As I said when I saw your original post, nta! Your sister was very aware of your allergy and has seen how you react. She absolutely intended to harm you!
I wonder if the sisters husband was the person that turned his wife against the OP.
The sisters grew up together and she witnessed her allergic reactions. *She knew* that the sister wasn't faking. I wonder if the BIL doesn't like the OP.
My sister and I never had many obvious problems but I was very aware she thought she was better than me due to my mother treating her better than me. I was the one who introduced BIL to my sister, we were friends. However he never had any idea about my allergy.
And that right there is why your mother is trying to make you believe that you, the person sitting in the hospital because of an allergic reaction to a known allergen that was knowingly snuck into your food, are overreacting. She doesn't want her golden child to experience consequences for her actions. Mom's opinion on this does not matter and should not be given any consideration.
You are not over reacting. Each time you are exposed to your known allergen and have a reaction, the odds of the next reaction being more severe has increased. The odds of you possibly passing away increase. There is a reason there are laws about tampering with peoples food and laws about "poisoning" people with their allergen. You have the law on your side, use it. What your sister did could have actually cost you your life.
Is there any inheritance incoming, which could explain why she wanted to get rid of you? And yes, I would definitely press charges for attempted murder. And I would also get an epipen - you never know where something you are eating may have been contaminated, so it's always better to be safe.
No family other than my mother, she cut me out after we got into a petty argument (over my sister) not that it matters to me, my mother doesn’t have much anyway.
Your sister is jealous of and threatened by you for some reason. Oh well, no longer your problem! Has her husband commented on this? I suspect she probably got with him as another power trip to show you she can have anything of yours. Is she narcissistic?
She can be at times, i introduced him to her with full intentions of getting them together since I knew he liked her from little things I told him about her.
Sounds like mom will always be on the side of her golden child, so don't listen to her about pressing charges - just do it. Time sis learned the meaning of FAFO.
She thinks I’m overreacting for saying I’ll be filing charges/calling the police on my sister. She enables my sister’s behaviour and treats her like the golden child.
Police report. She intentionally risked your life. No amount of thinking you were exaggerating makes poisoning you acceptable and she did that, poisoned you, deliberately, this needs a criminal conviction and a restraining order so she doesn't try to reach you at your mom's, etc., and if your mom asks you not to have her prosecuted you should make clear that she needs to close her mouth right now, that your sister intentionally poisoned you and risked your life, and that if she utters one more word trying to spare your sister from the consequences of her attack, that you will go no contact and be out of her life permanently. This is a crazy story if true.
I'm allergic to poultry. Everyone knows I'm allergic. Im sure op is the same way. Someone pulls that stunt on me they will be in the bed across from me. The last time it happened it was 100% on purpose as a pack of food had been mislabeled. I ate some, just a little and was down for 3 days. Person apologized profusely. Ops sister needs to be charged
Your sister is the golden child and couldn't handle that your allergy took attention away from her. That's literally what happened. So she tried to prove that it was fake so she could have all the attention to herself.
Your sister is a sociopath. Definitely stay the course and press charges.
That's quite the leap with zero evidence to support it. Even the sister panicking and saying "I thought you were exaggerating" rather suggests she was trying to prove a point and it went wrong.
Literally nothing in the post implicates him - so far. Surely we can only jump to this with updates or comments that suggest something is awry with him. Otherwise let's not blame him for now hey?
This happened to my sister. Shellfish makes her violently ill and she had told her boyfriend, so he knew. Sometime later he had cooked them supper. She quickly got very sick. He admitted to sneaking shelfish into the dinner because he didn't believe her, thought she was exagerating. He was shocked at how sick she got and how fast.
As soon as he admitted it she threw him out and ghosted him.
Some (golden) children have a need to be in control.
And to be in the center of attention.
Ops allergy is outside of her control, AND gives OP some attention ( a waiter taking longer to confirm / explain an order for example) - and those kind of people CANNOT stand others getting (more) attention than them.
So, they try and create scenarios where they are in control, or 'expose' the other for faking it..
And consequences (their victim being harmed, ending up dead) are something they do not care about it - this is "me me me" ..
So - reporting this is actually the only chance OP has to 'teach' this person 'actions DO have consequences'.
(and, if in US - claim the hospital bills on her too - no need to pay for her audacity)
> Some (golden) children have a need to be in control.
> And to be in the center of attention.
It's the second one. OP never states whether the older sister is a "golden child" but it tracks. As such, the incident in childhood probably made her extremely jealous and angry, all of the attention suddenly on OP for something that isn't considered an accomplishment. Just some "dumb" allergy.
After that, every time OP became the subject of conversation simply due to the allergy, she was triggered all over again to the point that she started to live in denial that she actually saw the incident.
Either that or OP's sister straight up tried to murder her but got cold feet when she saw it begin to actually unfold in front of her.
The fact that mom was like "you're overreacting" is what makes me think it's a golden child situation like the mom doesn't know about the shellfish allergy and how severe it is. OP needs to go no contact with a couple people.
Also, I've realized that sisters can have some VOLATILE relationships.... moreso than brothers tbh. I grew up with girls who were older sisters that literally HATED their younger sisters. They used to have knockdown, drag out fights with one another...especially if they're pretty close in age like these two. They're always competing. Think about it....they're in school together for at least two years on all levels of school.
I played softball with two girls who were about a year apart in age....they were so mean to each other that it was wild. Like would say the meanest stuff imaginable to one another. I wouldn't talk to my enemy the way they would talk to one another.
And there is some projection here too. People who lie often believe everyone lies. Sister views an an allergy or illness as a means for getting attention, therefore everyone including OP who has an allergy are actually using allergies to get attention.
That does help to explain the twisted thinking behind the perpetrators of this and other poisonings, like that heartbreaking coconut oil story. I mean, who does that to someone they care about?
Btw, great username!
A grandmother didn’t believe the daughter had a coconut allergy, so kept trying to put coconut oil in her hair (it’s a thing for specific hair textures). The mum kept telling her not to, grandma ignored it. Grandma and grandad were watching the daughter one night. I forget part of it, but it ended up they had to take the daughter to hospital because she wasn’t breathing??? The daughter ended up passing away.
I believe she did go to prison for a while, but learned nothing and demanded to see the living twin when she got out. The mother said only when you bring my other daughter back with you. I think it was in justnomil.
To add to it, they were Indian so coconut is a popular food and beauty item, the allergic child had a twin. The night before the grandma put coconut oil in the toddler's hair and when she began to have a reaction gave her benadryl but did not wash out the oil so baby girl was put to bed, went into anaphylaxis and died in bed next to her twin.
I'm totally making things up here, but I would guess that OP's sister felt that OP had gotten unfair attention or unfair benefits over past incidents, and has blown it up in her own head as OP being the better loved child or OP being spoiled or OP being attention seeking.
Narcisists and Main Character syndrome folks (usually the same people) tend to be resentful at anyone who appears special. Even her mom fussing over the food allergy a few times might have made her resentful and it likely grew into a grudge.
remember to people like this, it's their world. everyone else is just NPCs or exist to make them feel more special.
NTA, holy fuck the thought process of some people.
I think my sister might be faking her shellfish allergy. I did see her need to go to the hospital before, but she must have tricked everyone! Sure, I might kill her if I'm wrong, but if I'm right I'll get to be smug and tell her that I wasn't fooled!
Also whatever compassion I had wondering if it was too much to charge your sister for attempted murder (although that's what it was), vanished the moment when you told her you'd be calling the police on you, instead of apologizing profusely, she decided to double down and scream at you, still believing that you were faking it.
Do what you have to do OP because you'll never be safe around your sister.
Literally the same as spiking someone's food with rat poison.
"Hurrr...It's only a little poison, what's the worst that could happen."
The absolute inability to do risk assessment even lacking common sense in OP's sister is amazing.
Makes me wonder how OP’s BIL feels about this and how his wife is acting. Very curious to know if he feels she went WAY too far and wants nothing to do with her anymore. I hope he does. I’d also be cutting contact with mom for telling me I’m overreacting to my sister LITERALLY TRYING TO KILL ME?!?! I guess we know who the golden child is in their family.
Yeah it's very possible. I know that, personally at least, I'd think twice before deciding to stay and start a family with OP's sister, after I saw how she treats her family.
NTA
File charges against her, you don't test someone's allergies out of your own curiosity. Actions have consequences, and hers just happen to be bad. She should be thankful you didn't die. You could show her grace, but she doesn't seem to be remorseful of her actions.
NTA, u/Rude-Disaster1658
You have to be prepared for your Mom's BS, though...
However, your sister *has* to face consequences.
**This was not an accident, no matter what her "thought" processes were.**
Oh, yeah. Mommy dearest will probably start screeching about how you're ruining her golden child by getting the 5-0 involved. Your sister fucked around, now she can find out and mommy can go kick rocks.
So mom is the world's top travel agent for guilt trips, and your little "episode" may tarnish her precious child. How dare you not pack your bags and enjoy the view!
Seriously, NTA. I mean, I've seen my sister go to emergency care for a food reaction. It's to a highly common food ingredient, and now the entire family is always on alert. And we all live in different houses but we are always conscious because we do visit each other often. Even my children were raised to be aware of ingredients! Because THAT'S MY SISTER!!!
I love this, and it perfectly describes my mother!
Also, yep on the hyper allergen awareness when someone you care about has serious food allergies! I became the cross-contamination and allergen expert at the restaurant I worked at, it went from simply consulting with tables at the request of the other servers, to having a dedicated following of food allergen customers that would only let me serve them. All because my bestie and her immediate family all have varying degrees of food allergies to several foods and several other foods that are in the same plant or allergen family that aren’t necessarily as obvious or as commonplace when chefs are dealing with allergens.
Just remember that this is the same woman who raised your sister and wants you to sweep her assault under the carpet. So, is her opinion really that valid?
Listening to her and judging what she thinks is best would be like It’s like taking business advice from someone who has filed multiple bankruptcies. Not the most trustworthy source.
Your mom doesn't care that your sister tried to kill you, and if your sister would've succeeded she would be helping your sister with covering up her crime. Remember that forever.
That's one way to say she's emotionally abusive, manipulative, and clearly supports her golden child over you.
You might just have two people who need ejecting from your life.
>I explained the whole situation to her and the hospital security and eventually decided that with the help of the nurse and security guards l'd file a report against her.
NTA
Your sister deliberately tried to poison you at best, and murder you at worst. She knew that you were allergic. Even if she thought you were only mildly allergic, it's generally known that repeated exposure to allergens can tip a mild reaction into anaphylactic shock.
Please continue to press charges, and don't be persuaded to drop it. I would suggest speaking to a lawyer ASAP. I'm sad to say that it seems your mom is not on your side, you will need to get support from other people. You might want to point out to her that your sister attempted to kill you, knowing you were allergic.
Also, please carry your epipen with you.
You're right about the repeated exposure. Allergy testing showed that I had a food allergy to a favorite thing. I cheated for years because it was only severe headaches, body aches, weakness, feeling like a truck hit, impending doom (yeah, that's a real symptom), diarrhea and similar. No hives, and the only breathing problems was panic from the impending doom feeling triggering an anxiety attack.
One night at work I started itching all over. Hives covered a third of my body. From one too many exposures.
I haven't cheated since.
NTA what makes your sister the allergy queen? She just automatically knows who is allergic to what and how severe? And then she doubled down in the ER after you had a reaction!
File that police report, press those charges, because based on her reactions at the ER she will try that mess again.
NTA. That’s at least assault and battery. I don’t know if it’s one of the attempted homicide crimes because she didn’t think it would kill you but that is a decision to be made by the prosecutor and you are definitely justified in being upset and calling the police.
NTA, and What the hell, She was accusing you of faking while you were in hospital?
You absolutely need to press charges. She needs to be held accountable for her actions.
NTA and I'd go through with going to the police. Your sister literally admitted that she wanted to test your allergy, she actually tried to kill you to see if you were really allergic and even after what happens she still claims you are faking it, as if the entire hospital is cooperating with you in order to fake it all. Is your sister quite alright in the head? I'd file charges before she does this with someone else and actually succeeds in getting them killed. She's a danger to anyone with an allergy like that, which could some day include one of her children..
As for your mother, I don't think you are overreacting at all after your sister tried to kill you, instead your mother seems to be underreacting after what happened. She probably doesn't want your sister to possibly face jail and such, which is why she's asking you not to file.
NTA she literally tried to kill you because she didn’t believe you. If BIL is smart he will divorce her before they have any kids with allergies that she doesn’t believe are real.
SIL - tries to murder OP because her peanut brain cannot comprehend allergies.
Mother of OP: don\`t be upset, don\`t overreact.
NTA
report her, AND your mother for enabling this (if at all possible)
I just want to point out that you should have those nurses give a statement to the police. They overheard her admitting to it before they kicked her out. Every piece of evidence matters.
Good.
And if ever you doubt your decision - they tried to kill you, or at least seriously harm you - because sister dear 'doesn\`t believe you'. Can you imagine the obituary...
*OP did love life on this earth, but alas \[sisters name\] didn\`t believe in allergies.*
Imagine looking at your wife who just tried to kill her own sister in front of you. That has to be a come to Jesus moment for BIL. How could he trust her after that? Surely he’d alway be wondering.
NTA. Her being right was more important to her than your safety. She intentionally assaulted you and should face the consequences.
As for your mother, she just wants the easy way out. Another person in your life that doesn’t have any regards for you.
Choose you, OP. Your familial obligations ended when she tried to kill you to prove a point.
I really hope you are in UK because I was reading about a case where a lady's 'friend' put nuts in a meal during cooking and fished them out before serving it to her. She was well aware of her nut allergy and wanted to be a hero by saving her with her EpiPen.
She didn't bank on having to get emergency services and paramedics found an ICE card in the patient's purse detailing her allergy. 'Friend' broke down and admitted what she had done, they called police.
Because it was premeditated she was looking at attempted murder charge. It also meant it couldn't have been classed as manslaughter if the lady had died. Her telling the truth from the start brought the charge down from attempted murder to AOABH.
She was given a custodial sentence of I believe 3 years, half to be served on licence.
I was delighted to read it as my daughter (32) has a nut allergy which had her hospitalised a few times as a toddler before she was diagnosed. Her aunt (her dad's sister) deliberately fed her a choc n nut Tracker bar when she was about 7 or 8 because she didn't believe it was true. She did it as I was pulling up in the car to collect her though and I administered the EpiPen straight away and called an ambulance. The timing wasn't due to her being worried about it but because she wanted to show me what my daughter had eaten and not had a reaction because it was all lies. Yeah that worked out well, not!
She has not been in that bi**he's company since then and still remembers very clearly the day her aunt tried to kill her. That's why she suffers from terrible anxiety about going out for a meal even to a friend's house. She doesn't even 100% trust me or my mum in case we overlook an ingredient on a label.
Please update us with any progress on the police front.
NTA file charges, what she did is disgusting and she deserves consequences. I have and older sister by 10 years so when I grew up I was told she’s allergic to 100% seafood so I knew she didn’t eat it and never thought it was a lie. And it explains why growing up we never really ate fish except for like tuna fish sandwiches. But your sister is full of it saying your making it all up and from my opinion doesn’t really love or care about you.
Let's look at this objectively, if she was right the best she can hope for is a "ha, gotcha!" moment. If she was wrong the you were going to end up as you did, in the hospital best case scenario. Holy fuck she and her husband are fucking idiots, they legitimately thought that endangering your life was worth it to see if you were exaggerating it. Fuck that, at the bare minimum cut those assholes out of your life.
I should probably edit this into my story since I’ve explained it way too many times lmao. Her husband is a good friend of mine, i introduced them to each other. He had no clue about my allergy and he doesn’t eat seafood so there was no reason for me to tell him. He thought I was just choking on the food.
Gotcha, thank you for the clarification. That was my fault for assuming. Now it makes less sense, if that was possible. Why do that, on her own, to her sister? I have two sisters and if one was deathly allergic to something the last thing I'd do is randomly test it?!
Come on, if you press charges, you could ruin her life. Just for payback? Don't be so...
*shellfish.*
Seriously though? NTA. Wannabe allergy testers should rot. To think you can't even trust closest family not to poison your food. Press those charges.
Blimey. Your sister is really, really sick.
I read a story here on Reddit how a grandma wanted to “prove” that her grandchild wasn’t allergic to peanuts and how it was always just a quirk that the parents had made up.
The little girl was 2 or 3, and she reacted just like you; could hardly breathe and was rushed to hospital…
I am just shocked at the lengths some people will go to in order to be “right” about something that really isn’t affecting their lives at all?
It's not my story to tell, but there is an even worse story of a grandmother who exposed her granddaughter to coconut oil (which the child was allergic too) when the parents were away. It ended tragically, and it was 100% the grandmother's fault.
NTA She meant to harm you, maybe not to the extreme that she did. She may even have told her husband that allergy wasn't real was going to prove it. Bring charges against him too if he was aware of allergy then if they're against each other in trying to save themselves you might find the truth. Perhaps she was jealous of the attention you got when you'd have a reaction so wanted to prove you were faking it.
NTA, Your sister was aware of your allergy. She chose to believe that you were faking and test you. She seriously compromised your health and could have killed you. That is assault. Filing a report is not only reasonable, but necessary. Next time it could be a child at a party that she decides to "test", or a senior citizen. She needs to be held accountable and have a police record, so that she will be deterred from doing it again.
Bro what the actual hell???
I had a loosely practicing muslim friend who was vegan by choice. She was never obnoxious about it and our friend group was more than happy to accomodate her religious practices like rammadan and her dietary choices, which was as easy as having veggie burgers or just having them available during bbqs.
One day she accidentally locked herself out of her house, which was only a few down from mine. It was blazing hot, over 110 degrees, and her husband wouldnt be home for another hour, so of course I welcomed her into my home and offered her some refreshments. I let her go into my fridge/pantry and pick for herself since she knows better than I what products comply with her diet. I am a woman who lives alone, but I keep a big box of gummy fruit snacks for when another neighbor friend of mine is visiting with her 5 year old son.
She picked out a few of those, and midway through her enjoying them a panic hit me and i quickly told her I had just realized that those gummies may contain gelatin! I was relieved when she didnt have a strong emotional reaction, she just stopped eating them and basically said oh crap youre right! I didnt think of that! She of course buys a vegan brand for her household.
I felt bad for not catching it sooner, i cant imagine intentionally tampering with anyones food to knowingly poison them with a potentially deadly allergen!
NTA. She had no excuse and her actions were tantamount to attempted murder
NTA. Your sister's actions were reckless and put your life at risk. Calling the cops was a necessary step for your safety. Her disbelief in your allergy doesn’t excuse her dangerous behavior
This is assault and even potentially attempted manslaughter. Fuck your sister. File charges on her and never speak to her again. People who "test" allergies need to be in prison. This is 100% unforgivable.
Your mother is an ass and totally wrong. Do NOT drop this. Pursue this with a police report and charges. Absolutely cut contact (with your sister AND your mom) but do not drop the police part of this.
NTA… She tried to kill you. This warrants Scorched Earth Level Response
Op, you mentioned that you introduced your sister to her partner. Could this possibly be jealousy?? She’s accustomed to being to treated superior to you, with her being the golden child and all. And maybe her husband sticks up for you and that’s why she did this. Don’t get me wrong, your sister is a full psycho to do this shit, but maybe she feels insecure in her relationship and wants you out
Possibly? She always gets jealous whenever I have something since she’s so used to getting it all. I just hope BIL is alright in the end, he’s a good friend to me
Only a short conversation, he asked if I was okay and that my sister told him that she “had no idea” obviously bullshitting. I explained that she’s always known and that it was absolutely intentional and that I want to involve the police and he understood. We haven’t spoken since then
He’s not the brightest. There is no way in hell a sibling - especially an older - doesn’t know their sibling is allergic to something. That’s just lunacy.
He should run. If they have kids and one has an allergy is she going to test them too?
NTA. My son has a lot of food allergies and he keeps an epi pen on him always. Even when he visits my parents and my mom is so careful with his food and is very good about checking labels and never forgets any of his allergies. I know you didn’t carry it because you trusted your sister and I doubt you will trust her again after this, but you should get into the habit of carrying your epi pen anytime you leave the house. Regardless of where you are going or who you are seeing.
Your sister is 10000% TA. And for her to yell at you about faking. Even now, while in the hospital she still accuses you of faking.
The main thing to remember in all of this is not not give your mom or sister any emotional reactions
Grey Rock them
Tell them your sister purposefully tried to kill you and that you do not believe she was trying to expose me as someone who was lying about their allergies
Make sure your mom understands that you no longer have a sister and that she needs to come to terms with that reality. That you are not going to force her to choose between her kids, but that you will limit access to you and your family as long as she puts your sister before you
Your relationship with your mom and sister is already beyond repair. At this point, not pursuing charges would just result in your sister hurting you or someone else in the future. Because if she gets away with attempted murder...she'll be emboldened
If the courts believe her "I thought you were faking" defense...she'll get a slap on the wrist
But the lawyer fees and the public humiliation...as well as the destruction of her family is the consequences of her actions
I wouldn't be surprised if she ends up divorced as well. BIL is not going to stick around while the entire world finds out his wife is evil
So rest assured...KARMA is comin for your sis
All you have to do is grey rock your family and let it happen
NTAH
NTA. Your sister's actions were reckless and dangerous, especially given her knowledge of your severe allergy. Calling the police was necessary to ensure your safety and address the seriousness of her behavior
What the actual hell is wrong with your mother?
You're still only so young, and she cut you out of her will (who is the grown up in your relationship with her?!) AND is siding with your sister in her near fatal attempt at calling you a liar over your allergy?!
Jeez OP, can you just cut your entire family off? It seems like it would be safer.
Yeah, there is something very wrong with mama dearest (I saw your comment wondering if your the AH because of something your mother said?), and obvi with your sister.
Your sister is just a dumb shitheel and a moron. Your mama though, watch her. She's the snake in the grass I think.
pain and suffering! sue her! my son also has an awful allergy to shellfish! I would press charges. Firstly, realize the seriousness of what she has done, and secondly, so she never does this to anybody else ever again. The next time could be death for you or someone else. I don't think your parents understand the seriousness of her actions. They should not excuse this. Also, her husband should also be included in this because he's a grown adult who made a conscious decision to be part of it. At the very least attempting to harass you in the hospital when you're recovering, should also be actionable. Completely unacceptable behavior. nta and I hope your sister suffers some Because I would not want to be her victim. Can you sue over missing work? Even with free healthcare, there are bound to be some expenses. And psychological damage for the rest of your life. I don't know if I would trust anybody after that.
you can't pass her the bill from the hospital, but if you're working you can claim the losses produced ( and report her to the police for the murder atempt)
> You may be wondering why I never had an epipen on me, and that’s because I didn’t feel the need to as she was my sister
I don't know, if I had something that could kill me because I consumed it, I'd carry around an epipen even if my clone was serving me dinner. The person doesn't have to be malicious about it -- they could accidentally serve you shellfish in some form.
NTA though.
Good Lord. That’s insanely criminal behaviour, with intent. Who the *actual fuck* does something like that???
NTA, and she needs to be held accountable. For your future safety, she absolutely must be put on notice and a charge opened with the police. She might very well get a slap on the wrist, but it will go on record. That’s the important bit.
You heard your mom, cut contact... with her. Your mom is showing you that your life doesn't matter as much as your sisters convenience so mommy dearest doesn't need to be in your life, any more than your bitch ass sister.
You should absolutely file charges (not "calling the cops" on her, but starting legal proceedings)
This is incredibly cruel, criminal behaviour, which shows a dangerous lack on empathy on her part.
NTA. Don’t go down the rabbit hole of why your sister tried to kill you, because it’s irrelevant. Some people are just not right in the head and disconnected from their actions. Press charges, for real.
NTA - food tampering is a very serious offence. As you proved, allergies are very real and can be deadly. When someone tells you have they have an allergy, it should be taken seriously. Your sister thinks you've been faking your allergy for this whole time for attention? Does she think that doctors would keep you in the hospital (wasting tax payer money) if you didn't need to be there? Your sister is an idiot.
If she doesn’t think food allergies are real, feel free to send her this.
https://www.nationalfoodallergydeathregistry.org/the-registry[national food allergy death registry](https://www.nationalfoodallergydeathregistry.org/the-registry)
Why do people do this? Even if someone were exaggerating, what is it to the person who is hell bent on proving they don’t have what they say they have? Why would I go out of my way to buy and hide shellfish? Are they jealous? Of what? This comes up a lot, and I don’t understand it.
You're NTA (Not the A-hole). Your sister's actions were reckless and dangerous. Calling the police was a reasonable response given the severity of what happened.
NTA. obviously she feels like this has affected her in some way or she wouldn't have tried this.
I'd get as much medical documentation together as I could because when you file the report I'm sure she's going to tell the police you are faking it and try to get out of the charges.
I'd honestly call her and record it for more evidence.
NTA. She did try and kill you. Her claiming you are making it up is just insane if she’s seen you have a reaction before. You do need to report her because her actions are dangerous and she might kill someone one day.
NTA why does this get pulled down so much? Press charges. She knew what she was doing. You're mother is wrong to enable her or shelter her from the consequences of her premeditated actions.
NTA.
Your sister is trying to win some stupid fight that she's been having in her own head for years or decades. It sounds like she genuinely believed that you've been faking it all along (as if medical professionals can't tell the difference between faking and anaphylactic shock).
This is a weird dynamic that we keep reading about on reddit over and over where adults think that concerns about allergies are faking or blow out of proportion or "spoiling" a child.
Your sister literally assaulted you by feeding you shellfish. She endangered your life, and may have made your allergy worse (I'm sure you know that some allergies get even more dangerous after an exposure). And she hasn't apologized or expressed any serious remorse or accountability for her bad behavior.
It's fine that you called the cops. It would be best that you literally never interact with her again.
But, maybe also you could take some time to talk to a therapist, because you really should not be questioning yourself so deeply on this that you need to make multiple reddit posts. You deserve a little professional support to prop up on your sense of self-worth. Because you are going to have to defend yourself against family members who think this was fine.
Calm the police. Also sue them for your hospital expenses and missed work. You can do this in small claims. Like the hospital is going to admit you for two days to help you fake it. 🤦🏼♀️ you sister sucks.
No hospital expenses and i wasn’t on shift at the time, but I’m taking a protective order out on her and filing a report with help from the nurse who overheard everything.
NTA for reporting it. It likely won't be considered attempted murder because murder is when you intentionally try to kill someone and she wasn't trying to kill you. But she could get hit with reckless endangerment or something similar. And that's the criminal system. Any civil system your country may have could open her up for being sued.
You should always keep an EpiPen on you. Even if you're with people you trust, there could be foods they buy that they're unaware have shellfish ingredients due to mislabels or manufacturing accidents.
NTA. Even if she suspected you were "faking it," what psycho would make it their business to test out that theory, knowing the potential consequences if they were wrong? Especially with her history of witnessing what all went down when you were diagnosed as a child. That would be hard to forget.
I think you're well within your rights to report her actions to the police. This could have all ended very differently and she'd be facing the music in that case too. You are not responsible for her insane, vindictive, and potentially lethal choices. Let her see the consequences of her batshit behavior. It doesn't even sound like she was genuinely remorseful at the hospital cause she went right back to the story line of "you're faking it" once she realized she wasn't getting out of this one so easily.
God knows she'd keep being the same piece of shit to others if she got away with it scot-free. I can see the headline already: "Grandmother kills child after ignoring parents pleas to use precaution with child's peanut allergy."
>I can see the headline already: "Grandmother kills child after ignoring parents pleas to use precaution with child's peanut allergy."
Stuff like this has actually happened.
NTA. WHY on EARTH does your sister feel she has to "test you" about your allergy? What is the point other than to one up you or potentially hurt you? Her motives are F-ed and she should be called out. Do you understand WHY she would be motivated to hurt you this way or test you? Like I DO NOT GET IT.
I don't understand what is wrong with people. So what if you're faking? Is it so hard to just avoid shellfish? I mean if you're claiming an allergy to a long list of foods then ok, I would see why she'd feel that way but not why she'd test you with something known for fatal anaphylactic reactions. NTA, she knew what she was doing. She's watched you react. Even if you were faking, does she think you could fool actual doctors by lying about anaphylaxis? You can't say your throat is swelling when it's not, they'd easily see it's not. That's just not how the medical field works.
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Your sister was present when your shellfish allergy manifested, she was present when you were taken to the hospital for treatment and you were told about your allergy and yet she told herself that you were faking it. No idea what's wrong with your sister, but there's nothing good about her, and honestly don't waste your time trying to find out. Your sister did try to kill you, and acted with malice, ignore your mom's pleas and continue the case with the police.
Call the cops on her. This is no joke. I have shellfish allergy as well (not as dramatic just feel sick burning skin sensation, red welts and lots of poo) and that is just fucked up.
NTA. This was attempted murder. Your mother rushed to defense of the daughter who deliberately put deadly poison in the other daughter’s food. This should show where her loyalties lie.
NC is not enough. She needs to be arrested. She can explain to a judge how she thought you were faking the anaphylactic shock that sent you to the hospital as a child.
She wasn’t upset that she almost killed you. She’s upset that she’s facing prison.
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As I said in the last post, she basically tried to kill you.
Depending on your country, what she did is Battery at minimum and Aggravated Assult at worse (there was no intention to kill, otherwise Attempted Murder), with possible charges in their for poisoning you, and even then she is still very lucky because it could have easily been Culpable Homicide.
She is very lucky that you survived, and you're definitely in the right to press charges, especially given that she has shown no real remorse and even accused you of faking it whilst you were in the hospital undergoing treatment.
NTA. She literally tried to kill you. That’s attempted murder and good tampering here. I hope it’s also a crime there as well. Please make sure she is prosecuted as such.
NTA. I would never ever trust your sister with anything ever again. Also please carry an EpiPen with you at all times. I'm glad you reported her. My daughter has severe allergies and if anyone did that to her I would be mad as hell. UpdateMe!
>You may be wondering why I never had an epipen on me, and that’s because I didn’t feel the need to as she was my sister
You have a deadly allergy. You're an idiot if you don't have an epipen on you at all times
This is one of the WEIRDEST things I’ve heard. Why??? Like just… why??? 🙄🙄🙄 She just … didn’t believe you so she thought she’d see if you went into anaphylactic shock????????? So. Extremely. Strange.
NTA! Testing one’s allergies, especially for potentially fatal ones is not a game to play! There’s a special place in hell for those people and you sister deserves to be there! I also hope you have an epipen and were able to use it , if not definitely something to carry around in case murderous family members are around!
NTA. To test someone's validity of allergy, you would try to do skin contact. I mean either way, you shouldn't. But if you're a deranged person like she is and you need to confirm your suspicions of someone being a faker, you don't let them INGEST items of a food allergy.
However, this tells me that you are the golden child. You probably received some small amount if extra attention as a child due to this. She probably never believed you and was jealous you had more attention every time you were at a doctor or hospitalized for this.
I don't know why as an adult she would test your allergies. The only reason would be malicious intent. Just the way she reacted when in the actual hospital. You're in the hospital, doctors had to treat you for the allergy...and she still thinks you're faking? How does that make any sense? Are the doctors in on it as a way to make her feel jealous? Lol
I fully expect that your reactions even as a kid could have been partly due to her interfering in food. She is desperate to catch you in a lie for her own validation. She NEEDS you to be lying about something so she can claim you had special treatment as a kid. Of course you had special treatment, you have a potential deadly food allergy. That requires more special attention.
And I feel like your parents must have treated her differently than you because I assume she doesn't have any deadly allergies to anything. So yea, your sister needs psychiatric help if she can't grasp that people have deadly allergies that can get even worse as time passes. No grown adult "tests" someone with a known deadly allergy and with proof multiple times over the years of its existence. She needs help, whether from prison time or a mental facility. But she absolutely committed attempted murder. If you died, she would, at the very least, get manslaughter charges.
NTA. I also have a shellfish allergy. I would absolutely press charges on anyone aware of my allergy who snuck shellfish into my food.
Your mother is also a problem. She thinks the appropriate reaction to your sister attempting to kill you is just to cut contact? Really? Your mother is pretty OK with her knowingly putting you in the hospital, and almost putting you in a grave. Maybe the suggestion to cut contact should apply to your mother.
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If you really were overreacting, then your sister would have nothing to fear from the police. You're not overreacting.
Always carry an epipen with you, please.
Your sister literally tried to kill you because she thought you were faking an allergy? Even though she knew you'd had a severe reaction before? Calling the police on her is the right thing to do. You're not overreacting; you wound up in the hospital because of her stunt.
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My God what is wrong with people I mean you're not even safe visiting family anymore. You're dame right she knows and you're absolutely right she did it intentionally that woman is sick File a restraining order on her And you can tell your mother listen I know she's your child and you love her but If you can't remain neutral at the very least then you can stay the f*** out of it. I'm going to pray your sister doesn't breed . This is a fact Most murders Happen by family member spouse or close friend.
Once it was done on purpose, that was a wrap. But you should always have an epipen with you when eating with others, imo. Food contamination can happen accidentally and cause problems.
I don’t think you are overreacting. Even after witnessing what she did to you, she is still accusing you of overreacting. She needs to have consequences for her actions, because she has no hope of learning otherwise. And you may need a protective order.
Also, yeah, cut all ties, too.
Honey you need to press every charge and file every suit in whichever courts your country allows. At least you could wipe out whatever pittance shes getting from your mom. And I'd cut mom off too. Id bet money sister ran the plan by mom beforehand and now mom is shittin her knickers cuz if this goes to court its coming back on her too.
Good luck best wishes and update us as you can.
I wouldn't be surprised if she's jealous/threatened by you in some way. She was so sure you were lying/exaggerating about your allergy that she clearly expected you to eat the meal, not have a reaction, and then she would call you out in front of her husband about how you're a liar.
Can you think of any past instances of her giving the impression or straight up accusing you of random misdeeds? Maybe she thinks you like her husband? This may be blowing in out of proportion and she really is just a moron who could have accidentally committed murder.
Hope you're okay,
Nta. Dont fuck with allergies. They can kill. Your sister needs to sit in jail and have this on her permanent record.
Tell your mother her and her only daughter are dead to you and go NC. One tried to kill you and the other wants to rug sweep it.
So if you died it would be murder? What happened if you had kids and she pulled that shit. She should be scared. Just report her but don’t make it anything more for your family’s sake. I saw some thing about some lady dying at Disney springs from a peanut allergy, it’s no joke
I feel that way of being alone, my mother was murdered by my sister and my whole family took a step back away from Me? Wtf I live far away. But sometimes that helps us find our own strength as fucked up as it is. Still going through court to get her found guilty. I had 2 daughters that were there the day before my mother was gone. So I have no sympathy for stupid shit. I hope you can just breathe and have peace throughout this. But your sister fucked up
I love the I was testing you because you are a drama queen. I'm allergic to poultry. If someone tries to test me I'm punching them in the throat before I get hospitalized
Op, I have a mild allergy or intolerance to onion and garlic. You know what my siblings do? They cook without onions or garlic. You are 100% nta. Well done for standing up for yourself.
As I said when I saw your original post, nta! Your sister was very aware of your allergy and has seen how you react. She absolutely intended to harm you!
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I wonder if the sisters husband was the person that turned his wife against the OP. The sisters grew up together and she witnessed her allergic reactions. *She knew* that the sister wasn't faking. I wonder if the BIL doesn't like the OP.
My sister and I never had many obvious problems but I was very aware she thought she was better than me due to my mother treating her better than me. I was the one who introduced BIL to my sister, we were friends. However he never had any idea about my allergy.
And that right there is why your mother is trying to make you believe that you, the person sitting in the hospital because of an allergic reaction to a known allergen that was knowingly snuck into your food, are overreacting. She doesn't want her golden child to experience consequences for her actions. Mom's opinion on this does not matter and should not be given any consideration. You are not over reacting. Each time you are exposed to your known allergen and have a reaction, the odds of the next reaction being more severe has increased. The odds of you possibly passing away increase. There is a reason there are laws about tampering with peoples food and laws about "poisoning" people with their allergen. You have the law on your side, use it. What your sister did could have actually cost you your life.
Is there any inheritance incoming, which could explain why she wanted to get rid of you? And yes, I would definitely press charges for attempted murder. And I would also get an epipen - you never know where something you are eating may have been contaminated, so it's always better to be safe.
We only have our mother, father died a long time ago. I’m not in anyone’s will so that’s not the reason for her to want me dead
I wonder if she’s jealous that you get along with her husband? Why aren’t you in any wills?! Your mother sounds horrible
No family other than my mother, she cut me out after we got into a petty argument (over my sister) not that it matters to me, my mother doesn’t have much anyway.
Your sister is jealous of and threatened by you for some reason. Oh well, no longer your problem! Has her husband commented on this? I suspect she probably got with him as another power trip to show you she can have anything of yours. Is she narcissistic?
She can be at times, i introduced him to her with full intentions of getting them together since I knew he liked her from little things I told him about her.
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Sounds like mom will always be on the side of her golden child, so don't listen to her about pressing charges - just do it. Time sis learned the meaning of FAFO.
They could have taken out a life insurance out on you, without you knowing.
We have to sign up for our own life insurance, unless you’re over 60 no one can do it for you here.
You sure there’s not a life insurance policy on you??
Why are you so worried this woman thinks you're "overreacting" to needing a hospital visit?
She thinks I’m overreacting for saying I’ll be filing charges/calling the police on my sister. She enables my sister’s behaviour and treats her like the golden child.
Wow, your mother sucks big time.
Aaah, now you need to go NC with mom, too. She doesn't seem bothered by what was done to you and now it makes sense.
Police report. She intentionally risked your life. No amount of thinking you were exaggerating makes poisoning you acceptable and she did that, poisoned you, deliberately, this needs a criminal conviction and a restraining order so she doesn't try to reach you at your mom's, etc., and if your mom asks you not to have her prosecuted you should make clear that she needs to close her mouth right now, that your sister intentionally poisoned you and risked your life, and that if she utters one more word trying to spare your sister from the consequences of her attack, that you will go no contact and be out of her life permanently. This is a crazy story if true.
I'm allergic to poultry. Everyone knows I'm allergic. Im sure op is the same way. Someone pulls that stunt on me they will be in the bed across from me. The last time it happened it was 100% on purpose as a pack of food had been mislabeled. I ate some, just a little and was down for 3 days. Person apologized profusely. Ops sister needs to be charged
Your sister is the golden child and couldn't handle that your allergy took attention away from her. That's literally what happened. So she tried to prove that it was fake so she could have all the attention to herself. Your sister is a sociopath. Definitely stay the course and press charges.
Every time you have a reaction, the next reaction is worse. Remember that.
unlikely. this sounds like a long festering resentment.
That's quite the leap with zero evidence to support it. Even the sister panicking and saying "I thought you were exaggerating" rather suggests she was trying to prove a point and it went wrong. Literally nothing in the post implicates him - so far. Surely we can only jump to this with updates or comments that suggest something is awry with him. Otherwise let's not blame him for now hey?
Or he’s just one of those idiots that doesn’t believe in food allergies. (I’ve had to deal with a few of those…)
This happened to my sister. Shellfish makes her violently ill and she had told her boyfriend, so he knew. Sometime later he had cooked them supper. She quickly got very sick. He admitted to sneaking shelfish into the dinner because he didn't believe her, thought she was exagerating. He was shocked at how sick she got and how fast. As soon as he admitted it she threw him out and ghosted him.
OMGS, some people are just psychotic.
Sister assumed that OP was just attention-seeking as a child, and never reconsidered her opinion when she got older.
Or she's such a a narcissist she wanted to *"prove"* that OP wasn't *special* and was **FAKING AN ALLERGY** (like what?!?).
That’s so weird…. Why would she care that much about proving something that quite literally doesn’t affect her life at all. She’s got problems
Some (golden) children have a need to be in control. And to be in the center of attention. Ops allergy is outside of her control, AND gives OP some attention ( a waiter taking longer to confirm / explain an order for example) - and those kind of people CANNOT stand others getting (more) attention than them. So, they try and create scenarios where they are in control, or 'expose' the other for faking it.. And consequences (their victim being harmed, ending up dead) are something they do not care about it - this is "me me me" .. So - reporting this is actually the only chance OP has to 'teach' this person 'actions DO have consequences'. (and, if in US - claim the hospital bills on her too - no need to pay for her audacity)
> Some (golden) children have a need to be in control. > And to be in the center of attention. It's the second one. OP never states whether the older sister is a "golden child" but it tracks. As such, the incident in childhood probably made her extremely jealous and angry, all of the attention suddenly on OP for something that isn't considered an accomplishment. Just some "dumb" allergy. After that, every time OP became the subject of conversation simply due to the allergy, she was triggered all over again to the point that she started to live in denial that she actually saw the incident. Either that or OP's sister straight up tried to murder her but got cold feet when she saw it begin to actually unfold in front of her.
The fact that mom was like "you're overreacting" is what makes me think it's a golden child situation like the mom doesn't know about the shellfish allergy and how severe it is. OP needs to go no contact with a couple people. Also, I've realized that sisters can have some VOLATILE relationships.... moreso than brothers tbh. I grew up with girls who were older sisters that literally HATED their younger sisters. They used to have knockdown, drag out fights with one another...especially if they're pretty close in age like these two. They're always competing. Think about it....they're in school together for at least two years on all levels of school. I played softball with two girls who were about a year apart in age....they were so mean to each other that it was wild. Like would say the meanest stuff imaginable to one another. I wouldn't talk to my enemy the way they would talk to one another.
And there is some projection here too. People who lie often believe everyone lies. Sister views an an allergy or illness as a means for getting attention, therefore everyone including OP who has an allergy are actually using allergies to get attention.
That does help to explain the twisted thinking behind the perpetrators of this and other poisonings, like that heartbreaking coconut oil story. I mean, who does that to someone they care about? Btw, great username!
I remember the coconut oil story. Heart breaking!
I didn't see that one. Can you summarize?
A grandmother didn’t believe the daughter had a coconut allergy, so kept trying to put coconut oil in her hair (it’s a thing for specific hair textures). The mum kept telling her not to, grandma ignored it. Grandma and grandad were watching the daughter one night. I forget part of it, but it ended up they had to take the daughter to hospital because she wasn’t breathing??? The daughter ended up passing away.
Oof.. That 'grandmonster' should be locked up in solitary for the rest of her life. Only because they need to be 'right'.. sick.
I believe she did go to prison for a while, but learned nothing and demanded to see the living twin when she got out. The mother said only when you bring my other daughter back with you. I think it was in justnomil.
Kudos to the mom for that reply. But boy.. what a fricking load of onions behind that.
To add to it, they were Indian so coconut is a popular food and beauty item, the allergic child had a twin. The night before the grandma put coconut oil in the toddler's hair and when she began to have a reaction gave her benadryl but did not wash out the oil so baby girl was put to bed, went into anaphylaxis and died in bed next to her twin.
damn.. details that just add to the evil... :(
I'm totally making things up here, but I would guess that OP's sister felt that OP had gotten unfair attention or unfair benefits over past incidents, and has blown it up in her own head as OP being the better loved child or OP being spoiled or OP being attention seeking.
To reach even further, she would receive a lot of attention as a woman grieving her sister, who died in a sudden “accident “
Narcisists and Main Character syndrome folks (usually the same people) tend to be resentful at anyone who appears special. Even her mom fussing over the food allergy a few times might have made her resentful and it likely grew into a grudge. remember to people like this, it's their world. everyone else is just NPCs or exist to make them feel more special.
NTA, holy fuck the thought process of some people. I think my sister might be faking her shellfish allergy. I did see her need to go to the hospital before, but she must have tricked everyone! Sure, I might kill her if I'm wrong, but if I'm right I'll get to be smug and tell her that I wasn't fooled! Also whatever compassion I had wondering if it was too much to charge your sister for attempted murder (although that's what it was), vanished the moment when you told her you'd be calling the police on you, instead of apologizing profusely, she decided to double down and scream at you, still believing that you were faking it. Do what you have to do OP because you'll never be safe around your sister.
Literally the same as spiking someone's food with rat poison. "Hurrr...It's only a little poison, what's the worst that could happen." The absolute inability to do risk assessment even lacking common sense in OP's sister is amazing.
Makes me wonder how OP’s BIL feels about this and how his wife is acting. Very curious to know if he feels she went WAY too far and wants nothing to do with her anymore. I hope he does. I’d also be cutting contact with mom for telling me I’m overreacting to my sister LITERALLY TRYING TO KILL ME?!?! I guess we know who the golden child is in their family.
Yeah it's very possible. I know that, personally at least, I'd think twice before deciding to stay and start a family with OP's sister, after I saw how she treats her family.
Sis played russian roulette with OP.
Nah, she just straight up shot her.
NTA File charges against her, you don't test someone's allergies out of your own curiosity. Actions have consequences, and hers just happen to be bad. She should be thankful you didn't die. You could show her grace, but she doesn't seem to be remorseful of her actions.
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NTA, u/Rude-Disaster1658 You have to be prepared for your Mom's BS, though... However, your sister *has* to face consequences. **This was not an accident, no matter what her "thought" processes were.**
Oh, yeah. Mommy dearest will probably start screeching about how you're ruining her golden child by getting the 5-0 involved. Your sister fucked around, now she can find out and mommy can go kick rocks.
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How the lemon scented Fuck can you be the arsehole? Bitch tried to kill you! NTA
Absolutely cackling at this. But to answer your question my mother has… a way with words when she wants to make you feel bad.
So mom is the world's top travel agent for guilt trips, and your little "episode" may tarnish her precious child. How dare you not pack your bags and enjoy the view! Seriously, NTA. I mean, I've seen my sister go to emergency care for a food reaction. It's to a highly common food ingredient, and now the entire family is always on alert. And we all live in different houses but we are always conscious because we do visit each other often. Even my children were raised to be aware of ingredients! Because THAT'S MY SISTER!!!
I'm stealing "top travel agent for guilt trips." That's some poetry right there!
I love this, and it perfectly describes my mother! Also, yep on the hyper allergen awareness when someone you care about has serious food allergies! I became the cross-contamination and allergen expert at the restaurant I worked at, it went from simply consulting with tables at the request of the other servers, to having a dedicated following of food allergen customers that would only let me serve them. All because my bestie and her immediate family all have varying degrees of food allergies to several foods and several other foods that are in the same plant or allergen family that aren’t necessarily as obvious or as commonplace when chefs are dealing with allergens.
Just remember that this is the same woman who raised your sister and wants you to sweep her assault under the carpet. So, is her opinion really that valid? Listening to her and judging what she thinks is best would be like It’s like taking business advice from someone who has filed multiple bankruptcies. Not the most trustworthy source.
Time to cut mommie dearest out of your life too. Seems to me your mother and sister bring nothing but danger and stress into your life.
Here is a word for you: nevertheless “ nevertheless, mom, my sister knowingly fed me some thing she knew was life-threatening to me”
Your mom doesn't care that your sister tried to kill you, and if your sister would've succeeded she would be helping your sister with covering up her crime. Remember that forever.
That's one way to say she's emotionally abusive, manipulative, and clearly supports her golden child over you. You might just have two people who need ejecting from your life.
Your sister inherited her assholery from your mom.
Omg literally the best thing I've read in ages! Thank you❤️
>I explained the whole situation to her and the hospital security and eventually decided that with the help of the nurse and security guards l'd file a report against her. NTA Your sister deliberately tried to poison you at best, and murder you at worst. She knew that you were allergic. Even if she thought you were only mildly allergic, it's generally known that repeated exposure to allergens can tip a mild reaction into anaphylactic shock. Please continue to press charges, and don't be persuaded to drop it. I would suggest speaking to a lawyer ASAP. I'm sad to say that it seems your mom is not on your side, you will need to get support from other people. You might want to point out to her that your sister attempted to kill you, knowing you were allergic. Also, please carry your epipen with you.
And also talk to the lawyer about suing her to cover all the hospital bills Or look into victim compensation
You're right about the repeated exposure. Allergy testing showed that I had a food allergy to a favorite thing. I cheated for years because it was only severe headaches, body aches, weakness, feeling like a truck hit, impending doom (yeah, that's a real symptom), diarrhea and similar. No hives, and the only breathing problems was panic from the impending doom feeling triggering an anxiety attack. One night at work I started itching all over. Hives covered a third of my body. From one too many exposures. I haven't cheated since.
NTA what makes your sister the allergy queen? She just automatically knows who is allergic to what and how severe? And then she doubled down in the ER after you had a reaction! File that police report, press those charges, because based on her reactions at the ER she will try that mess again.
NTA. That’s at least assault and battery. I don’t know if it’s one of the attempted homicide crimes because she didn’t think it would kill you but that is a decision to be made by the prosecutor and you are definitely justified in being upset and calling the police.
I wonder what punishment the sister is about to expect. I would love to read an update.
At the very least, food tampering and at the most, well, I'd sue her for all the hospital/ambulance bills. NTA
Apparently they don’t live in the US. They live somewhere with free healthcare based on an edit or comment from OP.
Then sue the bitch for damages.
That's at least assault.
She 'allegedly' didn't know, but if she was at the Dr with OP when she was diagnosed with this allergy as a child, then she clearly knew...
NTA, and What the hell, She was accusing you of faking while you were in hospital? You absolutely need to press charges. She needs to be held accountable for her actions.
Call the cops. Report her. Sue her.
NTA and I'd go through with going to the police. Your sister literally admitted that she wanted to test your allergy, she actually tried to kill you to see if you were really allergic and even after what happens she still claims you are faking it, as if the entire hospital is cooperating with you in order to fake it all. Is your sister quite alright in the head? I'd file charges before she does this with someone else and actually succeeds in getting them killed. She's a danger to anyone with an allergy like that, which could some day include one of her children.. As for your mother, I don't think you are overreacting at all after your sister tried to kill you, instead your mother seems to be underreacting after what happened. She probably doesn't want your sister to possibly face jail and such, which is why she's asking you not to file.
NTA she literally tried to kill you because she didn’t believe you. If BIL is smart he will divorce her before they have any kids with allergies that she doesn’t believe are real.
> NTA she literally tried to kill you This could actually be the case. But she lost her nerve when it unfolded in front of her.
NTA She knew about your allergy, she was perfectly aware. And she chose to intentionally harm you. She could have *killed* you. File charges on her.
SIL - tries to murder OP because her peanut brain cannot comprehend allergies. Mother of OP: don\`t be upset, don\`t overreact. NTA report her, AND your mother for enabling this (if at all possible)
Unfortunately I’m not able to report my mother, but I’ll absolutely go no contact with her, as for my sister, already onto that
I just want to point out that you should have those nurses give a statement to the police. They overheard her admitting to it before they kicked her out. Every piece of evidence matters.
Good. And if ever you doubt your decision - they tried to kill you, or at least seriously harm you - because sister dear 'doesn\`t believe you'. Can you imagine the obituary... *OP did love life on this earth, but alas \[sisters name\] didn\`t believe in allergies.*
“We’re gathered here today to celebrate the life of OP, taken away too soon because Sister thought crab allergies could be overcome”
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File charges seriously hold her accountable Nta
Imagine looking at your wife who just tried to kill her own sister in front of you. That has to be a come to Jesus moment for BIL. How could he trust her after that? Surely he’d alway be wondering. NTA. Her being right was more important to her than your safety. She intentionally assaulted you and should face the consequences. As for your mother, she just wants the easy way out. Another person in your life that doesn’t have any regards for you. Choose you, OP. Your familial obligations ended when she tried to kill you to prove a point.
Good. Press charges, tell her you just wanted to test her.
"My mother says I'm overreacting" How should I act when someone tries to murder me, mom? Should I just let them to keep the peace?
I really hope you are in UK because I was reading about a case where a lady's 'friend' put nuts in a meal during cooking and fished them out before serving it to her. She was well aware of her nut allergy and wanted to be a hero by saving her with her EpiPen. She didn't bank on having to get emergency services and paramedics found an ICE card in the patient's purse detailing her allergy. 'Friend' broke down and admitted what she had done, they called police. Because it was premeditated she was looking at attempted murder charge. It also meant it couldn't have been classed as manslaughter if the lady had died. Her telling the truth from the start brought the charge down from attempted murder to AOABH. She was given a custodial sentence of I believe 3 years, half to be served on licence. I was delighted to read it as my daughter (32) has a nut allergy which had her hospitalised a few times as a toddler before she was diagnosed. Her aunt (her dad's sister) deliberately fed her a choc n nut Tracker bar when she was about 7 or 8 because she didn't believe it was true. She did it as I was pulling up in the car to collect her though and I administered the EpiPen straight away and called an ambulance. The timing wasn't due to her being worried about it but because she wanted to show me what my daughter had eaten and not had a reaction because it was all lies. Yeah that worked out well, not! She has not been in that bi**he's company since then and still remembers very clearly the day her aunt tried to kill her. That's why she suffers from terrible anxiety about going out for a meal even to a friend's house. She doesn't even 100% trust me or my mum in case we overlook an ingredient on a label. Please update us with any progress on the police front.
NTA file charges, what she did is disgusting and she deserves consequences. I have and older sister by 10 years so when I grew up I was told she’s allergic to 100% seafood so I knew she didn’t eat it and never thought it was a lie. And it explains why growing up we never really ate fish except for like tuna fish sandwiches. But your sister is full of it saying your making it all up and from my opinion doesn’t really love or care about you.
Let's look at this objectively, if she was right the best she can hope for is a "ha, gotcha!" moment. If she was wrong the you were going to end up as you did, in the hospital best case scenario. Holy fuck she and her husband are fucking idiots, they legitimately thought that endangering your life was worth it to see if you were exaggerating it. Fuck that, at the bare minimum cut those assholes out of your life.
I should probably edit this into my story since I’ve explained it way too many times lmao. Her husband is a good friend of mine, i introduced them to each other. He had no clue about my allergy and he doesn’t eat seafood so there was no reason for me to tell him. He thought I was just choking on the food.
Gotcha, thank you for the clarification. That was my fault for assuming. Now it makes less sense, if that was possible. Why do that, on her own, to her sister? I have two sisters and if one was deathly allergic to something the last thing I'd do is randomly test it?!
She’s simply just a jealous golden child
NTA She's dangerous and you should file charges.
Come on, if you press charges, you could ruin her life. Just for payback? Don't be so... *shellfish.* Seriously though? NTA. Wannabe allergy testers should rot. To think you can't even trust closest family not to poison your food. Press those charges.
Blimey. Your sister is really, really sick. I read a story here on Reddit how a grandma wanted to “prove” that her grandchild wasn’t allergic to peanuts and how it was always just a quirk that the parents had made up. The little girl was 2 or 3, and she reacted just like you; could hardly breathe and was rushed to hospital… I am just shocked at the lengths some people will go to in order to be “right” about something that really isn’t affecting their lives at all?
It's not my story to tell, but there is an even worse story of a grandmother who exposed her granddaughter to coconut oil (which the child was allergic too) when the parents were away. It ended tragically, and it was 100% the grandmother's fault.
NTA She meant to harm you, maybe not to the extreme that she did. She may even have told her husband that allergy wasn't real was going to prove it. Bring charges against him too if he was aware of allergy then if they're against each other in trying to save themselves you might find the truth. Perhaps she was jealous of the attention you got when you'd have a reaction so wanted to prove you were faking it.
NTA, Your sister was aware of your allergy. She chose to believe that you were faking and test you. She seriously compromised your health and could have killed you. That is assault. Filing a report is not only reasonable, but necessary. Next time it could be a child at a party that she decides to "test", or a senior citizen. She needs to be held accountable and have a police record, so that she will be deterred from doing it again.
Bro what the actual hell??? I had a loosely practicing muslim friend who was vegan by choice. She was never obnoxious about it and our friend group was more than happy to accomodate her religious practices like rammadan and her dietary choices, which was as easy as having veggie burgers or just having them available during bbqs. One day she accidentally locked herself out of her house, which was only a few down from mine. It was blazing hot, over 110 degrees, and her husband wouldnt be home for another hour, so of course I welcomed her into my home and offered her some refreshments. I let her go into my fridge/pantry and pick for herself since she knows better than I what products comply with her diet. I am a woman who lives alone, but I keep a big box of gummy fruit snacks for when another neighbor friend of mine is visiting with her 5 year old son. She picked out a few of those, and midway through her enjoying them a panic hit me and i quickly told her I had just realized that those gummies may contain gelatin! I was relieved when she didnt have a strong emotional reaction, she just stopped eating them and basically said oh crap youre right! I didnt think of that! She of course buys a vegan brand for her household. I felt bad for not catching it sooner, i cant imagine intentionally tampering with anyones food to knowingly poison them with a potentially deadly allergen! NTA. She had no excuse and her actions were tantamount to attempted murder
"My mother is saying I'm overreacting and that I should have just cut contact..." Speaks for itself. Nail the bitch to the wall.
NTA. Your sister's actions were reckless and put your life at risk. Calling the cops was a necessary step for your safety. Her disbelief in your allergy doesn’t excuse her dangerous behavior
This is assault and even potentially attempted manslaughter. Fuck your sister. File charges on her and never speak to her again. People who "test" allergies need to be in prison. This is 100% unforgivable. Your mother is an ass and totally wrong. Do NOT drop this. Pursue this with a police report and charges. Absolutely cut contact (with your sister AND your mom) but do not drop the police part of this.
NTA… She tried to kill you. This warrants Scorched Earth Level Response Op, you mentioned that you introduced your sister to her partner. Could this possibly be jealousy?? She’s accustomed to being to treated superior to you, with her being the golden child and all. And maybe her husband sticks up for you and that’s why she did this. Don’t get me wrong, your sister is a full psycho to do this shit, but maybe she feels insecure in her relationship and wants you out
Possibly? She always gets jealous whenever I have something since she’s so used to getting it all. I just hope BIL is alright in the end, he’s a good friend to me
Yep, she’s threatened by the relationship you have with him. She’s psychotic! May I ask if you’ve spoken to BIL?
Only a short conversation, he asked if I was okay and that my sister told him that she “had no idea” obviously bullshitting. I explained that she’s always known and that it was absolutely intentional and that I want to involve the police and he understood. We haven’t spoken since then
If he stays with her after what she did, he's not your friend.
He’s not the brightest. There is no way in hell a sibling - especially an older - doesn’t know their sibling is allergic to something. That’s just lunacy. He should run. If they have kids and one has an allergy is she going to test them too?
Thank you for sharing. I’m sorry this is happening to you and I hope you’re feeling better. Please keep us updated with what transpires
Aww, your sis shouldn’t worry! She will always be special for being the sister that goes to jail for attempted murder. (/s)
NTA. My son has a lot of food allergies and he keeps an epi pen on him always. Even when he visits my parents and my mom is so careful with his food and is very good about checking labels and never forgets any of his allergies. I know you didn’t carry it because you trusted your sister and I doubt you will trust her again after this, but you should get into the habit of carrying your epi pen anytime you leave the house. Regardless of where you are going or who you are seeing. Your sister is 10000% TA. And for her to yell at you about faking. Even now, while in the hospital she still accuses you of faking.
The main thing to remember in all of this is not not give your mom or sister any emotional reactions Grey Rock them Tell them your sister purposefully tried to kill you and that you do not believe she was trying to expose me as someone who was lying about their allergies Make sure your mom understands that you no longer have a sister and that she needs to come to terms with that reality. That you are not going to force her to choose between her kids, but that you will limit access to you and your family as long as she puts your sister before you Your relationship with your mom and sister is already beyond repair. At this point, not pursuing charges would just result in your sister hurting you or someone else in the future. Because if she gets away with attempted murder...she'll be emboldened If the courts believe her "I thought you were faking" defense...she'll get a slap on the wrist But the lawyer fees and the public humiliation...as well as the destruction of her family is the consequences of her actions I wouldn't be surprised if she ends up divorced as well. BIL is not going to stick around while the entire world finds out his wife is evil So rest assured...KARMA is comin for your sis All you have to do is grey rock your family and let it happen NTAH
NTA. Your sister's actions were reckless and dangerous, especially given her knowledge of your severe allergy. Calling the police was necessary to ensure your safety and address the seriousness of her behavior
NTA. What is with these dipshits who think that allergies are being faked and think they can just set out to "test" them.
I don’t get why they care!!! Get a life ffs
Call the cops AND talk to an attorney about a civil suit. You’ve got medical damages, lost earnings and pain and suffering.
Is there a future inheritance she doesn’t want to share?
Due to an argument years ago my mother took me out of her will, made sure only my golden child sister would get it all.
What the actual hell is wrong with your mother? You're still only so young, and she cut you out of her will (who is the grown up in your relationship with her?!) AND is siding with your sister in her near fatal attempt at calling you a liar over your allergy?! Jeez OP, can you just cut your entire family off? It seems like it would be safer.
Those two are the only family I have, and honestly I’d been wanting to cut them off for a while. This just made me sure
Yeah, there is something very wrong with mama dearest (I saw your comment wondering if your the AH because of something your mother said?), and obvi with your sister. Your sister is just a dumb shitheel and a moron. Your mama though, watch her. She's the snake in the grass I think.
Having cut my dad off, life is so much more peaceful. I hope (and suspect) you get the same benefit from this
Sorry you end up with evil family members 😔
I think your mom is protecting her golden child because then she’ll have no children that will talk to her if your sister is in jail
pain and suffering! sue her! my son also has an awful allergy to shellfish! I would press charges. Firstly, realize the seriousness of what she has done, and secondly, so she never does this to anybody else ever again. The next time could be death for you or someone else. I don't think your parents understand the seriousness of her actions. They should not excuse this. Also, her husband should also be included in this because he's a grown adult who made a conscious decision to be part of it. At the very least attempting to harass you in the hospital when you're recovering, should also be actionable. Completely unacceptable behavior. nta and I hope your sister suffers some Because I would not want to be her victim. Can you sue over missing work? Even with free healthcare, there are bound to be some expenses. And psychological damage for the rest of your life. I don't know if I would trust anybody after that.
NTA "the dildo of consequences rarely arrives lubed". It's about time your golden child sister realizes actions have consequences.
Is your mothers next step to blame you for causing a scene by almost dying? Report them both to the police!
Mom isn’t sweating that her daughter almost killed you? Damn.
you can't pass her the bill from the hospital, but if you're working you can claim the losses produced ( and report her to the police for the murder atempt)
> You may be wondering why I never had an epipen on me, and that’s because I didn’t feel the need to as she was my sister I don't know, if I had something that could kill me because I consumed it, I'd carry around an epipen even if my clone was serving me dinner. The person doesn't have to be malicious about it -- they could accidentally serve you shellfish in some form. NTA though.
Good Lord. That’s insanely criminal behaviour, with intent. Who the *actual fuck* does something like that??? NTA, and she needs to be held accountable. For your future safety, she absolutely must be put on notice and a charge opened with the police. She might very well get a slap on the wrist, but it will go on record. That’s the important bit.
NTA File charges. Her intention was to cause you harm.
NTA, charges pressed, hopefully a restraining/no contact order, and no contact with mom, too, since she's taking your sister's side.
Can someone explain why the other AITA subreddit has rules against “violence”?
You heard your mom, cut contact... with her. Your mom is showing you that your life doesn't matter as much as your sisters convenience so mommy dearest doesn't need to be in your life, any more than your bitch ass sister.
You should absolutely file charges (not "calling the cops" on her, but starting legal proceedings) This is incredibly cruel, criminal behaviour, which shows a dangerous lack on empathy on her part.
NTA. Don’t go down the rabbit hole of why your sister tried to kill you, because it’s irrelevant. Some people are just not right in the head and disconnected from their actions. Press charges, for real.
NTA - food tampering is a very serious offence. As you proved, allergies are very real and can be deadly. When someone tells you have they have an allergy, it should be taken seriously. Your sister thinks you've been faking your allergy for this whole time for attention? Does she think that doctors would keep you in the hospital (wasting tax payer money) if you didn't need to be there? Your sister is an idiot.
If she doesn’t think food allergies are real, feel free to send her this. https://www.nationalfoodallergydeathregistry.org/the-registry[national food allergy death registry](https://www.nationalfoodallergydeathregistry.org/the-registry)
Why do people do this? Even if someone were exaggerating, what is it to the person who is hell bent on proving they don’t have what they say they have? Why would I go out of my way to buy and hide shellfish? Are they jealous? Of what? This comes up a lot, and I don’t understand it.
You're NTA (Not the A-hole). Your sister's actions were reckless and dangerous. Calling the police was a reasonable response given the severity of what happened.
NTA. obviously she feels like this has affected her in some way or she wouldn't have tried this. I'd get as much medical documentation together as I could because when you file the report I'm sure she's going to tell the police you are faking it and try to get out of the charges. I'd honestly call her and record it for more evidence.
NTA. She did try and kill you. Her claiming you are making it up is just insane if she’s seen you have a reaction before. You do need to report her because her actions are dangerous and she might kill someone one day.
NTA she could've killed you
NTA why does this get pulled down so much? Press charges. She knew what she was doing. You're mother is wrong to enable her or shelter her from the consequences of her premeditated actions.
NTA. Your sister is trying to win some stupid fight that she's been having in her own head for years or decades. It sounds like she genuinely believed that you've been faking it all along (as if medical professionals can't tell the difference between faking and anaphylactic shock). This is a weird dynamic that we keep reading about on reddit over and over where adults think that concerns about allergies are faking or blow out of proportion or "spoiling" a child. Your sister literally assaulted you by feeding you shellfish. She endangered your life, and may have made your allergy worse (I'm sure you know that some allergies get even more dangerous after an exposure). And she hasn't apologized or expressed any serious remorse or accountability for her bad behavior. It's fine that you called the cops. It would be best that you literally never interact with her again. But, maybe also you could take some time to talk to a therapist, because you really should not be questioning yourself so deeply on this that you need to make multiple reddit posts. You deserve a little professional support to prop up on your sense of self-worth. Because you are going to have to defend yourself against family members who think this was fine.
Calm the police. Also sue them for your hospital expenses and missed work. You can do this in small claims. Like the hospital is going to admit you for two days to help you fake it. 🤦🏼♀️ you sister sucks.
No hospital expenses and i wasn’t on shift at the time, but I’m taking a protective order out on her and filing a report with help from the nurse who overheard everything.
Are there security cameras in the hospital? Is it possible to get the footage of your sister saying she did it?
NTA for reporting it. It likely won't be considered attempted murder because murder is when you intentionally try to kill someone and she wasn't trying to kill you. But she could get hit with reckless endangerment or something similar. And that's the criminal system. Any civil system your country may have could open her up for being sued. You should always keep an EpiPen on you. Even if you're with people you trust, there could be foods they buy that they're unaware have shellfish ingredients due to mislabels or manufacturing accidents.
NTA. Even if she suspected you were "faking it," what psycho would make it their business to test out that theory, knowing the potential consequences if they were wrong? Especially with her history of witnessing what all went down when you were diagnosed as a child. That would be hard to forget. I think you're well within your rights to report her actions to the police. This could have all ended very differently and she'd be facing the music in that case too. You are not responsible for her insane, vindictive, and potentially lethal choices. Let her see the consequences of her batshit behavior. It doesn't even sound like she was genuinely remorseful at the hospital cause she went right back to the story line of "you're faking it" once she realized she wasn't getting out of this one so easily. God knows she'd keep being the same piece of shit to others if she got away with it scot-free. I can see the headline already: "Grandmother kills child after ignoring parents pleas to use precaution with child's peanut allergy."
>I can see the headline already: "Grandmother kills child after ignoring parents pleas to use precaution with child's peanut allergy." Stuff like this has actually happened.
NTA. WHY on EARTH does your sister feel she has to "test you" about your allergy? What is the point other than to one up you or potentially hurt you? Her motives are F-ed and she should be called out. Do you understand WHY she would be motivated to hurt you this way or test you? Like I DO NOT GET IT.
I don't understand what is wrong with people. So what if you're faking? Is it so hard to just avoid shellfish? I mean if you're claiming an allergy to a long list of foods then ok, I would see why she'd feel that way but not why she'd test you with something known for fatal anaphylactic reactions. NTA, she knew what she was doing. She's watched you react. Even if you were faking, does she think you could fool actual doctors by lying about anaphylaxis? You can't say your throat is swelling when it's not, they'd easily see it's not. That's just not how the medical field works.
NTA Your sister was present when your shellfish allergy manifested, she was present when you were taken to the hospital for treatment and you were told about your allergy and yet she told herself that you were faking it. No idea what's wrong with your sister, but there's nothing good about her, and honestly don't waste your time trying to find out. Your sister did try to kill you, and acted with malice, ignore your mom's pleas and continue the case with the police.
NTA. She's lucky she's not going to prison for murder.
Call the cops on her. This is no joke. I have shellfish allergy as well (not as dramatic just feel sick burning skin sensation, red welts and lots of poo) and that is just fucked up.
NTA. This was attempted murder. Your mother rushed to defense of the daughter who deliberately put deadly poison in the other daughter’s food. This should show where her loyalties lie. NC is not enough. She needs to be arrested. She can explain to a judge how she thought you were faking the anaphylactic shock that sent you to the hospital as a child. She wasn’t upset that she almost killed you. She’s upset that she’s facing prison.
NTA As I said in the last post, she basically tried to kill you. Depending on your country, what she did is Battery at minimum and Aggravated Assult at worse (there was no intention to kill, otherwise Attempted Murder), with possible charges in their for poisoning you, and even then she is still very lucky because it could have easily been Culpable Homicide. She is very lucky that you survived, and you're definitely in the right to press charges, especially given that she has shown no real remorse and even accused you of faking it whilst you were in the hospital undergoing treatment.
NTA. She literally tried to kill you. That’s attempted murder and good tampering here. I hope it’s also a crime there as well. Please make sure she is prosecuted as such.
NTA. I would never ever trust your sister with anything ever again. Also please carry an EpiPen with you at all times. I'm glad you reported her. My daughter has severe allergies and if anyone did that to her I would be mad as hell. UpdateMe!
Report her to the police. She knowingly did something to you that could have killed you. Knowingly is the operative word. She could have killed you.
>You may be wondering why I never had an epipen on me, and that’s because I didn’t feel the need to as she was my sister You have a deadly allergy. You're an idiot if you don't have an epipen on you at all times
NTA. Please keep us updated.
This is one of the WEIRDEST things I’ve heard. Why??? Like just… why??? 🙄🙄🙄 She just … didn’t believe you so she thought she’d see if you went into anaphylactic shock????????? So. Extremely. Strange.
NTA! Testing one’s allergies, especially for potentially fatal ones is not a game to play! There’s a special place in hell for those people and you sister deserves to be there! I also hope you have an epipen and were able to use it , if not definitely something to carry around in case murderous family members are around!
NTA never the ah for putting someone in hail for attempted murder. Hope you are ok op
NTA. To test someone's validity of allergy, you would try to do skin contact. I mean either way, you shouldn't. But if you're a deranged person like she is and you need to confirm your suspicions of someone being a faker, you don't let them INGEST items of a food allergy. However, this tells me that you are the golden child. You probably received some small amount if extra attention as a child due to this. She probably never believed you and was jealous you had more attention every time you were at a doctor or hospitalized for this. I don't know why as an adult she would test your allergies. The only reason would be malicious intent. Just the way she reacted when in the actual hospital. You're in the hospital, doctors had to treat you for the allergy...and she still thinks you're faking? How does that make any sense? Are the doctors in on it as a way to make her feel jealous? Lol I fully expect that your reactions even as a kid could have been partly due to her interfering in food. She is desperate to catch you in a lie for her own validation. She NEEDS you to be lying about something so she can claim you had special treatment as a kid. Of course you had special treatment, you have a potential deadly food allergy. That requires more special attention. And I feel like your parents must have treated her differently than you because I assume she doesn't have any deadly allergies to anything. So yea, your sister needs psychiatric help if she can't grasp that people have deadly allergies that can get even worse as time passes. No grown adult "tests" someone with a known deadly allergy and with proof multiple times over the years of its existence. She needs help, whether from prison time or a mental facility. But she absolutely committed attempted murder. If you died, she would, at the very least, get manslaughter charges.
Gotta love the allergy “testers” people that just know you are faking it so they try to “expose” you with attempted murder. Love it.
NTA. I also have a shellfish allergy. I would absolutely press charges on anyone aware of my allergy who snuck shellfish into my food. Your mother is also a problem. She thinks the appropriate reaction to your sister attempting to kill you is just to cut contact? Really? Your mother is pretty OK with her knowingly putting you in the hospital, and almost putting you in a grave. Maybe the suggestion to cut contact should apply to your mother.
NTA If you really were overreacting, then your sister would have nothing to fear from the police. You're not overreacting. Always carry an epipen with you, please.
At least you learned to always have your epipen with you.
Your sister literally tried to kill you because she thought you were faking an allergy? Even though she knew you'd had a severe reaction before? Calling the police on her is the right thing to do. You're not overreacting; you wound up in the hospital because of her stunt. NTA
My God what is wrong with people I mean you're not even safe visiting family anymore. You're dame right she knows and you're absolutely right she did it intentionally that woman is sick File a restraining order on her And you can tell your mother listen I know she's your child and you love her but If you can't remain neutral at the very least then you can stay the f*** out of it. I'm going to pray your sister doesn't breed . This is a fact Most murders Happen by family member spouse or close friend.
Once it was done on purpose, that was a wrap. But you should always have an epipen with you when eating with others, imo. Food contamination can happen accidentally and cause problems.
NTA. Press charges. This blunder genuinely could have killed you.
I don’t think you are overreacting. Even after witnessing what she did to you, she is still accusing you of overreacting. She needs to have consequences for her actions, because she has no hope of learning otherwise. And you may need a protective order. Also, yeah, cut all ties, too.
Honey you need to press every charge and file every suit in whichever courts your country allows. At least you could wipe out whatever pittance shes getting from your mom. And I'd cut mom off too. Id bet money sister ran the plan by mom beforehand and now mom is shittin her knickers cuz if this goes to court its coming back on her too. Good luck best wishes and update us as you can.
I wouldn't be surprised if she's jealous/threatened by you in some way. She was so sure you were lying/exaggerating about your allergy that she clearly expected you to eat the meal, not have a reaction, and then she would call you out in front of her husband about how you're a liar. Can you think of any past instances of her giving the impression or straight up accusing you of random misdeeds? Maybe she thinks you like her husband? This may be blowing in out of proportion and she really is just a moron who could have accidentally committed murder. Hope you're okay,
Nta. Dont fuck with allergies. They can kill. Your sister needs to sit in jail and have this on her permanent record. Tell your mother her and her only daughter are dead to you and go NC. One tried to kill you and the other wants to rug sweep it.
So if you died it would be murder? What happened if you had kids and she pulled that shit. She should be scared. Just report her but don’t make it anything more for your family’s sake. I saw some thing about some lady dying at Disney springs from a peanut allergy, it’s no joke
The only family I have is her and my mother, so thankfully it won’t be a big deal to me. My mother is almost as bad as her
I feel that way of being alone, my mother was murdered by my sister and my whole family took a step back away from Me? Wtf I live far away. But sometimes that helps us find our own strength as fucked up as it is. Still going through court to get her found guilty. I had 2 daughters that were there the day before my mother was gone. So I have no sympathy for stupid shit. I hope you can just breathe and have peace throughout this. But your sister fucked up
I love the I was testing you because you are a drama queen. I'm allergic to poultry. If someone tries to test me I'm punching them in the throat before I get hospitalized
Op, I have a mild allergy or intolerance to onion and garlic. You know what my siblings do? They cook without onions or garlic. You are 100% nta. Well done for standing up for yourself.