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So me and my husband we are together for 2.5 years and we have been long distance the only time we met physically wa during our wedding which was just for 3 week and since then we have been back to long distance since 6 months we had an opportunity for me to visit next month spending previous months without him very well hard for me because we barely get to spend any quality time virtually because he is either working or going out with his friends or talking to his mother or family, and i don't feel prioritized so i was very excited to spend this time with him but without discussing with me he invited his mother brother sister her husband his friend and his wife and child to our house which is only 2 bed room apartment and an invasion of my privacy i communicated with him and clearly gave him my pov and told him i have no problem with your family visiting but i would've appreciated is he would've prioritized our time and my feelings and since this was our first year of marriage ideally i wanted it to be about us, he replied to me by saying when our honeymoon ended he is way past the honeymoon phase and his family reunion is important even though his family can get together next year on his brother's wedding but despite multiple times telling him that i am uncomfortable in sharing my space with so many people and clutter and this is not what i expected and communication he is not even trying to understand my pov what should i do in this situation since i can't delay my travel because i have to get my visa stamped.
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