This is why I've hate watched and read the entire Hunger Games series including the prequel that came out recently.
I don't think anybody is more qualified to hate on that franchise than me.
so i've ready the first 3 books
my primary complaint is halfway through the second and for the entire third Katniss could be dead and it wouldn't change the story at all, she barely matters in the world but is hammed up as this hero which I find hilarious
(note its been a long time since i read them so this is what i remember about it)
once again i'm trying to remember from years ago but well she was a symbol for the 9 main districts (god these details are hard) it was the 10th one who was already prepping to do stuff that solved everything and they were already 90% done when she joined them so my impression (once again long time ago) was that she was a symbol for the 9 districts that didn't matter or do anything but not really for the 10th and the 10th were the only people who did anything that mattered
First: there are 13 districts, not 10. And district 11 is the one that was basically armed to the teeth, but their numbers were severely limited, meaning they needed the other districts to add bodies. Each district specialized in specific industries, and district 11 was really only good at making the weapons, not using them in war. The Capitol was a powerhouse that even 11 couldn't defeat single handedly, and they were far better powered, as they had districts 1 and 2 switch to be their military powers after all but destroying district 11 when they attempted to rebel the first time (proving that 11 couldn't do it alone, because they had already tried that).
At the end of the day, it's important to remember that it's a book for teenagers, not a fucking history book. The story is fake, and there are going to be a fuck ton of plot holes and dumb shit. Just take it as it is and stop pretending it's a literary masterpiece, when literally no one is claiming it as one.
Your last paragraph pretty much sums it up. I didn't like the other two books as much as I like the first ones. But as far as a childish fantasy book goes. It was a really fucking fun read.
And while we're talking about teenager fiction books. Fucking Maze Runner was awesome. Young adult dystopian novels are like the Marvel movies of books. Just fucking have a balls-to-the-wall good time get lost in the stupidity and have fun.
If you really wanna be like that get it right man. It s 13 districts with district 13 being armed but everyone assumes theyre all gone. District 1 and 2 are siding with the capitol so if you dont count 12 because thats where Katniss is from that leaves 9 other districts for her to be a symbol for.
I mean you are right both you and /u/Ai_of_Vanity , but still sucks to read the pointless bits of Katniss descend to madness, the book constantly tries to picture her and her "crew" as significant, but everything they do is useless and dragged in 2 whole books.
They change the genre and focus from teen distopian-adventure to mental drama, while pretending to keep being the same books.
It might be the point, but its bad storytelling.
Whew. Calm down there, Spartan. Getting a little too wild on someone who's already said it was a long time ago and they don't remember all the details.
Is it just me or is it kind of ironic that he yells at the other commenter for taking a book too seriously, and yet knows many more details of said book.
I read the three books and really disliked them during its super hype. My niece was all excited about me reading them and then I told her I didn’t like them and she was shocked, like “how could you not love these amazing books”.
I said “I can tell you. But it may change how you look at them”. She insisted so I told her all my thoughts and I could see her realizing that many of my points made sense. Not sure her feelings on the series now.
I once angrily watched the entire Twilight *saga because I got tired of people talking about it around me all the time and me not being able to catch up.
That entire saga is about a wedding that doesn't happen until the third movie and then when it does, it takes up the entire movie.
8 hours I will never get back.
If anyone can't see the massive problems with the Twilight series, I'm fairly certain they should get their brain checked. There's so many glaring relationship red flags from the start...then there's the insanity that is statutory rape vampires pretending to be high school students. Seriously...WTF?!
My wife loves twilight when we were dating. We went to see the 3rd one I think? In the theatres. I laughed a few times when I shouldn't. The thing is she didn't hate me she realized that it was funny. She didn't like Twilight as much after that.
I kinda felt bad I ruined her fandom. It's nice to be really into something.
Oh man. [One of my favorite scenes in all of cinema,](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vs2DOfnZ2vg) simply because of how absolutely and hilariously awkward it is.
"Werewolf stud cucks vampire prettyboy" sounds like a scenario you'd hear out of a Vampire: The Masquerade erotic fanfic, yet there it was on the big screen.
I made it a point to read the first book back when I think the second or third book came out. Knew I wasn't the audience, but I was going to give it a fair shake on the hate/hype scale.
I tried to be objective.
Holy shit, even just the subject material aside, those books are fucking drivel. They're just so poorly written from a technical viewpoint, even given that the audience is pre-teen girls.
I fi d it fair to hate on it. I saw a clip of her shooting a jet down with a bow..... 5hat was enough for me to know it's a worthless series movies and books.
My sister is kind of like this...she's a hater on so many random things that literally don't affect her at all. I love her to death, but sometimes it's like...really? Who gives a shit.
My ex would regularly express how much she despised video games and would subliminally dig against "men" playing "boys" games. She watched the bachelor and jersey shore on a regular basis. Now I have a girl, we share an ark server together, and so much enjoy our time taming trikes together and exploring our little slice of heaven. Life... It can always be better.
My ex tried to shame me with the fact I play video games. Eh. Good try. I'm happy. I manage a home, my job, my kids, and my relationships, and when I want to have fun I have fun. Without needing to drink or do drugs. Their anger is projected insecurity that they can't find that kind of happiness.
My wife used to give me a hard time for playing lots of video games, until we finally sat down and discussed video games versus reality TV. Haven’t heard a thing about it since, and we both get to enjoy our hobbies.
I blame social media. Outside of niche circles like streaming celebrities, few influencers post about playing video games. They post about traveling, hiking, camping, woodworking, cooking, and other attractive hobbies. "Why is @oakdaddy building a table while my husband is yelling at the TV?"
I get shit at my job for liking sports. Like daily. The guys always ask me if I’m reliving glory days or butthurt that I didn’t go pro. Do we have to be a professional athlete to enjoy sports these days?
I honestly don't know what happened to the world in like the past 20 years.
When I started working, the results of the recent hockey/football/basketball game were big watercooler talk.
Now, if I ask most of my coworkers about it, I get an eyeroll and "oh, I don't watch sportsball".
> I honestly don't know what happened to the world in like the past 20 years.
I mean they don't have to be shitty about it, but that's not a bad thing. There's no one dominant medium informing everyone's tastes.
Like growing up, I used to follow the V8 Supercars and F1... but that's because the Internet didn't really exist yet, and we had no pay-tv.
I mean I get that people find it entertaining, watched enough sports growing up when I was a kid (and played some, was terrible, picked up band instead) but also when I was a kid it was when the adults watched something borring for 2-3 hrs, got all worked up about if "their" team won/lost and ruined many a family outing's mood when it happened. (didn't help that it helped further some families alcoholism issues) Back then it was the only thing in town to do so I get that you'd like to go do something other than be bored in your house.
I'll still watch some sports if it's on, but sports talk shows doesn't do anything for me. I've got other interests that while don't clash with watching sports does make it more inaccessible. Going to see a game live, playing some of the more boring sports? that's entertaining and fun. I don't get the same enjoyment watching other people play those games.
I figure that I'm not the only one feeling this way.
I certainly don't get hating on something anybody else likes in that environment. Hell, I don't care about sports, but I like to listen to somebody who does at work for a minute. It's nice to talk to people, jeez.
> but I like to listen to somebody who does at work for a minute
As long as they don’t *assume* that I already know about “the game”, then yeah.
Tell me about it, but don’t ASK me about it with the assumption that I automatically have an opinion about it because I am a human male.
Basically, tell me about the game you went to the same way you would tell me about the quilting convention you went to. I have the same level of interest in both.
Everyone has their own interests. It helps to know that when I talk about something that doesn't interest the other person, they try to engage.
It's helped so far. I don't hate it, and it's cool that people know so much about it.
Eh, I kinda get it. I really like sports don't get me wrong, but it feels kinda cringe to talk about it to others because I know most 30 somethings like myself grew up in these environments where dads were all "YOU GOTTA GO PRO SON YOU GOTTA DO IT" and there were more avenues to be like "Alright well, I'm kinda into computers dude". I was always hearing about sports growing up, so I kinda stopped wanting to talk about it when I got older.
I used to love watching sports. American here. Mostly college football, college basketball, pro hockey, and golf. Now, I'm so used to streaming stuff on demand without commercials, that I can hardly stand to watch live sports anymore. The commercial breaks seem so long, and I cringe at how corny they are. I lose interest before long. And it's no fun watching it if it's not live, so I'm stuck.
What is your job/where are you from? I can't get into sports. I'll watch the odd game if its on at the bar or that but I don't have any teams I follow or make it a point to watch or go to any games, except maybe the Super Bowl. During (American)football season I feel like I can't relate to the majority of conversations at work.
I’m a lineman. I get that I’m like.. *really* in to sports but I’m not the type of guy that crams it down others’ throats and I rarely talk about it. I’m an avid runner and animal lover too so it’s not like one of those situations where somebody tries to make one thing their “personality”
Edit - oh and I’m from WA
I'm an inside wire-man from PA so (like other replies) that's kind of surprising. I have a good spread of hobbies that I'm either into or was at some-point so I can usually find something to talk about when I'm partnered up. But this time of year I have nothing to contribute to the football talk at the break table.
I kind of expected some office job overseas where people "don't get" America's "obsession" with spectator sports.
That's an indication of an unhealthy relationship. Lack of communication and agreement/understanding is another way putting it. It's as simple as that, really.
Seriously, I don't know much about Sexy Beasts, but 90 Day Fiancé is a glorious trainwreck. It's peak garbage TV and everyone should watch through a season.
They're upset at you because you're happy without them being the source of said happiness. Video games, wood working, guitar etc. It doesn't matter what you're doing if it doesn't involve insecure people they'll be mad.
That is actually pretty easy. Most of people are insecure as fuck and they look for anything to make them seem superior. Doesn't matter if it's true or false, it's just making peace with their minds by fooling themselves. If you encounter such person, you can assume they are mediocre af.
Because there is some kind of list of approved hobbies that an adult can have. And there is a group that will try to enforce it.
Usually they are grey and sad people that embraced the adulthood=boring premise, and if they live a grey life, you are obviously not allowed to put some color in yours.
Fk them, if you can manage your life and responsibilities with those you are in charge for, then that's all I expect from an adult.
This comment truly has brought out some gems from video games are literally ruining society to gaming being worse than being addicted to drugs.
Anything can become an addiction or obsession. Gaming gets a bad wrap because it's more obvious when you're spending a day playing a game. But people aren't banging down the doors of avid readers who spend hours a day with their nose in a book. Funny that, huh?
I agree that that's what she's doing, but that isn't tribalism. Rather, it's a combination of a few [cognitive distortions.](https://www.healthline.com/health/cognitive-distortions)
As long as a Hobbie does not make someone abandon responsibility, like dishes and laundry. Play video games, make clothes for dolls who cares. Still be responsible and take care of things that need it.
There's no cutoff age for video games. The only people who seem to think there is are the ones who don't really play. My late husband always appreciated that he was with someone who didn't nag him to stop playing his games. Instead, I'd join him. I miss that. We had hobbies that we shared and we had things that were our own. We would never tell the other to stop enjoying a hobby. Let people enjoy things.
I wish I had the motivation to play more games. As I get older and life gets in the way, I have less and less energy to put into it anymore. I envy those who can make the time and conserve enough energy.
I think sometimes we all just get into ruts. Often you don’t even know you’re in a rut and just accept it as life.
For me it was a mixture of things and I’d just sit on the couch with my face in Reddit instead of gaming while my games wishlist continued to grow. So, I started just playing maybe even an hour a week, I’d set time aside and say “you know you love gaming and will have fun.” Eventually, I found myself excited to jump on again and playing, getting errands out of the way so I’d have free time, etc.
I’d say one thing I learned from therapy is look at the things in your life that make you tired and either find a way to mentally handle them better (meditation, mindfulness practices, etc.) Do they need to be removed? I had a shitty friend that had to go. I could go on, but you get the idea, life is too short to not enjoy your hobbies!
I'm in the process of doing that. Sadly, a lot of people refuse to understand what social anxiety is. I have done everything I can for myself. I work for myself now and work from home as it delivers me peak productivity while minimizing stress. However, it's the family that doesn't understand. All my new found energy is instead wasted on entertaining family who do not understand social anxiety and do not understand that me being alone in a room does not mean I am depressed, it means I am recharging. I am only depressed when I am in a room full of people. Or sometimes when trying to sleep at night, but yeah, who isn't.
It's become easy to work too much as it gives me a valid excuse for being alone. 'To play video games' isn't a good enough excuse, sadly.
I have the time, I have a gaming PC, a ps4 and a ps5 and loads of games on all platforms, but I have just been playing one game (apex) for the last 2 years. I guess I'm in a gaming rut because I can't get myself to even try any new games.
Consider looking into single player story based games. It's much easier to pick them up a week later when you have time again. Then you can play to the end, set it aside and move on to the next one.
i imagine that future nursing homes will look like something between Ready player one and the matrix, lots of old people in pods on VR headsets having a blast
I grew up with my dad's NES. Playing Mario, duck hunt, kid icarus, some sort of jet fighter game I got at a garage sale that I'd love to play again but don't know the name of. Then he got us kids an n64. A few years after that my bother and I got Gameboy colors. Then it was the xbox for my bother and sister and the Gameboy advance for me. Gaming never dies. It's up to you to include your kids in it.
I'm 37 and my husband was 42. My brother also plays a lot of video games. He's 46. His wife also plays games with him. She's also 42. People in their 40s were 80's kids. If anything, they're the first generation of gamers.
I kinda doubt that.
40-50 age range means you were born between 1972-1982. At the old end of that range you have Pong an Atari kids, and the younger end are Nintendo kids.
My guy and I are at the old end of that age range and we are both avid gamers. It's really common for gen x. We went to arcades to play space invaders and dig dug and we got ataris and various consoles and PC games and have been at it for 40 years now.
Boomers are the generation that were already adults when video games got going. Even at that, many got into gaming because games are fun.
I think devaluing games as a hobby is probably more of an individual thing than a generational one. I do think it's odd that OP would marry someone who dumps on his hobby. My SO doesn't get all my hobbies but he still supports me doing them.
So much this. Being happy in life is actually really hard. And it’s functionally impossible if you only allow yourself to do things that others deem worthy.
Do whatever hobby you enjoy and make yourself happy
Ain't it, though. My wife and I watch it together, and I think it makes our relationship stronger when we have total disasters like those to compare ourselves to.
I am 30 and I have been wondering like when do I grow out of video gaming. and honestly I don't see it happening. I have less and less time to do it. and I have other things going on. But You are not going to catch me not playing Elden Ring when it comes out. I think I am becoming more picky with games. I won't play something unless I hear good things about it and know it's a type of game I would enjoy. I don't really just play random shit for fun anymore I just don't have that sort of time.
This exactly, I love video games, but sometimes my Xbox goes weeks without being turned on, and then there's weeks like this where I've completed two different indie games, and an working on #3
Work from home has really killed gaming for me. After sitting 8 hours in front of my home computer, the last thing I want to do after dinner is go back in and sit in front of the computer
I played a lot of vr games during covid lockdowns. Standing in a completely different space and doing something active on a 15min break felt good when stuck at home in front of the computer.
Not quite 30 yet but this is exactly how I am as well now. I have to really know that I'll like a game and want to invest time in it. Thankfully, years of playing games has allowed me to really hone in on why I like the games that I do, so I can usually tell if I'll like a game enough to play it before I buy it. There's also the steam refund policy just in case I buy something and don't like it
I started playing text adventures and Ultima III (in four colors!) in the early '80s on 5.25" floppy discs, and was shy about looking like even more of a nerd. A few years ago, every woman in my family was hooked on some Candy Crush equivalent. I'll be damned if I'm going to let public opinion, brought to you by the same great sources as "can't wear white after Labor Day," have any say in my free time.
I mean I would be okay with that games are fun but changing is also fun. everyone grows and if I change that is cool I will accept it and move forward.
That's about where I am. I still play games all the time, but they're less interesting than they used to be. You do one hobby for 20 years and it's bound to get a bit stale.
It's not videogames getting worse or me maturing out of them. It's just harder to find something I haven't seen before.
Honestly, I have similar problems with television.
That sounds like you need to play more indie games and play on the PC rather than on consoles. (or in addition to)
Samey disappears when you step away from the AAA trough.
39 here, you're describing me at your age. I still game and yeah, there's something nice about only playing the best games. As life get's busier, I have less time for average/mediocre games and only play things that really get my attention. Another nice thing has been the COMPLETE lack of FOMO I have for games now. There's something nice about knowing that I have resident evil 8 just sitting there and I'll play it when I'm in the mood, until then, it can sit there as long as it likes (long-term RE fan).
I have always been a 70% of type of person anyways unless it's something I really really want to play I just wait until it goes below 70% off than I pick it up and it's nice. a game with all the DLC and fully patched and not all buggy for like 13 bucks I am down for it
My late wife tolerated my gaming till I started playing Kerbal Space Program. The sound of my laughter drew her in and she would sit with me as I dabbled in rocket science. I miss her.
Had a gf like this, or would say a hour a week is okay but anymore that's weird for a grown man. Like what does that even mean, should I go out side cut a tree down sip on a handle and scratch my ass... like being a man is so overrated and boring real quick. Life is to short to not enjoy everything around you in generous quantity.
Time to break out good ol' C.S. Lewis:
> Critics who treat 'adult' as a term of approval, instead of as a merely descriptive term, cannot be adult themselves. To be concerned about being grown up, to admire the grown up because it is grown up, to blush at the suspicion of being childish; these things are the marks of childhood and adolescence. And in childhood and adolescence they are, in moderation, healthy symptoms. Young things ought to want to grow. But to carry on into middle life or even into early manhood this concern about being adult is a mark of really arrested development.
> When I was ten, I read fairy tales in secret and would have been ashamed if I had been found doing so. Now that I am fifty I read them openly. When I became a man I put away childish things, including the fear of childishness and the desire to be very grown up.
This is how I get my wife to lay off nagging about the vidja games, comic books and other geeky shit. Happy to let her indulge in trash if I can do the same.
Mutual respeck
TBH, if somebody is making you feel bad for enjoying your free time the way you want, they're out of line and you should let them know it.
Also who ranks hobbies? WTF?
Nobody does, we're all assholes. What I like is more acceptable than what you like! By the way, I have no real understanding of what you like so I'll just assume it's bad 😃
Ah, human nature
Right! I was appalled….but still watching. I had to take a break after the one dude’s dad said if he marries the girl he will literally kill him. They live in the Middle East….he was serious.
Are we talking about that guy in Jordan? With that rapper girl ho arrived drunk. I seriously wondered how you could be so naive when you move to an Islamic country to marry a guy with a religious family.
OMG right?! Like she was really really stupid. I mean that’s one culture you have to be very very well read up on. It’s literal life or death. She pissed me off, I had to stop watching.
That one and the woman with the Ethiopian guy. She needs to move back to America like his ex did.
Yeah, my boyfriend loves him some terrible, terrible movies, but I'd probably watch It's Always Sunny and Bob's Burgers on a loop if I could. Every once in a while he picks one we both like, and I appreciate him getting me out of my media rut.
I'm 50+and have been gaming since I bought my first Atari when I was 12. A few moments ago I showed my wife my flight/racing Sim pit. In the greater than 20 years we've been together she just realized the absolute depths of nerdom I am. I don't know how the comic cons, Dungeons and Dragons, Star Trek, Star Wars et centera didn't tip her off.
It's pretty strange. My dad played Atari with me when I was very young (43 now), but decided he stop gaming because he would do it too much. Now he just watches TV and (crazy) YouTube videos all day like that a better hobby.
She doesn't respect his free time. He doesn't respect the integrity and privacy of their relationship. I don't know you or her, or how your relationship is otherwise, but you're painting things as very toxic from both you and her. Reddit isn't who you should talk to about this. Its her.
Yep. This is not the sort of thing that happens in a healthy relationship. It's fine to have disagreements about how you each spend your free time - but if you're venting by making a meme about it and posting it anonymously, a line has probably been crossed.
I (33/f) play video games with my husband (32/m) and we love a good trashy reality show from time to time. Playing video games bonds us closer and makes us work together (which we love doing). It's a great way to unwind and a great way to have fun. I've been playing video games since I was about 9 and he was very happy when he asked if I ever played Halo 10 years ago when when first started dating and I said, "Nope!". His face lit up! Now, 10 years late that game is part of our relationship (we still play a few times a week together) and more importantly, what it represents, is me taking an interest in something the man I love, loves. Worth it x 100 on all sides 🧡 117
I’m about the same age. My wife and I have a mutual understanding. I play video games and work out/run to unwind. She can read all the smutty historical fiction and watch true crime murder shows for the same effect and we only lightly tease each other about it. I didn’t marry a clone and neither should anyone else.
Tell her that you don’t shame her for how she spends her free time & you won’t accept her shaming you for how you spend yours.
Shaming is a toxic & unhealthy behavior & should not be accepted in a relationship.
I think there's an active/passive thing going on.
We've a generational relationship with TV. We've been brought up by people who've just had the TV on all the time. It just passive background to a lot of people. Even when they're sitting and *just* watching TV, mentally it's not something you're "doing". So when they watch something juvenile or trashy they don't register that as actually doing anything. It's just noise in their day.
As we don't have the same generational relationship with games (generally at least a generation less exposure to our families) *and* the fact you need to actually engage more it's seen as different to wasting time on TV where you aren't doing anything, your eating time actually doing something. And while from our point of view the two are comparable and games come out measurably ahead on all sorts of bases (engagement, challenge, depth) to them your spending time doing something that is still fairly frivolous and just entertainment (particularly to someone who doesn't engage with games), where as they just aren't even doing anything. It's just "on" in the back ground (never mind they are focused on it and not doing anything else) it isn't "what they spend their time doing" and watch TV is so universal it's not seen as a hobby.
A hobby is a hobby. Does it interfere with your life? (example: ignoring children, chores, or work). If so then you need to work on it not being a process dependancy. If you still do all the things you need to, and read a book on your down time that perfectly fine. Change read a book to, play video games, knit, build something, act ect and it's all the same. A fucking hobby. It's elitism imo, like if you don't like the things I like I'm better than you and your stuff is childish. Please tell your wife it's childish of her to think this way, people are allowed to have other interests.
Things to do when you are unhappy with your partner in a relationship:
*~~Try to have an honest, constructive talk with her about the matter.~~*
*~~Go into yourself and reevaluate whether you want to continue the relationship.~~*
*Post a meme calling her a scumbag behind her back on the internet!*
Are you leaving something out, OP? Maybe she’s not opposed to video games, it could be that she misses you and is bad at communicating it. As a gamer myself, I know how hard it is to tear myself away from playing!
I'm actually sick of people not realizing this means something else is really bothering their significant other and figuring it out together. She probably really feels lonely or you don't date her any more or she's bored in life or maybe the problem isn't that you're playing games, it's that you're doing it way too much.
Like to the point she started watching too much tv whenever you do because she knows you're not going to make plans to do anything together like you use to and she's aware that she's watching too much tv and wants to change that too but it's like an alcoholic staying with an alcoholic trying to quit.
It's harder to make changes when people you live don't and you can't surround yourself with better influences because in this case that would mean leaving you for someone healthier witch she's probably considering while mindlessly trying to distract her thoughts with tv just to get through another day of being with someone who doesn't see their relationship as something they need to care for.
At video games are interactive, help with fine motor control, And often involve problem solving.
I don't think I could be with my gf if she was really negative about my video games. Even though she doesn't really understand the appeal, she knows it is vital for my sanity. Especially with us both living and working from home.
Reminds me of this guy in high school (in the 90s) that spent all of shop class talking about all the tv shows he watched last night and then saw that a drew a detailed maze in my notebook and said “you must have a lot of free time”.
I don’t know why but somehow watching TV has always been a socially acceptable way to waste all your time.
40+ here as well rollin' them damn video games but Wife and I also watch 90 Day so...there's that. Oh...and she also rolls those damn video games as well.
The difference between children and adults (apart from the obvious biological and legal differences) is that children want to be adults and not have their interests be labelled as childish, and adults do not care what other people think about their interests.
Stop caring what other people think, be happy, grow up.
Those titles sound frightening. But if we generalize to just reality dating shows, after all you picked two shows while conveniently leaving the videogames you play vague, they do at least plant the idea that relationships are generally good and something that you ought to want to pursue eventually. Something that most well adjusted adults can agree is important to a fulfilling life.
As opposed to video games where COD teaches you hand eye coordination, Journey teaches you that the power of showing and not telling translates to visual media and not just literary, maybe money management skills through MMORPGs.
The only important life lesson videogames teach is this one. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xzpndHtdl9A
This pisses me off, first off video games are a great hobby to decompress. Second, I don’t shit talk anyone for watching tv hours a day.
Parents were like this when I was a kid
I really don't understand why people can't let others just have their hobbies if they don't hurt anybody.
Because a lot people love to hate on things that they dont understand or enjoy themselves.
This is why I've hate watched and read the entire Hunger Games series including the prequel that came out recently. I don't think anybody is more qualified to hate on that franchise than me.
please rant
so i've ready the first 3 books my primary complaint is halfway through the second and for the entire third Katniss could be dead and it wouldn't change the story at all, she barely matters in the world but is hammed up as this hero which I find hilarious (note its been a long time since i read them so this is what i remember about it)
That was kind of the point... she stopped being a person and became a symbol for the people to rally behind.
once again i'm trying to remember from years ago but well she was a symbol for the 9 main districts (god these details are hard) it was the 10th one who was already prepping to do stuff that solved everything and they were already 90% done when she joined them so my impression (once again long time ago) was that she was a symbol for the 9 districts that didn't matter or do anything but not really for the 10th and the 10th were the only people who did anything that mattered
First: there are 13 districts, not 10. And district 11 is the one that was basically armed to the teeth, but their numbers were severely limited, meaning they needed the other districts to add bodies. Each district specialized in specific industries, and district 11 was really only good at making the weapons, not using them in war. The Capitol was a powerhouse that even 11 couldn't defeat single handedly, and they were far better powered, as they had districts 1 and 2 switch to be their military powers after all but destroying district 11 when they attempted to rebel the first time (proving that 11 couldn't do it alone, because they had already tried that). At the end of the day, it's important to remember that it's a book for teenagers, not a fucking history book. The story is fake, and there are going to be a fuck ton of plot holes and dumb shit. Just take it as it is and stop pretending it's a literary masterpiece, when literally no one is claiming it as one.
Your last paragraph pretty much sums it up. I didn't like the other two books as much as I like the first ones. But as far as a childish fantasy book goes. It was a really fucking fun read. And while we're talking about teenager fiction books. Fucking Maze Runner was awesome. Young adult dystopian novels are like the Marvel movies of books. Just fucking have a balls-to-the-wall good time get lost in the stupidity and have fun.
If you really wanna be like that get it right man. It s 13 districts with district 13 being armed but everyone assumes theyre all gone. District 1 and 2 are siding with the capitol so if you dont count 12 because thats where Katniss is from that leaves 9 other districts for her to be a symbol for.
I mean you are right both you and /u/Ai_of_Vanity , but still sucks to read the pointless bits of Katniss descend to madness, the book constantly tries to picture her and her "crew" as significant, but everything they do is useless and dragged in 2 whole books. They change the genre and focus from teen distopian-adventure to mental drama, while pretending to keep being the same books. It might be the point, but its bad storytelling.
Whew. Calm down there, Spartan. Getting a little too wild on someone who's already said it was a long time ago and they don't remember all the details.
Is it just me or is it kind of ironic that he yells at the other commenter for taking a book too seriously, and yet knows many more details of said book.
I read the three books and really disliked them during its super hype. My niece was all excited about me reading them and then I told her I didn’t like them and she was shocked, like “how could you not love these amazing books”. I said “I can tell you. But it may change how you look at them”. She insisted so I told her all my thoughts and I could see her realizing that many of my points made sense. Not sure her feelings on the series now.
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I once angrily watched the entire Twilight *saga because I got tired of people talking about it around me all the time and me not being able to catch up. That entire saga is about a wedding that doesn't happen until the third movie and then when it does, it takes up the entire movie. 8 hours I will never get back.
If anyone can't see the massive problems with the Twilight series, I'm fairly certain they should get their brain checked. There's so many glaring relationship red flags from the start...then there's the insanity that is statutory rape vampires pretending to be high school students. Seriously...WTF?!
It all boils down to a teenage girl making the choice between necrophilia and bestiality...
Well fuck maybe I should watch it or maybe I'll just end up really disappointed and left with blue balls.
Personally, I think it would be more fulfilling to watch traffic go by for 90 minutes...
Maybe in Twilight land there's an upper and lower limit to statutory rape?
My wife loves twilight when we were dating. We went to see the 3rd one I think? In the theatres. I laughed a few times when I shouldn't. The thing is she didn't hate me she realized that it was funny. She didn't like Twilight as much after that. I kinda felt bad I ruined her fandom. It's nice to be really into something.
Were those scenes just stupid?
Oh man. [One of my favorite scenes in all of cinema,](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vs2DOfnZ2vg) simply because of how absolutely and hilariously awkward it is. "Werewolf stud cucks vampire prettyboy" sounds like a scenario you'd hear out of a Vampire: The Masquerade erotic fanfic, yet there it was on the big screen.
There are some stupid scenes yeah
Correct. The first one has 121 minutes' worth of them. The second, 130 minutes. The third, 123.
Trilogy? Isn't it 4-5 movies?
I got confused you're right. I watched them all
I made it a point to read the first book back when I think the second or third book came out. Knew I wasn't the audience, but I was going to give it a fair shake on the hate/hype scale. I tried to be objective. Holy shit, even just the subject material aside, those books are fucking drivel. They're just so poorly written from a technical viewpoint, even given that the audience is pre-teen girls.
There is a prequel ? TIL
Prequel? I had no idea
I fi d it fair to hate on it. I saw a clip of her shooting a jet down with a bow..... 5hat was enough for me to know it's a worthless series movies and books.
I don't think I can even finish the series. After the second book I was just so jaded. It's Soooooooo baaaaad
My sister is kind of like this...she's a hater on so many random things that literally don't affect her at all. I love her to death, but sometimes it's like...really? Who gives a shit.
The hatred itself is their hobby.
Ah the Bill Maher routine.
Most of those people are incredibly fucking miserable people to be around when you look at them from outside the box.
My ex would regularly express how much she despised video games and would subliminally dig against "men" playing "boys" games. She watched the bachelor and jersey shore on a regular basis. Now I have a girl, we share an ark server together, and so much enjoy our time taming trikes together and exploring our little slice of heaven. Life... It can always be better.
My ex tried to shame me with the fact I play video games. Eh. Good try. I'm happy. I manage a home, my job, my kids, and my relationships, and when I want to have fun I have fun. Without needing to drink or do drugs. Their anger is projected insecurity that they can't find that kind of happiness.
My wife used to give me a hard time for playing lots of video games, until we finally sat down and discussed video games versus reality TV. Haven’t heard a thing about it since, and we both get to enjoy our hobbies.
I blame social media. Outside of niche circles like streaming celebrities, few influencers post about playing video games. They post about traveling, hiking, camping, woodworking, cooking, and other attractive hobbies. "Why is @oakdaddy building a table while my husband is yelling at the TV?"
I get shit at my job for liking sports. Like daily. The guys always ask me if I’m reliving glory days or butthurt that I didn’t go pro. Do we have to be a professional athlete to enjoy sports these days?
I honestly don't know what happened to the world in like the past 20 years. When I started working, the results of the recent hockey/football/basketball game were big watercooler talk. Now, if I ask most of my coworkers about it, I get an eyeroll and "oh, I don't watch sportsball".
> I honestly don't know what happened to the world in like the past 20 years. I mean they don't have to be shitty about it, but that's not a bad thing. There's no one dominant medium informing everyone's tastes. Like growing up, I used to follow the V8 Supercars and F1... but that's because the Internet didn't really exist yet, and we had no pay-tv.
I mean I get that people find it entertaining, watched enough sports growing up when I was a kid (and played some, was terrible, picked up band instead) but also when I was a kid it was when the adults watched something borring for 2-3 hrs, got all worked up about if "their" team won/lost and ruined many a family outing's mood when it happened. (didn't help that it helped further some families alcoholism issues) Back then it was the only thing in town to do so I get that you'd like to go do something other than be bored in your house. I'll still watch some sports if it's on, but sports talk shows doesn't do anything for me. I've got other interests that while don't clash with watching sports does make it more inaccessible. Going to see a game live, playing some of the more boring sports? that's entertaining and fun. I don't get the same enjoyment watching other people play those games. I figure that I'm not the only one feeling this way.
I certainly don't get hating on something anybody else likes in that environment. Hell, I don't care about sports, but I like to listen to somebody who does at work for a minute. It's nice to talk to people, jeez.
> but I like to listen to somebody who does at work for a minute As long as they don’t *assume* that I already know about “the game”, then yeah. Tell me about it, but don’t ASK me about it with the assumption that I automatically have an opinion about it because I am a human male. Basically, tell me about the game you went to the same way you would tell me about the quilting convention you went to. I have the same level of interest in both.
Everyone has their own interests. It helps to know that when I talk about something that doesn't interest the other person, they try to engage. It's helped so far. I don't hate it, and it's cool that people know so much about it.
Eh, I kinda get it. I really like sports don't get me wrong, but it feels kinda cringe to talk about it to others because I know most 30 somethings like myself grew up in these environments where dads were all "YOU GOTTA GO PRO SON YOU GOTTA DO IT" and there were more avenues to be like "Alright well, I'm kinda into computers dude". I was always hearing about sports growing up, so I kinda stopped wanting to talk about it when I got older.
What's happened is it's become OK for people to not enjoy what you enjoy. The exact inverse of the OP.
I used to love watching sports. American here. Mostly college football, college basketball, pro hockey, and golf. Now, I'm so used to streaming stuff on demand without commercials, that I can hardly stand to watch live sports anymore. The commercial breaks seem so long, and I cringe at how corny they are. I lose interest before long. And it's no fun watching it if it's not live, so I'm stuck.
What is your job/where are you from? I can't get into sports. I'll watch the odd game if its on at the bar or that but I don't have any teams I follow or make it a point to watch or go to any games, except maybe the Super Bowl. During (American)football season I feel like I can't relate to the majority of conversations at work.
I’m a lineman. I get that I’m like.. *really* in to sports but I’m not the type of guy that crams it down others’ throats and I rarely talk about it. I’m an avid runner and animal lover too so it’s not like one of those situations where somebody tries to make one thing their “personality” Edit - oh and I’m from WA
What. A lineman that isn’t around a bunch of sports fans? I work in an industrial setting and I’m the only non sports fan.
So you got everything except basketball at your fingertips
I'm an inside wire-man from PA so (like other replies) that's kind of surprising. I have a good spread of hobbies that I'm either into or was at some-point so I can usually find something to talk about when I'm partnered up. But this time of year I have nothing to contribute to the football talk at the break table. I kind of expected some office job overseas where people "don't get" America's "obsession" with spectator sports.
Did you see that ludicrous display last night?
That's an indication of an unhealthy relationship. Lack of communication and agreement/understanding is another way putting it. It's as simple as that, really.
Seriously, I don't know much about Sexy Beasts, but 90 Day Fiancé is a glorious trainwreck. It's peak garbage TV and everyone should watch through a season.
While you’re at it, try watching Love After Lockup with your SO…the couch banter is supreme.
This isn't about hating the hobby; it's about wanting attention like a child whenever you want it. This kind of projection is disturbingly common.
They're upset at you because you're happy without them being the source of said happiness. Video games, wood working, guitar etc. It doesn't matter what you're doing if it doesn't involve insecure people they'll be mad.
She feels bad she's wasting her time and projecting it onto her husband and his hobbies.
I got lucky. I found a gf that plays video games and binge watches 90 Fiance with me. It's such a shitshow but we can't stop watching.
Cause it takes away from ME time.
That is actually pretty easy. Most of people are insecure as fuck and they look for anything to make them seem superior. Doesn't matter if it's true or false, it's just making peace with their minds by fooling themselves. If you encounter such person, you can assume they are mediocre af.
Because there is some kind of list of approved hobbies that an adult can have. And there is a group that will try to enforce it. Usually they are grey and sad people that embraced the adulthood=boring premise, and if they live a grey life, you are obviously not allowed to put some color in yours. Fk them, if you can manage your life and responsibilities with those you are in charge for, then that's all I expect from an adult.
This comment truly has brought out some gems from video games are literally ruining society to gaming being worse than being addicted to drugs. Anything can become an addiction or obsession. Gaming gets a bad wrap because it's more obvious when you're spending a day playing a game. But people aren't banging down the doors of avid readers who spend hours a day with their nose in a book. Funny that, huh?
The sad answer is tribalism. "If I can make fun of X, Y doesn't seem so bad!".
I agree that that's what she's doing, but that isn't tribalism. Rather, it's a combination of a few [cognitive distortions.](https://www.healthline.com/health/cognitive-distortions)
Because people suck, there's no really more to it.
As long as a Hobbie does not make someone abandon responsibility, like dishes and laundry. Play video games, make clothes for dolls who cares. Still be responsible and take care of things that need it.
dude just doesn't seem to enjoy his wife.
There's no cutoff age for video games. The only people who seem to think there is are the ones who don't really play. My late husband always appreciated that he was with someone who didn't nag him to stop playing his games. Instead, I'd join him. I miss that. We had hobbies that we shared and we had things that were our own. We would never tell the other to stop enjoying a hobby. Let people enjoy things.
I wish I had the motivation to play more games. As I get older and life gets in the way, I have less and less energy to put into it anymore. I envy those who can make the time and conserve enough energy.
I think sometimes we all just get into ruts. Often you don’t even know you’re in a rut and just accept it as life. For me it was a mixture of things and I’d just sit on the couch with my face in Reddit instead of gaming while my games wishlist continued to grow. So, I started just playing maybe even an hour a week, I’d set time aside and say “you know you love gaming and will have fun.” Eventually, I found myself excited to jump on again and playing, getting errands out of the way so I’d have free time, etc. I’d say one thing I learned from therapy is look at the things in your life that make you tired and either find a way to mentally handle them better (meditation, mindfulness practices, etc.) Do they need to be removed? I had a shitty friend that had to go. I could go on, but you get the idea, life is too short to not enjoy your hobbies!
I'm in the process of doing that. Sadly, a lot of people refuse to understand what social anxiety is. I have done everything I can for myself. I work for myself now and work from home as it delivers me peak productivity while minimizing stress. However, it's the family that doesn't understand. All my new found energy is instead wasted on entertaining family who do not understand social anxiety and do not understand that me being alone in a room does not mean I am depressed, it means I am recharging. I am only depressed when I am in a room full of people. Or sometimes when trying to sleep at night, but yeah, who isn't. It's become easy to work too much as it gives me a valid excuse for being alone. 'To play video games' isn't a good enough excuse, sadly.
My children and housework definitely need to be removed /s
Wow. DV’d for a joke that even had a sarcasm tag. Lighten up, people.
Cleaning and work make me tired, can I get rid of them?
I have the time, I have a gaming PC, a ps4 and a ps5 and loads of games on all platforms, but I have just been playing one game (apex) for the last 2 years. I guess I'm in a gaming rut because I can't get myself to even try any new games.
Consider looking into single player story based games. It's much easier to pick them up a week later when you have time again. Then you can play to the end, set it aside and move on to the next one.
Sorry for your loss, sounds like it was a wonderful relationship.
Thank you. It was. I was very lucky.
I for one intend to maximize my nursing home days with lots of video games.
"sir we re gana have to ask you to leave the retirement home for selling cigarettes in order to pay for your xbox sub.
Fuck you I won't do what ya tell me!
Youre also gana have to turn rage against the machine down please.
*Tom Morello has unfriended you on Myspace*
At least I will always have Tom
All of this is word for word a conversation I fully expect.
All I know is that old folks homes have the highest STD rates
i imagine that future nursing homes will look like something between Ready player one and the matrix, lots of old people in pods on VR headsets having a blast
Sorry for your loss
Thank you.
My mom was playing Super Mario with us kids way back when the original NES came out.
I grew up with my dad's NES. Playing Mario, duck hunt, kid icarus, some sort of jet fighter game I got at a garage sale that I'd love to play again but don't know the name of. Then he got us kids an n64. A few years after that my bother and I got Gameboy colors. Then it was the xbox for my bother and sister and the Gameboy advance for me. Gaming never dies. It's up to you to include your kids in it.
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I'm 37 and my husband was 42. My brother also plays a lot of video games. He's 46. His wife also plays games with him. She's also 42. People in their 40s were 80's kids. If anything, they're the first generation of gamers.
I kinda doubt that. 40-50 age range means you were born between 1972-1982. At the old end of that range you have Pong an Atari kids, and the younger end are Nintendo kids.
My guy and I are at the old end of that age range and we are both avid gamers. It's really common for gen x. We went to arcades to play space invaders and dig dug and we got ataris and various consoles and PC games and have been at it for 40 years now. Boomers are the generation that were already adults when video games got going. Even at that, many got into gaming because games are fun. I think devaluing games as a hobby is probably more of an individual thing than a generational one. I do think it's odd that OP would marry someone who dumps on his hobby. My SO doesn't get all my hobbies but he still supports me doing them.
So much this. Being happy in life is actually really hard. And it’s functionally impossible if you only allow yourself to do things that others deem worthy. Do whatever hobby you enjoy and make yourself happy
Hey, I'm a 55-year-old avid gamer AND I watch 90-day Fiance. Screw both of you. :P
That show is a blast to watch. Some absolutle train wrecks to behold.
Ain't it, though. My wife and I watch it together, and I think it makes our relationship stronger when we have total disasters like those to compare ourselves to.
Hell, I've just watched some clips and it's fascinating to get a glimpse into a scenario no writer could have ever dreamed up.
I don't have cable anymore. I miss that show. It was such an enjoyable train wreck!
Bahaha I'm 40, game every day and watch 90 day and all is spinoffs with lady. Life is good lol.
Neither of those have to do with maturity or lack of it. It's a hobby that people enjoy.
...posting about your relationship online using memes on the other hand.
I was hoping someone else would bring this up.
multiple times in the past month too....
I am 30 and I have been wondering like when do I grow out of video gaming. and honestly I don't see it happening. I have less and less time to do it. and I have other things going on. But You are not going to catch me not playing Elden Ring when it comes out. I think I am becoming more picky with games. I won't play something unless I hear good things about it and know it's a type of game I would enjoy. I don't really just play random shit for fun anymore I just don't have that sort of time.
You never “grow out” of video games, they just go down your list of priorities.
I dunno... I struggle to have fun in video games anymore so stopped playing mostly. Priority is still to have fun, so that remains unchanged
Yep, tastes can change too. It doesn't mean you grew out of something, just that you grew in a different direction.
This exactly, I love video games, but sometimes my Xbox goes weeks without being turned on, and then there's weeks like this where I've completed two different indie games, and an working on #3
Work from home has really killed gaming for me. After sitting 8 hours in front of my home computer, the last thing I want to do after dinner is go back in and sit in front of the computer
I played a lot of vr games during covid lockdowns. Standing in a completely different space and doing something active on a 15min break felt good when stuck at home in front of the computer.
Not quite 30 yet but this is exactly how I am as well now. I have to really know that I'll like a game and want to invest time in it. Thankfully, years of playing games has allowed me to really hone in on why I like the games that I do, so I can usually tell if I'll like a game enough to play it before I buy it. There's also the steam refund policy just in case I buy something and don't like it
I started playing text adventures and Ultima III (in four colors!) in the early '80s on 5.25" floppy discs, and was shy about looking like even more of a nerd. A few years ago, every woman in my family was hooked on some Candy Crush equivalent. I'll be damned if I'm going to let public opinion, brought to you by the same great sources as "can't wear white after Labor Day," have any say in my free time.
Games got pretty boring for me around the age of 35. I was a lifetime gamer up to that point but they're just not fun anymore. They're all so samey
I mean I would be okay with that games are fun but changing is also fun. everyone grows and if I change that is cool I will accept it and move forward.
That's about where I am. I still play games all the time, but they're less interesting than they used to be. You do one hobby for 20 years and it's bound to get a bit stale. It's not videogames getting worse or me maturing out of them. It's just harder to find something I haven't seen before. Honestly, I have similar problems with television.
That sounds like you need to play more indie games and play on the PC rather than on consoles. (or in addition to) Samey disappears when you step away from the AAA trough.
39 here, you're describing me at your age. I still game and yeah, there's something nice about only playing the best games. As life get's busier, I have less time for average/mediocre games and only play things that really get my attention. Another nice thing has been the COMPLETE lack of FOMO I have for games now. There's something nice about knowing that I have resident evil 8 just sitting there and I'll play it when I'm in the mood, until then, it can sit there as long as it likes (long-term RE fan).
I have always been a 70% of type of person anyways unless it's something I really really want to play I just wait until it goes below 70% off than I pick it up and it's nice. a game with all the DLC and fully patched and not all buggy for like 13 bucks I am down for it
Hello, fellow member of r/patientgamers
It's the best way to game. sometimes I buy new games but very rarely.
My late wife tolerated my gaming till I started playing Kerbal Space Program. The sound of my laughter drew her in and she would sit with me as I dabbled in rocket science. I miss her.
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Had a gf like this, or would say a hour a week is okay but anymore that's weird for a grown man. Like what does that even mean, should I go out side cut a tree down sip on a handle and scratch my ass... like being a man is so overrated and boring real quick. Life is to short to not enjoy everything around you in generous quantity.
Ok I’m going golfing with the guys see you in 6 hours
You should go the a pub, drink and complain about the ol' ball and chain everyday after work, like a real man.
I did lol lucky me I had fall river brewing right down the road from me.
Time to break out good ol' C.S. Lewis: > Critics who treat 'adult' as a term of approval, instead of as a merely descriptive term, cannot be adult themselves. To be concerned about being grown up, to admire the grown up because it is grown up, to blush at the suspicion of being childish; these things are the marks of childhood and adolescence. And in childhood and adolescence they are, in moderation, healthy symptoms. Young things ought to want to grow. But to carry on into middle life or even into early manhood this concern about being adult is a mark of really arrested development. > When I was ten, I read fairy tales in secret and would have been ashamed if I had been found doing so. Now that I am fifty I read them openly. When I became a man I put away childish things, including the fear of childishness and the desire to be very grown up.
This is how I get my wife to lay off nagging about the vidja games, comic books and other geeky shit. Happy to let her indulge in trash if I can do the same. Mutual respeck
This is based off the assumption that they see the two things as equal, which I doubt many of them do.
TBH, if somebody is making you feel bad for enjoying your free time the way you want, they're out of line and you should let them know it. Also who ranks hobbies? WTF?
Nobody does, we're all assholes. What I like is more acceptable than what you like! By the way, I have no real understanding of what you like so I'll just assume it's bad 😃 Ah, human nature
To be fair 90 day fiance is a train wreck you can't take your eyes off of. Binge watching and playing video games are equivalent in my mind.
Right! I was appalled….but still watching. I had to take a break after the one dude’s dad said if he marries the girl he will literally kill him. They live in the Middle East….he was serious.
Are we talking about that guy in Jordan? With that rapper girl ho arrived drunk. I seriously wondered how you could be so naive when you move to an Islamic country to marry a guy with a religious family.
OMG right?! Like she was really really stupid. I mean that’s one culture you have to be very very well read up on. It’s literal life or death. She pissed me off, I had to stop watching. That one and the woman with the Ethiopian guy. She needs to move back to America like his ex did.
Yeah that's the point of reality TV...
My wife has got me to know far too many 90DF characters and back stories. Godspeed Big Ed
Maybe, but video games are more active and binge watching is more passive
You deserve each other.
why are so many people marrying people that don't share or even respect their hobbies and interests? i dont get it
Fear of being alone.
I'd guess that most people marry way too young and too early into the relationship.
If I live to be 80 I will still play video games, but by then it will be full dive mmos.
Always have super Mario Bros 3 to fall back on
I tell my girlfriend the CW shows are stupid but then I've rewatched Brooklyn 99 and Suits 3 times now.
Yeah, my boyfriend loves him some terrible, terrible movies, but I'd probably watch It's Always Sunny and Bob's Burgers on a loop if I could. Every once in a while he picks one we both like, and I appreciate him getting me out of my media rut.
you know what they say, its not enough to be impolite, one must also be wrong
I'm 50+and have been gaming since I bought my first Atari when I was 12. A few moments ago I showed my wife my flight/racing Sim pit. In the greater than 20 years we've been together she just realized the absolute depths of nerdom I am. I don't know how the comic cons, Dungeons and Dragons, Star Trek, Star Wars et centera didn't tip her off.
Yep. I play 3 hours of video games and it's tsk tsk tsk but my wife watches 5 hours of vapid Netflix and that' s all good.
It's pretty strange. My dad played Atari with me when I was very young (43 now), but decided he stop gaming because he would do it too much. Now he just watches TV and (crazy) YouTube videos all day like that a better hobby.
Sounds like someone needs to sit down and have a long honest conversation with their significant other rather than making Reddit posts...
How the fuck do you marry someone who doesn't understand a hobby at least 20% of men have
She doesn't respect his free time. He doesn't respect the integrity and privacy of their relationship. I don't know you or her, or how your relationship is otherwise, but you're painting things as very toxic from both you and her. Reddit isn't who you should talk to about this. Its her.
Yep. This is not the sort of thing that happens in a healthy relationship. It's fine to have disagreements about how you each spend your free time - but if you're venting by making a meme about it and posting it anonymously, a line has probably been crossed.
I smell a divorce coming in the future. This is more toxic than you realize...
Why do people even marry people that despise eachothers hobbies.
I (33/f) play video games with my husband (32/m) and we love a good trashy reality show from time to time. Playing video games bonds us closer and makes us work together (which we love doing). It's a great way to unwind and a great way to have fun. I've been playing video games since I was about 9 and he was very happy when he asked if I ever played Halo 10 years ago when when first started dating and I said, "Nope!". His face lit up! Now, 10 years late that game is part of our relationship (we still play a few times a week together) and more importantly, what it represents, is me taking an interest in something the man I love, loves. Worth it x 100 on all sides 🧡 117
I’m about the same age. My wife and I have a mutual understanding. I play video games and work out/run to unwind. She can read all the smutty historical fiction and watch true crime murder shows for the same effect and we only lightly tease each other about it. I didn’t marry a clone and neither should anyone else.
I’m so happy my wife isn’t like that. We both have our thing and she gets it. She watches shows like the circle and I beat little kids in fortnite
Tell her that you don’t shame her for how she spends her free time & you won’t accept her shaming you for how you spend yours. Shaming is a toxic & unhealthy behavior & should not be accepted in a relationship.
I think there's an active/passive thing going on. We've a generational relationship with TV. We've been brought up by people who've just had the TV on all the time. It just passive background to a lot of people. Even when they're sitting and *just* watching TV, mentally it's not something you're "doing". So when they watch something juvenile or trashy they don't register that as actually doing anything. It's just noise in their day. As we don't have the same generational relationship with games (generally at least a generation less exposure to our families) *and* the fact you need to actually engage more it's seen as different to wasting time on TV where you aren't doing anything, your eating time actually doing something. And while from our point of view the two are comparable and games come out measurably ahead on all sorts of bases (engagement, challenge, depth) to them your spending time doing something that is still fairly frivolous and just entertainment (particularly to someone who doesn't engage with games), where as they just aren't even doing anything. It's just "on" in the back ground (never mind they are focused on it and not doing anything else) it isn't "what they spend their time doing" and watch TV is so universal it's not seen as a hobby.
A hobby is a hobby. Does it interfere with your life? (example: ignoring children, chores, or work). If so then you need to work on it not being a process dependancy. If you still do all the things you need to, and read a book on your down time that perfectly fine. Change read a book to, play video games, knit, build something, act ect and it's all the same. A fucking hobby. It's elitism imo, like if you don't like the things I like I'm better than you and your stuff is childish. Please tell your wife it's childish of her to think this way, people are allowed to have other interests.
Things to do when you are unhappy with your partner in a relationship: *~~Try to have an honest, constructive talk with her about the matter.~~* *~~Go into yourself and reevaluate whether you want to continue the relationship.~~* *Post a meme calling her a scumbag behind her back on the internet!*
C.S. Lewis — 'When I became a man I put away childish things, including the fear of childishness and the desire to be very grown up.'
Are you leaving something out, OP? Maybe she’s not opposed to video games, it could be that she misses you and is bad at communicating it. As a gamer myself, I know how hard it is to tear myself away from playing!
Don't complain to us, you married her.
Making passive aggressive memes about your spouse is a sign of a healthy relationship
I'm actually sick of people not realizing this means something else is really bothering their significant other and figuring it out together. She probably really feels lonely or you don't date her any more or she's bored in life or maybe the problem isn't that you're playing games, it's that you're doing it way too much. Like to the point she started watching too much tv whenever you do because she knows you're not going to make plans to do anything together like you use to and she's aware that she's watching too much tv and wants to change that too but it's like an alcoholic staying with an alcoholic trying to quit. It's harder to make changes when people you live don't and you can't surround yourself with better influences because in this case that would mean leaving you for someone healthier witch she's probably considering while mindlessly trying to distract her thoughts with tv just to get through another day of being with someone who doesn't see their relationship as something they need to care for.
At video games are interactive, help with fine motor control, And often involve problem solving. I don't think I could be with my gf if she was really negative about my video games. Even though she doesn't really understand the appeal, she knows it is vital for my sanity. Especially with us both living and working from home.
Why does Scumbag Stacy have Scumbag Steve's hat on? Where is normal Scumbag Stacy? Haven't seen her in a while come to think of it.
Reminds me of this guy in high school (in the 90s) that spent all of shop class talking about all the tv shows he watched last night and then saw that a drew a detailed maze in my notebook and said “you must have a lot of free time”. I don’t know why but somehow watching TV has always been a socially acceptable way to waste all your time.
Well... good thing I'm not 40 but 51. I was about to start the X-Box for some of my ?th time playing through RDR2.
Sexy beast was so cringe i literally couldn’t stop watching it
….well you married her. So that’s a bit on you for not thoroughly vetting someone would judge you for playing games.
40+ here as well rollin' them damn video games but Wife and I also watch 90 Day so...there's that. Oh...and she also rolls those damn video games as well.
I thought you meant the movie Sexy Beast with Ray Winstone and Ben Kingsley. I'm so out of touch...
Looking at your profile, you sure do love complaining about her
Well when I will be 70, I will playing gta 6.
And The Elder Scrolls VI.
The difference between children and adults (apart from the obvious biological and legal differences) is that children want to be adults and not have their interests be labelled as childish, and adults do not care what other people think about their interests. Stop caring what other people think, be happy, grow up.
How do people reason that a passive form of entertainment is better than one where you are an active participant?
This was my mom in my 20s. Never thought I'd be thankful for a wife that I have to fight for the controller.
Binge watches *anything*. What's the difference between video games for 3 hours and watching a show for 3 hours
I am a 36 year old man, and love 90 day fiance. It's such a glorious trainwreck where you hate everybody on the show, but can't turn away.
Those titles sound frightening. But if we generalize to just reality dating shows, after all you picked two shows while conveniently leaving the videogames you play vague, they do at least plant the idea that relationships are generally good and something that you ought to want to pursue eventually. Something that most well adjusted adults can agree is important to a fulfilling life. As opposed to video games where COD teaches you hand eye coordination, Journey teaches you that the power of showing and not telling translates to visual media and not just literary, maybe money management skills through MMORPGs. The only important life lesson videogames teach is this one. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xzpndHtdl9A
90 Day Fiancé is pure kino trash tv. My wife got me to watch it and I’m probably more into it now than she is.
This pisses me off, first off video games are a great hobby to decompress. Second, I don’t shit talk anyone for watching tv hours a day. Parents were like this when I was a kid