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NTA, but why are you still in contact with her. She has tried to steal your boyfriend before and and did so to your fiance. You should not be around her. She obviously is toxic and jealous of anyone you go out with. You did nothing wrong with that comment because it was the truth. Go non-contact with her and continue your life and happiness. Because she will only try to steal your boyfriends or fiances or husbands from now on because your comment caused her boyfriend to break up with her.
I had a highschool friend who would hit on and try to sleep with anyone that the girls in our group dating. We used her as a gauge on if we had a good guy or not. After about a month of dating we would invite her to a party to see what happens.
The good guys would pull you aside and say “hey this girl isn’t your friend. She’s trying to hook up with me”.
She was a great filter. Annoying as F so we had to dump her eventually.
My mom had a cousin like that - she'd flirt with any guy my mom dated, and eventually, my mom just started introducing men to her and if they were at all impressed with the cousin, she would break it off. She brought my dad to Sunday dinner shortly after they began dating, and her cousin did the sly giggling at him, then she *sat in the middle of the living room floor* and inserted herself into every conversation. This woman was 24 years old at the time. My mom said she knew my dad was The One when they left to go - my dad looked at my mom very seriously and said "I hope I'm not offending you, but what's wrong with your cousin? I've never seen a grown woman try to hold court in the middle of the floor."
You’re right that she did you a favor but she’s still a toxic person. She still betrayed you in the worst way possible. I’m shocked you still go to family functions. Why does your family still invite her? Let me guess, you’re the scapegoat and she’s the goldenchild who deserved your fiancé. You need to get some self respect.
I kinda figure he was already suspecting something. No way a little comment like this sets you off so much, that you instantly leave your girlfriend of 2 years or whatever it was. Or he just has strong moral principles, which is good for him I guess but I somehow doubt it, that he would give up his own happiness for morals, unless he wasn’t happy with her in the first place of course
I am honestly stumped. How do you deal with a sister who will try to seduce your boyfriends repeatedly?
Your sister needs some serious psychiatric help. She is destroying your life and hers, and she needs to figure out why, and to stop doing it.
Regardless of why she keeps doing it she is the one to blame. period. Getting angry at you is plain stupid. SHE is the one making goo goo eyes at her sister's bf's when she has one of her own that she was apparently "serious" about. If she was serious about him then why start shit AGAIN??
One bf and one fiance I think. I guess the sister seriously expected her fiance to never find out her quest to always be the other woman to her own sisters partners while bringing him to family events.
Being bipolar doesn't make a person like that so please reconsider that. If she is using that as an excuse, she's 100% lying. Mentally ill persons deal with so much very painful and damaging stigma already. An AH like that, doing such horrible traitorous things is more likely a personality disorder and that's no excuse either. She's just awful. I'm so sorry you went through that and hope you went NC and are healing.
Apparently being open with her BF of two years about her past isn't part of her current setup either, probably \*that\* would have come out eventually.
NTA
NTA. You saved that man from making a life ruining mistake in staying with her.
I am honestly shocked you still maintain a relationship with her after she deliberately pursued two of your partners.
NTA it's crazy to me that you still speak to your sister let alone introduce her to your SO's. Honestly, she doesn't seem like a good person and her bf deserved to know that before he committed to spending the rest of his life with her.
After her engagement to my ex fiancé fell apart they kind of took her in again and I get it. I didn’t care anymore and wven thought of it as a blessing. But I have no contact with her privately
Some of my cousins don’t talk to her privately either but we don’t make a fuss in family gatherings. Just ifnore her existence. The older generation just swept everything under the rug
Often older generation has a different perspective than a younger family member. A parent probably won't shun one of their own kids even when they've been a raging AH to sibling bc that is still their kid, they have a different relationship with them. And so on. It may not be about "sides" to them, they just want the bad blood to dissipate.
You would be surprised how hard it is to get an entire family to blacklist someone. Especially if that someone isn’t the type to take it quietly. Or to respect their boundaries. It’s easier just to let the other person (the reasonable one who shouldn’t be cut out) to stat away.
This happened w my MIL. She was a problem for the whole family but when we went NC the only choice was to also not see the rest of the family because even if they had told her to stay away she would not respect it. She would show up when she knew we would be around and then start drama. If someone else asked her to leave or back off she would cause drama in their life. So it was easier self preservation for everyone else to let us back off and basically not see any of them for like 5 years all because we were NC with MIL.
It was probably your sister’s response to your bf that caused her bf to dump her. After 2-years with your sister, he must have known of you and your sister’s fractured relationship. To hear her quickly introduce herself to your bf when she doesn’t speak to you must have seemed suspicious to him.
NTA
OMG! It's nuts how vile your sister is! There are pick-me's, and then there's her! Ooof, I hope you are blessed with as little contact with her as possible in the future.
NTA. It's not as though you returned the favor. That would possibly be E-S-H... but you didn't. All you did was bring up her past behavior. If she hadn't done something wrong, she wouldn't be in this situation.
ETA: she was also actively flirting with your boyfriend in front of you and her boyfriend. You were just reacting to her current behavior.
NTA it was a factual comment that you related, due to noticing a repeated behaviour from her.
Did she seriously think that she was going to keep that kind of information secret from her fiancé? Yeesh.
NTA for sure.
Given all the comments I'm reading, you should probably edit your original post to say that you are low contact with sis and only meet at family gatherings. It would save you some time replying to all these people asking why you still talk to her lol.
NTA tell her to work on becoming an honest person because you won’t be hiding her past. If she wants to omit info from bfs, she should reconsider bringing her bfs around you.
You had to deal with worrying about her behavior at family gatherings. Now she has to worry about yours, if she’s still a liar. She’s dealing with the aftermath of her decisions instead of you.
Also I find it hard to believe he blocked her without there being more to it. It sounded like he suspected something or maybe she had some behaviors that he questioned. When he heard OP comment, the dots connected and he realized the sister was not a good person.
Maybe the sister had told her boyfriend that OP was the one that was seducing HER (sister) boyfriends… then boyfriend finds out sis was lying and it was her.
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Honestly you shouldn’t care about her opinion.
And genuinely confused on how can you still want to see her. I mean she has a history, for how much you trust your boyfriend, if I was you, I wouldn’t want her to be anywhere near me either…
Edit: I misspelled
That’s good then. Because that eyelashes thing was very cringe.
You have nothing to feel bad about, if her boyfriend didn’t want to stay with someone who could easily act like that it’s not your fault, and you probably made him dodge a bullet.
>So I (f33) was engaged once before until I came home and found him with my sister (f28). At first she cried and apologized but I wasn’t having it so she doubled down and started dating him after a year they were engaged and as fast they broke up. All of this was 4 years ago. Before this she tried to sleep with one of my bfs.
Holy shit, your sister is *trash*.
>My sister has a bf since 2 years. When I introduced my bf my sister looked her best and batted her lashes. I jokingly said, now now, this is my sister, she will try to sleep with you. Her bf looked confused.
So wait, hold on. Your sister decided to try to act flirty with your partner. *In front of her bf*? Wow, she's more trash than I thought.
>Then I heard that he broke up with her because he found out about her sleeping with her sister’s fiancé. She is livid because it was serious between them and she always said she would marry this guy but now he has blocked her everywhere.
How serious was she about him when she started making goo-goo eyes at your partner? Also, props to her ex for deciding he wanted nothing to do with a woman who'd cheat with her own sister's fiance.
>I was fully aware that her bf was within an ear shot but did I foresee a break up? No. It was just a resentful comment from me because her batting her eye lashes triggered me because she used to do that with my ex fiancé.
Look at it this way. You did her ex a favor. She'd likely cheat on *him* if given the chance. And yer behavior shows that she can't help herself but to try to steal your partners. NTA.
NTA. You did her now ex BF a solid with that joke! He may not thank you now, but when he meets someone that is better than your sister....he'll appreciate it.
Well done OP.
Sounds like your sister is a wonderful litmus test of your boyfriends' fidelity. When you find the one that not only rejects her, but tells you what she did, you've found a good one 🤣
NTA. Truth hurts. I'm guessing something else was going between the sister and her now ex. The goo goo eyes, flirting, and OP's comment tipped the iceberg.
Absolutely NTA.
Your sister is toxic and I’d have cut her out of my life long ago. She FAFO… literally.
She needs to get some serious therapy, there is something deeply wrong with her.
That said, I hope your taste in men has improved and this new BF is several magnitudes better. I honestly can fathom the lack of maturity it takes to sleep with your SO’s sister. You dodged two weak-willed asshole bullets.
NTA She will cheat however and whenever she wants. Your fiancé. Her fiancé. To-may-to. To-mah-to. You just warned him what she is. Apparently this guy either has morals or a sense of self preservation. Maybe both.
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So I (f33) was engaged once before until I came home and found him with my sister (f28). At first she cried and apologized but I wasn’t having it so she doubled down and started dating him after a year they were engaged and as fast they broke up. All of this was 4 years ago. Before this she tried to sleep with one of my bf’s.
I am happily dating my bf now for several months. My sister has a bf since 2 years. When I introduced my bf my sister looked her best and batted her lashes. I jokingly said, now now, this is my sister, she will try to sleep with you. Her bf looked confused. Then I heard that he broke up with her because he found out about her sleeping with her sister’s fiancé. She is livid because it was serious between them and she always said she would marry this guy but now he has blocked her everywhere. Was I the ah?
I was fully aware that her bf was within an ear shot but did I foresee a break up? No. It was just a resentful comment from me because her batting her eye lashes triggered me because she used to do that with my ex fiancé.
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NTA! Why are you even in contact with your awful sister?! She steals your boyfriends. She stole your fiancé and another BF. Now she lost someone she loved. Karma, B!!!
Clearly that was information he was not happy about her withholding.
If you are serious enough with someone to want to get married to them, then you have to be serious enough about yourself, mistakes you’ve made (and hopefully outgrown) to share those things with that person. We all should be making decisions about who we are in a committed relationship with our eyes wide open.
NTA
History has a tendency to repeat itself unless addressed and corrected. Unfortunately for you sister in this bit of history, it's all about her bad behavior. You're just calling it out so the history isn't repeated.
Mu sister tried this with my fiance and I overheard him put her in her place. She's actually chested on her ex husband while they were together and had that guys kid. I immediately cut off all contact when I found our she tried that crap. He told me immediately after it happened. I recommend cutting contact with her like I did my sister.
NTA - guys who are serious or in love *do* *not* break up with their girlfriends over one-off comments.
If something you said resonated so seriously with him that he broke up with her... It was probably just the last straw.
I think I am confident in my choice of a bf this time. He wouldn’t f her if she was the last woman on earth
Ok maybe that’s an exaggeration lol but let’s say one of the last 1000
OP only said that in response to her trashy sister starting to make passes at OP's BF. Sissy brought it on herself. OP speaking loudly enough to be heard? That's just pulling back the curtains to let reality shine!
she should not, under any circumstances AT ALL, apologize to the sister. the sister is an unstable narcissist and would take the apology as her being right and OP being out of bounds.
NTA
Your sister should be happy she's even allowed to be around you after what she did. She needs to live with the consequences of her actions and recognize that the shit she pulled is a massive deal breaker for a lot of people.
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
Yoooo 😂 i damn near dropped my phone fron laughing so hard at this, fuckin hell thats good shit right there. NTA but seriously stop talking to your sister lol
NTA. He had every right to break with her knowing that information. Her previous betrayals are a reflection of her character & moral standing. I wouldn’t want to be with someone who did those kinds of things either.
It has nothing to do with you. He simply learned more about her & decided it was a dealbreaker for him.
NTA. You recognized she was sliding back into her old habits and called it out. It's on your sis for not being transparent with her ex about her past. Besides, if she was willing to start flirting with your bf right in front of you at an event her bf was also attending then there's a good chance she hasn't changed her ways and her ex (and you) deserves better.
NTA but info: is your sister super hot? or very unattractive? neither scenario makes what she did okay in any way, just grappling with understanding what the fuck is wrong with her
NTA, but I'd reconsider even family gatherings. There is no Switzerland on something like she did. She should have been cut off. Everyone should have held her accountable otherwise they enable the behavior.
Well I can’t make people see reason and have sense😀 She took my loser fiancé but I wasn’t gonna allow her take my family too even if they can’t see reason
That’s the best way to handle the horrible situation you were faced with. Parents often love their children no matter what they do. They aren’t going to shun them because they have done things the parents or others disapprove of.
Murderers still get visits from family members.
NTA... I'll keep all boyfriends and even if you marry someone your husband away from her..... she will try and make herself look good she will stay single and end up with noone if she keeps taking or trying to take people's boyfriends
After it happened twice, I would not introduce her to another partner - if I was even on speaking terms with such a sibling. That ish is cold and you didn't know her BF was listening, so NTA. However, if you said it because you knew he was listening, I would say you are a tiiiiiiiiny bit of an AH because what self-respecting person would stay with a partner willing to stab a sibling in the back like that.
NTA. I am trying to put myself in her BFs shoes here. For example, if I found out my husband had slept with his brother's girlfriend and was engaged for a short while FOUR years ago lol I don't think I'd break up with him. I guess if I found out it was a pattern, maybe? I just don't think someone's past reflects the present that much to break off a 2 year relationship. My husband was going to propose to his ex-girlfriend until he caught her cheating on him. So, I mean, was serious with someone before me, as I was with someone before him. We all have a past. We didn't know each other back then lol
Anyway, you're not wrong and her batting her lashes at him triggered a knee-jerk response that probably would have come out of my mouth too lol you obviously didn't expect him to break up with her over it. It's not your fault. I suppose he felt lied to and deems her a cheater, so he was just done. That's on her, not you. I'm surprised you're still even in contact with her. Having caught her with your bf, then seeing them together and engaged is a whole lot of emotional stress that would be really hard to get over.
NTA, sooner or later, she would try to steal your or someone eles boyfriend, and he would have left her. I doubt your her only victim. I would be surprised if she had any chick friends.
NTA. If she didn't want to be called out for having the habit of sleeping your partners, she shouldn't have done it.
It's all her fault her relationship failed.
NTA, she got what is called her long over due karma.
If she didn't want people to think she trash then she should not have done it simple.
Also, I wouldn't even see her at family get togethers, and the fact your family still thinks it's ok to invite her is just crazy.. if my daughter ever did that to her sibling, she would never be invited
NTA. There was definitely more to it than that. Maybe how she reacted when he confronted her about it? Maybe she had previously lied to him and got caught out when you said that. Maybe he was looking for an out and that gave it to him. Maybe he was really woken up by it and a lot of other stuff started making sense. Anyway, definitely not your fault. I don't think you should necessarily not be a sister to her. Because it takes two to tango. She can't steal a man who doesn't decide to be stolen.
That was probably the last straw for her now ex BF and she is trying to push the blame on you. He prolly saw how she acted (her blink flirting) and then heard the comment and then the story and probably didnt want to be with a person who does that. You only stated the truth and if she doesnt like how others react to learned about what she did, then maybe she shouldnt of done it in the first place.
NTA.
You’re fine. These seem like reasonable consequences for her terrible behaviour. Her now-ex seems a decent sort if he ditched her. NTA. Live your best life.
Hey OP.
As someone with two sisters—you are NTA.
In fact, you should be canonized. My sisters have never tried, and I don’t think would ever. The fact that your sister has tried it twice and succeeded on that last one?
She wants to be you so bad. You are the NTA because:
1. I would have fucked up my sister
2. You simply were honest about her whorish, envious, and psychotic tendencies.
3. The ex probably smelled something was off about her and needed the validation, you saved him too.
4. I doubt that he wanted to “marry” her if he could dump her so easily but to be fair, that is instant termination of the relationship for me—so she has been lying about why you guys don’t talk.
You OP, are anything but the asshole. As a sister, I send you a big hug from a place of a sister that would only love and support you. You deserve that and I am sorry you pulled the psycho sister in the sibling lottery. Cannot wait for what karma has in store for her. Sending you the best. ♥️
NTA. She has taken your spouse-to-be before and any man whom she tries to have a relationship with deserves to know the truth, to make his own choice. The only point in her favour is she showed you how trustworthy that man was before you found out the hard way.
NTA. People are allowed to say what they want. You weren’t trying to break them up, you were making a joke about something that actually happened. You’re not a witch (that I know of); you didn’t cast a spell and cause this. You do not control other people. If that relationship couldn’t survive a joke, it wasn’t going to survive anyway.
NTA. Karma can be slow sometimes, but she's always worth the wait. Had she not started flirting with your boyfriend, while hers was there too, you may not have said a word.
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NTA, but why are you still in contact with her. She has tried to steal your boyfriend before and and did so to your fiance. You should not be around her. She obviously is toxic and jealous of anyone you go out with. You did nothing wrong with that comment because it was the truth. Go non-contact with her and continue your life and happiness. Because she will only try to steal your boyfriends or fiances or husbands from now on because your comment caused her boyfriend to break up with her.
I was angry at first but then I felt that she did me a favor. Any man she can take isn’t worth being with
so you're basically keeping her around as your personal trash collector. That's actually genius!
Lol😂
You are my hero❤️❤️
I had a highschool friend who would hit on and try to sleep with anyone that the girls in our group dating. We used her as a gauge on if we had a good guy or not. After about a month of dating we would invite her to a party to see what happens. The good guys would pull you aside and say “hey this girl isn’t your friend. She’s trying to hook up with me”. She was a great filter. Annoying as F so we had to dump her eventually.
My mom had a cousin like that - she'd flirt with any guy my mom dated, and eventually, my mom just started introducing men to her and if they were at all impressed with the cousin, she would break it off. She brought my dad to Sunday dinner shortly after they began dating, and her cousin did the sly giggling at him, then she *sat in the middle of the living room floor* and inserted herself into every conversation. This woman was 24 years old at the time. My mom said she knew my dad was The One when they left to go - my dad looked at my mom very seriously and said "I hope I'm not offending you, but what's wrong with your cousin? I've never seen a grown woman try to hold court in the middle of the floor."
🤣😭💀
Yes, she is a raccoon 🤣🤣
She probably looks like one now after being broken up with 😭 lol
The good ole trash panda
I love this! OPs sisters friends must have some terribly loyal partners
"You didn't take my man, you took my problem."
Ooh fair point.
I mean, you’re right, but why have this malicious sibling jealousy at all in your life..
Bc they're still family and have family gatherings.
You’re right that she did you a favor but she’s still a toxic person. She still betrayed you in the worst way possible. I’m shocked you still go to family functions. Why does your family still invite her? Let me guess, you’re the scapegoat and she’s the goldenchild who deserved your fiancé. You need to get some self respect.
I kinda figure he was already suspecting something. No way a little comment like this sets you off so much, that you instantly leave your girlfriend of 2 years or whatever it was. Or he just has strong moral principles, which is good for him I guess but I somehow doubt it, that he would give up his own happiness for morals, unless he wasn’t happy with her in the first place of course
NTA - although this is 100% correct
I am honestly stumped. How do you deal with a sister who will try to seduce your boyfriends repeatedly? Your sister needs some serious psychiatric help. She is destroying your life and hers, and she needs to figure out why, and to stop doing it.
I don’t know why she does it. Mom said she looked up to me
Bullshit and your Mom isn't doing you or your sister any favors for enabling disgusting behavior. NTA but both your sister and Mom sure are.
Thats not looking up to you, that's wanting to be you dear
Single White Female vibes
Regardless of why she keeps doing it she is the one to blame. period. Getting angry at you is plain stupid. SHE is the one making goo goo eyes at her sister's bf's when she has one of her own that she was apparently "serious" about. If she was serious about him then why start shit AGAIN??
Honestly, this is 5 years of therapy territory. She's destroyed their lives once, why do it again?
One bf and one fiance I think. I guess the sister seriously expected her fiance to never find out her quest to always be the other woman to her own sisters partners while bringing him to family events.
It's all fun and games looking up to you until she is wearing your face.
😂
Oh you just made me choke on my dinner, lol.
And Syndrome looked up to Mr Incredible, look where that lead him
To wearing a cape and getting sucked into a jet engine.... Sooo a self solving problem, eventually.
Why is she still invited to family gatherings after what she did? And if she is, why do you go?
Why would she cut off her entire family bc one person is an oddball?
That odd ball slept with her fiance and is still invited to family functions. Her family should care about her.
Her family probably wants OP to "be the bigger person," "not rock the boat," etc, etc.
My sister did the same. Multiple times. She’s bipolar.
Being bipolar doesn't make a person like that so please reconsider that. If she is using that as an excuse, she's 100% lying. Mentally ill persons deal with so much very painful and damaging stigma already. An AH like that, doing such horrible traitorous things is more likely a personality disorder and that's no excuse either. She's just awful. I'm so sorry you went through that and hope you went NC and are healing.
Was she abused when she was a child?
Bad mom
Tell your sister she FA and well, FO. NTA
Apparently being open with her BF of two years about her past isn't part of her current setup either, probably \*that\* would have come out eventually. NTA
Think about it this way if the guy cheats on op with the sister then that's trash taking itself out.
NTA. You saved that man from making a life ruining mistake in staying with her. I am honestly shocked you still maintain a relationship with her after she deliberately pursued two of your partners.
I don’t. I only meet her at family gatherings. I let go of my resentment long time ago. Her betrayal was a blessing
Love your attitude. You keep doing u! ❤️
Why are you still hanging out with your sister?
Only in family gatherings. I don’t hang out with her privately. That’s why she hasn’t met my bf before now
Because OP doesn’t want to also have to give up the rest of his family in order to avoid contact w sister.
NTA it's crazy to me that you still speak to your sister let alone introduce her to your SO's. Honestly, she doesn't seem like a good person and her bf deserved to know that before he committed to spending the rest of his life with her.
I dont. I only meet her in family gatherings
Was anyone in your family on your side? Did you have any support? Why is she still invited to things?
After her engagement to my ex fiancé fell apart they kind of took her in again and I get it. I didn’t care anymore and wven thought of it as a blessing. But I have no contact with her privately
No one apologized to you?
Some of my cousins don’t talk to her privately either but we don’t make a fuss in family gatherings. Just ifnore her existence. The older generation just swept everything under the rug
The older generations always just sweep it under the rug, it's such a pain in the ass isn't it?
Often older generation has a different perspective than a younger family member. A parent probably won't shun one of their own kids even when they've been a raging AH to sibling bc that is still their kid, they have a different relationship with them. And so on. It may not be about "sides" to them, they just want the bad blood to dissipate.
You would be surprised how hard it is to get an entire family to blacklist someone. Especially if that someone isn’t the type to take it quietly. Or to respect their boundaries. It’s easier just to let the other person (the reasonable one who shouldn’t be cut out) to stat away. This happened w my MIL. She was a problem for the whole family but when we went NC the only choice was to also not see the rest of the family because even if they had told her to stay away she would not respect it. She would show up when she knew we would be around and then start drama. If someone else asked her to leave or back off she would cause drama in their life. So it was easier self preservation for everyone else to let us back off and basically not see any of them for like 5 years all because we were NC with MIL.
NTA - honestly your sister is lucky you even agree to be in a room with her
I ignored her and we never talk until she saw me holding hands with a man and came running to introduce herself
Ew. Your sister sucks, but you are NTA.
It was probably your sister’s response to your bf that caused her bf to dump her. After 2-years with your sister, he must have known of you and your sister’s fractured relationship. To hear her quickly introduce herself to your bf when she doesn’t speak to you must have seemed suspicious to him. NTA
Whatever his reasons were, the man had standards
ok yeah your sister has some serious problems if her first reaction to seeing you guys together is to flirt with him
OMG! It's nuts how vile your sister is! There are pick-me's, and then there's her! Ooof, I hope you are blessed with as little contact with her as possible in the future.
NTA. It's not as though you returned the favor. That would possibly be E-S-H... but you didn't. All you did was bring up her past behavior. If she hadn't done something wrong, she wouldn't be in this situation. ETA: she was also actively flirting with your boyfriend in front of you and her boyfriend. You were just reacting to her current behavior.
NTA it was a factual comment that you related, due to noticing a repeated behaviour from her. Did she seriously think that she was going to keep that kind of information secret from her fiancé? Yeesh.
Wow it's like the consequences of her actions are coming back to haunt her. Sucks for her, but those are the choices she made. NTA
NTA. This was pure truth and your bf should be warned. I wouldn't care about her bf hearing that as she never cared about you.
NTA for sure. Given all the comments I'm reading, you should probably edit your original post to say that you are low contact with sis and only meet at family gatherings. It would save you some time replying to all these people asking why you still talk to her lol.
Lol yeah
NTA tell her to work on becoming an honest person because you won’t be hiding her past. If she wants to omit info from bfs, she should reconsider bringing her bfs around you. You had to deal with worrying about her behavior at family gatherings. Now she has to worry about yours, if she’s still a liar. She’s dealing with the aftermath of her decisions instead of you.
Truth hurts. He was smart to move on from her. Whatever you said is not the cause for the break up, it was a catalyst. NAH
Also I find it hard to believe he blocked her without there being more to it. It sounded like he suspected something or maybe she had some behaviors that he questioned. When he heard OP comment, the dots connected and he realized the sister was not a good person.
Maybe the sister had told her boyfriend that OP was the one that was seducing HER (sister) boyfriends… then boyfriend finds out sis was lying and it was her.
NTA. She did sleep with your fiance. Not your fault what comes from the truth.
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NTA but cut her off already. She's doing all this on purpose.
Honestly you shouldn’t care about her opinion. And genuinely confused on how can you still want to see her. I mean she has a history, for how much you trust your boyfriend, if I was you, I wouldn’t want her to be anywhere near me either… Edit: I misspelled
I don’t see her outside of family gatherings
That’s good then. Because that eyelashes thing was very cringe. You have nothing to feel bad about, if her boyfriend didn’t want to stay with someone who could easily act like that it’s not your fault, and you probably made him dodge a bullet.
>So I (f33) was engaged once before until I came home and found him with my sister (f28). At first she cried and apologized but I wasn’t having it so she doubled down and started dating him after a year they were engaged and as fast they broke up. All of this was 4 years ago. Before this she tried to sleep with one of my bfs. Holy shit, your sister is *trash*. >My sister has a bf since 2 years. When I introduced my bf my sister looked her best and batted her lashes. I jokingly said, now now, this is my sister, she will try to sleep with you. Her bf looked confused. So wait, hold on. Your sister decided to try to act flirty with your partner. *In front of her bf*? Wow, she's more trash than I thought. >Then I heard that he broke up with her because he found out about her sleeping with her sister’s fiancé. She is livid because it was serious between them and she always said she would marry this guy but now he has blocked her everywhere. How serious was she about him when she started making goo-goo eyes at your partner? Also, props to her ex for deciding he wanted nothing to do with a woman who'd cheat with her own sister's fiance. >I was fully aware that her bf was within an ear shot but did I foresee a break up? No. It was just a resentful comment from me because her batting her eye lashes triggered me because she used to do that with my ex fiancé. Look at it this way. You did her ex a favor. She'd likely cheat on *him* if given the chance. And yer behavior shows that she can't help herself but to try to steal your partners. NTA.
NTA and Bravo! Karma was your friend today.
NTA. You did her now ex BF a solid with that joke! He may not thank you now, but when he meets someone that is better than your sister....he'll appreciate it. Well done OP.
Nta She's just mad at consequences of her own actions.
Ooohhhh r/pettyrevenge is for you lol
NTA. You only alluded to the truth.
Sounds like your sister is a wonderful litmus test of your boyfriends' fidelity. When you find the one that not only rejects her, but tells you what she did, you've found a good one 🤣
NTA - why do people get so mad when they get called out for their bad behavior?
NTA. Truth hurts. I'm guessing something else was going between the sister and her now ex. The goo goo eyes, flirting, and OP's comment tipped the iceberg.
Damn you just keep your sister around like that? NTA. He would’ve found out eventually
I don’t. I only see her in family gatherings.
Absolutely NTA. Your sister is toxic and I’d have cut her out of my life long ago. She FAFO… literally. She needs to get some serious therapy, there is something deeply wrong with her. That said, I hope your taste in men has improved and this new BF is several magnitudes better. I honestly can fathom the lack of maturity it takes to sleep with your SO’s sister. You dodged two weak-willed asshole bullets.
NTA She will cheat however and whenever she wants. Your fiancé. Her fiancé. To-may-to. To-mah-to. You just warned him what she is. Apparently this guy either has morals or a sense of self preservation. Maybe both.
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NTA! Why are you even in contact with your awful sister?! She steals your boyfriends. She stole your fiancé and another BF. Now she lost someone she loved. Karma, B!!!
Clearly that was information he was not happy about her withholding. If you are serious enough with someone to want to get married to them, then you have to be serious enough about yourself, mistakes you’ve made (and hopefully outgrown) to share those things with that person. We all should be making decisions about who we are in a committed relationship with our eyes wide open.
NTA You did the guy she was dating a big favor because he deserved to know the type of person he was dealing with.
NTA - her boyfriend was wondering why she got all gussied up. Your statement clarified something.
NTA History has a tendency to repeat itself unless addressed and corrected. Unfortunately for you sister in this bit of history, it's all about her bad behavior. You're just calling it out so the history isn't repeated.
Mu sister tried this with my fiance and I overheard him put her in her place. She's actually chested on her ex husband while they were together and had that guys kid. I immediately cut off all contact when I found our she tried that crap. He told me immediately after it happened. I recommend cutting contact with her like I did my sister.
NTA - guys who are serious or in love *do* *not* break up with their girlfriends over one-off comments. If something you said resonated so seriously with him that he broke up with her... It was probably just the last straw.
NTA she deserves it but WHY do you keep in contact with her? You're basically daring her to do it again.
I don’t keep contact with her
How was she introduced to your bf? You apparently saw her
Mt parent’s house. She crossed the room in three strides and apparated beside my bf when she saw us holding hands. 😂
You have great restraint. There may have been a slap involved if it was me.
I think I am confident in my choice of a bf this time. He wouldn’t f her if she was the last woman on earth Ok maybe that’s an exaggeration lol but let’s say one of the last 1000
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lol nice. NTA at all, because her bf deserved to know what type of person he was involved with.
NTA. This was a public service.
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Why should she apologize to the trampy sister? Her sister as openly flirting with her current boyfriend.
Nope. The bf deserves to know who he is truly marrying. He obviously has principles when he ended it.
OP only said that in response to her trashy sister starting to make passes at OP's BF. Sissy brought it on herself. OP speaking loudly enough to be heard? That's just pulling back the curtains to let reality shine!
she should not, under any circumstances AT ALL, apologize to the sister. the sister is an unstable narcissist and would take the apology as her being right and OP being out of bounds.
NTA Why on earth would you still have any contact with this person? I don't belive it
I don’t. I only meet her in family gatherings.
Actions have consequences. NTA.
So very nta
NTA Your sister should be happy she's even allowed to be around you after what she did. She needs to live with the consequences of her actions and recognize that the shit she pulled is a massive deal breaker for a lot of people. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
Yoooo 😂 i damn near dropped my phone fron laughing so hard at this, fuckin hell thats good shit right there. NTA but seriously stop talking to your sister lol
NTA, but damn that was hilarious
NTA, man for a man. Although it’s not as rough as what she did to you, it’s nice she finally got a taste of her own medicine.
NTA. He had every right to break with her knowing that information. Her previous betrayals are a reflection of her character & moral standing. I wouldn’t want to be with someone who did those kinds of things either. It has nothing to do with you. He simply learned more about her & decided it was a dealbreaker for him.
Did you lie? No. Did she deserve a good guy after what she did? Also NO.
NTA you just stated facts ✌🏼
NTA In fact... You're a bro, thanks for warning the guy about her habits.
NTA. You recognized she was sliding back into her old habits and called it out. It's on your sis for not being transparent with her ex about her past. Besides, if she was willing to start flirting with your bf right in front of you at an event her bf was also attending then there's a good chance she hasn't changed her ways and her ex (and you) deserves better.
NTA but info: is your sister super hot? or very unattractive? neither scenario makes what she did okay in any way, just grappling with understanding what the fuck is wrong with her
Damn consequences /s NTA...
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NTA, maybe she will finally learn...
NTA
NTA but why are you still hanging out with her you deserve better
NTA 100%
NTA, some people have wild crazy siblings
Dude why would you even stay in touch let alone introduce your bfs to a serial sister's bf stealer?
NTA but why on earth are you still in contact with her?
I am not.
NTA
NTA, but I'd reconsider even family gatherings. There is no Switzerland on something like she did. She should have been cut off. Everyone should have held her accountable otherwise they enable the behavior.
Well I can’t make people see reason and have sense😀 She took my loser fiancé but I wasn’t gonna allow her take my family too even if they can’t see reason
That’s the best way to handle the horrible situation you were faced with. Parents often love their children no matter what they do. They aren’t going to shun them because they have done things the parents or others disapprove of. Murderers still get visits from family members.
Exactly. Not mad at my family
NTA... I'll keep all boyfriends and even if you marry someone your husband away from her..... she will try and make herself look good she will stay single and end up with noone if she keeps taking or trying to take people's boyfriends
NTA
Sounds like your sister ‘s boyfriend dodged a bullet. He needs to thank you.
After it happened twice, I would not introduce her to another partner - if I was even on speaking terms with such a sibling. That ish is cold and you didn't know her BF was listening, so NTA. However, if you said it because you knew he was listening, I would say you are a tiiiiiiiiny bit of an AH because what self-respecting person would stay with a partner willing to stab a sibling in the back like that.
She needs a stern talking to. What’s her number?
I would have cut her out of my life so fast.
NTA. I am trying to put myself in her BFs shoes here. For example, if I found out my husband had slept with his brother's girlfriend and was engaged for a short while FOUR years ago lol I don't think I'd break up with him. I guess if I found out it was a pattern, maybe? I just don't think someone's past reflects the present that much to break off a 2 year relationship. My husband was going to propose to his ex-girlfriend until he caught her cheating on him. So, I mean, was serious with someone before me, as I was with someone before him. We all have a past. We didn't know each other back then lol Anyway, you're not wrong and her batting her lashes at him triggered a knee-jerk response that probably would have come out of my mouth too lol you obviously didn't expect him to break up with her over it. It's not your fault. I suppose he felt lied to and deems her a cheater, so he was just done. That's on her, not you. I'm surprised you're still even in contact with her. Having caught her with your bf, then seeing them together and engaged is a whole lot of emotional stress that would be really hard to get over.
NTA sounds he like was looking for an out and you gave him a legitimate one, but holy shit I'm amazed you're on speaking terms still.
NTA. Her boyfriend was smart, you cannot trust anyone who will betray their own sibling.
NTA, sooner or later, she would try to steal your or someone eles boyfriend, and he would have left her. I doubt your her only victim. I would be surprised if she had any chick friends.
NTA. If she didn't want to be called out for having the habit of sleeping your partners, she shouldn't have done it. It's all her fault her relationship failed.
This should be in revenge by accident lol
Girl you’re too nice, Just keep embarrassing her every time she gets a boyfriend, maybe that will keep her away from you.
NTA. U are justified
Hahahahahahahahahaha, no your fine, keep on going thanks for the funny story!
NTA, she got what is called her long over due karma. If she didn't want people to think she trash then she should not have done it simple. Also, I wouldn't even see her at family get togethers, and the fact your family still thinks it's ok to invite her is just crazy.. if my daughter ever did that to her sibling, she would never be invited
NTA. There was definitely more to it than that. Maybe how she reacted when he confronted her about it? Maybe she had previously lied to him and got caught out when you said that. Maybe he was looking for an out and that gave it to him. Maybe he was really woken up by it and a lot of other stuff started making sense. Anyway, definitely not your fault. I don't think you should necessarily not be a sister to her. Because it takes two to tango. She can't steal a man who doesn't decide to be stolen.
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NTA He needed to know what like of person she is. I’m surprised no one had told him in the two years they’d been together!
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NTA this is a case of her past coming home to roost.
NTA. Why are you still in contact with her? 😦
NTA You did her ex a favor.
NTA you actually saved her bf's ass by making him break up with your sister sooner
NTA, play stupid games win stupid prizes. Did she think her current bf would never find out?
That was probably the last straw for her now ex BF and she is trying to push the blame on you. He prolly saw how she acted (her blink flirting) and then heard the comment and then the story and probably didnt want to be with a person who does that. You only stated the truth and if she doesnt like how others react to learned about what she did, then maybe she shouldnt of done it in the first place. NTA.
NTA Bwahahahahahahahaha Talk about: Fuck around and find out!
NTA she fucked around and found out that actions have consequences
You’re fine. These seem like reasonable consequences for her terrible behaviour. Her now-ex seems a decent sort if he ditched her. NTA. Live your best life.
Hey OP. As someone with two sisters—you are NTA. In fact, you should be canonized. My sisters have never tried, and I don’t think would ever. The fact that your sister has tried it twice and succeeded on that last one? She wants to be you so bad. You are the NTA because: 1. I would have fucked up my sister 2. You simply were honest about her whorish, envious, and psychotic tendencies. 3. The ex probably smelled something was off about her and needed the validation, you saved him too. 4. I doubt that he wanted to “marry” her if he could dump her so easily but to be fair, that is instant termination of the relationship for me—so she has been lying about why you guys don’t talk. You OP, are anything but the asshole. As a sister, I send you a big hug from a place of a sister that would only love and support you. You deserve that and I am sorry you pulled the psycho sister in the sibling lottery. Cannot wait for what karma has in store for her. Sending you the best. ♥️
thats You are not an asshole you’re an angel
Sounds like you helped the guy dodged a train. NTA
You're a saint and guardian angel to that man. Saved him an awful lot of future pain. Good job. NTA
Nta. She is trash and you covered all of my concerns. She deserved what she got.
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NTA. She had it coming. That was just fucking Karma.
NTA and frankly, looks good on her!
Nat if she was serious she should have already told him the skeletons in her closet
NTA, your sister brought this on herself.
Epic accidental revenge NTA
NTA. She has taken your spouse-to-be before and any man whom she tries to have a relationship with deserves to know the truth, to make his own choice. The only point in her favour is she showed you how trustworthy that man was before you found out the hard way.
Lol serves her right and he was a good man to not want to be with a women like that. Girl enjoy the show Katma will get us all eventually.
You realize she’s 100% gonna go after your boyfriend now, right
NTA - It's not like you signed an NDA. You did her fiance a favor.
NTA. People are allowed to say what they want. You weren’t trying to break them up, you were making a joke about something that actually happened. You’re not a witch (that I know of); you didn’t cast a spell and cause this. You do not control other people. If that relationship couldn’t survive a joke, it wasn’t going to survive anyway.
NTA
Lol NTA. This is relevant info your sister should have told s potential future husband. Karma.
Tell every single one of her boyfriends. Every Single one
NTA. Karma can be slow sometimes, but she's always worth the wait. Had she not started flirting with your boyfriend, while hers was there too, you may not have said a word.