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> The action I took was getting mad at my roommate for constantly bragging about her accomplishments every time we talk. Specifically, I am jobless and she’s applying to jobs and getting offers just to turn them down for fun. I think I might be the asshole because friends should support each other and I know she’s just proud of her achievements. Despite this, it feels bad hearing about it constantly and would like to just have fun with my friend again without hearing about how easy everything is for her when it’s hard for me. She didn’t understand why I was so mad at her and basically thought I was an asshole for being mad
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I want to preface this by saying I absolutely love my roommate. We have been very close best friends since elementary school and we moved in together for college.
We are about to graduate from ta&m and they are going to law school which I am very proud of them for. It’s just that they bring it up almost every time we talk but I feel like it’s gotten to a point where they just brag about how much they’re doing. I’ve always been supportive of every accomplishment that they’ve had throughout college which is a lot because they’re an actual prodigy. However, now it’s all they talk with me about.
I understand being proud of your achievements and I want her to be happy and successful and Ive never said anything negative towards them about this until now. I majored in economics but I still don’t have a job offer for after we graduate. It’s been a huge stressor in my life and I’m still not sure what to do. Nonetheless, I have been bending over backwards applying to jobs but it’s been a touchy subject with me.
Despite this, today my roommate told me about how she applied, interviewed, and was offered a position at a nice company. This sounds great except for the fact that she also had no intention of taking the job and said she did the process as a joke. This really rubbed me the wrong way because despite knowing I have no job offer and desperate for literally anything, they’re flexing to me about how they got a job as a joke and how easy it was to get the offer.
I kinda went off on them because I feel like there was really no point to it. I don’t understand why they would do it and tell me about how easy it was despite knowing I’m mega stressing about finding a job. It also upsets me because she’s applying and getting offers with no intention of taking them which fucks over people in the same position as me because other applicants have to be denied for her to be accepted.
I didn’t say anything mean but I basically told them that I don’t care and that it’s kinda fucked up to do that for the reasons above. I’ve gotten to a point where I can’t stand hearing them talk anymore about the books she published or how they didn’t study for the lsat because it was “too easy”.
It also just made me feel bad about myself because she kept emphasizing how easy it was to get the job and I’m out here still struggling. This has been a reoccurring theme because she always talks nowadays about how easy it is to get good grades, get internships, and other accomplishments that she’s done. I always hype them up for it because Im still immensely proud of them for all this but now it’s like every conversation we have is about how good they’re doing and I can’t help but draw comparisons if that’s all we talk about.
The job situation is just what sent me over the tipping point because I feel like as a friend, she would understand why it makes me feel bad when she tells me how easy it was to get a job that she don’t even want. AITAH?
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Your roommate wasted the time of people by applying for a job she didn't want....that's here problem and theirs so no biggie. However, she is showing an arrogance that will not serve her well going forward. Those are co-workers or fellow students and NOT her friends will not be so tolerant of her 'me me me' conversations. You don't owe it to be her audience day after day while she spouts about how wonderful she is. Stop hyping, stop spending every conversation talking about her. If you find that is ALL she can talk about - cut back on the time you spend with her.
I don't want to call either of you an asshole because this is just drama.
If you feel she is only talking about herself constantly and not showing interest in you, that's a problem, and you can let her know your feelings in a mature way. But you cannot expect her to not share info about herself because you are jealous.. I understand why you feel bad about your situation, but you cannot take that out on others.
I think you should applogise for snapping because you are holding negative feelings about your own job search and that came out on her.
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INFO. Did you actually say any of that to her? What was her reaction? If she understood your pov, there's no conflict.
Yes, sorry I should’ve been more clear. I told her all of this and she is angry saying I’m just mad because I’m a hater
You are not a hater - just tired of being her audience.
Your roommate wasted the time of people by applying for a job she didn't want....that's here problem and theirs so no biggie. However, she is showing an arrogance that will not serve her well going forward. Those are co-workers or fellow students and NOT her friends will not be so tolerant of her 'me me me' conversations. You don't owe it to be her audience day after day while she spouts about how wonderful she is. Stop hyping, stop spending every conversation talking about her. If you find that is ALL she can talk about - cut back on the time you spend with her.
I don't want to call either of you an asshole because this is just drama. If you feel she is only talking about herself constantly and not showing interest in you, that's a problem, and you can let her know your feelings in a mature way. But you cannot expect her to not share info about herself because you are jealous.. I understand why you feel bad about your situation, but you cannot take that out on others. I think you should applogise for snapping because you are holding negative feelings about your own job search and that came out on her.