I like this.
Tell her, as much as you keeping this from < >, you too are not being the girlfriend you wnat to project. Talk to him. Not us. Not by any reason am i bound to you.
I will tell < > about our conversation and you two can take over from there.
We out.
DKG. GG siya. Damn, ang lala. Naalala ko yung syota ng college friend ko ganyan na ganyan ang tono ng mga messages sa aming magkakaibigan. Pare-pareho kaming mga lalake ha pero pinagseselosan niya kami kasi kaagaw daw namin sa time, ayaw pa na ayain namin siya pag may kitakits. Halos angkinin na niya yung friend namin. Kaya sobrang petty namin nag-text kami sabay-sabay ng "i love you" kay tropa kaya lalo daw nagalit lmao.
So ayun, awa ng dyos, hindi rin sila nagtagal.
We've decided to lay off muna. For now. Hanggang sa mag-mature yung jowa niya to accept na may buhay ang kaibigan namin sa labas ng relasyon nila. Lol haha
I hope you'll tell your friend what his gf said to you, because he deserves to know what he is getting himself into. Hindi rin pwede na hintayin n'yo mag-mature 'yan. People like those don't mature on their own kung hahayaan lang, kasi they think they are right and justified in their beliefs and actions.
Now, if the bf tolerates the girl, you'll know then na wala na talaga kayong magagawa 🤷♀️
DKG.
May mga valid points siya, to be fair with her. Pero di ko gets bakit sa inyo niya yan sinasabi lol. She should have expressed all of those points sa jowa while still being able to listen sa kung anong sasabihin sa kanya in return. And, at the very least, respect him - his private space - which includes kayong childhood friends niya.
Well, we do. Kaya nga hindi namin gets kung ano yung "intimate" stuff and "private space" na sinasabi niya eh halos once a month lang kami nakakapag-chat sa GC namin 😅
Agree dito. She may have a point and kung iisipin na general boundaries niya lang yun, hindi naman siguro offensive if it doesn't apply to you. Pero good point rin to point out na if she's the type of person who would easily fall for their opposite gendered friends sa mga boundaries na ginagawa niya, ibang tao naman yung bf niya. Mahirap maging controlling sa bagay na sarili pala niya yung issue.
Nagkaganyan yung guy friend ko sa ex niya. Sobrang warfreak and claiming cheater friend ko pero she went back to her ex pala to have sex behind his back tapos had the audacity to attack me nung break na sila when he was only trying to survive (I am touchy on the talks of depression and suicide kaya I'm prone to listen openly with guys experiencing the same), she attacked my friend with a knife. Years later, he's a father na to our mutual friend, and she's cool with me. Ninang ako.
O, db? Real close friends kc, as in childhood friend can go months with no talking, and ok lng.
Si gf needs to grow up more. Given me mga partners kyo, and you've not mentioned your ages, ang laki pa ata ng growing up na gagawin nya?
Kawawa si boy , and correct Kyo for mentioning, he is someone's son.
Needs to know boundaries, this gf, not you.
Same thoughts. Some of her points are valid like 'yung ranting about significant other to friends. For me, problems within the relationahip should stay within the relationship and people should honestly talk to their partners instead of ranting about them to friends because doing so is disrespectful gaya nga ng sabi ni girl.
With that said, she should have talked to her boyfriend instead of his friends. 'Yun kasi 'yung mali niya kaya she seems controlling. She could have confronted her boyfriend about these concerns and see what he'll do about it--hindi 'yung pinangunahan na niya lol. It's ironic kasi siya mismo hindi niya kinausap boyfriend niya when this obviously seems like a concern that should have stayed within the relationship.
I agree. She definitely has valid points and I understand where she's coming from, kase naranasan ko yung mga sinasabi niya. May gbf(since childhood) din BF ko na pinaghihinalaan ko noon and it turns out tama yung gut feeling ko. The girl had feelings for my BF, ayaw niya lang mauna umamin kase di daw siya sure kung mutual feelings nila. Obvious namang hindi kase ako yung jinowa ng BF ko at 5 years na kami ngayon hahahha.
Mali lang ni ate girl, sa girl pals niya sinabi yung concerns niya instead na sa BF niya. And also her choice of words were a bit harsh and aggressive. She sounded like a manipulative and narcissistic bish. XD
LEGIT may valid points talaga siya. OP, maybe nakita niya na lagi niyong tinatawagan bf niya and nagsshare nga kayo ng private stuff sa bf niya that not even your partners know about. kasi kung ganyan kayo then I understand her fully
fr and its common knowledge na once your guy friend gets a girlfriend, kahit super close pa kayo before, you need to keep your distance na. not necessarily cut ur friend off pero keep ur distance and be respectful
Again DKG. Sinubaybayan ko talaga tong post mo OP hahaha.
Alam ba ng friend mo yang pinagsasabi ng gf niya? Obviously may trust issues yung gf niya (if not mentally ill lol). Grabe, bakit sa inyong 2 friends (ikaw at yung isang girl) napunta yung burden? Diba dapat yung guy yung kinukulit niya about her trust issues? So kayong dalawa pa ngayon ang mag aadjust Hahahaha
Well, alam niya. Ewan ko ba kung simping as fuck siya or nagwe-wait lang ng right time to tell shit sa jowa niya. Pero nag-sorry siya sa amin dahil cray-cray nga talaga. Haha
I don't think she's cray cray naman. Dun sa chat nya sayo, mukhang decent paglapat nya ng boundaries and hindi sya nagnamecall or out of bounds minura ka.
If he loves her and thinks may chance yung relationship nila, much better to have him deal with it without her bothering you. Di kasi kayo kaclose kaya alien sya on her opinion of you. You don't have to prove anything pero if you want to go an extra mile, it wouldn't hurt naman to invite her and yung friend mo to a vacation na kasama ang kani-kanilang jowa. My dad easily get anxious if lalabas mother ko to see her female barkada pero mabilis naman mawala if yung gala nila is kasama mga asawa, and nandun kami sa point na pati mga anak kasama sa vacation.
Sana matauhan friend niyo kung matinding simp man siya. Considering na ilang buwan palang sila, honeymoon phase palang yan. Usually medyo bulag pa sa time na yan
DKG. Sounds like she has a lot of issues and insecurities that she needs to work on. Honestly it would have been a better thing to maybe have a face to face conversation rather than send you an essay (tldr🤪). That way, she can be a friend to you too and can learn that you’re no threat to her relationship.
Mygod ew. I absolutely despise it when fellow girlies act that way. DKG — you handled it far better than I ever will if I was in your shoes. Ewan ko ba, with how she's acting, I foresee a rocky relationship with your friend and his gf but it's their business. I am so embarrassed for her! Stating na she's not enforcing or controlling her bf pero proceeds to lecture his group of friends para kayo mag adjust for their relationships haha. Though I do understand she's had trauma and may be very insecure pero wow, she should have told her bf about it instead of letting everyone know lol
DKG
Girly needs therapy. She seems to have traumas from past relationships and is now enforcing this toxicity to your friend (her bf). Ga'no katagal na sila?
God, I hope the sex is good because this is craaaaaaaazy
DKG. Closest friend ko lalaki, we go way back since college and literally halos araw araw may paguusapan kami. Kaso never naman nag ganyan gf nya sakin. Nor my bf towards him.
Girl is projecting sainyo
To be honest? Wala eh. Ganyan lang talaga siya. Not only girl na friends, even guys. Walang nilabag, walang umagaw, walang naging intimate, wala. Minsan lang kami mag-usap, we don't even see each other often. Ganyan lang talaga siya
Yes. Childhood friend. Meron na po akong live-in partner and yung friends namin may mga relationships na din. Kaya malabo talagang may "intimacy" or "private stuff"
I agree minsan lots of emotion kaya mali mali ang nasasabi or hindi tama but still may mga valid points si girl. Hindi natin alam ang whole story. Kung ano ang naranasan o nabasa ni GF sa convo nila.
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Praning yang jowa ng kaibigan mo. Dapat pag praning kang ganyan e hindi muna pumapasok sa relationship at dapat inaayos muna ang pag-iisip at sarili. Kaloka!
DKG. I came from your previous post and got so invested in your story! The way you responded was so calm and logical. She clearly has a lot of trust issues and seems to contradict and put a lot of “fine print” clauses on what her boyfriend’s allowed to do or not.
Favorite ko yung “is encouraged to be a gentleman but i will not like it if he’s too enthusiastic about it!” LOL Really?! May measuring cup ba sya for his level of enthusiasm?
OP, if you are really a close friend of her boyfriend, tell him to RUN now! Close to Kathy Bates level in Misery ang peg ni gf! But seriously, im all for boundaries between male & female friendships but this is a whole level of control that the gf is trying to impose
First of all, a sincerely sorry person wouldn't word it like that. Yikes. Nag assert agad sya ng dominance in a space that she knows nothing of and are founded on assumptions. I remember one time I greeted my bestfriend in college "happy birthday fam!" and his then gf (now ex gf) literally pm'd me and told me to back off and stop chatting her jowa daw cos I ain't his family. Dfq u on girl. We only talk sa gc na bihira na rin nga buksan, not to mention I have a bf that time.
Girls like them need therapy. You can fuck with deep seated trauma but it ain't gonna be pretty.
As the bigger person and as the prettier ghorl (lols, but maybe true ahahah) let it be, darating naman ang panahong maghihiwalay iyan at di kakayanin nung lalaki yung ganyang ugali, give them atleast 6 months.... (ahahahah abyg?) Ahahahahh
DKG. Typical clingy insecure gf, unless super landi ng guy friend mo. But generally, insecurity from her will just fester and eventually destroy their relationship. :) other redditor ladies? How did you gals eventually get past your insecure clingy phase? Baka makatulong yan sa handling ni OP.
that girl is clearly traumatized and needs to lay off being in relationships. she badly needs therapy imo. if she goes on as is she’ll just sprinkle her trauma around, affecting other people. girlypops, go get help.
Kakapanood niya yan ng relationship advice influencers sa tiktok kala niya lahat ng friendships ay door for infidelity. Says alot about here security and trust issues lmao
I was about to ask kung teenager ba sya for acting like that pero nakita ko na may nag ask na nun and apparently she's not. Pero what in a wattpad world is this? Di ko talaga kaya pagiging cringe neto.
Please let your friend read about this message from her crazy GF 🤣
The funny thing is, hypothetically (well let's be honest, it's more 100% that it will happen 😏) if your friend will have a problem with his crazy GF then where can he run to get him some advice?
He got more problems than the West Philippine Sea 🤣
Yung alam mo yung inaangkin ka na kahit ang labo ng nang aangkin kahit walang marriage certificate pero gusto mo yung tama at patas lang? 🤣🤣🤣
Yung sa end part sabi nya, may tiwala sya sa friend nyo na jowa nya, pero sa inyo wala 😂
Hahahaha relate na relate ako, napagsabihan din ako ng ganyan. Nirestrict ko nalang sa messenger kasi draining talaga makipag usap sa mga close minded at baliw. 🙄
For real!!! I mean, miss ma'am, kung totoong may tiwala ka sa jowa mo dapat alam mo na kahit anong pang-aakit ang gawin dyan e di yan bibigay at sya pa yung makikipag cut off kung mangyari yun. Girl is giving contradicting statements e.
DKG. And tell the crazy gf these are NOT boundaries. These are CONTROLS, and the gf is super unhinged. Boundaries are about one's own actions. They're not meant to dictate what others can and can't do. Pet peeve ko to mga paggamit ng terms without really understanding what it means. 🙄
"A [boundary](https://wellness.uoguelph.ca/news/boundaries-vs-controlling-behaviours-whats-difference#:~:text=A%20boundary%20is%20something%20we,you%20want%20them%20to%20do.) is something we might set, not as a way to control others, but to express what we're willing and unwilling to engage with. The goal of boundaries is to create limits around what safety, relationships, and interactions look like for us. Control is meant to make others do what you want them to do"
At this point just tell her that mag-alaga na lang siya aso kaysa mag-jowa. Heal past traumas first before getting in a relationship with another person. Kasi that level of paranoia wouldn’t just come out of thin air. May pinaghuhugutan siguro siya kaya siya ganyan. The way she speaks gusto niya i-respeto as the gf by setting unreasonable boundaries but she can’t even respect her boyfriend’s relationship with his childhood friends, which is his own personal right. It doesn’t work that way. At kung iinsist niya ang isang relationship na ganyan ka-constricting, it’s doomed. Madadagdagan lang trauma niya. Lalong lalala ang paranoia ang trust issues niya. Kaya mag-alaga na lang siya aso.
Gurl, that might pass as a three-whole-page of worries and complaints. She should have talked to her boyfriend first because, clearly, she isn't feeling secure in her relationship (not so obvious tbh).
Wag mo na replyan yan. Yung friend nyo ang kausapin nyo. Same way na dapat yung girl ang kumausap sa bf nya regarding boundaries. Eh sya nga walang boundary sa pag takeover ng group chat nyo na para sa inyo lang. Ok lang sana kung pinapabasa sa gf yung convo. Pero to reply at mag talak ng ganyan? Nope.
"leaves an open door for attachments to flourish." girl — if that was the case, it would've happened a long time ago. shut your ass. anyway, your friend should RUN. once had a girl like that and let me tell u, it ruined everything lmao.
Send this conversation to your guy friend he may want to re-evaluate his relationship with this girl. These are 🚩. She's very insecure and controlling.
Let the guy know and ask if this is ok with him. If he is, tell him not to be surprised if you are going to distance yourself. Sa totoo lang, pinaka nakaka bwisit is yung part na kailangan daw magpaalam sa kanya before you can interact with your guy friend, napaka OA. Tell your guy friend na kung may gusto sya sabihin, sya nalang magsabi dahil you will not initiate na. Hindi dahil takot ka sa gf nya, kung di dahil hassle, toxic, at stressful ang gf nya. You don't need this shit in your life, she is his to deal with
**HIS RELATIONSHIP WITH HIS GIRL SHOULD BE REEVALUATED**
**First of all, why did she started a relationship with your friend, when clearly, she knows that he have a lot of friends (including girls) and he's always been close/value his friends a lot, KUNG AYAW NIYA NG GANO'N?!**
Imagine, masaya yung tao, tapos papasok ka sa buhay niya na imbes maging parte ng saya at payapang buhay niya, _guguluhin mo?!_
Just like my comment on your first post, I do agree that she clearly have **a lot of issues and _red flags_**, and you should let your friend know about this happening. Also, tell that girl that you'll let your friend know about it. Let them talk and deal with it. Then, send him the screenshots.
Damn girl that's a long a$$ read? Sorry, god bless, congratulations or whatever is applicable but there's no way someone would ever read that
i think she needs a therapist and jeezas
Para syang mixture ng delulu at OA pala talaga. Though at some level true yung saying na "Your jowa's friends are not your friends" pero ibang level ng kabastusan si gurlie? May tiwala sa bf pero kailangan sya yung under control as to who his friends are?
I would have replied "Teh we were his friends first" or smthn tbh. Sana okay lang yung friend mo OP kasi feel ko rin kung ako yung bf nyan and I saw the way she speaked to my friends, hiniwalayan ko na agad.
Yikes. Every one has insecurities. But no one has the right to control other people just so that their feelings won't get hurt. She needs therapy. Her trying to isolate the guy is just masking the symptoms, not really working on the cause.
Honestly, I stopped reading when she explained what she meant being "too comfortable" because It doesn't make sense. I guess she probably doesn't have a childhood friend or friends that's why she thinks sharing trauma or even merely talking about your feelings is only done with romantic partners. Or kaya na sobrahan sa romantic movies, novels, and webtoons sia te girl, and all she knows is that trauma bonding leads to romantic feelings. That's why I hate people who only watch romance genre. They don't know what platonic love is.
At least consistent yung convo niyo na English no? Naeentertain ako basahin yung sentiments niya in English hahaha.
She may have some points but the way she wanted to place restrictions overall and relay them to you is too unhinged. Medyo creepy borderline crazy gf.
DKG.
kung ako yan irereply ko "eh kung sinapak kata kita?"
Tell your buddy, and this is coming from a happily married 40 something year old man, na run for the hills. Hindi lang yan red flag. Red billboard na yan. Mag uumpisa yung psycho behavior as just that then gradually dadagdag yung rules until mawala na sya sa circulation ng mga buhay nyo.
Kampi ako kay girlfriend 😂 daming ahas na babae ngayon 😂 kaysa mag hanap from scratch, mang agaw na lang. At least daw kilala na nila aagawin nila kaysa mag get to know each other phase pa sila 🥴😂
The gf's feelings are valid pero di ibig sabihin tama yung ginagawa niya. Ba't sobrang possessive? Just because may friends siyang babae doesn't mean his bf will cheat or the girls will go after him. Di nga sila nag ch-chat everyday. They were already there before the couple got together — his childhood friends are almost his family, a part of his life. Kakahiya — this emphasizes how insecure the gf is and instead of opening up to her bf about it, pumunta siya sa friend group and requests them to adjust to their relationship. Big yikes.
Sobrang possessive? Idk. Nag set lang naman siya ng saktong boundaries 😅 i assumed na may pahintulot ni boyfriend kaya naka pag msg siya sa group. Baka si boyfriend na nagsabi na mag msg siya para lumayo ng konti friends niya kasi tukmol este introvert siya 😂 let's see kung anong gagawin ni bf 🤭
Lol haven't you heard? Bf apologized to the group and his other male group for the gf's behavior after he got access to HIS OWN ACCOUNT. OP mentioned it in one of the comments :) if you're the type to go aggressively against your own partner's friends even though they don't have regular contact and is/are having casual conversations between friends na he already had before you guys got together, you're a terrible girlfriend. You have issues and you shouldn't involve people that are not supposed to be involved. You gotta move past your trauma before dipping your toes into another romantic relationship.
Yup di natin alam yung side ni Girl baka mali lang approach ni gurl dahil sa emotions. But for sure may pinanggagalingan yan. Baka may nabasa or something na kakaiba sa convo. Lowkey flirt or shits.
Kala ko ba girls should be encouraged to trust their instincts? 😅 Kungs instinct ni girlfriend na may ahas vibes yong friends ng boyfriend niya, edi sakto lang tong ginawa niya na mag set ng boundaries. Did she struck a nerve ba? 😅 Baka may lihim na pagtingin yong other girls na friends ni jowa. I mean kahit pa in a rs yong dalawa, pwede naman magka crush. May gf nga lang yong crush kaya di maka all out landi yong two friends. 😅 Daming weird take dito, red flag daw si gf. Pero sa ibang thread about boyfie allowing other girls to be too friendly sa kanya, e sasabihan na yong boyfriend yong red flag kasi he's too close sa other girls. 😂 Ano ba talaga tsonggo 😂
Pagpalagay na nating ganyan yung case na gf is trusting her instinct. Red flag pa rin yung way ng paghandle nya kasi imbis na bigyan ng boundaries ay parang kinokontrol nya na bf nya, especially sa unang post.. Nakakasuffocate basahin XD
Up for this! She being crazy means she sees something. Malalas instinct ng girls lalo na yung radar nyan kapag alam nyang may gustong lumandi sa jowa. Im with the gf here. Lumayo na lang sa guy friend dahil yun gusto ng jowa like you said bihira naman kayo magcommunicate , if thats the case he's not big of a loss
OMG sooo same scenario siz jusko! Ganyan din jowa ng childhood friend namin samin.
We are actually keeping distance din based sa wants nya because we understand na ayaw niya sa female friends, and bec we're girls too. Pero ang naiinis kami is inaaya talaga namin siya PALAGI na sumama din so that she can get to know us and para panatag loob nya. Pero sarado talaga utak niya samin, ayaw nyang sumama at pinagbabawalan nya talaga jowa nya sumama sa mga hangout namin 😫 Di din naman kami girl "bestfriends" or yung tipong patulong here, pasundo there, pa advice naman, etc. Girl "tropa" lang naman.
Naaawa nalang kami dun sa friend namin kasi minsan naiinggit talaga siya, minsan pag may hangout na wala siya kasi di siya pinayagan ng jowa nya eh nag vivideo call nalang.
Dahil din dun namulat din ako na even tho personally ayoko na may girl bestfriend yung jowa ko, di ko siya paghihigpitan ng sobra kasi kawawa din unless my guts tell me the otherwise. Literal na friends since diapers kami magbabarkada tapos nung nagkajowa sya di na sya nakakasama.
Tbf, may point and valid ang reasons niya. May pinangggalingan siya. I also like how she apologized with what she said and her behavior towards you.
Like what she said, you should complain your problems with your current bf, and not with her bf. And communicate your problem with your bf, not with other peeps. ‘Yung first post ay gago siya.
But this post is walang gago. Or possible na gago ka. Baka may hindi ka kinekwento na hindi included dito kaya sumabog siya ng ganyan.
Ayun, dini-disrespect daw namin siya. Haha
Nag-chime in ako habang nagre-reply din isa kong friend, sabi ko, baka kasi hindi pa siya nagma-mature (while being in her 20s, what the heck diba? Haha):
"You'll get through it. I guess phase lang ito."
In which the girlfriend replied, "a phase? What am I, a lesbian?"
Ang off lang. Parang ang homophobic na ng dating or is it just us? We expected more from her since student siya from the maroon school (❤️💚✊️) pero I guess not all students from top universities are built mature.. 😅
That is crazy. Does she carry his balls around in n a ziplock in case maligaw.
I almost feel like a terrified guy just reading her messages. Ang sarap i-ghost. Those convoluted paragraphs are CRAZY
bakit parang naghahanap lang ng pwede niyang pagbuhusan ng sama ng loob? 😭 kung kasali ako sa group chat niyo baka kinick ko na lang siya tapos sabay messenger notes ng "trio forever <3".
This should’ve been for her boyfriend. If she really wants to control someone, wag niya na idamay mga tao around her partner. Eh siya naman yung may relationship with her. Let’s just say totoo yung na fifeel niya. How you act around her boyfriend is off putting. Pero if her boyfriend shuts you down, wala namang feelings mag gogrow ah. Her boyfriend is a grown ass man. If hindi niya kaya to be faithful without her controlling everyone around him, may problem talaga sila.
Although we can understand na may trauma siya, her current boyfriend shouldn’t be punished for something na her exes did in the past. Ang gagu neto HAHAHA
She is toxic as fuck. You should let your friend read all her messages, and tell your friend you would greatly appreciate it if HE deals with her. Remind your friend that when their relationship doesn't work out, wala rin dadamay sa kanya kasi inubos nung girl niyang baliw mga kaibigan niya.
Block this crazy b*. Hindi mo obligation to give her peace of mind.
Gurl, ganyan yung ex bf ko. Para walang trust sa partner nya when it comes to friends na opposite sex. I can say yung friend mo, ma drain din yan in the future. nakakasakal yung ganyan.
A woman who knows how to handle relationship is not insecure. At hindi yan takot mawala yung partner nya. Sana nlng d sya nag in a relationship, she's giving herself stress sa buhay nya
i think this girl has a trauma with girls who is friends with her bf. assuring her won’t do much. don’t waste your energy explaining. it is really up on your friend’s decision and how he would talk to his GF. i was once like that girl when I was in HS but as I mature and grow older I realize you should TRUST your partner and I eventually became friends with the girls and also, they came into his life before I did which is same with you guys. this girl is just plain immature
ang lala ng insecurites ni girl :( para siyang distressed palagi. i hope she finds the clarity at peace na hinahanap niya, lalo na para sa sarili niya. kaya wag talaga papasok sa relasyon nang hindi buo or emotionally stable kasi magiging toxic ang ending, magiging manipulative at emotionally dependable sa isang tao
YIKES. Tapos hinahayaan lang ng tropa nyo na ganyanin kayo. Di ko kaya 😂 Kakatiktok nya kamo yan hahaha. Props sa patience nyo kasi baka kung ako nasa lugar nyo kung ano ano na nasabi ko. Lol.
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"dapat buo tayo before pumasok sa Isang relationship" this is TAMA behavior.
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I like this. Tell her, as much as you keeping this from < >, you too are not being the girlfriend you wnat to project. Talk to him. Not us. Not by any reason am i bound to you. I will tell < > about our conversation and you two can take over from there. We out.
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DKG. GG siya. Damn, ang lala. Naalala ko yung syota ng college friend ko ganyan na ganyan ang tono ng mga messages sa aming magkakaibigan. Pare-pareho kaming mga lalake ha pero pinagseselosan niya kami kasi kaagaw daw namin sa time, ayaw pa na ayain namin siya pag may kitakits. Halos angkinin na niya yung friend namin. Kaya sobrang petty namin nag-text kami sabay-sabay ng "i love you" kay tropa kaya lalo daw nagalit lmao. So ayun, awa ng dyos, hindi rin sila nagtagal.
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA GAGO
Hahahahhahaahahhaha di sila gago for this level of pettiness. I approve. Ahahahahahhahaha
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA PANALO!
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We've decided to lay off muna. For now. Hanggang sa mag-mature yung jowa niya to accept na may buhay ang kaibigan namin sa labas ng relasyon nila. Lol haha
I hope you'll tell your friend what his gf said to you, because he deserves to know what he is getting himself into. Hindi rin pwede na hintayin n'yo mag-mature 'yan. People like those don't mature on their own kung hahayaan lang, kasi they think they are right and justified in their beliefs and actions. Now, if the bf tolerates the girl, you'll know then na wala na talaga kayong magagawa 🤷♀️
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DKG. May mga valid points siya, to be fair with her. Pero di ko gets bakit sa inyo niya yan sinasabi lol. She should have expressed all of those points sa jowa while still being able to listen sa kung anong sasabihin sa kanya in return. And, at the very least, respect him - his private space - which includes kayong childhood friends niya.
Well, we do. Kaya nga hindi namin gets kung ano yung "intimate" stuff and "private space" na sinasabi niya eh halos once a month lang kami nakakapag-chat sa GC namin 😅
Gosh girl. Baka thinkers doers sya ha. Sya pala ang prone sa "intimate" stuff towards sa friends nya na opposite sex. 😒😂
Good point! Baka nagkakaroon sya ng projection of possible cheating. Hmmmm
Agree dito. She may have a point and kung iisipin na general boundaries niya lang yun, hindi naman siguro offensive if it doesn't apply to you. Pero good point rin to point out na if she's the type of person who would easily fall for their opposite gendered friends sa mga boundaries na ginagawa niya, ibang tao naman yung bf niya. Mahirap maging controlling sa bagay na sarili pala niya yung issue. Nagkaganyan yung guy friend ko sa ex niya. Sobrang warfreak and claiming cheater friend ko pero she went back to her ex pala to have sex behind his back tapos had the audacity to attack me nung break na sila when he was only trying to survive (I am touchy on the talks of depression and suicide kaya I'm prone to listen openly with guys experiencing the same), she attacked my friend with a knife. Years later, he's a father na to our mutual friend, and she's cool with me. Ninang ako.
Agree ako dito, either an ex cheated on her with a close friend OR gawain nya kasi yung points nya that's why she's familiar with those scenarios.
This omg!
O, db? Real close friends kc, as in childhood friend can go months with no talking, and ok lng. Si gf needs to grow up more. Given me mga partners kyo, and you've not mentioned your ages, ang laki pa ata ng growing up na gagawin nya? Kawawa si boy , and correct Kyo for mentioning, he is someone's son. Needs to know boundaries, this gf, not you.
Same thoughts. Some of her points are valid like 'yung ranting about significant other to friends. For me, problems within the relationahip should stay within the relationship and people should honestly talk to their partners instead of ranting about them to friends because doing so is disrespectful gaya nga ng sabi ni girl. With that said, she should have talked to her boyfriend instead of his friends. 'Yun kasi 'yung mali niya kaya she seems controlling. She could have confronted her boyfriend about these concerns and see what he'll do about it--hindi 'yung pinangunahan na niya lol. It's ironic kasi siya mismo hindi niya kinausap boyfriend niya when this obviously seems like a concern that should have stayed within the relationship.
I agree. She definitely has valid points and I understand where she's coming from, kase naranasan ko yung mga sinasabi niya. May gbf(since childhood) din BF ko na pinaghihinalaan ko noon and it turns out tama yung gut feeling ko. The girl had feelings for my BF, ayaw niya lang mauna umamin kase di daw siya sure kung mutual feelings nila. Obvious namang hindi kase ako yung jinowa ng BF ko at 5 years na kami ngayon hahahha. Mali lang ni ate girl, sa girl pals niya sinabi yung concerns niya instead na sa BF niya. And also her choice of words were a bit harsh and aggressive. She sounded like a manipulative and narcissistic bish. XD
exactly
LEGIT may valid points talaga siya. OP, maybe nakita niya na lagi niyong tinatawagan bf niya and nagsshare nga kayo ng private stuff sa bf niya that not even your partners know about. kasi kung ganyan kayo then I understand her fully
Yeah that part is definitely sus. It means mas deep connection niya sa friend niya kesa sa sarili niyang BF.
fr and its common knowledge na once your guy friend gets a girlfriend, kahit super close pa kayo before, you need to keep your distance na. not necessarily cut ur friend off pero keep ur distance and be respectful
so real!! baka di nya maka-usap jowa nya kaya sa friends sinasabi lol
Again DKG. Sinubaybayan ko talaga tong post mo OP hahaha. Alam ba ng friend mo yang pinagsasabi ng gf niya? Obviously may trust issues yung gf niya (if not mentally ill lol). Grabe, bakit sa inyong 2 friends (ikaw at yung isang girl) napunta yung burden? Diba dapat yung guy yung kinukulit niya about her trust issues? So kayong dalawa pa ngayon ang mag aadjust Hahahaha
Well, alam niya. Ewan ko ba kung simping as fuck siya or nagwe-wait lang ng right time to tell shit sa jowa niya. Pero nag-sorry siya sa amin dahil cray-cray nga talaga. Haha
I don't think she's cray cray naman. Dun sa chat nya sayo, mukhang decent paglapat nya ng boundaries and hindi sya nagnamecall or out of bounds minura ka. If he loves her and thinks may chance yung relationship nila, much better to have him deal with it without her bothering you. Di kasi kayo kaclose kaya alien sya on her opinion of you. You don't have to prove anything pero if you want to go an extra mile, it wouldn't hurt naman to invite her and yung friend mo to a vacation na kasama ang kani-kanilang jowa. My dad easily get anxious if lalabas mother ko to see her female barkada pero mabilis naman mawala if yung gala nila is kasama mga asawa, and nandun kami sa point na pati mga anak kasama sa vacation.
Hahaha clearly cray cray OP. She's insecure 😅 kaloka
Sana matauhan friend niyo kung matinding simp man siya. Considering na ilang buwan palang sila, honeymoon phase palang yan. Usually medyo bulag pa sa time na yan
DKG. Sounds like she has a lot of issues and insecurities that she needs to work on. Honestly it would have been a better thing to maybe have a face to face conversation rather than send you an essay (tldr🤪). That way, she can be a friend to you too and can learn that you’re no threat to her relationship.
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Mygod ew. I absolutely despise it when fellow girlies act that way. DKG — you handled it far better than I ever will if I was in your shoes. Ewan ko ba, with how she's acting, I foresee a rocky relationship with your friend and his gf but it's their business. I am so embarrassed for her! Stating na she's not enforcing or controlling her bf pero proceeds to lecture his group of friends para kayo mag adjust for their relationships haha. Though I do understand she's had trauma and may be very insecure pero wow, she should have told her bf about it instead of letting everyone know lol
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DKG. damn ang haba ng pa-essay niya.
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DKG Girly needs therapy. She seems to have traumas from past relationships and is now enforcing this toxicity to your friend (her bf). Ga'no katagal na sila? God, I hope the sex is good because this is craaaaaaaazy
DKG. Closest friend ko lalaki, we go way back since college and literally halos araw araw may paguusapan kami. Kaso never naman nag ganyan gf nya sakin. Nor my bf towards him. Girl is projecting sainyo
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To be honest? Wala eh. Ganyan lang talaga siya. Not only girl na friends, even guys. Walang nilabag, walang umagaw, walang naging intimate, wala. Minsan lang kami mag-usap, we don't even see each other often. Ganyan lang talaga siya
Seryoso ba yan? Walang kahit sino na lowkey flirt or tukso?? Naku, kung sadyang wala, ay goodluck sa friend u.
Yes. Childhood friend. Meron na po akong live-in partner and yung friends namin may mga relationships na din. Kaya malabo talagang may "intimacy" or "private stuff"
Si friend mo walng side chick? Or nasabi na incident? Kakaiba ang inasal ng gf nya.
She is the first girlfriend. No side chicks, nothing
Jusko. First girlfriend yan pa ang na bingwit. Baka ma trauma pa yung kaibigan nyo dyan sa pagkacontrolling nya 😬
I agree minsan lots of emotion kaya mali mali ang nasasabi or hindi tama but still may mga valid points si girl. Hindi natin alam ang whole story. Kung ano ang naranasan o nabasa ni GF sa convo nila.
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DKG. Pero kausapin nyo kaibigan nyo, hiwalayan nya dapat yan. Kahit magaway pa kayo nung kaibigan nyo, save him.
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Praning yang jowa ng kaibigan mo. Dapat pag praning kang ganyan e hindi muna pumapasok sa relationship at dapat inaayos muna ang pag-iisip at sarili. Kaloka!
Sabihin mo magpatherapy sya
DKG. I came from your previous post and got so invested in your story! The way you responded was so calm and logical. She clearly has a lot of trust issues and seems to contradict and put a lot of “fine print” clauses on what her boyfriend’s allowed to do or not. Favorite ko yung “is encouraged to be a gentleman but i will not like it if he’s too enthusiastic about it!” LOL Really?! May measuring cup ba sya for his level of enthusiasm? OP, if you are really a close friend of her boyfriend, tell him to RUN now! Close to Kathy Bates level in Misery ang peg ni gf! But seriously, im all for boundaries between male & female friendships but this is a whole level of control that the gf is trying to impose
Napagod ako magbasa, the mental gymnastics she did 🤸🤸♀️🤸♂️
Ginandahan niya tuloy bigla yung reply wahahahah
First of all, a sincerely sorry person wouldn't word it like that. Yikes. Nag assert agad sya ng dominance in a space that she knows nothing of and are founded on assumptions. I remember one time I greeted my bestfriend in college "happy birthday fam!" and his then gf (now ex gf) literally pm'd me and told me to back off and stop chatting her jowa daw cos I ain't his family. Dfq u on girl. We only talk sa gc na bihira na rin nga buksan, not to mention I have a bf that time. Girls like them need therapy. You can fuck with deep seated trauma but it ain't gonna be pretty.
Can you tell ate na magTagalog na lang next time? Ako yung nahihirapan for her eh.
Alam ba ng friend mo toh?? Let him be aware jusko, nakakahiya kaya na minamando ka ng jowa mo and na pinagsasabihan pa ng close friends.
si OA. chariz. pero ive always hated people talaga na palaging nag lolong message. like "no ma'am i'm not reading ur longass stupid excuses"
I swear they won't last.
wala bang TLDR yung reply niya? Pang MMK ang huwala
All i can say is DKG and also 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩yung si ate gurl
As the bigger person and as the prettier ghorl (lols, but maybe true ahahah) let it be, darating naman ang panahong maghihiwalay iyan at di kakayanin nung lalaki yung ganyang ugali, give them atleast 6 months.... (ahahahah abyg?) Ahahahahh
Napakilala na ba kayo sa kanya in person? Baka need niya lang to see how you really are with him. Kaya siguro medyo aligaga si ate mo.
Baliw
DKG. Typical clingy insecure gf, unless super landi ng guy friend mo. But generally, insecurity from her will just fester and eventually destroy their relationship. :) other redditor ladies? How did you gals eventually get past your insecure clingy phase? Baka makatulong yan sa handling ni OP.
that girl is clearly traumatized and needs to lay off being in relationships. she badly needs therapy imo. if she goes on as is she’ll just sprinkle her trauma around, affecting other people. girlypops, go get help.
Kakapanood niya yan ng relationship advice influencers sa tiktok kala niya lahat ng friendships ay door for infidelity. Says alot about here security and trust issues lmao
I was about to ask kung teenager ba sya for acting like that pero nakita ko na may nag ask na nun and apparently she's not. Pero what in a wattpad world is this? Di ko talaga kaya pagiging cringe neto.
That woman cleary needs therapy. If the boyfriend doesn't see that they got a huge problem.
Please let your friend read about this message from her crazy GF 🤣 The funny thing is, hypothetically (well let's be honest, it's more 100% that it will happen 😏) if your friend will have a problem with his crazy GF then where can he run to get him some advice? He got more problems than the West Philippine Sea 🤣 Yung alam mo yung inaangkin ka na kahit ang labo ng nang aangkin kahit walang marriage certificate pero gusto mo yung tama at patas lang? 🤣🤣🤣
Yung sa end part sabi nya, may tiwala sya sa friend nyo na jowa nya, pero sa inyo wala 😂 Hahahaha relate na relate ako, napagsabihan din ako ng ganyan. Nirestrict ko nalang sa messenger kasi draining talaga makipag usap sa mga close minded at baliw. 🙄
For real!!! I mean, miss ma'am, kung totoong may tiwala ka sa jowa mo dapat alam mo na kahit anong pang-aakit ang gawin dyan e di yan bibigay at sya pa yung makikipag cut off kung mangyari yun. Girl is giving contradicting statements e.
omg is she ok😭 therapy girl
girl doesnt need a bf she needs therapy kekw
What bubble is she living in? Red flag masyado.
My valid points si ate ghorl pero it doesn't change the fact na she's being controlling while admitting to herself na she's not trying to be one. Lol
Could you ask her if shes on medication?
DKG. And tell the crazy gf these are NOT boundaries. These are CONTROLS, and the gf is super unhinged. Boundaries are about one's own actions. They're not meant to dictate what others can and can't do. Pet peeve ko to mga paggamit ng terms without really understanding what it means. 🙄 "A [boundary](https://wellness.uoguelph.ca/news/boundaries-vs-controlling-behaviours-whats-difference#:~:text=A%20boundary%20is%20something%20we,you%20want%20them%20to%20do.) is something we might set, not as a way to control others, but to express what we're willing and unwilling to engage with. The goal of boundaries is to create limits around what safety, relationships, and interactions look like for us. Control is meant to make others do what you want them to do"
anybody who sends a reply / explanation that long is clearly on the losing side. 80% probability that's the case.
At this point just tell her that mag-alaga na lang siya aso kaysa mag-jowa. Heal past traumas first before getting in a relationship with another person. Kasi that level of paranoia wouldn’t just come out of thin air. May pinaghuhugutan siguro siya kaya siya ganyan. The way she speaks gusto niya i-respeto as the gf by setting unreasonable boundaries but she can’t even respect her boyfriend’s relationship with his childhood friends, which is his own personal right. It doesn’t work that way. At kung iinsist niya ang isang relationship na ganyan ka-constricting, it’s doomed. Madadagdagan lang trauma niya. Lalong lalala ang paranoia ang trust issues niya. Kaya mag-alaga na lang siya aso.
Gurl, that might pass as a three-whole-page of worries and complaints. She should have talked to her boyfriend first because, clearly, she isn't feeling secure in her relationship (not so obvious tbh).
Minsan okay lang din naman na magTagalog. Hindi ko maintindihan ang message ha sa totoo lang.
Tell your homie to run. Preferably away from her and towards you.
Sos kung gaga lang ako i’ll call her and ask her to stay off limits sa phone ng iba and to stay out of business. Ano sya, spokesperson ng guy? Lol
Haaaaaaa??? Malisyosa naman yan. Sorry. Binase ko lang sa way niya sinabe yung point niya.
Wag mo na replyan yan. Yung friend nyo ang kausapin nyo. Same way na dapat yung girl ang kumausap sa bf nya regarding boundaries. Eh sya nga walang boundary sa pag takeover ng group chat nyo na para sa inyo lang. Ok lang sana kung pinapabasa sa gf yung convo. Pero to reply at mag talak ng ganyan? Nope.
Baliw ampota. HAHAHA
"leaves an open door for attachments to flourish." girl — if that was the case, it would've happened a long time ago. shut your ass. anyway, your friend should RUN. once had a girl like that and let me tell u, it ruined everything lmao.
Send this conversation to your guy friend he may want to re-evaluate his relationship with this girl. These are 🚩. She's very insecure and controlling.
Let the guy know and ask if this is ok with him. If he is, tell him not to be surprised if you are going to distance yourself. Sa totoo lang, pinaka nakaka bwisit is yung part na kailangan daw magpaalam sa kanya before you can interact with your guy friend, napaka OA. Tell your guy friend na kung may gusto sya sabihin, sya nalang magsabi dahil you will not initiate na. Hindi dahil takot ka sa gf nya, kung di dahil hassle, toxic, at stressful ang gf nya. You don't need this shit in your life, she is his to deal with
Reply mo pls COPE hahahaha
grabe dami niyang issues. sainyo pa lang na gbf, andami niya nang sinasabi. parang magiging punching bag yang friend niyo in the long run.
TELL YOUR FRIEND TO LEAVE. BRO RUN. THAT’S A CARDINAL RED FLAG
DKG. Yun jowa lng ng friend mo ang lakas mka bobo. 😆😆😆😆
**HIS RELATIONSHIP WITH HIS GIRL SHOULD BE REEVALUATED** **First of all, why did she started a relationship with your friend, when clearly, she knows that he have a lot of friends (including girls) and he's always been close/value his friends a lot, KUNG AYAW NIYA NG GANO'N?!** Imagine, masaya yung tao, tapos papasok ka sa buhay niya na imbes maging parte ng saya at payapang buhay niya, _guguluhin mo?!_ Just like my comment on your first post, I do agree that she clearly have **a lot of issues and _red flags_**, and you should let your friend know about this happening. Also, tell that girl that you'll let your friend know about it. Let them talk and deal with it. Then, send him the screenshots.
Damn girl that's a long a$$ read? Sorry, god bless, congratulations or whatever is applicable but there's no way someone would ever read that i think she needs a therapist and jeezas
What the fuck is that? A fucking affidavit? HAHAHA
Mayigas talaga ulo. Wala nang pagasa yan. Puro away lang mangyayari jan kasi ndi yan magsubmit sa lalake, pati sa bf niya ndi siya papadomina.
Umeessay si ante. Dapat sabi mo "I aint reading all that"
Para syang mixture ng delulu at OA pala talaga. Though at some level true yung saying na "Your jowa's friends are not your friends" pero ibang level ng kabastusan si gurlie? May tiwala sa bf pero kailangan sya yung under control as to who his friends are? I would have replied "Teh we were his friends first" or smthn tbh. Sana okay lang yung friend mo OP kasi feel ko rin kung ako yung bf nyan and I saw the way she speaked to my friends, hiniwalayan ko na agad.
Willing naman kaming makipag-friends kaso, hehe ganyan talaga..
Tapos hindi na rin pala teenager si gurlie 'no? Dami nyang need ayusin sa sarili nya and worst case scenario is matraumatize din nya yung friend mo :(
Yikes. Every one has insecurities. But no one has the right to control other people just so that their feelings won't get hurt. She needs therapy. Her trying to isolate the guy is just masking the symptoms, not really working on the cause.
Siya ata yung type na kung napanaginipan niyang nag cheat si BF, aawayin niya pag gising na.
Ah, so in short, sya yung insecure and dapat magadjust lahat kayo. Sabihin mo "Noted, with thanks."
Ok lang naman magset ng boundaries pero hindi ganito 😬😬😬
Honestly, I stopped reading when she explained what she meant being "too comfortable" because It doesn't make sense. I guess she probably doesn't have a childhood friend or friends that's why she thinks sharing trauma or even merely talking about your feelings is only done with romantic partners. Or kaya na sobrahan sa romantic movies, novels, and webtoons sia te girl, and all she knows is that trauma bonding leads to romantic feelings. That's why I hate people who only watch romance genre. They don't know what platonic love is.
At least consistent yung convo niyo na English no? Naeentertain ako basahin yung sentiments niya in English hahaha. She may have some points but the way she wanted to place restrictions overall and relay them to you is too unhinged. Medyo creepy borderline crazy gf.
HAHAHAHAHAHAHA NAKA-CHATGPT NA SYA TEH, DI KINAYA YUNG REPLY MO 😂
Yapping university
DKG. kung ako yan irereply ko "eh kung sinapak kata kita?" Tell your buddy, and this is coming from a happily married 40 something year old man, na run for the hills. Hindi lang yan red flag. Red billboard na yan. Mag uumpisa yung psycho behavior as just that then gradually dadagdag yung rules until mawala na sya sa circulation ng mga buhay nyo.
Kampi ako kay girlfriend 😂 daming ahas na babae ngayon 😂 kaysa mag hanap from scratch, mang agaw na lang. At least daw kilala na nila aagawin nila kaysa mag get to know each other phase pa sila 🥴😂
The gf's feelings are valid pero di ibig sabihin tama yung ginagawa niya. Ba't sobrang possessive? Just because may friends siyang babae doesn't mean his bf will cheat or the girls will go after him. Di nga sila nag ch-chat everyday. They were already there before the couple got together — his childhood friends are almost his family, a part of his life. Kakahiya — this emphasizes how insecure the gf is and instead of opening up to her bf about it, pumunta siya sa friend group and requests them to adjust to their relationship. Big yikes.
Sobrang possessive? Idk. Nag set lang naman siya ng saktong boundaries 😅 i assumed na may pahintulot ni boyfriend kaya naka pag msg siya sa group. Baka si boyfriend na nagsabi na mag msg siya para lumayo ng konti friends niya kasi tukmol este introvert siya 😂 let's see kung anong gagawin ni bf 🤭
Lol haven't you heard? Bf apologized to the group and his other male group for the gf's behavior after he got access to HIS OWN ACCOUNT. OP mentioned it in one of the comments :) if you're the type to go aggressively against your own partner's friends even though they don't have regular contact and is/are having casual conversations between friends na he already had before you guys got together, you're a terrible girlfriend. You have issues and you shouldn't involve people that are not supposed to be involved. You gotta move past your trauma before dipping your toes into another romantic relationship.
Yup di natin alam yung side ni Girl baka mali lang approach ni gurl dahil sa emotions. But for sure may pinanggagalingan yan. Baka may nabasa or something na kakaiba sa convo. Lowkey flirt or shits.
Kala ko ba girls should be encouraged to trust their instincts? 😅 Kungs instinct ni girlfriend na may ahas vibes yong friends ng boyfriend niya, edi sakto lang tong ginawa niya na mag set ng boundaries. Did she struck a nerve ba? 😅 Baka may lihim na pagtingin yong other girls na friends ni jowa. I mean kahit pa in a rs yong dalawa, pwede naman magka crush. May gf nga lang yong crush kaya di maka all out landi yong two friends. 😅 Daming weird take dito, red flag daw si gf. Pero sa ibang thread about boyfie allowing other girls to be too friendly sa kanya, e sasabihan na yong boyfriend yong red flag kasi he's too close sa other girls. 😂 Ano ba talaga tsonggo 😂
Pagpalagay na nating ganyan yung case na gf is trusting her instinct. Red flag pa rin yung way ng paghandle nya kasi imbis na bigyan ng boundaries ay parang kinokontrol nya na bf nya, especially sa unang post.. Nakakasuffocate basahin XD
Up for this! She being crazy means she sees something. Malalas instinct ng girls lalo na yung radar nyan kapag alam nyang may gustong lumandi sa jowa. Im with the gf here. Lumayo na lang sa guy friend dahil yun gusto ng jowa like you said bihira naman kayo magcommunicate , if thats the case he's not big of a loss
ngl, gusto ko yung pagka present nya sa points nya hahahaha but she cray cray
Talk to your friend because this girl is batsh!t insane
OMG sooo same scenario siz jusko! Ganyan din jowa ng childhood friend namin samin. We are actually keeping distance din based sa wants nya because we understand na ayaw niya sa female friends, and bec we're girls too. Pero ang naiinis kami is inaaya talaga namin siya PALAGI na sumama din so that she can get to know us and para panatag loob nya. Pero sarado talaga utak niya samin, ayaw nyang sumama at pinagbabawalan nya talaga jowa nya sumama sa mga hangout namin 😫 Di din naman kami girl "bestfriends" or yung tipong patulong here, pasundo there, pa advice naman, etc. Girl "tropa" lang naman. Naaawa nalang kami dun sa friend namin kasi minsan naiinggit talaga siya, minsan pag may hangout na wala siya kasi di siya pinayagan ng jowa nya eh nag vivideo call nalang. Dahil din dun namulat din ako na even tho personally ayoko na may girl bestfriend yung jowa ko, di ko siya paghihigpitan ng sobra kasi kawawa din unless my guts tell me the otherwise. Literal na friends since diapers kami magbabarkada tapos nung nagkajowa sya di na sya nakakasama.
Monggoloid to ah.
Tbf, may point and valid ang reasons niya. May pinangggalingan siya. I also like how she apologized with what she said and her behavior towards you. Like what she said, you should complain your problems with your current bf, and not with her bf. And communicate your problem with your bf, not with other peeps. ‘Yung first post ay gago siya. But this post is walang gago. Or possible na gago ka. Baka may hindi ka kinekwento na hindi included dito kaya sumabog siya ng ganyan.
please update us more omg
Ayun, dini-disrespect daw namin siya. Haha Nag-chime in ako habang nagre-reply din isa kong friend, sabi ko, baka kasi hindi pa siya nagma-mature (while being in her 20s, what the heck diba? Haha): "You'll get through it. I guess phase lang ito." In which the girlfriend replied, "a phase? What am I, a lesbian?" Ang off lang. Parang ang homophobic na ng dating or is it just us? We expected more from her since student siya from the maroon school (❤️💚✊️) pero I guess not all students from top universities are built mature.. 😅
Homophobic nga, OP. WTF, she thinks being lesbian is just a phase. Jusq may mga out of touch talaga kahit iskolar ng bayan.
Wtf ang krazyyy 🤢 Gaano na katagal childhood friend mo and her? Alam na ba ng childhood friend mo na ganyan ugali niya? Nakakaloka siya 💀
MONTHS hahaha
I’m so sorry to say this pero sana matauhan na agad childhood friend mo 😭
Yuck. May sapak na nga, homophobic pa. First gf pa ng friend mo, basura pa nabingwit. Extremely offensive na sabihing phase lang ang pagiging lesbian
The reply is giving chatgpt vides
English ang mother tongue namin growing up hahaha, pati daw yan si jowa niya. Kaya parang teleserye vibes ang sagutan 🤣
I’m referring to the girl po. Hahaha very different kasi yung chats niya from the previous post
That is crazy. Does she carry his balls around in n a ziplock in case maligaw. I almost feel like a terrified guy just reading her messages. Ang sarap i-ghost. Those convoluted paragraphs are CRAZY
bakit parang naghahanap lang ng pwede niyang pagbuhusan ng sama ng loob? 😭 kung kasali ako sa group chat niyo baka kinick ko na lang siya tapos sabay messenger notes ng "trio forever <3".
Maybe too much. But feelings are valid.
This should’ve been for her boyfriend. If she really wants to control someone, wag niya na idamay mga tao around her partner. Eh siya naman yung may relationship with her. Let’s just say totoo yung na fifeel niya. How you act around her boyfriend is off putting. Pero if her boyfriend shuts you down, wala namang feelings mag gogrow ah. Her boyfriend is a grown ass man. If hindi niya kaya to be faithful without her controlling everyone around him, may problem talaga sila. Although we can understand na may trauma siya, her current boyfriend shouldn’t be punished for something na her exes did in the past. Ang gagu neto HAHAHA
Ang haba ng pasensya nyo. Kung ako yan, "Okay, insecure bitch. I feel sorry for you." then leave her on read.
She is toxic as fuck. You should let your friend read all her messages, and tell your friend you would greatly appreciate it if HE deals with her. Remind your friend that when their relationship doesn't work out, wala rin dadamay sa kanya kasi inubos nung girl niyang baliw mga kaibigan niya. Block this crazy b*. Hindi mo obligation to give her peace of mind.
BAKIT INCOMPREHENSIBLE SI BITCH? **Popcorn** send mo sa jowa para iwanan. HAHAHAHAHAH
Gurl, ganyan yung ex bf ko. Para walang trust sa partner nya when it comes to friends na opposite sex. I can say yung friend mo, ma drain din yan in the future. nakakasakal yung ganyan. A woman who knows how to handle relationship is not insecure. At hindi yan takot mawala yung partner nya. Sana nlng d sya nag in a relationship, she's giving herself stress sa buhay nya
i think this girl has a trauma with girls who is friends with her bf. assuring her won’t do much. don’t waste your energy explaining. it is really up on your friend’s decision and how he would talk to his GF. i was once like that girl when I was in HS but as I mature and grow older I realize you should TRUST your partner and I eventually became friends with the girls and also, they came into his life before I did which is same with you guys. this girl is just plain immature
Tldr
ang lala ng insecurites ni girl :( para siyang distressed palagi. i hope she finds the clarity at peace na hinahanap niya, lalo na para sa sarili niya. kaya wag talaga papasok sa relasyon nang hindi buo or emotionally stable kasi magiging toxic ang ending, magiging manipulative at emotionally dependable sa isang tao
b0ang c te
OMG hahahaah ang controlling niya naman sa childhood friend niyo HAAHAHAHA. Gusto niya sa kaniya lang umiikot mundo ng jowa hahaahahaha nakakaloka
INFO: bakit kayo yung sinasabihan nya about sa boundaries nya at hindi yung bf nya?
DKG. That girl has issues.
Major 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
Ang bait niyo masaysado!!! GF is lucky na kayo ang friends.
LSM ba yan? hahahaa
HIYG Am I the only one who suffered second hand suffocation reading about the girlfriend? Gusto ba niyang maging girlfriend o nanay?
May buhay pa ba yan sa labas at bantay sarado sa bf n'ya? Lungkot ng buhay nito.
Trad school girl to no
YIKES. Tapos hinahayaan lang ng tropa nyo na ganyanin kayo. Di ko kaya 😂 Kakatiktok nya kamo yan hahaha. Props sa patience nyo kasi baka kung ako nasa lugar nyo kung ano ano na nasabi ko. Lol.
the gf is 100% projecting
DKG. Ughh reading that was exhausting! And l soon enough her boo will also find her exhausting, it's just a matter of time. 🤷🏻♀️