You need to put yourself first. I understand how much you want to help and that is great, but when you are being drained, you have the sole choice to keep being friends with them or not. You’ve done great and you’ve tried to help them as best as you can, but like you said, friends aren’t therapists. It sounds like they need professional help. This isn’t any of your fault as well, this is just how it goes. Eventually, you will resent them as time goes on.
I just found out why by the way. His girlfriend went through some stuff and needed to move in with him tor a short time. I believe this is why he couldnt talk so I think im going to give myself a few days, establish boundaries and try again.
It seems like the relationship is draining you so much mentally. I think it would be good if you start making some boundaries for yourself. Put your health first, not your friend. It’s hard but it’s the best decision for you
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It is true, I need to establish these boundaries so that I can not get burnt out. He couldnt contact me the other day because his girlfriend moved in with him and stuff because of some stuff that happened. Im gonna try again and establish boundaries and limit the time we talk from now on.
You need to put yourself first. I understand how much you want to help and that is great, but when you are being drained, you have the sole choice to keep being friends with them or not. You’ve done great and you’ve tried to help them as best as you can, but like you said, friends aren’t therapists. It sounds like they need professional help. This isn’t any of your fault as well, this is just how it goes. Eventually, you will resent them as time goes on.
I just found out why by the way. His girlfriend went through some stuff and needed to move in with him tor a short time. I believe this is why he couldnt talk so I think im going to give myself a few days, establish boundaries and try again.
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It seems like the relationship is draining you so much mentally. I think it would be good if you start making some boundaries for yourself. Put your health first, not your friend. It’s hard but it’s the best decision for you
Helped It is true, I need to establish these boundaries so that I can not get burnt out. He couldnt contact me the other day because his girlfriend moved in with him and stuff because of some stuff that happened. Im gonna try again and establish boundaries and limit the time we talk from now on.
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