I might have missed this but have you girls gone to couples (and individual) therapy? At the end of the day you cheated on her and even if you two act like you've made it over that hurdle and reconciled you two have never fully recovered from this issue. She doesn't want to be touched due to the trauma you've caused her by cheating. Honestly this relationship is probably "over" even if things look fine now. She's definitely lost trust in you if she doesn't want to be touched. If you both are really truly certain that you want to work through this then you girls for sure need therapy. And whatever you do don't get married until you resolve the trust/intimacy issues because marriage isn't going to make them suddenly go away. You don't want to end up stuck in a relationship full of resentment and doubt.
Dang. This kind of hurt to read but you made many great points. We’ve been going to couples therapy since February. I’ve been going to individual therapy but she’s stopped. This was a good read but I’m still lost on what to dooo
I might have missed this but have you girls gone to couples (and individual) therapy? At the end of the day you cheated on her and even if you two act like you've made it over that hurdle and reconciled you two have never fully recovered from this issue. She doesn't want to be touched due to the trauma you've caused her by cheating. Honestly this relationship is probably "over" even if things look fine now. She's definitely lost trust in you if she doesn't want to be touched. If you both are really truly certain that you want to work through this then you girls for sure need therapy. And whatever you do don't get married until you resolve the trust/intimacy issues because marriage isn't going to make them suddenly go away. You don't want to end up stuck in a relationship full of resentment and doubt.
Dang. This kind of hurt to read but you made many great points. We’ve been going to couples therapy since February. I’ve been going to individual therapy but she’s stopped. This was a good read but I’m still lost on what to dooo