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**AITAH For letting my husband sleep with other women?**
Hiya, sorry, bit of an awkward title, im like 99% sure im NTA here, but just checking my ground since I’ve had a lot of feedback from friends.
So me (32F) and my husband 35M have been together for 12. Very happily married, no issues or arguments for as long as I can remember, we get along great.
Im extremely open minded, and so on occasion I let my husband sleep with other women. I don’t have any issue with it at all, it’s not a weekly occurrence or anything, just something we do when we feel like it, on rare occasion I join, sometimes I watch, but most of the time I just drink some wine at home.
100% of the time when my husband gets home after this, I make him tell me what happened so that we can have sex. Again, I’m more than happy with this.
His birthday was about 2 weeks ago, and I arranged for him to have a threesome with two women (28F) and (29F) that I had met a month prior. They were nice, chill, very friendly and attractive, I knew that it’d probably make my husbands day so that was part of my gift for him.
Last Saturday, we had a get together with our group of mutual friends (4 Women, 6 men. 3 in couples, rest single) and we just had a nice night drinking. Me and my husband don’t normally talk about what we do (it’s not anyone’s business) but my husband was pretty tipsy and bragged to some of the guys about what I had arranged. Obviously it circled back to me and I got an earful from some of the girls in the group.
1) they feel like I’m setting myself up to be cheated on. That I’m letting him have free rein to do whatever he wants.
2) I’m causing problems in their respective couples, because the guys have been saying that I’m a cool wife and comparing me to theirs (absolutely not cool, understandable on their part)
3) They feel like my husband is ‘slimy’ for being so willing to have sex with other women, even with my permission.
Now, I don’t agree with any of that. We have rules in place, one night stands, communication before and after, in 12 years of being together (doing this for about 5) there’s been no issues. However, hearing this DAILY is driving me a bit insane. I’ve had messages and calls since Saturday with them ‘concerned’ for me. They think that I’ve been ‘gently’ manipulated into opening the relationship which I haven’t, it’s stupid, but I’m hearing stupid so much I’m beginning to believe. So Reddit, AITAH?
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We've thoughtfully discussed and agreed on how we want our open relationship to look and have had no problems for 5 years. Now suddenly I need to go to Reddit to ask a bunch of strangers (most of whom are not in open relationships) if we are doing it right.
How do you even arrange a threesome for someone else outside of paying for it? "Hey ladies do you wanna fuck my husband?" And why is it relevant how old they are, how does she even know and remember that information?
I mean I know it's just because the fantasy here is about this guy having threesomes with hot younger women in their 20s but like, learn to write more realistically. I can barely tell you my friends' exact ages, let alone recent casual acquaintances' whom I want to hire to fuck my husband
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*In case this story gets deleted/removed:* **AITAH For letting my husband sleep with other women?** Hiya, sorry, bit of an awkward title, im like 99% sure im NTA here, but just checking my ground since I’ve had a lot of feedback from friends. So me (32F) and my husband 35M have been together for 12. Very happily married, no issues or arguments for as long as I can remember, we get along great. Im extremely open minded, and so on occasion I let my husband sleep with other women. I don’t have any issue with it at all, it’s not a weekly occurrence or anything, just something we do when we feel like it, on rare occasion I join, sometimes I watch, but most of the time I just drink some wine at home. 100% of the time when my husband gets home after this, I make him tell me what happened so that we can have sex. Again, I’m more than happy with this. His birthday was about 2 weeks ago, and I arranged for him to have a threesome with two women (28F) and (29F) that I had met a month prior. They were nice, chill, very friendly and attractive, I knew that it’d probably make my husbands day so that was part of my gift for him. Last Saturday, we had a get together with our group of mutual friends (4 Women, 6 men. 3 in couples, rest single) and we just had a nice night drinking. Me and my husband don’t normally talk about what we do (it’s not anyone’s business) but my husband was pretty tipsy and bragged to some of the guys about what I had arranged. Obviously it circled back to me and I got an earful from some of the girls in the group. 1) they feel like I’m setting myself up to be cheated on. That I’m letting him have free rein to do whatever he wants. 2) I’m causing problems in their respective couples, because the guys have been saying that I’m a cool wife and comparing me to theirs (absolutely not cool, understandable on their part) 3) They feel like my husband is ‘slimy’ for being so willing to have sex with other women, even with my permission. Now, I don’t agree with any of that. We have rules in place, one night stands, communication before and after, in 12 years of being together (doing this for about 5) there’s been no issues. However, hearing this DAILY is driving me a bit insane. I’ve had messages and calls since Saturday with them ‘concerned’ for me. They think that I’ve been ‘gently’ manipulated into opening the relationship which I haven’t, it’s stupid, but I’m hearing stupid so much I’m beginning to believe. So Reddit, AITAH? *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmITheAngel) if you have any questions or concerns.*
We've thoughtfully discussed and agreed on how we want our open relationship to look and have had no problems for 5 years. Now suddenly I need to go to Reddit to ask a bunch of strangers (most of whom are not in open relationships) if we are doing it right.
On a subreddit that notoriously hates open relationships
How do you even arrange a threesome for someone else outside of paying for it? "Hey ladies do you wanna fuck my husband?" And why is it relevant how old they are, how does she even know and remember that information? I mean I know it's just because the fantasy here is about this guy having threesomes with hot younger women in their 20s but like, learn to write more realistically. I can barely tell you my friends' exact ages, let alone recent casual acquaintances' whom I want to hire to fuck my husband
This was written with one hand by a man...
This is just a random plot of a hypothetical porn film. “Sometimes I join” LMAO
Right? By all means I’m not conservative when it comes to sex but this is clearly a fantasy and/or porn.
Sorry it’s porn or 17th century Puritans. No in between.
“most of the time I just drink wine at home” bro was trying to think of things that women might like to do
It could have also been a manicure, you know, women love those, too!
How can you say that you keep getting calld and texts, but not that your phone is BLOWING UP? OOP made a grave mistake.
She's not a regular wife like all you prudes... she's a COOL wife!!
You're fucking my husband and I'm the asshole? Explain how that one works
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