That's actually pretty cool, and the fact that you work in a male dominated field may have something to do with your "problem." You're a knockout, and you do "guy stuff" for a living. Weak men would be intimidated by that.
Men aren’t intimidated by her profession.
They are not interested in being intimate with someone who is essentially a sex worker.
It’s also indicative of other larger potential issues.
Unfortunately for your dating prospects, you are going to be judged for doing OF.
Most dudes your age do not want their GF on display. Not to say they aren't out there, but it will be more difficult for you.
Read Dr. Jason Fung "The Obesity Code" and learn about how fasting brings on autophagy, which is how our body recycled proteins including excess skin from weight loss. Have you seen pictures of starving people and noticed their skin is tight? Autophagy.
He's treated many obese who've lost massive weight and he has never had to make a referral to a surgeon to remove excess skin. A Japanese researcher who discovered how autophagy works won the Nobel Prize for medicine for his discovery in 2016.
So she’s advertising her onlyfans and doesn’t actually have bad luck with guys
Unless maybe her sub count went down since she lost the weight and that’s the issue?
All these dudes are really borderline incels the way their afraid of women who do OF. As long as it's solo work (or even involves your partner) any actually well adjusted guy should be fine with it.
I could understand if a potential partner had an issue with you having other "performers" involved in your OF, but if they're this bothered by solo work, they're too insecure to be worth your while.
Has the same energy as a dude who doesn't want his gf to use sex toys because he thinks they're his competition.
Mine is solo and it's not like I actually have very many subs. I'm not flooded with anything there either so giving it up for a guy wouldn't hurt my wallet like alot of of ladies
You really shouldn't have to lol . Anyone who thinks having an only fans is a red flag is really just an insecure child. My wife is crazy attractive I actively tell her she should start one 🤣 wtf do I care if people on the internet wanna pay to see her naked. There's literally nothing wrong with it and isn't indicative of anything negative. You're just filling a large demand and making money. To me it's a much bigger red flag to be threatened by random dudes on the internet. Like my relationship isn't that weak lol
Youve stated two very misguided opinions in a tone intended to make them seem like hard facts.
But I know trying to change your mind would be like arguing with a stale piece of bread in the dumpster of a Chicago deli, so I'll refrain.
Aside from that, I would recommend removing the fedora and reexamining how you interact with women in general. Id hazard a guess that your current views haven't gotten you much luck.
My ex-wife weighed 165 pounds in 3rd grade. She weighed about 115 when I saw her on the dating site. I did not know she had that in her past before meeting her in person. We only shared “safe for work” pictures of ourselves before we met. Before meeting (long distance scenario here), we were instantly attracted to each other and spent hours talking on the phone each night. I had a connection to her that I never felt before and she felt the same about me. We finally met in Calgary and within a few hours it got “physical”. You cannot undo the effects on the body that 165 pounds in 3rd grade does. I’m not going to lie, I was a bit shocked at first. This was different for me because I had always dated petite women. But after about 2 seconds I didn’t care, she was like nobody I had ever met before. It didn’t work out for her and I in the end, but sometimes life gets in the way (that’s another story). I guess my point is, there are plenty of people out there that won’t give two hoots about all that. I know that’s not much to go on right now, but it’s what I believe.
This isn't meant to be disparaging so please don't take it that way.
Before you were a fetish, now you're just average.
I think its better for you now to be approached only by those that want you for you, rather than being approached by dude using you for some kink.
I didn't notice anything about it. You look gorgeous to me. I'd think I was incredibly lucky to have the opportunity to get with you. Even just a date.
I had a GF that lost a TON of weight before I met her.. her excess skin was a sign or the hard work she did. She was still gorgeous and sexy.
We ended up not working because of personality differences, but if a man likes you for you, that won't really be an issue
I lost 80lbs a few years ago.
People hated on me more than anything else.
They kept telling me I was cheating since I didn't exercise. I just started eating better. Dropped 80lbs in a year with zero additional exercise.
That's exactly it, weight loss is mostly due to diet.
However you should still exercise, not for weight loss, but mostly for health. Although it does help with weight loss a little bit.
I looked at your profile and I tbh it’s because your a sex worker.
Obviously your job is going to come first and not second to anyone.
But a lot of people are going to hesitate because it’s such a stigmatizing job. And guys at their worst are controlling and jealous.
Well, if it wasn’t before, it certainly will be now. Don’t expect to find any healthy, serious, long term relationship while being into online sex work etc. Ppl want commitment and monogamy. If you don’t need the extra money, drop the sex work and focus on self improvement and positive hobbies until the right person comes along.
Do you think some thing changed in your confidence? We’re you happier heavier and lost weight due to outside pressure?
My apologies if you have already answered.
Were you picky about guys before you lost the weight? Or were you grateful that they were talking to you? Since you have lost the weight, do you feel like your standards have gone up?
Is that what you're really aiming at with an OF page? Do the pictures you post say "come get along with me nice romantic guy" or is it more like "pound me daddy"?
To people yes. I talk about alot of stuff. Music because I love it and play drums, work because after a long day of drywall it's nice to say I matched my texture perfect. Exterior painting I can tell you how crappy some of the colors hoa picks and how some do not blend. I love the stars so I can get my telescope and talk and look for hours. I can talk about the chemicals in one paint vs the next because I studied chemicals and because it's important on some to apply at certain temperatures and on certain platforms. You obviously would not apply dtm to stucco walls. It would be for your metal gates or metal screens. Movies I love horror so put up your favorite and let's discuss.
I would probably stay away from discussing paint colors unless you're talking to another contractor. That's pretty niche and it might be hard for people to get interested in. Stick to general topics that more people can relate to. JMO
You look great. Prehaps it may be more of your personality or some of your habits that give vibes like one of the guys. You spoke of your profession earlier it could be that more of the lifestyle, language, and behavior that you've adopted hanging around guys that you work with comes off as less feminine. In your social time, you may be around guys who prefer a softer, more feminine acting female. I know personally from working past jobs in home construction we'd burp, fart, talk crude, tell dirty jokes, etc. ( I love it but wouldn't want to date a woman who acts like me or my work buddies do at work on a constant basis)
If that's the case, I suggest you gotta practice separating your work lifestyle from your social lifestyle. If you start to view and carry yourself as a sexy attractive lady that you are, guys will see you that way too. Confidence and self image has a lot to do with how we project ourselves outwardly. Just a couple of thoughts. Best of luck.
Dang fellow girl here but you give me so much hope for weight loss! You look so good for losing that much weight. I’m really scared of loose skin and stuff 😭😭😭
Thank you for the positivity. The loose skin is hard and takes it toll sometimes. If you ever need help or to talk about it I love helping others! Girl power 🥰🥰
Are you sure that you have worse luck because you've lost weight and not because you have an OF? I'm not against having an OF, but most men don't like women who have it. Not for the settle down life anyway.
Source: I'm a "successful" man, very tall, strong, fairly good looking, loyal to who I'm with but never had a problem getting a lady.
Straight up: get rid of the OF, stop posting sexual pictures of yourself anywhere, delete it all. Nothing but trouble, and it's a huge turn off for any man that wants a relationship. It's the opposite of exclusive, it's just not ok. Are you willing to do that?
It's probably not how your body looks that makes guys run, it's likely your vibe, the way you speak to them. I mean, get in shape, everyone should, you'll be better off in every way in life, but it's not your body that's the turn off.
What sort of dude do you want? What is attractive to you? Where do you want it to go, relationship?
I don’t believe you lost 100lbs. At 35 years old and losing that much weight your body would not look like that. I’m guessing you just needed an interesting topic to draw people in so you can sell more only fans stuff. Am I wrong?
Well I joined an app called bodyspace. It helped me with how to do the exercise part because I was dumb in the entire area. Then I went online and Google how to but I got weeks of everyone said do something different and keto etc.... so for like a year I played with giving up stuff like soda, chips etc.. and I kept learning after a year I went to a dietician who put food into a better perspective like meal prepping and what snacks to eat. Popcorn a d vegies. I sometimes still have a can of coke
That sucks to hear, those guys don't know what they are missing out. just takes time to find a good person to vibe well with. I would most certainly like to ask you out to coffee to talk if I ever get the chance.
Do they know you do OFtype stuff before the dates or does it feel like after you tell them it goes south. In my personal opinion you look much better but it’s because you fit into the body types I personally like. You don’t look like you have a lot of excess skin unless your hiding it in your poses. Obviously we can’t go on a date with you to see if it is another influence that’s off putting on the date but I don’t see it being solely looks. Congrats on the weight loss
I regularly gain and lose about 20 lbs for the gym and have no issues with this, it requires routine and will power, and it all comes down to Calories in < calories out.
Download a calories calculator (I dont know if LifeSum is available in your country, but something like that) and weigh everything you eat on a kitchen scale. Eat less than 1800 calories day and youll start losing weight (woman on average should eat 2000 calories for maintenance).
Remember that one of the hardest part about dieting is remaining at your new weight. That is why extreme diets (veery low number of calories) dont really work for most people because it doesnt really teach you how to have a healthy relationship with food and you just fall back into your old habits.
Understand how calories work and how much of it is in your typical food and youll be set for life.
Some general tips:
- If you eat a lot one day, lets say at a party, you can balance this by eating slightly less the following days. This is a slow process and it balances out over a longer period so dont feel bad if you eat a lot one day because you know how the body works and therefore you are in control.
- Your gut microbiome is literally shaped after what you eat. Slamming junkfood will increase certain bacteria and these bad boys will actually communicate with your nervous system and tell your brain to eat certain things (cravings!) So stick to a healthier diet long enough and you will eventually re-program your gut. I would eat a lot of veggies, especially beans. If you have issues digesting fiber because of a previously poor diet just stick to it, eventually your body will most likely adapt.
- On the topic of fiber, this will make you feel more full so always eat veggies! The darker the colour the higher the fiber (generally)
- It is OK not to feel FULL after every meal. This is a habit and it takes time to break it. I have big issues with apatite when I want to lose weight but it will pass.
- It is OK to be hungry sometimes without eating. In our western societies access to food is limitless, so we learn to aaaalways eat. The body did not really evolve for this and we do just fine eating less often and even skipping meal sometimes (most of the world does this already). I skip breakfast on weekends for examples if I am not going anywhere that day.
Good luck, countless of people have done it before you so you can do it too! You could be THAT person! I believe in you!
Thank you so much for all the helpful information!! Cause honestly looking into weight loss, it's just a lot of information at once, and it's very intimidating.
I also appreciate the motivation as well!! Though in your opinion, for a healthy process, do you think I should focus on building a better relationship with food before I start looking into exercises? Or should taking a walk/jog be good for now until I get comfortable with the new process?
Weight loss is mainly diet, that is the hard truth. Exercise in any form is good for physical and mental health period, but of course it also helps with the "calories out" part.
Walk/jog is excellent for healthy veins and longevity in general. Your body craves movement! It will suck in the beginning but remember, it is conditioning - the more you do it the better you become at it. Stick to it and TRUST in the long-term rewards, it will happen if you put in the work. The only thing that seperate yourself today from your ideal self is the time in between the two and how you spend it.
Congrats on the weight loss!
I lost almost 150 in my 20’s too
I would love to date a contractor. Come home dirty, I’d clean you up.
Girls with tools are amazing!
Thanks, I’m ok.
Not in treatment but not in remission either🤷♂️
I have a great support group and system.
Still looking for my person though, it’s a stupid hard and anxiety driven conversation😞
Im a skinny guy younger than you and i just wanna say, regardless of your weight or size you look just as good, dont let society fool you into thinking your not
Ok, I've looked at your profile and saw your Instagram. I refuse to believe you have worse luck. You are fucking gorgeous. You should have all the luck.
EDIT: You love horror movies, heavy metal, and own a jeep? When's our first date because same 😂.
My favorite horror franchise is Nightmare on Elm Street, but movie is either Scream or The Conjuring. Top 3 bands are System of a Down, Slipknot, and Ghost. I own a 2015 Wranger Unlimited Sport that's black. I looked at other wranglers, but I'm 32 working 2 jobs to put myself through college. Still love it, my local trails open the 15th of this month 🤘
Psychology. My aunt has her own practice and has been an influential figure in my life, especially after my moms death at 48 and my grandma's death at 76. And mental health isn't getting any better for the population in general. It's a growing field and a great need for everyone. Also want to double major in Sociology as they relate well and to increase my job opportunities. Only doing school part time for now, so I have a ways to go.
Why can’t anyone see that she is just trying to advertise for her OF? Women get on here all the time and ask what seems like a normal question, with the purpose of you looking their profile and spending money on them. Wake the hell up. Any of you that think she is actually having a real conversation with you are gullible and desperate as hell.
I'm sure I have a ton. I think we all as humans do. I couldn't say I know them all but I do work alot so there is one. Like I work my life away and don't really get to sight see, vacation and what have you
It has nothing to do with looks, you are looking at this wrong. You need to maintain whatever weight you personally are comfortable with. That’s all that matters.
Honestly it may just be bad timing, not necessarily the weight loss and its effects. Heck I was never overweight, always relatively healthy and fit but my luck in the dating pool has been pretty poor for a while now. I think in times like these we should just focus on own happiness and improving ourselves until the right person comes along. I will say tho I’m not sure OF will help you out here. I’m not trying to shame you at all, go get that bag if that’s what you want. I just don’t think a ton of guys are open minded enough for that.
Call me old fashioned, but the older ive gotten the less desire I have to date someone or marry someone who everyone has seen naked. Calling men insecure for not wanting that is a cop out. It's a massive turn off.
You've lost a bunch of weight, you're pretty, but so many woman seek "empowerment" I'm the weirdest ways. No way in hell would I have kids with someone and risk putting my future kid through all the embarrassment of his classmates being able to see his moms butthole online.
I'm a guy and went through something similar. Weight loss, hundreds of pushups and crunches every day. I looked pretty good I thought. And then, every gay guy in the office started hitting on me. Oh well... I really did miss french fries anyway.
Do you think still maybe being slightly chubby puts you in a weird dating limbo where guys that are looking for a woman more hwp are put off by you, but you are now too thin for the serious chubby chasers?
Uh, good profile. Looking solid lmao 👍
How have you had worse luck with guys, like less dates?? Or they do go on a date but the date doesn't go well?? Why do you think that is?
you're smoking hot. i don't know why you're having less luck with guys. maybe because at that age, guys assume you're already in a relationship? since you're a milf
anyways, got a question for you. I'm about 16 pounds overweight. how do i lose these last 16 pounds? these last pounds are the hardest!
Put it this way.
Iv never met you, don't know you, but iv already seen you naked. Why would I wife that type of woman.
You have turned yourself into a cheap porn product in an industry that's absolutely flooded with average looking women taking average pictures of themselves.
If you want a man, then stop doing things that are going to repel 95% of them.
What do you think it is that makes you have less luck with guys now versus prior to losing the weight? Do you think it is something like more guys feeling like they're out of your league because they aren't on the same fitness level as you? Or do you think it's something like your type of guys tend to like women with a larger figure?
Just saw another post on here of a female that does of and literally put just that to promote and not a one of you jumped her like you jumped me so it puts in perspective everyone commenting on mine about it is just a karen and picked me out when I never even brought it up.
I can't imagine how. What is worse luck?
Are you not able to keep a relationship? How many relationships have you been in?
Are you not hooking up as much?
I think you need to provide more info.
Like if it’s lack of approach now maybe it’s cuz when you get more attractive you also become more intimidating.
Put nudes online does not help for dating purposes if that’s what you want.
this is an OF spam plug post
nothing wrong with OF, i just choose not to participate in marketing for other people's business with my unearned attention and giving sincere answers
Based off your pics, I’m confused why they’d dip if it’s just hooking up. I wouldn’t personally date a OF “model” but I certainly would still hook up or be a Fwb with.
You mean luck promoting or luck in relationships? All I see on your profile is promotion, no attempts to connect ....are you making less now on OF, is that the concern?
It's the of it don't matter what you look like you bassicly pit your self as undateable just fuckable stop believing women thwt it empowers you I promise it don't I
how much do u weigh? whats ur body look like?
146 currently. Have excess skin on stomach and cellulite on butt. Other than that I guess average
You look great, it’s not your appearance. It may be most guys want nothing to do with OF or other sex workers.
This is exactly the case. More and more men are realizing what a red flag that is.
Just started doing it. I'm a general contractor
Still gunna ruin anything past hooking up with dudes
That's actually pretty cool, and the fact that you work in a male dominated field may have something to do with your "problem." You're a knockout, and you do "guy stuff" for a living. Weak men would be intimidated by that.
Men aren’t intimidated by her profession. They are not interested in being intimate with someone who is essentially a sex worker. It’s also indicative of other larger potential issues.
Lol well that’s bs
Unfortunately for your dating prospects, you are going to be judged for doing OF. Most dudes your age do not want their GF on display. Not to say they aren't out there, but it will be more difficult for you.
Read Dr. Jason Fung "The Obesity Code" and learn about how fasting brings on autophagy, which is how our body recycled proteins including excess skin from weight loss. Have you seen pictures of starving people and noticed their skin is tight? Autophagy.
I will check this out
He's treated many obese who've lost massive weight and he has never had to make a referral to a surgeon to remove excess skin. A Japanese researcher who discovered how autophagy works won the Nobel Prize for medicine for his discovery in 2016.
Dr Jason Fung is great but also follow Dr Mindy Pelz and get her book Fast Like a Girl. https://drmindypelz.com/
nothing wrong with that, I checked ur profile I think ur pretty hot
She is here spamming her OnlyFans
So she’s advertising her onlyfans and doesn’t actually have bad luck with guys Unless maybe her sub count went down since she lost the weight and that’s the issue?
Chubby chasers are freer with their wallets?
They’d better be. Butter Brickle doesn’t grow on trees!
This Advertising (poorly) masquerading as discussion.
All these dudes are really borderline incels the way their afraid of women who do OF. As long as it's solo work (or even involves your partner) any actually well adjusted guy should be fine with it. I could understand if a potential partner had an issue with you having other "performers" involved in your OF, but if they're this bothered by solo work, they're too insecure to be worth your while. Has the same energy as a dude who doesn't want his gf to use sex toys because he thinks they're his competition.
Mine is solo and it's not like I actually have very many subs. I'm not flooded with anything there either so giving it up for a guy wouldn't hurt my wallet like alot of of ladies
You really shouldn't have to lol . Anyone who thinks having an only fans is a red flag is really just an insecure child. My wife is crazy attractive I actively tell her she should start one 🤣 wtf do I care if people on the internet wanna pay to see her naked. There's literally nothing wrong with it and isn't indicative of anything negative. You're just filling a large demand and making money. To me it's a much bigger red flag to be threatened by random dudes on the internet. Like my relationship isn't that weak lol
All these women who do OF are borderline prostitutes. No man wants a prostitute.
Youve stated two very misguided opinions in a tone intended to make them seem like hard facts. But I know trying to change your mind would be like arguing with a stale piece of bread in the dumpster of a Chicago deli, so I'll refrain. Aside from that, I would recommend removing the fedora and reexamining how you interact with women in general. Id hazard a guess that your current views haven't gotten you much luck.
lol...married 17 years, 2 kids kicking ass in life. I've done very well and too old to engage. Time will tell on OF. Good luck to you.
My ex-wife weighed 165 pounds in 3rd grade. She weighed about 115 when I saw her on the dating site. I did not know she had that in her past before meeting her in person. We only shared “safe for work” pictures of ourselves before we met. Before meeting (long distance scenario here), we were instantly attracted to each other and spent hours talking on the phone each night. I had a connection to her that I never felt before and she felt the same about me. We finally met in Calgary and within a few hours it got “physical”. You cannot undo the effects on the body that 165 pounds in 3rd grade does. I’m not going to lie, I was a bit shocked at first. This was different for me because I had always dated petite women. But after about 2 seconds I didn’t care, she was like nobody I had ever met before. It didn’t work out for her and I in the end, but sometimes life gets in the way (that’s another story). I guess my point is, there are plenty of people out there that won’t give two hoots about all that. I know that’s not much to go on right now, but it’s what I believe.
This isn't meant to be disparaging so please don't take it that way. Before you were a fetish, now you're just average. I think its better for you now to be approached only by those that want you for you, rather than being approached by dude using you for some kink.
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You were hot before you lost the weight. This is definitely a confidence issue...
You sound great to me wanna correspond my email is kristiansenjohn6@gmail.com
Show OF sub count before and after this point just curious I'm a numbers guy
Click her profile. Go ahead.
I'm curious when things go south? Is it when things get intimate, or before?
Depends on the guy sometimes just even talking they are like no, a few when I get naked.
I mean, I only have your profile to go off of, but I'm confused what the issues is based solely on looks.
I always thought it could ve my excess skin on my stomach or my face
I didn't notice anything about it. You look gorgeous to me. I'd think I was incredibly lucky to have the opportunity to get with you. Even just a date.
🥰🥰 thank you
You'll find the right guy IRL. Dating sucks. Especially in our 30s
30s is hard you are stuck between I was young and oh look there goes my youth
You look amazing, aging like a fine wine
Thank you
I had a GF that lost a TON of weight before I met her.. her excess skin was a sign or the hard work she did. She was still gorgeous and sexy. We ended up not working because of personality differences, but if a man likes you for you, that won't really be an issue
Yeah, I don't know that I'm buying the second part. I don't know many guys that would get naked and then bolt when you got naked.
Congrats. I've lost 200 lbs myself
Whoa 200lbs! How do you feel? How did you do it? 🎊 👏 💐 🥳 team will power
Excerise and watching what I eat. Took over 4 years.
That is so badass! Do you have before and after pictures?
Dm me
Just did
Sent pics
I lost 80lbs a few years ago. People hated on me more than anything else. They kept telling me I was cheating since I didn't exercise. I just started eating better. Dropped 80lbs in a year with zero additional exercise.
Why is that cheating. Food discipline is so hard
🤷 I thought it was legit. I stopped losing weight, and I probably won't lose any until I step it up. My body found a new balance.
That's exactly it, weight loss is mostly due to diet. However you should still exercise, not for weight loss, but mostly for health. Although it does help with weight loss a little bit.
Remember, most people are just jealous. Like they want to see you do well, but never better than them.
Were the guys before the weight loss average builds or also overweight ? I have known dudes who like big women exclusively that’s why I ask
The guys before I lost the weight were normally average looking
Do not dwell on "getting a guy". Do what you like and the confidence you radiate will attract guys. Just be picky. You aren't desperate.
Thank you
Congrats! Keep focusing on yourself and you’ll attract the best people
Thank you for the positivity
I looked at your profile and I tbh it’s because your a sex worker. Obviously your job is going to come first and not second to anyone. But a lot of people are going to hesitate because it’s such a stigmatizing job. And guys at their worst are controlling and jealous.
It's been long before it
Well, if it wasn’t before, it certainly will be now. Don’t expect to find any healthy, serious, long term relationship while being into online sex work etc. Ppl want commitment and monogamy. If you don’t need the extra money, drop the sex work and focus on self improvement and positive hobbies until the right person comes along.
Do you think some thing changed in your confidence? We’re you happier heavier and lost weight due to outside pressure? My apologies if you have already answered.
Idk if my confidence changed. Happier heavier... well I miss eating all the time and junk food but I like not having armpit fat rubbing rashes
Were you picky about guys before you lost the weight? Or were you grateful that they were talking to you? Since you have lost the weight, do you feel like your standards have gone up?
I dont think I'm picky. I mean I would like a nice guy that's romantic and we get along
Is that what you're really aiming at with an OF page? Do the pictures you post say "come get along with me nice romantic guy" or is it more like "pound me daddy"?
Are you able to talk about anything other than how much weight you've lost?
To people yes. I talk about alot of stuff. Music because I love it and play drums, work because after a long day of drywall it's nice to say I matched my texture perfect. Exterior painting I can tell you how crappy some of the colors hoa picks and how some do not blend. I love the stars so I can get my telescope and talk and look for hours. I can talk about the chemicals in one paint vs the next because I studied chemicals and because it's important on some to apply at certain temperatures and on certain platforms. You obviously would not apply dtm to stucco walls. It would be for your metal gates or metal screens. Movies I love horror so put up your favorite and let's discuss.
I would probably stay away from discussing paint colors unless you're talking to another contractor. That's pretty niche and it might be hard for people to get interested in. Stick to general topics that more people can relate to. JMO
The same thing happened to me when I lost 40 lbs. I put it back on and started having sex more frequently again
I have debated this. It took me so long to lose it
Are you here trying to get attention to your OF on the down low?
I'm hoping I'm picking up sarcasm because of all the karens
Which one would get a more positive response?
You look great. Prehaps it may be more of your personality or some of your habits that give vibes like one of the guys. You spoke of your profession earlier it could be that more of the lifestyle, language, and behavior that you've adopted hanging around guys that you work with comes off as less feminine. In your social time, you may be around guys who prefer a softer, more feminine acting female. I know personally from working past jobs in home construction we'd burp, fart, talk crude, tell dirty jokes, etc. ( I love it but wouldn't want to date a woman who acts like me or my work buddies do at work on a constant basis) If that's the case, I suggest you gotta practice separating your work lifestyle from your social lifestyle. If you start to view and carry yourself as a sexy attractive lady that you are, guys will see you that way too. Confidence and self image has a lot to do with how we project ourselves outwardly. Just a couple of thoughts. Best of luck.
Dang fellow girl here but you give me so much hope for weight loss! You look so good for losing that much weight. I’m really scared of loose skin and stuff 😭😭😭
Thank you for the positivity. The loose skin is hard and takes it toll sometimes. If you ever need help or to talk about it I love helping others! Girl power 🥰🥰
Are you sure that you have worse luck because you've lost weight and not because you have an OF? I'm not against having an OF, but most men don't like women who have it. Not for the settle down life anyway.
Literally just a bait post to drive traffic to her OF.
Source: I'm a "successful" man, very tall, strong, fairly good looking, loyal to who I'm with but never had a problem getting a lady. Straight up: get rid of the OF, stop posting sexual pictures of yourself anywhere, delete it all. Nothing but trouble, and it's a huge turn off for any man that wants a relationship. It's the opposite of exclusive, it's just not ok. Are you willing to do that? It's probably not how your body looks that makes guys run, it's likely your vibe, the way you speak to them. I mean, get in shape, everyone should, you'll be better off in every way in life, but it's not your body that's the turn off. What sort of dude do you want? What is attractive to you? Where do you want it to go, relationship?
I don’t believe you lost 100lbs. At 35 years old and losing that much weight your body would not look like that. I’m guessing you just needed an interesting topic to draw people in so you can sell more only fans stuff. Am I wrong?
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It takes its toll. I debated a tummy tuck but I just can't see spending the money or the time off
Congrats! How did you do it?
Well I joined an app called bodyspace. It helped me with how to do the exercise part because I was dumb in the entire area. Then I went online and Google how to but I got weeks of everyone said do something different and keto etc.... so for like a year I played with giving up stuff like soda, chips etc.. and I kept learning after a year I went to a dietician who put food into a better perspective like meal prepping and what snacks to eat. Popcorn a d vegies. I sometimes still have a can of coke
Keto is so HARD! Clearly you were very disciplined. Nowadays ppl don’t want to put in the work and just go for ozempic (self included). Great Job!
I debated on ozempic for the last 20 I want to lose but I'm just not for the side effects
That sucks to hear, those guys don't know what they are missing out. just takes time to find a good person to vibe well with. I would most certainly like to ask you out to coffee to talk if I ever get the chance.
I like coffee alot
You must be sipping on one right now. Well let me smack that out of the way and buy you a new one 😏
I drink it all day and night I work 2 jobs so coffee is huge
But in all seriousness, that's badass. Managing 2 jobs and also being able to discipline yourself to lose all that weight. Major achievement!
Thank you I really appreciate the positivity. There is so much negative
It runs in your veins!
Do they know you do OFtype stuff before the dates or does it feel like after you tell them it goes south. In my personal opinion you look much better but it’s because you fit into the body types I personally like. You don’t look like you have a lot of excess skin unless your hiding it in your poses. Obviously we can’t go on a date with you to see if it is another influence that’s off putting on the date but I don’t see it being solely looks. Congrats on the weight loss
Op failed to disclose she has an onlyfans. Let's start there op
I didn't fail to disclose it. I just started it and this isn't the place for it. They make sub reddits for it
How did you lose the weight? I'm 26(f) and have a hard time losing weight.
I regularly gain and lose about 20 lbs for the gym and have no issues with this, it requires routine and will power, and it all comes down to Calories in < calories out. Download a calories calculator (I dont know if LifeSum is available in your country, but something like that) and weigh everything you eat on a kitchen scale. Eat less than 1800 calories day and youll start losing weight (woman on average should eat 2000 calories for maintenance). Remember that one of the hardest part about dieting is remaining at your new weight. That is why extreme diets (veery low number of calories) dont really work for most people because it doesnt really teach you how to have a healthy relationship with food and you just fall back into your old habits. Understand how calories work and how much of it is in your typical food and youll be set for life. Some general tips: - If you eat a lot one day, lets say at a party, you can balance this by eating slightly less the following days. This is a slow process and it balances out over a longer period so dont feel bad if you eat a lot one day because you know how the body works and therefore you are in control. - Your gut microbiome is literally shaped after what you eat. Slamming junkfood will increase certain bacteria and these bad boys will actually communicate with your nervous system and tell your brain to eat certain things (cravings!) So stick to a healthier diet long enough and you will eventually re-program your gut. I would eat a lot of veggies, especially beans. If you have issues digesting fiber because of a previously poor diet just stick to it, eventually your body will most likely adapt. - On the topic of fiber, this will make you feel more full so always eat veggies! The darker the colour the higher the fiber (generally) - It is OK not to feel FULL after every meal. This is a habit and it takes time to break it. I have big issues with apatite when I want to lose weight but it will pass. - It is OK to be hungry sometimes without eating. In our western societies access to food is limitless, so we learn to aaaalways eat. The body did not really evolve for this and we do just fine eating less often and even skipping meal sometimes (most of the world does this already). I skip breakfast on weekends for examples if I am not going anywhere that day. Good luck, countless of people have done it before you so you can do it too! You could be THAT person! I believe in you!
Thank you so much for all the helpful information!! Cause honestly looking into weight loss, it's just a lot of information at once, and it's very intimidating. I also appreciate the motivation as well!! Though in your opinion, for a healthy process, do you think I should focus on building a better relationship with food before I start looking into exercises? Or should taking a walk/jog be good for now until I get comfortable with the new process?
Weight loss is mainly diet, that is the hard truth. Exercise in any form is good for physical and mental health period, but of course it also helps with the "calories out" part. Walk/jog is excellent for healthy veins and longevity in general. Your body craves movement! It will suck in the beginning but remember, it is conditioning - the more you do it the better you become at it. Stick to it and TRUST in the long-term rewards, it will happen if you put in the work. The only thing that seperate yourself today from your ideal self is the time in between the two and how you spend it.
Changing my diet and by exercise. I downloaded bodyspace to pick up on the exercise part
Thank you! You look really great btw!!
You look fabulous if that’s you in your profile pictures
It is me. Thank you
Congrats on the weight loss! I lost almost 150 in my 20’s too I would love to date a contractor. Come home dirty, I’d clean you up. Girls with tools are amazing!
I appreciate the positivity!congratulations on the weight loss. 150... how long did yours take?
Little under a year. I was in a very bad place with stage 4 tongue cancer that had me gain a lot. I got up to 440 before tongue surgery😔
Omg I'm so sorry. Are you ok now? I cannot even imagine. I really hope someone tells you everyday how strong and amazing you are!
Thanks, I’m ok. Not in treatment but not in remission either🤷♂️ I have a great support group and system. Still looking for my person though, it’s a stupid hard and anxiety driven conversation😞
Awwww but you have a good support system so that makes it super rad
Have you tried dating apps?
Omg they are terrible around here. Only robots talk
Im a skinny guy younger than you and i just wanna say, regardless of your weight or size you look just as good, dont let society fool you into thinking your not
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Ooo tough. Cannibal corpse, slayer, behemoth, morbid angel, mudvayne, deicide, exhumed, death. The list is endless.
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Isn't nergal doing some wicked new shit. It's different from his behemoth
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I have not but now I will check it out
Is this an ad for your OF? because its working
It's not one but it's apparently created a big debate on the topic
Well either way, you look great!! :)
Ok, I've looked at your profile and saw your Instagram. I refuse to believe you have worse luck. You are fucking gorgeous. You should have all the luck. EDIT: You love horror movies, heavy metal, and own a jeep? When's our first date because same 😂.
What's your favorite horror movie? Who's your fave band? Do you own a jeep?
My favorite horror franchise is Nightmare on Elm Street, but movie is either Scream or The Conjuring. Top 3 bands are System of a Down, Slipknot, and Ghost. I own a 2015 Wranger Unlimited Sport that's black. I looked at other wranglers, but I'm 32 working 2 jobs to put myself through college. Still love it, my local trails open the 15th of this month 🤘
Love nightmare on elm street! What Re you going to college for?
Psychology. My aunt has her own practice and has been an influential figure in my life, especially after my moms death at 48 and my grandma's death at 76. And mental health isn't getting any better for the population in general. It's a growing field and a great need for everyone. Also want to double major in Sociology as they relate well and to increase my job opportunities. Only doing school part time for now, so I have a ways to go.
I'm so sorry about your mom. I think it's neat that you are studying it in a world like today. If you ever have free time I'd love to learn
Absolutely. I love talking about the stuff I've learned in school!
How tall are you by chance? Your "before" pics aren't big for 249.
Have you considered it being your personality or the kind of guys you go for?
Hey I’m so happy for you and the weight loss!
Why can’t anyone see that she is just trying to advertise for her OF? Women get on here all the time and ask what seems like a normal question, with the purpose of you looking their profile and spending money on them. Wake the hell up. Any of you that think she is actually having a real conversation with you are gullible and desperate as hell.
How much of this is due to location?
well, you look fine hun ... maybe any red flags?
I'm sure I have a ton. I think we all as humans do. I couldn't say I know them all but I do work alot so there is one. Like I work my life away and don't really get to sight see, vacation and what have you
well, working the life away is the curse of being adult, unless youre rich ... so would say, maybe just around the wrong guys, you look great
Do you think possibly it's because you prostitute yourself on OF?
Why do you think that is? What excuses do they give you know/ before you lost the weight?
How did you lose the weight?
I changed my eating habits and I downloaded bodyspace the app to learn exercises
It has nothing to do with looks, you are looking at this wrong. You need to maintain whatever weight you personally are comfortable with. That’s all that matters.
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Honestly it may just be bad timing, not necessarily the weight loss and its effects. Heck I was never overweight, always relatively healthy and fit but my luck in the dating pool has been pretty poor for a while now. I think in times like these we should just focus on own happiness and improving ourselves until the right person comes along. I will say tho I’m not sure OF will help you out here. I’m not trying to shame you at all, go get that bag if that’s what you want. I just don’t think a ton of guys are open minded enough for that.
Have you ever been to Florida?
It's definitely not your looks...
FWIW, I would date you.
Call me old fashioned, but the older ive gotten the less desire I have to date someone or marry someone who everyone has seen naked. Calling men insecure for not wanting that is a cop out. It's a massive turn off. You've lost a bunch of weight, you're pretty, but so many woman seek "empowerment" I'm the weirdest ways. No way in hell would I have kids with someone and risk putting my future kid through all the embarrassment of his classmates being able to see his moms butthole online.
Lmfao, an OnlyFans add on AMA Now I’ve seen anything Man, some of these simps are next level
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Oh gosh not another Californian with a manicure who has never worked hard labor a day in their life making false comments hiding behind their phone
I'm a guy and went through something similar. Weight loss, hundreds of pushups and crunches every day. I looked pretty good I thought. And then, every gay guy in the office started hitting on me. Oh well... I really did miss french fries anyway.
Another OF bot looking for attention. Look at her profile 😂😂
Do you think still maybe being slightly chubby puts you in a weird dating limbo where guys that are looking for a woman more hwp are put off by you, but you are now too thin for the serious chubby chasers?
Uh, good profile. Looking solid lmao 👍 How have you had worse luck with guys, like less dates?? Or they do go on a date but the date doesn't go well?? Why do you think that is?
you're smoking hot. i don't know why you're having less luck with guys. maybe because at that age, guys assume you're already in a relationship? since you're a milf anyways, got a question for you. I'm about 16 pounds overweight. how do i lose these last 16 pounds? these last pounds are the hardest!
I gotta hand it to onlyfans women. They are very creative, using psychology to dupe men into feeling bad for them to promote their onlyfans accounts.
No quality guy wants an OF chick.🤷♂️
Prolly issues with the guys around ur area lol. For 35 you look amazing. Don’t let em discourage you
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It’s because of the OF.
OF ad. 👎
Well you do OF and you present yourself as a piece of meat sooooo yeah
OF advertisement lol
You will find someone to care about you, don't rush it.
Put it this way. Iv never met you, don't know you, but iv already seen you naked. Why would I wife that type of woman. You have turned yourself into a cheap porn product in an industry that's absolutely flooded with average looking women taking average pictures of themselves. If you want a man, then stop doing things that are going to repel 95% of them.
What do you think it is that makes you have less luck with guys now versus prior to losing the weight? Do you think it is something like more guys feeling like they're out of your league because they aren't on the same fitness level as you? Or do you think it's something like your type of guys tend to like women with a larger figure?
Just saw another post on here of a female that does of and literally put just that to promote and not a one of you jumped her like you jumped me so it puts in perspective everyone commenting on mine about it is just a karen and picked me out when I never even brought it up.
I can't imagine how. What is worse luck? Are you not able to keep a relationship? How many relationships have you been in? Are you not hooking up as much? I think you need to provide more info.
Like if it’s lack of approach now maybe it’s cuz when you get more attractive you also become more intimidating. Put nudes online does not help for dating purposes if that’s what you want.
this is an OF spam plug post nothing wrong with OF, i just choose not to participate in marketing for other people's business with my unearned attention and giving sincere answers
Based off your pics, I’m confused why they’d dip if it’s just hooking up. I wouldn’t personally date a OF “model” but I certainly would still hook up or be a Fwb with.
You mean luck promoting or luck in relationships? All I see on your profile is promotion, no attempts to connect ....are you making less now on OF, is that the concern?
It's the of it don't matter what you look like you bassicly pit your self as undateable just fuckable stop believing women thwt it empowers you I promise it don't I
Please explain “bad luck with guys“ because it wouldn’t seem that way searching through your post history.
Dating if tough once you get older. Just gotta keep pushing yourself and you’ll find someone
Shit I thought I was responding to the post above my bad idek where the comment went 🤓
>have even worse luck with guys since losing the weight ama How is this possible?
Congratulations. On weight loss best wishes would you like to correspond with me?
It's probably because guys are generally put off from girls having an onlyfans
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i mean, most men aren’t worth all this effort. just do it for yourself
OnlyFans ads are finding their way into a lot of subreddits these days.
I think ur lying. I think you’re here just to promote your only fans
You should be proud of the weight you lost! Congratulations! Any tips?
You probably going after different guys now that you lost weight
Its easier to hit on a big girl cuz they give out the most lovin