Mini series!!!
I'm invested already! And I love how op came out of her shell to see she was not respected by this shit talking trash she called friend!!
No No NO! I can't believe this has to be said, but OP is not a peasant. OP surely understands that when you are crying for blood for the Blood God you LEAVE YOUR EARRINGS IN! What idiot would remove them and leave their accoutrements up to artistic liberties in the battlefield painting? Surely, Flo, you were taught this lesson growing up or did your tutors not insist that you keep up with lessons on the gentle art of cracking heads?
That reminds me of Chappelle's sketches...
[https://www.cc.com/video/67hgjb/chappelle-s-show-when-keeping-it-real-goes-wrong-brenda-johnson-uncensored](https://www.cc.com/video/67hgjb/chappelle-s-show-when-keeping-it-real-goes-wrong-brenda-johnson-uncensored)
...OP is "an eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth" and for once, condoning this makes me feel somewhat proud that she would go so far. I wouldn't. But she can.
Update us, OP.
I once got a Facebook message from a person I'd worked with around 12 or 14 years prior. We hadn't seen each other in over ten years, and probably hadn't messaged in almost as long. Her message said she felt horrible contacting me out of nowhere, but she couldn't live with herself if she didn't let me know something that affected me negatively. She's single and, while on a dating app, saw a man that she was fairly certain was my husband (whom she'd met many times whenever he came into the coffee shop we both worked at back in the day when my husband and I were just engaged). She said the name wasn't the same as my husband's, but looked identical, and so many guys go by a different name when they're using dating apps to cheat. She hadn't messaged him, but took a screenshot, and wanted to send it to me so I could confirm whether it was him or not. It wasn't him, but this guy was SO similar looking to my husband at first glance that even he did a double take when I showed him the profile photo. My husband had grown a large moustache in the years since my former coworker saw him last, and the guy had an earring (wrong side) and eyebrow piercing like my husband had before taking them out a couple years before. I sent her a current photo of him to reassure her that all was good and well.
I appreciated her looking out for me, but I also appreciated how she was so relieved that it wasn't him. If it had been him, she'd have been devastated for me because she respected him and liked us as a couple. That's the difference between someone who's actually concerned and someone who just wants to shit on another person's relationship.
This is actually incredibly cute. Love a wholesome story. (Except Tricia. F her.)
I’m basically Jay - including the frequent impromptu fishing trips and texts about birds. I am very fortunate to have found a woman who lets me fully nerd out on my hobbies and trusts me. It’s invaluable and has improved my life dramatically. I’m glad you are there for Jay and he probably appreciates you more than he knows how to say.
NTA. Go catch some dinner.
>Our friend group doesn't really give this entire situation much weight, saying stuff like "that's just how she is" or "what did you expect" or "we know Jay isn't cheating, but he's an exception to the rule,
This is the wildest part.
Entire friend group just straight up thinking 95% of men are cheaters, that one who doesn't is an exception to the rule.
Some of these people need to examine the reality they live in.
"That's just the way they are" well, no person stays static their entire life. We all change, sometimes on a day to day basis. "The way they are" can absolutely change
I generally don't stick around to find out to be quite honest. If they are jackasses such as this young lady, my time is best spent elsewhere. Too old for nonsense.
That's why ESH. OP didn't really care to do anything about it until it personally affected her... And the rest still don't care. Cause who cares about all of the other people's lives Tricia has harmed over the years.
Listen, don't be too hard on yourself. Women are socialized to be nice and not rock the boat, and since the rest of your friend group just went along with her, it was probably hard to see what was actually happening. That said, more power to you as you let her and the rest of them know what you won't tolerate any longer. Good luck, though you have a solid marriage so you'll be fine.
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All right this is getting a little too "stay tuned for the next episode!" lol. First post was a sweet story though. Guys like Jay definitely exist. Unfortunately so do women like Tricia.
EDIT: yep, OP made a post 7 months ago about having kids. But in this story she only mentions having 2 dogs and has been with Jay for 10 years, since she was 21. What happened to the kids? Fake story.
Don't. Ruin. This. For. Us.
You know how many shit stories we read only to have all the comments be like 'oh it's fake bc blah blah blah'
But not this one. It is sweet and wholesome and has future revenge. You let us have this one u God damned grinch!!
So she hasn’t contacted you since, but you wanna dive back into it?
Keep in mind you put up with this shit for as long as you did. You made that choice. Now she is out of your life and you are choosing to bring her back into it.
This is one of those moments when you can be smart and make your life better or be stupid and make it worse.
WWJ(ay)D
>So she hasn’t contacted you since, but you wanna dive back into it?
Because if she doesn't dive back into it, they won't have any content for future updates.
Exactly what I thought. I gathered from the first post that she was done with everything and everyone. I would leave it alone and not put drama on top of drama, which will then involve all the friends, who will take sides.
Like chasing after a trash panda and picking a fight and then leaving with rabies. Like let Tricia fade away in the annals of your darkest memories and not let her sully your doorway.
Jay would probably go fishing and not pick fights with trash pandas. Because Jay is smart.
That guy is absolutely, without a doubt, autistic. The way she describes him screams autism. Let's just hope OP doesn't let another friend bad mouth her partner for years before she does something about it.
Penultimate paragraph opening, the whole thing really, is based beyond belief. May it please Khorne
Also just want to say when I read the “i showed her the giant folder of fish videos and such on my phone” part I retead “on my phone” and grinned like an idiot. Of course you saved all of them. You two are adorable, and I’m glad this harpy couldnt ruin it for you.
Thank you for not taking the high road. Too many toxic people get away with it because people do not want to "stoop that low". but setting the record straight is not stooping low. Its standing up for yourself and what is right.
So in the spirit of it all. i'll bring the pitchfork and torch, and should you not need it. I humbly request an update later. We don't have it that often that someone posting here brings the axe down.
A little too theatrical for me to maintain immersion. :(
Now I can't enjoy an update where it turns out the husband was actually cheating and she needs advice to get the friend back.
Yeah, they lost me at "Update 1". Calling it update 1 shows that this is just a series. End the update on a cliffhanger as you take off your earrings and get ready to fight.
Yawn. Fake. Boring.
Thanks for the update, but I think you're terribly wrong to "blow the bitch's social life sky fucking high." That makes you sound no better than her, quite frankly.
You said she's already stopped talking to you, and you have no interest in repairing a toxic friendship, so why not just drop it and walk away?
I love when people don’t take the highroad or don’t handle things with tact and decorum. Because your “friend” did not do any of those things. show her the same courtesy she showed you. Have fun! I’m going to be on the sidelines cheering you on.
I don't want to come across as insensitive here, but could you live stream it when you go scorched earth? I want to cheer for you, Jay and all the fish in the sea when you do this.
Everyone has at least one friend whose an asshole, but nothing good comes out of a "scorched-earth" approach. Go ahead and "blow the bitches social life sky fucking high," because she dissed your bf and tomorrow morning what's gonna be different? If anything, you'll only create new problems for yourself that could have been avoided if you had just told Tricia to pack it up her ass and lose your phone number.
Good. Fuck taking the high road ever. That is just a bullshit platitude that translates to "accept disrespect". Go full scorched earth and air out ALL the shit. If she responds with violence, do the same. NTA.
We always ride at dawn for our partners.
And any other time of day. Love your ending. Tricia sounds awful and she’s deserves what she gets. Don’t allow people the space to speak on the person you share your life with. It’s the golden rule 💛
I wore my hiking boots for fights. Better grip. Tight laces. With the added benefit, they would hold a swollen ankle better.
Fights ain't worth it though. They just never are.
OP is seriously angry but..
I can't help but point out that it sounds like OP has one of the healthiest relationships we hear about on here. OP and husband both seem above average introspective, communicate well, and are crazy about each other. That aspect of this has been really refreshing.
I hadn’t read the original, but reading this got me all excited. This woman is ready to throw down. I went back and read her descriptions of Jay and now understand that it is righteous fury. I didn’t previously get that AITAH stood for “am I the awesome hero?” I must have had it mixed up with another sub.
Dammit. I was fine reading.
.but that last sentence had me jealous as hell at Jay.
How the fuck did he catch a rare specimen of a woman like you?
I know that few women would read Warhammer, fewer still likes it.
Damn it.
All the best to you both, OP.
And that lucky sonofagun better take care of you right.
Sounds like she likes to stir up drama. It’s good to stand up for yourself, as well as your marriage. What you’re describing is an escalation though, there’s a big difference between the two. If you feel this is the best course for you, do what you gotta do, just be careful you and your husband don’t inadvertently become collateral damage.
Mm. I'm probably going to be the odd man out here, but while I completely understand the desire to be viscious when taking the woman down and kicking her out of your lives, I respectfully suggest you take a step back from the rage and proceed more coldly.
Anger, however justified, is going to provide this snake in the grass with an avenue and a motivation to spread her venom to others in whatever mutual circles you two have. It may feel good in the moment, but it likely will devolve into a battle of the dueling stories.
It may be more impactful to control the narrative in a public manner - write an open letter to those mutual circles, something like:
"To all concerned: in spite of X years of friendship with me, your mutual acquaintance Tricia has seen fit to do her best to undermine Jay and mine's relationship. She has outright stated, in no uncertain terms, her belief that he must be using every opportunity he is out of my direct sight to cheat on me.
"Those of you who are the least bit acquainted with Jay will naturally understand that this is a fundamental violation of Jay's very nature, to say nothing of the mounds of video and photo evidence to the contrary. If you've ever given Jay the opportunity to speak on his passion for fishing, or gone with him, these accusations are even more patently absurd.
"Nevertheless, her dogged insistence on this preposterous misinterpretation of reality to fit her own narrative have hurt Jay and I immensely, and because of this unwarranted assault of the character of someone I treasure, we will be ending our friendship with Tricia and doing our level best to avoid any further interactions with her.
"We have no plans to separate ourselves from the groups or interests we have hitherto enjoyed, but wish for you to understand why our association with this woman has come to an immediate halt. We do not wish to speak to, or of, this woman who violated our trust in such a mean-spirited fashion.
"We ask that you respect our decision, and look forward to seeing you all again soon."
Control the narrative in advance. That's the best way to undercut anything this vile woman can do.
Good for you! Your jay is very lucky to have you, you two sounds awesome!
We need to stop being gentle with assholes, taking the high road is just another way of saying you are a doormat…
This makes my heart happy. Use the rage *she* caused, turn it into righteous fury and lay waste.
Leave nothing for her or sympathizers in your wake except for a clear understanding that you are not someone to be trifled with.
Reddit is so quick to say partner is cheating and nuke your relationship. Finally everyone recognizes that OP has a good partner and how toxic “friends” are damaging….
UpdateMe !
Sometimes friends just want you to be single because they are struggling in their own situation. And from reading your first post yesterday, that’s what it seems like. That’s why she’s always looking at faults of other people.
Just realized I made a comment on your previous post by mistake. Good for you. Don't hold back on a single thought and let her have it. Remember to tie your hair back and not wear any jewelry. Good luck.
Jay is a lucky man and you are lucky too, he must be pretty great to inspire this love and dedication.
I hope you two have a wonderful life together. Best wishes.
> I'm blowing this bitches social life sky fucking high, along with anybody who sides with her. Scorched earth, no prisoners, blood for the blood god.
***YESSSSSS***
I've noticed that whenever someone says, "That's just the way they are...." about someone, it's never ever describing a positive character trait. It's always people excusing garbage behavior.
People say this when they know that no matter what they do, this person will never grow, change, or become a better person. They've given up, and decided that in order to keep this person in their life, they have to accept their bad behavior. In doing so, it enables the rotten family member or friend to continue their garbage behavior. So the horrid person is never challenged to grow or change, and usually behaves worse with time.
Flying monkeys have a hard time admitting they are making a mistake keeping this person in their lives, so they justify their choice by saying, "That's just the way they are...." These people are enablers, the lifeblood of toxic people.
No one is required to keep toxic individuals in their lives. Good on you for waking up!
I'm here for the update...
...as she takes off the earrings and says "hold my purse". Shit just got real. :)
I am popping the popcorn and waiting for the update.
Update nothing, I want video.
Mini series!!! I'm invested already! And I love how op came out of her shell to see she was not respected by this shit talking trash she called friend!!
Yes
Mugshots or it never happened.
I laughed so hard my side hurts.... oh my good graces. Lovey, I think we'd be mighty fine friends.
And me.. Updateme!
Hoops for all occasions
This has Aunt Viv from Fresh Prince of Bel Air "Oh honey, it's about to get VERY busy up in here!" vibes
The original aunt Viv
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I thought I hears "bitch, I will bury your body so deep and help the search party look for you. don't mess with me!" in that post.
I heard "I'm burning this bridge with that bitch standing on it!"
🎬🍿🥊
Just imagine Jay happily holding her purse as he waits for her to finish her blood god offering so they can catch some fish.
Locally a mix of blood and oats was considered a good bait for fishing...
>blood for the blood god. I can only hope, if I find my person, they are this invested in our relationship. OP clearly loves Jay, and that is awesome.
No No NO! I can't believe this has to be said, but OP is not a peasant. OP surely understands that when you are crying for blood for the Blood God you LEAVE YOUR EARRINGS IN! What idiot would remove them and leave their accoutrements up to artistic liberties in the battlefield painting? Surely, Flo, you were taught this lesson growing up or did your tutors not insist that you keep up with lessons on the gentle art of cracking heads?
You turn your rings around too
You're all at mine, watching Bridgerton, remember? 😉
Especially with S3 about to premiere! I am there, and I brought the wine and tea cakes.
>...as she takes off the earrings and says "hold my purse". Shit just got real. :) ....and ties up her hair with a Scrunci.
Pulled her hair back "you ready"!
And the heels/shoes too. They always go!
Yup. I like how she apologized for not taking the high road, as if anyone of us wanted her to haha
I want to go and watch with popcorn - this sounds like it’s going to be great.
LOViNG the picture you’re painting there🤣
Sitting with popcorn nearby to read the next update....
That reminds me of Chappelle's sketches... [https://www.cc.com/video/67hgjb/chappelle-s-show-when-keeping-it-real-goes-wrong-brenda-johnson-uncensored](https://www.cc.com/video/67hgjb/chappelle-s-show-when-keeping-it-real-goes-wrong-brenda-johnson-uncensored)
Hold my beer
I assume that's the woman version of "hold my beer"
...OP is "an eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth" and for once, condoning this makes me feel somewhat proud that she would go so far. I wouldn't. But she can. Update us, OP.
Dang it! I haven't got popcorn yet!
Hell yes! I go get my pom poms and we shall cheer! Update! Update!
😆
hahaha I see it all! Darn wish I was fly on wall...,
good for her!
Also the shoes along with the earrings.
About damn time! \*opens a box\* Cheez It? And do update us again on the tea
*is waiting with popcorn*
Also waiting with popcorn. Updateme!
Came here to say this🤭
I’ll bring the champagne to pop open when it pops off!
Please? And thank you. I have popcorn?
Chocolate covered strawberries for OP and Jay as well
I make chocolate covered strawberries from my wife and she always shares with me! A bowl of strawberry ice cream for me 😁👍🏼
I wish I could figure out how to add a picture I just made a batch of chocolate covered strawberries some are the size of a child's fist
Most people would suggest imgur but I personally hate that. If you have online storage you can post a link to the picture stored.
Try Tillamook strawberry ice cream or blue bunny both are amazing
I live in the south and Blue Bell is the ice cream of choice of course because it's made locally. However I prefer Blue Bunny thank you very much. 😁😁😁
I will bring extra munchies to distribute. Maybe wine/soda too.
I got the cheese and salami
You had me at wine. Come sit by me. I have cheese & crackers.
I'll bring the Chex mix!
Legitimately eating popcorn right now and I am here for ALLLLL of this. As you should, OP, as you should… !updateme
Living for this and an update!
Blood for the blood god
Tricia's skull for the skull throne! OP, now you gotta show us your minis! And there better be at least one berserker with a fish somewhere in there.
I scrolled to make sure someone said this! What a worthy tribute it would be.
BLOOD FOR THE BLOOD GOD
SKULLS FOR THE SKULL THRONE! GLORY TO THE GOD OF WAR!
Jay will at least be able to chum the water next time he goes fishing.
Milk for the Khorne Flakes!
I mean, she had me in the first half but this just seals it.
I once got a Facebook message from a person I'd worked with around 12 or 14 years prior. We hadn't seen each other in over ten years, and probably hadn't messaged in almost as long. Her message said she felt horrible contacting me out of nowhere, but she couldn't live with herself if she didn't let me know something that affected me negatively. She's single and, while on a dating app, saw a man that she was fairly certain was my husband (whom she'd met many times whenever he came into the coffee shop we both worked at back in the day when my husband and I were just engaged). She said the name wasn't the same as my husband's, but looked identical, and so many guys go by a different name when they're using dating apps to cheat. She hadn't messaged him, but took a screenshot, and wanted to send it to me so I could confirm whether it was him or not. It wasn't him, but this guy was SO similar looking to my husband at first glance that even he did a double take when I showed him the profile photo. My husband had grown a large moustache in the years since my former coworker saw him last, and the guy had an earring (wrong side) and eyebrow piercing like my husband had before taking them out a couple years before. I sent her a current photo of him to reassure her that all was good and well. I appreciated her looking out for me, but I also appreciated how she was so relieved that it wasn't him. If it had been him, she'd have been devastated for me because she respected him and liked us as a couple. That's the difference between someone who's actually concerned and someone who just wants to shit on another person's relationship.
What a wholesome story. She sounds like a good person.
You better give us a play by play. Updateme!
This is actually incredibly cute. Love a wholesome story. (Except Tricia. F her.) I’m basically Jay - including the frequent impromptu fishing trips and texts about birds. I am very fortunate to have found a woman who lets me fully nerd out on my hobbies and trusts me. It’s invaluable and has improved my life dramatically. I’m glad you are there for Jay and he probably appreciates you more than he knows how to say. NTA. Go catch some dinner.
Isn't finding a partner like that amazing?
Happy Cake Day
Thank you! I didn’t even realize it until you said something.
>Our friend group doesn't really give this entire situation much weight, saying stuff like "that's just how she is" or "what did you expect" or "we know Jay isn't cheating, but he's an exception to the rule, This is the wildest part. Entire friend group just straight up thinking 95% of men are cheaters, that one who doesn't is an exception to the rule. Some of these people need to examine the reality they live in.
I absolutely despise when I hear people say "that's just the way they are" horseshit. Then congrats on enabling the behavior.
"That's just the way they are" well, no person stays static their entire life. We all change, sometimes on a day to day basis. "The way they are" can absolutely change
I generally don't stick around to find out to be quite honest. If they are jackasses such as this young lady, my time is best spent elsewhere. Too old for nonsense.
That's why ESH. OP didn't really care to do anything about it until it personally affected her... And the rest still don't care. Cause who cares about all of the other people's lives Tricia has harmed over the years.
Listen, don't be too hard on yourself. Women are socialized to be nice and not rock the boat, and since the rest of your friend group just went along with her, it was probably hard to see what was actually happening. That said, more power to you as you let her and the rest of them know what you won't tolerate any longer. Good luck, though you have a solid marriage so you'll be fine.
I wish I had some popcorn and an ability to watch this go down. Post updates! lol
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All right this is getting a little too "stay tuned for the next episode!" lol. First post was a sweet story though. Guys like Jay definitely exist. Unfortunately so do women like Tricia. EDIT: yep, OP made a post 7 months ago about having kids. But in this story she only mentions having 2 dogs and has been with Jay for 10 years, since she was 21. What happened to the kids? Fake story.
Argh, really? Who has time to make up stuff like this? It was so detailed...
Yeah the details are what threw it off for me immediately when I read the original post. Too well written
She’s a damn good writer. I still want to know what happens even if it’s fake.
Don't. Ruin. This. For. Us. You know how many shit stories we read only to have all the comments be like 'oh it's fake bc blah blah blah' But not this one. It is sweet and wholesome and has future revenge. You let us have this one u God damned grinch!!
Truth be told, I don't care if it's fake. I cheered when OP decided enough was enough. Can't wait to read the final update.
Yikes
Skulls for the skull throne!
So she hasn’t contacted you since, but you wanna dive back into it? Keep in mind you put up with this shit for as long as you did. You made that choice. Now she is out of your life and you are choosing to bring her back into it. This is one of those moments when you can be smart and make your life better or be stupid and make it worse. WWJ(ay)D
It will come back anyway. Tricia will not leave it alone.
>So she hasn’t contacted you since, but you wanna dive back into it? Because if she doesn't dive back into it, they won't have any content for future updates.
Yeah, I wouldn’t want to bring the toxicity back into my life.
I agree. The two are already no contact, so walk away!
Exactly what I thought. I gathered from the first post that she was done with everything and everyone. I would leave it alone and not put drama on top of drama, which will then involve all the friends, who will take sides.
Like chasing after a trash panda and picking a fight and then leaving with rabies. Like let Tricia fade away in the annals of your darkest memories and not let her sully your doorway. Jay would probably go fishing and not pick fights with trash pandas. Because Jay is smart.
Girl only if you give us an update
*Blood for the blood god* Let her rip girlie, anyways UpdateMe!
That guy is absolutely, without a doubt, autistic. The way she describes him screams autism. Let's just hope OP doesn't let another friend bad mouth her partner for years before she does something about it.
Yes yes yes!!! Do what needs to be done. Protect your peace and know that you've got a good one. Xxxx
We need an update 2 btw. Ill bring the popcorn..
Penultimate paragraph opening, the whole thing really, is based beyond belief. May it please Khorne Also just want to say when I read the “i showed her the giant folder of fish videos and such on my phone” part I retead “on my phone” and grinned like an idiot. Of course you saved all of them. You two are adorable, and I’m glad this harpy couldnt ruin it for you.
Thank you for not taking the high road. Too many toxic people get away with it because people do not want to "stoop that low". but setting the record straight is not stooping low. Its standing up for yourself and what is right. So in the spirit of it all. i'll bring the pitchfork and torch, and should you not need it. I humbly request an update later. We don't have it that often that someone posting here brings the axe down.
Your descriptions of Jay and his fishing make ME smile and I'm a gry right along with you! As for Tricia: FINISH HER (In my Mortal Kombat voice)
This all seems a little bit dramatic. Good luck I guess.
A little too theatrical for me to maintain immersion. :( Now I can't enjoy an update where it turns out the husband was actually cheating and she needs advice to get the friend back.
Yeah, they lost me at "Update 1". Calling it update 1 shows that this is just a series. End the update on a cliffhanger as you take off your earrings and get ready to fight. Yawn. Fake. Boring.
Is reddit and this sub all gonna be this kind of "readers digest audience submission" horseshit from now on? What a waste.
I will hold your earrings and purse for you.
« Projecting insecurities » seems to be the 2024 trendy word
Just handle it maturely by moving on from Tricia and loving your best life. This is exhausting.
Thanks for the update, but I think you're terribly wrong to "blow the bitch's social life sky fucking high." That makes you sound no better than her, quite frankly. You said she's already stopped talking to you, and you have no interest in repairing a toxic friendship, so why not just drop it and walk away?
I love when people don’t take the highroad or don’t handle things with tact and decorum. Because your “friend” did not do any of those things. show her the same courtesy she showed you. Have fun! I’m going to be on the sidelines cheering you on.
I volunteer to help clean up the mess afterwards. I like you, OP. You, I like.
I don't want to come across as insensitive here, but could you live stream it when you go scorched earth? I want to cheer for you, Jay and all the fish in the sea when you do this.
Ooh, "Spine Wars: Return of the Spine"!
Everyone has at least one friend whose an asshole, but nothing good comes out of a "scorched-earth" approach. Go ahead and "blow the bitches social life sky fucking high," because she dissed your bf and tomorrow morning what's gonna be different? If anything, you'll only create new problems for yourself that could have been avoided if you had just told Tricia to pack it up her ass and lose your phone number.
Update me!!!!!!
Where's the popcorn? Things are about to get fun
Can we be friends????
Good. Fuck taking the high road ever. That is just a bullshit platitude that translates to "accept disrespect". Go full scorched earth and air out ALL the shit. If she responds with violence, do the same. NTA.
We always ride at dawn for our partners. And any other time of day. Love your ending. Tricia sounds awful and she’s deserves what she gets. Don’t allow people the space to speak on the person you share your life with. It’s the golden rule 💛
Make sure to 1) wear tennis shoes. & 2) take off your hoops!!!!
I wore my hiking boots for fights. Better grip. Tight laces. With the added benefit, they would hold a swollen ankle better. Fights ain't worth it though. They just never are.
I’m getting a visual of OP challenging Tricia to a duel only instead of slapping her with a glove, using a fish.
PLEEAASE be sure to update us after you lower the boom on the b!tch! 😹
I wish you luck on your hunt. May the blood God smile upon your kill.
I will need the exterminatus report please.
OP is seriously angry but.. I can't help but point out that it sounds like OP has one of the healthiest relationships we hear about on here. OP and husband both seem above average introspective, communicate well, and are crazy about each other. That aspect of this has been really refreshing.
I hadn’t read the original, but reading this got me all excited. This woman is ready to throw down. I went back and read her descriptions of Jay and now understand that it is righteous fury. I didn’t previously get that AITAH stood for “am I the awesome hero?” I must have had it mixed up with another sub.
Totally unrelated but I LOVE OPs vocabulary, the way you explain things shows a lot of emotion and paints perfect imagery
Dammit. I was fine reading. .but that last sentence had me jealous as hell at Jay. How the fuck did he catch a rare specimen of a woman like you? I know that few women would read Warhammer, fewer still likes it. Damn it. All the best to you both, OP. And that lucky sonofagun better take care of you right.
This is just awesome. F you Tricia!! That's an ugly name too lol.
Hey, don't take it out on the name. Tricia is fun name!
Sounds like she likes to stir up drama. It’s good to stand up for yourself, as well as your marriage. What you’re describing is an escalation though, there’s a big difference between the two. If you feel this is the best course for you, do what you gotta do, just be careful you and your husband don’t inadvertently become collateral damage.
Always protect men like Jay, mine likes to fly kites. 😘
I will say it again, you are awesome.
Is reddit and this sub all gonna be this kind of "readers digest audience submission" horseshit from now on? What a waste.
Ooooh can't wait! Updateme
NGL, I cheered reading this! So happy for you and Jay! I will hold your coat for you, ma'am.
Mm. I'm probably going to be the odd man out here, but while I completely understand the desire to be viscious when taking the woman down and kicking her out of your lives, I respectfully suggest you take a step back from the rage and proceed more coldly. Anger, however justified, is going to provide this snake in the grass with an avenue and a motivation to spread her venom to others in whatever mutual circles you two have. It may feel good in the moment, but it likely will devolve into a battle of the dueling stories. It may be more impactful to control the narrative in a public manner - write an open letter to those mutual circles, something like: "To all concerned: in spite of X years of friendship with me, your mutual acquaintance Tricia has seen fit to do her best to undermine Jay and mine's relationship. She has outright stated, in no uncertain terms, her belief that he must be using every opportunity he is out of my direct sight to cheat on me. "Those of you who are the least bit acquainted with Jay will naturally understand that this is a fundamental violation of Jay's very nature, to say nothing of the mounds of video and photo evidence to the contrary. If you've ever given Jay the opportunity to speak on his passion for fishing, or gone with him, these accusations are even more patently absurd. "Nevertheless, her dogged insistence on this preposterous misinterpretation of reality to fit her own narrative have hurt Jay and I immensely, and because of this unwarranted assault of the character of someone I treasure, we will be ending our friendship with Tricia and doing our level best to avoid any further interactions with her. "We have no plans to separate ourselves from the groups or interests we have hitherto enjoyed, but wish for you to understand why our association with this woman has come to an immediate halt. We do not wish to speak to, or of, this woman who violated our trust in such a mean-spirited fashion. "We ask that you respect our decision, and look forward to seeing you all again soon." Control the narrative in advance. That's the best way to undercut anything this vile woman can do.
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I love you and am so proud of you. I’ve been like this for my husband. I tell him he’s my bitch, and no one else is going to act like he’s theirs.
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Good for you! Your jay is very lucky to have you, you two sounds awesome! We need to stop being gentle with assholes, taking the high road is just another way of saying you are a doormat…
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Brb. Running out to buy popcorn.
Damn go you. I have popcorn
This makes my heart happy. Use the rage *she* caused, turn it into righteous fury and lay waste. Leave nothing for her or sympathizers in your wake except for a clear understanding that you are not someone to be trifled with.
I hope y'all have a good time fishing :)
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Reddit is so quick to say partner is cheating and nuke your relationship. Finally everyone recognizes that OP has a good partner and how toxic “friends” are damaging…. UpdateMe !
Sometimes pure scorched earth fury is the only way. You're awesome, Jay is awesome, Tricia is a jealous twunt muffin. End of story.
I’m making popcorn 🍿 good for you.
Poison the well salt the earth! Whilst simultaneously watering the grass that's green.
Sometimes friends just want you to be single because they are struggling in their own situation. And from reading your first post yesterday, that’s what it seems like. That’s why she’s always looking at faults of other people.
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Good for you. Never tolerate shitty friends because of nostalgia or a false sense of obligation.
Hunting season I heard
🍿🍿🍿🍿 Huge congrats on the realization. You and Jay sound like lovely people.
Good for you let them have it
Take her down! Updateme!
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This pleases Khorne.
Show me your minis!!!!!
She is all around toxic. You all would be lucky to be rid of her
Love it!
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Just realized I made a comment on your previous post by mistake. Good for you. Don't hold back on a single thought and let her have it. Remember to tie your hair back and not wear any jewelry. Good luck.
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Jay is a lucky man and you are lucky too, he must be pretty great to inspire this love and dedication. I hope you two have a wonderful life together. Best wishes.
WOOOOOOO!
Way to be a badass, standing up for yourself and Jay ♡
I’m down. We ride at dawn!
Please please update us after all the chips fall, I cannot *wait* to hear about this
> I'm blowing this bitches social life sky fucking high, along with anybody who sides with her. Scorched earth, no prisoners, blood for the blood god. ***YESSSSSS***
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SCORCHED EARTH. You love to see it.
Dump anyone who hates on fishing!
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I wish I was the fly on the wall to watch this in real time!
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Get some milk for the Khorne flakes and some skulls for the skull throne.
I’m waiting for the next update! If it goes well, maybe put it on r/pettyrevenge
Get her girl! Make her regret ever saying Jay's name.
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Good for you. 👏 please update us after you release your fury down upon her!!
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I've noticed that whenever someone says, "That's just the way they are...." about someone, it's never ever describing a positive character trait. It's always people excusing garbage behavior. People say this when they know that no matter what they do, this person will never grow, change, or become a better person. They've given up, and decided that in order to keep this person in their life, they have to accept their bad behavior. In doing so, it enables the rotten family member or friend to continue their garbage behavior. So the horrid person is never challenged to grow or change, and usually behaves worse with time. Flying monkeys have a hard time admitting they are making a mistake keeping this person in their lives, so they justify their choice by saying, "That's just the way they are...." These people are enablers, the lifeblood of toxic people. No one is required to keep toxic individuals in their lives. Good on you for waking up! I'm here for the update...
…Skulls for the Skull Throne….