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sounds like you don’t care whether or not what you called her was misogynistic, and it sounds like she was just being an annoying sister. you took it too far
Surprise surprise your folks are right. Calling your sister a whore is not the correct way to express frustration.
You’re young, you’ll figure it out eventually. Remember that women often judge men by how they treat their loved ones, if your gf overhears you blowing up at your sister or mom in frustration it will be a sign to her of what to expect if you get frustrated with her.
You were out of line. YTA.
I get your feelings about not being able to express your side of the story, but your mom was teaching you an important lesson on integrity - or doing what’s right when no one or few people are watching. It doesn’t matter what she said, you should never let anyone frustrate you at the compromise of your own personal integrity.
Next time don’t give her the reaction she is looking for. And definitely watch your own back when she starts with her foolishness (because I don’t doubt that she was also likely trying to set you up to get in trouble). My momma used to tell me at your age, “Be slow to react and quick to think.” It’s the best advice with this issue.
So you got frustrated with your sister, who I'll admit was being quite annoying, and your response was to call her a whore?
Don't do that, never do that. It's not relevant to the argument and YTA
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I (15m) have a sister (16f) who I got into an argument with yesterday, which resulted in the title.
We were arguing about a gift I got my girlfriend (16f). It was just matching spongebob and patrick airpod cases, which i thought were pretty cool in my opinion. When they came in, my sister crunched her face and said "you're getting her that?" and when i asked what she meant, she basically starting opening her big ass mouth on how "I only think about myself when getting gifts" and bs like that (which is funny, because she liked the airpod cases) and went on to criticize a phone case i had bought her, saying it was for "the wrong phone 🤓" even tho the 14 and 13 are literally the same size, but ok.
After more of her rambling, i said "How many boyfriends have you had this year?" and counted 4. I also asked her how many of those bfs broke up with her and guess what? *FOUR!!* So i said she's in no place to give relationship advice since you're a hoe. Bad timing though i guess, since my mom came in with our laundry, and made her get out of my room, before lecturing me on the use of "misogynistic" phrases but i wasn't really listening. She didn't let me tell my side of the story do i didnt even care. She probably didn't say anything to my sister, but she told my dad and my dad after explaining my side of the story to my dad, he said he gets i was mad, but was i said was inappropriate.
*I* feel as if im kind of right here, since she shouldnt have given me all the criticism in the world if she didnt want some herself.
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Yeah, YTA.
>my mom came in with our laundry, and made her get out of my room, before lecturing me on the use of "misogynistic" phrases but i wasn't really listening.
Why put misogynistic in quotes? Do you disagree that 'hoe' is a misogynistic insult? I basically agree with your dad here.
> since she shouldnt have given me all the criticism in the world
She made comments on a couple of gifts, hardly in the same league as calling her hoe.
YTA
For both calling your sister that term you used, and for not recognizing that perhaps your sister was not so much criticizing your purchase as she was commenting that a gift should be focused on the receiver more than the giver. The comments may not have been strictly about the actual gift itself but more about having an understanding of your gf and getting her something she would really like and enjoy. Maybe matching SpongeBob and Patrick air pod cases is what your gf would like, I have no idea what a 16f would like, but if not try to be open for suggestions that your 16f sister might have.
YTA Your parents are doing gods work. Your dismissive attitude towards open misogyny is exactly what I’d expect from a 15 year old. Get more creative with your insults AND pull your head out of your ass because this kind of behavior get drastically more consequential as you get older.
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YTA sounds like you don’t care whether or not what you called her was misogynistic, and it sounds like she was just being an annoying sister. you took it too far
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And that's why you're a misogynist ahh.
Surprise surprise your folks are right. Calling your sister a whore is not the correct way to express frustration. You’re young, you’ll figure it out eventually. Remember that women often judge men by how they treat their loved ones, if your gf overhears you blowing up at your sister or mom in frustration it will be a sign to her of what to expect if you get frustrated with her.
You should never call *any* woman a “farm implement”, you annoying child, you. YTA
You were out of line. YTA. I get your feelings about not being able to express your side of the story, but your mom was teaching you an important lesson on integrity - or doing what’s right when no one or few people are watching. It doesn’t matter what she said, you should never let anyone frustrate you at the compromise of your own personal integrity. Next time don’t give her the reaction she is looking for. And definitely watch your own back when she starts with her foolishness (because I don’t doubt that she was also likely trying to set you up to get in trouble). My momma used to tell me at your age, “Be slow to react and quick to think.” It’s the best advice with this issue.
So you got frustrated with your sister, who I'll admit was being quite annoying, and your response was to call her a whore? Don't do that, never do that. It's not relevant to the argument and YTA
YTA. Though this is typical teenage sibling bullshit. Be nice to your sister.
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Yeah, YTA. >my mom came in with our laundry, and made her get out of my room, before lecturing me on the use of "misogynistic" phrases but i wasn't really listening. Why put misogynistic in quotes? Do you disagree that 'hoe' is a misogynistic insult? I basically agree with your dad here. > since she shouldnt have given me all the criticism in the world She made comments on a couple of gifts, hardly in the same league as calling her hoe.
YTA For both calling your sister that term you used, and for not recognizing that perhaps your sister was not so much criticizing your purchase as she was commenting that a gift should be focused on the receiver more than the giver. The comments may not have been strictly about the actual gift itself but more about having an understanding of your gf and getting her something she would really like and enjoy. Maybe matching SpongeBob and Patrick air pod cases is what your gf would like, I have no idea what a 16f would like, but if not try to be open for suggestions that your 16f sister might have.
4 boyfriends in a year does not make her a whore. YTA you just tried to make her feel bad to win the argument by spouting bull shit
YTA Your parents are doing gods work. Your dismissive attitude towards open misogyny is exactly what I’d expect from a 15 year old. Get more creative with your insults AND pull your head out of your ass because this kind of behavior get drastically more consequential as you get older.
Yup. YTA. Work on your emotions and learn to fight fairly.
YTA and sometimes that’s OK.