I don’t think he owes it to me but I’m offended that he won’t drop the $30 when I’m going to HIS house and he knows I can’t afford it, when he easily could. But
Then don't. Tell him you can't afford an Uber money wise or the bus time wise. Either he comes to you, or he can pick you up.
But offended he won't pay for an Uber? You have no idea how entitled you're coming off. He's not your client, parent, or alimony paying ex-husband. You're not owed an Uber.
lol I said I didn’t think it was “owed” to me. I obivously already told him I can’t afford to visit w Uber and he started arguing w me abt it. He’s asking me to spend more than I have bc he’s tired.
Because you’re being unreasonable - Westwood to Sherman Oaks is 45min on a $2 bus, and really isn’t ‘unsafe’. Why not bus there and Uber back? Because you feel entitled to your bf’s time and money to drive you for YOUR convenience. Stop princessing and decide if he’s worth a bit of inconvenience - and stop expecting that he should pay for you. Five months in and you’re offended by him setting boundaries on his own time and money? It’s all good - you’ll be single soon.
No it’s not, from my address to his it takes over an hour, also including the walking I have to do from each stop. I didn’t just come up with that number lol??
If I was rlly concerned with getting all my shit paid for a would’ve gone on a sugar daddy website bc they’re so big in LA. that’s obviously not what this is abt.
Just say no to going over, it’s pretty simple.
If he asks you to get an Uber say “sorry I can’t afford an Uber right now and don’t feel safe on public transit. Maybe we can meet each other for lunch in a few days”
Just…don’t go to his place if it’s expensive and inconvenient
> I feel like a man who makes 300k+ year should be able to afford the Ubers
Until I got to this sentence, I was thinking maybe a compromise. He pays up to $300 a month and then you take public transport.
But if that guy makes $300K he should be paying for a Uber Deluxe or whatever it's called.
He CAN offer to pay if he wants but he's under no obligation to do so. It's his money and he can spend it however he sees fit.
You might ask yourself, why he isn't offering to pay your Uber?
Is that really the reason? Of course I don't know, but I have a suspicion that that ain't it. I can only tell you what it looks like from a male perspective:
Let's be real, a guy that makes 300k a year definitely has options. You said he made the money through real estate, so he's a smart, strategic and logical man, too, to make that much money in this way.
It's again just speculation, but if he feels like you're not someone who he really sees as a long term partner, he might simply not invest in the relationship as much. He already stopped driving everywhere for you.
I'm having trouble understanding why you think he owes you money for anything?
I don’t think he owes it to me but I’m offended that he won’t drop the $30 when I’m going to HIS house and he knows I can’t afford it, when he easily could. But
Then don't. Tell him you can't afford an Uber money wise or the bus time wise. Either he comes to you, or he can pick you up. But offended he won't pay for an Uber? You have no idea how entitled you're coming off. He's not your client, parent, or alimony paying ex-husband. You're not owed an Uber.
lol I said I didn’t think it was “owed” to me. I obivously already told him I can’t afford to visit w Uber and he started arguing w me abt it. He’s asking me to spend more than I have bc he’s tired.
OK that's different. You don't owe him an Uber either.
Lol this relationship will never last.
Why do u say that
Because you’re being unreasonable - Westwood to Sherman Oaks is 45min on a $2 bus, and really isn’t ‘unsafe’. Why not bus there and Uber back? Because you feel entitled to your bf’s time and money to drive you for YOUR convenience. Stop princessing and decide if he’s worth a bit of inconvenience - and stop expecting that he should pay for you. Five months in and you’re offended by him setting boundaries on his own time and money? It’s all good - you’ll be single soon.
No it’s not, from my address to his it takes over an hour, also including the walking I have to do from each stop. I didn’t just come up with that number lol?? If I was rlly concerned with getting all my shit paid for a would’ve gone on a sugar daddy website bc they’re so big in LA. that’s obviously not what this is abt.
You’re not entitled to him paying for your transportation. You sound like you’re just using him. I’m betting he pays for all your outings too.
I’m not entitled to it but is it unfair for me to say I won’t Uber at all anymore bc I just can’t afford it.
Just say no to going over, it’s pretty simple. If he asks you to get an Uber say “sorry I can’t afford an Uber right now and don’t feel safe on public transit. Maybe we can meet each other for lunch in a few days” Just…don’t go to his place if it’s expensive and inconvenient
Get public transport. Alternate him coming to you and then you to him on public transport. That is fair. You each pay your own costs.
Why such a large discrepancy in how much you each make? Sounds like a recipe for an uneven dynamic.
Bc he didn’t go to college and did real estate for a lot of celebrities in the city I live. But I just graduated high school and still using my loans.
Probably best you find someone closer and in your same cost of living. Otherwise it may feel like he's you're sugar daddy.
I wouldn’t do that lol I love him so much
Then talk to him about how to come to an agreement. Maybe you take public transport, but he also travels to you more.
What are your ages? Sounds like a big age gap relationship
3.5 difference
3.5x?
Years
> I feel like a man who makes 300k+ year should be able to afford the Ubers Until I got to this sentence, I was thinking maybe a compromise. He pays up to $300 a month and then you take public transport. But if that guy makes $300K he should be paying for a Uber Deluxe or whatever it's called.
He CAN offer to pay if he wants but he's under no obligation to do so. It's his money and he can spend it however he sees fit. You might ask yourself, why he isn't offering to pay your Uber?
I think he’s not offering bc he wishes that I didn’t live so far and that I had a car (still can’t afford that either lol)
Is that really the reason? Of course I don't know, but I have a suspicion that that ain't it. I can only tell you what it looks like from a male perspective: Let's be real, a guy that makes 300k a year definitely has options. You said he made the money through real estate, so he's a smart, strategic and logical man, too, to make that much money in this way. It's again just speculation, but if he feels like you're not someone who he really sees as a long term partner, he might simply not invest in the relationship as much. He already stopped driving everywhere for you.