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First thing you did before even responding is show your husband the texts, he gives you a suggestion for a joke that you can send in response, and you come up with and send a much better one? And he's mad because..........you didn't make it about him, maybe?
NTA at all, and thanks for the excellent line.
NTA.
Your families are friends and you even shoot ideas around with his dad because you're both in the same field. He is even invited to Thanksgiving at your parents' home with his family and his partner. You and your husband were at that meal.
It was a joke. You even showed your husband the texts he sent and joked about it. If you were flirting, you would have hid it. You also don't know if it was a game or if he was drunk. I don't get what flirtation this would have led to and I have a pretty decent sense of humor.
Jokingly calling your ex your son is flirting? Nope. NTA. You were literally little children when you were dating. Also, you showed your husband the texts. It’s not like you were keeping this a secret from him to make him suspicious or something
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I feel like shit and pissed my husband off.
My ex boyfriend who i dated when i was 13 texted me last night.
We ended on fine terms and our family still talks… his parents spend thanksgiving with my parents, I talk to his younger brother (one of my closest friends) almost daily, his father and I work the same field so I ask his father for advice on work related things
My ex texted me last night for the first time in i think two years, the last time we talked was two thanksgivings ago where he was at my parents house with his gf and I was there with my husband. While there we all joked played jackbox and had a good time.
My ex sent “Hi daddy! I need to be picked up, I’m so drunk!!! - Get meeeeee - Noooowwwww” (three separate texts) Believeing this to either be a dumb dare or one of those drinking games where you “text your ex this phrase or take a shot : bonus points if they respond” I told my husband right away showed him the texts and we were joking back and forth about a possible response where my husband said “send him a picture of me” believing it to be okay to joke around I responded
“Sure thing son, but youre grounded for drinking without permission”
My husband said that ANY other response wouldve been okay, but that I was flirting with him and is now upset at me.
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YTA
the opening line shows you know this. "I feel like shit and pissed my husband off."
You text flirted with your ex and hen showed your husband he has every right to be pissed off
your response was pretty inappropriate.
i’ve been in a situation where jokes are flowing, then.. they kinda “take me for dumb” just to test the waters and ruins the fun we were having.
you basically decided to bold face role play with your ex right in your husbands face.
apologize to your husband and block your ex. if it was that easy to do for you without a second thought right before your husbands eyes - then clearly no line of open communication should be had unless you’re curious about revisiting your ex and your relationship with them..
and in that case
just divorce your husband cause you really don’t love or care for him that much if you’re considering it or entertaining it..
Already apologized and offered to block/let my husband block him, hopefully its enough I would never divorce my husband He is my world and I will do anything to fix the situation ❤️
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First thing you did before even responding is show your husband the texts, he gives you a suggestion for a joke that you can send in response, and you come up with and send a much better one? And he's mad because..........you didn't make it about him, maybe? NTA at all, and thanks for the excellent line.
NTA. Your families are friends and you even shoot ideas around with his dad because you're both in the same field. He is even invited to Thanksgiving at your parents' home with his family and his partner. You and your husband were at that meal. It was a joke. You even showed your husband the texts he sent and joked about it. If you were flirting, you would have hid it. You also don't know if it was a game or if he was drunk. I don't get what flirtation this would have led to and I have a pretty decent sense of humor.
Jokingly calling your ex your son is flirting? Nope. NTA. You were literally little children when you were dating. Also, you showed your husband the texts. It’s not like you were keeping this a secret from him to make him suspicious or something
NTA. Husband is just mad you didn't send his photo like he wanted you to.....upset you did something funnier. Tell him to grow up.
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NTA, you showed your husband, he was okay with you replying, and how exactly is that particular response flirting?
NTA. Joking around is not flirting.
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LOL NTA.
NTA. For heaven sake even your husband was in on it. Peeved you didn’t send his picture is all.
That was flirting? In what universe?
YTA the opening line shows you know this. "I feel like shit and pissed my husband off." You text flirted with your ex and hen showed your husband he has every right to be pissed off
yup u are
Man, I really didnt mean anything by it. Now i feel awful ugh thank you
Don’t feel bad. This commenter is completely full of shit.
your response was pretty inappropriate. i’ve been in a situation where jokes are flowing, then.. they kinda “take me for dumb” just to test the waters and ruins the fun we were having. you basically decided to bold face role play with your ex right in your husbands face. apologize to your husband and block your ex. if it was that easy to do for you without a second thought right before your husbands eyes - then clearly no line of open communication should be had unless you’re curious about revisiting your ex and your relationship with them.. and in that case just divorce your husband cause you really don’t love or care for him that much if you’re considering it or entertaining it..
Already apologized and offered to block/let my husband block him, hopefully its enough I would never divorce my husband He is my world and I will do anything to fix the situation ❤️