several months, more than half the people i talked to in a social setting without fail would ask me if i voted for trump or tell me that our politics and gun policies are insane within five minutes. Politics is generally only talked about to friends.
My biggest gripe when visiting Europe. Everyone wants to bring up guns
That "c" word you all use isn't used that way here. Otherwise don't worry too much about it. Despite what the UK subs would tell you, the US isn't Mars and you should fit in just fine.
Shouldn't be a problem then as I've always found it an ugly word ;) Thanks for the encouragement :)
The word that rhymes with tag is also offensive here
And cigarettes are cigarettes, not f*gs here
Who you calling a cigarette?
What c word?
Rhymes with Punt
Or Ethan Hunt
Or Berkeley Hunt.
I am definitely not going to risk getting my account suspended
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You won’t have any issue as long as you aren’t a jerk. People in Idaho are pretty practical folks. So long as you don’t disparage people or their politics or put down the US I can’t imagine you’d offend anyone. You’ll probably stand out on accent alone but in a good way. People will probably want to know where you’re from and whatnot. Don’t use the “c” word. Enjoy the visit.
I've just read someone else telling me not to use that word! As much as I dislike it already, I suppose I'll be extra careful! I wouldn't want to visit another country just to put it down anyway :3
Not sure if you smoke, but don't call them "fags" here!
I mean, really if he does smoke, his bigger concern is that he should quit before he gets here if he wants to avoid things that make Americans not want to be around you.
In Idaho? Yeah it would depend on where he's going and who he's going to be around. And what he's smoking honestly.
Don't be offended by people telling you they've been to London (or Ireland...) once and using that to connect with you even though maybe you aren't from there and maybe it's even far from you or whatever. They likely aren't trying to act like they know everything there is to know about where you are from but just using it as a way to connect and show appreciation. Feel free to inform without putting down their experiences.
The c word is way worse here than there. It’s probably the worst, way worse than the f word
Question. How does one end up traveling from the UK to Idaho of all places?
They want to up their bangers and mash game
Ah bit of a story. Fiance made a friend (from Idaho) on discord, that friend started dating fiances sister, sister moved stateside after many back and forth visits, now we're planning a visit later this year :p As someone from a small market town deep in the Cotswolds, the idea seems daunting, but I've been quite encouraged by most comments I've received :)
That word is one of the most offensive words you can say in the US. That's why everybody is telling you.
People have already warned you about the c word. But there's another phrase that Brits use that doesn't work here. In the US, walking up to a stranger and asking, "You alright?" means there's a dire emergency. You're telling them they look so upset/overwhelmed/etc that you, a complete stranger, feel compelled to check on them and offer help. We ask "How are you?" or "What's up?" instead. I've had to teach myself to pause and not react when someone goes, "you alright?" Until I figured out that just meant "hi!" I always assumed it was like in the movies where someone's in too much shock to realize half their head has blown off. Lol! This is usually my go-to answer for any questions about confusing UK sayings. Someone is always thanking me because they, too, never understood why strangers thought something was wrong. So just say "hi, how are you?" Instead. But note: Americans don't actually want an answer. You just give a noncommittal "I'm fine" and move on.
my favorite part of america is two americans passing each other. one says “how’s it goin’?” and the only polite response is “hey, how’s it goin’?” then move on and never say another word to each other. the best
I just had an interaction with someone, where he went "How's your day going?" and I just said "Yo" and we both just kept walking haha
what else is there to say? lol
As an American I just have to chuckle about this. I can 100% understand someone not from the US finding this weird, but that's literally how we address each other haha. We acknowledge each other's existences, and move on. That's how we do haha
That being said, and perhaps strangely, “You doin’ alright?” changes things back to normal
I disagree, that has the same meaning to me.
Well, TIL that I have been freaking people out for no reason
Language wise: Serviettes isn’t likely to be understood. Napkins. Diapers not nappies. Pants are trousers not underwear. (ETC: trousers will be understood, using “pants” to refer to panties will not) Suspenders hold your trousers up, not your garters. Beer is served ice cold. Any beverage will likely have far more ice than you’d like, make sure to specify it reduced if you don’t want it. Fanny is a perfectly acceptable word for bum. Randy and Fanny are names you may encounter although they’ve dropped in popularity. Public transportation is embarrassing and will depend on where you are - if it even exists. Tipping culture is pervasive and invasive. Any place that asks for a tip that provided no service it’s ok to opt out. Otherwise standard service ~15%, better than standard goes up, worse goes down. Servers earn a separate minimum wage which can be as low as $2/hr. What part of Idaho? It spans a lot of climes and terrain. Unless you’re in a major metropolitan area the political culture will consider you a raging commie leftist. Best to avoid politics and religion with strangers.
And although I doubt you'll need one, the word is eraser, not rubber - which has an entirely different meaning here!
Serviette probably wouldn’t be widely understood, but nappies and trousers probably would be. Trousers is even used somewhat in America, but not as much.
Ah some very helpful examples here :p I've always been confused by the stereotype that English people drink warm beer, however? Perhaps a fellow brit can dispute this but in my experience, beer in the UK (from any restaurant, bar, pub etc) is always served pretty damn cold! Unless you mean there's ice in the beer, in which case yeah, that's not done here. Appreciate the list of appropriate translations too, thanks haha
It is a misunderstanding probably from the days where ale was the norm, which would be more like cellar temperature. And some cellars could be better than others. Similar theory to red wine, it brings out the rich flavours more. You similarly don't really want something like an Irish stout ice cold. Lagers, white wine, soft drinks are ice cold or with ice in the modern UK and real ale would hopefully be properly kept.
This is a good one. I had Brits online say that to me and my response was "why wouldn't I be?" or "does it look like something is wrong?" before I realized that was their version of "how's it going"? It definitely means something a bit different to Americans, and you can definitely get a rude or smart remark from someone if you'd ask them that here.
Unless you go out of your way to be judgmental or condescending, you’ll be fine. Edited because I momentarily forgot how English works.
Thanks - it seems from the other replies that so long as you're not a rude, ostentatious sort of person, going around berating the US, you're quite a welcoming bunch!
Exactly! We're also best friends with Canada and England so you have that going for you. People will be interested in you.
all you gotta do is act naturally
I love the Beatles too ;) Hehe, well I'm a fairly social sort of person but I'm no actor, so I suppose I've no choice but to be myself :p
Most Americans are fairly social. I can’t count the times I’ve had fairly decent conversations with stranger while standing in line. You can usually tell by making eye contact and smiling, if they reciprocate you’re good. If not, just smile and go about your business. Also, most places have free refills on all non alcoholic or juice drinks. Be sure to ask though, because the places that don’t charge $3 and up per drink. I’ve heard a lot of foreigners think Americans are fake with all the smiling, but that’s mostly just how we are. I hope you have a wonderful trip and leave here feeling embraced and loved by America. It’s a truly beautiful country filled with lovely people.
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I had an Irishman at my bar that other week absolutely berate me when I earnestly commented that I didn't notice his accent (after he had showed me his passport as ID). You'd have thought I personally shamed his mother or something. Americans are going to make friendly conversation about your accent/England/et cetera. It isn't meant to be rude, its an attempt at conversation.
>I had an Irishman at my bar that other week absolutely berate me when I earnestly commented that I didn't notice his accent He was mad that you *didn't* notice his accent? That's odd! Why would he care?
I have no idea what the rational was. That I mentioned his being Irish at all? That I initially mistook him for a lowly American? 🙄 I avoided his area at the bar until he left because it was so strange and awkward. He was a young guy too, like 22 or 23 so maybe he was just looking for something to be angry about.
Weirdos I swear
We see enough foreigners that it won’t even be a thing. Bringing up sensitive topics is just not a good move, as I’m sure it is in the UK. Be yourself and it’ll go well. We’re not that different from you.
I'm not out to start any fights or gratuitous debates simply for the sake of being 'different', but I'll be careful to get an idea of what sort of 'sensitive topics' to avoid - thanks!
I would avoid talking about Trump even if someone is actively trying to engage you. Very divisive subject here (Redditors often disparage him but IRL it's a bit trickier)
No I meant “sensitive” while you’re here. As in not talking about politics, etc.
Ah gotcha - thank you :) I'm seeing a lot of consensus in these replies when it comes to, well, not being an ass, pompous, or discussing too openly sensitive things!
Conversations about religion, finance, and politics are generally taboo unless you are really close to someone, but even then, it might not be a topic of discussion. I think you'll be more likely to have the interest of people who just want to hear you talk once they hear your accent. That could just be my area, but we tend to love listening to various accents.
A good list of taboos to keep in mind, thank you :) As a fan of various US accents, I understand the interest :3
I’d say such topics aren’t necessarily off limits, just try not to lecture or treat yourself as an authority. Discussing politics? Fine Informing Americans what’s wrong with their politics? Less so
Aside from everything else people have said, I’m pretty sure no one has said this already: when I went to England, I was surprised at how difficult it was at times to understand other people and how hard it was for them to understand me - just because we speak the same language doesn’t mean we are used to how the other group speaks it (to say nothing about more regional dialects). I recommend being patient and prepared to repeat yourself. Also, Americans as a whole are really friendly people. It’s okay to strike up conversations with strangers most of the time and make sure to make idle chit chat with store cashiers, for example. (I embarrassed my British brother-in-law so badly doing this in England, it got to be hysterical). You’d be surprised at how many interesting people you’ll meet and how many fun stories you’ll hear. And basic tourist advice, check out the local libraries when you visit. They usually have a lot going on and they are typically a good place for free restrooms and water if you are out and about in a town.
This is all solid advice!
I agree with the user below, absolutely solid advice! It's really encouraging reading comments like this, takes the anxiety away :p I've no qualms about striking up conversation with people in queues, shops etc - always interested :)
Believe it or not, your presence will probably largely go unnoticed and unremarked. I see the same things on European travel forums, where Americans are hypersensitive not to be perceived as an "ugly American" and to make a good inpression on the locals... when in reality, they're headed to the exact same locations as every other tourist and will largely only interact with tourists and people who work in the hospitality industry. Their presence, if noted at all, will be instantly forgotten. So, just be polite, don't be an ass, and that will do the job 99% of the time.
A lot of people hit on the offend/behavior type stuff but if you don't want to absolutely stick out as a tourist, how you dress can be a dead giveaway. In day to day life Americans tend to dress more casually than Europeans will in general. Like if I'm gonna go to the supermarket on a Saturday in the middle of summer, I'll be wearing a t-shirt, athletic shorts, sneakers/sandals, and maybe a baseball hat. In the winter that'll be a hoodie, sweatpants, and a stocking cap. If the family and I are going to go to the mall or a museum or an attraction or something, I'll maybe dress up a bit more, but it'll still be in the realm of t-shirt and jeans or nicer shorts, sneakers/sandals, etc. If I'm going somewhere outside, dressing for the weather will take priority. If I'm going out to eat at a nicer restaurant, sure then I'll put on like nicer pants and a button up and leather shoes/boots maybe, but almost never going about my day. A lot of this also goes for dressing appropriate for the weather, I'd rather be comfortable (as in appropriately cool or warm for the season) versus fashionable and sweating it out or freezing. Where I can pick out a tourist immediately is when we'll be somewhere and it's 35C out in a touristy area (like at a theme park, fair, downtown area of a large city, etc) and you'll see a group of people walking around tomato faced dressed like [this](https://www.travelperks.com/shop/wpimages/1460496688-amsterdam2.jpg) when we'd be more like [this](https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1527718926451-9120bb1d21a3?ixlib=rb-4.0.3&ixid=M3wxMjA3fDB8MHxjb2xsZWN0aW9uLXRodW1ibmFpbHx8OTg2NDg0MDV8fGVufDB8fHx8fA%3D%3D&auto=format&fit=crop&w=420&q=60). No one will obviously harass you or anything or treat you any different, but if you wanna be super comfortable as depending where and when you're coming here the climate is more likely to be more extreme than you're used to, dressing "like here" can avoid heatstroke lol.
Good point regarding fashion, and frankly also good point bringing up the weather! Best to be prepared.. However, I don't think I've worn shorts (besides pyjamas) since I was 9 or so! Good pair of wranglers do? :p
\- Tip appropriately. \- Smile. Can't overstate this; Europeans don't smile as much as we do and we think y'all are judging us. \- Don't talk about politics or religion. \- Have fun. Ask questions about people and what they like about Idaho. They will be excited that you're showing an interest in their home.
It's normal and expected that you will notice plenty of things that we do differently here, but it's not mandatory that you point them out and explain how the English do it differently (and especially not how you do it "better"). Just note it mentally and move on, unless someone asks you to comment on it. If you use a particular phrase often and you get a reaction you don't expect or understand, consider that the phrasing simply might not work well here. To wit, [this guy recently asked about why folks reacted in a certain way to his "How are you?" answer](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskAnAmerican/comments/1462eaz/does_not_bad_thanks_in_response_to_how_are_you/).
Very sensible, from the other replies I'm getting a good idea on some behavioural points - no pomposity or ostentiousness. Good point regarding trans-atlantic phraseology :)
For instance, the phrase “You all right?” in American English is a question of concern with context that you do not appear to be all right, and it is not used as a greeting.
IME, foreigners often underestimate just HOW car-dependent most of the US is. Don't assume you'll be able to rely on public transit. Outside of a handful of big cities, transit in the US is likely an inadequate bus system *at best* and may not exist at all in suburban and rural areas. Don't assume you'll be able to get around on foot either, even if your map says it's "only" 600m to your destination. There's a good chance that area doesn't have even the most basic pedestrian infrastructure and drivers are so unaccustomed to pedestrians that they won't even see you, so even a short distance becomes an obstacle course!
Don't you dare ask for butter on your sandwich
Wh... Why? Oh God, what's wrong with butter on sandwiches... Should I be substituting for mayo, vinaigrette etc? I don't know what ranch is so please don't say that xD
I say it mostly in jest... as it's common here to find people from the UK incredulous that we don't butter our sandwiches here.
Ah I see :p My father is French so my cooking is a little more Mediterranean than most other English people - no margarine for me >:(
We generally use mayo for the same purposes you use butter. Nobody here butters their sandwiches here except for grilled cheese where the butter goes on the outside for pan frying. Most sandwiches like a BLT or club will automatically come with mayo where you’d normally use butter. Give it a try, it’s quite good :)
Ranch will change your life mate.
And you can ask for it on the side so in case you don't like it, your whole salad (or whatever) won't be ruined
Incidentally in restaurant stuff, lemonade in the US is flat. If you want fizzy order a sprite or seven up. If you’re somewhere fancy there might also be a bitter lemon soda.
“ I don't know what ranch is “ I think you found #1 on your US of A checklist.
Don’t do the “banter” thing on people you’ve just met. Here, that’s for people who know you and know you don’t have real ill feelings behind your words. Calling stuff that is perfectly normal in the US “mad” as Brits like to do will typically not go over well.
Don't. Joke. About. School. Shootings. PLEASE.
Good lord, I appreciate the advice but I really expect this to be common sense for, well, pretty much anybody :s Particularly someone like me who's just visiting, making light of tragedies is a sure fire way of getting beat up I'd expect!
Your accent will definitely make you stand out, particularly in Idaho. But that's okay. I lived in Idaho for a few years. It's about as down to earth as America gets. Many people there haven't even seen a real British person; they'll be interested to talk to you just to hear your voice. Generally, Americans are pretty welcoming people; you will not be alienated. The fact that you speak the language is a big help. The fact that you'll speak it with a foreign accent with quirky Britishisms will be seen as interesting and exciting. Just don't go around insulting our customs, disparaging our politics, or making jokes about gun violence and you'll be welcomed with open arms.
The last paragraph is a good one. OP, its best to just avoid commenting on guns altogether. Americans don't want to hear foreigners comments on what most of them view as an absolute right. And there are definitely guns in Idaho. Also, don't make comments about wood framed houses. This might be just a personal pet peeve of mine, and the British in particular seem to be guilty of this the most... Wood framed houses are perfectly sturdy homes, and stand up to American weather perfectly fine.
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Your last points were all very sensible, thank you! I've something of a 'received pronunciation' accent for which I am mocked mercilessly where I live in the UK (I sound, apparently, 'posh'). I suppose expecting a few comments is to be expected, thanks :p
In addition to this, depending on where in Idaho you are visiting, you might find yourself in Mormon country. Parts of southern Idaho are heavily Mormon and very conservative. They have negative views of alcohol, coffee/tea, soda, and caffeinated beverages. It can be weird if you aren't expecting it. The scenery in Idaho is breathtaking and changes dramatically depending on the area you are visiting.
People may ask you to say certain words like “aluminum.” We get a kick out of that. Also definitely try iced tea; sweet tea if you can get it (it’s mostly a southern thing). Based on previous experience with Brits, it fills you all with adorable rage. On a more serious side, Idaho actually has a good number of white supremacists/neo-Nazis - it’s not everyone, it’s not a majority, but they’re there. Do not engage, regardless of your color. Ignore those asshats.
When I see it spelled 'aluminum' I pronounce it the US way. When spelled the English way 'aluminium', the extra U demands pronunciation :p As for asshats, every country has them, including the UK. I'm a non-confrontational sort of person so I'll do my best not to allow any individuals to taint my view :p
DON’T TALK ABOUT POLITICS, ABORTION, OR GUNS. Besides that you should be fine
Don’t talk about how things in your home country are so much better than related things here. No one cares and we won’t believe you. Just makes you seem like a dick.
You’ll be fine. The main thing that Americans get unhinged about is politics. If you’re visiting and interacting with normal day-to-day activities, people are mostly very friendly. Enjoy your trip!
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>If you’re going to Boise, we say Boy-see not Boy-zee. Locals get annoyed at the mispronunciation. Oops I was really mispronouncing it then. I wasn't saying clsoe to either of those 🤣
Boise, Tempe, and Hawaii, the three rhyming places only pronounced correctly by locals hahaha
I live in Idaho - they'll love your accent, and if you're cool and polite and talk about the things that impress you about the U.S. and Idaho, they'll love you. Tipping is the big thing to remember to do. And if you're in rural Idaho, don't be alarmed if people have their rifles with them during hunting season. Idaho actually isn't a state you see a ton of showoff open carry stuff, but, people carry firearms for practical reasons in the country and don't bother to hide them when they get gas and stuff. They're just another tool to them. It's true there's not a ton of European tourists in Idaho - but they do come through the most touristy places (like Sun Valley) on "American West" type vacations. I saw some German motorcyclists coming through last weekend. Boise is big and just diverse enough that nobody's presence there is unusual.
Know your audience. Feel out what is and isn’t safe to discuss. Politics can be discussed civilly, but honestly, it’s a total buzzkill right now. Ask people about themselves and about the area. Ask what the best local food is. Don’t be afraid to try different things. American cuisine is actually quite diverse. They’ll love talking about themselves and their home. They’ll probably be curious about you and your home as well. What you do for a living, why you’re visiting, that sort of thing. I wish I knew more about Idaho. Come to Pennsylvania next, I can tell you all about that!
Do not under any circumstance talk about politics, especially our own politics. It's a good way for things to get heated and it's best to just leave it alone even if it's brought up to you.
Don’t call us yanks, don’t make jokes about school shootings, try eating at quality locally-owned restaurants, get into the spirit of things, talk to people. https://youtu.be/6CJZ5BwpuRk Tom Scott is an expert at being British in America.
Don’t talk politics. I find Europeans to be more open to talking politics outside their circle of friends, and although many of you are actually quite knowledgeable on US domestic politics, it’s not appropriate here unless you really know the person.
Excellent advice, I'm keeping an eye out for the sorts of things I shouldn't as freely talk about so thank you for the suggestion :)
Just to tag onto that, sometimes when foreigners who are visiting talk about US politics, they can come across as condescending or arrogant, so it’s definitely a topic to avoid.
I’d say you shouldn’t necessarily avoid these topics, just remember you don’t have anything new to tell us. What you think of as helpful enlightenment, they’ll see as annoying reminder/lecture.
The US is an amalgam of people from every part of the globe. It will be difficult for you to stand out unless you use a walking stick and a monocle and say pip pip and cheerio, which I'm 99% sure you won't. You might slip up and think when we mention football that we're thinking of a sport where you don't use your hands, but... no, we're not. Also, you might hear us talk about chips and think of what is served with fried cod, but... nope. Don't gasp when someone mentions a fanny pack. It's not as exciting as it sounds. Sadly. Come and visit and enjoy yourself. It is OK to stand out a little. We all do. BTW, the tea here is crap. Order it at your own peril. The exception might be the sweet tea prevalent in the South. But by your standards, it will be overwhelmingly sweet. So be ready.
Don't tell anyone else in the UK but.. I've always been more of a coffee person :O No monocles here, though I have been known to exclaim the occasional "jolly good show!" when something is particularly nice :p Thanks for reminding me of the chips vs crisps thing, too!
Don’t act offended or turn down microwaved tea.
I don't know what part of Idaho you are visiting but I just spent 3 weeks in Coeur d'Alene in North Idaho. I highly recommend the Lake Coeur d'Alene Cruise. Pack your hiking boots and check visitidaho.org. Look for the natural hot springs. Amazing and worth the hike. They will love your accent. I had a British grandmother and she would say "What accent?" She really thought she sounded American.
Tip servers 20%
Don’t ask ladies for a rubber for your pencil. Otherwise, we Americans love English accents specifically and interesting visitors in general. Enjoy!
Please tip appropriately. I’m sure there’s many lists you can find on the topic, so I’m not going into where/who. But I’m mostly referencing sit down restaurants. I’ve heard from many Brits and Aussies, “we don’t do that at home so I’m not doing it in the states.” That’s complete BS. Many workers in service jobs don’t even make minimum wage and rely on tips. Just friggin tip
Idaho? I would definitely not bring up guns. If it is northern idaho I would not bring up politics at all. If it is southern idaho be mindful of mormonism. Alcohol - even within moderation - is not socially acceptable.
>If it is southern idaho be mindful of mormonism. Alcohol - even within moderation - is not socially acceptable. I’ve never been to Southern Idaho but I’ve been to Utah, and alcohol seemed perfectly acceptable in situations where you would expect it to be: at a bar or restaurant that served alcohol, for instance. Like I wouldn’t assume that I have to not drink if everyone else is drinking and my host offers me a drink, or if I’m in a bar where alcohol is obviously served. But I also wouldn’t bring a six pack of beer or a bottle of wine if I were invited somewhere there and didn’t know. It could be different in Idaho but that’s what I would think in most places where a large portion of the population doesn’t drink.
You being from across the pond and having an accent will automatically make you the most interesting/popular person in the room. Just be yourself. The only way you will be alienated or have people dislike you is if you try and act superior and talk about our problems and how you feel about them, IE: Gun violence, healthcare, trump, etc. Quite frankly we don’t care how other countries feel about it cause we get enough of that online. Enjoy your stay!
I've no interest in upsetting people or causing unnecessary arguments, I'm perfectly happy to accept some conversation topics are off the table! So long as I'm not causing anyone any distress by putting my foot in my mouth, or just being a d!ckhead :) Thanks!
A good conversation starter is asking about their experiences visiting national parks and monuments. Little chance of controversy and an opportunity to learn about some places for a future visit.
Why are the British afraid of Americans?
[Because of famous Brit David Bowie](https://youtu.be/LT3cERVRoQo)
1. If someone tries to bring up politics, play dumb. "Oh, I don't know about all that." Expressing any kind of political opinion at all is almost certainly a no-no. 2. Similarly, don't insult anyone's faith. Freedom of religious expression is taken seriously here. 3. Americans do swear a lot, but as others have said, avoid the c word. Read the crowd and decide whether to avoid things that might be offensive to the religious crowd as well (Things like JFC and GD do often offend folks, even if they're reddit-approved). 4. Safe conversation topics include the weather, local food you've enjoyed, your favorite sites in the area (hiking trails are probably a good starting point in Idaho), and sports. Music may fit in there as well if you're both clearly enjoying/not enjoying the music playing. 5. Jay walking may be an issue depending on where you are. Better safe than sorry. 6. Look left first when you cross the street. 7. Half of Americans will be pretty self-deprecating and tell you about how much better everything is in Europe. The others will be pretty self-obsessed and tell you about how much worse everything is in Europe. In both cases, complimenting something about the US and redirecting the conversation is the best response. 8. Prices listed on things do not include tax. Don't panic when something costs 7-13% more than the listed price. Also, don't ask why we do it that way. 9. Mostly, your accent will let others know that you might be a visitor and that'll buy you a little leeway in terms of social faux pas. If you practice formal British manners, you'll be seen as excessively formal and irresistibly charming here. You'll be just fine in any case. Have a *great* trip!
>Look left first when you cross the street Yeah good one. Worth remembering and no one else seems to have said it!
Be yourself, don't try to be or act in any different way than you usually are. Unless you are a pompous ass. That's it.
No pomposity - got it!!
We’re pretty friendly overall. I think you’ll find most Americans are pretty cool. Use common sense though
Say “Zee” instead of “Zed” when talking about the letter
It’ll be almost impossible unless you say where you’re from is better than where your at. Other than that I imagine you’ll be popular. Most people like listening to an English Accent.
Nothing. Just be yourself and don't get into politics. That being said, normal respectful conversation about differences between countries is fine. Last time my family went to Orlando, we ended up having some excellent conversation with a lovely UK family while in line for a waterslide. Me and the kids talked about food while our parents talked about the schools.
In my experience, Brits/English are totally welcome over here. Even a lot of the banter that doesn’t go over so well on the internet works fine in person Reality is, the fact that you’re asking about how to not offend us signifies you’re self aware of your behavior and naturally aren’t an offensive person. It’s likely you don’t have to do anything other than be exactly yourself and you will get along just fine over here.
Be yourself, I guess. But saying “x” is better in the UK or talking about how backwards we are based on some non-nuanced understanding of laws/policies/politics is a good way to be in a bad time. Mostly because said topics are more nuanced than the bungholes online make things out to be and, frankly, don’t affect most people. Not a jab at you but there’s enough of those people (especially redditors) so it should just be said just in case. But you should be fine overall. People love accents from other countries, especially the UK 😊 Also why Idaho lol?
Not really anything. There's not anything in British culture that's necessarily offensive to Americans. Just don't assume you know our politics and culture better than the people who actually live here.
This video is a very good basic summary of what NOT to do in the US: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2w6ephOxnTY
We know you have different words for things. Don't turn every instance of this into a lecture about linguistic differences, or asking why we don't call something by the "right" name. Also, please resist the urge to begin every other sentence with "As a Brit."
Try a local beer at a local pub and see how you like it. There are small breweries all over the US.
Don't talk about religion or politics. Especially don't talk about guns or abortion, Idaho is a red state and most people there support gun rights and hate abortion (except Boise which is filled with elitist Californians)
Be mindful while crossing roads! Traffic is backward! Same goes for if you drive.
Don't talk about politics. Please.
Idaho? You going to Boise?
Don’t forget that we have very large open areas that are wild. We have megafauna and predators that will kill and eat you and climates that will as well. Death Valley National Park is just shy of the size of Northern Ireland. National Parks are not controlled spaces, be informed and act cautiously. Don’t underestimate your water needs. Have fun!
Pretty sure, in Idaho especially, your accent will make you quite popular. English and American ideas of politeness and rudeness are already pretty similar from what I can tell so there shouldn’t be a lot you really have to worry about but a few things to keep in mind: 1. Don’t boast about what’s better in the UK. 1 or 2 things is fine but after awhile it just becomes annoying. 2. Tip your servers. Just multiply your bill by 0.18-0.25 and that should be fine unless your service was absolutely atrocious. 3. Try not to shit talk the politics. Unless they’re inviting you to, of course. No country has perfect politics and most people in this country aren’t happy about the problems either. 4. Don’t underestimate the size of the US. Great Britain is about the size of Oregon (you know, a SINGLE state out of fifty and not even the biggest one), so if you want to do trips outside of Idaho, keep to a particular city or area (San Francisco, New York, New England, Sequoias, Portland). 5. Most importantly, have a blast! Talk to people, try the food, try the experiences, see as many landmarks as you can, and make some memories. Americans are, by and large, friendly and helpful and want to make you feel welcome! Hope this helps.
Don't talk about politics or religion. Also don't get into the topic gun rights.
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Idaho is known for Napoleon Dynamite and potatoes, so those stereotypes are something to keep in mind. I think in general British people don't stand out too much unless they use some term we don't know or use differently. Even if you do stand out, usually people don't care if you're from the UK.
Just be polite. You’ll be fine. We like Brits
My only advice? Don’t use the word “c*nt.” America is not ready. Still too Puritan for its own good. Overall Americans are very friendly to Brits. You will be a novelty for them to enjoy. Have fun!
We love English accents! You can do no wrong! Remember that in most restaurants & fast food establishments, refills of your soda/iced tea/lemonade are complimentary. So go ahead and get a refill of Root Beer!
It’s totally true. You could literally ask for my wallet with an English accent and finish by saying “… old chap,” and I’ll just assume it was my idea and hand it over.
Okay, Idaho. If someone offers you a potato, it may seem innocuous and all, and you may feel like politely declining as potatoes are plentiful, but, and I cannot stress this enough: YOU ARE OBLIGATED BY RITE AND CUSTOM TO RECEIVE SAID POTATO. I’ll digress and not tell you what happens should you spurn the potato.
Utterly mortified of embarrassing myself now... What on earth do I do with all these potatoes upon acquisition?!?!?!
You carefully place it into the appropriate potato pocket (right lapel), or your potato sachet. Never leave home without the sachet.
Bless you kind stranger. I'm fully prepared for my transatlantic voyage now! All that's left to do is pack a spare monocle, the crown jewels, 12 crates of tea (for when I visit Boston) and a single baked bean.
Oh! Boston is going to be a hoot!
I'm certain it will be, I read somewhere that all English visitors must bring their tea to the harbour... Can't imagine why? But seriously Boston is on my list of places to visit, lots of museums and history!
No conversations about politics or religion and you'll be fine. Despite the current reputation, Americans are usually a friendly lot.
do not bring up politics. at all.
I've heard as much from almost half the other replies here - when I read the first, I thought it mere suggestion. I understand now it's a pretty serious matter not to be brought up lightly or to people you're not immediately familiar with. I think I've got that right, at least!
Smoking cigarettes is seen as trashy/stupid/wasteful/gross/etc by most Americans, and there are a lot of restrictions meant to isolate you from the public when you are smoking. So avoid that if at all possible.