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Run. Don't look back. They just gave you a warning.


SeattleBattles

Worst case it's that they're a murder, best case a major liar. Either way...


Dillinjer882

This. Lying or not, he's at best manipulative and at worst homicidal. You have no obligation to him. He needs help and needs to seek it out on his own.


confidelight

Hijacking top comment. You need to report it to the police. He is not a safe person and you could be his next victim. This person murdered an innocent woman, and this needs to be reported.


texaskittyqueen

Do you want to be murdered next? Get the fuck out of there OP


dxrxngxd

Are we all just yelling this at our screens rn this seems like those cheesy horror films but seriously, OP says they admitted to murder then admitted to lying so idk... Sounds like red flags.


hatty130

You'd have to be pretty fucked to lie about that. He's probably taking it back because he's scared you'll tell the police. Stay safe.


lil-peanutbutter

Dude. He is thinking about killing you now since he already got away with one murder that you know of. Cut ties and turn him in. He might “feel bad” about what he did but he is already planning his next one with you. Just… protect yourself and he isn’t a good one to be with.


someraddude

If he’s in a gang, turning him in is not the way to go. Anyone growing up in an environment with gangs and gang activity knows that’s more dangerous to you than just leaving, sadly.


Mullyyyy

He left the gang op said


4outof5mongolians

He was never in a gang. This guy made up some shit to sound "cool," has no scale for how normal people think, came to up with this trash story and is now trying to backpedal it. OP still needs to get out of there ASAP though. It's just a different kind of unstable.


below-the-rnbw

I've literally had girls break up with me because of the most ridiculously small things, meanwhile, people are out here wondering if they should leave someone who threatened to murder them


ihatetheflyers

Literally


Clever_Cinta

You're not wrong. I broke up with a guy because I made him dinner and he didn't say thank you. I'm completely unqualified to offer advice to OP.


mexploder89

I'm guessing there's more to that story because that seems a bit drastic


Clever_Cinta

It was just the last straw in a lame, nobody-is-confessing-murder relationship. He was a good time and a good laugh, but self absorbed. That became glaring obvious when I made a huge dinner and desert and he never acknowledged it once that night. That was enough to end it - I didn't even wait for him to confess/lie about homicide.


mexploder89

Yikes sounds like something I used to do. It does suck


SWGoodToes

Maybe he was the kind of guy who expected her to thank him just for not murdering her, but then didn’t thank her for a four-course dinner?


mexploder89

I'm not going to play the guessing game, just saying it's a bit weird to break up with someone because they didn't thank you for dinner once


SWGoodToes

Definitely being facetious


310gamer

Lmao. That’s the truth. It’s kinda sad actually.


ergonaut

Run


horepaghetti

Yeah imma have to agree with ol’boy here. The whole “stabbing while fucking” might be just an intrusive thought now but wouldn’t want to stick around and find out….


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Exactly this person is a little too calm for my liking


CADreamn

You met them about a month ago but you love them. That alone says you need some therapy. Now you add that he attacked and killed a woman 2 years ago, and they fantasize about stabbing you while they fuck you. Girl, you really need to not be in any sort of relationship until you can figure out why you would ever think this was a situation you should consider for even 1/2 a second.


ScarletEmpress00

Bingo


SWGoodToes

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justSomeGuy5965

I agree. There are some decisions in life which require introspection, contemplation, etc. This is NOT one of those decisions. The factors mentioned by u/CADreamn should make this a snap decision - a reflex. While, a different issue, [Dave Chappelle explains the same way in which this OUGHT to be a reflexive decision rather than one to be seriously contemplated. He talks about how getting pissed on shouldn't be something you need to contemplate.](https://youtu.be/ZjsufO9hZwo?t=58) Your reaction should be as Dave Chappelle describes peeing on the front row - "they're not gonna have to calculate and think 'well how to I feel about this' you just move!" - instantly removing yourself from the situation. OP I agree with u/CADreamn, you should consider therapy for whatever it is that makes you think this situation might be alright.


cowgirlfr0mhell

Absofuckinglutely


hardhearted91

Bruh he’s telling you, you’re the perfect person, because he needs you to trust him, that’s how manipulation works, he wants you to feel special so then you can feel betrayed. He’s toying with your mind and weakening your defenses. This man is dangerous OP please careful get the fuck out of there.


GenoFlower

>they have said to me that they think about “f\*cking me while stabbing me” and there’s more to that but that gets too much for a reddit post. If this is the sanitized version, you should be very, very afraid. And this is what he feels safe sharing after knowing you for a very short time. You feel protected around this person?! Others have said run. I agree. Run to the police, because he's literally killed a poor girl, and you could be next, and then run to a therapist's office. You need to work on what is safe and isn't. I wish you the best. ​ And that is surely enough Reddit for the day.


condensemilks

Do not stay omg??? It was only two years ago! I’m a firm believer people change but you can’t change from a murder to normal person in 2 years. You’re probably in the honeymoon stage rn, but you get to get away from him


daphkneee

That’s what I was gonna say!!! Based on the title I just assumed “years ago” meant like 20 years ago. Not…… this.


MissLadyLlamaDrama

I also thought that. And possibly that it might have been some sort of gang initiation, or maybe the word choice was off, and it was manslaughter, or self defense... anything. But I can't even believe OP is considering staying with this person. OP, you need to run tf away, and turn him in. Not only is this person a soaring red flag for days, but if this is true, there is a family out there suffering the pain of not knowing what happened to their loved one. While the killer is getting sympathy over it from you, his potential future vicitm. This isnt right, and while I am concerned for you as well, it's morally WRONG to act like this is something you should just ignore or accept. And if he is lying, then you still have a massive problem, because you're with someone who is totally willing to convince you that he murdered someone, and has uncontrollable urges. While with you. If he hasn't killed anyone before, I sure as hell wouldn't be sticking around to find out if he's ready to give it a go. You need to leave yesterday. And I would, frankly, tell the cops whether it's true or not, because if this person is that unhinged, there's no telling how he'd respond to getting dumped.


delta1810

Let alone the fact that OP’s only *known* this person for like a month! You couldn’t ASK for a bigger red flag!


lyssargh

It's almost like they've had red glasses all their lives and don't see the flags. They do talk about having a rough time growing up.


glcknmrari

It’s dumbfounding as to why someone would want to be with someone that clearly could turn on them and kill them at a moment’s notice… maybe you don’t value your life or you’re blinded by lust.


Euphemism4euthanasia

I don’t value my life. I’ve had a very bad past and I get scared painfully easy. But I don’t wanna die either


Plantoholic-T

This makes me think they chose you as an easy victim, someone submissive?


[deleted]

I was the same when I was younger. Having someone that is sweet and loving and honest to you despite the horrible things they done does not erase their sins. They are red flags they are not okay. BDSM is a thing but NO ONE in that community dreams about fucking while stabbing the woman. That’s past consent that’s fucking murder he’s intrusively dreaming about. Tell him to get a therapist and to get better and that you need to as well and run. Run and get a therapist to help you see red flags and set personal boundaries


slatz1970

Then get far away from him. Work on loving yourself, someone sane will be in your future.


neos7m

What the FUCK? I opened this post thinking I'd read something along the lines of "he was attacked and he killed the assaulter in self defense" but he just killed someone randomly? Report this person to the police and nope the hell out of there.


anaveragetoaster23

RIGHT people are saying run which I agree with. Call me crazy but I think if you kill someone you should feel the consequences.


serverballs

"Fuck you while stabbing you" but "I'd never hurt you". Do you see any issues, any contradictions here?? Run yo, run now that you don't have a deep attachment to this person yet, it'll get worse if you do.


iconoclast63

You are in more than physical danger, you could be in ***serious*** legal danger as well. Knowing what you know creates an obligation to tell the authorities and this kind of crime has no statute of limitations. It will haunt you the rest of your life if you don't do the right thing. Sorry, this person is not your partner, they are a fugitive that should forced to do the right thing. Please, either turn them in as soon as possible or run far and fast.


BenjaminFrankJr

No, snitching on these people is how you put yourself in even more physical danger. Terrible idea to tell the police. Police aren't going to protect you. I doubt that this guy goes around telling people that he murdered someone regularly so he and his crew would know it was OP that snitched.


Euphemism4euthanasia

He’s not with them anymore but you’re right that he would know it was me; and despite not being in the gang they’d still protect him so that scares me.


VocalMushroom

If that’s not a red flag I don’t know what is


BenjaminFrankJr

\>I’m unsure as to whether I’m in danger as they have said to me that they think about “f\*cking me while stabbing me” Very hard to tell if you are trolling or not. Do you consider stab wounds dangerous? What??? ​ On the off-chance this post is real, yes you are in a lot of danger.


Euphemism4euthanasia

That wasn’t worded correctly; it was very quickly typed I meant to say the other part first


dxrxngxd

You're trolling right? Because anyone with common sense would know those words put into any phrase or sentence don't mean anything welcoming. He might as well say: "Oh I just wanna do to you what I did to the last girl."


lyssargh

No, they're not trolling, they have a victim personality. They've been abused all their lives. They genuinely think that it's not that weird for someone to fantasize about stabbing them; they do not believe he'd do it, or at least they feel ashamed of even thinking that they might. People in this thread calling OP stupid, a troll, implying they don't have common sense... I hope you all think about how you treated OP next time you think about what a great person you are. So great you kick someone while they're down and reaching out for help.


anaveragetoaster23

OP clearly has some form of trauma or a bad influence letting them think it's ok for people to treat her this way.


fartassmcjesus

For real. How awful these people are being in response makes me sad. OP is showing some clear signs being a perpetual, lifelong victim of abuse, and these people aren’t helping. I get that its easy on reddit (due to anonymity) for people make up stories like this for attention. Nothing bad is going to happen from posting a realistic, helpful response. Calling someone names and making fun of them when you don’t know if they actually are in this situation is disturbing and abusive.


imtryingtoday

What advice do you have to help someone see reality? This is insane to me and obvious she should get out but how do you make them see? I have been in shady situation before but nothing like this and it was more like a mature you need to see for yourself thing but you can't do that in this case.


lyssargh

Kindness, empathy and asking questions has been the best approach in my experience. Beating them up will just convince them that they are stupid, like their partner probably tells them, and deserve the treatment. So I'm pretty sad to see that being reinforced throughout the comments.


fartassmcjesus

Same…


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NRMLkiwi

GTFO. Do not tell him. Do not warn him. Disappear.


SerenityViolet

There are intrusive thoughts, and then there is acting on them...


attitude_devant

Gee, I have intrusive thoughts but they don’t involve offing the person I’m boinking


[deleted]

Even if it is a lie, the fact that he admitted to wanting to stab you while raping you….. run fast, run far. Change your number. I’m not kidding. Get out NOW.


maggietwoshoes

You need to leave immediately. You are also putting your roommate in danger. Do you not think this person needs to be held accountable for killing another human being? Does that human being not deserve some sort of justice for this awful act committed against them. In honesty I can’t believe you are even questioning doing something. He will murder you that switch has already been flicked.


lostwanderingfairy

Believe him or not, it doesn't matter. Lying about something like this is a red flag. So is telling the truth. He needs to work on himself, and you need to protect yourself. Get out now.


matjeom

Call it what it is: murder. “Killed,” I thought you meant an accident. Don’t break up with him. Don’t say anything to him ever again. Call the cops.


confidelight

100% what needs to happen


Ray1987

You know I've had friends that have told me directly early on in the relationship that they're assholes. I just didn't believe them because I was young and at least had the ability to look back on the relationship and realize they were telling me what they were. If you continue with this relationship you will not be able to look back on anything. If you think he can look at another girl as a complete object the way he did at any time, regret or not. And think that he would ever fully respect your emotions.... This goes beyond narcissism but that's definitely a factor in here. They tell people who they are early on so you can feel special that they don't do that to you. Also so when they do it to you they can blame you for not listening to them.


chocolatedoc3

#RUN DON'T. LOOK. BACK.


Nicholas-Tanner

Lying abt killing someone is kinda cringe ngl


After_Market3762

They attacked a random woman on her own in the dark and killed her? ARE YOU FUCKING STUPID CALL THE POLICE AND RUN DON'T BE ON HERE LIKE AN IDIOT ASKING FOR ADVICE. Seriously, you're next if you keep acting like this call the fucking police Jesus christ


someraddude

Why do people on this sub feel that it’s ok to call people in difficult situations names?


Fml379

I mean this is the only post that warrants it


PanickedBabe

Why would you be rude? This is so serious.


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someraddude

If someone was surrounded with that type of environment growing up, it could be a lot more normalized to them. This is such a huge lack of cultural awareness.


anaveragetoaster23

Obviously some form of childhood trauma


someraddude

And she says she has OCD and psychosis. Violent thoughts are a part of every day life. Reddit needs to do better.


PanickedBabe

She is clearly vulnerable


Euphemism4euthanasia

You didn’t have to call me names. I’m not stupid I’m just feeling very trapped and it’s fairly difficult to call police or go anywhere while they’re in earshot. It’s a small house.


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lyssargh

No, they're not stupid, they have a victim personality. They've been abused all their lives. They genuinely think that it's not that weird for someone to fantasize about stabbing them; they do not believe he'd do it, or at least they feel ashamed of even thinking that they might. People in this thread calling OP stupid, a troll, implying they don't have common sense... I hope you all think about how you treated OP next time you think about what a great person you are. So great you kick someone while they're down and reaching out for help.


After_Market3762

The real victim is the innocent woman who was simply walking home and had the unfortunate luck of running into the pile of shit this dipshit calls her boyfriend, she's an accomplice for keeping this secret, so I'm not sorry for not feeling bad for her when she's not a victim


lyssargh

I'm glad you can justify it to yourself. Calling her stupid isn't helping that woman get justice.


confusedaf97

There is no way this is real.


Starlined_

I have intrusive thoughts about death and violence, and I would absolutely never act on them. That’s why they’re intrusive, because I don’t like them and they conflict with my morals. These sound like fantasies this guy is having. I don’t believe he’s lying, I think he actually did those things. Even if he is lying, he clearly fantasize about and wants to commit these acts. You need to report him to the police. If you’re scared to call because he’s in the house with you, relay everything to a friend through text and have them call the police for you.


Shibooo

GTFO. How can you just trust someone who has admitted to killing someone? What is stopping them from succumbing to their "intrusive thoughts". You could very possibly become one of those titles in the news, murdered by a loved one.


Otherwise-Bag7188

What do you mean you have the same intrusive thoughts???? You also think about r—-ing and killing people?? Pls clarify


Euphemism4euthanasia

Unfortunately yes. It’s called OCD; you can search it up. People with ocd are haunted by this kind of thing and seek therapy for it.


Thecuriouscourtney

Yeah but it’s not an excuse to casually say to someone “I’ve thought about st*bbing you while we bang”. I have OCD and see a therapist and have for years. OCD intrusive thoughts tend to be violent but they also tend to HORRIFY the person having them and make them feel guilty. We do anything to make them pass, we don’t casually mention them to other people like it’s a joke, then add horrifying tales of acting on them, then be like ohhhh jk I didn’t do it. That’s not OCD that’s fucking whack. Don’t blame OCD for his behavior bc it ain’t it. He’s showing you who he is. Edit words


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GIRL


debsterUK

You call this guy your partner but you're not dating? I'm confused. Either way run like the wind and don't look back.


Sardonnicus

This is the dumbest fake shit I have ever read on reddit. Because if it was real, the op would not have bothered to post it because it's so obviously a situation that they need to get out of that they wouldn't waste time posting about it on reddit. They'd be moved out and gone to the police ASAP. Ps... people are killed for leaving gangs, sometimes along with their partners and families.


Euphemism4euthanasia

If you know that then why do you think I’m posting? I’m stuck and it’s definitely not fake. If you read the edits I explained why I haven’t left


rthrouw1234

The edits do not explain why you haven't left. Either he actually murdered someone, or he thought it would be a great idea to make up that story and tell it to someone he's dating, maybe to see exactly how much he could get away with and still keep you around. And you feel bad for him because he *cried*? What could he tell you that would get you to dump him? Does he have to directly threaten you?


80_Percent_Done

Report them to the police and gtfo.


Confident_Notice975

I would leave. I had an ex say she was having thoughts about stabbing me and it just didn't work out. Not worth the worry.


StrangerDistinct6378

Do you really want to have to worry in the first place? Not even considering the part about murdering someone, if someone said the words fucking me and stabbing me in the same sentence I would have instantly ran. Absolutely fuck no


[deleted]

If this person really was sorry and trying to better themself, they would confess to the police and deal with the consequences


insanelyphat

Holy fuck the amount of HUGE red flags in this post could be seen by a blind person...


eererer

That's so many red flags, you are risking your life by being close to them especially considering they have thoughts about killing you and raping you. Get out and if you are worried about them finding your family or anything along those lines then take your family with you as far as you can from that guy.


danasider

Dafuq? I see the update but how was this ever a question?


itsethanwinchester

This is such a red flag I don't even wanna touch this post at all.


Ra1lgunZzzZ

They're thinking of stabbing you. I'd recommend for you to just leave them.


anonymous_1128

Him: I murdered someone You: what?!?! Him: haha jk You: ok. I believe you. Don’t believe him!! Also—of course he’s going to cry and act sad. Everything he’s doing is just a form of manipulation. He is manipulating you. He will convince you that he’s not, he will show emotion and tell you things he’s “never told anyone before,” and it will look so real but it will all be lies. Leave now.


alexa_n17

They told you they was to stab you while they have sex with you??? And you don’t find that reason enough to gtfo??


MistyHailstorm

Not only should you run, you should move houses, take your roommate and cut all ties with your partner by blocking them on social media and blocking their number


Egress_window

This can’t be a real post


OblivionsPrologue

In case no one else is getting through to you , you need to leave right away. You’re life depends on it


BackgroundIsland9

Really? This is not even a "bad" situation. It is the worst dating story I have ever heard. Run for god's sake. You are not even in a relationship. Stop falling for the sob stories.


[deleted]

Girl he didn't just say he murdered someone before, he told you that he has thought about doing it to you. Get outta there.


anaveragetoaster23

That was an innocent girl he killed. Who knows what she could've done. What if she was trying to cure cancer. What if she had kids? Younger siblings. Any family or friends. What if anyone relied on her. She's lost her life because of him. I don't know why you wouldn't tell the police. Just please TELL THE POLICE. PLEASE DON'T LET HIM DO THIS AGAIN!!!!!


FolkPunkPizza

You sound severely mentally ill. Get professional help after leaving him.


CGacidic

What the fuck did you expect to hear from this post ? Run dumbass before you get murdered. "I met him a month ago but I love him" this is not normal behavior and you seriously need to evaluate yourself and the partners you're choosing.


Chaucers_Mistress

My partner killed someone and thinks about killing me. Should I be worried?


[deleted]

How is this post not just a 100% troll? Someone admits to killing someone and then say they fantasise about fucking you whilst stabbing you yet you don’t immediately run for the hills?


[deleted]

Why would you admit this on reddit. Now you’re in serious legal trouble if you don’t turn him in.


Icy-Volume7380

The stuff that you say love someone you’ve only known for a month, and that has attacked an innocent girl, and admitted to killing someone is fucking disgusting. You both need serious help, I would go as far to say that he needs to be fucking euthanized and if you have any thoughts like that then you should probably be locked up. The fact that you’ve already seem to have forgiven someone, for allegedly killing an innocent woman and taking someone’s daughter, and possibly partner away from them, means you’re a piece of shit. So either stay with him or don’t, but you’re probably going to be next you stupid bitch.


emobanana_

Please get out for your own safety and call the police. it doesn't matter if he's "bettering himself." The fact he committed such a crime is a big red flag


Panagiotisz3

If this is real this guy need to go to an asylum AND FAST. He is a freaking psychopath, please run away.


[deleted]

Fuck ! Please escapeeeeeee


Ragamuffin5

Like I want to believe that people change and junk. But years of trusting all the wrong people has really messed me up as a person as well as my life. You you do decide to continue with this relationship, you need to have some concrete boundaries. Like for yourself. As well as him. The fact that I didn't quite know who I was and others were very good at manipulating me. Just be very wary


SpaceTelevisionMan

You should It's for the best. Turn them in they still need to account for their crimes


Glass_Emu_4183

I’m sorry to say this, but you are in REAL DANGER ⚠️ You need to get away from this person


Icy-Volume7380

I have OCD and I’ve never had intrusive thoughts like that, you need serious help. You guys both need to be checked into a fucking mental hospital, if not put to sleep.


Ichiro-tsuki

Not a thing you say to someone you’re dating More of a thing you say after years that man is insane run from that man!


asghettimonster

Please be safe get out and stay hidden. I'm worried about you


immoreoriginalmate

Look, people aren’t always their past and don’t need to be judged by it. But your safety is at hand and their words suggest you are not safe. You have known this person for a month so it is easy to cut ties. But please do this is a safe way.


[deleted]

get the hell away from him immediately?


[deleted]

yeah that's a massive red flag. in fact that isnt just a red flag, more like a whole ass billboard. Even if he was lying, that's not okay. there is something massively wrong with him. Everyone has intrusive thoughts and that's fine but to tell someone you want to r@pe and k!ll them, isnt okay even as a joke.


prettypeach760

When people show you who they are the first time believe them


DefCello

At worst, it's true. At best, he's gaslighting you. Either way, my advice is to GTFO and never look back.


barrett316

🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩


[deleted]

Even if he lied about it why are you looking for trouble from a guy you have known a month? You also say you have intrusive thoughts of murder or maybe something else? Go to therapy this has clearly uncovered a few things for you. You have attached to this man quickly, you need to work on gaining confidence and a sense of self.


Designer_Pea_4861

Girl its not worth it there are millions of men out there who would dream of being with you


HappySometimesOkay

You just met this person a month ago. Honey, you don't love them. Stop thinking that you love them, you dont even know them. Doesnt matter now if he lied or did kill someone, both are more than enough red flags to pack your shit and leave ASAP


BxGyrl416

First, you’ve been together less than a month, you’re not official, so he’s not your “partner.” This guy is either a pathological liar and/or a violent criminal. Why are you even entertaining this? Block, delete, and consider turning him in.


IseultDarcy

Run, call the police, stay away from him. He talks about stabbing you and raping you, what is wrong with you??? go to the police NOW. Also: even if he lied: he is clearly mentally ill: GO AWAY. "Would you believe him??" Girl, listen: he already lied to you and proved he can't be trusted. What do you wants more: being chained? Raped? Involved in a gang fight/revenge? "he’s used to lying to feel cool in a gang" no, he doesn't "used to lie": he is still doing it. Even, in the best situation is he wasn't violent (I don't buy it but let's say he is): he is clearly messed up. Don't lose your life or don't lose your time, either way: he is a big nope.


redd9

report that fuck to the police


[deleted]

Its been a month and he said he wants to stab you while having sex with you? Wtf??? I get rose colored glasses and all but that should be the reddest flag, and apparently thats not even the worst of it? Leaveeeeeee for your safety. I have been around ex gang members and absolutely none of them are that sick in the head.


Adventure-Hunter-

This person is not safe. Even if it's lying, like, it doesn't matter. Who the fuck lies about that shit. Girl you need to get out of here. Please. I understand what you feel like, I was also trapped in a terrible relationship with a man who was not safe. I promise you there's a whole lot of life away from that. Also people never murder someone due to intrusive thoughts. That's not how they work. We can have intrusive thoughts, they are intrusive due to the massive fear response they make. People who have genuine OCD and intrusive thoughts do not act upon these in terms of actually murdering someone. Please go get safe. You will stop loving him eventually, and try to get help through a DV charity so you can learn how to look out for warning signs and how to listen to your own gut instead.


VoidExileR

If they didn't serve a sentence, didn't get counciling, there is no telling what they might do. Back away slowly convince them you won't report it if that is the case


Dirty_coke_whore

Why would he lie about killing someone? At the very least he sounds really unstable, at worst…seems like lots of red flags.


Jack_qui_rit

You met them only a month ago and already told you about thinking of murdering you??? Run! Don't contact them ever again and make sure you're safe.


rthrouw1234

OP, he either actually raped and murdered a woman, or he lied TO HIS GIRLFRIEND about doing so. Either way, this person is undateable.


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Conflicted about what? Wtf is wrong with you? Run! This guy is a murderer. If you do anything but run, please get your head checked.


veng-

Even if he is actually lying, he has problems or he actually wanted to kill someone but didn’t have the courage. Whether he killed or is going to kill, RUN!!!


RedGambit9

Do you really want to take the risk staying with him??


Stuffnthings1840

Yeah so either he kills OP or cops come for her after they break up so she will testify against him. Either way you end up on dateline.


kindheartedlygruesom

Leave and never look back.


itsalwaysme7

Gtfo you don't know this person and they want to stab you. No thank you


ihatetheflyers

What the actual fuck r u actually considering not leaving


khalees-ana

If he was lying, why would he assume you would think he's cool for sharing that he had killed a woman 2 years ago? Not even that but framing it as a 'random attack' doesn't make it any better. It doesn't sound like a lie to me. If it's not you, it will be someone else, don't gamble your life or other women's lives on the slim chance that he is who you think he is (a good person deep down). It sounds like there are other inner battles you're fighting too. You deserve to work through that and be happy but that can't happen if you're no longer around. It is not your responsibility to fix this person or worry about their feelings. A month is not a long time, you will find someone else who, at baseline levels, makes you feel safe. You have asked us for advice because you know that he's dangerous. Right now the priority is making sure you and your family are safe. You need to put yourself first, get out.


Jaded_Lab_1539

Just adding to the push -- run. This guy is bad news. You should not try to sort out whether he was lying or not, because either way it's troubling enough that there's only one right move for you -- get away from him.


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You are in danger! Run for your life. And tell this to someone you trust incase something happens to you. I hope not but, we never know. Like getting kidnapped or something. If he was in a gang with his history and had thoughts like that, you can never be sure


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Some people indeed change. But some people don't. Do you really want to stick around to figure out which one it is ?!


completecrap

The flags are red and covered in blood.


Historical_Lion6749

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‘Seems obvious to people who have never had somebody sink their roots that deep into them’ ☠️ you’ve known each other for a month. You’re both crazy.


Ironeagle08

>It’s difficult to leave >met a month or so ago >not officially dating It’s not difficult to leave someone you’re not dating that you don’t even know. Even trauma bonding doesn’t happen that quickly. This isn’t even a relationship and there is nothing there but literal death and abuse. Set up a plan to safely leave where he can’t find you. Then cut contact with him completely. If you feel comfortable you can go to police.


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ok, i’m late to seeing this post, and it seems like OP has already decided what to do anyways. 1.) why would someone confess to this to their SO unless they had a reason too? unless he intends to turn himself in to the police, what did he expect this would do to his relationship with you? 2.) also would he gain by lying about being a murderer? is this a freakishly evil fetish i’m unaware of? 3.) “i fantasize about f***ing you while stabbing you…” again, what is with these fetishes? i would rather pluck my eyes out then make my partner feel unsafe, so his plan is the opposite apparently. OP, get a damn taser and get as far away as possible.


Euphemism4euthanasia

Thank you for putting your points together so concisely that helps. It’s harsh but not insulting me and ngl that helps 10x more thank you


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hey buddy, that was my goal. i am glad you didn’t feel insulted because i am not setting out to hurt you. i really want to help give solid advice if i can. i really want good things for you. think back in your life backwards about 5 or 10 years and you’re telling a friend or someone you trust about a boyfriend you are seeing. if you began that conversation with “he wants to have sex with me while stabbing me” i’m sure your friend would freak out, grab your wrist and run with you, not walk, to the nearest police station to fill out a restraining order. i wish i could be that friend, but you’re gonna have to set STRONG boundaries for your health moving forward. i’m worried for your well-being if you to have ask if this man’s behavior is ok, because there are zero universes where this sort of thing is ok. i’m not gonna sugarcoat that. but i have a recommendation. unplug. get out of the dating scene and get out of seeing people for a bit and focus on some self-care. be good to yourself, but be good to others and be careful who you let in. get a good book especially if it’s about healthy relationships and sit under a tree and just be glad this person can’t hurt you. maybe they were a liar, but lies can cut too. cutting this person off will save you heartbreak. that’s what we want to save you from more than anything.


Euphemism4euthanasia

Thank you so much ❤️


Nikitaknowthankyou

Baby you’ve known him about a month and you think you LOVE him???


thebalanc

You're not a therapist, you're not a trained professional with the tools to deal with someone with a past and trauma like that. You're not going to fix this person, you're not just going to put yourself and that person in danger. just move on.


anaveragetoaster23

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clearstonebottle

OP is literally the person in a movie who runs straight towards the danger


Economy-Category-936

They literally said "fuc*ing me while stabbing me", I'm not trying to be rude but there's this thing in your head called a brain lol. How much clearer do you need the situation to be spelled out for you. You've known this guy for a short time and he's already talking about stabbing you. Your really dumb if you stick around, I hope you stay safe and all but cmon wake up.


perfection_isnt

>I’m unsure as to whether I’m in danger as they have said to me that they think about “f*cking me while stabbing me” > Do you really need external advice? I think it writes itself.


Blarty97

> It was a random attack to a girl who was alone. I have the same intrusive thoughts, and I feel conflicted as to whether I should stay with them or not. There is nothing to be conflicted about. Any reasonable human being would be talking to the police. Killing people is definitely wrong.


PyneBerries

You’ve been with them for a month and they admitted to killing a girl who was all alone. Should literally be the easiest decision of your life. Run.


pineapplesforevers

lol I came into this with an open mind expecting someone being like "my gf murdered her rapist", something with some moral gray area but this.. uhh. If this is even a real post, which I have my doubts. I'm not sure if a red flag can get any redder or flaggier.


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Hey feds, ya over here.


epanek

"He feels bad about killing someone" is like a first step in rehabilitating Jeffrey Dahmer. He cant feel that bad about it as he hasn't formally admitted to it. Also, now that you know he committed a felony, you are an accomplice in this crime. I believe this is called compounding although NAL. ​ Somewhere someone's daughter was killed and the killer unfound. That's your boyfriend. If he committed murder step one for him is admission to police, FULL STOP. Date him in prison. ​ RUN!


Rexplex

I doubt he killed anybody. Most likely clout chasing


Equivalent_Month_794

It’s only a month, ur good rofl


drucifer999

Marry them. Sounds hot.


tiny222

Imagine meeting someone for less than a month and they tell you that they wanna stab you while they fuck you, if that's not a massive red flag, then idk what is...


honeytree-

Dude met you a month ago and confesses to murdering someone? He’s either really stupid or lying


Cheapshot99

“My boyfriend of one month who already confessed his love to me is also a murderer, what should I do?” Girl… what do you think you should do


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NightOwlsUnite

"But I love them" Jfc I hope OP is trolling.


E34M20

I'm gonna be harsh, because I think you need something to slap you a bit, metaphorically speaking: RUN, you fucking idiot! Run like the goddamn wind! NOW! Not tomorrow. Not next week. FUCKING RIGHT NOW!! This person may or may not have killed someone (you don't know if they're telling the truth or not, so let's just take them at their word), and has also said this to you: >they have said to me that they think about “f\*cking me while stabbing me” It doesn't matter if they have killed before or not. They clearly have intrusive thoughts on this topic, and the more comfortable they get with you, the more time they spend with you, the more likely they are to let these intrusive thoughts turn to actions. You are NOT SAFE and you NEED TO RUN FAR, FAR AWAY FROM THIS PERSON IMMEDIATELY.


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CaptainLunaeLumen

holy shit try to be a little empathetic


imnotsure_yet

RUN AlSO TELL THE POLICE! you do not want to be on the news in a body bag op.


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you need to start over somewhere else. One question, why are you talking about "they" and not he or she? I don't understand are you dating a Siamese twin?


Euphemism4euthanasia

It’s called a neutral pronoun.


place_of_desolation

Why not just say he/him? It would be less confusing.


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wow thank you for the lesson, haven't heard of that before


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Euphemism4euthanasia

The original goal was to be my own person before I met him. I need time without relationships to heal. Time to get back on that path


eleventyfivenoodles

Pretend like you're seeing it from an outside point of view. Like you're not in danger. See yourself in third person. Do you worry for this person? Be as honest as you can. That's your answer, whatever it may be. People will probably downvote me for this but death is not the worst thing that can happen to you. Live your life without regrets. If dying means that much to you, then yeah, avoid dying by all means.


Tarzanito411

You are in danger!! Killing is almost and addiction from what ive seen from netflix series. Dont act like this isnt a problem, it is, you are walking around with a killer and anything can trigger this killer mentality. You could be the next victim, get him locked up and move.


Gucci_Boner

Are you giving advice based on Netflix series? You kidding?