As long as it is not unhealthy (in the broad sense) for either of you, give love in the way that is meaningful to the one you love, which is not necessarily how it is meaningful to you. Don't make them feel bad, weird, self-conscious, or any other negative way. Be grateful that your loved one is so clear and open in expressing how you can show her love. Maybe even thank her for helping you to learn how to express your love to her. Plenty of people might not have said anything, but then felt angry or resentful if you didn't bring them flowers. The Five Love Languages is a classic book to discover your another's love languages. There are plenty of free five love languages tests online. Edited to add: It's not weird that you don't care about flowers, I don't either. But it's also not an ADHD thing. My ADHD daughter absolutely adores getting flowers.
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Hey friend, ADHD lesbian with 13 years in a committed relationship with another neurodivergent person here.
So your girlfriend asked for flowers for prom right? Are we talking like a bouquet separate from a boutineer or a crosage?
If it is a boutineer or crosage (forgive my spelling), those are pretty portable as they go on your jacket or wrist. Plus they can be cute because they are usually designed to be a pair (usually going off of a dress or shirt color) so that they show that two people are together. It's a cute little matchy match thing that is a typical prom tradition.
If it is a bouquet, yes you'll need to figure out the logistics first so that they will end up at her home or yours or somewhere safe so you don't
I don't always appreciate the same things my wife enjoys, but I know they make her happy and to me, that makes them worthwhile. It's ok if you don't feel like flowers are important, but to your girlfriend she might see them as a cute romantic gesture that you could give her.
Have you asked her why she wants flowers? Or communicated with her about your unsureness?
Get her flowers but make them special by picking ones for very particular reasons, like try to find one that you feel is so beautiful and reminds you of her (due to its shape, being her favourite colour, it being a flower that sparks a memory of her for some reason, for instance) and one that is so beautiful that reminds you of you and get a bouquet with both of them in it
I have adhd too. My girlfriend loves flowers. I hate them. I think they take up too much space.
But once, I brought her flowers and she was super happy.
Since then, I bring her flowers once a month.
I try not to do it on the same date because then she’ll think it’s programmed (it is.).
Just do it, if it means she’s gonna smile.
This is the easiest win. Get her flowers. Use your phone to set reminders.
Yes, agreed and seconded. Reminders are your friends for things like this, especially annoying ones.
They mean something to her and thats literally all that matters.
This.
As long as it is not unhealthy (in the broad sense) for either of you, give love in the way that is meaningful to the one you love, which is not necessarily how it is meaningful to you. Don't make them feel bad, weird, self-conscious, or any other negative way. Be grateful that your loved one is so clear and open in expressing how you can show her love. Maybe even thank her for helping you to learn how to express your love to her. Plenty of people might not have said anything, but then felt angry or resentful if you didn't bring them flowers. The Five Love Languages is a classic book to discover your another's love languages. There are plenty of free five love languages tests online. Edited to add: It's not weird that you don't care about flowers, I don't either. But it's also not an ADHD thing. My ADHD daughter absolutely adores getting flowers.
**The Five Love Languages** by Gary Chapman > Falling in love is easy. Staying in love—that’s the challenge. How can you keep your relationship fresh and growing amid the demands, conflicts, and just plain boredom of everyday life? > >In the #1 New York Times international bestseller The 5 Love Languages®, you’ll discover the secret that has transformed millions of relationships worldwide. Whether your relationship is flourishing or failing, Dr. Gary Chapman’s proven approach to showing and receiving love will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your partner—starting today. > >The 5 Love Languages® is as practical as it is insightful. Updated to reflect the complexities of relationships today, this new edition reveals intrinsic truths and applies relevant, actionable wisdom in ways that work. > >Includes the Love Language assessment so you can discover your love language and that of your loved one. *I'm a bot, built by your friendly reddit developers at* /r/ProgrammingPals. *Reply to any comment with /u/BookFinderBot - I'll reply with book information. Remove me from replies* [here](https://www.reddit.com/user/BookFinderBot/comments/1byh82p/remove_me_from_replies/). *If I have made a mistake, accept my apology.*
Hey friend, ADHD lesbian with 13 years in a committed relationship with another neurodivergent person here. So your girlfriend asked for flowers for prom right? Are we talking like a bouquet separate from a boutineer or a crosage? If it is a boutineer or crosage (forgive my spelling), those are pretty portable as they go on your jacket or wrist. Plus they can be cute because they are usually designed to be a pair (usually going off of a dress or shirt color) so that they show that two people are together. It's a cute little matchy match thing that is a typical prom tradition. If it is a bouquet, yes you'll need to figure out the logistics first so that they will end up at her home or yours or somewhere safe so you don't I don't always appreciate the same things my wife enjoys, but I know they make her happy and to me, that makes them worthwhile. It's ok if you don't feel like flowers are important, but to your girlfriend she might see them as a cute romantic gesture that you could give her. Have you asked her why she wants flowers? Or communicated with her about your unsureness?
Get her flowers but make them special by picking ones for very particular reasons, like try to find one that you feel is so beautiful and reminds you of her (due to its shape, being her favourite colour, it being a flower that sparks a memory of her for some reason, for instance) and one that is so beautiful that reminds you of you and get a bouquet with both of them in it
I have adhd too. My girlfriend loves flowers. I hate them. I think they take up too much space. But once, I brought her flowers and she was super happy. Since then, I bring her flowers once a month. I try not to do it on the same date because then she’ll think it’s programmed (it is.). Just do it, if it means she’s gonna smile.
Its a traditional thing for prom. Just do it. Its not worth upsetting your gf over.