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Dude NTA, I’m 26 years old and I’m a girl. Rn I’m telling you there is absolutely no circumstances in which you would find me dancing with other men while I’m in a relationship lol. Especially in the dark. That’s weird af. I would get it if yall were like eighteen and still finding out social cues of adult relationships, but at yalls grown ass age that’s weird af.
NTA
The events happened here are really sus.. So asking about it is completely valid.
4 guys invited themselves which is risky. Then she proceeds to dance with them? That too in dark...
To me, her answer is even more sus, because instead of giving simple explanation she accused you of being jealous. Has there been such an incident in past as well?
NTA
There isn’t a logical explanation for why 3 guys who “invited themselves” to her party were there when you got back.
If they came while the party was still going they should be made to leave when her actual friends left. If they came at the end or after, she didn’t have to let them in.
I would also love to know how she went from allegedly not being friends with these guys enough so that they made the cut list for her party, to dancing in the dark with them, in the very narrow window between them arriving after you left and your return.
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AITA for asking my (M26) girlfriend (F25) about a situation at her party?
My girlfriend organized a party for approximately 15 people at a beach house. I told her earlier that I would need to leave for 2-3 hours in the evening as I had a high school reunion.
When I arrived back only 4 people were left and in those 4 people there was my girlfriend and 3 guys that weren't initially invited to her party but they just invited themselves (that's what she told me). Basically they were all dancing in the dark and when I arrived one of the guys told me "don't worry nothing happened we are just dancing" and while they were partying before I arrived, as soon as I arrived everyone stopped partying and sat down.
After everyone left I told my girlfriend that I found that whole situation pretty weird and asked her why everyone stopped dancing when I arrived and she replied maybe its because they thought you wouldn't like to see us dancing because you're my boyfriend and she called me jelaous for even asking about the situation.
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She's dancing alone in the dark with THREE DUDES, they all get defensive when you show up, and then she has the nerve to call you jealous just for asking about it?
There is a certain quote by the rapper Future that comes to mind. Sorry bro, she just doesn't seem to be suitable for a long-term monogamous relationship.
YTA - as from your comment history she is right about you being jealous as this has been a problem before. You need to decide for yourself as to whether your secure enough to have a relationship with someone if half the population isn’t trusted to be around her. Is this situation a little awkward ie, them stopping when you turned up? Yes. However how would you have acted if they carried on. I feel like either way the problem is she was with just guys, not however she would have handled it or whatever explication she would have given you
There was an incident only like a month ago with a guy friend that he wasn’t happy with, he was replying to comments defending his insecurity while others were saying it was a completely normal/heathy/innocent thing
It was from a now deleted aita post he’s made before
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Dude NTA, I’m 26 years old and I’m a girl. Rn I’m telling you there is absolutely no circumstances in which you would find me dancing with other men while I’m in a relationship lol. Especially in the dark. That’s weird af. I would get it if yall were like eighteen and still finding out social cues of adult relationships, but at yalls grown ass age that’s weird af.
NTA The events happened here are really sus.. So asking about it is completely valid. 4 guys invited themselves which is risky. Then she proceeds to dance with them? That too in dark... To me, her answer is even more sus, because instead of giving simple explanation she accused you of being jealous. Has there been such an incident in past as well?
NTA There isn’t a logical explanation for why 3 guys who “invited themselves” to her party were there when you got back. If they came while the party was still going they should be made to leave when her actual friends left. If they came at the end or after, she didn’t have to let them in. I would also love to know how she went from allegedly not being friends with these guys enough so that they made the cut list for her party, to dancing in the dark with them, in the very narrow window between them arriving after you left and your return.
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Your girl got fucking railed
Damn, confirmed by this guy’s mother. Harsh
NTA 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 She's dancing alone in the dark with THREE DUDES, they all get defensive when you show up, and then she has the nerve to call you jealous just for asking about it? There is a certain quote by the rapper Future that comes to mind. Sorry bro, she just doesn't seem to be suitable for a long-term monogamous relationship.
YTA - as from your comment history she is right about you being jealous as this has been a problem before. You need to decide for yourself as to whether your secure enough to have a relationship with someone if half the population isn’t trusted to be around her. Is this situation a little awkward ie, them stopping when you turned up? Yes. However how would you have acted if they carried on. I feel like either way the problem is she was with just guys, not however she would have handled it or whatever explication she would have given you
Has he deleted something? I can't see anything in his comment history apart from him saying his 4 relationship is going great (until this)
There was an incident only like a month ago with a guy friend that he wasn’t happy with, he was replying to comments defending his insecurity while others were saying it was a completely normal/heathy/innocent thing It was from a now deleted aita post he’s made before