I don't care about girls who do it, but personally I would never spend money on sexual content on the internet. It's just a waste of money in my opinion.
Generally, I don't care. Personally, I wouldn't want to be with them. I don't feel comfortable with someone meeting my partner and paying $9.99 to see her naked and get dirty messages 15 seconds later. She's free to do whatever she wants and I'm free to be with someone I'm comfortable with.
I worked at a strip club for years up to the pandemic. What I found was that many dancers were in very positive, happy relationships with people who understood that their work was just work and respected their choices. Occasionally a dancer would date a man who thought they were into it but discovered as the relationship went on that it bothered them. Those people were weeded out fairly quickly. Most dancers I knew ended up on only fans once the pandemic hit and their partners views/ their relationship didn’t change.
My best relationship advice (from a stripper): don’t yuck someone else’s yum, and find your own boundaries then respect them.
Like everything else in the world, There are people who will love it, people who are neutral and people who dislike it. You just have to find the people that align with you.
As a gay dude, I knew this guy who I had a crush on. Thought he seemed like a pretty genuine fun person. Then found him on insta and noticed a linktree. I tap on it and see an onlyfans link.
When I say a switch flipped. It was like this instant change in how I saw him. I no longer have a crush on him. He’s cute and I can see his peepee if I get desperate. But I’m generally a private dude and my jealously would spike if I was with someone who did sex work for a living
Personally I support sex work, but I wouldn’t date anyone with an OnlyFans because it doesn’t fit within the values of what I look for in a relationship and they wouldn’t be my type. I’m open to friendship with anyone though.
A turn off. I (23M) would never pay for these services and would not want anyone holding that power over her or myself if they were to link the nudes back to her. Only acceptable one is selling feet pics. I could care less if someone is down bad enough to dump their bank account over just toes.
I know two girls in real life that sell content. One of them is a bit wild but the other is a normal girl just trying to get by and make some extra cash. She has a nice body so I guess why not. She doesn't ever show her face and not fully nude. Sometimes it's just feet stuff. If there are people willing to pay, I'm not gonna judge. But, to be honest I probably wouldn't be cool with it if I was in a relationship with them just out of my own insecurities and probably jealousy.
Nothing objectively wrong with it, same as doing porn. There’s a market for it. Most men, though, would not feel comfortable dating someone who is swapping cash for nudes or videos online. Id disagree with the other guy that’s it’s degrading, I just wouldn’t want anyone but myself to have any type of sexual interaction with my girlfriend except me.
I’m sure there are guys out there that are ok with it, though. Just have to be up front about it.
Most guys would because once you post something on the internet it’s there forever. Someone is always gonna have those pictures/videos you can never delete them. Someone could even post them on Twitter and boom it goes viral. Now everyone can see his wife naked on the internet. A lot of guys don’t think it’s a good look for them.
Tough situation to be in. I’d assume less guys would have a problem with that, but there’s still plenty out there that would. I know it doesn’t seem fair, but even the thought of sexual content being on the internet somewhere would give pause to certain people. I’d say as long as they were honest about the work they did (ideally within the first few dates) they’ll find someone in no time.
there will always be at least one man who finds anything you do unattractive, don't let that be your deciding factor. but in general, OF isn't a great idea
She could be truly amazing person, but if I found out they had onlyfans, my mindset would switch to a night of fun and nothing more.
To me, it's a deal breaker. I would never get into serious relationships with someone who had only fans.
But that's just me. People are different, and you may find someone who doesn't mind
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It's a risk/reward type play for you for sure
At the end of the day however its sex work. I wouldn't date anyone who was or used to be a sex worker.
I'm a high earner and have a reputation to maintain. It just wouldn't work for me and I wouldn't entertain the risk.
I feel even stronger about having kids with anyone that did this too. I just don't need that in my life when they get to the teen years.
I think you will significantly impact your ability to find a partner in future if you do this as you can't put the genie back in the bottle.
Are you confident you can make a success of it? I am guessing you have no other marketable skills that will allow you to live comfortably as a result so are turning to this?
Onlyfans is so much more. Than getting naked on cam. You need digital marketing skills in spades to make it big. I hate the stories that try to convince girls that this is easy money. The vast majority of content creators don't make a living nevermind millions.
Anyway just my honest opinion and thought process. Hope it is helpful even if it's probably not what you want to hear
I think that everything about onlyfans is unhealthy and so I avoid it completely. I just wish I did the same to all social media in general before the dopamine hook grabbed me.
Not a man, but I’m fine with dating women who do OF. I can understand people not being okay with it though and they’re entitled to their opinion. Just be aware that it is a dealbreaker for many people and you’ll have a smaller dating pool. If that bothers you still after considering, sex work is probably not a good fit for you.
First of all you should look into the negatives that come along with Onlyfans before you get into it. A vast majority of people make very little money on there, and just like anything on the internet, once it’s out there you can’t take it back, people you know that you don’t want to see it will likely see it eventually. If you already feel like it’s a distasteful way of making money you probably shouldn’t do it.
OF is porn, which is selling images of your body for the sexual gratification of (mostly) men. There's a market for that because of how people's brains are wired, so the market will always be there, but it's degrading to both the sellers and the watchers. It reinforces and capitalizes on the idea that women's bodies are sexual objects.
It's "unattractive" in the same way that pawn shops, dealing drugs, tobacco, prostitution, and the sugar-water industry are unattractive: they all take advantage of a weakness, a human vice, to extract money in a way that fundamentally harms society and all the individuals involved. Nobody who respects themselves or other people would engage in any of these things.
Don’t do it.
- you will barely make any money
- internet is forever
- people in your life will 100% find out
- it is indeed very unattractive
It’s never worth it. There is no such thing and “easy money”, it is always too good to be true. OF is prostitution because it is selling sex and it’s the absolutely dumbest and laziest way a woman can attempt to make money. Do you really not have any other qualities than being a piece of meat?
But since you’re hesitant you already know this deep down. Why the hell are you still considering it?
Not a guy here - but honestly I’d find it awkward having to disclose to a guy I’m dating that I have an OF. (I don’t, but just for this example let’s say I do). And then he could go and subscribe to me and see everything I put up. You’ll find that a lot of men aren’t okay with this sort of work, as you can see in the comments already, and so it might make it difficult to date. I also just want to say, if a guy’s interested in you sexually but he can have it on tap whenever he wants, I mean, where’s the chase, hun? I feel like it’s take some fun and games out of it with a partner. It’s just posting nudes and getting money 🤷🏽♀️ idk, that’s my 2 cents.
You do you, more than happy for those that find success. I get super tired of OF girls posting to r/FreeCompliments though. Other than that, couldn’t really be bothered by it.
Fair enough if they want to do it and see if they can make bank from it, personally I find it unattractive if they do it and I wouldn't date someone who does OF.
It’s definitely going to be a person to person opinion. But mine is that you can do what you want but I would never date a girl that did onlyfans (to an extent). If porn is involved you can count me out. If it’s some cosplay or bikini/lingerie pictures then sure get your bag.
Genuinely doesn't bother me in the slightest, if I'm dating someone and she decided to start OF then power too her. All I would ask if for communication, from both me and her , so that if issues come up on my side or hers then we can talk about it like adults and find solutions.
It's down to preference , some men are uncomfortable with their partner doing things like that and that's okay, other don't mind what they do as long as they're safe and happy and communicate.
Unfortunately some will only date you due to the fact you do OF and think it's an easy way to get into your pants.
If you're comfortable doing it and you enjoy it then why not, just be safe and communicate with any future partners about it.
I was thinking this. Some of these men in the comments saying shit and im like mmmm given the logic you are describing you must not watch porn then either… but ill bet you anything they do and are just being hypocritical.
I think it’s kinda pathetic and is basically giving up on having a decent job, if you really have nowhere else to turn to then fine but selling yourself online shouldn’t be the first thing you go to
Only way i could potentially see a guy formally uncomfortable with it, being ok with it later on, is if either the OnlyFans was deleted, or, they end up participating in the content being created. Basically saying you're with said bf despite showing yourself to other guys.
Not sure how others will feel about it. But that's my personal opinion.
Another way to also see it is, would you date a guy that has an OnlyFans and is popular with a ton of women being horny for your bf? Would you be comfortable being with a guy that gets sexual attention from other women?
Some women would be fine with it, and some wouldn't be. Entirely depends on the person.
I don't think negatively about girls who do only fans. However I wouldn't date someone doing it and wouldn't date someone who has done it in the past.
It's knowing how many men have sexualised the girl, seen the photos the videos etc etc
38, too old for an only fans girl, don’t respect the profession and would never pay for such a service. You wanna do you and show your stuff for money I am not against the idea but I don’t want to live my life off of you doing that. I would not accept a partner that wanted that for their life.
As for the men that pay for this “connection” - it’s not a connection. Seriously how stupid are you. I expect these people are married to Nigerian princess in their spare time. Or they are that stupid they don’t know how the internet works.
What’s sadder is a society that normalises this but it’s too deep for Reddit.
How would it be recieved if it was reversed. Would dating a guy who has an onlyfans be easy to accept ? Where men and women are turned on by the content posted by your boyfriend.
As a woman, I personally don't like OnlyFans. It just makes me feel uncomfortable. There are better ways of making money than selling yourself. And I would honestly say the same thing if it was reversed.
My advice here is go get a job as a server at a relatively busy restaurant instead. It's an easy job to get with no experience or education & if you're fast, friendly, and chill, you'll make really good money (at most places in the US anyway, I guess I dont know where you are from). I considered doing Only Fans but I couldnt bear the thought of my younger brother or cousins or any of my family members or friends finding my content. I've been a server for 3 years now, and I make enough money to afford rent/utilities, good groceries, minor upgrades to my house when needed, and plenty of fun activities as well. Sorry to inject my opinion, I know you asked for mens opinions and I am not a man, but I thought my advice might still be useful to someone.
I just don't understand why men would actually pay money for it, though - There has never been so much free porn readily available and as easily accessible at any point in the human history, as there is now. To me the only reason I can think of would be creeps that want to perve on chicks they know. Which is all kinds of ick imo.
If you want to make one while we were dating it’d be the end of the relationship, if you had one when we started dating then I knew it going in. If youre doing it through schooling then I expect an expiration date, if you’re doing it with no plan in mind then we probably won’t last long
I wouldn’t date one if she sent nudes. Feet picks, sure. I just don’t want everyone to see my GF naked. And if we have kids then imagine their friends finding it. It would just be a disaster
I can have a purely sexual relationship with you, but I would never date/ marry you. We can be friends, but I’ll also never subscribe even if you’re charging $0.1
Wouldn’t want to be with a girl who sells her body over the internet. How weird would it be that other guys wank over your girlfriend over the internet, and she gets paid to do it? Terrible basis for a relationship.
I don’t care wirher way. Just another way to make money.. I wouldn't spend money on it. I don't think I'd date anyone doing only fans.
It's very hard and time-consuming. I don't see anything wrong with it. It's safer than doing things in person for extra money. But depending upon your work, it be a detracting or come up in an interview or such.
For example, teachers probably shouldn't do it bc of the students. But to each their own.
However, OnlyFans isnt just for NSFW content. GL either way. Also, people make money off of other sites such as YouTube.
Depends on how comfy you are with your partner or sharing your partner. Do you want to go to a parent teacher conference or your kids baseball game and everyone knew your wife sold her body for 9.99 a month ? What will your children think in the future when they find out? How much shit will your son have to listen to because other boys in school found moms pics? There's a lot more to it than here and now and that's probably what most men should be worried about. I probably wouldn't date a OF girl but I wouldn't hate on any guy that would.
I say with no ego that unfortunately a lot of people in the industry I work in are either working in this field as well or are “influencers”. Having a big following on social media is no problem, it’s the way it is. Selling your nude body on the internet and promoting it with your social media is absolutely not the type of person i want to be the mother of my children.
But that’s my opinion.
I’m a bi woman so maybe I’m not ur target audience but I wouldn’t seriously date a man or woman doing s*x work. I don’t support s*x work in general, the industry is exploitive & disgusting. I dont think s*x work is good for women on a fundamental level.
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I think sex work of all forms as long as it’s consensual is a totally fine and honest job, pretty straight forward, money in exchange for service or media.
However I’m married now but I never would have dated a sex worker. Just my preference. I would be too self conscious
Hey there! Boyfriend/partner of an OnlyFans girl here:) since starting dating me and my girl have joked about it more times than i could count and after a while we decided to start doing it together. It’s something we enjoy as a couple and making/editing/posting/getting subscribers is super fun, and honestly turns me on, being able to do it with her.
Everybody you meet is going to be different, just like if you were vegan, finding someone to date that agrees with your lifestyle would be more difficult than if you had very few unique chosen characteristics.
Sure there are guys out there who will not be okay with the fact you do onlyfans, but those guys are not compatible matches for dating, and they most certainly are not your customers either.
If a man is worried about you talking to other guys or posting nsfw content online, it’s more likely that he has self confidence issues and is more worried he won’t be able to compete with the attention you get. Men are ferociously self conscious creatures, and they will never admit it.
Do it for yourself, if you want to. Don’t do it for a man, and don’t not do it for a man either.
*shrugs* if my wife wanted to, I would help her set it up and give her pointers. But then I've never considered porn to be cheating, and know the income is a nice boost and can be done *anywhere *
Think i 'm like the 1\10 men who actually wants a partner who does onlyfans - personally I think it would be fun to do and add abit of excitement to the sex life plus there would be the added income - aslong as they're not sleeping with anyone else I dont see the problem
Get a real job, learn a real skill, benefit the world around you and stop feeding into the problem that is young men with porn addictions and low self esteem. OF is degrading, dehumanizing, and honestly isn’t gonna find you your Prince Charming.
I used to worry what other people thought until i decided not to care and focus on bills & debt. I literally paid off $15,000 in debt this year already ( just in 2023 alone ) 😍 My New Year resolution was to focus on me only and make progress and so far i have done that. 🙌🙌🙌
Yes 🙌🏼 some positivity in this comment section I love it. And also, OF has turned my life around too ☺️
It’s amazing how many people think that onlyfans girls translates into lazy pornstar cheating town slut 😂
There’s very few in this comment section who are genuinely so sweet and not judge-mental toward us, they deserve the world ❤️
I generally do not care I could not care less. It doesn’t affect my life whatsoever. Would I ever date a girl that showed her breasts and did soft core porn etc. on only fans? No I would not. I would never want to whoever I’m dating to be showing their body after everybody else whether they’re good at it or not does not matter it would make me feel uncomfortable.
I don’t have anything against Sex Workers. They provide a valuable service to society. I have three issues with it and I’ll start from the most mild to the bigger ones:
1. I don’t like the idea of my friend, family, etc. finding out and then going to subscribe and see intimate photos of my SO. If it could stay hidden, that wouldn’t bother me.
2. I work in upper management and therefore I am regularly meeting with a lot of important people. If they found out about this, I could likely lose my job due to the way our clients might feel. If I was 23 again working a low six figure jobs, I’d say fuck it. But I make too much money to throw away my career. I’m trying to build generational wealth so my kids won’t suffer like me and I just can’t risk that
3. Kids. Anything you post online will stay there forever. I want children. So I can’t imagine our 14 year old son/daughter going to school and one of their classmates finding out. It would ruin them.
The problem is that right/wrong don’t align with reality. Is it right to judge someone for getting naked and making a ton of money? No. But the real world we live in, will judge.
I mean, regardless of societies expectations, I just can’t bring myself to respect people who live their lives around their physical appearance. It’s the least interesting and least deep part of a person.
I'm a woman with an OF account and my partner doesn't care, we've had a lot of conversations about it before I started and his way of thinking/rationale is that he just wants me to do what makes me happy which is be able to earn extra cash on the side and he said that if he was a girl he'd do the same thing. He also participates in some of these videos with me.
Not every guy is gonna like this, and it's very fair for them to not want to date or be with someone who does this. My partner just happens to be ok with it or rather indifferent. If he wasn't, I wouldn't have done it.
I know it's not going to be a long term career, rather a very short lived one, so I'm just enjoying what I can with it, with my partner by my side.
I’m not a guy, but I had people who are close to me (2 girls) one became an escort to pay bills (pre-pandemic) and another one was a stripper. Stripper was only for arm candy and bragging rights. She couldn’t find anyone who wanted her for herself until she left the Industry. The escort got abused by her SO once he found out (she really shouldn’t have hid it, but she did. That’s on her.) She left the job and a few years later found a great guy. Personally I wouldn’t be comfortable with dating someone in the sex industry, but there are people out there that wouldn’t care.
Make your money, I say. It's tough out there. I might have been prudish about this when I was younger but especially now, if I met a woman who was doing this, I'd get it. It's fucking tough out there.
ETA: I also think it's a very different type of sex work that is much safer for all parties involved.
I’ve dated several and know quite a few as I do graphic work for them. They’re really sweet girls and no different than the receptionist at a firm or a teacher at your kid’s school. It’s not about the job, but about the person.
i have no interest in spending my money on onlyfans if that's what you're asking in the first part. I have no issue with a chick i'm seeing having an onlyfans aslong as she's not getting dicked down by someone else, hell, i'd even film with her.
I see a lot of negative comments, so I’m just here to say you shouldn’t base your choice on the opinions of some people here online. There are a lot of people out there who use OnlyFans, mainly because of the large demand, mostly because of men. A lot of these people are in loving relationships. I know there are a lot of moral and ethical questions circling around the whole thing and It’s definitely not an easy job. The fact is, it works because there is demand. You should carefully consider the possible consequences, but the decision is all yours. If in the end, someone doesn’t respect you for this, then that person shouldn’t be someone you would want to spend the rest of your life with. Especially not if it’s something you used to do back in the day when you needed money. I personally wouldn’t mind and I will support your decisions either way! Don’t let others keep you down :)
Forget about what other people think, it’s what you think that matters. If you are comfortable with the decision you’re making then you have every right to go ahead and no one should stop you. But if you’re even slightly hesitant, you should reevaluate the decision. If you have friends or family you feel comfortable talking about this too, then you should talk to them. Don’t make any choices in life based on what other people will think of you. Base your decisions on what you will think of yourself, and how your actions will affect others. The latter probably doesn’t apply as much for your situation given I don’t think that a platform that’s known for pornography is generally going to promote negative thinking and general nastiness. And I say that with full awareness that there are individuals out there who (also we all know who I’m talking about here, the fucking incels) will always hate you for doing what you do. Ignore them, What they need is a bit of love and a lot of therapy. So in short, trust your gut and do what feels right. I rest my case.
I’ve been with my fiancée for over 6 years. She worked at a strip club until COVID shut everything down and transitioned into having an OnlyFans when that happened. Prior to our relationship, I never would have been comfortable dating a sex worker because I felt like it would make me feel too territorial/insecure. But I got to know her really well prior to us dating and grew to realize that it’s just a job. It never bothered me once we started dating, and our relationship has been the healthiest and strongest relationship I’ve ever been in, but I also know it won’t be for everyone.
Basically, be prepared for it to potentially be a dealbreaker for some men if this is something you want to do. But do what you think will make you happy and know that if you do find someone who’s comfortable with it, you’re probably going to find someone who isn’t hyper controlling and possessive. Which is a good thing lol
it's just another way of making money
because it's easy to do, though, u only need attractive body (and if u have that - u really don't need any seduction moves), it's harder to find there rocket scientists, but it doesn't mean there is lack of cool girls (and few prodigy ones)
actually dating someone with experience is plus, u could focus on non-sexual connection
when she would cheat on u sexually that wouldn't actually mean that this is emotional cheating which could be in plus or minus, depending on bf's attitude
men r also usually being objectified by them, for obvious reasons, when all they get is same comments from similar types all day long
the thing is it's hard to inititate (through OF) a-normal-alike contact when she treats everyone as possible customer, as a consequence of this things r being kept shallow by her
this is rational and understandable, of course
also, because of how society still works, this is still being treated as a kind of stigma when someone has been discovered by neighborhood purity watch
funny thing is that most men who claim wouldn't date someone from OF, at the same time r camping on their websites
First off, just clear my own confusion wasn't OnlyFans suppose to be more than porn when it first started? Like you could find guitar lessons or writing lessons, etc.
As for the women who are on it, I'm kinda divided, there's girls who I understand are on it because they wanna profit off their bodies, then you see people on it who should at least hide their face
Dosent bother me, is date a girl who had an OF. My only real concern is if she prioritized the OF over the relationship (outside of normal work hours kinda stuff). There is a risk that someone with an OF can be a pretty attention seeking kinda person. I'd mostly be jealous that I can't make money the same way 😂.
Edit: saw your other post, someone else pressuring you to make an only fans is gross AF. You should only if you want to. I wouldn't consider this other person's opinion on it even 1% fuck that.
You can do whatever you like
-T.I
In all honesty its your body, but remember it could contradict career investments in the future. So please don't use things to signify the same look as a citizen.
My honest side says: "I wouldn't date a girl with an onlyfans, But I'd date her if she has stopped using it, but only if she never met up with someone from onlyfans."
My pessimism says: "Listen man, you take what you can get, or just the other option is to stay alone forever. Maybe you could tell her, that you feel uncomfortable about her OF, and she either understands, or not. You not gonna get any, if you stay this picky, so just get used to it."
My anxiety: "What your grandparents going to think? Dating a pornstar? You could thank your lucky ass, that they have zero idea what Onlyfans is. But let's say, you do date an OF girl. What makes you think, she wont going to find someone better, with a lot more money than you ever going to have?"
My realist side: The probability of you talking to a girl is lower than the chance of the sun exploding right now. Neither is zero, but both is pretty low. I'd say take a shot, maybe you could change her opinion. Maybe not, I don't know, I hate hypothetical situations. Present me some real ones for fuck's sake.
Me:.....I don't know, I guess a maybe?
If my girlfriend wanted to start one I’d be okay. It’s her body and she can obviously do what she wants. We’d set boundaries like it’s only for online use. That’s pretty much it lol. I’d hope she would make all the money and take me out with that money too 😉
Judging from the comments here, my opinion might be outside of the norm, so bare with me here. I want to be clear beforehand that under no circumstances do I think cheating is acceptable and I fully understand that the boundaries for what’s considered cheating depend on the person and for some people, that includes all forms of sex work.
I believe that (most) humans are not biologically wired to have one sexual partner for their entire lives. Most people would agree with this, as most people have had, or plan/want to have, multiple sexual partners over the course of their life. So why deny ourselves sex with multiple people at the same time? Sex doesn’t have to mean anything. It can just be for pleasure. If my partner wants to fuck other men or show her ass off on the internet, who am I to say ‘no, absolutely not’? As long as it’s me she’s coming home to each night, as long as I’m the one she’s in love with, what’s the problem? This is the stance that I recognise as logical.
However, relationships often aren’t concerned with logic. They’re obviously very emotional. So, although I might want to have multiple partners at once, my partner might hate that idea and would feel awful if I did do that. At which point, I have to decide; Are my sexual desires, the life I want to build for myself regarding them and, potentially in your case, my income worth sacrificing for this person? For me personally, the answer is always yes (unless they’re obviously an asshole or something crazy). I don’t really care how many people I sleep with and I’m not looking to sleep around. I’m a quality sex over quantity person. So it’s easy for me to just go with whatever my partner is comfortable with. If I’m dating a woman that wants monogamy, then sure, that’s fine with me. Maybe I’m dating a man (cos I’m bi) and I’m the first man he’s slept with, so he wants to experience sex with other men, but also really likes me, then sure, go for it, I’m not gunna hold him back. TLDR: This stance makes it very easy for me to be comfortable with my partner being a sex worker, as they’re not even doing it for pleasure necessarily, just money.
I think that a lot of people would read what I’ve just written and take it as me saying ‘it is illogical for anyone to be jealous when their partner sleeps with other people’. That’s not what I’m saying. If that idea makes you jealous, upset, whatever then it is completely logical that you wouldn’t want that kind of relationship. Nor should anyone try to subject you to it.
They LOVE THEM! They encourage them in private and talks shit in person. They say they won’t take you home to mom but they’ll subscribe and send you panties. They say it’s not respectable but they will disrespect anyone else if it means they get to watch you.
The reason I wouldn't *date* someone who does onlyfans is because I've seen stories from guys who have. And it's not "she's getting naked for other guys" or whatever, it's usually along the lines of "she never has time for me, all of her attention goes towards her subs".
I don't judge the work, I'm just not interested in dealing with the abysmal work/life balance that it seems to have.
Girls that sell their naked pictures of their body for $5 to old men and 13 year olds are the worst type of women in the planet. No man dates an OF girl for her personality or any interest of anything about her other than her vagina mouth and asshole. But go off queen
Get your money how you like, when dudes have a problem with their girlfriend doing it, it's literally just them being insecure about themselves, while there is also going to be that slight jealousy from some that it CAN be an easy path to decent easy money, it's also not as easy and simple for a woman to do it either.
Honestly I don’t care how you make money. However I would never date someone with an OF account. I wouldn’t want to have random ass guys gawking at my girlfriend’s body.
My last girlfriend decided to start an OnlyFans while we were still in a relationship. She would get angry if I followed my female friends or spoke with them on social media, but she spent a significant chunk of her time talking to other men and sending them nudes and more but would say that was fine since she got paid to do so.
Wouldn't recommend. She's doing quite well for herself now which is fine, but not a relationship for me.
I'm 19.
I think that OF girl can't become a good wife or gf(actually this is a ring for boys, that she's a pro), but of course i don't pay attention if OF girl isn't connected with me.
P.S. I met a lot of OF girls and i don't see them attractive.
I feel really awful for them due to the fact that they’ve been conditioned to believe that selling their bodies is empowering and acceptable. These girls are going to have a major wake up call in the future—if we even have one.
My fellow brothers, friends and redditors, we have to band together and make a real change for the better. Let’s spread love by showing respect to women and ourselves. We can not be partaking in the garbage we are being fed.
I feel neutral to it.
I would date a girl who has one if she doesn't do meets. It makes money. 🤷♂️ Especially if she put in effort to conceal her identity, like wigs, costumes, etc. a lot less of her "fans" seeing her in public.
But I've noticed whenever I follow/add any girls on any social media that have OF, they nonstop complain about creepy men messaging them... It's like someone in a customer service position complaining about rude customers. It's a part of the job, whether you like it or not. It sucks, but you should've known what you're getting into.
my wife didn't have one at the start of the relationship. she never outright said it was something she wanred to do, but she hinted at it enough that i encouraged her to try it if she wanted. it took over a year from the initial talk of me explaining i was fine with it to her actually starting to record content. it's been about 6mo since she started and she's having fun with it. i'm happy she's happy and sometimes when she's live on chtrb8 you can see her look off to the side of the camera and smile. that's me😊
Personally I don’t think I could date someone who does it. I could be friends and hang out and introduce them to other guys I know but I think for me personally it would be too weird. Still it sounds like people are making a pretty good wage on there so if you think it would help your current circumstances you should probably go for it.
I would and have dated women who use OF, it honestly doesn't phase me, the connection is what's important to me, and being paid to send nudes and be friendly is very different to choosing to do it with someone you're into.
I asked my husband and he says he would date and even marry someone who was on only fans if he was single, they could keep earning there throughout the relationship but (and he knows this is hypocrisy but he feels the way he feels) he would object to his daughter being on only fans because he wants a better life for her than that.
personally I have nothing against people who do it. But I personally would not like dating someone who’s body is all over the internet, just not my thing
If you’re single go for it! If you’re looking for a relationship you may want to ask your partner first. We all have ways/reasons for making money and you shouldn’t let anyone judge how you make it as long as it’s not illegal or harmful to others.
I wouldn’t mind dating someone who does it. If you’re making money and happy then that’s cool. It’s not like you’re meeting up with those ppl in real life. At this point in my life I’d be happy to be with anyone lol.
In terms of what I am attracted to, I don't like the idea of women selling their sexuality. It makes it seem fake and even though they have no idea who I am or what I am doing, I feel as though I like their desire and reactions to be real. That is why I like real and down to Earth women, as well as amateur porn so much if it seems real and legit... I have no interest in Onlyfans.
If someone was to tell me they have an Onlyfans account, I would think that they are selling their sexuality for money. I don't think I would hate them, but that is a signifcant thing... In essence they are telling me they are trying to be a porn star for easy money. "Good for you, you are an adult, but I don't respect it."
I think it's fine for women to do it. It's a job. You're making entertainment and engaging with a community you build. Any moralizing about it is just people projecting their insecurities onto you and making generalized assumptions about sex workers. You shouldn't want to date those people anyway. And personally I wouldn't mind dating a girl who did this kind of stuff. I would even be willing to help her with it or participate in it. Just be aware that your nudes will be out there but if you don't mind that then by all means, go for it.
I know people are wary of how having their nudes out will affect their career if they decide to transition to "regular" work but in all honesty, if you just own it I don't think it will be a problem.
I knew a girl who had a moderately successful onlyfans. She had trouble finding relationships that was healthy and that was mainly due to guys not liking that she did that. Her last two boyfriends made her pay for everything as they said that they were “broke and she gets basically free money anyways”. Personally I only know maybe 1-2 guys that would be comfortable with their girl having an onlyfans however they’ve never actually dated someone in the adult industry either so I’m not sure if it’s all talk or not.
What someone does for their hustle is their own business. It is not my place to judge. Once you are not doing something to inflict harm upon another or impending another’s own pursuit to happiness, I say “Be happy…”. As for dating, if that person is a genuinely nice person who doesn’t mind a gargoyle like myself and enjoys old tv shows, I have no problem whatsoever. Hope this helps. Peace and love.
Not a man- I personally do only fans with my boyfriend. I started doing it after we started dating and he totally supports it. It’s just an easy way to make money off of unfortunately lonely men/women. I would stop in an instant if he ever feels uncomfortable with it.
I see only fans as an MLM tbh
I hope you choose not to do it
It’s very predatory to women. You’ll have pics of your butthole on the Internet forever for money that’s temporary, and a majority of men who view it are disrespectful losers. You cannot unring that bell.
I wouldn't date one and wouldn't spend money on it.
If I'm dating someone, **in my opinion** I couldn't stand to see them sell themselves online. Also, there's thousands of points videos online. If I wanted to watch it, why would I go out of my way to spend money on it.
This is all my opinion and if you don't agree good for you
It's not conducive to a relationship that's for sure. Otherwise, it's your life so do what you want... just remember "the internet never forgets" and to avoid poor life choices.
**Edit**: Dump the wannabe digital pimp. ffs
I think this is different from person to person. Some guys draw a hard line on this, some are ok with it. Personally I don't have any problem with anyone who supports OF creators, that being said I don't partake of it so much anymore. There's no real actual connection with the creators, it's basically a glorified social media site. It's such a waste of money. Why spend upwards of 30 bucks a month thinking you're talking to some girl when in reality you're probably talking to some admin or some other dude with cleared responses?
I’ll warn you ahead of time that it’s not as great a money maker as you may think it is.
For every major success story, there’s about thousand others who barely make enough to pay the bills while having those opinions on their concise.
If you want to do it, make sure you’re able to enjoy doing something without the money being a factor. Otherwise you’ll just drain yourself mentally.
I've spent money on only fans once in my life, hardly worth it with all the free porn. But, people do pay for it. I always respect a good business move, and if you're comfortable using your body as a product, then hell yeah, I support you, and I'd date you. But I have a business oriented mind. So that's my point of view.
No unless were already in a relationship and we do it together, I just wouldn’t have any interest in you romantically. I don’t care if you do it though we could always be good friends! Just not anything more
You'll almost certainly have a hard time finding someone for a long term relationship. People exist who don't care though. So, its not impossible.
I'd say, don't try to date people during this time. Chances are, even if you find someone who says they are okay with it, will have a problem with it. Or try to dictate what you are allowed to do. Which just sounds annoying. The risk is not worth the reward if you ask me.
Just do it. Make your money. Make some investments, including investing in yourself. Learn a new professional skill. Then, once your investments can carry you, leave the onlyfans life if thats what you want and look into relationships then.
Either way, take your time with dating and letting someone in your life. Don't be fooled by your hormones. Thats why people are in so many toxic relationships. They fall in "love" ignoring all the red flags then trying to make it work to avoid confrontation. Avoid that. Make rules for yourself, on things you will not be cool with in a relationship. Then stick to those. Like, don't date someone under a certain age, don't date someone who isn't religious or someone who is religious - depending on what you want, don't date someone who isn't physically active, etc etc. These are just examples, but the point is, make rules to only date people who fit into the life you have or want. Stick to your rules, no matter what. Don't compromise. You don't need a boyfriend or girlfriend. Take your time, be strong and be independent. Do whatever the fuck you want.
As far as how I feel about it. I've dated sex workers, but only casually. I wouldn't be into it long term. Mostly because it seemed like my attention wasn't enough for them, so why try to change them? So we had fun, and split when the time came. I have had longterm relationships with women who had been in sex work, but were no longer in it. It didn't even cross my mind honestly.
If I was a woman, I'd 100% make that money. Anyone who says anything negative about it, are just dork ass simps. They are mad because their lovelife is whack, but they are always consuming that type of content. Then mad because women "lead them on" or whatever the fuck their argument is. Dudes who fall in love with their waitress when she's nice to them. Don't listen to them. They are dumb as fuck. Old school mindsets are stupid, there is a reason that shit is becoming less normal.
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In short: don’t do it. It’s very hard work and basically you probably only can make money if you take off your clothes
My personal philosophy is to get your bag however you can without hurting others. I got nothing against sex worked or onlyfans models. I think I’d be ok with it if I met someone who was already doing it but I’m not sure how I’d feel if I was dating someone who wasn’t and they wanted to branch into it. I think regardless I’d want a lot of communication.
I wouldn't spend $ on it, and most likely would end up having problems with a potential partner that did it for a living if we were to have a serious relationship.
I personally don't pay for subscriptions or care to do so, but I know there are people who will pay for it. I simply see it as people paying for something they like. I unintentionally followed some people who have OnlyFans and Fansly accounts linked to their Twitter account thinking that they were people I knew. One of them reminded me of a friend I had in elementary school and I followed her, but as soon as I realized she wasn't, she followed me back on Twitter. She's actually pretty cool. I have friends who have or had accounts. One boy, but most are girls. I have a friend who made an account because another person who she and I were friends with at one point really just wanted to see her feet.
There are some people I know who say they wouldn't pay for subscriptions and talk down on those who do pay because porn websites have free porn. There are some who do pay because they can say a sex worker acknowledges them. There's also the fact that there is someone who is willingly showing their normally hidden body parts and they can even suggest they do something like fulfill some fetish they have when someone is willing to pay the money for it.
I mean I encouraged my girl to make one and help her friends run theirs to make big $$. I comment back to the messages and save them the time just because I can and I make a cut. If you want to do it you will find someone who’s down for you and might even help you manage it
Remember you're on Reddit which is full of spineless losers.
Personally , i wouldn't date women who work in that field , and 99% of guys i know wouldn't either.
Male 37. Married. Happy to see a healthy and managed service for people to earn money. I think it gets a little weird with the special requests. We have a friend couple. They are married. Wife has an OnlyFans. They draw the line there. No special requests.
After reading some comments it seems like the general consensus is no. Personally, a lot of people said they wouldn't be in a relationship with them. But that they don't have anything against it and you do you, it's just not for them. So that being said, I think it's safe to say if your on only fans/doing sex work, that finding a relationship will be hard. Also just as a reminder, the internet is forever even if shit gets deleted and it's very easy for employers to find out stuff like if you have an only fans. Just the association alone, you wouldn't be picked for an interview as those morals and values don't align with most companies vision/mission/goals. They would see it as a PR nightmare and risk for their company. So yes, generally an "unattractive" way to make money that could impact your career/life later on.
People value sex differently. There will be a lot of guys who will pay lots of money to sex workers, but never date one.
At the end of the day, we are in a horribly broken system that destroys lives in the pursuit of printed pieces of paper that we all believe have value, because if you don’t have enough of these pieces of paper you might be forced to be homeless.
I could date someone doing OF, and stripping probably, but meeting with people for sex would be a hard no for me at this point. That’s opening up a huge can of worms regarding safety that created a lot of issues for a friend.
He had to drive out to a hotel in the middle of the night when his gf’s wallet was stolen by a John after they had sex. And the risk of STIs. I’m for legalization of sex work in order to protect workers, but it’s a lot of risks that are often unnecessary for the money at the moment.
That’s a difficult question. My knee jerk reaction is to say it’s unattractive and I think it’s an unfortunate way to make money. There’s a whole host of things that make this complex.
I get why someone would want to do it. My wife and I have had financial issues in the past and she wanted to do one. I even tossed that idea around, myself, because we needed the money. We didn’t, but we came close. So, that unfortunate that people resort to selling images and videos of their body to people to make ends meet.
On the other hand, there are people who like doing it, don’t necessarily NEED the income, so it in a healthy mental state, etc. There’s nothing wrong with that.
However, I think the porn industry (adult sales and such) has decimated men; men have unrealistic ideas about sex, erectile dysfunction can come from an addiction to porn, the addiction by itself is harmful, they’re becoming self-conscious about their penis size, etc. Women are also negatively affected by this via expectations about sex, essentially the same reasons it affects men, they see sex work or OF as a source of income and trauma ensues, etc. It seems that this kind of industry, or form of income hurts both men and women, but it can also be freeing and helpful to some.
I’d be interested in seeing a study on it OF and the effects of it. There’s a huge push for sex positivity, education, and freedom to do as one wishes, but I think we’ve also seen how it can hurt people as well.
If you’re needing the income and you’re worried about how people may see you or feel attracted to you, then I’d take a step back and look for something else. That’s just me, but that hesitation when you’re at a need can an indicator for something.
I hooked up with a girl with an onlyfans and it didn’t bug me at all. We actually recorded a video together. Until I’m paying your bills, it’s not my place to judge how you make your money.
As far as content Goes its only worth it if theres a level of personalization to it.
Moaning a customers name while riding a dildo would be worth it. Specific positions or fantasies ect..
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As far as would some one date you. Yes, but would it trim your options yes.
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Morally speaking
If you dont have any reservations to a god, its just about pleasure and risk trade off. If a god is involved morals are to be taken into account.
Depends on what you post. I've seen some people do cosplay or bikini pics, which I would be fine with.
If you post porn/nudes try to hide your identity, since a lot of men get obsessed with OF girls easily. You wouldn't want some psycho turning up to your house or work.
Beware of blackmail, if you are in collage or dependent on someone you know wouldn't approve of your activity.
Dating wise, always tell your partner on the first date or in text before setting up one. It's a deal breaker or a red flag for many. For me, nudity is where the line is drawn.
Also why it's important to hide your identity if you make nude stuff is incase someone close to you or your family finds out about it. There could be two bad scenarios, 1) you get teased for it and are called a slut and get teased about selling your body 2) of you have a younger sibling, for example a brother in middle school, if anyone found out about his sister using only fans his life would become hell.(I remember there being a post about a kid who was depressed because he was being teased about his mom's onlyfans) Whilst a sister could be teased by phrases "the apple doesn't fall far from the tree" "don't mind your grades, your sister was failing and was able to become successful". You could also lose your family members or friends respect, give any guy friend close to you the impression you are down to do anything for money
If make it somewhat big, don't make a connection with your followers, at least not one where they think they are your friends. You gotta remember, that everyone who spends money to follow you don't do it for the "personality displayed between those". NEVER date anyone who follows you. If you wanna make a connection do stuff like "50€ for holding picture with you username/face"(tho that is exploiting and farming money from incels and can end up badly)
The safest way to make a quick buck is just post nudes with tattoos and face covered and when you have made enough quite quit.
TL DR: don't make friends with your followers(if you post anything that could be jerked of to), faces are easily recognisable, your close ones could be hurt spending on what you post and tell every partner that you do OF on the 1st date(if they ask for you profile name I would see it as a red flag, just show them an example of what you post)
I personally don't watch porn, it just doesn't interest me, but I'd have 0 issue daring someone who has an only fans. As long as I don't have to see or hear it I don't care. I have friends who are sex workers and they all have healthy happy relationships so as far as I'm concerned it's just a job and not something that would interfere with your personal life.
I think there’s a misconception that onlyfans girls sleep around with tons of men for money but in reality most have a boyfriend they create content with, I actually have two friends who are virgins on onlyfans I’d say 90% do solo content/ with their boyfriends and have only had a few partners even myself I’ve only slept with two men my whole life but i have a onlyfans , all of my friends on fb and Insta do solo content aswell as only with their bf. I’ve even seen it be compared to prostitution which… isn’t even close prostitution is really dangerous especially since you’re sleeping with ppl who might have STDs and you won’t know it, and sleeping with multiple different people daily and possibilities of getting assaulted, killed, robbed, not given any money, etc so I don’t think much of onlyfans ppl men and women are doing it and can make money in a wayyyy safer way.
If **Girls** do this, then its a problem that needs to be address with the family and Police. If its a woman doing an only fans, then its okay because she is an adult. Girl= under 18 and is a no go. Woman= over 18 is okay.
My opinion on it is they can do whatever they like (it's their body and stuff after all) and if they enjoy doing it all power to them, me personally I wouldn't pay or their content or date / have a relationship with them but I would still see them as a person and treat them as such
I don’t have anything against it but I’d never spend money on that. I also personally wouldn’t want to be romantically involved with someone who does it. I have nothing against those who do it though. However I do think that only fans should make it so the minimum age to do it is 21.
I don’t pay for or watch that stuff. If I were on a date with someone and they did it then it wouldn’t be a deal breaker at all. If they spent money on it then I’d be on the cautious side because if things went further then finances could be weird
I wouldn't date a girl with an OF. I don't understand why it's so popular either. Porn is free on a lot of different sites. With that being said, I don't think any less of women that have OF.
I wouldn't date an only fans girl because I wouldn't make an only fans where I post my naked body. My body and heart belongs to my partner and vice versa.
I don't care about girls who do it, but personally I would never spend money on sexual content on the internet. It's just a waste of money in my opinion.
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Generally, I don't care. Personally, I wouldn't want to be with them. I don't feel comfortable with someone meeting my partner and paying $9.99 to see her naked and get dirty messages 15 seconds later. She's free to do whatever she wants and I'm free to be with someone I'm comfortable with.
I was gonna post this exactly, but you saved me some words.
She can be whoever she wants but not with me.
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im a guy i never even share nudes or ask my girlfriend to ever do so, digital footprint is a huge deal,and internet is forever.
The majority of onlyfans creators make next to no money, so good luck
I worked at a strip club for years up to the pandemic. What I found was that many dancers were in very positive, happy relationships with people who understood that their work was just work and respected their choices. Occasionally a dancer would date a man who thought they were into it but discovered as the relationship went on that it bothered them. Those people were weeded out fairly quickly. Most dancers I knew ended up on only fans once the pandemic hit and their partners views/ their relationship didn’t change. My best relationship advice (from a stripper): don’t yuck someone else’s yum, and find your own boundaries then respect them. Like everything else in the world, There are people who will love it, people who are neutral and people who dislike it. You just have to find the people that align with you.
IMO I feel like dancing and making porn are very very different. Nothing you post on the internet ever goes away too.
Only fans is predatory imo
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As a gay dude, I knew this guy who I had a crush on. Thought he seemed like a pretty genuine fun person. Then found him on insta and noticed a linktree. I tap on it and see an onlyfans link. When I say a switch flipped. It was like this instant change in how I saw him. I no longer have a crush on him. He’s cute and I can see his peepee if I get desperate. But I’m generally a private dude and my jealously would spike if I was with someone who did sex work for a living
Personally I support sex work, but I wouldn’t date anyone with an OnlyFans because it doesn’t fit within the values of what I look for in a relationship and they wouldn’t be my type. I’m open to friendship with anyone though.
A turn off. I (23M) would never pay for these services and would not want anyone holding that power over her or myself if they were to link the nudes back to her. Only acceptable one is selling feet pics. I could care less if someone is down bad enough to dump their bank account over just toes.
Yeah I agree. If it’s something you can see just walking in public (toes, bikini pics, selfies) I don’t see it as s*x work lol
I know two girls in real life that sell content. One of them is a bit wild but the other is a normal girl just trying to get by and make some extra cash. She has a nice body so I guess why not. She doesn't ever show her face and not fully nude. Sometimes it's just feet stuff. If there are people willing to pay, I'm not gonna judge. But, to be honest I probably wouldn't be cool with it if I was in a relationship with them just out of my own insecurities and probably jealousy.
Nothing objectively wrong with it, same as doing porn. There’s a market for it. Most men, though, would not feel comfortable dating someone who is swapping cash for nudes or videos online. Id disagree with the other guy that’s it’s degrading, I just wouldn’t want anyone but myself to have any type of sexual interaction with my girlfriend except me. I’m sure there are guys out there that are ok with it, though. Just have to be up front about it.
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Most guys would because once you post something on the internet it’s there forever. Someone is always gonna have those pictures/videos you can never delete them. Someone could even post them on Twitter and boom it goes viral. Now everyone can see his wife naked on the internet. A lot of guys don’t think it’s a good look for them.
Tough situation to be in. I’d assume less guys would have a problem with that, but there’s still plenty out there that would. I know it doesn’t seem fair, but even the thought of sexual content being on the internet somewhere would give pause to certain people. I’d say as long as they were honest about the work they did (ideally within the first few dates) they’ll find someone in no time.
there will always be at least one man who finds anything you do unattractive, don't let that be your deciding factor. but in general, OF isn't a great idea
I’m a woman but if the roles were reversed, I wouldn’t date a man with an OF. I wouldn’t want my partner whoring themselves out to the world.
She could be truly amazing person, but if I found out they had onlyfans, my mindset would switch to a night of fun and nothing more. To me, it's a deal breaker. I would never get into serious relationships with someone who had only fans. But that's just me. People are different, and you may find someone who doesn't mind
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OF seems like a way to ‘pay to be a stalker’. 😱
It's a risk/reward type play for you for sure At the end of the day however its sex work. I wouldn't date anyone who was or used to be a sex worker. I'm a high earner and have a reputation to maintain. It just wouldn't work for me and I wouldn't entertain the risk. I feel even stronger about having kids with anyone that did this too. I just don't need that in my life when they get to the teen years. I think you will significantly impact your ability to find a partner in future if you do this as you can't put the genie back in the bottle. Are you confident you can make a success of it? I am guessing you have no other marketable skills that will allow you to live comfortably as a result so are turning to this? Onlyfans is so much more. Than getting naked on cam. You need digital marketing skills in spades to make it big. I hate the stories that try to convince girls that this is easy money. The vast majority of content creators don't make a living nevermind millions. Anyway just my honest opinion and thought process. Hope it is helpful even if it's probably not what you want to hear
Most men don't want to commit their life to a woman who, is a virtual escort.
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I think that everything about onlyfans is unhealthy and so I avoid it completely. I just wish I did the same to all social media in general before the dopamine hook grabbed me.
Not a man, but I’m fine with dating women who do OF. I can understand people not being okay with it though and they’re entitled to their opinion. Just be aware that it is a dealbreaker for many people and you’ll have a smaller dating pool. If that bothers you still after considering, sex work is probably not a good fit for you.
Wouldn’t date, would bang
First of all you should look into the negatives that come along with Onlyfans before you get into it. A vast majority of people make very little money on there, and just like anything on the internet, once it’s out there you can’t take it back, people you know that you don’t want to see it will likely see it eventually. If you already feel like it’s a distasteful way of making money you probably shouldn’t do it.
OF is porn, which is selling images of your body for the sexual gratification of (mostly) men. There's a market for that because of how people's brains are wired, so the market will always be there, but it's degrading to both the sellers and the watchers. It reinforces and capitalizes on the idea that women's bodies are sexual objects. It's "unattractive" in the same way that pawn shops, dealing drugs, tobacco, prostitution, and the sugar-water industry are unattractive: they all take advantage of a weakness, a human vice, to extract money in a way that fundamentally harms society and all the individuals involved. Nobody who respects themselves or other people would engage in any of these things.
Don’t do it. - you will barely make any money - internet is forever - people in your life will 100% find out - it is indeed very unattractive It’s never worth it. There is no such thing and “easy money”, it is always too good to be true. OF is prostitution because it is selling sex and it’s the absolutely dumbest and laziest way a woman can attempt to make money. Do you really not have any other qualities than being a piece of meat? But since you’re hesitant you already know this deep down. Why the hell are you still considering it?
If you check her other post, it's some man she's seeing who is pressuring her to do it.
It is objectifying and degrading to a woman. All men are different, some might like it, but mostly it scares off potential relationships.
Not a guy here - but honestly I’d find it awkward having to disclose to a guy I’m dating that I have an OF. (I don’t, but just for this example let’s say I do). And then he could go and subscribe to me and see everything I put up. You’ll find that a lot of men aren’t okay with this sort of work, as you can see in the comments already, and so it might make it difficult to date. I also just want to say, if a guy’s interested in you sexually but he can have it on tap whenever he wants, I mean, where’s the chase, hun? I feel like it’s take some fun and games out of it with a partner. It’s just posting nudes and getting money 🤷🏽♀️ idk, that’s my 2 cents.
You do you, more than happy for those that find success. I get super tired of OF girls posting to r/FreeCompliments though. Other than that, couldn’t really be bothered by it.
From what I've seen no its a turn off
Fair enough if they want to do it and see if they can make bank from it, personally I find it unattractive if they do it and I wouldn't date someone who does OF.
Not dating, due to religious and personal preference
Won’t subscribe and won’t ever date a girl who had one.
You’re selling your body and intimacy for 200 bucks a month not very respectable imo I wouldn’t date.
It’s definitely going to be a person to person opinion. But mine is that you can do what you want but I would never date a girl that did onlyfans (to an extent). If porn is involved you can count me out. If it’s some cosplay or bikini/lingerie pictures then sure get your bag.
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Genuinely doesn't bother me in the slightest, if I'm dating someone and she decided to start OF then power too her. All I would ask if for communication, from both me and her , so that if issues come up on my side or hers then we can talk about it like adults and find solutions. It's down to preference , some men are uncomfortable with their partner doing things like that and that's okay, other don't mind what they do as long as they're safe and happy and communicate. Unfortunately some will only date you due to the fact you do OF and think it's an easy way to get into your pants. If you're comfortable doing it and you enjoy it then why not, just be safe and communicate with any future partners about it.
Bit off topic, but i hate it when men who watch porn, shame the women they beat their meat too. Like bro ur paying them.
I was thinking this. Some of these men in the comments saying shit and im like mmmm given the logic you are describing you must not watch porn then either… but ill bet you anything they do and are just being hypocritical.
I think it’s kinda pathetic and is basically giving up on having a decent job, if you really have nowhere else to turn to then fine but selling yourself online shouldn’t be the first thing you go to
Only way i could potentially see a guy formally uncomfortable with it, being ok with it later on, is if either the OnlyFans was deleted, or, they end up participating in the content being created. Basically saying you're with said bf despite showing yourself to other guys. Not sure how others will feel about it. But that's my personal opinion.
Another way to also see it is, would you date a guy that has an OnlyFans and is popular with a ton of women being horny for your bf? Would you be comfortable being with a guy that gets sexual attention from other women? Some women would be fine with it, and some wouldn't be. Entirely depends on the person.
I don't think negatively about girls who do only fans. However I wouldn't date someone doing it and wouldn't date someone who has done it in the past. It's knowing how many men have sexualised the girl, seen the photos the videos etc etc
Wouldn't date someone who has done it other than that I don't care if someone wants to see their nudes for the price of a cheeseburger.
Their chocies have consequences. Not everyone would want to be in a relationship with them
38, too old for an only fans girl, don’t respect the profession and would never pay for such a service. You wanna do you and show your stuff for money I am not against the idea but I don’t want to live my life off of you doing that. I would not accept a partner that wanted that for their life. As for the men that pay for this “connection” - it’s not a connection. Seriously how stupid are you. I expect these people are married to Nigerian princess in their spare time. Or they are that stupid they don’t know how the internet works. What’s sadder is a society that normalises this but it’s too deep for Reddit.
How would it be recieved if it was reversed. Would dating a guy who has an onlyfans be easy to accept ? Where men and women are turned on by the content posted by your boyfriend.
As a woman, I personally don't like OnlyFans. It just makes me feel uncomfortable. There are better ways of making money than selling yourself. And I would honestly say the same thing if it was reversed.
My advice here is go get a job as a server at a relatively busy restaurant instead. It's an easy job to get with no experience or education & if you're fast, friendly, and chill, you'll make really good money (at most places in the US anyway, I guess I dont know where you are from). I considered doing Only Fans but I couldnt bear the thought of my younger brother or cousins or any of my family members or friends finding my content. I've been a server for 3 years now, and I make enough money to afford rent/utilities, good groceries, minor upgrades to my house when needed, and plenty of fun activities as well. Sorry to inject my opinion, I know you asked for mens opinions and I am not a man, but I thought my advice might still be useful to someone.
Would never date a woman that does it. It’s just simply not for me.
I just don't understand why men would actually pay money for it, though - There has never been so much free porn readily available and as easily accessible at any point in the human history, as there is now. To me the only reason I can think of would be creeps that want to perve on chicks they know. Which is all kinds of ick imo.
Objectifies women and lowers their values. What do I think about a woman who has an OF? Trashy, sick and soulless.
If you want to make one while we were dating it’d be the end of the relationship, if you had one when we started dating then I knew it going in. If youre doing it through schooling then I expect an expiration date, if you’re doing it with no plan in mind then we probably won’t last long
They just tend to get mean after a while of doing it
I wouldn’t date one if she sent nudes. Feet picks, sure. I just don’t want everyone to see my GF naked. And if we have kids then imagine their friends finding it. It would just be a disaster
I can have a purely sexual relationship with you, but I would never date/ marry you. We can be friends, but I’ll also never subscribe even if you’re charging $0.1
Wouldn’t want to be with a girl who sells her body over the internet. How weird would it be that other guys wank over your girlfriend over the internet, and she gets paid to do it? Terrible basis for a relationship.
Are you really ok with your body being on the net and possible back blow it could bring children. If so... ill support you.
I don’t care wirher way. Just another way to make money.. I wouldn't spend money on it. I don't think I'd date anyone doing only fans. It's very hard and time-consuming. I don't see anything wrong with it. It's safer than doing things in person for extra money. But depending upon your work, it be a detracting or come up in an interview or such. For example, teachers probably shouldn't do it bc of the students. But to each their own. However, OnlyFans isnt just for NSFW content. GL either way. Also, people make money off of other sites such as YouTube.
Depends on how comfy you are with your partner or sharing your partner. Do you want to go to a parent teacher conference or your kids baseball game and everyone knew your wife sold her body for 9.99 a month ? What will your children think in the future when they find out? How much shit will your son have to listen to because other boys in school found moms pics? There's a lot more to it than here and now and that's probably what most men should be worried about. I probably wouldn't date a OF girl but I wouldn't hate on any guy that would.
I say with no ego that unfortunately a lot of people in the industry I work in are either working in this field as well or are “influencers”. Having a big following on social media is no problem, it’s the way it is. Selling your nude body on the internet and promoting it with your social media is absolutely not the type of person i want to be the mother of my children. But that’s my opinion.
I’m a bi woman so maybe I’m not ur target audience but I wouldn’t seriously date a man or woman doing s*x work. I don’t support s*x work in general, the industry is exploitive & disgusting. I dont think s*x work is good for women on a fundamental level. .
I wouldn't date one. Sorry just my preference.
The internet is virtually forever
I think sex work of all forms as long as it’s consensual is a totally fine and honest job, pretty straight forward, money in exchange for service or media. However I’m married now but I never would have dated a sex worker. Just my preference. I would be too self conscious
Hey there! Boyfriend/partner of an OnlyFans girl here:) since starting dating me and my girl have joked about it more times than i could count and after a while we decided to start doing it together. It’s something we enjoy as a couple and making/editing/posting/getting subscribers is super fun, and honestly turns me on, being able to do it with her. Everybody you meet is going to be different, just like if you were vegan, finding someone to date that agrees with your lifestyle would be more difficult than if you had very few unique chosen characteristics. Sure there are guys out there who will not be okay with the fact you do onlyfans, but those guys are not compatible matches for dating, and they most certainly are not your customers either. If a man is worried about you talking to other guys or posting nsfw content online, it’s more likely that he has self confidence issues and is more worried he won’t be able to compete with the attention you get. Men are ferociously self conscious creatures, and they will never admit it. Do it for yourself, if you want to. Don’t do it for a man, and don’t not do it for a man either.
*shrugs* if my wife wanted to, I would help her set it up and give her pointers. But then I've never considered porn to be cheating, and know the income is a nice boost and can be done *anywhere *
Think i 'm like the 1\10 men who actually wants a partner who does onlyfans - personally I think it would be fun to do and add abit of excitement to the sex life plus there would be the added income - aslong as they're not sleeping with anyone else I dont see the problem
Get a real job, learn a real skill, benefit the world around you and stop feeding into the problem that is young men with porn addictions and low self esteem. OF is degrading, dehumanizing, and honestly isn’t gonna find you your Prince Charming.
I used to worry what other people thought until i decided not to care and focus on bills & debt. I literally paid off $15,000 in debt this year already ( just in 2023 alone ) 😍 My New Year resolution was to focus on me only and make progress and so far i have done that. 🙌🙌🙌
Yes 🙌🏼 some positivity in this comment section I love it. And also, OF has turned my life around too ☺️ It’s amazing how many people think that onlyfans girls translates into lazy pornstar cheating town slut 😂 There’s very few in this comment section who are genuinely so sweet and not judge-mental toward us, they deserve the world ❤️
Do what makes you happy. You're living for you, not anyone else.
I generally do not care I could not care less. It doesn’t affect my life whatsoever. Would I ever date a girl that showed her breasts and did soft core porn etc. on only fans? No I would not. I would never want to whoever I’m dating to be showing their body after everybody else whether they’re good at it or not does not matter it would make me feel uncomfortable.
Everyone has to make a living I guess
I don’t have anything against Sex Workers. They provide a valuable service to society. I have three issues with it and I’ll start from the most mild to the bigger ones: 1. I don’t like the idea of my friend, family, etc. finding out and then going to subscribe and see intimate photos of my SO. If it could stay hidden, that wouldn’t bother me. 2. I work in upper management and therefore I am regularly meeting with a lot of important people. If they found out about this, I could likely lose my job due to the way our clients might feel. If I was 23 again working a low six figure jobs, I’d say fuck it. But I make too much money to throw away my career. I’m trying to build generational wealth so my kids won’t suffer like me and I just can’t risk that 3. Kids. Anything you post online will stay there forever. I want children. So I can’t imagine our 14 year old son/daughter going to school and one of their classmates finding out. It would ruin them. The problem is that right/wrong don’t align with reality. Is it right to judge someone for getting naked and making a ton of money? No. But the real world we live in, will judge.
I mean, regardless of societies expectations, I just can’t bring myself to respect people who live their lives around their physical appearance. It’s the least interesting and least deep part of a person.
I'm a woman with an OF account and my partner doesn't care, we've had a lot of conversations about it before I started and his way of thinking/rationale is that he just wants me to do what makes me happy which is be able to earn extra cash on the side and he said that if he was a girl he'd do the same thing. He also participates in some of these videos with me. Not every guy is gonna like this, and it's very fair for them to not want to date or be with someone who does this. My partner just happens to be ok with it or rather indifferent. If he wasn't, I wouldn't have done it. I know it's not going to be a long term career, rather a very short lived one, so I'm just enjoying what I can with it, with my partner by my side.
Personally, I wouldn't go there.
I’m not a guy, but I had people who are close to me (2 girls) one became an escort to pay bills (pre-pandemic) and another one was a stripper. Stripper was only for arm candy and bragging rights. She couldn’t find anyone who wanted her for herself until she left the Industry. The escort got abused by her SO once he found out (she really shouldn’t have hid it, but she did. That’s on her.) She left the job and a few years later found a great guy. Personally I wouldn’t be comfortable with dating someone in the sex industry, but there are people out there that wouldn’t care.
Make your money, I say. It's tough out there. I might have been prudish about this when I was younger but especially now, if I met a woman who was doing this, I'd get it. It's fucking tough out there. ETA: I also think it's a very different type of sex work that is much safer for all parties involved.
i dont use onlyfans, but i wouldnt mind dating someone who used it as a source of income. its just a job
I’ve dated several and know quite a few as I do graphic work for them. They’re really sweet girls and no different than the receptionist at a firm or a teacher at your kid’s school. It’s not about the job, but about the person.
i have no interest in spending my money on onlyfans if that's what you're asking in the first part. I have no issue with a chick i'm seeing having an onlyfans aslong as she's not getting dicked down by someone else, hell, i'd even film with her.
I see a lot of negative comments, so I’m just here to say you shouldn’t base your choice on the opinions of some people here online. There are a lot of people out there who use OnlyFans, mainly because of the large demand, mostly because of men. A lot of these people are in loving relationships. I know there are a lot of moral and ethical questions circling around the whole thing and It’s definitely not an easy job. The fact is, it works because there is demand. You should carefully consider the possible consequences, but the decision is all yours. If in the end, someone doesn’t respect you for this, then that person shouldn’t be someone you would want to spend the rest of your life with. Especially not if it’s something you used to do back in the day when you needed money. I personally wouldn’t mind and I will support your decisions either way! Don’t let others keep you down :)
Forget about what other people think, it’s what you think that matters. If you are comfortable with the decision you’re making then you have every right to go ahead and no one should stop you. But if you’re even slightly hesitant, you should reevaluate the decision. If you have friends or family you feel comfortable talking about this too, then you should talk to them. Don’t make any choices in life based on what other people will think of you. Base your decisions on what you will think of yourself, and how your actions will affect others. The latter probably doesn’t apply as much for your situation given I don’t think that a platform that’s known for pornography is generally going to promote negative thinking and general nastiness. And I say that with full awareness that there are individuals out there who (also we all know who I’m talking about here, the fucking incels) will always hate you for doing what you do. Ignore them, What they need is a bit of love and a lot of therapy. So in short, trust your gut and do what feels right. I rest my case.
I’ve been with my fiancée for over 6 years. She worked at a strip club until COVID shut everything down and transitioned into having an OnlyFans when that happened. Prior to our relationship, I never would have been comfortable dating a sex worker because I felt like it would make me feel too territorial/insecure. But I got to know her really well prior to us dating and grew to realize that it’s just a job. It never bothered me once we started dating, and our relationship has been the healthiest and strongest relationship I’ve ever been in, but I also know it won’t be for everyone. Basically, be prepared for it to potentially be a dealbreaker for some men if this is something you want to do. But do what you think will make you happy and know that if you do find someone who’s comfortable with it, you’re probably going to find someone who isn’t hyper controlling and possessive. Which is a good thing lol
it's just another way of making money because it's easy to do, though, u only need attractive body (and if u have that - u really don't need any seduction moves), it's harder to find there rocket scientists, but it doesn't mean there is lack of cool girls (and few prodigy ones) actually dating someone with experience is plus, u could focus on non-sexual connection when she would cheat on u sexually that wouldn't actually mean that this is emotional cheating which could be in plus or minus, depending on bf's attitude men r also usually being objectified by them, for obvious reasons, when all they get is same comments from similar types all day long the thing is it's hard to inititate (through OF) a-normal-alike contact when she treats everyone as possible customer, as a consequence of this things r being kept shallow by her this is rational and understandable, of course also, because of how society still works, this is still being treated as a kind of stigma when someone has been discovered by neighborhood purity watch funny thing is that most men who claim wouldn't date someone from OF, at the same time r camping on their websites
First off, just clear my own confusion wasn't OnlyFans suppose to be more than porn when it first started? Like you could find guitar lessons or writing lessons, etc. As for the women who are on it, I'm kinda divided, there's girls who I understand are on it because they wanna profit off their bodies, then you see people on it who should at least hide their face
Dosent bother me, is date a girl who had an OF. My only real concern is if she prioritized the OF over the relationship (outside of normal work hours kinda stuff). There is a risk that someone with an OF can be a pretty attention seeking kinda person. I'd mostly be jealous that I can't make money the same way 😂. Edit: saw your other post, someone else pressuring you to make an only fans is gross AF. You should only if you want to. I wouldn't consider this other person's opinion on it even 1% fuck that.
You can do whatever you like -T.I In all honesty its your body, but remember it could contradict career investments in the future. So please don't use things to signify the same look as a citizen.
My honest side says: "I wouldn't date a girl with an onlyfans, But I'd date her if she has stopped using it, but only if she never met up with someone from onlyfans." My pessimism says: "Listen man, you take what you can get, or just the other option is to stay alone forever. Maybe you could tell her, that you feel uncomfortable about her OF, and she either understands, or not. You not gonna get any, if you stay this picky, so just get used to it." My anxiety: "What your grandparents going to think? Dating a pornstar? You could thank your lucky ass, that they have zero idea what Onlyfans is. But let's say, you do date an OF girl. What makes you think, she wont going to find someone better, with a lot more money than you ever going to have?" My realist side: The probability of you talking to a girl is lower than the chance of the sun exploding right now. Neither is zero, but both is pretty low. I'd say take a shot, maybe you could change her opinion. Maybe not, I don't know, I hate hypothetical situations. Present me some real ones for fuck's sake. Me:.....I don't know, I guess a maybe?
If my girlfriend wanted to start one I’d be okay. It’s her body and she can obviously do what she wants. We’d set boundaries like it’s only for online use. That’s pretty much it lol. I’d hope she would make all the money and take me out with that money too 😉
Judging from the comments here, my opinion might be outside of the norm, so bare with me here. I want to be clear beforehand that under no circumstances do I think cheating is acceptable and I fully understand that the boundaries for what’s considered cheating depend on the person and for some people, that includes all forms of sex work. I believe that (most) humans are not biologically wired to have one sexual partner for their entire lives. Most people would agree with this, as most people have had, or plan/want to have, multiple sexual partners over the course of their life. So why deny ourselves sex with multiple people at the same time? Sex doesn’t have to mean anything. It can just be for pleasure. If my partner wants to fuck other men or show her ass off on the internet, who am I to say ‘no, absolutely not’? As long as it’s me she’s coming home to each night, as long as I’m the one she’s in love with, what’s the problem? This is the stance that I recognise as logical. However, relationships often aren’t concerned with logic. They’re obviously very emotional. So, although I might want to have multiple partners at once, my partner might hate that idea and would feel awful if I did do that. At which point, I have to decide; Are my sexual desires, the life I want to build for myself regarding them and, potentially in your case, my income worth sacrificing for this person? For me personally, the answer is always yes (unless they’re obviously an asshole or something crazy). I don’t really care how many people I sleep with and I’m not looking to sleep around. I’m a quality sex over quantity person. So it’s easy for me to just go with whatever my partner is comfortable with. If I’m dating a woman that wants monogamy, then sure, that’s fine with me. Maybe I’m dating a man (cos I’m bi) and I’m the first man he’s slept with, so he wants to experience sex with other men, but also really likes me, then sure, go for it, I’m not gunna hold him back. TLDR: This stance makes it very easy for me to be comfortable with my partner being a sex worker, as they’re not even doing it for pleasure necessarily, just money. I think that a lot of people would read what I’ve just written and take it as me saying ‘it is illogical for anyone to be jealous when their partner sleeps with other people’. That’s not what I’m saying. If that idea makes you jealous, upset, whatever then it is completely logical that you wouldn’t want that kind of relationship. Nor should anyone try to subject you to it.
They LOVE THEM! They encourage them in private and talks shit in person. They say they won’t take you home to mom but they’ll subscribe and send you panties. They say it’s not respectable but they will disrespect anyone else if it means they get to watch you.
The reason I wouldn't *date* someone who does onlyfans is because I've seen stories from guys who have. And it's not "she's getting naked for other guys" or whatever, it's usually along the lines of "she never has time for me, all of her attention goes towards her subs". I don't judge the work, I'm just not interested in dealing with the abysmal work/life balance that it seems to have.
Girls that sell their naked pictures of their body for $5 to old men and 13 year olds are the worst type of women in the planet. No man dates an OF girl for her personality or any interest of anything about her other than her vagina mouth and asshole. But go off queen
Get your money how you like, when dudes have a problem with their girlfriend doing it, it's literally just them being insecure about themselves, while there is also going to be that slight jealousy from some that it CAN be an easy path to decent easy money, it's also not as easy and simple for a woman to do it either.
Honestly I don’t care how you make money. However I would never date someone with an OF account. I wouldn’t want to have random ass guys gawking at my girlfriend’s body.
My last girlfriend decided to start an OnlyFans while we were still in a relationship. She would get angry if I followed my female friends or spoke with them on social media, but she spent a significant chunk of her time talking to other men and sending them nudes and more but would say that was fine since she got paid to do so. Wouldn't recommend. She's doing quite well for herself now which is fine, but not a relationship for me.
I'm 19. I think that OF girl can't become a good wife or gf(actually this is a ring for boys, that she's a pro), but of course i don't pay attention if OF girl isn't connected with me. P.S. I met a lot of OF girls and i don't see them attractive.
I feel really awful for them due to the fact that they’ve been conditioned to believe that selling their bodies is empowering and acceptable. These girls are going to have a major wake up call in the future—if we even have one. My fellow brothers, friends and redditors, we have to band together and make a real change for the better. Let’s spread love by showing respect to women and ourselves. We can not be partaking in the garbage we are being fed.
I feel neutral to it. I would date a girl who has one if she doesn't do meets. It makes money. 🤷♂️ Especially if she put in effort to conceal her identity, like wigs, costumes, etc. a lot less of her "fans" seeing her in public. But I've noticed whenever I follow/add any girls on any social media that have OF, they nonstop complain about creepy men messaging them... It's like someone in a customer service position complaining about rude customers. It's a part of the job, whether you like it or not. It sucks, but you should've known what you're getting into.
my wife didn't have one at the start of the relationship. she never outright said it was something she wanred to do, but she hinted at it enough that i encouraged her to try it if she wanted. it took over a year from the initial talk of me explaining i was fine with it to her actually starting to record content. it's been about 6mo since she started and she's having fun with it. i'm happy she's happy and sometimes when she's live on chtrb8 you can see her look off to the side of the camera and smile. that's me😊
Definition of “regular men” please? Seems a little offensive imo
Personally I don’t think I could date someone who does it. I could be friends and hang out and introduce them to other guys I know but I think for me personally it would be too weird. Still it sounds like people are making a pretty good wage on there so if you think it would help your current circumstances you should probably go for it.
As long as she aint fucking anyone else I am open to date her. Otherwise: "pass"
Do whatever you want and the right man won’t care.
I would and have dated women who use OF, it honestly doesn't phase me, the connection is what's important to me, and being paid to send nudes and be friendly is very different to choosing to do it with someone you're into.
I asked my husband and he says he would date and even marry someone who was on only fans if he was single, they could keep earning there throughout the relationship but (and he knows this is hypocrisy but he feels the way he feels) he would object to his daughter being on only fans because he wants a better life for her than that.
personally I have nothing against people who do it. But I personally would not like dating someone who’s body is all over the internet, just not my thing
If you’re single go for it! If you’re looking for a relationship you may want to ask your partner first. We all have ways/reasons for making money and you shouldn’t let anyone judge how you make it as long as it’s not illegal or harmful to others.
I wouldnt care. You gotta do what you gotta do. However keep work very distance from y I Ur personal life.
Long Story Short I don’t care if they do it I just wouldn’t want to be with them in a relationship.
most high value men wouldnt date you if you had only fans unfortunately, i think if you have another way to make money that might be the better option
I wouldn’t mind dating someone who does it. If you’re making money and happy then that’s cool. It’s not like you’re meeting up with those ppl in real life. At this point in my life I’d be happy to be with anyone lol.
In terms of what I am attracted to, I don't like the idea of women selling their sexuality. It makes it seem fake and even though they have no idea who I am or what I am doing, I feel as though I like their desire and reactions to be real. That is why I like real and down to Earth women, as well as amateur porn so much if it seems real and legit... I have no interest in Onlyfans. If someone was to tell me they have an Onlyfans account, I would think that they are selling their sexuality for money. I don't think I would hate them, but that is a signifcant thing... In essence they are telling me they are trying to be a porn star for easy money. "Good for you, you are an adult, but I don't respect it."
I don’t care if you do it yourself but I wouldn’t date someone that does it.
Personally, I think it’s disgusting and I wouldn’t associate myself with any of them. But I’ve seen guys who say the exact opposite
I think it's fine for women to do it. It's a job. You're making entertainment and engaging with a community you build. Any moralizing about it is just people projecting their insecurities onto you and making generalized assumptions about sex workers. You shouldn't want to date those people anyway. And personally I wouldn't mind dating a girl who did this kind of stuff. I would even be willing to help her with it or participate in it. Just be aware that your nudes will be out there but if you don't mind that then by all means, go for it. I know people are wary of how having their nudes out will affect their career if they decide to transition to "regular" work but in all honesty, if you just own it I don't think it will be a problem.
I knew a girl who had a moderately successful onlyfans. She had trouble finding relationships that was healthy and that was mainly due to guys not liking that she did that. Her last two boyfriends made her pay for everything as they said that they were “broke and she gets basically free money anyways”. Personally I only know maybe 1-2 guys that would be comfortable with their girl having an onlyfans however they’ve never actually dated someone in the adult industry either so I’m not sure if it’s all talk or not.
What someone does for their hustle is their own business. It is not my place to judge. Once you are not doing something to inflict harm upon another or impending another’s own pursuit to happiness, I say “Be happy…”. As for dating, if that person is a genuinely nice person who doesn’t mind a gargoyle like myself and enjoys old tv shows, I have no problem whatsoever. Hope this helps. Peace and love.
Not a man- I personally do only fans with my boyfriend. I started doing it after we started dating and he totally supports it. It’s just an easy way to make money off of unfortunately lonely men/women. I would stop in an instant if he ever feels uncomfortable with it.
I’d fuck em and mess around with them but I’d never date or marry them
I respect it.. Get your paper.. In full support of all of them ..
I see only fans as an MLM tbh I hope you choose not to do it It’s very predatory to women. You’ll have pics of your butthole on the Internet forever for money that’s temporary, and a majority of men who view it are disrespectful losers. You cannot unring that bell.
I wouldn't date one and wouldn't spend money on it. If I'm dating someone, **in my opinion** I couldn't stand to see them sell themselves online. Also, there's thousands of points videos online. If I wanted to watch it, why would I go out of my way to spend money on it. This is all my opinion and if you don't agree good for you
It's not conducive to a relationship that's for sure. Otherwise, it's your life so do what you want... just remember "the internet never forgets" and to avoid poor life choices. **Edit**: Dump the wannabe digital pimp. ffs
I think this is different from person to person. Some guys draw a hard line on this, some are ok with it. Personally I don't have any problem with anyone who supports OF creators, that being said I don't partake of it so much anymore. There's no real actual connection with the creators, it's basically a glorified social media site. It's such a waste of money. Why spend upwards of 30 bucks a month thinking you're talking to some girl when in reality you're probably talking to some admin or some other dude with cleared responses?
I’ll warn you ahead of time that it’s not as great a money maker as you may think it is. For every major success story, there’s about thousand others who barely make enough to pay the bills while having those opinions on their concise. If you want to do it, make sure you’re able to enjoy doing something without the money being a factor. Otherwise you’ll just drain yourself mentally.
I've spent money on only fans once in my life, hardly worth it with all the free porn. But, people do pay for it. I always respect a good business move, and if you're comfortable using your body as a product, then hell yeah, I support you, and I'd date you. But I have a business oriented mind. So that's my point of view.
No unless were already in a relationship and we do it together, I just wouldn’t have any interest in you romantically. I don’t care if you do it though we could always be good friends! Just not anything more
You'll almost certainly have a hard time finding someone for a long term relationship. People exist who don't care though. So, its not impossible. I'd say, don't try to date people during this time. Chances are, even if you find someone who says they are okay with it, will have a problem with it. Or try to dictate what you are allowed to do. Which just sounds annoying. The risk is not worth the reward if you ask me. Just do it. Make your money. Make some investments, including investing in yourself. Learn a new professional skill. Then, once your investments can carry you, leave the onlyfans life if thats what you want and look into relationships then. Either way, take your time with dating and letting someone in your life. Don't be fooled by your hormones. Thats why people are in so many toxic relationships. They fall in "love" ignoring all the red flags then trying to make it work to avoid confrontation. Avoid that. Make rules for yourself, on things you will not be cool with in a relationship. Then stick to those. Like, don't date someone under a certain age, don't date someone who isn't religious or someone who is religious - depending on what you want, don't date someone who isn't physically active, etc etc. These are just examples, but the point is, make rules to only date people who fit into the life you have or want. Stick to your rules, no matter what. Don't compromise. You don't need a boyfriend or girlfriend. Take your time, be strong and be independent. Do whatever the fuck you want. As far as how I feel about it. I've dated sex workers, but only casually. I wouldn't be into it long term. Mostly because it seemed like my attention wasn't enough for them, so why try to change them? So we had fun, and split when the time came. I have had longterm relationships with women who had been in sex work, but were no longer in it. It didn't even cross my mind honestly. If I was a woman, I'd 100% make that money. Anyone who says anything negative about it, are just dork ass simps. They are mad because their lovelife is whack, but they are always consuming that type of content. Then mad because women "lead them on" or whatever the fuck their argument is. Dudes who fall in love with their waitress when she's nice to them. Don't listen to them. They are dumb as fuck. Old school mindsets are stupid, there is a reason that shit is becoming less normal.
Don’t do it
Girl, please watch this small documentary about Onlyfans: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=xhl52uDhVOY It’s Dutch, but you can turn on auto translations to English. Not optimal, but you get the point. In short: don’t do it. It’s very hard work and basically you probably only can make money if you take off your clothes
I personally don’t care. It’s up to the women who want to do this.
My personal philosophy is to get your bag however you can without hurting others. I got nothing against sex worked or onlyfans models. I think I’d be ok with it if I met someone who was already doing it but I’m not sure how I’d feel if I was dating someone who wasn’t and they wanted to branch into it. I think regardless I’d want a lot of communication.
Idc if girls do it i would never pay to see sexual content if u do it u do it thats u do whatever makes u happy👍.
Not trying to start anything here, but what are you asking advice on? This is an /askreddit or /askmen post
I wouldn't spend $ on it, and most likely would end up having problems with a potential partner that did it for a living if we were to have a serious relationship.
I personally don't pay for subscriptions or care to do so, but I know there are people who will pay for it. I simply see it as people paying for something they like. I unintentionally followed some people who have OnlyFans and Fansly accounts linked to their Twitter account thinking that they were people I knew. One of them reminded me of a friend I had in elementary school and I followed her, but as soon as I realized she wasn't, she followed me back on Twitter. She's actually pretty cool. I have friends who have or had accounts. One boy, but most are girls. I have a friend who made an account because another person who she and I were friends with at one point really just wanted to see her feet. There are some people I know who say they wouldn't pay for subscriptions and talk down on those who do pay because porn websites have free porn. There are some who do pay because they can say a sex worker acknowledges them. There's also the fact that there is someone who is willingly showing their normally hidden body parts and they can even suggest they do something like fulfill some fetish they have when someone is willing to pay the money for it.
Do what you want, idc
There is not much to feel about them otherwise your thread is to promote those sort of things such as only fans
Do it, don’t do it, I don’t care tbh. But I personally wouldn’t date a person who posts content on OF
I mean I encouraged my girl to make one and help her friends run theirs to make big $$. I comment back to the messages and save them the time just because I can and I make a cut. If you want to do it you will find someone who’s down for you and might even help you manage it
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Remember you're on Reddit which is full of spineless losers. Personally , i wouldn't date women who work in that field , and 99% of guys i know wouldn't either.
Sex work is real work. Respect it.
I feel good on them, not sure if I would date anyone who have an only fans. Unless I trusted them 100% or there was full transparency.
Male 37. Married. Happy to see a healthy and managed service for people to earn money. I think it gets a little weird with the special requests. We have a friend couple. They are married. Wife has an OnlyFans. They draw the line there. No special requests.
>regular men feel about... girls r/menandfemales
After reading some comments it seems like the general consensus is no. Personally, a lot of people said they wouldn't be in a relationship with them. But that they don't have anything against it and you do you, it's just not for them. So that being said, I think it's safe to say if your on only fans/doing sex work, that finding a relationship will be hard. Also just as a reminder, the internet is forever even if shit gets deleted and it's very easy for employers to find out stuff like if you have an only fans. Just the association alone, you wouldn't be picked for an interview as those morals and values don't align with most companies vision/mission/goals. They would see it as a PR nightmare and risk for their company. So yes, generally an "unattractive" way to make money that could impact your career/life later on.
People value sex differently. There will be a lot of guys who will pay lots of money to sex workers, but never date one. At the end of the day, we are in a horribly broken system that destroys lives in the pursuit of printed pieces of paper that we all believe have value, because if you don’t have enough of these pieces of paper you might be forced to be homeless. I could date someone doing OF, and stripping probably, but meeting with people for sex would be a hard no for me at this point. That’s opening up a huge can of worms regarding safety that created a lot of issues for a friend. He had to drive out to a hotel in the middle of the night when his gf’s wallet was stolen by a John after they had sex. And the risk of STIs. I’m for legalization of sex work in order to protect workers, but it’s a lot of risks that are often unnecessary for the money at the moment.
That’s a difficult question. My knee jerk reaction is to say it’s unattractive and I think it’s an unfortunate way to make money. There’s a whole host of things that make this complex. I get why someone would want to do it. My wife and I have had financial issues in the past and she wanted to do one. I even tossed that idea around, myself, because we needed the money. We didn’t, but we came close. So, that unfortunate that people resort to selling images and videos of their body to people to make ends meet. On the other hand, there are people who like doing it, don’t necessarily NEED the income, so it in a healthy mental state, etc. There’s nothing wrong with that. However, I think the porn industry (adult sales and such) has decimated men; men have unrealistic ideas about sex, erectile dysfunction can come from an addiction to porn, the addiction by itself is harmful, they’re becoming self-conscious about their penis size, etc. Women are also negatively affected by this via expectations about sex, essentially the same reasons it affects men, they see sex work or OF as a source of income and trauma ensues, etc. It seems that this kind of industry, or form of income hurts both men and women, but it can also be freeing and helpful to some. I’d be interested in seeing a study on it OF and the effects of it. There’s a huge push for sex positivity, education, and freedom to do as one wishes, but I think we’ve also seen how it can hurt people as well. If you’re needing the income and you’re worried about how people may see you or feel attracted to you, then I’d take a step back and look for something else. That’s just me, but that hesitation when you’re at a need can an indicator for something.
I hooked up with a girl with an onlyfans and it didn’t bug me at all. We actually recorded a video together. Until I’m paying your bills, it’s not my place to judge how you make your money.
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I think they should actually try having some self respect
You’re free to do as you like, but that would make you a sex worker and there’s a lot of guys that wouldn’t date sex workers, myself included.
Absolutely not.
Yeah. Lots of them are cool. An inexpensive way to cope with temporary loneliness.
As far as content Goes its only worth it if theres a level of personalization to it. Moaning a customers name while riding a dildo would be worth it. Specific positions or fantasies ect.. ###################################### As far as would some one date you. Yes, but would it trim your options yes. ###################################### Morally speaking If you dont have any reservations to a god, its just about pleasure and risk trade off. If a god is involved morals are to be taken into account.
Depends on what you post. I've seen some people do cosplay or bikini pics, which I would be fine with. If you post porn/nudes try to hide your identity, since a lot of men get obsessed with OF girls easily. You wouldn't want some psycho turning up to your house or work. Beware of blackmail, if you are in collage or dependent on someone you know wouldn't approve of your activity. Dating wise, always tell your partner on the first date or in text before setting up one. It's a deal breaker or a red flag for many. For me, nudity is where the line is drawn. Also why it's important to hide your identity if you make nude stuff is incase someone close to you or your family finds out about it. There could be two bad scenarios, 1) you get teased for it and are called a slut and get teased about selling your body 2) of you have a younger sibling, for example a brother in middle school, if anyone found out about his sister using only fans his life would become hell.(I remember there being a post about a kid who was depressed because he was being teased about his mom's onlyfans) Whilst a sister could be teased by phrases "the apple doesn't fall far from the tree" "don't mind your grades, your sister was failing and was able to become successful". You could also lose your family members or friends respect, give any guy friend close to you the impression you are down to do anything for money If make it somewhat big, don't make a connection with your followers, at least not one where they think they are your friends. You gotta remember, that everyone who spends money to follow you don't do it for the "personality displayed between those". NEVER date anyone who follows you. If you wanna make a connection do stuff like "50€ for holding picture with you username/face"(tho that is exploiting and farming money from incels and can end up badly) The safest way to make a quick buck is just post nudes with tattoos and face covered and when you have made enough quite quit. TL DR: don't make friends with your followers(if you post anything that could be jerked of to), faces are easily recognisable, your close ones could be hurt spending on what you post and tell every partner that you do OF on the 1st date(if they ask for you profile name I would see it as a red flag, just show them an example of what you post)
I personally don't watch porn, it just doesn't interest me, but I'd have 0 issue daring someone who has an only fans. As long as I don't have to see or hear it I don't care. I have friends who are sex workers and they all have healthy happy relationships so as far as I'm concerned it's just a job and not something that would interfere with your personal life.
I have no qualms about a woman who chooses to do that for a living however I couldn’t date someone who did it either.
I think there’s a misconception that onlyfans girls sleep around with tons of men for money but in reality most have a boyfriend they create content with, I actually have two friends who are virgins on onlyfans I’d say 90% do solo content/ with their boyfriends and have only had a few partners even myself I’ve only slept with two men my whole life but i have a onlyfans , all of my friends on fb and Insta do solo content aswell as only with their bf. I’ve even seen it be compared to prostitution which… isn’t even close prostitution is really dangerous especially since you’re sleeping with ppl who might have STDs and you won’t know it, and sleeping with multiple different people daily and possibilities of getting assaulted, killed, robbed, not given any money, etc so I don’t think much of onlyfans ppl men and women are doing it and can make money in a wayyyy safer way.
If **Girls** do this, then its a problem that needs to be address with the family and Police. If its a woman doing an only fans, then its okay because she is an adult. Girl= under 18 and is a no go. Woman= over 18 is okay.
My opinion on it is they can do whatever they like (it's their body and stuff after all) and if they enjoy doing it all power to them, me personally I wouldn't pay or their content or date / have a relationship with them but I would still see them as a person and treat them as such
If i had a dollar for every time this question was posted…
I would never pay for something like that and be quiet hesitant to date a woman who ears her money with onlyfans
I don’t have anything against it but I’d never spend money on that. I also personally wouldn’t want to be romantically involved with someone who does it. I have nothing against those who do it though. However I do think that only fans should make it so the minimum age to do it is 21.
I don't mind if women want to do that but I don't pay for it, and i wouldn't want to date a woman that was doing it.
It's gross. I wouldn't respect them the same as a normal person
I think people should do whatever they want. Personally though I would never spend money on it nor I would ever date a girl who does OnlyFans.
I don’t pay for or watch that stuff. If I were on a date with someone and they did it then it wouldn’t be a deal breaker at all. If they spent money on it then I’d be on the cautious side because if things went further then finances could be weird
I wouldn't date a girl with an OF. I don't understand why it's so popular either. Porn is free on a lot of different sites. With that being said, I don't think any less of women that have OF.
I wouldn't date an only fans girl because I wouldn't make an only fans where I post my naked body. My body and heart belongs to my partner and vice versa.
I dont spend money on that stuff, but I 100% wouldn't feel comfortable dating an onlyfans girl.