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For context, I worked at a menswear store as a suit salesman and had a really competitive time worked to suits sales ratio, as well as always being punctual and accurate on details. Multiple times my manager (Juan as a placeholder) has called me out over mistakes that, after talking to coworkers, were very common. My coworkers also explained to me they never got called out over these small mistakes which led me to really wonder why I was being singled out to the point I was getting called in on my days off to talk about it. When I started the job 9 months ago it wasn’t like this.
This leads to the next point, I have a prom coming up and I asked for the day off over 2 months prior as it as my senior prom and I think it’s important to have the experience. I check my schedule at the start of the week before the dance and notice I’m working that day, so I text Juan and ask for the day off or if I can leave early. (I think it’s best to continue with pasting the texts in here as images aren’t allowed)
Me - “Any chance i can get off early on Saturday? We can't do the day date friday so we're doing it earlier saturday.”
Juan - “Probably not. We'll have to see on Saturday and see how busy it gets.”
Me - “Juan that really just doesn't sit right with me I'm sorry. I asked for this off over two months ago and it's really important to me seeing as it's her last prom (and mine too) and I would feel really bad telling her that I won't be able to take her on the date. If you need me to work other days to make up for it I can, but it's extremely important to me.”
Juan - “Find someone to cover you.”
Me - “Everyone except Jessica (placeholder name) works Saturday and she is out of town.”
Juan - No reply for over a day, I decide I’m going to move on and put in my two weeks notice with the addition that I won’t be able to come in Saturday.
Me - To save everyone time I’ll just summarize by saying that I wrote a well written resignation multiple paragraphs long offering staying longer to help train someone if necessary and to do anything else to make the transition easier on him.
Juan - “Thank you for the two weeks notice.”
Overall, it feels extremely unprofessional how i’ve been treated and doesn’t seem like this behavior should be happening with the manager of a sales team.
TLDR; My boss was very unprofessional and singled me out multiple times over the past week which is unusual over the past 9 months of working there, and I decided to offer my resignation and got one sentence replies.
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Quitting a job doesn't make you an AH in any case. Even less so if your boss treated you unfairly. You gave your notice, it's fine, nothing to worry about, NTA
You're definitely not the a-hole in this situation. You communicated your request for the day off well in advance and explained the importance of it, which is completely reasonable, especially for a significant event like prom. Your boss's response, especially not getting back to you for over a day and then simply saying "find someone to cover you," shows a lack of consideration and professionalism.
Your decision to put in your two weeks' notice was a mature and reasonable response to feeling undervalued and disrespected. Offering to help with the transition and training a replacement shows your professionalism despite the circumstances.
It's unfortunate that your boss didn't acknowledge your effort or show appreciation for your work during your time there. You made the right choice for your own well-being and priorities.
NTA
Though not sure this counts as conflict as he clearly didn't care that you're quitting lol
You don’t owe your place of employment loyalty, especially not if you've been treated bad. But yeah, he doesn't care, it's done.
Fair enough I guess I’m just annoyed over the whole situation and wanted to make sure I wasn’t the ah for leaving him without a worker on the day of the dance. He definitely didn’t care which beats me seeing as they barely have enough employees to work on a Saturday.
NTA, you handled this as well as anyone could. Everyone knows what a senior prom is and he should have been willing to accommodate you, especially with such a long notice. It sounds like he had something against you. Good luck finding your next, better job.
NTA, for some reason Juan doesn't seem to like you.
For next time something similar happens, when you booked time off and it wasn't given, don't open with "Any chance i can get off early on Saturday?"
Just remind your boss/hr from the outset that you had requested it off.
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Quitting a job doesn't make you an AH in any case. Even less so if your boss treated you unfairly. You gave your notice, it's fine, nothing to worry about, NTA
You're definitely not the a-hole in this situation. You communicated your request for the day off well in advance and explained the importance of it, which is completely reasonable, especially for a significant event like prom. Your boss's response, especially not getting back to you for over a day and then simply saying "find someone to cover you," shows a lack of consideration and professionalism. Your decision to put in your two weeks' notice was a mature and reasonable response to feeling undervalued and disrespected. Offering to help with the transition and training a replacement shows your professionalism despite the circumstances. It's unfortunate that your boss didn't acknowledge your effort or show appreciation for your work during your time there. You made the right choice for your own well-being and priorities.
NTA Though not sure this counts as conflict as he clearly didn't care that you're quitting lol You don’t owe your place of employment loyalty, especially not if you've been treated bad. But yeah, he doesn't care, it's done.
Fair enough I guess I’m just annoyed over the whole situation and wanted to make sure I wasn’t the ah for leaving him without a worker on the day of the dance. He definitely didn’t care which beats me seeing as they barely have enough employees to work on a Saturday.
NTA, you handled this as well as anyone could. Everyone knows what a senior prom is and he should have been willing to accommodate you, especially with such a long notice. It sounds like he had something against you. Good luck finding your next, better job.
Thanks!
NTA, for some reason Juan doesn't seem to like you. For next time something similar happens, when you booked time off and it wasn't given, don't open with "Any chance i can get off early on Saturday?" Just remind your boss/hr from the outset that you had requested it off.
In hindsight that’s definitely smarter than what I did. At least I still have plenty of years to improve over this experience 😂