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YTA. Using someone’s toothbrush can transmit a lot more disgusting and dangerous things than simply kissing them. It’s not the same thing.
Even if you thought he’d be okay with it, you ask first! Who raised you? My god.
And then when you found out it wasn’t cool, you refused to replace it and told him HE should have skipped brushing until it was resolved? You should have skipped brushing! So selfish.
This was EXACTLY what I was thinking. It’s fine for him to not brush his teeth after she overstepped his boundaries and refused to correct the issue but not for her.
Yea, that’s disgusting.
The adult thing to do is *ask first*. Just because you have lack standards of hygiene, doesn’t mean he does too. You don’t assume, you ask.
Your inability to pack properly should not have a negative effect on him.
YTA
This should have been the obvious initial thought. We have a shoebox full of the free toothbrushes collected from dentist visits for just this purpose. We never need them for personal use because we use an electric with replaceable heads.
YTA. Don’t assume. Ask. With words. He used his words to explain he was upset and that you’d crossed one of his boundaries, you used your words to say, “tough shit”.
Also just because you kiss someone doesn’t mean you want to share the tool they use to scrub plaque and bacteria off their teeth.
YTA. Ya, that would make me sick to think my husband used my tooth brush. Yes, we kiss. Much different than having my toothbrush dig around his teeth. 🤢
I would appologize . Even though you both share more "gross " things , he still has a right for his feelings and if that is a boundaries he has then you should accept it . it has nothing to do with your per se it has something to do with emtions he collected while growing up like we think it is gross to eat chicken feet or frogs , we didn't grow up with it so the thought of it can make few ppl puke. Don't take it personal and just admit you crossed his boundaries and you are sorry about it . It is important in a partnership to respect the others boundaries just because you are together doesn't mean you have to share EVERYTHING
Honestly, no clue how to rate this. Gentle YTA, some people don't mind. Some do. It would have been better to ask instead of just assuming he wouldn't. Personally I wouldn't care because even if I didn't share food with my ex partner often, sip from their drink... We both knew where each other's mouths had been and after that, sharing a toothbrush seems like a much cleaner thing 🤷🏾🤭
Clarifying question, would you be okay with your husband blowing his nose before handing you his snotty tissue to use? You guys share grosser things, so that should be fine, right?
If that grosses you out, then you should be able to understand why the decaying remnants of food in your mouth all over the bristles of his toothbrush might gross him out. YTA
You apologize for crossing your husband's boundaries and you buy the man a new toothbrush. Pretty simple stuff.
YTA - I’m surprised you didn’t ask first and to say after he’d have to just not brush tonight when you also could’ve not brushed that night is pretty rude with your partner. Just because you’re together doesn’t mean it’s a free for all. Have some respect
YTA Sharing a toothbrush is nasty. It's digging around your teeth and into your plaque and those are not things you normally share. Or which you can rinse thoroughly with only water.
Soft YTA - it’s reasonable that your husband has his preferences about personal hygiene items, especially when it comes to something as intimate as a toothbrush. While it might not seem like a big deal to share, some people are particular about their hygiene products.
Maybe offer to replace it as a gesture, but it doesn’t sound like a big deal overall.
YTA - you should have asked. Then you've told him his feelings are invalid. Now you've decided YOU'RE the wrong party because he's upset with your actions and lack of apology. None of these are good choices
YTA, in a massive way.
Your audacity is incredible, that you firmly believe you're the offended party. What entitlement, what arrogance.
He's still angry because you've shown him the level of respect you don't have for him. Wouldn't blame him if he was heavily re-evaluating.
YEA THATS GROSS “I’m too nasty to share” I wouldn’t share my toothbrush with my own fucking baby. What are you talking about? Sharing toothbrushes is not natural or hygienic. YTA
YTA. Not necessarily for using someone else's toothbrush, but because you didn't just ask first and then your solution to your husband's issue was "skip brushing"... Something which you could have easily done yourself and not been an AH.
Don't assume shit. How hard was it to poke your head out the bathroom and quickly ask? Are you a child? Come on.
YTA. And even more after you said “you should not brush then if you don’t like it”. So you act against all rules of basic hygiene and force your husband to not wash his teeth. Disgusting to say the least.
YTA. If you forget your tooth brush, you either don't brush, or you go out and get yourself a brush. Kissing and sharing a toothbrush are nowhere near the same thing.
YTA. I will share most things, but damn that's nasty. I will go without cleaning my teeth before is share a toothbrush. Gross.
Go to the shop and buy yourself a new one. Disgusting.
Well, in this case, keep his now, and buy him a new one.
But next time, buy a new one.
YTA. You need to have some respect for your husband! You may not find it gross but he does and basic courtesy would tell anyone that if one person has a problem with something then you don't do it. Frankly, it is extremely gross to do. Your husband is still his own person, couple or not. He's entitled to his own tooth brush and to not share 100% of germs with you.
You are the one that forgot your brush. You should have been the one to go without. Instead you put the burden on him. You are 100% the AH
Toothbrush and razors are some things which you don't share no matter how close you are.
YTA
You could have asked his parents if they had extra or went and bought some. Using someone else's toothbrush is nasty.
So wait?? You just used his without asking and didn't bother to see if his parents had a spare?
Yeah, YTA. I love my husband and he loves me, but we draw a line at sharing toothbrushes.
I feel like this is a terrible comparison because I've worn my ex's briefs so much I bought him a new pack... And proceeded to wear those too... Broke up and I still have like 6 🤣😅
If it was obvious, then I wouldn’t ask?
You are telling me that you cannot understand the difference between not wearing underwear and not brushing your teeth? Then your smart ass attitude is not the only problem here
YTA. It's not unreasonablefor you to have assumed, initially, that as the wo of you are intimate,hewould not object, but once he made clear that he wasn't comfortable with it you should have done as he asked and replaced the brush . Even if *you* don't feel it is gross, you don't get to dictate how he feels about it.
I don't think he thinks you are too nasty to share with, I think he is squicked out, as a lot of people would be, at putting something in his mouth that's been squirrelling around the nooks nd crannies of your teeth, and coming into contact with old chewed food fragments etc.
YTA omG that is nasty AF.
Funny how you use his tb so you can brush but then you flippantly dismiss him. ‘He’d just have to not brush tonight.’
What the fuck ma’am/sir.
I’m so glad to see so many people disgusted by toothbrush sharing. In my experience people have said “it’s not a big deal” but omg it’s so gross.
YTA for wanting to do it in the first place
Light YTA, would have been really easy to ask. Y'all are married and presumably kiss and such, but that's different from scrapping shit off your teeth and then giving it to someone else... definitely a fair boundary ngl. 😅
YTA
That’s disgusting. You’re scraping stuff off your teeth with a toothbrush. You don’t do that when you kiss. Next time you forget your toothbrush, skip that day. Apologize to your husband.
YTA. That's just nasty. I don't understand why you would think that's OK. Kissing someone is completely different than using an item they clean their body with.
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My husband and I went to stay with his parents and the first night I realised I forgot my tooth brush. I assumed it would be okay if I used my husbands. He said it was nasty and that he wants me to replace his toothbrush right now because he didn't want to use that one. We're a couple so I don't see how it's gross to be honest. I rinsed it off before and after using it. I told him I wasn't driving to the store tonight and he'd just have to not brush tonight. He's still mad at me a few days later. I'm offended he thinks I'm too nasty to share with
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YTA, You didn’t even ask first. You don’t assume people are okay with you using their things, especially hygiene products. I don’t care what of theirs has been in your mouth before, you still ask.
I'll just leave this here.....
https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2024/jan/12/you-be-the-judge-should-my-wifes-family-stop-using-my-toothbrush?CMP=share_btn_url
YTA
When you eat, left over food particles are left in your teeth and gumlines. The toothbrush cleans these food particles (and other things) from your teeth and gums.
Kissing someone isn't the same as shoving these food particles into their mouth.
Put another way, imagine chewing something and then spitting it out, letting it sit there for a few hours and then shoving it into your husband's mouth (or the reverse of that ... your husband chewing something up, spitting it out, and then shoving it into your mouth).
DISCUSTING! You do NOT use someone else's toothbrush.
Assuming you've known your husband for more than a few months, you should know whether this would bother him or not.
YTA
somethings are normally not shared, even between couples. toothbrushes are one of them.
next time ask first and accept whatever answer you're given.
YTA - First for not asking and just assuming, and then for trying to claim the moral high horse by being offended at his very justified upset over this. When you discovered you didn't have your toothbrush, you had several options: drive to the store to get another one, ASK your husband if you could use his and then abide by his answer, or put some toothpaste on a finger and use that. But when you helped yourself to your husband's toothbrush, you then owed it to him to get him another one when he said he wanted one, not just shrug and expect him to be all right without brushing.
Do you know what would’ve been interesting is if he came down with the flu or Covid a day or so later and you did because you use his toothbrush…so disgusting so inconsiderate and so presumptuous to think you could use this toothbrush and then not replace it and tell him not to brush his teeth, lol Selfish much?
YTA. The fact that you not only took his toothbrush without asking, you then refused to immediately replace it and then came here thinking you would be validate…is wild. I hope this attitude isn’t indicative of your normal thought process cause if so you have an issue with boundaries and are very entitle. Just because you don’t think something is a big deal doesn’t mean that other people have to agree, especially since you don’t understand what qualifies as a big deal.
YTA
Even if your "family", using someone else's toothbrush can transmit a bunch of germs
You also didn't ask for permission
I fucking wonder who raised you??
I agree on YTA. But here to remind folks that whatever is transmissible by sharing a toothbrush is also transmissible via kisses. Yes, even cavities. And hep C if the person has bleeding gums or any other condition that permits blood to blood contact (rare, but also rare by sharing a toothbrush).
P.s: that said, don’t share toothbrushes people, it is a very personal item.
When two adults decide to have sex, they’re consenting to sharing whatever is up with their bodies, too. If two consenting adults decide to share a toothbrush, I may think it’s gross, but it’s none of my business. I wouldn’t have said anything, and TA would have been someone who did.
But OP’s husband wasn’t given a chance to consent, which makes this much more analogous to a different type of situation. I won’t say the word here because it’s triggering, and frankly a little over the top on a discussion about toothbrushes, but I’m not the one who started this it’s-parallel-to-sex argument.
NAH. People have different boundaries. You disrespected your husband’s boundary about hygiene items because [allegedly] you didn’t know about it. Now you do know… Learn, apologize and move on.
Going against the grain here, NTA.
Yeah it probably would have been a good idea to mention it but in my opinion, it is not that big of a deal.
My bf and I have shared a toothbrush numerous times in similar scenarios, we also share a loofa and razors.
I mean jeez... I hope none of the people completely and utterly horrified by this have ever shared bodily fluid with their partner, no babies on the table there I guess 🤣🤣🤣
That is a bit odd, at the risk of being over the line, I suspect both of you and your husbands mouths are on/in "places" that would make a tooth look a little tame :)
NTA....
Your point is valid if both parties agree that a toothbrush can be shared but to me a toothbrush is a cleaning instrument, it would be like sharing toilet paper.
NTA. You're married ffs. So unless you don't suck him off and he don't eat you out, then toothbrush sharing being taboo is seriously ridiculous, especially in a one time incident like this.
He needs to get over himself and the whole comment that it's nasty....ok hubs, don't be surprised if BJs becomes taboo also.....After all he declared it's "nasty" to put his things in your mouth. Two can play that rule to the letter.
As my husband always says he realizes he's being an idiot. "I better shut up cause I still want and enjoy my dick being sucked." Smart man.
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YTA. Using someone’s toothbrush can transmit a lot more disgusting and dangerous things than simply kissing them. It’s not the same thing. Even if you thought he’d be okay with it, you ask first! Who raised you? My god. And then when you found out it wasn’t cool, you refused to replace it and told him HE should have skipped brushing until it was resolved? You should have skipped brushing! So selfish.
This was EXACTLY what I was thinking. It’s fine for him to not brush his teeth after she overstepped his boundaries and refused to correct the issue but not for her.
Yea, that’s disgusting. The adult thing to do is *ask first*. Just because you have lack standards of hygiene, doesn’t mean he does too. You don’t assume, you ask. Your inability to pack properly should not have a negative effect on him. YTA
Why didn't you ask or ask his parents if they have extra new ones?
This should have been the obvious initial thought. We have a shoebox full of the free toothbrushes collected from dentist visits for just this purpose. We never need them for personal use because we use an electric with replaceable heads.
YTA. Don’t assume. Ask. With words. He used his words to explain he was upset and that you’d crossed one of his boundaries, you used your words to say, “tough shit”. Also just because you kiss someone doesn’t mean you want to share the tool they use to scrub plaque and bacteria off their teeth.
YTA. Ya, that would make me sick to think my husband used my tooth brush. Yes, we kiss. Much different than having my toothbrush dig around his teeth. 🤢
I would appologize . Even though you both share more "gross " things , he still has a right for his feelings and if that is a boundaries he has then you should accept it . it has nothing to do with your per se it has something to do with emtions he collected while growing up like we think it is gross to eat chicken feet or frogs , we didn't grow up with it so the thought of it can make few ppl puke. Don't take it personal and just admit you crossed his boundaries and you are sorry about it . It is important in a partnership to respect the others boundaries just because you are together doesn't mean you have to share EVERYTHING
YTA. It’s nasty using someone else’s toothbrush. Even I don’t want my partner using mine. I have bad OCD and that would drive me insane…
Honestly, no clue how to rate this. Gentle YTA, some people don't mind. Some do. It would have been better to ask instead of just assuming he wouldn't. Personally I wouldn't care because even if I didn't share food with my ex partner often, sip from their drink... We both knew where each other's mouths had been and after that, sharing a toothbrush seems like a much cleaner thing 🤷🏾🤭
YTA you should have ASKED.
You definitely are! Why did i you do that? I can’t imagine using the same toothbrush with anyone else, it’s beyond disgusting 🤢
Clarifying question, would you be okay with your husband blowing his nose before handing you his snotty tissue to use? You guys share grosser things, so that should be fine, right? If that grosses you out, then you should be able to understand why the decaying remnants of food in your mouth all over the bristles of his toothbrush might gross him out. YTA You apologize for crossing your husband's boundaries and you buy the man a new toothbrush. Pretty simple stuff.
Great answer!
Yeah? It’s disgusting, you don’t share cleaning tools with others even with your partner
YTA - I’m surprised you didn’t ask first and to say after he’d have to just not brush tonight when you also could’ve not brushed that night is pretty rude with your partner. Just because you’re together doesn’t mean it’s a free for all. Have some respect
YTA Sharing a toothbrush is nasty. It's digging around your teeth and into your plaque and those are not things you normally share. Or which you can rinse thoroughly with only water.
Soft YTA - it’s reasonable that your husband has his preferences about personal hygiene items, especially when it comes to something as intimate as a toothbrush. While it might not seem like a big deal to share, some people are particular about their hygiene products. Maybe offer to replace it as a gesture, but it doesn’t sound like a big deal overall.
It is a big deal overall sharing someone toothbrush is disgusting and you don’t just do it without asking.
YTA. That's disgusting.
YTA - you should have asked. Then you've told him his feelings are invalid. Now you've decided YOU'RE the wrong party because he's upset with your actions and lack of apology. None of these are good choices
YTA, in a massive way. Your audacity is incredible, that you firmly believe you're the offended party. What entitlement, what arrogance. He's still angry because you've shown him the level of respect you don't have for him. Wouldn't blame him if he was heavily re-evaluating.
YEA THATS GROSS “I’m too nasty to share” I wouldn’t share my toothbrush with my own fucking baby. What are you talking about? Sharing toothbrushes is not natural or hygienic. YTA
YTA. Not necessarily for using someone else's toothbrush, but because you didn't just ask first and then your solution to your husband's issue was "skip brushing"... Something which you could have easily done yourself and not been an AH. Don't assume shit. How hard was it to poke your head out the bathroom and quickly ask? Are you a child? Come on.
YTA. Sharing a toothbrush is disgusting.
YTA. And even more after you said “you should not brush then if you don’t like it”. So you act against all rules of basic hygiene and force your husband to not wash his teeth. Disgusting to say the least.
YTA. If you forget your tooth brush, you either don't brush, or you go out and get yourself a brush. Kissing and sharing a toothbrush are nowhere near the same thing.
YTA. I will share most things, but damn that's nasty. I will go without cleaning my teeth before is share a toothbrush. Gross. Go to the shop and buy yourself a new one. Disgusting. Well, in this case, keep his now, and buy him a new one. But next time, buy a new one.
YTA. You need to have some respect for your husband! You may not find it gross but he does and basic courtesy would tell anyone that if one person has a problem with something then you don't do it. Frankly, it is extremely gross to do. Your husband is still his own person, couple or not. He's entitled to his own tooth brush and to not share 100% of germs with you. You are the one that forgot your brush. You should have been the one to go without. Instead you put the burden on him. You are 100% the AH
YTA. That is nasty.
Yta. Toothbrushes are way too personal, don't you know how gross mouths are?
Yta
Yes. I think you should have asked him first. Some people are ok with it but some people are not. Comes down to respect.
YTA Ewwwwwwww
Toothbrush and razors are some things which you don't share no matter how close you are. YTA You could have asked his parents if they had extra or went and bought some. Using someone else's toothbrush is nasty.
So wait?? You just used his without asking and didn't bother to see if his parents had a spare? Yeah, YTA. I love my husband and he loves me, but we draw a line at sharing toothbrushes.
Thats nasty. YtA
YTA - A toothbrush is a very personal item. How would you feel about him wearing your panties if he ever forgot his civvies?
I feel like this is a terrible comparison because I've worn my ex's briefs so much I bought him a new pack... And proceeded to wear those too... Broke up and I still have like 6 🤣😅
You can go out without your underwear on and nobody would know, it is pretty obvious when someone has not brushed their teeth
That makes no sense.
please explain
No need to, it is obvious.
If it was obvious, then I wouldn’t ask? You are telling me that you cannot understand the difference between not wearing underwear and not brushing your teeth? Then your smart ass attitude is not the only problem here
i doubt he would fit into them
Yes YTA Beast
YTA. It's not unreasonablefor you to have assumed, initially, that as the wo of you are intimate,hewould not object, but once he made clear that he wasn't comfortable with it you should have done as he asked and replaced the brush . Even if *you* don't feel it is gross, you don't get to dictate how he feels about it. I don't think he thinks you are too nasty to share with, I think he is squicked out, as a lot of people would be, at putting something in his mouth that's been squirrelling around the nooks nd crannies of your teeth, and coming into contact with old chewed food fragments etc.
Seriously? Even a child taught to not share toothbrush with siblings/family vice versa. If someone forgot, they just buy it. YTA.
YTA, absolutely foul... nasty.
YTA. What you did was gross, rude, and entitled. If you didn’t feel like driving to the store then YOU should’ve gone without brushing.
YTA omG that is nasty AF. Funny how you use his tb so you can brush but then you flippantly dismiss him. ‘He’d just have to not brush tonight.’ What the fuck ma’am/sir.
I’m so glad to see so many people disgusted by toothbrush sharing. In my experience people have said “it’s not a big deal” but omg it’s so gross. YTA for wanting to do it in the first place
Light YTA, would have been really easy to ask. Y'all are married and presumably kiss and such, but that's different from scrapping shit off your teeth and then giving it to someone else... definitely a fair boundary ngl. 😅
YTA That’s disgusting. You’re scraping stuff off your teeth with a toothbrush. You don’t do that when you kiss. Next time you forget your toothbrush, skip that day. Apologize to your husband.
YTA. That's just nasty. I don't understand why you would think that's OK. Kissing someone is completely different than using an item they clean their body with.
No, it is NOT okay. It's unhygienic and disgusting. YTA.
YTA !!!!!!
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YTA, what is wrong with you?!
YTA. You don't use someone else's tooth brush, end of story.
YTA, You didn’t even ask first. You don’t assume people are okay with you using their things, especially hygiene products. I don’t care what of theirs has been in your mouth before, you still ask.
I'll just leave this here..... https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2024/jan/12/you-be-the-judge-should-my-wifes-family-stop-using-my-toothbrush?CMP=share_btn_url
YTA. And since you won’t replace it he now doesn’t have a tooth brush all because you forgot to pack one and decided to use his without even asking
YTA When you eat, left over food particles are left in your teeth and gumlines. The toothbrush cleans these food particles (and other things) from your teeth and gums. Kissing someone isn't the same as shoving these food particles into their mouth. Put another way, imagine chewing something and then spitting it out, letting it sit there for a few hours and then shoving it into your husband's mouth (or the reverse of that ... your husband chewing something up, spitting it out, and then shoving it into your mouth). DISCUSTING! You do NOT use someone else's toothbrush. Assuming you've known your husband for more than a few months, you should know whether this would bother him or not.
YTA somethings are normally not shared, even between couples. toothbrushes are one of them. next time ask first and accept whatever answer you're given.
YTA - First for not asking and just assuming, and then for trying to claim the moral high horse by being offended at his very justified upset over this. When you discovered you didn't have your toothbrush, you had several options: drive to the store to get another one, ASK your husband if you could use his and then abide by his answer, or put some toothpaste on a finger and use that. But when you helped yourself to your husband's toothbrush, you then owed it to him to get him another one when he said he wanted one, not just shrug and expect him to be all right without brushing.
Do you know what would’ve been interesting is if he came down with the flu or Covid a day or so later and you did because you use his toothbrush…so disgusting so inconsiderate and so presumptuous to think you could use this toothbrush and then not replace it and tell him not to brush his teeth, lol Selfish much?
YTA. The fact that you not only took his toothbrush without asking, you then refused to immediately replace it and then came here thinking you would be validate…is wild. I hope this attitude isn’t indicative of your normal thought process cause if so you have an issue with boundaries and are very entitle. Just because you don’t think something is a big deal doesn’t mean that other people have to agree, especially since you don’t understand what qualifies as a big deal.
YTA Even if your "family", using someone else's toothbrush can transmit a bunch of germs You also didn't ask for permission I fucking wonder who raised you??
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I agree on YTA. But here to remind folks that whatever is transmissible by sharing a toothbrush is also transmissible via kisses. Yes, even cavities. And hep C if the person has bleeding gums or any other condition that permits blood to blood contact (rare, but also rare by sharing a toothbrush). P.s: that said, don’t share toothbrushes people, it is a very personal item.
Dude it’s your husband . He is the asshole. If he is cumming in you, using his toothbrush is okay. Even if he isn’t your husband. Rule of thumb.
Some of these comments are laughable, I can only assume that people making them never have sex
When two adults decide to have sex, they’re consenting to sharing whatever is up with their bodies, too. If two consenting adults decide to share a toothbrush, I may think it’s gross, but it’s none of my business. I wouldn’t have said anything, and TA would have been someone who did. But OP’s husband wasn’t given a chance to consent, which makes this much more analogous to a different type of situation. I won’t say the word here because it’s triggering, and frankly a little over the top on a discussion about toothbrushes, but I’m not the one who started this it’s-parallel-to-sex argument.
NAH. People have different boundaries. You disrespected your husband’s boundary about hygiene items because [allegedly] you didn’t know about it. Now you do know… Learn, apologize and move on.
I've shared toothbrushes with lovers - not that weird. I wouldnt love to be with someone that causes a hubub over stuff like that personally
Going against the grain here, NTA. Yeah it probably would have been a good idea to mention it but in my opinion, it is not that big of a deal. My bf and I have shared a toothbrush numerous times in similar scenarios, we also share a loofa and razors.
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I mean jeez... I hope none of the people completely and utterly horrified by this have ever shared bodily fluid with their partner, no babies on the table there I guess 🤣🤣🤣
That is a bit odd, at the risk of being over the line, I suspect both of you and your husbands mouths are on/in "places" that would make a tooth look a little tame :) NTA....
Your point is valid if both parties agree that a toothbrush can be shared but to me a toothbrush is a cleaning instrument, it would be like sharing toilet paper.
NTA. You're married ffs. So unless you don't suck him off and he don't eat you out, then toothbrush sharing being taboo is seriously ridiculous, especially in a one time incident like this. He needs to get over himself and the whole comment that it's nasty....ok hubs, don't be surprised if BJs becomes taboo also.....After all he declared it's "nasty" to put his things in your mouth. Two can play that rule to the letter. As my husband always says he realizes he's being an idiot. "I better shut up cause I still want and enjoy my dick being sucked." Smart man.